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The ABC's of motivation: freedom

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

There are a LOT of great "f" words, from fit, to fun to functional. Yet when I think about what motivates me? What could be better than the freedom I feel when I maintain those healthy habits?

In my little Webster's, among the words defining freedom (there are a lot) there is this snippet: "d) exemption or release from imprisonment e) being able to act, move, use, etc. without hindrance or restraint".

What are those layers of fat I fought my way free of but a prison? What are the unhealthy habits I work to give up but a way of restraining myself? What is being unfit but a hindrance to my freedom?

So the desire to be free, to be able to make my own decisions, and to be able to carry them out? HUGE motivating factor.

Here's to being fit so as to be free! Free to function! Free to feel! Free to have fun!

Life is good, freedom is great! Spark on! emoticon

  
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SHARON10002 10/19/2012 5:42PM

    Here's to freedom from being frumpy and fat! emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 10/11/2012 1:34AM

    To me it is great freedom to know my limitations!

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LESLIELENORE 10/10/2012 10:55PM

    emoticon I can totally relate!

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DLDMIL 10/10/2012 10:38PM

    emoticon emoticon Freedom

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NIKKICOLE83 10/10/2012 10:34PM

    F brings to mind "fierceness". One of my main motivating factors for losing this weight is because I want to feel fierce and sexy again!

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KARIDIAN1 10/10/2012 9:14PM

    Good blog. Free to be you!

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WATERMELLEN 10/10/2012 8:53PM

    Freedom from indigestion after every too-heavy meal. Freedom from food obsession. Freedom from self-loathing (and no, that's not too extreme a word). Freedom from lugging around 90 extra pounds every minute of every day. And pumping blood through it.

Wow. Freedom. Worth all of the self-discipline it takes!!

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SLENDERELLA61 10/10/2012 6:22PM

    Great blog!! There is so much freedom in running and cycling and playing. Yes, I have broken free from the restraining fat in my body and from the fattening thoughts that dominated my thinking for years! Never going back!! Celebrate!!

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DEBRA0818 10/10/2012 5:41PM

    Striving for freedom is a much better motivator for me than being a particular size. The interesting thing is that in order to be free I have to give up the counterfeit idea of freedom which is to do whatever I want whenever I want. Within the constraints of mature decision making, freedom becomes truly free.

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_LINDA 10/10/2012 3:31PM

    Even within the limitations my disease imposes on me on a daily basis, shedding my protective prison of fat allowed the butterfly to emerge from the dowdy downtrodden hopeless blob. I literally became a new person. More self confident, not afraid to look people in the eye, being able to wear normal clothes rather than the sweats & T-shirts, to feel like I actually belong in the activities I was involved in. I do not have freedom from the grinding pain, but I do have very good fitness and the ability to move as much as my body will allow. The alternative would be a crippled up couch potato who never leaves the house and would never try something new..
Here is to freedom!
There may be some things you have no control over in your life, but shame on you if you let the ones you can control get away from you! Here is to maintaining, happily ever after!

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DALID414 10/10/2012 1:07PM

    To freedom!

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AMARILYNH 10/10/2012 12:39PM

    So true!! emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 10/10/2012 12:22PM

    Great blog. I voted for it. Have a great day.

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LINDAKAY228 10/10/2012 12:14PM

    Loved it! Freedom to be all we can be when we are living healthier. Freedom to explore things we never would have thought possible. Freedom from the self doubt and sense of failure and low self esteem being overweight and out of control had us trapped in. So many things to say about freedome!

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LVMAMAW 10/10/2012 10:57AM

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1CRAZYDOG 10/10/2012 10:57AM

    FANTASTIC "f" word! Fantastic blog. HUGS

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WONDERFUL2BME 10/10/2012 10:38AM

    Agreed! Human bondage is an awful thing especially when self-inflicted. Too many times we go to victimhood and allow things that happened to us to keep on happening. We have the power to release ourselves from this vicious cycle!

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LOOK2LOVELIFE 10/10/2012 10:12AM

    Great blog! I love reading about your insight- it's so motivational! emoticon

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NELLJONES 10/10/2012 9:14AM

    It's not just freedom from fat, but freedom from the prison of compulsion and obsession.

