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The ABC's of motivation: Zen

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

While I often use the term "zen" in a colloquial way to reflect a sense of peace, here's what my dictionary tells me about the real word.

Zen: "1 a variety of Buddhism, now practiced esp. in Japan, Vietnam, and Korea, seeking to attain and intuitive illumination of mind and spirit through meditation, esp. on paradoxes 2 the teachings and discipline of this kind of Buddhism"

OK, so that intuitive illumination of mind and spirit comes through motion, often, for me. That sense of well-being for me, comes from solo activity, where my mind medidates while my body moves. And this fuels my motivation to care for the body in other ways, including a healthy diet and sufficient sleep.

Whatever it is that brings you to a state of intuitive wholeness... contentment... in a healthy way... hey, it can't help but motivate a person, right?

So, here's to your "zen" and mine.

With a little Spark thrown in! emoticon emoticon

  
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KARIDIAN1 10/31/2012 8:32PM

    Was a very educational month reading your blogs. Zen is a good way to wrap it up.

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LESLIELENORE 10/31/2012 5:18PM

    I have really enjoyed your blogs this month. I find my zen when I get into a groove with physical activity, whether walking, running, kayaking, or working out at the gym.

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WATERMELLEN 10/31/2012 4:52PM

    Zen: that kind of meditative trance induced by expert motion, like a chef chopping vegetables rapidly and precisely with a huge sharp knife for a fantastic stir fry!!

I'd like to get to a point where my healthy eating and exercise have become zen. Something to aspire to . . .

And zen-like too, your marvellous A-Z October mediation on motivation. Thanks, Barb!! Lots to think about, lots to inspire all of us.

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_LINDA 10/31/2012 1:33PM

    Thank you for this fantastic series of blogs on what motivates you! Provided enlightment to many of us I am sure! Never hurts to get ideas from someone else. You articulate them so beautifully.
There is nothing more peaceful then walking on a quiet nature trail with the sounds of the birds chirping and critters scuttling about in the bush. For sure have to be healthy and fit to enjoy sometime vigorous activities and tough trails.
May everyone find that inner peace, so important to your mind as exercise is to your body.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/31/2012 11:20AM

    I have been waiting to see what you'd come up with for the letter Z and Zen was on my list. Great blog!

I too feel that my best times for gettig in touch with ME are when I'm moving . . . not connected to anything electronic. Just me and nature (when I'm walking outdoors) and alone with my thoughts.

AWESOME series, Barb, just awesome.

HGUS

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NEW-CAZ 10/31/2012 7:41AM

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MSLZZY 10/31/2012 7:39AM

    A toast to zen! emoticon Happy Halloween!

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DEBRA0818 10/31/2012 7:25AM

    One could bring oneself to a great deal of zen by meditating on the paradox that we should be mindful of our feelings but not driven by them.

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SLENDERELLA61 10/31/2012 7:16AM

    Another great blog, Barb! Way to end the alphabet with walking or moving meditation! Here's to intuitive illumination!The alphabet was great structure for your significant thoughts about living healthy. Can't wait to see what you are going to tackle next.

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The ABC's of motivation: yearning

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

In my mind, the beginning of motivation is desire. Desire doesn't get you there by itself, motivation spurs ACTION.

Yearning, according to my little Webster's, is "deep or anxious longing, desire, etc."

Do you yearn for your goals? Is your desire and longing deep? Deep enough to spur you into action (motivation)?

If not there yet... cherish the budding yearning. Let it grow. Sometimes our yearning can lead to desperation, but it does not need to go that way. Small steps can start to support success. And success builds on success.

Which then can help shape our yearnings... help us know more is possible. Dreams / longings CAN become realities, with the action that follows motivation. emoticon emoticon

That's living life on our own terms. And LIFE is good. Spark on! emoticon

  
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KANDOLAKER 10/31/2012 3:56PM

    Life is good! Thanks for sharing your wisdom!!

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KRICKET57 10/31/2012 8:22AM

    I like this!

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LEANJEAN6 10/31/2012 6:56AM

    Yearning-----Holy Cow!!!!!!--I do yearn to reach my goals!--Happy Halloween Barb!--BOO! --(trying to scare you here!)---LOL--Lynda emoticon

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DEBRA0818 10/31/2012 6:51AM

    Good one, Barb. Yearning can be created by taking small steps toward that which is not yet yearned for. We can build a heart for what we're doing here, but it does take a seemingly endless amount of trying...

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DALID414 10/30/2012 9:57PM

    I yearn to be in shape and ready for next summer

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KARIDIAN1 10/30/2012 8:11PM

    Keep your eye on the prize- yearning makes it happen.

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SUNNY332 10/30/2012 5:39PM

    Just thinking of you this morning. Everything OK?

