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30 Blogs Hath September #20

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Today's topic: What are your favorite healthy foods? What healthy foods have you 'discovered' along the way to better eating habits?

Goodness, "favorite healthy foods" would be a long list. I love my veggies, always have. Fruits... I'm a little pickier, but learning to like more of them... especially when they are in season. Blueberries, raspberries, strawberries, especially have been great seasonal additions to breakfast.

Relatively recent discoveries along the way have been steel cut oats and quinoa... both grains. I read a friend extolling the virtues of steel cut oats and did not understand they were different from what I knew as oatmeal... and discovered a whole new food!

Here's to the discoveries! Healthy food is a wonderful discovery, adding to enjoyment of LIFE, which is good! Spark on! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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COMETER 9/22/2012 7:39PM

    My favorite healthy food is the flax bread that Open Harvest makes.

And my own fruit salad, which I make every Sunday to last most of the week.

And I've been off of hot cereal for a while, but I may think about the steel-cut oats. That could be a good change.

I've been careful in the last 25 years to cut out dairy fat. A friend has been telling me that I need to re-consider. She's had good results with full-fat dairy, just eating/drinking less. I just can't help but feel my arteries close up whenever I swallow that.

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KARIDIAN1 9/20/2012 10:51PM

    I am not a hot cereal fan. Just doesn't appeal to me. I am one of those weird people that eats dry cereal with no milk. All my sisters and I eat cereal this way. None of us like milk either.

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WATERMELLEN 9/20/2012 8:36PM

    OK, will have to try steel cut oats!! (Yup, I thought this was just "fancy oatmeal"!)

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DOGLADY13 9/20/2012 8:36PM

    I like steel cut oats, too. I prefer them (and all grain cereals) savory rather than sweet. I often add salt, pepper and some cheese in mine. And before any noses turn up, just think "cheese grits".

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GARDENSFORLIFE 9/20/2012 8:30PM

    Veggies are great!

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MOBYCARP 9/20/2012 8:28PM

    Ah, yes. Last year you fed me steel cut oats with strawberries and unsweetened cocoa. They were bland, so I added salt. I thought they were good, but far too much trouble for me to prepare for myself.

Fast forward a year, and I have steel cut oats for breakfast most mornings. Spices vary, with unsweetened cocoa making regular appearances; but I never put salt in them. Unexpected things happen in life, which makes the journey interesting.

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CHANGINGHORSES 9/20/2012 8:14PM

    Love steel cut oats! Favorite comfort food.

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SNOWYOGA 9/20/2012 8:10PM

    I agree to and thanks for the post! emoticon Woot! Woot!

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RONNIEHUEY 9/20/2012 7:29PM

    I agree!

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DLDMIL 9/20/2012 7:16PM

    I agree 100%. Thanks for posting emoticon emoticon

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TANYAP71 9/20/2012 4:23PM

    I forgot all about steel-cut oats! I avoid them when I am maintaining just over goal... and I've been there for months.... but now that I'm back under AND it's getting chilly.....ooooh, need to make a big pot! The family LOVES them! Thanks for the reminder!

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SLENDERELLA61 9/20/2012 2:21PM

    I must try those steel cut oats. I just love the old fashioned ones and they are so much cheaper, but since you are tauting them, I will try! Another good blog, Barb.

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DEBRA0818 9/20/2012 11:06AM

    Love almost all vegetables (peppers are not fond of me), not a big fan of fruit but enjoy it occasionally, and most of all, I love WATER!

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LINDAKAY228 9/20/2012 10:37AM

    It's amazing what we discover we really like when we start eating healthy. Our tastes change so much!

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MSLZZY 9/20/2012 9:52AM

    Keep on discovering the joys of life and healthy eating.
HUGS!

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_LINDA 9/20/2012 9:41AM

    I have been vegetarian most of my life, so fruits and veggies are a staple, more fruits then anything, but have expanded on the veggies and I just love all the root vegetables, especially beets, parsnips and sweet potatoes :) I also learned to love spaghetti squash when at first, when Mom used to make it, I thought it looked gross. But I have learned never to pass judgement on something until you actually TRY it :) I have tried jicama, turnip, rutabaga, kohlrabi and like them :) Yes, there is a whole world of things to try out there. I am not into grains that much as all the freggies I eat give me too much fiber all ready :P The crackers and a tablespoon of ground flax is the sum of my daily grains -and muffins when Mom makes them. I do enjoy steel cut oats once in a while at Mom's -they are wonderful, way better then the old runny oatmeal.