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ANDI571 10/10/2012 8:58AM

    Oh my gosh, what a great blog. Freedom from pain, freedom from heartburn, etc. Whoever thought freedom could be associated with weight loss. Words of wisdom Barb. emoticon

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DNRAE1 10/10/2012 8:39AM

    So TRUE!!! That was truly motivating! Thank you for giving me the best reason to stick to my goals! I needed that this morning. emoticon

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DEBRITA01 10/10/2012 8:39AM

    Once we taste the freedom from our weight, we don't ever want to go back. Keeping this forefront in our minds is key to continued success. Although I'm not at maintenance, it works in keeping me motivated to stay the course each day. emoticon

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BD3269PM 10/10/2012 8:15AM

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LEANJEAN6 10/10/2012 8:06AM

    Oh my goodness Barb!!--Great blog--It's how you became fit, when you shed the fat---Anyway, I chickled to myself this morning---Yiou are going to find someone as old as me??--WooWoo! That would make my day!---Lynda emoticon

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KANOE10 10/10/2012 7:25AM

    Well written. You don't realize how imprisoned you are..or were, until you lose the weight..Then you find yourself free to buy any clothes you want..free and happy to take up new sports or new social gatherings.

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POSITIVEPAULA8 10/10/2012 7:18AM

    emoticon I agree whole heartedly! emoticon

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JGRAY76 10/10/2012 7:18AM

    Freedom from dieting too. I like your positive attitude.
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NEW-CAZ 10/10/2012 7:14AM

    Well said Barb, could not agree more, gotta share this. emoticon blog emoticon

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The ABC's of Motivation: elusive

Tuesday, October 09, 2012

Today I chose a descriptive term for motivation, at least where I myself am concerned. There are times when my motivation to "eat right" becomes an escape artist.

Elusive, says my little Websters means "1 tending to elude 2 hard to grasp or retain mentally; baffling".

Elude includes this snippet: "1 to avoid or escape from by quickness, cunning, etc.; evade"

Yep, sometimes motivation is hard to hang on to. Take yesterday. I did all the things I normally do... I took some time to myself, I got on the treadmill, I had a healthy breakfast, I drank my water... I *thought* about going outside, it was a gorgeous day.

But then something happened... I ended up anchoring myself indoors... allergy avoidance? Maybe some. Hope for IM connection with a different timezone? Perhaps some. And I ended up watching movies and... eating. Starting with a lovely veggie soup I'd made, but moving on through a whole lot of stuff. And finally ending full enough to nap away the afternoon.

So, this morning, I find myself with another e-word: emerging. Coming forth from this cave I hid in yesterday, back to work, back to normal routine. Because the healthy behavior is more normal than a lapse. And the majority of behavior rules... here's to a healthy majority!

Spark on!
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SHARON10002 10/18/2012 3:58PM

    I'm sure your body, mind, and soul needed that break. And I know, sure as the sun will rise tomorrow, that you'll be right back at it and on track tomorrow!

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EBEAMS 10/9/2012 10:25PM

    And after the elusive and the emerging will come the elated Barb who can tackle any obstacle in her path! You go, girl ...

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KARIDIAN1 10/9/2012 8:05PM

    We usually watch a movie in the evening to unwind. Just a nice cheap routine for us. We have over 1000 movie titles now.

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SLENDERELLA61 10/9/2012 8:04PM

    Yes, the majority rules!! And thank heavens. I have awakened, looked in the mirror, and thought, "I don't deserve this body after what I ate yesterday." But our bodies do not reflect what we ate yesterday, but what we have eaten for days and days and days. Yep, thanks for reminding me and giving me a new way to look at it. Very good.

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WATERMELLEN 10/9/2012 8:01PM

    Congrats to you on emerging! I think elusive is the nature of motivation at least part of the time: but you didn't let that stop you, and that's the key. E for enduring!! E for eternal (as in vigilance).

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DLDMIL 10/9/2012 6:53PM

    Your blogs are so thought provoking and really makes it well worth the read. Keep up the great work. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BUGGYS 10/9/2012 3:52PM

    A little vegging out and R&R is needed from time to time and knowing you, you'll bounce back to your routine and healthy living in no time!!!

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_LINDA 10/9/2012 2:03PM

    Sounded like you needed a total veg day. A excision of all your stresses. Relax. Back to the healthy normal the next day. No problems, no worries. Motivation rarely eludes you. But no one is perfect, that would be too boring, and not human..

