Tuesday, December 01, 2009
Here's the deal: perfectionism is a set-up for feeling miserable and bad about oneself. Whether that perfectionism centers around making the holidays perfect, or perfectly sticking to a food and exercise plan, there is little chance of actually achieving the level of perfection.
There are goals that are SMART. SMART is talked about in success cultures everywhere, from management school to SparkPeople to whatever plan/program you happen to follow. The acronym varies, but these work for me "Specific", "Measurable", "Achievable", "Realistic" and "Time-bound".
During December I will stay on my food plan 6 out of 7 days each week.
See, specific, measurable, achievable and realistic (6 out of 7 allows for a little mess-up from time to time), and time-bound... during December, during each week.
I believe there is a place for aspirations that are not SMART. Example: During this day I will be kind to myself and nurture the needs of my body, soul and mind.
While time-bound (this day), it's not specific and measurable - "be kind" - what's that mean and how do you measure it? Still it's an aspiration, a hope, a desire - and desires are prayers.
May you all have a wonderful today, live in the moment, and be kind to yourselves... for you are worth it!