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LAURIE5658 9/20/2012 9:40AM

    Another vote for quinoa and sc oats!!! Good stuff!

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LDRICHEL 9/20/2012 9:21AM

    Mmm...I love quinoa and steel cut oats.

You know what else I just discovered? Kale. SPECTACULAR!

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LEANJEAN6 9/20/2012 8:36AM

    I'd have to say , WATERMELON keeps me sane--fills me up--but--I also have to say that this journey is hard for me---It's people I meet along the way, like yerself that inspire me tho Barb!-Lynda emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 9/20/2012 8:25AM

    Love both grains -- steel cut oats and quinoa. Yummy!

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ANDASI 9/20/2012 8:23AM

    Love those steel cut oats i even use them in soups or stews like you would use barly i just put a couple of tablespoons in a soup and cook for the 25 min the oats call for it tastes fantatic in the soup.

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KALIGIRL 9/20/2012 8:04AM

    L'chaim! It IS good!
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Comfort and friendship for the inner child

Thursday, September 20, 2012

I have the best Spark friends, you know? I'm sure you have them, too!

The Sparkers who posted encouraging words on yesterday's Pep Talk are one huge example. Thank you!

Their comments got me thinking... some suggested slamming the door on the "old / fat / victim" me in the first photo, "putting her in her place." Interesting concept, but... I believe that she's a part of me that needs to be recognized, loved, hugged, accepted... and gently put down for a nap, sent outside to play, fed (yes, fed), and rewarded.

Why? Because harsh treatment leads to a breakout. In my case. In the decades I've lived with her... I have found out a number of things about her. If she feels her voice has been stifled... if she's tired, or overhungry, or lonely... and I ignore her... eventually she will act out.

Imagine the child who is saying "Mommy?"
silence... "Mommy."
silence... "MOMMY!" She wanted attention!

After a few iterations of Mommy ignoring the child, or giving a dashed off response (Mommy's busy with problems of her own grown up nature)... I'll leave you to fill in the ensuing mischief.

Usually there has been some kind of external stimulus. We have those happening all the time, surrounding us. That's life. We have very little control over what happens outside our skin. That's reality.

The external stimulus is not the CAUSE of behavior, an internal response is what trips us up! Take the phone call I mentioned. Well intended by the neighbor, I'm sure. But I ignored the internal response, the feelings...worse, I did a short cut: essentially I told her those feelings are not acceptable. Guess what she learned as a child to survive when feelings are not allowed... hide in a cave and eat.

Feelings have to be let out, examined, and dealt with. Coming here, writing my little pep talks allows that airing to happen. I edit, and certainly would not want others to change the way they live their own lives based on childish inner responses... but writing them out allows me to accept and acknowledge that they are there. This comforts that child within. And when the child finally gets the message that "Mommy knows and Mommy loves you"... things are OK again.

All she really wants is to be understood, loved and accepted. If I as the inner parent can understand, love and accept her... she happily goes on to keep on playing and living healthy.

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Here's to having a good day... a balanced day... with all the parts of ourselves loved, accepted, and nourished! Spark on!

  
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KARIDIAN1 9/20/2012 10:55PM

    Wow- this was a great blog and you summed it up perfect. Things get tough and that when I have a breakout and just want to eat something, anything because I just don't care at the moment.

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MJZHERE 9/20/2012 11:31AM

  Great reminder that we all have those voices of parent, child and adult - and each needs to be treated differently. Funny how quiet we need to get sometimes to recognize those voices. I hear mine often saying "not good enough" and definitely "no playing." I love to play - and I am learning to cherish the child in me who teaches that adult to play. We can all learn from children, right?

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DEBRA0818 9/20/2012 11:10AM

    You're right -- my first impulse to banish the monster never really works long-term. Can we trust enough to love the parts of ourselves that we don't like? I hope so!

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_LINDA 9/20/2012 9:33AM

    Spark friends are indeed wonderful people and I am so fortunate to have such an insightful, thought provoking one such as yourself! Great concept and it really all boils down to accepting all parts of yourself, good, bad and ugly. Of loving yourself in order to succeed by taking care of ALL your needs.
This is why you are such a success, you can take an objective look at yourself and see what needs helping!
You go girl!!

