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30 Blogs hath September #5

Wednesday, September 05, 2012

Today's topic: "What is your weight history like? How old where you when you first 'went on a diet'? Have you lost and regained? How is this time different from others?"

Can we spell yo-yo? Not really, yo-yo's return too quickly. Roller coaster is more like it... precipitous rises and falls.

I was between high school and college when I first "went on a diet". It was unhealthy, and those fears from yesterday's blog kicked in big time, and of course I regained. I sort of tried, half-heartedly for a few years after that, but really didn't have the knowledge... that was the time of the crazy attempts. Feast/fast, cabbage soup, Ayds candy... remember those?

Have I lost and regained? Oh, yeah. No stranger to that. This took me several tries... BUT, I point back to 1989 and the old Weight Watchers exchange plan as teaching me what I needed to know. Granted, I was too stringent that time, learned some lessons with the eventual re-gain (kept it off nearly 5 years that time before life fell apart on me).

Then began the motivational wars with myself. Every time since then that I have committed to the process, I knew I could be successful, and I was... as long as I could keep up the motivation. I have had side-trips caused by not dealing well with transitions in life. I had a hard time with recovering from an injury (tripped over the dog)...

But what's different about this time? My heavens... I have discovered that it is the behaviors that make me happy: good nutrition, proper exercise, enough sleep, and being kind to myself when I slip up... dropping perfectionism for effort, instead. That's what's different.

Plus, the real secret weapon: the community of Spark People, supporting one another through the highs and the lows. Spark friends remind me every day that 1) we are all human, and 2) we are WORTH the effort, each and every one of us.

May you be blessed in this Wednesday! LIFE is good. Spark on. emoticon

  
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FIFIFRIZZLE 9/9/2012 2:32PM

    I remember my mother going on the cabbage soup diet. What wretchedness we would put up with in the pursuit of our goals.
It's so good to hear that confirmation, it's the behaviors that make you happy, I've been thinking this too, but as I am not at goal or maintaining, I haven't known this for sure.
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SWEDE_SU 9/7/2012 5:52AM

    the spark motivation really is the secret weapon, isn't it! spark on! emoticon

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BOMBSHELLY 9/6/2012 12:35PM

    Gosh, I really love your attitude!

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_LINDA 9/6/2012 2:16AM

    Never heard of this Ayds. But I only ballooned up a couple of times -once going on a Physicians Weight Loss Center diet and successfully losing it all, but they went out of business after so no help with maintenance. They required you to eat their supplements and vitamins every day too, was very expensive and also very restrictive food choices -bland and very boring -not normal nutritional stuff like Sparks let you have. I never went on another plan again after that experience.
Truly, Sparks is all anyone really needs!
Have a Totally Terrific Thursday!!

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DLDMIL 9/5/2012 11:17PM

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KARIDIAN1 9/5/2012 10:46PM

    Great blog as always.

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DRAFTLOVER 9/5/2012 9:35PM

    Awesome. I love the go easy on yourself part. Give yourself permission to be human.....A lesson we all need to learn.

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WATERMELLEN 9/5/2012 9:17PM

    Ayds indeed . . . and they weren't much "aid"!

This time it's for good: not that we're complacent about it . . . we do know how much effort maintenance takes. But we're up for it!!

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DOGLADY13 9/5/2012 9:15PM

    I also like the points of dropping perfectionism for effort and the rewards coming from effort. Those are some of the biggest battles we have to overcome, whether it is weight, quitting cigarettes, overspending, learning something new...

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OVERWORKEDJANET 9/5/2012 5:14PM

    Well ,you just make me smile every day!

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MSLZZY 9/5/2012 5:13PM

    The universal story for most of us. If we don't have
motivation, all our efforts fall short of the
expectations. Good thing I have my Spark friends
to lift me up. HUGS!

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1CRAZYDOG 9/5/2012 4:52PM

    Yes! Effort trumps perfectionism and you need support to succeed! Love the blog. You are an example of IT WORKS IF YOU WORK IT!!! HUGS

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DEBRA0818 9/5/2012 4:51PM

    I remember Ayds -- eating too many of them could induce serious stomach disorders. Ask me how I know! Whenever we try something and fall short of the goal (even if it's years and years), we charge back into the battle with more and better information and then one day, God willing, something just shifts. It sure seems to have happened for you, Barb!

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SHARON10002 9/5/2012 4:11PM

    I tried most of the same diets you did, and a couple of more. Talk about boring food, and lack of interest. I never took the Ayds though. What a difference here on Spark! Lots of encouragement, motivation, great recipes, and great people! It definitely helps keep me motivated even on these stupid plateaus!

