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ABC's of Maintenance: Q is for quiet

Friday, November 04, 2011

Since I didn't use my M for meditation nor my P for prayer, I'm using my Q for quiet, because to be successful in maintaining a whole and healthy lifestyle, there is a requirement for the inward-looking, upward-looking, listening element. This is what helps one identify the deepest desires of the heart.

Because only the deepest desires of the heart, regularly examined, can bring the level of acceptance of who we are and that it's OK. It's OK to reach for goals. It's OK not to be perfect. It's OK to be *more* than we ever thought we could be... I may have been a "geeky brain" in school, but it's OK to be the best athletic me I can be. And it's OK to be *less* than I might at one time have thought I was. It's OK, in short, to be human. Who'd have thought that was a key element to maintenance? But for me, it is!

The past couple of years have brought surprises to me: they have been mostly "good" surprises, but some not so much. They are all part of the journey. All part of who I am becoming, and who I am revealing myself to have been all along.

The quiet, without resorting to numbing through either excessive food OR excessive exercise... adds balance and acceptance and awareness to this wonderful LIFE!

Which, as I keep reminding myself and others, is GOOD! Spark on! emoticon

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_LINDA 11/4/2011 10:45PM

    Great point as always. Maybe if I could quell the inner turmoil and not feel as if every waking moment of the day has to be productive doing something and not take any time for inner thought and quests perhaps life wouldn't seem so frantic and perhaps I could actually get some sleep or at least get things done in an orderly fashion and not in a frantic rush.
Here is to a calming acceptence of who we are..

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KARIDIAN1 11/4/2011 9:26PM

    I love the Quiet! Great Blog.

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MSLZZY 11/4/2011 7:27PM

    The quiet-awesome! Love the thoughts you put down and the need to look inward and upward myself! HUGS!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 11/4/2011 9:33AM

    I am just so in awe of your self-love and self-acceptance. I think that slowly, and in very little pieces, I'm starting to find some of that for myself too. Spending quiet time alone in my thoughts (and prayers) is helping, so yes, quiet time is essential for good health and healing. You rock, Barb!

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BUGGYS 11/4/2011 9:27AM

    Having my grand kids all day long requires me to have some quiet time. I usually find the quiet when I am doing my exercise at 5 in the morning. There is something that I find calming at that time of day and I can sit and refelct and plan my day!

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DEBRITA01 11/4/2011 8:27AM

    Sometimes we forget to stop and take the time to be quiet and still. Nurturing our spirit is just as important as eating right and exercise, Thanks for the reminder to take a few moments each day to soothe our souls. emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 11/4/2011 8:17AM

    Quiet: I crave this. And require it.

No background noise please (radio, TV etc.) Excess food AND excess exercise are both, as you say, distractions.

Gotta be still to be human. Thanks for reminding me.

Be still and know that I am God? Who, me? Well, not so much! But still, gotta be still.

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DEBRA0818 11/4/2011 8:05AM

    Quieting myself down has been as much of a challenge (or perhaps more) than getting control of the food and maybe they're not so unrelated. I frequently remind myself to slow down and I snatch "quiet moments" all day. It does the trick a LOT better than eating ever did.

Spark on!


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ABC's of Maintenance: P is for patience

Thursday, November 03, 2011

I was tempted to say P is for "pool" in honor of my recent gift to myself of a gym membership to get access to one, but one doesn't really *need* a pool to successfully maintain. However, one *does* need patience!

Neither attitudes nor physical attributes change overnight. I read somewhere, and have quoted here before that it takes a year to mentally adjust to each 25 pound change in weight. So, I've been "down" 75 pounds for a year and three months... figure I have a year and nine months staying at this point before this theory says I'll have successfully adjusted to being where I am now.

Patience is required when our all so human natures show... in dealing with other people, whose attitudes we cannot control... in life in general.

And what is maintenance but living our lives with health as a priority - another great P for maintenance, no?