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1CRAZYDOG 9/20/2012 8:38AM

    Yes! You are spot on. When you ignore that part of you, you end up acting out! Wonderful, thoughtful, perceptive blog.

HUGS

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DEBRITA01 9/20/2012 8:09AM

    Here's to loving and accepting all parts of our self. I liked the car analogy that someone used yesterday...all are passengers, but WE get to decide who is in the driver seat. Have a beautiful day, Barb! emoticon

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KALIGIRL 9/20/2012 7:47AM

    "Here's to having a good day... a balanced day... with all the parts of ourselves loved, accepted, and nourished!" I'd say that's "AWAKE! ALIVE! AWARE! and Appreciative of ALL that IS".

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NEW-CAZ 9/20/2012 7:43AM

    a wonderful blog, make me think about I react to given situations, emoticon

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MSLZZY 9/20/2012 7:43AM

    That is a great way to look at it. Acknowledge her
but then move on with life as it is right now. HUGS!

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ROXYZMOM 9/20/2012 7:41AM

    I like this blog. Great analogy! I am going to think about this as I go through the day today and deal with things "outside my skin".

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SLENDERELLA61 9/20/2012 7:39AM

    What an interesting blog!! I'm going to have to think about it. Maybe I'm not as accepting as I need to be with that needy part of me. Hmmmm. Thanks, Barb.

It's great that you can come here and blog to get out some of the things you need to express. I understand that part for sure. SparkFriends truly are great!! Can't wait to meet you in person! -Marsha

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WATERMELLEN 9/20/2012 7:34AM

    We can't ignore her, that's for sure!! Because then she'll find new more drastic ways of commanding attention!!

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GARDENCHRIS 9/20/2012 7:27AM

    I happen to agree with you.... there are reasons we have told them to "be quiet"...usually from a past hurt. So if we embrace them and assure them that we will protect them from further harm... they stop acting out! Hang in there.

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30 Blogs Hath September #19

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Link to TanyaP71's original question post: www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo
urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=5038746


Today's topic: What 'unhealthy' food(s)/drink(s) do you refuse to give up? Any that you have given up completely?

Well! I shall not give up my coffee. With fat-free fake creamer and sugar substitute, I grind flavored locally roasted beans. Yums.

I did give up soda... but rapidly replaced it with the coffee.

Advantage, without the bubbles, I stay fuller even when I overeat, thus stopping binging sooner! Weird side benefit that I did not expect.

  
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TANYAP71 9/20/2012 4:25PM

    Coffee fills me up too! I used to drink two mugs in the AM and had to cut back to one because two didn't leave room for food! Now I often have my second in the evening when I don't feel full but KNOW I've had enough calories.

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_LINDA 9/20/2012 9:27AM

    Actually, moderate coffee drinking is supposed to be beneficial, so I wouldn't consider that a sin! Though I do wish they would make up their minds on things like that. One day its good for you and the next its bad! That is huge, giving up the soda! Well done!
I don't drink coffee or pop, but I haven't been entirely able to give up the salty snacks. One reason I think is there is no salt in my diet, and my high intensity workouts leave me with a salt craving.
Keep up the great work!

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KALIGIRL 9/20/2012 7:53AM

    Excuse me... who says emoticon is not healthy?
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DEBRA0818 9/20/2012 6:24AM

    Diet soda but I have plans for it to be eliminated soon!

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NEW-CAZ 9/20/2012 3:07AM

    I didn't really give up soda or any unhealthy food, more that my palate changed as I started to appreciate decent food and no longer craved it.
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STRIVERONE 9/19/2012 10:10PM

    We have two things in common. I'll never give up coffee and I did eliminate soda from my diet.

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KARIDIAN1 9/19/2012 10:08PM

    Pretty much have given up soda (or pop as we call it in the midwest). Never have drank coffee, so that is not an issue with me.

I do like ice tea and have that mostly or water if we eat out. I also like to mix ice tea and lemonade 1/2 and 1/2 for an Arnie Palmer.