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NIKKICOLE83 10/9/2012 1:44PM

    My E word is "effort". I have encountered so many folks that think that just thinking about losing weight and eating right sometimes and going to the gym every once in a while will turn you from a "before" to an "after". But staying on this weight loss roller coaster takes effort. You have to push even when it hurts, you have to get uncomfortable and many times stay uncomfortable for changes to become outwardly evident.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/9/2012 11:51AM

    You are so right. There just ARE those times when motivation is elusive and evasive!!! But today you're back. That's what counts.

HUGS and have a good day.

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LINDAKAY228 10/9/2012 10:59AM

    I totally understand! I have days like that too. Sometimes motivation is elusive but I also like how you ended it!

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ANDI571 10/9/2012 8:56AM

    So true, so true. Isn't it a good feeling when the normal is "healthy eating", and not the the laspe we all find ourselve in from time to time. emoticon

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LAURIE5658 10/9/2012 8:53AM

    Slowly but surely our old unhealthy habits are the ones that become elusive. That rocks.

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DEBRITA01 10/9/2012 8:51AM

    Sometimes we just need some down time. Today's a new day and I'm sure you'll make the best of it. emoticon

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DNRAE1 10/9/2012 8:27AM

    Have a wonderful day and don't let your motivation "elude" you today! emoticon

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ROXYZMOM 10/9/2012 7:55AM

    Nice! R&R can be a great thing and are necessary from time to time. Always nice to clear our heads and not have to think for awhile.
I hope you have an awesome day today!

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MARJORIEWRIGHT 10/9/2012 7:47AM

    Good Luck. emoticon

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The ABC's of motivation: discernment

Monday, October 08, 2012

Discernment was a word that popped into my mind as I wrote yesterday's blog. As I wrote about becoming aware of the difference between hunger and the desire to avoid unwanted emotions, it appeared: the perfect D.

My little Websters tells me that to discern is exactly that: "1 to separate (a thing) mentally from another or others; recognize as separate or different". Of course discernment is the ability to do that or the act of making that distinction.

Often I have words pop up in advance. Seldom do they "stick" all the way to the next day's blog, but this one did. Discernment is key to overcoming habitual behavior, to understanding the trigger before the action, so that a conscious decision can be made about the motivating factor.

If one doesn't have a lot of discernment, how does one cultivate it? I have to quiet the mind, to let the silence (or my higher power) speak to me... to gain insight into what's making me tick. I really need to make some quiet time every day to assess and seek guidance.

In this time I assess: Do I feel I'm being pushed by what I think others expect of me? What am I really feeling? Do the facts justify the feelings? What else can I do about the feelings?

About three years ago, I started turning off the car radio on the way to work. I began to use this time (I am alone in the car) to give myself that little self-contemplation. It is a time to assess the driving forces and lay out a plan for dealing with them... today.

Whether it's ten or fifteen minutes in a car with silence or moments at a desk with a book, you are certainly worth this level of daily maintenance. You are a valued member of the human race. To do your bit, you need to be in good form. Slowing down, starting the day (and for that matter ending the day) with assessment and nurturing discernment helps in many ways... including being able to distinguish between emotions and hunger.

And that, in turn, leads to healthier decisions, and a stronger sense of belonging and mission.

Life is good in the light! Spark on! emoticon

  
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SHARON10002 10/18/2012 3:55PM

    You are right - it's important to quiet the mind. Unfortunately mine is always busy. I am working on this very thing, and it's not easy to master to get to that quiet place of inner peace and guidance.

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_LINDA 10/9/2012 10:13AM

    I am guessing I need more quiet time and contemplation. All too all often a frantic fast paced lifestyle leads to frantic fast paced over eating. I still can't get out of the habit of eating too fast. Lots of areas of my life need to slow down. Be aware, notice the differences, actually think about what I am doing and feeling. Something unfamiliar to me. I love hearing how you try to improve your life and the methods that work for you!

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KARIDIAN1 10/8/2012 10:44PM

    Nice choice of word. emoticon

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    Wow!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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OPTIMIST1948 10/8/2012 2:23PM

    Wisdom. You have it.

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WORLDSERIES11 10/8/2012 2:17PM

    I am so enjoying your ABC's!!! Thanks for sharing and giving me valuable lessons to think about and learn from!!
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DR8561 10/8/2012 12:48PM

    Love this series of blogs. Keep `em coming!
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TONYVAND1 10/8/2012 12:22PM

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RONNIEHUEY 10/8/2012 12:21PM

    Good blog

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LINDAKAY228 10/8/2012 11:14AM

    What a great blog. I need to work on it more daily. When I'm out hiking I don't use anything to distract me and it's at me when I can really think but I need to practice that more often. Thanks and have a great day!

