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The ABC's of motivation: worth

Sunday, October 28, 2012

We use this word all the time in encouraging one another, here on Spark AND in real life: you're worth it, the effort is worth it.

According to my little Webster's the sense of worth I'm looking for is: "2 that quality of a person or thing that lends importance, value, merit, etc. and that is measurable by the esteem in which the person or thing is held".

Something about YOU makes you special and important. You may not see it, particularly if you are one of the thousands who suffers from low self-esteem. But someone *does* see it. In my own belief system, the Someone who sees your worth and value is your Higher Power, and for me, that power's name is God.

I truly believe that God is Love, and loves each and every one of us. Someone once said to me with awe and wonder, using that definition, as an ah-hah moment in her life, "Love loves me".

That is truly amazing, you know? I don't want to get preachy or denominational on anyone, but the concept of being created and loved by Love itself *is* pretty awesome.

Most of us have no trouble finding esteem for others, people we admire in life. But finding it for ourselves can be a long road, particularly if we live with Polly Perfectionist on our shoulders.

So think about it... how would you treat the prized possession of the most powerful being there is? With tender care, right? That's the kind of care we need to take of ourselves... body, mind and spirit.

And THAT is the motivating factor to give ourselves the air, food, water, and activity that lead to a healthy life. We can do this because we are worth this!

Life is indeed good, and we are worthy to live it fully. Spark on. emoticon

  
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DLDMIL 10/28/2012 10:24PM

    Another great blog. We are all worthy of ourselves. Thanks for posting. emoticon emoticon
I love your new picture in you pink shirt honoring your son.

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KARIDIAN1 10/28/2012 9:45PM

    We all are worthy.

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WATERMELLEN 10/28/2012 7:01PM

    Great choice for "w": to feel worthy, absolutely key to sustaining motivation.

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DALID414 10/28/2012 4:01PM

    We are worth it!!

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WILLOWBROOK5 10/28/2012 1:51PM

    Such a good reminder! emoticon

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_LINDA 10/28/2012 1:50PM

    Self esteem is a huge part of being able to live a healthy lifestyle. You have to feel you are worth the effort. You must love yourself, one of Spark's early lessons and maybe the hardest for a lot of women used to putting themselves second after their families.
Here is to everyone treating the gift of their body like the temple it is.

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SWEETYOUNGTHING 10/28/2012 12:14PM

    Excellent and gentle reminder for us all emoticon Pat

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LESLIELENORE 10/28/2012 12:04PM

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LINDAKAY228 10/28/2012 11:48AM

    Awesome blog! And time goes by so fast it's hard to believe you're up to W already. I've read every one and the alphabet has gone by really fast! Love the series.

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NEW-CAZ 10/28/2012 11:07AM

    We ARE worth it Barb, another great blog hun emoticon

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MJZHERE 10/28/2012 10:33AM

  How awesome when you think about it - God loves me! God loves you! Gives us a really good reason to love one another as well as ourselves! Here's to everyone being kind to themselves today. Thank you for this blog.

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SLENDERELLA61 10/28/2012 10:23AM

    We are worth it! Another great blog, Barb.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/28/2012 9:44AM

    Self-esteem . . . a huge part of the battle! HUGS for this wonderful blog.



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LEANJEAN6 10/28/2012 9:43AM

    We ARE worth it!!!!------plus--NO HALLOWEEN CANDY!!!--LOL---Love yu Barb!----Hugs-Lynda emoticon

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MSLZZY 10/28/2012 9:24AM

    Always a good thing to treat yourself with love, like
you are your best friend, because you are. HUGS!

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DNRAE1 10/28/2012 8:58AM

    Life "is" good!!!! Love one another every day! We are worthy of it! You said it better in another great blog! emoticon

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The ABC's of motivation: variety

Saturday, October 27, 2012

To differing degrees, we as humans can get bored. Thus the importance to motivation of today's word, variety.

My trusty Webster's gives this as one sense of variety: "1 the state or quality of being various or varied; absence of monotony or sameness".

Here's where I drag out Zig Ziglar' quote from my Spark calendar: "People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing -- that's why we recommend it daily."