I haven't noticed you on the Military M & P's threads so was wondering.

Hugs, Sunny

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_LINDA 10/30/2012 3:10PM

    Yes! Yes! Yes! Its that eternal yearning for something that will keep our eyes focused on the prize! You go girl!!

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NEW-CAZ 10/30/2012 1:17PM

    emoticon blog Barb! emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 10/30/2012 12:55PM

    AWESOME blog! HUGS

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LAURIE5658 10/30/2012 12:36PM

    So very true and this is where I am right now. My motivation ebbs and flows and lately it has been AWOL. Moving upward now!

Great blog and now bring on Z!



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SLENDERELLA61 10/30/2012 11:41AM

    Another great blog, Barb! I sure spent a lot of my teen and young adult years yearning about weight, but just couldn't figure out how to make the needed changes. I'd yearn enough to motivate a fad diet, but really didn't understand and know what I needed to know to affect a lifestyle change. And, as a teen, I ate what was served me. My mom and dad both had weight problems and a lot of unhelpful diet beliefs. So, yearning is a great start, but in addition to motivation, we have to know what to do!!

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LESLIELENORE 10/30/2012 10:26AM

    emoticon So true!

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LINDAKAY228 10/30/2012 9:19AM

    Another great blog!

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WATERMELLEN 10/30/2012 8:07AM

    I've experienced lots of yearning around weight issues and I sense lots of yearning here too. But yearning without action does result in despair. Letting that yearning ripen and deepen into action is a key connection: thanks for making it so clear.

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TORTISE110 10/30/2012 6:57AM

    Yearning...intention...action!

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MSLZZY 10/30/2012 6:56AM

    Well said! emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 10/30/2012 6:49AM

    Desire--Action---Determination--all great words---- Thanks gfor remi emoticon nding us Barb!-Lynda

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The ABC's of motivation: Xerox

Monday, October 29, 2012

Folks of my generation recognize the brand name "Xerox". It's even in the dictionary, as "trademark for a device for copying graphic or printed material by xerography". A copy machine to most of us.

What's this got to do with motivation? Simple. You can't "copy" someone else's motivation.

You might copy some of their behaviors, as the twelve step programs tell us: "find someone who has what you want and ask them how they are achieving it". We do a lot of that here on Sparkpeople: we seek out kindred spirits and read what they have to say. Sometimes we are sparked by what they are writing about or doing.

And then the magic of motivation transforms that spark into an original, not a copy: the motivation to drive YOU, as original and individual as YOU are as a human being.

What a great place SparkPeople.com is, to help us find those kindred spirits. Here's to the original, the non-Xerox'd motivation in YOUR life. Because LIFE is good. Spark on. emoticon

  
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WATERMELLEN 10/30/2012 8:03AM

    Very interesting: I wondered where you were going with this, and it's a unique destination for sure.

YOu are so right: although eavesdropping on your pep talks helps motivate me and we have a lot in common . . . motivation is ultimately individual and personal and self-generated every day.

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KARIDIAN1 10/29/2012 8:22PM

    There are times I would love to clone myself so I could get things done and still have "me" time.



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_LINDA 10/29/2012 7:24PM

    Good choice! We always want to emulate our heroes. But we know realistically, we can't leap over buildings in a single bound, we just have to do what WE are capable of. I will never run a marathon, but I can outwork people half my age in a fitness class ;)
Being all you can be feels GREAT!

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DALID414 10/29/2012 6:39PM

    Good X word.

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WORLDSERIES11 10/29/2012 1:17PM

    Was wondering what "X" would be...great choice!!

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1CRAZYDOG 10/29/2012 12:03PM

    I just had to wonder what you'd come up with for the letter "x"!

Great blog and truer than true. Thanks for this series! It has been enlightening.

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LESLIELENORE 10/29/2012 11:24AM

    So true! (By the way... it made me think of a goat my parents had when I was little. He was named Xerox, because all the baby goats looked exactly like him!)

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LINDAKAY228 10/29/2012 10:17AM

    Loved that one. Not easy to find a word for X. But it's true that we need to find our own original and not xerox someone else's plan. Too often people want to know what I've done and they want an easy answer they can xerox. But they don't like it when they find that it's a matter of changing lifestyles. They want a xerox pattern that is super easy and no work.

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NELLJONES 10/29/2012 9:56AM

    Act as if. A great injunction.

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NEW-CAZ 10/29/2012 8:28AM

    well said, thanks for sharing Barb- have a good week emoticon

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VITCHY-VICKI 10/29/2012 8:01AM

    So True thanks for sharing
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ELRIDDICK 10/29/2012 7:56AM

  Thanks for sharing

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OVERWORKEDJANET 10/29/2012 7:55AM

    May I emulate?