Spark on! emoticon

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_LINDA 11/4/2011 1:09AM

    I certainly have learned this lesson well. I have had to be very patient with myself waiting to heal from surgery after surgery to get back to exercising, and now with Spark People, I have learned to be patient with what I can eat with no exercise as well as with and can no longer have any more excuses to gain weight during my many exercise layoffs.
Here is to having patience in dealing with life's punches and coming out stronger and more secure in ourselves and our ability to maintain a healthy lifestyle..

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COMPUCATHY 11/3/2011 10:46PM

    Those are all great P's. We definitely benefit from being patient. Impatience gets us nowhere...but patience brings us peace, stability, courage, hope...all good things. Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon

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KARIDIAN1 11/3/2011 10:26PM

    Patience is needed for sure. I am enjoying your blogs.

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DEBRITA01 11/3/2011 9:32PM

    Although patient with others, I lack it with myself oftentimes. I am learning to be more patient and to take time for myself. Good things come to those who wait... emoticon

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ANDI571 11/3/2011 2:06PM

    Patience has to play a part in losing weight. We decide to lose weight, and we hop on the scale after a couple of days and expect to lose what it took years to accumulate, including bad habits.

Another good one.

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MNNICE 11/3/2011 1:42PM

    So true that patience is the key to reaching our goal and maintaining. It would be easy to give up with twists and turns along the maintenance road, but patience and persistence is what makes us successful!

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BUGGYS 11/3/2011 1:20PM

    I have patience in all aspects of my life...but little patience for ME and the goals that I have set for myself. I have to come to terms that what I want for myself will take time and that I have to treat myself with care in order to achieve those goals!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 11/3/2011 10:00AM

    They say patience is a virtue. Unfortunately, it's not one of mine. I do remember you stating that it takes a year to adjust to each 25# weight loss. That's probably why I've never been successful at maintaining a lower weight. This time I've committed myself to sticking with JC through the maintenance program and for life.

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CIRANDELLA 11/3/2011 9:39AM

    You're my Spark Motivational Guru extraordinaire! I feel honored that I've kept off my 70 lbs. for *almost* as long as you've banished your 75 from your bod, Barb (alliteration intended :) ! Keep 'em coming! emoticon - Susan

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CIRANDELLA 11/3/2011 9:39AM

    You're my Spark Motivational Guru extraordinaire! I feel honored that I've kept off my 70 lbs. for *almost* as long as you've banished your 75 from your bod, Barb (alliteration intended :) ! Keep 'em coming! emoticon - Susan

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FITFABJENN 11/3/2011 8:15AM

    Patience is a big one! I'm loving this blog series of yours. Keep on sparking on, friend!

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MSLZZY 11/3/2011 8:01AM

    Love those P's! HUGS!

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ABC's of Maintenance: O is for occupy!

Wednesday, November 02, 2011

No, not the political movement... this is an apolitical blog. But I'm not above pulling you in with a title and a photo. These are the tents that represent the "Occupy Lincoln" movement, and I have to walk past them every day. Multiple times as I go to work, take my break walks, and head home after work. As I walk by them, the brain starts spinning.

Since I was reading a historical novel when they first arrived, the thought of a siege came to mind. "Occupation forces", an army camped out. Yesterday, I decided I'd best take some snapshots before the rumors starting to show up in the news about "evicting" them results in no longer having an opportunity to do so. Or, the November weather does the same thing, regardless of action or inaction by the powers that be.

From my Webster's - "Occupy: 2 to hold possession of by tenure; specif. a) to dwell in"

This is SO pertinent to maintenance! We are occupying our home weight range! We are occupying a fitness level. We occupy by tenure, i.e. time maintaining ourselves here.

In a siege, the occupation forces might start out in tents, but eventually they sometimes built "counter-castles", eventually taking over the place. That's the plan with maintenance: take over that home range, build on it, and stay put, now in charge and ruling the joint.

Here's to our own "occupation"... of home weight range! It might be tenuous at first. But if we keep on building, soon, we are the masters and mistresses of our domains.