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AMANDAUNBIDDEN 9/19/2012 9:34PM

    Recently there's been articles about the benefits of coffee for you so I don't think that counts as a bad thing. Wish i had a link the articles but didn't save any. I know there was one in Prevention magazine about it. So drink up! I love coffee too! And green chai tea! emoticon

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DOGLADY13 9/19/2012 8:55PM

    Yours is the first of read in response to the question, but I suspect I'm going to see a lot of "coffee" responses.

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WATERMELLEN 9/19/2012 8:42PM

    Love love love my coffee: call it my only remaining sin (not true actually).

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1CRAZYDOG 9/19/2012 8:40PM

    Uh oh . . . I'd be in trouble if I had to give up coffee too! Soda was difficult to give up, but coffee . . . no no no! LOL I do drik just onc cup of regular coffee and the rest (maybe 1-2 more cups) is decaf.



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DEBRITA01 9/19/2012 7:57PM

    WTG on giving up the soda! I love coffee but can only drink decaf (can't handle caffeine). It keeps me full, too. Only downside is, I'm addicted to the flavored creamers and would like to get back to ff half & half again. emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 9/19/2012 7:42PM

    Hooray for giving up soda!! I'm trying to learn to drink my coffee black and unsweet, but it isn't easy. Coffee itself is a mixed bag. I understand there are some health benefits to it. My 85 year old mom drinks it all day and evening, too, and has no trouble sleeping. It does keep me up if I drink it late.

I'm enjoying your series a great deal!! -Marsha

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SWEDE_SU 9/19/2012 7:35PM

    coffee? coffee is something we should give up?! nope, not even close, so i guess i did not give it up either:-) i was always glad that back when i was pregnant no one had heard of giving up coffee, because i am not sure that i - or DH - would have survived!

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ANDI571 9/19/2012 7:11PM

    Kudos for giving up soda. I definitely limit mine now, but I have to have one every once in awhile. A lot of the times, I have one a day, compared to 5 or 6 before.

I can't give up eating out. I would rather eat out and make good choices than to give it up. It's comfort to me I guess.

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We interrupt this series for a pep talk

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

This woman has been back in the driver's seat for a few days:

I've been watching from the sidelines and wondering what happened to this one:


In the black and white world of the compulsive eater, I'm never "in between". Never "normal". Sometime between a 12.67 mile long slow distance jogging workout Saturday morning and bedtime that evening, a switch flipped in my brain and I became Ms. Binge Eater.

And I woke up as her on Sunday. She got put back in the box for most of Monday, but came back out Monday after work. And Tuesday after work.

Usually this is a sign that something is "eating" me. The observer in me is contemplating what that might be.

Lots of little things come to mind, but they are things that would not HAVE to have this effect... and yet they did. A phone call from the neighbor lady who wants to trim back my trees. Came to the lady on the top as a message of "you haven't done your chores, so you can't go outside to play."

Going to a film in the company of people who are more policy / social work / health care work folk and getting a reaction that I internalized as "they are looking at me through a microscope..." and "don't those people in the study (on the film) recognize they are being manipulated"?

Yi, yi, yi! She comes back quickly!

The lady in the second photo is having fun and doesn't care. The lady on the top got scolded for playing.

I have to figure this out. Because I am NOT the lady on the top, although she is a part of me. I am the lady in the second photo, and I deserve to train, to eat well, sleep well, and PLAY!

'Nuff said. LIFE is good. I shall Spark TODAY! I shall figure out this AWOL thing... and place it firmly in the past! emoticon

  
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SHARON10002 9/22/2012 4:30PM

    You're way ahead of me in recognizing this aspect of yourself. I think we all struggle with this. My critical self gets to me more than I'd care to say. . . Thanks for giving me the reminder.