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LORILEEPAGE 9/5/2012 3:58PM

    I really liked what you said about realizing that the things that make you happy are good nutrition, proper exercise, enough sleep and being kind to yourself, I realized that that's what makes me happy, too. Not Food! I always felt like good yummy food makes me happy. But now you have put into words what I am experiencing but hadn't put my finger on.

Thanks!

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SPARKLISE 9/5/2012 3:32PM

    Could not have said it better! emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 9/5/2012 1:13PM

    Profound, Barb. Brought me to tears. Especially the part about exchanging perfectionism for effort. That's it!! I never thought of it quite like that, but that is it in a nutshell. Thanks so much for your wisdom, support, and all the effort you put into SP, too. -Marsha

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LINDAKAY228 9/5/2012 12:21PM

    Oh yeah, I remember the Ayds! My mother and I tried them several times, along with a lot of other crazy diets from the time I was about 10 or 11 years old as we both were overweight. Those Ayds tasted so good I could eat a box of those caramel flavored ones LOL. I can definitely relate to what you said!

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KRISZTA11 9/5/2012 12:19PM

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Great blog!
I loved this the most:
"I have discovered that it is the behaviors that make me happy: good nutrition, proper exercise, enough sleep, and being kind to myself when I slip up... dropping perfectionism for effort, instead. "
This makes the difference for me too!
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MNTWINSGAL 9/5/2012 11:37AM

    Yes we are, and you say it so well! I think we've all been there....but the important thing is that we are doing something that will move us forward! Spark People is such a fabulous community!

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LEANJEAN6 9/5/2012 11:30AM

    Oh Barb--Ya gotta LOVE sPARK!!! emoticon

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MJZHERE 9/5/2012 11:11AM

  I really like that -" We are worth the effort - every one of us"

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KAYOTIC 9/5/2012 10:21AM

    It is the behaviours that make us happy, well said! I totally agree, focusing on the behaviours that contribute to being healthy, and not just a certain weight, have really kicked in for me too. And I'm constantly looking at how I can improve on those behaviours whether that means cooking my own meals with better ingredients, trying new workout routines, meditating, getting consistent sleep, it all contributes to being happier, healthier, and able to stay in my goal range consistently without it being a constant struggle.

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JENNYR0506 9/5/2012 9:15AM

    Love your comment about 'dropping perfectionism for effort'.

Just keep plugging no matter what, right!

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KALIGIRL 9/5/2012 8:24AM

    "I have discovered that it is the behaviors that make me happy" - marvelous insight - I'm still on my way to learning that one...
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MANDELOVICH 9/5/2012 8:17AM

    I feel like you told my story! I spent 30 years (since I was 11) on or off a diet. But it never worked.

This time it's all about going for joy and loving to take care of myself!

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DNRAE1 9/5/2012 8:17AM

    I think we were riding that same roller coaster. SP is the only time I have felt that I'm doing it right!!! Eating healthy foods, exercising regularly, tracking, and interacting with lovely people who are positive and enthusiastic, and share their motivation......these things make each day full of Sparks! emoticon

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GARDENSFORLIFE 9/5/2012 8:14AM

    God Bless You!
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30 Blogs Hath September #4

Tuesday, September 04, 2012

Topic of the day: "What are (or were) your fears about weight loss?"

I had some classics, mostly in denial about them through my earlier attempts.

1. Fear of unwanted attention and having to actually make choices that might hurt someone's feelings or heaven forbid not please somebody, rather than just letting my layers of fat push people away for me.

2. Fear of regaining.

3. Fear of loss of identity. If I'm not "the fat sister"... who am I? And with that, fear that once I got under the layers of what I thought other people expected me to be, there would be no "me" under there!

I have a secret about fears: once I face them and find out it doesn't kill me to face them, they lose a lot of their power. I'm not saying they disappear entirely, but they lose power, every time they are faced down.

  
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SUPERSYLPH 1/4/2013 10:22AM

    Thanks for sharing!

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GINIEMIE 9/12/2012 3:06PM

    Nice blog. Fear is a great controller if you let it be, you are so wise to confront it.

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DOTTY7267 9/12/2012 11:54AM

    Those fears are so exact. Thank you for sharing.


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IMSUNSHINE 9/12/2012 8:20AM

    Fear of not liking the new body!

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KELLIEBEAN 9/10/2012 6:51PM

    Love this blog. I have been up and down on the scale many times over the years. When I lost weight, I would get compiments and feel embarrassed or like people felt I was a show off and the weight would pop right back on.