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LADYBUG1943 10/8/2012 11:08AM

    Well-written post. Thank you for sharing.

I actually have too MUCH contemplation time, and to get out of my own head, have realized I need to get out and be with people more often. It's good for my motivation and good for my body (you have to walk into those places). That's because I live alone while my husband works out of town, and tend to be a book-reader, quilter, etc., all of which keeps me at home and not active.

Discernment: balance: equilibrium: Constantly working to stay in the middle of the teeter totter.

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NEW-CAZ 10/8/2012 10:16AM

    I spend the first hour of my day with me, myself and I. Quiet contempation before the day gets going is a great start to any day.

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EBEAMS 10/8/2012 9:58AM

    I recently was "volunteered" to start taking my mom to work with me once a week she can volunteer there. I found I very much resented losing that valuable "alone" time on my drive in and back. While I will adjust and will learn to appreciate her company, I now am more aware of how much I need to appreciate the other days I drive in! Drive on, my dear, drive on! emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 10/8/2012 9:50AM

    Silence and time alone are essential to me too: so I can figure out what's going on and make the right choices.

Discernment: yeah. Great concept, great blog. I'm enjoying this series so much!

Thanks for your get well wishes.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/8/2012 8:24AM

    Fantastic blog! I am like you . . . I like to use the time in the car, or walking, or riding or hiking to just think! Ponder. Discern! Thanks and HUGS.



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LEANJEAN6 10/8/2012 8:13AM

    Discernment?---- I like it Barb!--also discovery----distance --as in yer running--diet-BAD WORD!--LOL---Dodge --as in bullet--LOL--Dorky-----LOL----- Anyway, great blog--Lynda emoticon

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LOOK2LOVELIFE 10/8/2012 7:56AM

    Great blog with great insight! Thanks for sharing!

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MSLZZY 10/8/2012 7:43AM

    Quiet time-yes, I do need to start making this time
to assess. Today is as good a day as any. Thamks for
sharing! HUGS!

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DEBRA0818 10/8/2012 7:14AM

    It's sometimes very difficult to make quiet time in a world that celebrates noise and constant availability, but it is so necessary to being in touch with the light that guides us well.

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DNRAE1 10/8/2012 7:06AM

    Discernment...We all need to learn to use this skill more often in our lives. Conscious decisions can make our lives fuller and more meaningful.

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The ABC's of Motivation: Courage

Sunday, October 07, 2012

Today's word is courage. My little Webster's says that courage is "1 the attitude of facing and dealing with anything recognized as dangerous, difficult, or painful, instead of withdrawing from it; quality of being fearless or brave; valor"

I'm focusing on the first clause, because as almost everyone who battles the battle of weight loss and maintenance motivation knows... while it may not always be dangerous (if done sanely) to deal with our weight issue (it SHOULD be making us healthier), it can be difficult and sometimes painful. One of the reasons some of us have carried excess weight was to avoid. Avoid emotions. Push people away.

I am not without fears, anxieties, or worries. Food has been my way to cope. It takes courage to choose NOT to avoid... to use other tools... to recognize, accept, and feel the emotions that have to be dealt with. I was so deep in denial about negative emotions that my first signal I was experiencing them was finding myself at the fridge or the candy counter or at the bottom of a carton of ice cream.

While I cannot control their appearance, I can choose what to do about those emotions. Part of the solution is having the courage to make a different choice, but first I have to be aware of the difference between hunger and avoidance of emotion... and that is not always easy to detect at first on this journey. And it is the subject of other entries, not this one.

Courage is letting go of the coping mechanism. Courage is seeing something that scares me and moving forward, anyway.

Courage is part of my event participation, too. I sign up for an obstacle course, mud run, or endurance race and while training, I still find that I dream of all the things that could go wrong... but then I do it anyway. Amazingly, having done something difficult and completing it? Makes the next difficult or scary thing a little less so, and my likelihood of following through greater.

Examine the courage with which you live your lives. It is there. Trust me. You have made decisions in your life where the ultimate outcome was uncertain. If you got married? Where was the guarantee in that? Bore a child? Yep, scary as it comes. Moved to take a job? Yeppers, that's in there too. Made a decision to see a doctor? Faced a diagnosis and had to decide on treatment options?

