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30 blogs hath September #3

Monday, September 03, 2012

Today's topic questions: "Who have you shared your weight loss goals with? What has been good about sharing your goals?"

Oh, my goodness... this is a classic. I share my mindset about weight loss / maintenance and even more about fitness with anybody who asks or will listen (when I'm in a Barb bubbling mode)! However, sharing the actual goal weight number? Ha-yell NO! That way leads to insanity and obsession! To competition and feelings of inadequacy!

That said, I did share my number with my daughter in law when we started the journey, because she and I signed on to this together. I wonder whether that was a good idea, in the end, as I'm maintaining a good 30 pounds under that, and it could be intimidating to her. She's still struggling a good deal higher than the original number, and has set her sights differently.

What's good about sharing goals? In terms of actual scale numbers, to my way of thinking, NOTHING! OK, I take that back: as a reality check, perhaps. "Is my goal appropriate to my height and age and gender?"

What's good about sharing fitness / nutrition goals? EVERYTHING! Support, accountability, mutual encouragement... I get all these things by talking about my lifestyle with family, friends, and of course a HUGE boost here on Spark.

  
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SHARON10002 9/5/2012 4:03PM

    I agree with your blog here. I have never been one to broadcast my weight. I too believe that your weight is only your business. I even hate it when I have to weigh in at the doctor's office although I realize the reason for it.

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BKNOCK 9/5/2012 10:01AM

    I totally agree with your blog! Thanks!

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DNRAE1 9/5/2012 8:12AM

    Another great blog, Barb. I've been sharing SP, and my weight loss with everyone at my gym, and getting even more encouragement! Yeah! Great Blog!

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CEHALLA 9/4/2012 11:43AM

    I was so happy to get under 200 pounds, that I shared it with my good friend, who also struggles with staying at a healthy weight. She replies: "really? I thought you weighed 170, you look so good" . That wasn't what I expected! It took me some time to recover and put some positive spin on it in my head, so I didn't go into binge mode.

So I am more careful about what I share number-wise. But I do talk about SP all the time. Some family and friends have joined, and I am happy to share the tools available here.

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KALIGIRL 9/4/2012 9:22AM

    Couldn't agree more - we 'measure' too much in our culture and when it comes to numbers we can make them 'lie'...

Here's to living our GOOD lives and sharing them with others!
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_LINDA 9/4/2012 12:43AM

    Sharing is good. Not so much a specific number, but just trying to get and keep at a healthy weight that suits your body when you are doing things consistently right. When I was asked what I did, I tell them about Sparkpeople. When they ask if I am still losing I say no, my body seems to have found the weight it likes. I only picked a vague number when I signed up because Sparks asked for a goal weight so you would know how much to lose per week. But I had no idea where I should be weight wise, just took a number out of the air lol. Even my Dr.'s couldn't agree -one said 118 was fine, my other said not below 147. Well, on my fine little frame, 147 would put me back in size 16. But I just decided to see where my body chose, and it seems to hover around 121. I don't stress when it goes up or down as it usually bounces back.
Its nice to share with people!

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KARIDIAN1 9/3/2012 9:07PM

    I blab to anyone who will listen. So many have never heard of SP either. I enjoy doing some Sparking with them.

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COMETER 9/3/2012 8:19PM

    I'm with you, Barb. Tell that you're working on it, keep the actual numbers to yourself. I tend NOT to want to talk about weight goals. And I like to be pretty careful about conversations revolving around weight loss--they can be awfully boring to outsiders. But telling someone who cares about a goal, that's a very good thing.

Now that I think about it, I realize, though, that I'm more straightforward about fitness--I'll talk about a new tape or exercise, and am reasonably comfortable with that.

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MANDELOVICH 9/3/2012 7:38PM

    Support is key, and when we vocalize our goals, I think it reinforces our intent and opens our universe to more support and accountability!

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DLDMIL 9/3/2012 4:59PM

    I agree 100% with your blog. I personally believe that your weight number is only your business and maybe your doctors, but no one else.

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SLENDERELLA61 9/3/2012 12:12PM

    Thanks, Barb. You helped me put some of my thinking together. I don't mind sharing my number here on SparkPeople or at WW, but I don't tell my daughter or my niece who would find it intimidating.

Good blog. Glad you are doing the 30 days. I may do it some other month. -Marsha

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1CRAZYDOG 9/3/2012 11:53AM

  couldn't agree more! I do post my weight on here, but the scale is the LEAST of the victories that I count as mine from sparking . . .

self confidence

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health

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And the list goes on!

HUGS and happy Labor Day to you. Hugs to our soldiers and families.

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KAYLA0041 9/3/2012 11:40AM

    I agree I share physical goals but seldom my goal weight or even what my current weight is. I have a lot of family and friends that say that I am "too skinny" but I still want to lose 10 lbs (I have been at that weight previously for a few years so I know it is a good weight for me). What is funny is the same people who say I am too skinny also say I look so much better now that I lost a few lbs. emoticon

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LINDAKAY228 9/3/2012 11:17AM

    I hardly ever share my goal weight except with a few people. Sharing other goals I share with everyone who will listen LOL!