Love the picture of you on the slide. I don't think I have ANY pictures that look like that! emoticon

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FIFIFRIZZLE 9/21/2012 6:53AM

    I love the way you look at this.
To me, that woman in the first picture doesn't look like she would be a very good driver, perhaps she needs a spell.
Uh, I bet her intentions are good though. My guess is, she is trying to help you out with something. Maybe you and she need to have a little chat about what has woken her up. Perhaps she sees some danger ahead, or she has noticed something you haven't? I'm sure you can clear this up if you up your heads together, then you will be able to thank her and let her leave the driving up to you again!
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_LINDA 9/20/2012 9:21AM

    So very sorry you are having this rough patch. I am guessing what the neighbor lady said just brought things to a head, as you said it shouldn't have affected you so deeply. You know your triggers but just sometimes forget dealing with them. There isn't one person who doesn't deal with this in their healthy lifestyle journey. I am getting more responsibility at the club at a time when I am least able to deal with it. The constant lack of sleep, constant pain and memory problems (I read in Health News you lose 20% of your memory when exposed to 2nd hand smoke and I get a lot more than what they said) makes me really worry I am going to make a major screw up. The treasurer already caught an adding error in one of my expense reports. That kind of thing mortifies me. I usually always double and triple check my adding. I must have been too tired to do it that once. I also made a bad error in my club championship game and struggled to fix it, but managed to in the end. I don't need to make things harder for myself and I gave in to buying my favorite salty snacks :( Yes, its so very hard to push that binge monster back in its cage. The double whammy of living alone is, while alllowing you to control what you bring into your home for food, also means you are alone to deal with your emotions and have no person to seek comfort in, so its back to the old food soother. I am right there with you on this!
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KARIDIAN1 9/19/2012 10:15PM

    Keep having fun. You can do whatever you want to enjoy yourself. Never grow up!

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WATERMELLEN 9/19/2012 8:46PM

    Girls just wanna have fun!! What a great blog: pep talk for me too, thanks!!

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MJZHERE 9/19/2012 7:53PM

  I love the pics!! What a good job of recognizing who is trying to run the show all of a sudden. I sure know the one who says "what do you think you are doing playing?!!" Boy, she is such a bore. Well no way does she get to be in charge. It is great you have these pics to pick from - I mean, who are you going to let take control? Miss Guilt you about everything you do - especially playing. What were we suppose to do - we were children - it is all about playing or at least suppose to be. Well, heres to you and me playing now. Go have fun for me too while I heal and I will soon join you.

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DLDMIL 9/19/2012 7:11PM

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LJCANNON 9/19/2012 5:33PM

    emoticon Yes, the Lady on top will ALWAYS be a part of who you are. She is part of what makes YOU Special. She IS Trainable, but you have to be Firm & Consistent. You will have her back in line soon!!


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DEBRA0818 9/19/2012 2:52PM

    UGH! I hate it when the binge monster comes out to play because it's no fun, no fun at all. I'm hoping that you are able to figure out how to stuff that monster back into a box and slam the lid down soon! In the meantime, I know you have awesome food and exercise routines to fall back on, so perhaps you can gently guide yourself back there.

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SNOWYOGA 9/19/2012 2:27PM

    No one knows you better then you! I always hate it when others tell you what is best for you or what should do, but sometimes you can look at their life and say maybe you should work on yours first. But I think, again that you know you, and I love the lady in #2 too! emoticon emoticon emoticon
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SLENDERELLA61 9/19/2012 1:51PM

    Thanks for your honest blog. It gives me hope. Why? Because I do the very same thing and I think you are awesome so I must be okay. I go for days eating healthy and working out, to just losing it. It isn't always easy to figure out why. I have figured out that I don't have to be perfect to live at the weight I want. I do have to be determined and get back on track ASAP. You've read this before in my writing: if I do the best I can each day, recommitting to healthy living, it is good enough to maintain my weight. I still hope to get closer and closer to eating the way I want every day. Progress not perfection! Take care, Barb. Hope you figure out what's eating you and tackle it head on. You can do it!! -Marsha

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IRONBLOSSOM 9/19/2012 1:29PM

    Oh my goodness you look so happy in the second photo and in the one on your background!! Focus on her, she/you're AWESOME! :-)

My only (hopefully) helpful suggestion would be to add something that destresses you to your routine. (I don't know what your routine is, so these are just suggestions!) A yoga workout once a week, a meditation session, even just 5-10 minutes as soon as you get home, etc... Something I've had good luck with is a lunch time walk at work when I have time, and then sometimes stopping at a nearby nature park on my way home from work, even if I'm not dressed to hike or anything like that, just being out there and absorbing the calm, the natural world, etc...

Find something that works for you, lets you destress and get into that great frame of mind that has gotten you from the lady in picture #1 to the lady in picture #2.