I mentioned earlier in the series that my underlying motivation is different today that what it might have been 30 or 40 years ago. It's also different than what it was a month ago. It changes. So having a variety of reasons to keep on keeping on helps... when one is flagging, another can step in, to get us through a tough day or week, or even... dare I breathe it? A holiday season!

emoticon Life's good. Spark on! emoticon

  
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_LINDA 10/28/2012 2:01PM

    Variety is the spice of life! Always why I enjoy trying new fitness classes and new instructors! Things can get stale so fast. That is why I enjoy my position with the club always dealing with something new.
Here is to discovering and enjoying all the treasures life has to offer!

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KARIDIAN1 10/27/2012 10:00PM

    Good quote. emoticon

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DALID414 10/27/2012 6:54PM

    Cheers to variety, the spice of life!!

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LINDAKAY228 10/27/2012 5:10PM

    Variety really is important. Sometimes I have variety in what I do during the week each week. Sometimes I go through a period where I do a few things that I love, and then my direction changes and I switch to a whole different routine for a while. Whether it's day to day variety, or variety when something isn't challenging us or interesting anymore, it's important to make sure it's part of our lifestyle to keep us going.

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LESLIELENORE 10/27/2012 11:43AM

    I have a variety of sources of motivation, depending on what is happening in my life. I also like variety in my workouts. Whether it is changing duration, intensity, weight or my route for walking, I am always changing something in my workout.

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DLDMIL 10/27/2012 9:47AM

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WATERMELLEN 10/27/2012 9:31AM

    It's that paradoxical tension between variety and persistence/sameness which works best for me.

Yes I'm going to the gym or hiking or golfing or cross country skiing (persistence): but when I get there I might do things differently (rowing instead of elliptical, back nine instead of front nine, new trail . . . etc.).



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OVERWORKEDJANET 10/27/2012 9:10AM

    You are so uplifting!

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MSLZZY 10/27/2012 8:40AM

    Must be time to take a bath-in variety!
Thanks for sharing! HUGS!

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DNRAE1 10/27/2012 8:36AM

    Variety IS the Spice of Life! (in most things) including motivation. Great blog! emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 10/27/2012 8:33AM

    OH yeah . . . the holidays . . . emoticon ! Starting to get my plan in place NOW. UGH!

Great blog, great reminder.

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LEANJEAN6 10/27/2012 7:50AM

    Variety is good!--and keeping on Sparking is great!--LOL---You help me to keep going!-Lynda emoticon

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The ABC's of motivation: understand

Friday, October 26, 2012

Those a-hah moments? I believe they are related to the sudden realization that we understand what's happening!

According to my little Webster's, it's all about "getting it". "1 to get or perceive the meaning of; know or grasp what is meant by; comprehend [to understand a question]"

I was reading a wonderful featured blog this morning (LDRichel's from Thursday), and just have to share the link: www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo
urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=5112116


In it you can see that my friend "gets it". It's NOT about the scale. Exercise / training / eventing for her has become her stress management system. As it has for me. When did this transformation take place in our minds? I don't know. But I'm glad that it has.

And now I "get it" about motivation, too. It's not magic. It *is* miracle. But a natural one.

Here's to a fresh new day, full of understanding and motivation. Because LIFE is good. And each one of us, dear Spark friends, is worth it.

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CANDOSUE52 10/26/2012 7:05PM

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WATERMELLEN 10/26/2012 2:35PM

    Understanding is key: it's the launch pad standing under the motivation rocket!! emoticon

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LINDAKAY228 10/26/2012 10:56AM

    Great blog and so true! And exercise is so much more for other reasons now for me too, and not just weight loss.

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MSLZZY 10/26/2012 10:08AM

    Right on the money! Understanding is one
of the key components to this and any other
program. We are ALL worth it. Thanks for
sharing. HUGS!

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1CRAZYDOG 10/26/2012 10:05AM

    That's it exactly! Exercise is my way of de-stressing! It is MY ME TIME, because if I don't understand ME then who will??

EXCELLENT blog, Barb, and thank you for sharing the link. HUGS!