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LDRICHEL 9/3/2012 9:39AM

    It's pretty easy to share my health goals with the world, now that there is SparkPeople and Facebook. People get to hear about them, whether they want to or not!

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LOOK2LOVELIFE 9/3/2012 9:36AM

    Great topic of discussion. I often contemplate the same things and would never, never share my number because I feel like that sets me up for disaster. What works for some, doesn't work for all!

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WATERMELLEN 9/3/2012 9:27AM

    Numbers (pounds, pant size) work differently for different people, for sure!

I'm one of those who needs to weigh, count calories in and out, check measurements . . . all of the above: for "personal accountability". But not (necessarily) for broadcast!! Depends upon who's asking, why, and the likely result of sharing that info. It doesn't always win friends or influence people!!

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DOGLADY13 9/3/2012 9:15AM

    Lots of wisdom in this blog.

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DEBRA0818 9/3/2012 8:46AM

    I share my numbers with my doctor and husband, but I agree with you that sharing my health goals is a lot more productive for me and for whomever I'm speaking with generally. After all, do other people really care what I weigh? I don't think so!

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EBEAMS 9/3/2012 8:26AM

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MOSTMOM1 9/3/2012 8:14AM

    Agreed. I share my numbers here, but spend more of my time sharing NSVs, in general. But I definitely share what I'm doing and that helps keep me motivated. Doing this secretly or alone wouldn't be nearly as much fun. That's for sure. Thanks for sharing.
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LEANJEAN6 9/3/2012 7:38AM

    I share my weighty stuff with Sparklers--and husband--son#2, the Pilot also, as he reads the blogs----Aren't we so fortunate to have Spark and goal setters like yerself ?-Lynda emoticon

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CAREN_BLUEJEANS 9/3/2012 7:27AM

    Barb, you're like a mind reader! Yesterday, I changed my ticker from "pounds lost" to my actual weight in pounds. In real life, I shared my actual weight with one of my fitness instructors, Sarah. And my son, DS20.

What's good about sharing? I feel more accountable. More realistic. I've reached a point of success, that I've convinced myself I can really do this. Everyone is on their own journey. But if my sharing my weight loss journey can inspire others, it's worth opening up.

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OVERWORKEDJANET 9/3/2012 7:11AM

    Yup, I'd agree with that!

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30 Blogs Hath September #2

Sunday, September 02, 2012

Link to the blog that TanyaP71 brought me into the challenge with - it has the 30 topics for those who wish to play along: www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo
urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=5038746


Today's topic: "How did you pick your goal weight? Did you pick an ultimate goal weight at the beginning of your weight loss? Did it change? Did you set smaller goals along the way?"

I'm a "conservative" goal setter, at least in terms of goal weights. Beaten down by years of attempts that failed to reach the numbers on the charts, when pressed for a number to give at the commercial weight loss center, I gave them one I knew I could meet, having been there and below on several prior attempts. 150.

Was this an ultimate goal weight? Not really. Because for me, it was about maintenance to begin with... at least at the back of my mind and in my self-talk. It was about a level of fitness, not a specific number on a scale. I wanted my body to FIND its own level of comfort. I'd been working toward this mind-set over the decades.

BECAUSE of this mind-set, the concept of "goal" DID change as the process unfolded. In the end it settled on being in the healthy range of BMI. I am not a body builder or a professional athlete, so for me, BMI range works. No use trying to game myself into thinking it is a faulty measure because for ME, it is not.

Did I set smaller goals for myself along the way... yes and no... they were not pound goals, they were "make it through this week without giving up healthy behavior A" kinds of goals, followed by small rewards. I'm a big believer in small rewards and non-food ways to make myself feel special! I'm talking a pack of votive candles or stickers on the calendar for exercising TODAY. It works for me.

In the end, my body knocked my socks off with its response to consistent, repeated healthy treatment. I am grateful and will do everything I can to let it keep on surprising me.

  
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SHARON10002 9/5/2012 3:59PM

    I agree that it should be how we feel in our body not what a number says on a scale. You have given me a different focus on goals, too. emoticon

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CEHALLA 9/4/2012 11:38AM

    I have also been most successful when I set a small, timely goal for one specific behavior at a time, and then give myself a small reward. That's how I gave myself my nice pedometer, a new bike helmet, a water bottle, etc.

When I don't really have a focus, I just do whatever!

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SUNSHINE31797 9/3/2012 2:47AM

    Congratulations on your consistency and best wishes for future success!

It seems that mindsets it what matters most not matter what the goal. Without the right mindset I have a harder time being consistent with my efforts towards my goal. I have recently changed my goal to focus on healthier eating and consistent exercise with the expectation that weight loss will eventually happen as my body changes!


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KARIDIAN1 9/2/2012 9:33PM

    Small goals and rewards are easier to manage and to attain. I like to reach goals and focus on the next one.