We all need to keep reminding ourselves that we are worth this!

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MYUTMOST4HIM 9/10/2012 9:09AM

    I wasn't sure what the new me would be like. Would like me? Would others like me?? Would they be positive changes???
These are the things I constantly turned over to God!!!

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TEACHEROF4TH 9/10/2012 8:20AM

    Love this! Thanks for posting!

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EFFRAYECHILDE 9/10/2012 7:44AM

    Great blog :)

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 9/10/2012 5:09AM

    great blog...,.

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DETERMINEDLOSER 9/9/2012 11:10PM

    Great blog, thanks for sharing!

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GOSPARK45 9/9/2012 12:42PM

    Fear of people actually seeing ME and not some fat person, wow, that's so true!
Time to find out. Thanks for the insights.



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NYARAMULA 9/9/2012 10:43AM

    So true, thanks for sharing.

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THEIS58 9/9/2012 9:41AM

    great blog

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EWL978 9/9/2012 12:36AM

    You have a lot of company here....just keep on keeping on....those demons will disappear!!!

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NANAWOO1 9/8/2012 11:30PM

  nothing to fear but fear its self

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123ELAINE456 9/8/2012 8:13PM

  Awsome Blog!!! God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week.

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KSCRAP363 9/8/2012 8:02PM

    Great blog!

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JEANBEAN827 9/8/2012 10:53AM

  Your blog made me think and think, and I still have no answers.. I think I have buried feelings, emotions, frustrations, anger, resentment for so so long I don't even know what they are anymore .. I'm like one big blob ... I always thought that seeing a counselor to help figure things out was someone who was * nutsy* well I have discovered I am one of those * nutsy* people.. I have made an appt to see a counselor/phycologist this month for the first time in my life I am * ADMITTING* I have a problem and I can not fix it .. I am seeking help .. No longer do I think people are nuts to seek help .. I probably should of done this a long time ago .. Maybe in time I can answser some of your questions ..
Thanks for letting me know I am doing the right thing..

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BLOOMING52 9/8/2012 9:06AM

    Thank you.

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MOMOSG 9/8/2012 8:04AM

    Very good point!

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CAM2438 9/8/2012 7:07AM

    It is amazing what fear can do!

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THEIS58 9/8/2012 5:02AM

    Well said

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RUNANDRUN 9/8/2012 12:06AM

  Regaining

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IFEOMA4 9/7/2012 4:07PM

  yea but i weigh fear one one hand and the health benefits on another hand. the choice is obvious.

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SLFGOLF 9/7/2012 1:02AM

    Great blog and something I really needed. I've been stuck with this last 10 pounds to lose for the last 10 months. I know in a lot of ways I have fears of reaching my goal weight. You have really given me something to think about and get myself past.

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FIREFLY_MEDIC 9/7/2012 12:49AM

    fear is a factor

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JAGBUG56 9/6/2012 11:35PM

    Great topic! I have been on WW for years. I've taken off 60 lbs, but I'm stuck! SOOOOO, I decided to cancel my $39.95 per month membership and major on Spark. For me, this is HUGE! I have the fear of failure if I don't check in weekly at WW. But, I decided I need to make a drastic change this year.....so conquer the fears and treat my body as it should be treated. Great blog! Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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FATHINSN 9/6/2012 11:31PM

    Even when I was so excited to finally able to regain back my control in life, I had #3, what if when I finally to get the toned body (my goal) and no one recognized me? But after I read a book from Jude Deveraux where this heroine had a curvy body and she didn't lose her curves but instead got more defined, I don't have #3 anymore :D

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CAROL494 9/6/2012 8:25PM

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FALLNTENN 9/6/2012 8:18PM

    I have the same fears. Thanks for sharing.

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GLINDAGOODWITCH 9/6/2012 7:16PM

    Great thought provoking post. Thanks!

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TIZSLIM 9/6/2012 6:21PM

  Your blog just made me think of this:

http://www.youtube.com
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Des
pite my being a Brit!

I've addressed many of my fears in the past, and then they haven't been fears any more. I've been so successful at doing that in many ways, that I've forgotten to keep doing it. Despite not having faced my biggest fear - succeeding. Thank you for reminding me.


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DALID414 9/6/2012 5:21PM

    I'm afraid of regaining too, but I know it's all in my OWN hands. Now one else can do MY work for me emoticon

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IMAVISION 9/6/2012 3:55PM

    Wonderful topic!

Thank you for sharing with us!

God bless you!