All of these were risks to make your life better. Letting go of the crutch of food as an emotional calmer? A risk? Yes, because then everything that might have been driving the eating must be uncovered, examined, and dealt with. Then the choice of HOW to deal with it is back in our hands.

No longer victims. Food is not the enemy. We are courageous, and that is the motivation for today!

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SHARON10002 10/18/2012 3:50PM

    Thanks for these great words of wisdom, Barb. I still eat emotionally sometimes, but it has substantially decreased. Yes losing weigh is often difficult and painful, but it does take courage to keep going when the going gets tough.
Thanks too for the change in perspective on how courageous I actually am! emoticon

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_LINDA 10/9/2012 9:56AM

    Another fabulous blog
Here is to having the courage to face and conquer those barriers to leading a healthy, happy and fullfilling life! Thanks for being the amazing role model to follow!

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DOODIE59 10/8/2012 8:46PM

    Here's to courage!

I must say, I love, love, LOVE your wallpaper -- what a fantastic memory:)
Deirdre

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WONDERFUL2BME 10/8/2012 2:06PM

    Courage....Yes. It is nice to be reminded about all the couragous choices I have made as well.

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46SHADOW 10/8/2012 10:35AM

    Food has always been my emotional calmer. Thanks for saying it so eloquently!

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NUMD97 10/8/2012 10:11AM

    Wow!! Just wow!! I found you just by following the SP crumbs, as I say, from a mutual Spark buddy, and am glad I did.

This is the key, as you wrote, to the whole shebang:

"I still find that I dream of all the things that could go wrong... but then I do it anyway."

And, to clearly examine the REASONS we are what we are. It never was really about weight. And that is one of the greatest lessons of all, that must and will, point us in the right direction, IF we are brave enough to exam it.

Wonderful blog. Thank you!

All the best,

Nu

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JOHNTJ1 10/8/2012 9:50AM

    Yes, you are right!!!

We are indeed courageous

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WATERMELLEN 10/8/2012 9:47AM

    It DOES take courage to stop self-medicating with food, and to deal with the emotions that underlie that decision . . . and to keep on.

Yeah. Great blog.

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KARIDIAN1 10/7/2012 10:18PM

    Great blog! As usual. emoticon

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WORLDSERIES11 10/7/2012 9:44PM

    Great "food" for thought!

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LAURIE5658 10/7/2012 5:50PM

    Another exceptional Barb blog!!!

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KAYLA0041 10/7/2012 4:38PM

    emoticon as usual very well said.

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LINDAKAY228 10/7/2012 1:11PM

    I always see courage not as being fearless, but as facing the fears anyway. Just like you said. And it does take courage to tackle weight loss and increased activity. It is so much easier to stay in our comfort zone instead of reaching out for the things that are difficult, even if our comfort zone is killing us. Great blog!

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DEBRITA01 10/7/2012 12:47PM

    You hit the nail on the head, weight loss can be "difficult and sometimes painful". It takes courage to face life as it is, without the coping mechanism of food. It requires learning new ways and having the courage to follow through... even when the times get tough and the old habits try to resurface.

Barb, you've demonstrated great courage in setting new physical challenges/goals for yourself and sticking with it to the end...something I aspire to do some day. An insightful blog... emoticon

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DLDMIL 10/7/2012 12:21PM

    emoticon emoticon Your blogs are so inspirational.

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CEHALLA 10/7/2012 11:19AM

    I will be reading this blog several times, whenever I need courage to face my emotions instead of avoiding them with food. Thanks!

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1CRAZYDOG 10/7/2012 10:17AM

    HUGS! This is such a powerful blog and each of us need to really look in that mirror and see how courageous we are with each change we make, with each situation we make it through when we think we can't, with each good choice we make. It really does all add up to courage! YOU are the best example of courage I know! HUGS

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WILLOWBROOK5 10/7/2012 10:08AM

    Excellent blog! I am reading a book about emotional overeating called "Shrink Yourself" and it is talking about exactly this subject!
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DNRAE1 10/7/2012 9:50AM

    Fantastic, Barb!!! emoticon You are so inspiring AND courageous! Thank you!