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MNTWINSGAL 9/19/2012 1:12PM

    The most important part of this story is that you KNOW the ending, so "old you" can rear her head as often as she wants....but you will always find a way to knock her back down. She is your past. And the present and future holds so much more than she would ever have believed.

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BESTSUSIEYET 9/19/2012 1:02PM

    So glad you recognize your True Self -- the woman who enjoys being healthy and making wise choices! You are NOT the one who stuffs her feelings by stuffing her mouth! How wise you are to search for a trigger to the last few days' eating. I'm not sure I ever look to see WHY I make bad choices ... which may hinder any efforts to prevent it happening again! Thanks for setting a good example!


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XRSIZE18 9/19/2012 12:06PM

    Your spirit is incredibly amazing and inspiring. I'm glad I stumbled on this blog today!

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1CRAZYDOG 9/19/2012 11:54AM

    OMG, SONGBUDDAH said it all. We are the sum total of all our parts -- the good, the bad, the ugly. Can't change. But we ARE in charge of US. Time for a "smack dow" with the Lady on Top to let her know. Alrighty Ma'am . . . you are a part of me but **I** (the woman on the bottom) am in charge and always will be. Period . . . end of discussion. So get over this and let's co-exist peacefully."

Maybe easier said than done, but you have the tools to remain in charge. We're here for you just like you're here for us with all your wonderful blogs and tales of success to emulate!

You can do this, you WILL do this.

You know, Barb, our sons are doing such difficult things, so when I feel like a wimp I just think about him. All the time. It empowers me to move on.

There ARE times when I just need to have that bloody pity party, but I put my timer on and when that ding happens, that's IT. NO more. Time to move on. You'd be surprised. After a few repeats of this, the pity parties get done before the ding!

HUGS, dear Barb.

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LINDAKAY228 9/19/2012 10:36AM

    I can so relate to what you said. I have time when that other person who has been part of my life, or controlled my life, for so very many years tries to come out and take control again. But the new you is a strong woman too, and I know you'll figure out what it triggering her to try to take over. Then you'll be able to address her behavior in the right way. You can do this!

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ANDI571 9/19/2012 10:24AM

    Thank you for writing this blog. You have said things a lot of us are afraid to admit. I can usually look and find what is troubling me when I see my eating crumbling. I know all summer is was the fear of the unknown and what was going to happen in the future.

That little girl in me comes out when I feel backed to the wall of what is expected of me. You know, you have to be a perfect wife, perfect mother, perfect friend, perfect christian. When you say no, I want it to be about me, then the world falls apart. There is times I feel like I am smothering and to breath, I head straight to the food.

The first woman will always be a part of you, and makes you who you are today, But the woman in the second picture came out stronger and can take care of that first woman in a way she could never take care of herself.

My mom was one of those that liked to do things to the neighbors yard. She had expectations I guess. She would paint the neighbors fence etc. So your neighbor might just be feeding off of what her mother did. Her little girl might be coming out in her. I will do things like that and think, that is my mother made over.

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DNRAE1 9/19/2012 10:16AM

    Fantastic......you figured out why Lady 1 was there, and you nudged her back where she belongs! emoticon

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LDRICHEL 9/19/2012 9:44AM

    You are amazing. And the secret is...you are both women. The first will always remind you of how far you have come to transform yourself into the second. There is nothing more beautiful than this. I'm so proud of you. And I know that you will figure this out. You are strong, you are beautiful and you have all the power you need to make great choices.

Remember...the Iron Nun!!!!! We can do this!!!!

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MSLZZY 9/19/2012 9:39AM

    The lady in the top photo thought she was forgotten
and wanted time in the spotlight. She will always be
part of you but time to put her back in the dark and
let the new you step into the light of success. HUGS!

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SONGBUDDHA 9/19/2012 9:05AM

    “Look, you’re in a car, your new selves can get in, but your old selves can’t get out. You can bring new vision and guidance into your life, but you can’t lose or forget who you’ve been or what you’ve seen. New people can get in, but nobody every gets out… They are with you until the end of the ride and you just have to decide who gets to drive." --------- bruce springsteen

It's not black or white but fluid. There is a person in your car who needs to be heard right now, and they are letting you know it by engaging in these outdated behaviors. So what wisdom or pain do they need you to hear?
At the same time, don't drive yourself crazy trying to get to the root of every motivation or behavior; we'll never get there! But try to know yourself. And until then, act as if the YOU that you want driving is actually driving!

