Thursday, October 27, 2011
"There once was a girl with a strawberry curl
Right in the middle of her forehead.
When she was good she was very, very good,
And when she was bad she was horrid."
This old nursery rhyme was quoted at me often as a child. As I had strawberry blonde hair, I viewed it as my personal roadmap or something. Anyway, it says a lot about the on-off all-or-nothing kind of thinking we can take on.
Is your image of yourself taken to extremes? Does what you see in the mirror change based on what you saw on the scale this morning? Do you "throw in the towel" on the whole day because you ate ONE cookie at a staff meeting? If you do, you might be indulging in some of this kind of thinking.
I was already pondering along these line when I spotted another Spark blog this morning about the "All or Nothing Attitude". LJR4HEALTH wrote essentially about the same thing I was thinking, and about ditching that attitude to be successful.
Anyway, here's to the balanced self-image and identity, accepting that we are NOT "very, very good" OR "horrid" but somewhere humanly in the middle! And moving in the direction of another I: "Improvement".
Oh, and life's good, even when I'm not particularly... Happy Halloween!
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Yesterday as I was driving to work, I was thinking of my "H" and "heroes" came to mind. We all need heroes. People we see out there doing things we respect and admire... whether it is battling the moral issues, overcoming personal obstacles, or fighting the fight to protect the defenseless. Some people with great success stories spark us to start or continue our own journeys. We look to their writings and sayings to keep us going when the going gets tough.
Spark People is a site chock full of unsung, often unknown, and un-famous HEROEs and SHE-ROEs (I word I'll attribute to one of mine, Sunny332). I could list a lot of Spark names here, but don't want to leave ANYONE out... from my first Spark friend who sent me to the site, MISSDIANE, to WALKINGANNIE (who I haven't seen around in a long time and miss), to my local very special Spark friends that I've actually met, HOT4FITNESS and KALIGIRL... and many, many, many more.
I have fitness heroes and sheroes, like JUST_TRI_IT who gives me dreams to drive for and my baby brother MOBYCARP, who makes me jealous even while he makes me proud with his six foot frame and 7:xx minute miles!
I have articulate heroes and sheroes (and here's where I'm in serious danger of leaving someone out), like DEBRA0818 who has had three different Spark names in the time I've been reading her stuff. Or CookMe123. Or Andi571. Or KaseyCoff. You may not think of yourself as heroes, but when you tackle your feelings and failings and successes and put yourself out there, you are showing both wisdom and bravery! I will run out of room if I keep down this path, so please forgive if your name is not here... if you've ever seen my name crop up as a comment on your page or a blog, you're on my list!
In my book, every one I encounter who is fighting the good fight, or struggling with him or herself to enter the fray... is a hero. They are people I respect and want to emulate.
Oh, yes, heroes are essential to any life, to make it worthwhile. I have many, many heroes, right here on Spark, as well as in real life.
Here's to your heroes and sheroes, and to mine! Life's good. Spark on!
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
I took yesterday afternoon off work to make up for the overnight stints over the weekend. It was a a gorgeous day, so I took a long walk around the lake in the Autumn sunshine. I ended up covering a part of the long track from Sunday's Making Strides walk... observing the trampled down grass past the golf course, and in my mind envisioning the sea of pink striding the other way on another really nice day.
I was contemplating my "G" words... generous, giving, God loving a gracious giver, not gruding... and of course giving from a sense of abundance... all of which come down to starting out with a grateful heart! What better or more timely G for the season of Thanksgiving than gratitude.
But what does gratitude have to do with maintaining healthy habits? After all, I'm here, in the promised land of maitenance, and I worked for it, right? Hang on a minute there, super-ego! Much leg-work was involved, true, but what about the gifts received along the way?
The first gift of motivation? How about a little appreciation / gratitude for that?
The friends who supported your efforts, and wrote or said encouraging words just when they were needed? Ditto.
The availability of healthy choices and the freedom to make them? You bet!
The fact that my body can still respond, despite years of ill treatment, by becoming healthier? Absolutely.
I could go on and on, but an attitude of gratitude keeps it green, makes me aware of how fragile and precious it is to be in my goal range. It preserves the knowledge that I am here through a measure of grace... some legwork, yes, but the grace and gift of the desire and the ability to do it. I think I "get" the athletes who thank God when they win a big game or catch a key pass. So much can "go wrong"... there are many dropped passes in practice before the big one is caught in the game!
So today, my G is gratitude. And as part of that, specific gratitude for SparkPeople
, for the various programs and books I've learned from, and for all the wonderful Spark Friends I've made along the way.
Life's indeed good. Spark on!
Monday, October 24, 2011
Remember back when initiative was strong and you were envisioning life at your goal weight? See chapter one of goal-setting. I'll bet there were at least a few "fun" things in your vision: did you see yourself playing with your grandchildren? Mine included such oddities as getting on ice skates and on a horse. Some of you may have dancing or swimming, a specific sport like playing that family football game on Thanksgiving? Golfing with the gang?
The important point is that once you get to maintenance, remember to still have fun. Remember to revel in it! It's part of why we established healthy habits to begin with! Because we wanted to LIVE, to be alive and aware and be able.
What do you LIKE to do, just for you? Give yourself the gift of making a few of these things priorities or rewards in maintenance, too! Like to paint? Draw? Write? Read novels? They don't have to be active things to be effective rewards.
Is there anything you have long wanted to LEARN? To play an instrument? To build something? Sew? Crochet? Cook? What better time than in maintenance! You've worked hard to do this... you've had some success... take advantage of that criss-cross effect.
Having fun doesn't mean giving up the healthy habits, it just means letting yourself enjoy and develop in ways that are attractive to you, personally. To be the natural and authentic YOU.
That's what makes Life good. Spark on!
(The sister waving is our breast cancer survivor, beside her, our youngest sis... I'm hiding behind the camera.)
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Evidence: it's what we look for in figuring out "what happened". Investigators of everything from program bugs (that's my personal experience) to crimes and disdemeanors look at physical clues and interview people who might have memories... they accumulate documents, including program logs and outputs (me), photographic evidence from security cameras, eyewitness testimony, etc.
What does "evidence" have to do with weight loss and maintenance? LOTS! What is the single most referenced tool people point to when they are explaining their success? TRACKING! Tracking is a vital piece of evidence in determining why and how we got the outcome we did.
In maintenance, when we stop tracking, it is analogous to turning off the program traces or the security cameras. We start relying on the eyewitness testimony as to "what happened" when we seek to explain our results.
It has been shown that eyewitness testimony is unreliable... how many of us "remember" those licks and samples we took when cooking? That snagged bit of chocolate we took on the way past the office candy dish? If we keep on tracking, we have our evidence if something starts to slip. We can clearly see what needs adjusting.
So, in my toolbox of the ABC's of maintenance is the continuing collection of evidence: of my success, in the monthly snapshots, of my following (or not) the plan in logging my food and exercise, and in a record of daily weights. Evidence to show not just THAT it's working, but WHAT is working (or not).
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