Life's good... Spark on! emoticon

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MOBYCARP 11/2/2011 9:54PM

    Interesting shift of viewpoint from losing to maintaining. The weight is no longer a goal to achieve, it's a space to occupy and hold, and build a life on.

That gives rise to a whole different set of images and metaphors for maintenance than for achieving a healthy weight in the first place!

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KARIDIAN1 11/2/2011 8:31PM

    Right now i am occupying the same weight as last week. At least it didn't go up.

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WATERMELLEN 11/2/2011 8:10PM

    MAINtenance is my main full time occupation for sure: yeah! and if that's what it takes, so be it!

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DEBRA0818 11/2/2011 11:27AM

    I like the T-Shirt I saw yesterday that said: "Occupy Your Own Life" which is such good advice for all of us who are trying to awaken ourselves to self care.


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SLENDERELLA61 11/2/2011 10:13AM

    Here's to occupying my home weight range!! Excellent way to think of it. Thanks!!

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KALIGIRL 11/2/2011 8:38AM

    "take over that home range, build on it, and stay put, now in charge and ruling the joint."

Now that's what I call a perfect descriptor of the battle for health!

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CIRANDELLA 11/2/2011 8:20AM

    Maintenance as occupation! I love that, Barb :) It really is like occupying a whole new realm of a person's whole life, too... Much food for thought, and all of it without a single, pesky calorie - tanks o' thanks! You've got some serious motivational talent, I'm noticing in all these entries... emoticon - Susan

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_LINDA 11/2/2011 7:53AM

    The question is, why are they occupying this area? Just curious..
This is a great letter. To occupy -to take charge of our lives, is vital for success. To build layer on layer of security, that is, good habits until they become the bricks of a solid foundation. Here is to keeping our castles secure and leak free ;)

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SUNNY332 11/2/2011 7:52AM

    Onward and forward as you continue to maintan.


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MSLZZY 11/2/2011 7:50AM

    I'm here now! Maintaining the home front. Excellent blog!

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ABC's of Maintenance: N is for the new normal

Tuesday, November 01, 2011

Mary (CookMe123), I swiped the "new normal" from your blog! Sparks flying all over the place here.

Maintenance is all about having a new kind of normal. In this "new normal" healthy behavior dominates; what we used to do that got us to the top of our weight ranges is the exception! Not completely eliminated, because naturally slender people *do* still on occasion have celebration days and special food. But in our world of "new normal" we have to find ways of coping with that celebration that does not tip us over the edge into long periods of relapse.

For me, the "new normal" requires a good deal of vigilence, as my Spark-friend Marenamoo says "Be always vigilent". KaseyCoff gets props for reminding me of this yesterday in her blog.

New normal says "I am small. That's OK. I take care of myself. I listen to my body and give it what it needs, whether that is nourishing food, exercise, or rest. I make my health a priority, and manage the rest of my life around it." This is maintenance... the new normal. Welcome home!

Life's good. Spark on. emoticon

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ANDI571 11/2/2011 3:56PM

    Amen sister! emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 11/2/2011 12:41AM

    My "new normal" is really shaky, not as normal as it should maybe...

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_LINDA 11/2/2011 12:06AM

    Here is to liking the new normal and living life to the fullest in the healthiest way possible! I can't imagine going back to my TV watching, couch potato big snacking ways, how absolutely boring that is compared to getting out and exercising and meeting people and getting fresh air!!

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WATERMELLEN 11/1/2011 8:17PM

    I like the "new normal" concept: and most of the time it is not normal for me to eat two mini Coffee Crisp bars!!

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MSLZZY 11/1/2011 2:00PM

    I definitely love "the new normal". Let the past begone. SP is where I want to be and the "new normal" is a better me! Thanks for the observations. HUGS!

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BOOKWORM27S 11/1/2011 1:47PM

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SUNNY332 11/1/2011 10:11AM

    Normal is also a reading on a thermometer and a town in Illinois.