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NEW-CAZ 10/7/2012 9:07AM

    emoticon you are such an inspiration Barb emoticon

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KANOE10 10/7/2012 9:04AM

    Great blog. You do need courage to leave the familiar and make a healthy choice.
Establishing whether something is true hunger verses emotional hunger is also important. Emotional hunger is demanding and must be filled immediately and very particularly..nothing else will do. Real hunger can wait and handle change.
You are right..we need to have the courage to examine every part of our lives and the emotions that drive us.

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SLENDERELLA61 10/7/2012 8:53AM

    I AM courageous. And I didn't even know it. Thank you, Barb!!

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LEANJEAN6 10/7/2012 7:57AM

    The courage to live happily-----the courage to keep on Sparking against all odds----The courage to put one astep ahead of the other----even when you have a heel spur---The list goes on and on-Great blog! Lynda emoticon

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OVERWORKEDJANET 10/7/2012 7:54AM

    If only you were my neighbor!

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The ABC's of Motivation: bond

Saturday, October 06, 2012

I decided my alphabet this year would be on motivation... since that is the puzzle, continuing motivation, through the years of maintaining healthy habits.

Today's word is bond. I'm picking this particular sense of the word, from my trusty Webster's: "4 a binding agreement; covenant 5 a duty or obligation imposed by a contract, promise, etc."

I've often said one of the most empowering things I can do in a day is to keep a small promise to myself. A fulfilling of a bond, one might call that.

I think this sense of empowerment is part of the reason I "event"... I sign up for one of these things, and then I have in my mind a binding agreement to both prepare for and participate in them. While any given bond of this sort might have "escape" clauses (illness, injury), nothing much has a high enough priority to remove the obligation. My surety bond keeps me working toward them. And when I fulfill one? emoticon

Have you made a "bond" with yourself to maintain healthy habits? Is a "general obligation" bond enough? Or, if you are struggling, perhaps a smaller, special purpose one might serve better?

In any case, bind yourself to have a GREAT today! Because life is GOOD. Spark on! emoticon

  
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SHARON10002 10/18/2012 3:42PM

    I have most definitely made a bond with SparkPeople and my Spark friends, and am grateful for the strength of that bond and it's rewards and friendships.

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STEADFASTNSEE 10/14/2012 6:05AM

  I bonded and finished my first walk about a week ago. I will do them again (only it has to be warmer than 47 degrees!!

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WATERMELLEN 10/8/2012 9:44AM

    Great concept: and yes, like you, I've made that bond to myself. For better, for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, and as long as I shall live (sound familiar??)

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_LINDA 10/7/2012 1:06AM

    Another good choice! I have a very simple bond -not to regain the weight as I have done before, in spite of what life might throw at me.

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KARIDIAN1 10/6/2012 4:49PM

    Great word choice and blog.

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DALID414 10/6/2012 2:41PM

    Funny, I read your blog while watching License to Kill, so of course I thought Bond, James Bond. But your bond was better. emoticon

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DLDMIL 10/6/2012 10:45AM

    Well said. Thank you. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 10/6/2012 10:23AM

    Very well said! B definitely is for bonding! HUGS

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LEANJEAN6 10/6/2012 9:17AM

    Bond is good----bond to a worthwhile thing---We can do this!!!! WooWoo! emoticon

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LAURIE5658 10/6/2012 9:06AM

    You know, Barb, I had not thought of what I do when I complete one running event and then register for another in these terms. You are spot on and it just feels so natural. Awesome!

Great blog and on to "C"!

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ALOHAEV1 10/6/2012 8:44AM

    Insightful approach Barb! Love it.

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SWEDE_SU 10/6/2012 8:06AM

    What agreat approach! Yes indeed, a bond is necessary if we are to perform! emoticon

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MSLZZY 10/6/2012 7:13AM

    Excellent! I bind myself to being active every day.
I can see why you chose this word. Have a great weekend.
HUGS!

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DNRAE1 10/6/2012 7:05AM

    Great "b" blog, Barb...ooo, alliteration! Have a great day!

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MABELL1WFTX 10/6/2012 6:33AM

    I have always said that the most important promise you can make is the promise you make to yourself. And that is the one promise that you should not break. Keep that promise and may the bond not be broken. My bind today is to give myself more credit than I did yesterday. emoticon

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DEBRA0818 10/6/2012 6:09AM

    It is beyond description to become a person you can count on and you said it perfectly, Barb!

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NEW-CAZ 10/6/2012 6:00AM

    Well said Barb emoticon

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