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SLENDERELLA61 9/2/2012 8:43PM

    Healthy and fit is a great way to be. I am so impressed with how you have totally embraced this great mindset. I like the small goals along the way, too.

What a great way to have your socks knocked off!! Our bodies do reward us for our consistent healthy efforts. Hooray!!

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DRAFTLOVER 9/2/2012 7:57PM

    What "clicked" for you to be able to adopt that mindset? Did you just decide one day you had enough? Or was there a specific incident that sent you down that path? Girl if you could bottle that.....well you'd be rich :)

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_LINDA 9/2/2012 5:17PM

    You came at this with such a great mindset, that is why you were wildly successful! Its not about a specific weight, its how you FEEL. When you are living your life the way it feels good and healthy, your body will settle into a size that matches that level of commitment! I too never chose a specific number (and wasn't asked to). I am at the weight my body chooses when I am living a clean and active lifestyle.
Here is to being all you can be and not a slave to a number on the scale!
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DLDMIL 9/2/2012 4:58PM

    I agree with being happy with "healthy and fit" rather than a certain weight. emoticon

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JCV501 9/2/2012 4:46PM

  Someone please tell me how you have SP determine your goal weight.

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LINDAKAY228 9/2/2012 3:23PM

    Great blog. My original idea of a goal weight had been 135-140 lbs. But then my doctor suggested 150 as being easier to maintain most likely than going lower. It would put me right at the upper end of a healthy BMI. I haven't reached it yet, but I will. I may decide then to go lower but I'm not so sure anymore that I will. I want something I will be able to maintain and not so worried about being as "skinny" as I was a few years ago. Having never been small I have no idea what my body will do, but being 57 years old I know that probably 135 or 140 is lower than may be reasonable and sustainable for me. Mainly I just want to be healthy.

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DEBRA0818 9/2/2012 2:21PM

    I'm with you on this one, Barb. My body will ultimately show me what my goal weight is. Having said that, an MD recommended the high end of the range for my height (which is cool). We'll see what she wants to do.

Far more important to me is to follow my food plan, exercise and, most of all, avoid the kind of compulsive overeating that landed me here in the first place (not that I'm not grateful, etc.).

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MOSTMOM1 9/2/2012 11:40AM

    I like small goals and small rewards; I think they take you big places.
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MANDELOVICH 9/2/2012 10:43AM

    I love this. Small goals are fantastic as they are achievable and then motivate us to go on. And I love what you wrote at the end here about our amazing bodies and that we should all be grateful! Thank you.

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ALOHAEV1 9/2/2012 10:36AM

    Wish the experts would stop making the number on the scale the end all and encourage more to work on overall fitness and wellness. It's little steps along the way that are more likely to keep us fit, staying with it as the scale heads south and maintain. You are a great story on how to do it.

Then there are those of us with more fat and inches to lose than pounds (result of years of yo yoin') and increased strength. Work on that, the pounds will follow. I eat very well, just too much of it.


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ANDASI 9/2/2012 10:08AM

    I agree it is about so much more than just pounds lost. I love the feeling of being fit and strong in my body. I like the way my body functions and moves when i am fitt and healthy.


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JCV501 9/2/2012 9:14AM

  How do you have SP determine your goal weight? I can't figure out how to do that. Thanks.

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MAGGIE101857 9/2/2012 9:11AM

    I have changed my goal weight so many times!!! Even when people said "you look great", I still wanted to lose more. Now I have gained back 12 pounds, and am frustrated and angry with myself. It's a journey, one I refuse to quit, and so I start again. With each step back, I learn something new about myself, so not a total loss!!! This time, I am going to focus more on fitness; you have shown me many times over how strong we can be!!!

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LEANJEAN6 9/2/2012 9:01AM

    --I let Spark pick the goal weight--but--I've not reached it yet--when I ever get closer, I may change it---

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1CRAZYDOG 9/2/2012 8:59AM

  You showed your BODY what you are capable of! Awesome work.

Maintenance is sometimes a bit trickier than losing the weight, but you've nailed it. It's all about taking it day-by-day, same as the weight loss part of the journey.

HUGS and thanks for being a shining example of what sparking can do in our lives!



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JENNYR0506 9/2/2012 8:56AM

    So interesting reading about everyone else's journey. We are all so much alike in many ways and yet each of our stories is different as well.

I have been subscribing to all of the 30 Day Blog Challenge posts I can find to make it easier to keep track of everyone that is participating.



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OVERWORKEDJANET 9/2/2012 8:11AM

    I'm giving this a shot for each day too.

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TANYAP71 9/2/2012 8:07AM

    It's so important to understand that you need to do what works for you. I think it takes a fair amount of strength to resist the pressure to do what 'they' say works... Even when it has failed in the past. Congratulations on finding what works for you and sticking to it. I hope sharing our journeys will highlight that there are many paths to wellness!

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Well it may end up with several more than 30...