Minute by minute, day by day. Create it. They are all, all of them, parts of us. Don't trade the wisdom of any of them, but do pick the wisest choice for a driver!

And thanks for sharing this. We need to be honest with each other about it all, don't we?

annjie


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LAURIE5658 9/19/2012 8:57AM

    Life can be funny like that and it's all part of the journey. You WILL sort through this and become the fun lady again!!!!

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DEBRITA01 9/19/2012 8:52AM

    As you know,the lady in the top photo is always going to be a part of you. All of her emotions and ways of dealing with them will resurface from time to time. You are aware that something is "eating you" and in time you'll figure it all out. Give both of the ladies in the photos lots of loving care and patience in the meantime...you are worth it. emoticon emoticon

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DANMAR1 9/19/2012 8:12AM

  Dear lady in the 2nd photo you are alive and well and getting stronger...the lady in the first picture is past history. She is just testing to see if she can come back. Your SP friends are yelling at her with you to get the heck out of here she is not welcome. Hugs from one of your cheerleaders. I have a good friend that says "this is a test and only a test" when something like this comes up...like the test pattern on our TVs in the 1950's that said this is a test and only a test. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 9/19/2012 8:11AM

    I just showed "himself" your other person--and now "you"--He can't believe what you've done---Get that other person out of yer life!--You are stronger than her!-Lynda emoticon

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KALIGIRL 9/19/2012 7:54AM

    We are both aren't we and many more than just two.

Your (and mine) analytical nature 'requires' searching and looking for 'reasons'. Perhaps your neighbor was just offering help? (We do with ours as we have the equipment and they don't)

I have been contemplating why I am engaging with certain people - what they bring to my life and what I bring to theirs. A similar dichotomy only different...

Isn't it wonderful the dilemmas and paradoxes the universe offers?
Life IS good!
Namaste

“There is no failure except in no longer trying. There is no defeat except from within, no really insurmountable barrier save our own inherent weakness of purpose.”
Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915); philosopher, author, publisher

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30 Blogs Hath September #18

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Today's topic: Do you have a go-to meal for days when you have to be on the go, no time to stop to eat and no refrigeration/cooler available?

Boy, don't leave a lot of options here, do you TanyaP71? "no time to stop to eat"? Come off it! I make time. Even if it's only a little. No refridgeration/cooler... I carry my own: insulated lunch bag with a blue ice wrapped in paper towels... enables me to carry a boxed salad to eat in that little time. Add a small can of tuna (3 oz.) and whole wheat crackers, a piece of fruit... and we have a lunch.

Planning ahead. Packing ahead. These are my friends. If I "forget" my lunch bag, I find substitutes at vendors... a piece of string cheese, fruit, nuts (I'll take salted ONLY if unsalted is not available), a Subway salad or sandwich without sauces / dressing... Subway is my go-to fast food.

That said... "doing the best I can with what's available" is always a wise choice for me.

  
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CHUM48 9/20/2012 9:28AM

    This never been a challenge for me, I always seem to have food ready to go! I also take a day and prepare. Its always good to prepare you just never know what can happen on a given day!

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_LINDA 9/20/2012 8:47AM

    Good for you! I have never had a problem with this. There is always something easy and portable in the fridge, and I too, have an insulated small bag and an ice pack always available. I don't have the temptation of vending machines except pop and I am not interested it. There is nothing nearby that tempts me to eat out either -I have no Subway but that would be my first choice.

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CICELY360 9/20/2012 12:04AM

  Good Blog

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SJKENT1 9/19/2012 10:47PM

    working on this... especially when I come home from work

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LOGOULD 9/19/2012 9:34PM

    Planning ahead is the key. I keep my fruit and veggie crispers full. Also always have Kashi bars, cottage cheese, tuna, fat free salad dressing, hummus etc etc on hand. I, too, stick with Subway for quick food on the run or nuts (and since I have low BP, have the added advantage of not worrying about salt.) Fruit and a couple of nuts are my preferred grab and go though! Oh, and yogurt of course!