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DLDMIL 10/26/2012 9:38AM

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SLENDERELLA61 10/26/2012 8:38AM

    I get your blog!! Another good one, Barb. So glad you not only get motivation, you express it very well and help all of us increase our motivation to live healthy!! Have another happy, healthy day!! -Marsha

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DNRAE1 10/26/2012 7:37AM

    Life IS Good! Thank you for another great blog! Enjoy your day. emoticon

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STEADFASTNSEE 10/26/2012 7:16AM

  "Exercise / training / eventing for her has become her stress management system." I like that. I NEED that! Thanks!!

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NEW-CAZ 10/26/2012 7:11AM

    Great blog Barb! emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 10/26/2012 7:05AM

    Great blog--We ARE worth it_____Spark on--Lynda emoticon

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DMEYER4 10/26/2012 6:54AM

  great blog and so true. thank you

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The ABC's of motivation: tend

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Today's word is "tend". As in tend to your motivation.

My little Webster's gives this sense of the word: "1 to take care of; minister to; watch over; look after; attend to [to tend plants or animals, to tend the sick]" It keeps getting better, "2 to be in charge of or at work at; manage or operate [to tend a store]"

I noted under "e" that my motivation was sometimes elusive. Thus the need to "tend" it, to be constantly paying attention to both my actions (the healthy behaviors that support a healthy lifestyle) and to my willingness to take them (motivation).

First comes willingness. Then comes ability. My tending to the willingness involves among other things my blogging. I've often said these are my morning pep talks to myself. But they also serve as a monitor on my motivation, thoughts and feelings. For without motivation, there is no action.

And LIFE is all about action. Life is precious, short, and good. Live it fully. Spark on!

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NIKKICOLE83 10/25/2012 11:22PM

    I like "tend". Its so easy to get stuck in the rut of working out and dieting. A month or so ago I was so stuck that I forgot what food tasted like. I was afraid to eat tasty food out of fear that I would overeat so I only ate what my body needed. I was also exercising like crazy. I burned myself out. I know have to remember to "tend" to my spiritual, emotional and mental self so that I don't forget why I am doing this.

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KARIDIAN1 10/25/2012 10:44PM

    Still Sparking!

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WATERMELLEN 10/25/2012 8:33PM

    Tending . . . yeah. We have to tend to our motivation . . . it's a "tender" little shoot that requires attention!!

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MSLZZY 10/25/2012 10:48AM

    A peptalk that we can all make use of. Thanks for
sharing. HUGS!

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LINDAKAY228 10/25/2012 10:40AM

    This is such a great series you are doing with the alphabet. It's all really given me things to think about. A garden won't grow if it's not tended, and we won't be the best we can be if we don't tend ourselves.

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LESLIELENORE 10/25/2012 10:39AM

    Love your pep talks!

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NEW-CAZ 10/25/2012 9:30AM

    emoticon love your blogs Barb

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1CRAZYDOG 10/25/2012 9:03AM

    Excellent!

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DLDMIL 10/25/2012 8:44AM

    WooHoo another great blog, thank you for your inspirational pep talks.

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DNRAE1 10/25/2012 7:39AM

    Keep on tending your garden of motivations....yes, plural, because different things motivate us at different times! emoticon

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The ABC's of motivation: sleep

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Everybody knows what sleep is. To give the Webster's version, "1 a) a natural, regularly recurring condition of rest for the body and mind, during which the eyes are usually closed and there is little or no conscious thought or voluntary movement, but there is intermittent dreaming".

Even the definition sounds inviting, doesn't it? What does sleep have to do with motivation, though?

I am fond of saying there isn't much that a good night's sleep doesn't make better. I'm a big believer. If motivation is flagging, getting a good rest can spruce it back up.

Sleep is so important that Sparkpeople even has a "better sleep challenge" team. But long before Sparkpeople was a twinkle in Chris Downie's mind's eye, back when this old lady in training was in high school... I discovered during one of my more foolish attempts at weight loss that I could live with very little food, or with very little sleep... but not without both at the same time!