I 'd say your New Normal is terrific. Keep up the great work.

Hugs, Sunny

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KALIGIRL 11/1/2011 10:06AM

    Small is good - health as a priority is better.
I'd say your New Normal is emoticon

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 11/1/2011 9:14AM

    The thought that hit me as I neared the end of your blog is this: your new normal is actually you exercising self-love and self-acceptance. Something we'd all be wise to do. It's a large learning curve, but you "learned good"!

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CIRANDELLA 11/1/2011 8:21AM

    YEAH!!! It's so wonderful to read the words of someone who really "gets it," Barb - and you really and truly do! Maintenance hasn't meant any kind of perfection or complete transformation for me, but rather putting health in the front seat and letting it be the ultimate determining factor of my various behaviors, good 'n' bad... Just had a celebration day yesterday, in fact, and I really "blew the lid off the sucker," as the kids say :) But I'm back on track this morning and happy to embrace all the usual healthy behaviors...yep, life is good! emoticon

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ABC's of Maintenanance: M is for Monday

Monday, October 31, 2011

I had no clue until just now that "Monday" would be my "M" word. But you know, often since weekends are a "trying" time for me and my program, Monday is a very positive thing. Monday is the "OK, back to work, back to routine!" signal that the trying time is over, let's settle down and do what we know works. It's like getting a free "Day 1" each week.

I think back to my mother, and her habits of dieting Monday to Friday and then "eating normally" over the weekends. I think back to her as I prep my Jenny Craig entrees and remember how she "retired" from the kitchen after dad retired from the office. She went to a lot of frozen meals at that point, too... but they were Schwann's truck purchases.

Hmmm... might be more like "Mom" than I thought.

Anyway, here's to a great new day, new week, starting with a good Monday! emoticon

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ANDI571 11/2/2011 3:58PM

    Yep, Monday's are always a start over day for me too. Or maybe it is just a continuation of healthy eating.

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    Monday is always "get back into it" day for me!

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_LINDA 10/31/2011 3:56PM

    I can't imagine anyone not having trouble over the weekends. There is something to be said for routines. Weekends at Mom's are especially trying for me as there is usually very little in the way of fresh fruits and veggies -they simply don't eat them much or at all (her husband only likes potatoes and corn) The fewer of them I eat, the more my calories go up. Never fails. Routine is safe and so are Monday work days..

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KIKI0531 10/31/2011 3:27PM

    I was just thinking this weekend at home, while mindlessly throwing nonsense calories down my throat, I cannot wait until Monday. It is just much easier for me to control snacking when I am at work all day.

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MSLZZY 10/31/2011 2:19PM

    Our poor Schwan's man stops every 2 weeks and sees an order once every 6 months. They sure aren't making any money off of us. Mondays-back to work
and back to a routine. Gotta love it!

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DEBRA0818 10/31/2011 11:19AM

    Lately, I've found I've been eating less on the weekends -- I don't know why! But, Monday has always been Day One for me, the inspiration and the promise that a fresh start means all things are possible. So, I really like them too!

Happy Halloween!!!!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 10/31/2011 9:30AM

    I always find it comforting and reassuring to get back to my normal routine after a weekend, vacation, or whatever. And, thanks to your blog, you have me looking at Mondays in a whole new light. Instead of the, "euu, it's Monday again," it's more like, "yes! It's Monday again!"

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PASTORMIKE7 10/31/2011 8:35AM

    What a good thought!!

Thank you for sharing!

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CIRANDELLA 10/31/2011 8:33AM

    Barb, you could take the classic "dieter's blues" out of Mondays with your great attitude!

I remember how our mom used to preface all of her advice on our post-binge bellyaching with, "Get up bright 'n' early on Monday..." My brother and I still get a chuckle out of that! emoticon

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SUNNY332 10/31/2011 8:19AM

    Move over, Monday, here comes Barb.

I like it that Mondays represent routine for you.

Take Care and have a good one.


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