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Reminders to myself for today

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Remember the old peace corps slogan, "give a man a fish and he eats for a day, teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime"?

This can be applied on so many levels... from eating and exercise (modeling good habits) to budgeting (living within our means) to work and study habits. Most people learn by watching. If I model good behaviors, and get good results, it's a whole lot more powerful than talking someone's ear off!

Right now I need to model better food choices for myself, and my mantra for today is "I feel better when I eat better." It's bald, unvarnished truth: I do.

So, short blog, simple reminders to get me through ONE day. Today. May it be a great day for you all, too! emoticon

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_LINDA 4/26/2012 2:53AM

    Amen. Hold that thought and live it to the max!

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WATERMELLEN 4/25/2012 8:50PM

    I feel better when I eat potato chips: right at that moment. Darn.

I feel better later when I have NOT eaten potato chips! Have to keep reminding myself of that.

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REJ7777 4/25/2012 6:00PM

    Thanks for being a good model for those of us who read and enjoy your blogs. emoticon

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ANDI571 4/25/2012 11:24AM

    I like how you added budgeting into the mix. Food and money are the two things I am trying to get balanced. I have always been one that if I am eating right, I am spending money. If I am saving money, I am eating wrong. Trying to get both on the same trek is not easy.

We can do it Barb. We have all the tools we need. Now to just use them.

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COMETER 4/25/2012 7:22AM

    I DO feel better when I eat better!

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KARIDIAN1 4/25/2012 12:52AM

    I am trying hard to stay in my limits, but sometimes life happens.

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MNTWINSGAL 4/24/2012 11:20PM

    Yep - You only need a little nudge. And you are always so good at nudging youself into that all-important first step. Tomorrow, back to the best choices for you!

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EBEAMS 4/24/2012 8:31PM

    You know it ... cuz tomorrow isn't promised and today isn't yet through ... One day at a time!

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DEBRA0818 4/24/2012 6:20PM

    ODAT is the only way it gets done. In a certain sense, we are always at emoticon, right?!


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SUNNY332 4/24/2012 5:47PM

    I agree 100%. I just read an article today on clean eating. It said you could reduce your daily calories by 65% if you ate clean/raw. That is something to think about. Plus, it said the nutrients were better absorbed and used when eaten clean/raw.

Take care and keep up the great work.

Hugs, Sunny

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1CRAZYDOG 4/24/2012 11:43AM

    Great blog! That's my motivator when I'm tempted to eat something I know is not a wise choice. I know I won't feel good afterwards, so I just hold onto that thought and make the right choice.

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MIZCATHI 4/24/2012 9:50AM

    It's definitely true! I love my morning routines, really starts my day off right. Up early, read or play with the dogs, coffee on the patio, gym, shower, breakfast and out the door early.

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KATHRYNLP 4/24/2012 9:26AM

    We are what we eat... emoticon

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 4/24/2012 8:55AM

    "I feel better when I eat better."

Me, too! I just don't seem to retain that thought as consistently as I'd like. I think I will adopt that mantra for myself today, too, Barb.

Make it a great day!

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KALIGIRL 4/24/2012 8:11AM

    Here's to one day @ a time!

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LEANJEAN6 4/24/2012 8:07AM

    Eat healthy girl!!!---a great reminder!!! I'm with you on that!!! Thank-you-Lynda emoticon

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COOKIE352 4/24/2012 8:06AM

    Great attitude emoticon

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Decision points and the princes of Serendip...

Saturday, April 21, 2012

I wanted to do my "long walk" outdoors, rather than on the treadmill, because let's face it, the treadmill is easier to "phone it in". So, I got my act together, and stepped out the door into misty rain. I had a 12 mile map in my pocket and plans to be out for between 3 and 4 hours.

My whiny side wasn't thrilled with getting wet and chilly, but I reminded myself firmly that if it is raining two weeks from tomorrow, I will put on the rain gear and "do it" anyway.

I got to the first decision point about direction to turn, and the tug of knowing there were nature stops one way and not known the other made my decision for me. I turned in the direction of where I knew a road race was being run this morning. As it happened, I was there in time for a quick pit stop before the runners got truly started, and I walked the sidewalks alongside the road full of runners.