Ima

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MILADY_LCF 9/6/2012 1:57PM

    awesome, thanks for sharing, that is a great "secret for success"

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KNEEMAKER 9/6/2012 12:41PM

  Thanks for sharing

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AMIV07 9/6/2012 12:03PM

  I felt kind of strange for feeling I really need to loose weight but not enough for acting over it... I guess is time to say goodbye to those fears emoticon

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ALANTIC 9/6/2012 9:46AM

  I am just returning to Sparks, have really finally decided that I am the one who has to do the work to be the person I want to be-not just in my head, but in the reality of every day life. I have lots of fears about losing wgt-particularly the one of being the 'thin sister', which I was for years, being bulemic of course, but that had to stop and I needed a better way to cope with my life. Today I am taking responsibility for my own actions and responses to people, places and things, and am going to do this only one day at a time. emoticon

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 9/6/2012 9:36AM

    Great post

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TRYINGHARD54 9/6/2012 5:57AM

    thank you

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MRE1956 9/6/2012 5:24AM

    Thank you for sharing!

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ROSGETSSERIOUS 9/6/2012 4:55AM

    Great blog - you have identified the issues for so many of us and described then so clearly - congratulations and thanks.


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WALKINGCHICK 9/6/2012 3:31AM

    Your blog and the subsequent posts has made me recognise that whilst I don't have a fear of weightloss, I do have a need to be seen by others as approved and having achieved 'perfection'. I am pretty tall for a girl (over 6ft), which generates a lot of unwanted attention - most people stop and stare and make personal remarks (I can still hear you know - the clouds don't affect my hearing, just my eyesight :)). I'm losing weight I thought because I wanted to feel better about myself, and make lasting lifestyle changes, but there is no doubt that I'm seeking appreciation from everyone else too!
I'm going to work on that - my own approval is enough, and I need to value that!
Thanks for the thoughts, and hang in there - you will enjoy a life with less weight for so many great reasons, and the fears become easier to manage.
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30 blogs hath September #3

Monday, September 03, 2012

Today's topic questions: "Who have you shared your weight loss goals with? What has been good about sharing your goals?"

Oh, my goodness... this is a classic. I share my mindset about weight loss / maintenance and even more about fitness with anybody who asks or will listen (when I'm in a Barb bubbling mode)! However, sharing the actual goal weight number? Ha-yell NO! That way leads to insanity and obsession! To competition and feelings of inadequacy!

That said, I did share my number with my daughter in law when we started the journey, because she and I signed on to this together. I wonder whether that was a good idea, in the end, as I'm maintaining a good 30 pounds under that, and it could be intimidating to her. She's still struggling a good deal higher than the original number, and has set her sights differently.

What's good about sharing goals? In terms of actual scale numbers, to my way of thinking, NOTHING! OK, I take that back: as a reality check, perhaps. "Is my goal appropriate to my height and age and gender?"

What's good about sharing fitness / nutrition goals? EVERYTHING! Support, accountability, mutual encouragement... I get all these things by talking about my lifestyle with family, friends, and of course a HUGE boost here on Spark.

  
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SHARON10002 9/5/2012 4:03PM

    I agree with your blog here. I have never been one to broadcast my weight. I too believe that your weight is only your business. I even hate it when I have to weigh in at the doctor's office although I realize the reason for it.

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BKNOCK 9/5/2012 10:01AM

    I totally agree with your blog! Thanks!

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DNRAE1 9/5/2012 8:12AM

    Another great blog, Barb. I've been sharing SP, and my weight loss with everyone at my gym, and getting even more encouragement! Yeah! Great Blog!

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CEHALLA 9/4/2012 11:43AM

    I was so happy to get under 200 pounds, that I shared it with my good friend, who also struggles with staying at a healthy weight. She replies: "really? I thought you weighed 170, you look so good" . That wasn't what I expected! It took me some time to recover and put some positive spin on it in my head, so I didn't go into binge mode.

So I am more careful about what I share number-wise. But I do talk about SP all the time. Some family and friends have joined, and I am happy to share the tools available here.

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KALIGIRL 9/4/2012 9:22AM

    Couldn't agree more - we 'measure' too much in our culture and when it comes to numbers we can make them 'lie'...

