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ABC's of Maintenance: X marks the spot

Friday, November 11, 2011

Last year I used a real X word, xenophobia, in October, to describe my feelings in my "new", "alien" body size.

It has been over a year since I wrote the xenophobia blog. I'm feeling a lot more at home in this foreign land of thin and fit than I did then. Not sure I'll ever feel like it is my native land, but I'm working on not fearing it, or fearing losing it, either way.

This year, I'm simply using X as a letter in its own right, as in "X marks the spot" on a treasure map.

In this year's analogy, X represents the goal, where all the goodies are kept. It's a place to strive to reach (preferably before someone else does and takes all the goodies away)! It's a place to return to, if you're the character that hid the treasure away to begin with. It is a place to be desired. For me, X marks the place where I'm living the life, thin and fit, following the plan.

Sometimes like the buried treasure, X moves around a bit! If you bury the treasure in shifting ground, and go away for a while, it might not match the map, exactly. Better to stay put, enjoying the goodies, and if I stray a few feet, I can get back to my sweet X-spot without too much anxiety or drama!

Here's to keeping the map up to date, and hanging around where X marks the spot!


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LOVE_2_LAUGH 11/11/2011 9:45AM

    Good for you, Barb. You know, last night when I was at dinner with my friend, we were talking about all the studies that are coming out now about people who lose a large amount of weight only to regain it back rather quickly. It's all related to hormones and metabolism, etc. I'm sure you've seen/heard some of them. While we were talking about it, you came to mind. You are the one person I can think of who has done well with weight loss and is managing rather well to maintain. I know that that's the hard part -- keeping it off. You inspire me -- I've told you that before. You give me hope that one day I'll get to my goal and I'll be able to maintain the new weight as long as I put in the effort to do so.

I'm so happy for you. You are in such a good place with your body, mind and soul. Have a great day!

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BUGGYS 11/11/2011 9:04AM

    I am forever trying to find my "X" spot and once I find it I intend to keep it...I just wish the treasure hunt would be a little easier! emoticon

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_LINDA 11/11/2011 8:19AM

    You are doing extraordinarily good at keeping to your X spot in spite of the huge challenge of keeping the binge monster at bay..
Keep up the great work!

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DEBRITA01 11/11/2011 8:12AM

    I'm still in search of my X spot, but I know I'll get there as long as I keep working on it. Good luck keeping yours in sight! emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 11/11/2011 8:00AM

    The thing I like most about this kind of "x" is that there is an infinite supply of goodies for all of us who find this spot! It's not a zero sum game . . . and at SparkPeople we are all engaged in the same treasure hunt to help each other share the infinite wealth of well being where nutrition and exercise co-exist!

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MSLZZY 11/11/2011 7:58AM

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ABC's of Maintenance: W is for Who...

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Rudyard Kipling was a favorite childhood read-aloud author, sponsored by my dad. This one was often quoted: dad was a journalist.

"I KEEP six honest serving-men
(They taught me all I knew);
Their names are What and Why and When
And How and Where and Who.
I send them over land and sea,
I send them east and west;
But after they have worked for me,
I give them all a rest."

Link to entire poem here:

It was running through my head yesterday morning on the drive to work, because as I started contemplating "W" words, I couldn't help it. Five of the six are indeed W's. And all of these are important to maintenance... taken in poem order, with my own little comments.

What: the goals. In my case to maintain functional fitness and improve event performance.

Why: the motivation. These ARE the golden years, and it's just more fun to live fit.

When: NOW! Duh. And hopefully for the rest of my life.

How: the program. Spark tracking and community. BodyMedia Fit. Jenny Craig. Whatever works.

Where: RIGHT HERE! At home, at work, in the gym.

Who: ME! Nobody else will do it for me.

Six W's and an H for good measure. Life is good. Spark on! emoticon

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MSLZZY 11/10/2011 10:24PM

    emoticonWhat a way with words! HUGS!

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_LINDA 11/10/2011 11:27AM

    Great application of the standard journalist's creed.
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LOVE_2_LAUGH 11/10/2011 10:49AM

    When we were kids we'd play the "Who, What, When, Where & Why" game where we'd all take a piece of paper and write down a "who". Then we'd fold the paper over to cover it and pass it to the next person who would wright the "what," and we'd proceed passing the paper and writing the answers. When we got through with the "why," we'd pass the paper once more, open it and then take turns reading the "story." Very funny game.