Saturday, September 01, 2012

Simply because Barb can't shut up. I'm blogging now with the relief that the weekend's "long run" is in the bag. With my seasonal allergies and the 90 plus degree heat today, I opted for a treadmill 11 miler... to video streaming of Biggest Loser season... um... lost track... I think maybe 9.

It was the "I'm happy" season. I say that because in the interviews with the contestants, that was the word that popped out at me, over and over and over again. And it rang so true as I heard it. This whole Spring and Summer it has dawned on me how happy I have been in my active lifestyle. HAPPY!

What did I tell mom I wanted to be when I grew up? "Happy". Every time. Not a career, a mindset. So... here I am... keeping promises to myself... including "follow the training plan"... and I proclaim myself Happy.

May the Happy be contagious. Do something good for you, and let it make you smile! emoticon

  
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DIANNEMT 9/4/2012 12:33PM

    You know, since I have started working out, I am happier, too! Can't say EXACTLY why--may not be cause and effect since there have been other life changes, too but--I AM happy.

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MOMMY445 9/4/2012 9:17AM

    what a wonderful blog! you can do this! you are worth it!

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JIBBIE49 9/3/2012 10:55PM

    What an honor to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. You certainly are an inspiration. emoticon

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COMETER 9/3/2012 8:23PM

    I'm trying to stay focused on the things that are surefire routes to happiness and joy--relationships, good work, and engagement.

And establishing my new food-logging habit, which is what I see to my route for weightloss. That's my campaign to age well.

But there is something wonderful about knowing that ongoing hard work pays off.

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JAMER123 9/2/2012 8:56PM

    If you allow yourself, you can be the happiest you choose to be. I for one, am choosing the route of positive living. I am happy that I am given a new day every day to live and enjoy. Only I can be responsible for my happiness.
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LIVELYGIRL2 9/2/2012 7:00PM

  Happiness is conditional, joy comes from within, and isn't determined by circumstances.

Joy comes from confidence and peace inside. Happiness is external.Many people who are focused and content, believe in something beyond themselves and what to help others. emoticon

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IAMAGEMLOVER 9/2/2012 4:32PM

    My mantra is I am responsible for my own happiness.

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WALKINGCHICK 9/2/2012 4:19PM

    you CAN choose to be happy - and I choose happiness! Your blog helped - I have a smile on my face after reading your words!

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ROCKYCPA 9/2/2012 4:09PM

    Being happy is not alway as easy to do as it seems - good for to try and find happiness!

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LOGOULD 9/2/2012 4:06PM

    Amen....happiness is a choice, and it does require some work on my part, but for today, I will do the work and will choose to be happy!

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MARYJEANSL 9/2/2012 3:56PM

  It's wonderful to realize that our happiness is in our own hands - and to make the choice for happiness. It makes the world a better place for all.

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DOGLADY13 9/2/2012 3:45PM

    Many years ago my husband and I had an ENORMOUS argument. He went to sleep and I went down on the porch to sulk. After a few hours, he came downstairs and said something that changed my outlook forever. He said, "I am not responsible for your happiness." Then he went back to bed. I stayed up a few more hours pondering that and I have never looked back. I am responsible for my happiness. When I find myself unhappy for a stretch of time, I know I need to look at myself.

Thank you for the reminder.

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SJKENT1 9/2/2012 3:41PM

    Happy is a good thing

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  I am so glad that you are HAPPY!!!!!!! You are an inspiration!!!!! emoticon

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TONYVAND1 9/2/2012 1:56PM

  Happy as well

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REGILIEH 9/2/2012 1:55PM

    AMEN!!!!

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TONYVAND1 9/2/2012 1:54PM

  Happy as well

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  Stay motivated!

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FIT4MEIN2013 9/2/2012 12:12PM

    Happiness is a choice. Keep it up!

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KAYLA0041 9/2/2012 10:49AM

    Thanks for the reminder that mental health is as important as physical. Happy is a great goal and I am happy to say that I have so many blessings in my life right now, so I too am happy!

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ANNE007 9/2/2012 10:35AM

    Nice! Very good thoughts. You made me realize I am happy, also!

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GARDENCHRIS 9/2/2012 9:48AM

    being happy is a good thing!!

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CICELY360 9/2/2012 9:48AM

  god blog.

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LAURIE5658 9/2/2012 9:20AM

    Your happy is my giddy. Life is too short to be anything else!! We have just one earthly life, live it and love it!!!

Great blog!

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DJSHIP46 9/2/2012 8:51AM

    I too am happy!!!

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FARIS71 9/2/2012 8:24AM

    Well by golly I'm happy too. Thanks for sparking me!

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MIMIDOT 9/2/2012 7:59AM

    You're awesome! I'm happy, too!

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TRYINGHARD54 9/2/2012 7:47AM

    YIPPY !!!!

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SAGELADY2 9/2/2012 7:43AM

    Great work on the run.

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PENOWOK 9/2/2012 7:30AM

    I am happy you chose to run indoors and SP makes me happy. Thanks for the positives!!