Here's to living our GOOD lives and sharing them with others!
Namaste
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_LINDA 9/4/2012 12:43AM

    Sharing is good. Not so much a specific number, but just trying to get and keep at a healthy weight that suits your body when you are doing things consistently right. When I was asked what I did, I tell them about Sparkpeople. When they ask if I am still losing I say no, my body seems to have found the weight it likes. I only picked a vague number when I signed up because Sparks asked for a goal weight so you would know how much to lose per week. But I had no idea where I should be weight wise, just took a number out of the air lol. Even my Dr.'s couldn't agree -one said 118 was fine, my other said not below 147. Well, on my fine little frame, 147 would put me back in size 16. But I just decided to see where my body chose, and it seems to hover around 121. I don't stress when it goes up or down as it usually bounces back.
Its nice to share with people!

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KARIDIAN1 9/3/2012 9:07PM

    I blab to anyone who will listen. So many have never heard of SP either. I enjoy doing some Sparking with them.

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COMETER 9/3/2012 8:19PM

    I'm with you, Barb. Tell that you're working on it, keep the actual numbers to yourself. I tend NOT to want to talk about weight goals. And I like to be pretty careful about conversations revolving around weight loss--they can be awfully boring to outsiders. But telling someone who cares about a goal, that's a very good thing.

Now that I think about it, I realize, though, that I'm more straightforward about fitness--I'll talk about a new tape or exercise, and am reasonably comfortable with that.

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MANDELOVICH 9/3/2012 7:38PM

    Support is key, and when we vocalize our goals, I think it reinforces our intent and opens our universe to more support and accountability!

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DLDMIL 9/3/2012 4:59PM

    I agree 100% with your blog. I personally believe that your weight number is only your business and maybe your doctors, but no one else.

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SLENDERELLA61 9/3/2012 12:12PM

    Thanks, Barb. You helped me put some of my thinking together. I don't mind sharing my number here on SparkPeople or at WW, but I don't tell my daughter or my niece who would find it intimidating.

Good blog. Glad you are doing the 30 days. I may do it some other month. -Marsha

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1CRAZYDOG 9/3/2012 11:53AM

    couldn't agree more! I do post my weight on here, but the scale is the LEAST of the victories that I count as mine from sparking . . .

self confidence

energy

ent
husiasm

health

jo
y

And the list goes on!

HUGS and happy Labor Day to you. Hugs to our soldiers and families.

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KAYLA0041 9/3/2012 11:40AM

    I agree I share physical goals but seldom my goal weight or even what my current weight is. I have a lot of family and friends that say that I am "too skinny" but I still want to lose 10 lbs (I have been at that weight previously for a few years so I know it is a good weight for me). What is funny is the same people who say I am too skinny also say I look so much better now that I lost a few lbs. emoticon

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LINDAKAY228 9/3/2012 11:17AM

    I hardly ever share my goal weight except with a few people. Sharing other goals I share with everyone who will listen LOL!

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LDRICHEL 9/3/2012 9:39AM

    It's pretty easy to share my health goals with the world, now that there is SparkPeople and Facebook. People get to hear about them, whether they want to or not!

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LOOK2LOVELIFE 9/3/2012 9:36AM

    Great topic of discussion. I often contemplate the same things and would never, never share my number because I feel like that sets me up for disaster. What works for some, doesn't work for all!

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WATERMELLEN 9/3/2012 9:27AM

    Numbers (pounds, pant size) work differently for different people, for sure!

I'm one of those who needs to weigh, count calories in and out, check measurements . . . all of the above: for "personal accountability". But not (necessarily) for broadcast!! Depends upon who's asking, why, and the likely result of sharing that info. It doesn't always win friends or influence people!!

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DOGLADY13 9/3/2012 9:15AM

    Lots of wisdom in this blog.

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DEBRA0818 9/3/2012 8:46AM

    I share my numbers with my doctor and husband, but I agree with you that sharing my health goals is a lot more productive for me and for whomever I'm speaking with generally. After all, do other people really care what I weigh? I don't think so!

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EBEAMS 9/3/2012 8:26AM

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MOSTMOM1 9/3/2012 8:14AM

    Agreed. I share my numbers here, but spend more of my time sharing NSVs, in general. But I definitely share what I'm doing and that helps keep me motivated. Doing this secretly or alone wouldn't be nearly as much fun. That's for sure. Thanks for sharing.
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LEANJEAN6 9/3/2012 7:38AM

    I share my weighty stuff with Sparklers--and husband--son#2, the Pilot also, as he reads the blogs----Aren't we so fortunate to have Spark and goal setters like yerself ?-Lynda emoticon

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CAREN_BLUEJEANS 9/3/2012 7:27AM

    Barb, you're like a mind reader! Yesterday, I changed my ticker from "pounds lost" to my actual weight in pounds. In real life, I shared my actual weight with one of my fitness instructors, Sarah. And my son, DS20.