They clearly had me outpaced (it was two races being run simultaneously... a 2 mile, and a 10 K). When they split off the two milers I kept on parallel with the 10K runners. When they turned, I kept on, and picked up the bike trails and neighborhoods hopping parks as I went along.

My long loop with all the options ended up shy of the 12 miles originally planned, but I was out for a full 3 hours. I figured it up (according to my GPS) at about 10.75 miles. The "about" is because I ran out of battery life! And by then, bright sunshine. All in all, a very satisfactory prep walk.

Stretched really well after, hydrated and had lunch. Now... maybe a nap? Hope you're all having a good Spark day!

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SHARON10002 4/23/2012 10:21PM

    emoticon to get out the door and do it! emoticon Barb! I can't walk that far!

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REJ7777 4/23/2012 9:16PM

    emoticon I think you deserved a nap after a 10,75 mile walk in the rain. You must have felt so good, afterwards, to have actually gotten out there and DONE it! emoticon

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MIZCATHI 4/23/2012 5:46PM

    Wow, you rock! You were looking for inspiration, and there it was right there for you.

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KALIGIRL 4/23/2012 8:48AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon Sounds like a great prep!

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SLENDERELLA61 4/22/2012 8:25PM

    Great walk!! I don't think I've ever done a 3 hour walk. That sounds like something I need to tackle soon. Thanks for suggesting a new goal. -Marsha

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SUE_2U 4/22/2012 3:15PM

    Wow what a great trek for you! Ending in sunshine, too! emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 4/22/2012 1:30AM

    We are having a cold and boring rain here today - IŽll think of you and try to get out in it anyway...

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EBEAMS 4/21/2012 11:00PM

    Very nicely done! Way to just go do it! I'm hugely impressed ... oh, and I've finally figured out that when running in the rain or sprinkles to just try and enjoy the moist feeling ... eventually, whether it is dry or wet, I end up soaked either way! emoticon

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KARIDIAN1 4/21/2012 9:54PM

    Sounds like a nice long walk. Glad you did it.

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WATERMELLEN 4/21/2012 8:37PM

    Nice! It was coooool and damp here today too: so my main workout was at the gym (elliptical and upper body free weights and stretching). But then Charlie and DH and I went for a long long walk in a spring swamp as well. I just love being outside regardless of weather when the leaves are practially unfolding in front of my eyes.

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1CRAZYDOG 4/21/2012 5:27PM

    Awesome! Hope you got that quick nap in!

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MAGGIE101857 4/21/2012 5:00PM

    Great job - I did the treadmill today for 13 miles - knees were a little achy and I figured that would be easier on them. But that means I need to get my butt outside for shorter run the next two weeks before the HM!!

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_LINDA 4/21/2012 3:13PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
a nap sounds about right! emoticonWay to walk it!!
I can't wait to get out on the trails! The sunshine has finally found us and I have a very brief lull in work to enjoy :)

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Ready or not, in 16 days...

Friday, April 20, 2012

My second half marathon. In December, when the e-mail came announcing that registration was open, I signed up on the first day. I remembered the thrill of finishing last year. The couple of days of moving a little slow after, but the grin that lasted a month, I swear.

Was it wise, given my aspirations for the Tri in July? At this point, I'm not sure. I know I am fit enough to walk the 13.1 miles. I make zero promises about finishing time, because I have no clue how much I'll jog how much just walk. If I want to guarantee a finish, I'll walk nearly the whole thing.

But if I wish to guarantee my ability to finish training for that Tri? I may be playing a "safety first" game with the half. And you know what? That's OK.

The competition is NOT a single day. It is not a single race. It is not with the other racers. It is with myself. It is a competition of character, of keeping promises to myself!

To US, fellow Sparkers. To living our lives, our way... fit, healthy, strong... the best we can be... to be the people we most desire and need to be. To purpose. To goals. To LIFE!