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BECKYANNE1 9/2/2012 7:23AM

    To be "happy" is a great goal and feeling! Keep it up!

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BECKYANNE1 9/2/2012 7:20AM

    To be "happy" is a great goal and feeling! Keep it up!

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MANDELOVICH 9/2/2012 6:53AM

    Great goal!! I have the same one and we can all be happy NOW!! It's up to us!!

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30 Blogs Hath September?

Saturday, September 01, 2012

TanyaP71 has challenged folks to blog 30 days on a set list of questions. www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo
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Being me, I thought about it and decided, "why not?" Here is the first blog topic:

"Your stats. Starting stats, current stats, goal stats. Are you currently trying to lose weight, gain weight, or maintain weight or something else? Do you have a goal for the month of September? "

First off, whenever I talk about starting stats, it all depends on WHICH start we're talking about, since I have been through this process many times over the decades. But to play it as straight as I can - this particular healthy initiative began on May 29th, 2009, when I weighed in at 198.6 on my home scale. At 5' 3", that's too much, by anybody's assessment.

I did not take tape measurements until a month later, on June 26th, and at that point, my waist was 37 inches... bust 43, hips 45. Sigh... with a month of progress, even.

At that time, I timidly set my goal down as 150, because I had to pick a number. (I was at a commercial weight loss center, they wanted a number.) But as I told them there, the real goal was not about a number on the scale. The real goal was to get back into the shape I was in when I did an informal triathlon with my siblings. That was August 2007, and I felt better than I had my whole life.

My current stats? Are you ready?

Weight, 7 day rolling average, as of today: 119.3 pounds.
Bust: 35
Waist: 27
Hips: 34.5

Current phase in the process? Maintenance. Don't need to lose more. My goals are not so much about the scale (they never were, really)... but to maintain the level of fitness to participate in the events that give me so much joy. Eye on the prize right now of a half marathon in November, busy building mileage.

Goals for September:
1. Don't injure myself.
2. Follow the fitness plan, but modify as the body's level of energy demands. I.e. LISTEN to the body.
3. One 5 mile race, Sept 9th.

  
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SHARON10002 9/5/2012 3:53PM

    I've been on and off the diet roller coaster since I was about 12. I was one of those "pudgy" little girls. I have recently taken my measurements and am too ashamed to post them here, but to date have only lost about 15 pounds. I am still logging food and exercise.
I do applaud you and all you have done! You are truly an inspiration, Barb!

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SWEDE_SU 9/2/2012 10:36AM

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KARIDIAN1 9/1/2012 10:45PM

    I should measure again. It has been awhile. Your stats are fantastic. And you activities are awesome. Your September goals are good too.

Keep it up- you are motivating a lot of people.

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SLENDERELLA61 9/1/2012 3:15PM

    Impressive stats, Barb!! Someday I hope to say again that I really don't think I need to lose any more. Right now I'm feeling ambivalent and just not sure if I do or not.

Great goals for September!! You can do it!!!

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STRIVERONE 9/1/2012 2:39PM

    I don't think I can commit to that much writing and self-analysis, but I've been following your blog for quite a while and I think you come pretty close to my #12 on all four counts.

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TANYAP71 9/1/2012 1:43PM

    Thanks for joining in and congratulations on your success! Looking forward to the rest of the month.

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WATERMELLEN 9/1/2012 11:51AM

    Fabulous stats, fabulous persistence, fabulous goals going forward!

And: thanks for your kind comment on my "vanity pics" blog. Much appreciated!

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1CRAZYDOG 9/1/2012 11:47AM

  Woot! Another 1/2 in November! You rock.

Yes, it is a little different being in maintenance mode, but the basics still apply for me: proper nutrition, proper rest, proper exercise! HGUS

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_LINDA 9/1/2012 10:10AM

    Awesome as usual! Interesting, I too weighed 198, no fractions for me, when I decided that was just too much and enough was enough. Basically, I have always enjoyed working out and aquafit and my elliptical were my choices in addition to lots of walking when ever my condition allowed me to. But missing in action was ST, and I joined Curves to get some of that and saw immediate results, dropping some weight and toning. That is when I entered their Biggest Loser contest and made the biggest change and difference in my life -learning to track and see the calories in my food. That was the turning point for sure. When I found Sparkpeople looking for an easier way to track then searching and manually adding everything up, the rest was history.
Nothing beats being able to physically do the things you want, it feels so good. I will never be able to run a race (the impact is too painful for my joints) but in short term classes and such, I can keep up and beat the youngest and healthiest of them! I do envy all the fun and competition you do with these races, but its an inspirational envy. If you can do your activity to the max, so can I ;)
Spark on!