What's good about sharing? I feel more accountable. More realistic. I've reached a point of success, that I've convinced myself I can really do this. Everyone is on their own journey. But if my sharing my weight loss journey can inspire others, it's worth opening up.

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OVERWORKEDJANET 9/3/2012 7:11AM

    Yup, I'd agree with that!

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30 Blogs Hath September #2

Sunday, September 02, 2012

Link to the blog that TanyaP71 brought me into the challenge with - it has the 30 topics for those who wish to play along: www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo
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Today's topic: "How did you pick your goal weight? Did you pick an ultimate goal weight at the beginning of your weight loss? Did it change? Did you set smaller goals along the way?"

I'm a "conservative" goal setter, at least in terms of goal weights. Beaten down by years of attempts that failed to reach the numbers on the charts, when pressed for a number to give at the commercial weight loss center, I gave them one I knew I could meet, having been there and below on several prior attempts. 150.

Was this an ultimate goal weight? Not really. Because for me, it was about maintenance to begin with... at least at the back of my mind and in my self-talk. It was about a level of fitness, not a specific number on a scale. I wanted my body to FIND its own level of comfort. I'd been working toward this mind-set over the decades.

BECAUSE of this mind-set, the concept of "goal" DID change as the process unfolded. In the end it settled on being in the healthy range of BMI. I am not a body builder or a professional athlete, so for me, BMI range works. No use trying to game myself into thinking it is a faulty measure because for ME, it is not.

Did I set smaller goals for myself along the way... yes and no... they were not pound goals, they were "make it through this week without giving up healthy behavior A" kinds of goals, followed by small rewards. I'm a big believer in small rewards and non-food ways to make myself feel special! I'm talking a pack of votive candles or stickers on the calendar for exercising TODAY. It works for me.

In the end, my body knocked my socks off with its response to consistent, repeated healthy treatment. I am grateful and will do everything I can to let it keep on surprising me.

  
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SHARON10002 9/5/2012 3:59PM

    I agree that it should be how we feel in our body not what a number says on a scale. You have given me a different focus on goals, too. emoticon

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DNRAE1 9/5/2012 8:08AM

    Your blogs are so thoughtful and positive. Thank you. emoticon

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CEHALLA 9/4/2012 11:38AM

    I have also been most successful when I set a small, timely goal for one specific behavior at a time, and then give myself a small reward. That's how I gave myself my nice pedometer, a new bike helmet, a water bottle, etc.

When I don't really have a focus, I just do whatever!

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SUNSHINE31797 9/3/2012 2:47AM

    Congratulations on your consistency and best wishes for future success!

It seems that mindsets it what matters most not matter what the goal. Without the right mindset I have a harder time being consistent with my efforts towards my goal. I have recently changed my goal to focus on healthier eating and consistent exercise with the expectation that weight loss will eventually happen as my body changes!


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KARIDIAN1 9/2/2012 9:33PM

    Small goals and rewards are easier to manage and to attain. I like to reach goals and focus on the next one.

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SLENDERELLA61 9/2/2012 8:43PM

    Healthy and fit is a great way to be. I am so impressed with how you have totally embraced this great mindset. I like the small goals along the way, too.

What a great way to have your socks knocked off!! Our bodies do reward us for our consistent healthy efforts. Hooray!!

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DRAFTLOVER 9/2/2012 7:57PM

    What "clicked" for you to be able to adopt that mindset? Did you just decide one day you had enough? Or was there a specific incident that sent you down that path? Girl if you could bottle that.....well you'd be rich :)

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_LINDA 9/2/2012 5:17PM

    You came at this with such a great mindset, that is why you were wildly successful! Its not about a specific weight, its how you FEEL. When you are living your life the way it feels good and healthy, your body will settle into a size that matches that level of commitment! I too never chose a specific number (and wasn't asked to). I am at the weight my body chooses when I am living a clean and active lifestyle.
Here is to being all you can be and not a slave to a number on the scale!
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DLDMIL 9/2/2012 4:58PM

    I agree with being happy with "healthy and fit" rather than a certain weight. emoticon

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JCV501 9/2/2012 4:46PM

  Someone please tell me how you have SP determine your goal weight.

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LINDAKAY228 9/2/2012 3:23PM

    Great blog. My original idea of a goal weight had been 135-140 lbs. But then my doctor suggested 150 as being easier to maintain most likely than going lower. It would put me right at the upper end of a healthy BMI. I haven't reached it yet, but I will. I may decide then to go lower but I'm not so sure anymore that I will. I want something I will be able to maintain and not so worried about being as "skinny" as I was a few years ago. Having never been small I have no idea what my body will do, but being 57 years old I know that probably 135 or 140 is lower than may be reasonable and sustainable for me. Mainly I just want to be healthy.