I like your version SO much better, though!

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BUGGYS 11/10/2011 9:45AM

    LOVE THIS! The poem reminds me of my grandma! emoticon

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FCARMICH 11/10/2011 7:27AM

  Good application of an old favorite - thanx!

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MOBYCARP 11/10/2011 7:27AM

    W is for emoticon

. . . and whenever I see that poem, I hear Dad reading it.

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DEBRITA01 11/10/2011 7:21AM

    That one lone H is just as important as the six W's. The How will get us to our goals...and keep us there. "Spark on!"

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ABC's of Maintenance: V is for vigilence

Wednesday, November 09, 2011

"Be Ever Vigilant - don't get too complacent" is the motto of one of my Spark fellow travelers... Marenamoo. She hasn't been around the Spark for a while and I miss her wisdom and contributions.

Another friend I miss is WalkingAnnie. She was among those who pointed me to the At Goal and Maintaining team, way back when. She, too, started posting less frequently, and hasn't been around in quite some time.

These people have been such an inspiration to me... and I always wonder about Sparkers that I see, then don't see. I sincerely hope they are doing well, still healthy, and just moved on from Spark.


Vigilence is such a key to maintaining. I know, because I lost that vigilence after big losses... several times over a lifetime. I got into a rebellious or discouraged mind - emotional frame, tossed in the towel and let myself eat whatever my little disease (compulsive overeater here) pushed at me! I managed to regain the 30 pounds I lost between high school and college, and they brought friends with them when they came back. I managed to regain the hard-fought pounds I dropped over the course of eating / exercising healthily for the sake of my baby while pregnant (after his birth, I was 24 pounds less than when he was conceived). I managed to regain 60 of the 80 I dropped on my first serious effort with Weight Watchers, after a rolling maintenance of nearly five years.

Since then, I managed to regain a drop of 70 pounds I did "on my own" with books and other resources. And here I sit at maintenance of a weight that I didn't even reach with that first pre-college unhealthy diet, and I did it "right", i.e. balanced diet, exercise, SLOWLY, and working on my mental / emotional issues as I went. In some ways it was the mindset of "maintaining" my way to where my body truly wanted to be.

I know I need to be ever vigilent. I know I am at risk, every day. I live one bite away from a binge. I know this. Knowing it does not always protect me from eating for comfort anyway. Being vigilent about motivation, being honest with myself, and seeking balance in my life might get me to my ultimate goal: staying healthy as long as I can and ENJOYING the life I have been blessed with.

If you are one who has repeatedly lost, regained, lost, regained... take heart. The only failure is giving up. As I said to someone I worked with on those emotional things: "I am happiest when I am *working* on nutrition and fitness." Note: working on, not succeeding, or being at a specific weight or achievement level. This should tell me something: doing these things, eating right, moving, breathing, and giving myself the pep talks... makes me HAPPY!

And what was it I always used to say when people asked what I wanted to be when I grew up? Oh, yeah, "HAPPY"!

Life's good. Be ever vigilent. Spark on! emoticon

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_LINDA 11/10/2011 11:47AM

    Great attitude and awareness! Vigilance is a must! I didn't have it when I lost my weight the first time. I had no checks, modifiers or plans. The weight loss center I went to went out of business shortly after I had lost all my weight on their plan. But it was expensive, requiring me to use their suplements and a very restrictive diet, so there was nothing for me on maintenance and gradually went back to my old food as their diet wasn't normal and was aided by the supplements.
Now with Sparks, I am accountable, thanks to the food and fitness trackers and really have no excuses for any gains. I have learned a healthy lifestyle, with the proper checks and balances to keep me on the straight and narrow.

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MIZCATHI 11/10/2011 6:01AM

    Your posts mirror my thoughts perfectly, but also contain a lesson you have learned. Vigilant is a good word, but more than that, it carries a stride that creates a force. It is not about perfection but the work to get there. I always feel best when working out, moving my body, feeling my blood coarse through my veins, and knowing at that moment that I am stronger than I was a moment before.

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KARIDIAN1 11/9/2011 10:30PM

    I have hit my first plateau, and I am being very vigilant right now. Thanks for the great blog.