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MEXGAL1 9/1/2012 10:03AM

    hum...you just made me measure myself. I haven't done that in years and was pleasently surprised. Now remember, I have been working on my diet and health forever...like since I was 16 years old and I am now 60. well my hips are finally 36, my waist 24 and bust 32. but now that i am maintaining the weight loss I have lots of hanging skin. I am going to look into having the arm surgery so that I can finally wear sleeveless shirt. I feel like I deserve it since I finally am maintaining my weight.
Have a terrific week end.
Sallie

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LDRICHEL 9/1/2012 8:23AM

    Um, you're kind of my new hero. :)

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DEBRA0818 9/1/2012 7:30AM

    Excellent way to roll through the month, Barb! I may answer some of those questions from time to time when I'm looking for a subject to write about.

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LEANJEAN6 9/1/2012 7:12AM

    WooWoo Barb! Another race----Good for you!-Lynda emoticon

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What does OLD mean to you?

Friday, August 31, 2012

Looks like the past week has had a theme, and that theme is age-related. I won the age group gold in that mud run, the oldest female on the 10K course. I posted the link to the 80 year old Iron Nun article. And today, I'm pondering the word "old".

Old to me means powerful. All my life, I have looked up to older people. Old to me means wise. But old to me means playful, as well... my great-grandfather taught me to waltz and play cribbage. My grand-dad hiked 50 miles with a Boy Scout troop to celebrate his 65th birthday, (if I remember right which milestone birthday it was). My mom and dad taught square and line dancing to senior citizens.

I embrace the goal of "old". When I was ten years old, I met my great-great-grandmother for the first and only time. She at that time was 101 years young. She had been 4 years old when Abraham Lincoln was shot. She was a tiny, strong, opinionated woman who took no guff from anyone.

That's been my concept of "old". So when people say I'm not old? It may be true (59 is not really that "old" any more)... but I really don't mind the term. It's something I aspire to... I feel myself coming into the power and self-direction that I associate with the word... I feel the "me" coming to the fore in my life.

So here's to embracing concepts that the world might think are less than flattering... and cherishing the positives about them. I am a "little old lady in training"... training physically and mentally, hopefully in the cast of my great great grandmother!

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KASEYCOFF 9/19/2012 3:35AM

    I'm so with you on the concept of 'old' - I'm turning 60 in a few weeks. I don't worry about the number so much as I'm concerned that I'm physically older than my ancestors were when they were half again my age - my grandmother and her sister both reached 98; their parents were 90+, one of their grandmothers was 98, and so on. All of them were active, vital people who continued to mow their lawns, grow their own vegetables, hike... well, continued to live.

Just as our generation surged thru and turned a lot of societal concepts on their head (at least, I hope so, lol) so too I don't see why we can't continue to do so right on thru our golden years. We have the occasional example (your forebears) to guide us. No reason not to have it our way, ain't?
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AMARILYNH 9/8/2012 8:51AM

    Oh wow - how very blessed you were to know so many of your antecedents! AND to have such wonderful role models in your family! My experience was different - my mom was not very healthy and when she lost a leg to type 2 diabetes I determined that would NOT be my experience so began right then to move - running until an illness 14 years ago put a stop to that (when I got well and tried to run I had knee issues) then walking. But thanks to weight loss I was able to start running again in January - YAY!!

Like you I LOVE 'old' age!! I'm 64 and have never felt better in my adult life!! Oh yes, my joints make me aware than I'm no longer 16 ever so often, but the wisdom learned over a lifetime is worth a lot more to me than perfect joints!! And with care I can accomplish ANYTHING!! emoticon

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AMANDAUNBIDDEN 9/4/2012 12:07AM

    I love this!! As I get older (yeah, only 32 right now but still), I've been trying to redefine old for myself. I want old to mean to me what it does to you. It's hard in our society that seems to only value youth to enjoy getting older and think of old age in the positive. But I am bound and determined to change my thinking!

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SLENDERELLA61 9/1/2012 3:12PM

    Good for you!

I don't mind "OLD" either. My grandkids call me Old Mom, which is what Natalie named me, and I wouldn't change it. Well, the almost 2 year old calls me "O Mamama" but I expect it to become Old Mom.

Such longevity does not run in my family. You've got some great genes for sure!! My grandparents lived to 59,60, 74, and 78, My dad lived to 84 and mom is going strong at 85. I'm hoping to keep up the trend of each generation living longer. Bet you will, too, with all you do and your great attitude!!!

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LINDAJOYWK 9/1/2012 9:38AM

    It's a state of mind-you dear friend,will be be perpectually in your 20's!(just wiser);)

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LEANJEAN6 9/1/2012 6:53AM

    The Chinese really respect their "'old-er"" people!!!--Too bad it has such a bad wrap in our culture---You hardly see ""old-er"" people in TV ads----A lot of to-days old-er people just give up on their health also--Spark teaches us to stay healthy--Yeah for people like you Barb!! emoticon

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OAKSHAVEN 9/1/2012 12:09AM

    Old to me means getting to try all the things I didn't have time for when I was younger. Like you, I have had many older women, especially, who are who I want to grow up to be. That includes my grandmother, who lived to be 98 in her own home, and had an opinion on everything. I still remember, when the econmony crashed during the Reagan era, her talking about raising her family during the Great Depression, and saying that this time people would starve, because we don't have yards with big truck gardens any more. In the wake of this drought, I have been thinking about that. Most of us in this country will do OK this time, because our food is so separate from the agricultural realities, but even 100 years ago this drought would have meant starvation this winter, and in some parts of the world it still will mean that. I guess old means having perspective, as well, as I listen to younger people complaining about the quality and prices of fresh food this summer.