So... rest well, fellow Sparkers... for this enables us all to Spark on... with a LIFE that is good! emoticon

  
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_LINDA 10/24/2012 11:21PM

    I so wish I could discover the key to a good night's sleep. Its eluded me so long I can't even remember when my insomnia first started :(( I have no doubt that was the reason why it took me two years to lose my weight in spite of doing all the right things most of the time.. I can only imagine the energy I would have if I could score even seven hours sleep in a day instead of 2-3! Sleep is really vital for healing, rejuvenating, thinking through problems (the brain remains active during sleep and is thought to work out problems and consolidate memories at this time)
Can't go through life like a zombie that is for sure, it doesn't work well :P

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DALID414 10/24/2012 10:03PM

    How apropos! My body needed sleep today and instead of fighting it I went along with it.

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KARIDIAN1 10/24/2012 9:02PM

    Like an idiot I was up until 2 am last night trying to get renewals processed for the gun club. Just wanted to get the pile done and in the mail.

At least I had today off and was able to sleep in later. That is heaven!

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WATERMELLEN 10/24/2012 7:45PM

    Sleep matters but isn't always compliant for me. And when I cannot sleep it helps me to remember that . . . I'll probably sleep tomorrow night. And also that "polyphasic sleeping" (waking up during the night, going back to sleep) is apparently "normal" for a lot of people.

When I go a long time without enough sleep no question: the motivation to stick to the healthy exercise and nutrition does flag!!

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EBEAMS 10/24/2012 6:19PM

    Ahhh ... the ever elusive Zzzzz's ... I've never been a "good" sleeper and I'm sure that factors into my problems sleeping now. I know from researching stress stuff that sleep is vital ... essential to lots of things that the body needs to do while the "lights are out", so to speak. Maybe someday ... maybe ...

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1CRAZYDOG 10/24/2012 2:52PM

    emoticon Great blog! working on the sleep!

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LINDAKAY228 10/24/2012 1:54PM

    I definitely have to have my sleep!

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IRONBLOSSOM 10/24/2012 1:32PM

    Oh yes, if I don't sleep enough I tend to eat everything in sight!

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DLDMIL 10/24/2012 1:29PM

    I definetly have more energy after a good night, restful sleep. emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 10/24/2012 12:34PM

    You need lotza sleep Lynda

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LESLIELENORE 10/24/2012 10:35AM

    I lose my motivation when I am tired. Getting enough sleep is key to my fitness plan.

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SLENDERELLA61 10/24/2012 8:28AM

    You were very precocious to discover this principle so early. I've also found at very busy times in my life to consciously reward myself with extra sleep (sometimes a nap) rather than food is very effective. Thanks for another good blog, Barb. It is a truth I seem to have to rediscover every couple years!! Maybe this time it will stick. -Marsha

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KRISZTA11 10/24/2012 8:02AM

    Very true!
Whenever my eating habits or mood go bad,
I always discover I was not getting enough sleep.
Often if is the root cause, sometime it is only collateral damage...
Going to bed on time always helps anyway : )

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DNRAE1 10/24/2012 7:11AM

    I've been sleeping 8-9 hours a night since watching dear GD (2 year old) for a week. Wow, now I know what a good sleep is!!! emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 10/24/2012 7:00AM

    Barb you are spot on the money, no sleep means a muggy and foggy brain and a not too willing body either for me.

Last night was a c*ap night again yet I managed a walk and core workout and do not regret doing either, in fact it's helped and I'm hoping it'll mean I'll sleep tonight!'
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MSLZZY 10/24/2012 6:52AM

    Sleep is essential, no matter what we think.
Thanks for the reminder. HUGS!

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DEBRITA01 10/24/2012 6:40AM

    Sleep was never a problem for me until this current stage of my life. Knowing how important it is for my health, I've set sleep goals. Last night? emoticon and I'm ready for this day! emoticon

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AQUAGIRL08 10/24/2012 6:05AM

    You are so right! Sometimes when you don't get enough sleep, you are hungrier too. A good night's rest is a must!

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TRYINGHARD54 10/24/2012 5:59AM

    Wish i got more sleep

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