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DEBRA0818 9/2/2012 2:21PM

    I'm with you on this one, Barb. My body will ultimately show me what my goal weight is. Having said that, an MD recommended the high end of the range for my height (which is cool). We'll see what she wants to do.

Far more important to me is to follow my food plan, exercise and, most of all, avoid the kind of compulsive overeating that landed me here in the first place (not that I'm not grateful, etc.).

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MOSTMOM1 9/2/2012 11:40AM

    I like small goals and small rewards; I think they take you big places.
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MANDELOVICH 9/2/2012 10:43AM

    I love this. Small goals are fantastic as they are achievable and then motivate us to go on. And I love what you wrote at the end here about our amazing bodies and that we should all be grateful! Thank you.

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ALOHAEV1 9/2/2012 10:36AM

    Wish the experts would stop making the number on the scale the end all and encourage more to work on overall fitness and wellness. It's little steps along the way that are more likely to keep us fit, staying with it as the scale heads south and maintain. You are a great story on how to do it.

Then there are those of us with more fat and inches to lose than pounds (result of years of yo yoin') and increased strength. Work on that, the pounds will follow. I eat very well, just too much of it.


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ANDASI 9/2/2012 10:08AM

    I agree it is about so much more than just pounds lost. I love the feeling of being fit and strong in my body. I like the way my body functions and moves when i am fitt and healthy.


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JCV501 9/2/2012 9:14AM

  How do you have SP determine your goal weight? I can't figure out how to do that. Thanks.

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MAGGIE101857 9/2/2012 9:11AM

    I have changed my goal weight so many times!!! Even when people said "you look great", I still wanted to lose more. Now I have gained back 12 pounds, and am frustrated and angry with myself. It's a journey, one I refuse to quit, and so I start again. With each step back, I learn something new about myself, so not a total loss!!! This time, I am going to focus more on fitness; you have shown me many times over how strong we can be!!!

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LEANJEAN6 9/2/2012 9:01AM

    --I let Spark pick the goal weight--but--I've not reached it yet--when I ever get closer, I may change it---

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1CRAZYDOG 9/2/2012 8:59AM

    You showed your BODY what you are capable of! Awesome work.

Maintenance is sometimes a bit trickier than losing the weight, but you've nailed it. It's all about taking it day-by-day, same as the weight loss part of the journey.

HUGS and thanks for being a shining example of what sparking can do in our lives!



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JENNYR0506 9/2/2012 8:56AM

    So interesting reading about everyone else's journey. We are all so much alike in many ways and yet each of our stories is different as well.

I have been subscribing to all of the 30 Day Blog Challenge posts I can find to make it easier to keep track of everyone that is participating.



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Enjoy your weekend!

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OVERWORKEDJANET 9/2/2012 8:11AM

    I'm giving this a shot for each day too.

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TANYAP71 9/2/2012 8:07AM

    It's so important to understand that you need to do what works for you. I think it takes a fair amount of strength to resist the pressure to do what 'they' say works... Even when it has failed in the past. Congratulations on finding what works for you and sticking to it. I hope sharing our journeys will highlight that there are many paths to wellness!

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Well it may end up with several more than 30...

Saturday, September 01, 2012

Simply because Barb can't shut up. I'm blogging now with the relief that the weekend's "long run" is in the bag. With my seasonal allergies and the 90 plus degree heat today, I opted for a treadmill 11 miler... to video streaming of Biggest Loser season... um... lost track... I think maybe 9.

It was the "I'm happy" season. I say that because in the interviews with the contestants, that was the word that popped out at me, over and over and over again. And it rang so true as I heard it. This whole Spring and Summer it has dawned on me how happy I have been in my active lifestyle. HAPPY!

What did I tell mom I wanted to be when I grew up? "Happy". Every time. Not a career, a mindset. So... here I am... keeping promises to myself... including "follow the training plan"... and I proclaim myself Happy.

May the Happy be contagious. Do something good for you, and let it make you smile! emoticon

  
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SCRIPTEDFLIGHT 7/30/2013 10:52AM

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    Bring on those endorphins! emoticon

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DIANNEMT 9/4/2012 12:33PM

    You know, since I have started working out, I am happier, too! Can't say EXACTLY why--may not be cause and effect since there have been other life changes, too but--I AM happy.