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ALOHAEV1 8/31/2012 10:52PM

    They say 60 is the new 40...you dear lady will forever be 39! Awesome you had so many dynamic ahead of their time women in your life. (Reading through, so have so many of your fans) You've given yourself permission to act as young as you feel.

Seems each generation is more alive as we age, who knows why but it's great. As we age, listen to me youngsters you must take care of yourself because there may be a time in your life when you have to go it alone or become a caretaker, it's a lot easier if you and your body are young at heart, mind and soul.





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EBEAMS 8/31/2012 10:27PM

    I think that we all need a wonderful strong opinionated woman in our background who showed us that being a woman didn't mean being a quiet little mouse in the corner who was seen and not heard from! I remember when I was a teenager and my mom showed me a picture of my great-great grandma (???) holding a rifle in one hand and the wolf she had shot by the tail in the other one. My mom told me then that I come from a line of strong women who don't give up. My grandmother reinforced that with her life ... you didn't cross my grandma ... nuh-uh. Old is an attitude, not a number - in my humble opinion ... and you aren't there yet! Keep up your phenomenal work!

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WATERMELLEN 8/31/2012 10:06PM

    I'm with you on your concept of "old". Just love your new wallpaper pictures . . . that's what "old" means to me too: vitally active physically and mentally and emotionally.

My parents at my (present) age thought of themselves as . . . elderly, retired persons and acted that way.

My sister (with flaming red hair!!) and I are . . . redefining the concept!!

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OVERWORKEDJANET 8/31/2012 8:59PM

    I recently showed my DH a picture of my grandmother on the beach in 1948. I asked him to REALLY look at the picture, contemplate how old she was.
She looks old he said, maybe in her late 60's?

Drum role please...

I am 3 years older than she was the time the picture was taken. I'm 58 she was 55. I may not be a "hot babe" but I look,...hmm... healthy and vital. I rock!

Old is Stonehenge, leftovers in the back of the refrigerator and someone who doesn't have joy in living.

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MOBYCARP 8/31/2012 8:52PM

    With all the same older people to remember that you have, to me "old" means having the freedom to decide to do what pleases me. Of course, with that age comes (hopefully) the wisdom to be pleased by things that are healthful, and the compassion to care about setting a good example for others who are younger. Which, come to think of it, describes just about all those examples you cite from the family.

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_LINDA 8/31/2012 7:11PM

    You have had some impressive elders in your life! My grandfathers died long before I was born and I never met my German grandmother on my Dad's side of the family. My grandmother helped raised me off and on. She lived a hardscrabble life in her shack up North, but she didn't want to be anywhere else. Unfortunately, when she had her paralyzing stroke at age 72, and had to be brought to the city for care as there were no facilities up there, all she ever wanted was to go back to the North to die. She languished in pain, unable to do anything but lay in bed in a home until she was 92 :( So I have not had strong elders, but my Mom, at age 75, with all she has done in her life and is still doing physically with two artificial hips and bad arthritis in her hands, is truly awe inspiring. I mentally know she is growing older, but what I see is someone who is active and healthy and doing all the things she loves and doesn't seem 'old' to me. You ARE how you LIVE. Older people can be wise, boring, stupid, amazing, lazy, hard working and athletic just like the rest of the population. I am all for that mantra that age is just a number. Be all you can be! And you, Barb, are making sure of that, and is also awe-inspiring to see. Yes, you WILL be that 80 year old nun, yes, you will!
Go, Barb, GO!

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KARIDIAN1 8/31/2012 6:51PM

    I think old is what you make it. I sure do not think I am as old as my body sometimes reminds. I now understand the wisdom of my parents suggestions and comments that seemed so silly to me years ago when as a teenager I of course knew it all.

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MEXGAL1 8/31/2012 6:35PM

    I don't know what it means to me as I am only 60.....ha ha...yep think it is still young. I keep saying that I want to grow old gracefully. I hope I can keep that promise to myself.
You have a great attitude!

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DEBRA0818 8/31/2012 3:32PM

    Old to me means having the leisure to pursue a life of the mind -- a total luxury and a delicious treat after working since age 15. That is not to say that the body is neglected, to the contrary, one also has the leisure to explore all kinds of fun ways to move and groove. I'm looking forward to it!