Spark on! emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 4/22/2012 8:29PM

    What an awesome philosophy! You are so right. The race is not one day. The race is life, is health, is fitness.... I love the commitment to character and promises to yourself. This is an incredible blog. I voted for it. -Marsha

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EBEAMS 4/21/2012 10:52PM

    You are so right ... You are already a hero for your dedication and commitment to yourself! You care enough about yourself to explore your mental process and figure out what is right for you, what isn't right for you and not try to do everything to 100%! Giving ourselves permission to be what we are capable of being is so much more beneficial than pushing ourselves to be what we might never be ... there's no comparison! I'll say it again ... You are already a hero! Hugs!

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WATERMELLEN 4/21/2012 8:34PM

    For I have promises to keep . . . the most important ones are always to ourselves!

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REJ7777 4/21/2012 6:34AM

    It sounds like you have a balanced, workable plan. Why am I not surprised? emoticon

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DEBRA0818 4/20/2012 12:41PM

    Whosh! The time goes by and before you know it, you'll be post-race receiving congratulations from everyone for a great job and you will know the thrill of accomplishing something really tremendous for your health and for your life!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 4/20/2012 10:42AM

    Yes, you are absolutely not competing against the others. This is something you're doing for you. Who cares if you walk the whole thing? You'll still accomplish your goal of completing it without risking a set-back in your Tri training. Great way to work it out, Barb!

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1CRAZYDOG 4/20/2012 9:53AM

    Good luck to you! I am proud of you for doing it YOUR way and not stressing about your time, etc. Sometimes we put so dang much pressure on ourselves. Whatever you do, you'll do fine. Keep it up!


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KRISZTA11 4/20/2012 8:00AM

    Good luck to the half marathon!
If you plan to walk a lot and jog less, then I don't think there is a risk of getting injured and you'll recover in time for your Triathlon in July.
Congrats to your consistent, long-term healthy lifestyle!

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_LINDA 4/20/2012 7:58AM

    Well done Barb, you got your head screwed on straight with that amazing attitude!
I get the feeling you are going to rock this race!!
Go, Barb, GO!
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In the end... Mental Kindness IS mental toughness

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Being mentally kind to oneself allows one to be resilient. To never give up. To stick to the plan because we're worth it, and we are kind enough to ourselves to keep our promises. That inner child is EXPECTING the inner parent to help him/her do this... to show up at the game or the party or the school play.

Does your inner parent spoil your inner child? If so, is that kind?

So, in essence, the inner parent has to be mentally tough... to be mentally kind to that inner child. Encourage your inner child today: we can do this!

Because we're worth it. emoticon

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MIZCATHI 4/23/2012 5:51PM

    My inner child is being a brat right now and needs to be parented. I forgot for two seconds that I'm a good Mom - thanks for the reminder!

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WATERMELLEN 4/21/2012 8:33PM

    I think that Steve Siebold could learn a lot from your relationship between the inner child and inner parent. He's very condemning of what he calls "adolescent" thinking (the emotional demand for instant gratification) and rightly so. But there's a place for childlike spontaneity and joy too!! (So long as it doesn't involve self-destructive indulgence . . . ). Relentless stern hectoring: not good, not necessary, not kind!!

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_LINDA 4/20/2012 1:06AM

    Another great one!! My inner adult is a little too permissive sometimes with the allowance of salty snacks. Has to set some boundaries before the maintenance is in jeopardy..

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1CRAZYDOG 4/19/2012 9:31AM

    I so agree! So many times it SEEMS easier for the parent to "cave in" and give the child what they request rather than do the RIGHT thing and make a WISE choice. Great blog! Hugs!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 4/19/2012 9:29AM

    Very true. And we'd be wise to remember that. I know I do so much better when my inner parent cares enough to show up and nurture the hurting inner child. Great blog.

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KALIGIRL 4/19/2012 8:43AM

    Here's to encouragement in all its forms!

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LEANJEAN6 4/19/2012 7:02AM

    Nice!------ I need to be kind to my inner child to-day!-I do enjoy your blogs Barb!--They are very informative---make me think--*S*-Lynda

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Mental kindness has to include...

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

accepting your strengths, not just your weaknesses.

In swapping comments with WATERMELLEN about the mental toughness coaching sessions, I told her I have little trouble with the concept of being "part of the masses" versus "the elite". I expressed that this went against my egalitarian emotional identity.