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MOMMY445 9/4/2012 9:17AM

    what a wonderful blog! you can do this! you are worth it!

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JIBBIE49 9/3/2012 10:55PM

    What an honor to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. You certainly are an inspiration. emoticon

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COMETER 9/3/2012 8:23PM

    I'm trying to stay focused on the things that are surefire routes to happiness and joy--relationships, good work, and engagement.

And establishing my new food-logging habit, which is what I see to my route for weightloss. That's my campaign to age well.

But there is something wonderful about knowing that ongoing hard work pays off.

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JAMER123 9/2/2012 8:56PM

    If you allow yourself, you can be the happiest you choose to be. I for one, am choosing the route of positive living. I am happy that I am given a new day every day to live and enjoy. Only I can be responsible for my happiness.
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LIVELYGIRL2 9/2/2012 7:00PM

  Happiness is conditional, joy comes from within, and isn't determined by circumstances.

Joy comes from confidence and peace inside. Happiness is external.Many people who are focused and content, believe in something beyond themselves and what to help others. emoticon

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IAMAGEMLOVER 9/2/2012 4:32PM

    My mantra is I am responsible for my own happiness.

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WALKINGCHICK 9/2/2012 4:19PM

    you CAN choose to be happy - and I choose happiness! Your blog helped - I have a smile on my face after reading your words!

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ROCKYCPA 9/2/2012 4:09PM

    Being happy is not alway as easy to do as it seems - good for to try and find happiness!

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LOGOULD 9/2/2012 4:06PM

    Amen....happiness is a choice, and it does require some work on my part, but for today, I will do the work and will choose to be happy!

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MARYJEANSL 9/2/2012 3:56PM

  It's wonderful to realize that our happiness is in our own hands - and to make the choice for happiness. It makes the world a better place for all.

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DOGLADY13 9/2/2012 3:45PM

    Many years ago my husband and I had an ENORMOUS argument. He went to sleep and I went down on the porch to sulk. After a few hours, he came downstairs and said something that changed my outlook forever. He said, "I am not responsible for your happiness." Then he went back to bed. I stayed up a few more hours pondering that and I have never looked back. I am responsible for my happiness. When I find myself unhappy for a stretch of time, I know I need to look at myself.

Thank you for the reminder.

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SJKENT1 9/2/2012 3:41PM

    Happy is a good thing

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PATRICIAANN46 9/2/2012 2:07PM

  I am so glad that you are HAPPY!!!!!!! You are an inspiration!!!!! emoticon

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TONYVAND1 9/2/2012 1:56PM

  Happy as well

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REGILIEH 9/2/2012 1:55PM

    AMEN!!!!

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TONYVAND1 9/2/2012 1:54PM

  Happy as well

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WALLINMW 9/2/2012 12:18PM

  Stay motivated!

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FIT4MEIN2013 9/2/2012 12:12PM

    Happiness is a choice. Keep it up!

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KAYLA0041 9/2/2012 10:49AM

    Thanks for the reminder that mental health is as important as physical. Happy is a great goal and I am happy to say that I have so many blessings in my life right now, so I too am happy!

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ANNE007 9/2/2012 10:35AM

    Nice! Very good thoughts. You made me realize I am happy, also!

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GARDENCHRIS 9/2/2012 9:48AM

    being happy is a good thing!!

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CICELY360 9/2/2012 9:48AM

  god blog.

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LAURIE5658 9/2/2012 9:20AM

    Your happy is my giddy. Life is too short to be anything else!! We have just one earthly life, live it and love it!!!

Great blog!

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HEARTS116 9/2/2012 8:58AM

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DJSHIP46 9/2/2012 8:51AM

    I too am happy!!!

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FARIS71 9/2/2012 8:24AM

    Well by golly I'm happy too. Thanks for sparking me!

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MIMIDOT 9/2/2012 7:59AM

    You're awesome! I'm happy, too!

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TRYINGHARD54 9/2/2012 7:47AM

    YIPPY !!!!

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SAGELADY2 9/2/2012 7:43AM

    Great work on the run.

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PENOWOK 9/2/2012 7:30AM

    I am happy you chose to run indoors and SP makes me happy. Thanks for the positives!!

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BECKYANNE1 9/2/2012 7:23AM

    To be "happy" is a great goal and feeling! Keep it up!

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BECKYANNE1 9/2/2012 7:20AM

    To be "happy" is a great goal and feeling! Keep it up!

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MANDELOVICH 9/2/2012 6:53AM

    Great goal!! I have the same one and we can all be happy NOW!! It's up to us!!

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