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DLDMIL 8/31/2012 3:02PM

    great blog today. I really like reading your blogs, they are some informative and thought provoking. I have a long way to go to be at your fitness level and may not make it, but I am exercising everyday to make sure that I can continue to get up and around. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LINDAKAY228 8/31/2012 1:35PM

    I have worked with "senior" citizens since 1995 in various jobs. Some, like now, with elderly and disabled, but also with senior olympics and senior centers and have seen such a broad spectrum of what aging can be. Before I went to work with the senior programs at age 40, I really didn't have much experience with "older" people except once in a while with the more frail ones. My grandparents all died before I was born and so I never knew them. Working with a nonprofit agency from 1995 to 2006 that had a wide range of programs from volunteer programs to 5 senior centers, senior olympics, fun trips, to home delivered meals and in-home care services I learned so much about aging. My own mother was "old" when in her 50's, and working with others I saw that was not the norm and decided that was not what I was going to be. To me this part of my life is a time to discover more about myself, try new things, be more active, and learn to chase my dreams. So many years were spent raising kids, then caregiving for my mom until she passed away 3 years ago. Now I have more time (except for work and sometimes grown family, grandkids) than I did during those years when the focus wasn't on me but on others. After my mom passed away I had the time to finally focus on me, and that's when my journey to be healthier started. I've been divorced for many many years, so I don't have a relationship that sometimes holds us back from chasing our dreams. I am happy being single and really being able to find out what I want to do and be. It's an amazing time!

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BLUE42DOWN 8/31/2012 1:23PM

    It's funny, but old to me means rather the opposite because, but importantly I don't apply "old" by an age in numbers of years. To me old is when someone surrenders to the physical aging of the body, letting their spirit and mind age too. I've seen people in their late 40s I'd call old and people in their 70s I'd call young.

Old is my grandmother who just seemed to wilt in her 70s and by the time she passed in her 90s was rarely up and about, "lived" in a room with dark blinds, and was extremely uncomfortable around anyone with life and energy.

Old is not an 80-year young marathoner. Old is not my great-great-aunt who made it just past 100 and was still walking the hills of Pacific Grove in that last year.

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REBECCAMA 8/31/2012 1:11PM

  I think the older I get the higher the number "old" has to be. I'm not old. My parents aren't old. I don't want anyone to get old because when you get old you die. My husband tells me he can't do this and he can't do that because he's "old". I remind him that he's not really but he says he FEELS old. So to me "old" is weakness. It's being tired and not being able to do the things you used to do anymore.

I'm glad to see you embracing it but I don't feel the same way. I want to stay young.

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CELIAMINER 8/31/2012 12:37PM

    I'm 56, so I'm not far behind you in age, but I have a loooooong way to go to catch up to your fitness level!

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46SHADOW 8/31/2012 12:26PM

    You are a great example . I'm 49 and hope to have a vibrant 50"s decade like you set the example of.

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LAURIETAIT 8/31/2012 11:52AM

    I love that phrase "a little old lady in training". I'm going to adopt it to describe myself. The best way to ensure you live well is to train your mind and body so that they don't let you down as you age. I can truly say I would never want to be young again but I wouldn't mind starting over with a brand new body! lol


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LOSING4LASTTIME 8/31/2012 10:45AM

    Awesome blog!!!

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1CRAZYDOG 8/31/2012 10:19AM

  I am 58, will be 59 in six months. There are days that I feel my age, physically, but emotionally I don't feel in my 50's. I certainly do appreciate the wisdom that has come thru each decade.

HUGS and enjoy the long weekend.

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SLIMMERJESSE 8/31/2012 10:15AM

    I have never let the word old into my consciousness. In an ageist society, I refuse to bow to the power of chronology. Age is
irrelevant. (smiling)

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KATHY_NATURELVR 8/31/2012 9:40AM

    How amazing about your great-great-grandmother. Six degrees of separation is not that vast and to think that you, we all, are that closely linked to such a great man. It's quite awe inspiring.

My grandmother turns 98 this year. I hope to live as long as she has.

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CAREN_BLUEJEANS 8/31/2012 9:24AM

    You're just a few years older than me, so you're not old! LOL! You inspire me to not let age be an obstacle.

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RAINBOWMF 8/31/2012 9:23AM

    Great blog.
I never really thought about OLD like that.
A wonderful view.

Happy Friday.

Hugs Mary

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DNRAE1 8/31/2012 9:17AM

    My grandfather taught me cribbage too. Our whole family still plays when we get together. He also remodeled his home when he was in his 80's! He was also funny and kind. Getting old isn't so bad. Thank you for helping me remember my "old" inspiring family. This definitely sparked me!

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MOSTMOM1 8/31/2012 7:58AM

    LOVE this attitude! I think things keep getting better and we're freer and freer to be ourselves each year. I think "old" is a wonderful word!
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GARDENCHRIS 8/31/2012 7:52AM

    good for you and you inspire all of us!

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CONCHA77 8/31/2012 7:50AM

    Love your perspective, Barb, on getting old. I have been working on the idea of getting older and so far it is not as positive as yours are on that subject. Working on that, Have a great Labor Day weekend.

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MSLZZY 8/31/2012 7:46AM

    When I get old, I want to be just like you. I am
only a year behind. HUGS!

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JUST_TRI_IT 8/31/2012 7:33AM

    An uplifting view of life!

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