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BUGGYS 11/9/2011 2:42PM

    This is a blog that everyone should be ever vigilant and never take our eye off the road because we will eventually land in the ditch! MARENAMOO had it right and thank you for reinforcing it!!! emoticon

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LJCANNON 11/9/2011 1:05PM

    emoticonI am so glad to read this!! I feel that I too live "One Bite Away from a Binge".
I have never successfully lost weight before so I don't have the experience that so many of my Spark Friends do with Losing and Regaining the weight.
emoticonI pray that with the support of my Spark Friends and the things that I am learning on Spark People I will be able to maintain the Weight Loss AND the Healthy Lifestyle.

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DEBRA0818 11/9/2011 11:52AM

    As the OAers say: No matter how far down the road, you're always the same distance from the ditch. We have to watch where we're going and be ever vigilant. But, hey, being vigilant means you're living your life in an aware way -- something few people can claim!


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ANDI571 11/9/2011 8:40AM

    On the Biggest Loser last night, they had a doctor who was telling a contestant, that it takes all that time to rewire the mind to eat healthy, but can take only a week to undo it and rewire it back to unhealthy eating. So yes, we have to be ever vigilant.

I have walked that road also to healthy eating and losing my weight and being at goal, then turned right back around and picked the weight right back up.

So here's to vigilance and keeping our mind on the right road.

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DEBRITA01 11/9/2011 8:39AM

    Vigilance is key... so many of us "live one bite away from a binge". Inspiring people here on SP, like yourself, give us hope that it can be done.

(I miss MARENAMOO, too!) emoticon

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MSLZZY 11/9/2011 7:26AM

    Very positive attitude and just what I needed. Vigilance has to be one of the keys for success! HUGS!

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ABC's of Maintenance: U is for un-doing!

Tuesday, November 08, 2011

I have had a hard time with U. Most U-words are just... utility players? Useful but unimpressive? Understanding this, I was tempted to put my U in the middle of a word... like fUn.

But I chose "undoing", as in a melodramatic way, one might say, "this cookie will be (or was) the undoing of my diet". Or more practically, once we have slipped and slid a bit, we have to go about "undoing" the damages, by getting back on track. In that sense undoing is a lot like my R word, recovery.

Seriously, the only thing that is truly the undoing of a healthy living initiative is giving up on it! And it is easier to undo damages if we catch it earlier, by being observant of what's going on, or mindful of our own actions, day by day.

Nothing unique about that!

Have a great tUesday! Spark on! emoticon

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_LINDA 11/8/2011 11:21PM

    May we all have unity in utilizing our healthy lifestyles to create a utopia that our bodies will thank us for! Undo is best saved for your computer program where it does no harm..

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MOBYCARP 11/8/2011 8:30PM

    Or in some cases, maintenance is undoing the unhealthy habits that made us overweight in the first place!

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WATERMELLEN 11/8/2011 8:12PM

    That urge to undo is ubiquitous!!

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ANDI571 11/8/2011 4:02PM

    I am trying to "Undo" years of bad habits. Another good one.

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NELLJONES 11/8/2011 10:46AM

    I was told the U are the only Undoing of your plan. Clever!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 11/8/2011 9:45AM

    Unquestionably a clever blog. Love your use of all the "U" words! And now, thanks to you, I have Carrie Underwood's song, "Undo It" on my mind.

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BUGGYS 11/8/2011 9:15AM

    You are a UNIQUE individual, Barb! Another great blog! emoticon

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DEBRA0818 11/8/2011 9:14AM

    The letter "U" always reminds me of what Christopher Dawson, the historian, said about the growth of narcissism in America:

"When we grow too old to believe in our uniqueness, we fall in love with our complexity."

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KALIGIRL 11/8/2011 8:29AM

    You're to 'U' already?!!!!?

I have obviously been MIA and have a feeling you will finish your alphabet before I do.

Here's to just un-doing it!

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DEBRITA01 11/8/2011 8:19AM

    U have a great day, too...another good blog, I may add emoticon

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MSLZZY 11/8/2011 7:59AM

    You have such a way with words!