From my youth up, I've been trained and have discovered in interactions with others that EVERY human is an amazing creature. May not be crazy about each and every one, and each and every one can't be depended upon to be crazy about ME, BUT, everyone has a story.

Steve Siebold preaches that most people fail at weight loss and getting fit, but "YOU aren't one of them", that YOU can become and are becoming a success, part of the small percentage of those who succeed... and that's when my talk-back begins.

You see, deep among the things that block me from being "world class" is a desire to fit in, to belong. It's close to the bottom of Maslow's hierarchy of need... survival comes first, but belonging is close behind. I think that there are times when I (and others like me) undermine my own success because I don't believe I would truly belong in a culture of the world class. That somehow they are different (and, claims Siebold, they DO think differently). And I'm trying to get back to being "a part of the masses".

Yet, do I truly belong among "the masses", either?

Truth is, human beings are complex. We are all elite. And we are all "the masses". Some of us fear our success will take us away from the familiar where even if we're miserable, we are "at home". In the end, it is mentally kind to allow ourselves to grow, to achieve, to be strong where we can be strong... and to reach for our personal goals and the stars! And along the way? You will find Spark people who ALSO are reaching for similar goals and stars... and suddenly find... that YOU BELONG!

Life is good... Spark on! emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 4/21/2012 8:27PM

    I don't like the "elitism" of Siebold's "world class" talk which also sounds, frankly, a little dated -- like 1990s style "world class cities" talk. Toronto has always been too preoccupied about whether it's a "world class city". Well, yikes, of course it is!

And of course we're world class. And of course we're also part of the masses. We want to be (and are) unique. And to be recognized, accepted and celebrated for our uniqueness. But we do not want to be "braggy" (women suffer from that more than men, I think). We want to belong too. (And women will be ostracized if they are too vain, too braggy).

Fact is (I suspect, because you haven't bragged about it here!) you have accomplished a lot in your life. Have a great kid. A responsible job. Where you are well liked and respected. Are well liked within your family (MOBYCARP will attest to that!!)

Fact is: very few people lose weight and keep it off. You have. And you will continue to do that!

So -- setting aside that odious "world class" diction: Yay you!!

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_LINDA 4/20/2012 1:02AM

    We are snowflakes. No two alike. Not even identical twins -they have their differences too. Here is to being our own individual, making our mark in the world however we choose to do so. Be the Spark!
You go girl!

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REJ7777 4/19/2012 1:03PM

    When I started on SP, I was amazed to see how much I was learning from blogs written by ordinary people like me!

I agree that there's fear and insecurity when we go out of comfort zone. It can really hold us back. It takes courage to be the best we can be! emoticon

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SUE_2U 4/19/2012 2:10AM

    Excellent points and thank you.

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SHARON10002 4/18/2012 3:35PM

    You are making terrific progress! Very insightful blogging!

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1CRAZYDOG 4/18/2012 12:17PM

    Bonus points on this blog! I spent so much of my life just trying to "fit in". Never wanted to be in the masses necessarily, but lacked the self confidence to strive for the elite. You hit upon a major truth though, and that is, we are all a mix of being part of the masses in some areas of our life, and being a part of the elite in other areas of life. It ISN'T cut and dry . . . one or the other. It took me a long time to figure that out.

I always had self-esteem issues becuase of my height . . . ridiculous, I know, but that is where my head was at. THE gradually, in my career, I learned that I had a brain, was going places using that gift of my brain and it was NOT dependent on my height. I learned that those who judge me purely on my height were missing out on ME . . . and you know what? That is all right! As you said, it feels god to be liked, but you're not going to like everyone and not everyone is going to like you either. And that's alright! Tolerance is definitely required for everyone, but we have to accept that we're not going to be universally liked. I'm ok with that.

My son, throughout his life, has had certain challenges and he has taught me a valuable lesson. EVERYONE has strengths and weaknesses. The key is to use those strengths to balance out the weaknesses, not deny the weaknesses. Imagine . . . my son taught ME that lesson. Proud Mom moment.

Wonderful . . . no . . . BRILLIANT blog.

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FITFABJENN 4/18/2012 8:15AM

    Life IS good! Have a terrific weekend, Spark friend. Excellent, insightful blog.

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