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JAMER123 9/19/2012 8:50PM

    I am retired so I have no need to establish a go to meal but if I did, it would be a nutrition bar or salad which I enjoy.
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WATERMELLEN 9/19/2012 8:44PM

    I really do plan and carry: salads to work every day, granola bar on the golf course, apple in my bag . . . and then I remember that hunger is not an emergency so if there is nothing suitable to eat, it's better to skip a meal than to eat the wrong stuff.

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MARYJEANSL 9/19/2012 7:36PM

  I agree - do the best you can with what's available. That ought to be engraved in stone.

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PATRICIAANN46 9/19/2012 4:22PM

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FARIS71 9/19/2012 2:23PM

    Planning and prepping ahead - totally key. You are right on the money!

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NEWCHINELO 9/19/2012 1:24PM

    i like your plan and like they say anyone who does not plan,plans to fail.

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MOMMY445 9/19/2012 12:49PM

    that is a great plan!

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ROCKYCPA 9/19/2012 12:07PM

    Great plan - good for you!

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TINYBUBBA1 9/19/2012 10:17AM

    Great ideas! I keep forgetting about Subway. Thanks for the reminder!
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DNRAE1 9/19/2012 10:12AM

    No excuses! Great advice! A real "you can do it" motivator! emoticon

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JIBBIE49 9/19/2012 10:07AM

    wonderful to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. emoticon

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MIMIDOT 9/19/2012 9:27AM

    Subway is always a good choice. Great blog!

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DJSHIP46 9/19/2012 9:22AM

    Yes, always a wise choice :) emoticon

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WALLINMW 9/19/2012 8:55AM

  Stay motivated. One pound at a time!

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PENOWOK 9/19/2012 8:50AM

    I am also a Subway fast food but rarely go to it...I am in temporary housing with no cooking ability and I have been taking a whole wheat sandwich thin with a nut butter (usually almond), plus fruit for my lunches. It's easy and fast and I don't get in anybody's way!

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NEWMOM20121 9/19/2012 8:30AM

    Thank you for sharing. I also use Subway as my go to in a pinch. I ALWAYS have a couple boiled eggs on hand as a quick go to protein.

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NCSUE0514 9/19/2012 7:07AM

    Super!

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REGILIEH 9/19/2012 5:39AM

    EXCELLENT!!!

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TRYINGHARD54 9/19/2012 5:38AM

    is all in planning

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KASEYCOFF 9/19/2012 3:27AM

    Love your blogs-a-day series...
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CYDNEYLEECH 9/19/2012 3:05AM

    I love Subways veggie sub, I agree with you about Subway

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KARIDIAN1 9/19/2012 12:53AM

    Planning ahead for my work lunches is a must for me too. I really am enjoying them, and I never really brought a lunch from home before


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THINTASTICME 9/18/2012 10:59PM

    Agreed. Subway is smart and yummy!
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    Sound great I love piece of string cheese! emoticon

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REJ7777 9/18/2012 1:01PM

    emoticon Bravo! You sure have things under control. Yum! Yum! emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 9/18/2012 12:37PM

    I have a bottle of water, a banana, an apple and a small bag of mixed nuts and dried fruit with me when ever I go out. DH thinks I'm nuts! emoticon

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    Lots of great ideas. Thank you. emoticon emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 9/18/2012 11:22AM

    Always carry almonds (unsalted) or pistachios in my purse in case I am in a hurry. Have to be prepared being type 2 diabetic. Nuts work for me.

Great question.



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LINDAKAY228 9/18/2012 11:01AM

    In a real pinch if nothing else is available I will buy an energy bar. I like the Clif's bars. Don't do it very often but it' better than junk and can usually get one at a convenience store if nothing else. But I try to be prepared like you. I like Subway too.

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LDRICHEL 9/18/2012 10:08AM

    I totally agree with Subway!

I also like to chop up some garlic, throw it into some olive oil and add some crushed red pepper and a can of diced tomatoes. Throw that over some pasta (any kind) and voila. Super yummy, super comforting post-workout meal. :)

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MSLZZY 9/18/2012 10:03AM

    I always keep plenty of lettuce and fresh fruit on
hand and a can of tuna goes a long way. Trail mix
in preportioned bags and snack crackers with
cheese. I do like those little packets of peanut
butter. As you said, plan ahead. HUGS!

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LAURIE5658 9/18/2012 8:50AM

    If you do Subway right, it is your best option. We must be prepared for anything!

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