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CIRANDELLA 11/8/2011 7:57AM

    emoticon YESSSS!! I give myself a "wiggle room" meal, and I eat a belly-buster for it :) But then comes the wonderful letter U for "undoing," thoughtfully brought to us not only by Sesame Street, but Barb, too, this chilly November morn! Your alphabet's a are YOU! - Susan emoticon

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ABC's of Maintenance: T is for tools

Monday, November 07, 2011

When I was a kid, I could only pass beginner's swimming lessons by employing a nose clip. Getting water up my nose, especially during certain strokes, so distracted me as to be unable to keep going the required distance!

Fast forward to being a parent to a young kid in swimming lessons, and I read some alarmist article about the evils of such devices, I don't remember all the whys it gave, but I was determined to give up the clip.

And I did. I started swimming slower and with my head always out of the water. In my most recent outings though, I found myself getting annoyed by the water in my ears (side stroke), and not being able to increase my turnover and kicks in the back stroke due to my old nemisis, the distraction of water up my nose. Especially when there are other swimmers churning up the water. I have over time learned to deal with those annoyances... BUT it slows me down!

Yesterday, I tried ear plugs for the first time. While I was at it, I purchased a nose clip. What I found was that I could swim harder and faster when I wasn't either trying to avoid the annoyance or being distracted by it.

It dawns on me that some race horses perform better when they put blinders on... so they can only see in one direction: forward. In a fire, they cover horses' eyes, so that they will allow themselves to be led to safety. I regard these little tools as something like that... a way to keep my focus on the goal at hand, and not be distracted.

The same can be said of many of the tools we use in weight loss and maintenance as can be said of those I am now adding to my kit for sports performance. The food tracker, the exercise tracker... ways to keep focus on the task at hand. Sometimes we might go a day or two without, but we come back to the tools that work.

Here's to whatever tools work - to keep on living, and Sparking! Because we're worth it. Spark on! emoticon emoticon

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FCARMICH 11/10/2011 7:29AM

  Yup - tools are important reminders!

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WATERMELLEN 11/8/2011 8:13PM

    Tools of the trade: we need 'em!!

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_LINDA 11/8/2011 12:47AM

    Good for you! I have to wear ear plugs in the pool because of all the problems I had with them lead to surgeries and now I have to protect them from water. I wouldn't be able to do anything either if I got water up my nose..
I credit my success at weight loss and maintenance soley to Spark People's Tracker's and use them without fail except when I cannot access the internet as when I am in the hospital or on vacation. The is no shame in using anything you can to make your goal a success.

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MSLZZY 11/7/2011 9:56PM

    We all need tools in everyday life so why not tools to keep us on track? Excellent points! Thank you!

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KARIDIAN1 11/7/2011 8:52PM

    Tools are necessary for so many things. Some are so small and simple we don't realize or miss them until they are broke or lost.

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DEBRITA01 11/7/2011 2:10PM

    Often times we think we can do it unassisted and without tools. But, once we realize how valuable they are, we wonder... what took us so long to start using them! I was like that with the SP trackers at first, but I really value them now.

Have fun with your's great exercise! emoticon

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BUGGYS 11/7/2011 12:04PM

    My weight loss tools are invaluable to me and I wouldn't be able to be on this journey without them...I think one of the biggest tool is the connection with friends here on SP and at WW!!! emoticon

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 11/7/2011 10:44AM

    Yes, we are given tools for a reason. Once we get past our fear (or ignorance?) and learn to use them wisely, things are so much easier. Good blog.

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SHELL- 11/7/2011 10:13AM

    I think you're right about using tools that work for you, for me I need Spark People and my spark groups to keep me focused. I use the Wii exercise video games to stretch my activities and train in areas I would otherwise not be able to. Many people can go out and run I can't so I'm done beating myself up for not being able to and I'm getting fit in my home. Loved your blog It's the nose plug for me too only mine is the Wii fit plus!

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DEBRA0818 11/7/2011 8:28AM

    The temptation is to always believe you can "do it on your own" but time and many failures has convinced me that using weight loss tools (especially the trackers) keeps me on the right track. It's a small investment of time for a huge payoff.

Right on!


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CIRANDELLA 11/7/2011 7:52AM

    Yet another thoughtful entry in this very wise alphabet - thanks, Barb! I'm all for those tools 'n' training wheels, too, especially when they lead to the right destination - emoticon from a SparkSter who's still treadin' water... ;) - Susan

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