Sunday, April 01, 2012
Part of this morning's video was focussed on the question "what are you willing to do to achieve your goal". There is only one correct answer: "Whatever it takes". I've had "I'll do whatever it takes..." as part of my Spark page since the beginning. While I've said it, there have been times when I've forgotten that I meant it.
The opposite of "whatever it takes" is an attitude of "I'll try" as opposed to "I'll do".
DAY 8 QUESTIONS / ACTION STEPS
1. How has negotiating the price of success hurt you in the past?
I'm trying to think whether I've ever done this. I must have? But I've been at the "whatever it takes" stage Steve talks about for a while now, and am recommitting to it. I think I have done well in the past but then NOT committed to maintenance, leading to the regains.
* I have in the past come to the conclusion that I wasn't willing to do what it takes and that brought me to the giving up, slip-sliding away place. I'm not sure if that qualifies as "negotiating the price of success", or walking away from the other fella's best offer.
2. Have you really committed to doing 'whatever it takes' to achieve your weight loss goal?
Yes, ma'am, yes, sir. I am committed to the current goal, which is maintenance within a range.
3. What tools, tips, strategies and resources have helped you most in this course?
Not sure if I've heard anything particularly new. I've been down this road. Some things I was already doing. Some things I have discovered from past experience are counter productive for me, personally. I would say what's helped me most is the videos: having a guy talking at me that I can talk back to and evaluate his message for how much it might really apply. That, and the reminders to USE tools that work.
Friday, March 30, 2012
I found myself talking back to the guy in the video today and I don't even remember which particular point I did... so I'm listening a second time. Sigh...
OH, YEAH! Now I remember. It was when he promised that you could achieve the body you ideally want... vision posters of movie stars and athletes. I think this could be very dangerous for young people putting up emaciated models as their goals. I think one needs a healthy dose of reality of what a healthy ME looks like as a vision.
His whole premise that you can have ANYTHING you want, with confidence and hard work? That's what had me talking back. Because you may NOT become a movie star even with talent and hard work. You may not become a CEO just with talent and hard work. But this much I do agree with: if you don't put it out there, the effort, for ANY reason/excuse... that is a recipe for failure.
And if you do put it out there? Gotta be better than if you never tried.
DAY 6 QUESTIONS / ACTION STEPS
1. How have excuses hurt you in the past?
Excuses... I don't know as I've ever had "excuses"... more I've lacked motivation. I gave up in the past without having an excuse. Self-pity is not an excuse is it? Saying I don't care is not an excuse, is it? Well, if those are excuses, they truly HAVE hurt me in the past. They prevented me from living fully during the times I sank into them!
2. Are you 'swimming to shore' or 'treading water'?
Oh, swimming with all my might. (This had to do with an analogy he made in his pep talk... getting out of a boat 2 miles from shore and treading water, neither getting back on the boat nor swimming for shore...)
3. What percentage of the time is your mental energy focused on getting what you want as opposed to self-pity?
Eh... hard to judge. 80% at this point? Sometimes it's higher. Some days it's flagging. But we all have that cycle. For today... it's improving.
Tonight after work, packet pick up for tomorrow morning's 10 miler. Started thinking about dream times in the shower. Now, to let those go, and just do it!
Life is good... Spark on!
Thursday, March 29, 2012
Today was about "letting go" of the reasons you got where you are, and the reasons why that doesn't have to be any more, and also a bit predictive about how you view your relationship with food. Here's the homework questions and how I answered them.
DAY 5 QUESTIONS / ACTION STEPS
1. Why are you fat?
I *was* fat, I'm not any more. I *was* fat for many reasons. I know *how* I got fat (eating for reasons other than hunger). And there are a jillion emotional reasons why I got fat *again* having initially succeeded in taking the pounds off: fat was serving me. The fat was speaking for me, things I wasn't willing to say to others. I also remained fat because I didn't think I *deserved* to be thin and fit. Now I know better.
2. Why will you succeed on your diet this time around?
Because I *have* succeeded. Because I am entering my second year of athletic endeavors. Because I know that I am worth it, now. I know that punishing myself by regaining fat or stuffing feelings with food doesn't serve any purpose, for me OR for others. I will succeed in keeping it off this time because I know I want it, and I can no longer lie to myself by saying it doesn't matter to me or that I don't care.
3. In the past, have you seen food as your enemy or friend?
*Oh, I see now that he's asking "in the past". You know, I don't know the answer to that... food was a presence, and something I sought out for comfort or avoidance of other things... a tool of procrastination and sloth?
Today I see food as one of the great pleasures in life. I see food as a nourishing friend. But some friends can undermine you if you hang out with them too much! Certain foods qualify as "frienemies", right? Since becoming fit, I crave healthier choices. I quip that I'm eating less but enjoying it more. And it is true.
Two days off, then the 10 miler. Well, maybe not quite off... might do a little strength training tonight. Getting excited. This is my first timed outing since last October!
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
This day was about suffering and responsibility. Ugh! He does not pull punches, this fatloser.com guy. I'm going to go beyond what I wrote on his site for homework for my Spark buds, because y'all know more of my history. So here goes.
DAY 4 QUESTIONS / ACTION STEPS
1. Are you mentally prepared to suffer to succeed if necessary?
Suffer? Heck, yeah... I know there is suffering here. All of life teaches that. No giving up. No turning back.
* Spark friends, most of us have already experienced suffering in our lives, in some form or another. Steve Siebold (the coach, hereafter) talks about people thinking losing weight will be easy. We all know it's not. Simple, yes. Easy, no. And there are times when to get what we want (weight loss or maintenance and fitness), we have to say "no" to impulses.
2. Are you expecting this to be difficult or easy?
I know this is going to be difficult, especially the 90 days of 100% compliance. You get tired of being "so good". But if I can give up soda (over two years now), I can do this next 90 days.
* That's why I chose the compliance goals that I did. I wanted something that has *not* become so habitual in the mix - the gum thing. Achievable, but challenging. Avoiding binges, even the "little ones"... again, achievable, but challenging in times of emotion and stress. The deal is... taking away the "comfort" of these behaviors forces one to face what one is facing: emotions. And deal.
3. Are you taking responsibility as a role model for your kids and others?
Finally, after years of reluctance, yes. I am the Charles Barkley of weight loss: "I am not a role model"... said it for years, *especially* every time I "failed" (i.e. gave up). But I can tell you from experiencing it, there is nothing more priceless than having your adult son tell you he is proud of you and your journey. Believe it or not, I have observed a change in how people approach and receive my input at work since having dropped the weight and become fit. People are always watching. If I fail at this point, it sends a bad message to those who are watching.
* Spark buds, you have heard me voice in this blog my fear of letting others down when I go on a slippery slide. I *know* people are watching, and I want success for *them* not just for me. I don't want others giving up because something was "too hard" for me. This commitment to the next 90 days is in honor of that, too, of everyone who watches, reads, and also labors on.
WE can do this. And WE are worth it. It isn't all about me.
Life is good. Spark on.
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