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Bonus blog - Making Strides

Sunday, October 28, 2012



This is my sister, the survivor. She's always been a survivor. She survived being a breech baby in the 1950's. She survived other adversity between then and now. And she is a one year survivor of breast cancer.

A year ago, I walked this walk with her and our youngest sister. Our survivor was undergoing radiation therapy at the time, and could only do the short version of the walk. Today she walked brisk and strong, the entire 5K. I'm proud of my sis, and of every survivor and fighter against this nasty disease.

Every form of detection is a good one. Awareness and support has made it common for those who have their condition detected early to be long-term survivors. To everyone touched by this condition: be alert to it. Be on top of it. And fight it with every tool at your disposal. Take good care of you.

Because you have that worth I blogged about this morning... something that makes you a special gift to the world.

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CONCHA77 10/30/2012 9:20AM

    GO PINK! Hugs to you and your sister.

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_LINDA 10/29/2012 11:19PM

    So very glad your sister is a survivor! May she continue to be cancer free! That is a fantastic photo of her!!
I have known too many who have succumbed to the dreaded disease. My Mom is a cancer survivor (but not of the breast) Cancer is a charity I will always support.
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JILLHARVEY 10/29/2012 3:17PM

    I was there yesterday!!! I walked the full 5K too!! Awesome experience!! Go survivor sis :)

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LINDAKAY228 10/29/2012 10:15AM

    Awesome! I'm so glad she is a survivor and was able to walk to strong and proud! Thanks for sharing the inspiration.

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NEW-CAZ 10/29/2012 3:53AM

    Brilliant news about your sister Barb! I am so happy for her, she is an inspiration!

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MRS.DOYLE 10/29/2012 2:12AM

    Brilliant news and very inspiring to the rest of us.
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MNTWINSGAL 10/28/2012 11:15PM

    Hugs to your sister, the survivor....and her sister, the supporter. WooHoo!

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DLDMIL 10/28/2012 10:10PM

    God Bless all the survivors, and the people who get out and support them. Thanks for posting and doing the run/walk emoticon

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KARIDIAN1 10/28/2012 9:41PM

    In January I will be a 5 year survivor! Early detection is so important. Congrats to your sister on being a survivor!

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1CRAZYDOG 10/28/2012 9:19PM

    emoticon HUGS to your sister. Thanks for sharing this with us.

HUGS!!

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WORLDSERIES11 10/28/2012 9:14PM

    emoticon to your sister for surviving and to all of you for supporting the cause by walking!!
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MSLZZY 10/28/2012 8:58PM

    emoticon to your sister on being a survivor!
Being proactive and testing early is crucial. Be aware
of your body and do what you need to do. Hugs!

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LAURIE5658 10/28/2012 8:36PM

    How awesome!!!!!

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SLENDERELLA61 10/28/2012 8:00PM

    Love the new picture of you in your Son is a Soldier shirt! And thanks for sharing the story of your sister, the survivor! So glad to hear she's stronger this year. I know having you in her corner has to mean a lot. Take care. Love all your blogs!!

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WATERMELLEN 10/28/2012 7:02PM

    Thanks for supporting breast cancer survivors! We truly appreciate it, yes we do: and all the research which has arisen out of this support is what gives all of us hope.

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DNRAE1 10/28/2012 5:04PM

    Love the pics of you and your sister! Good sisters that are proud of each other! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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COMPUCATHY 10/28/2012 4:35PM

    Awesome! So proud of and happy for your sister survivor! I think strength runs in your genes! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon

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OVERWORKEDJANET 10/28/2012 4:34PM

    Ahhh, two peas in a pod!

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The ABC's of motivation: worth

Sunday, October 28, 2012

We use this word all the time in encouraging one another, here on Spark AND in real life: you're worth it, the effort is worth it.

According to my little Webster's the sense of worth I'm looking for is: "2 that quality of a person or thing that lends importance, value, merit, etc. and that is measurable by the esteem in which the person or thing is held".

Something about YOU makes you special and important. You may not see it, particularly if you are one of the thousands who suffers from low self-esteem. But someone *does* see it. In my own belief system, the Someone who sees your worth and value is your Higher Power, and for me, that power's name is God.

I truly believe that God is Love, and loves each and every one of us. Someone once said to me with awe and wonder, using that definition, as an ah-hah moment in her life, "Love loves me".

That is truly amazing, you know? I don't want to get preachy or denominational on anyone, but the concept of being created and loved by Love itself *is* pretty awesome.

Most of us have no trouble finding esteem for others, people we admire in life. But finding it for ourselves can be a long road, particularly if we live with Polly Perfectionist on our shoulders.

So think about it... how would you treat the prized possession of the most powerful being there is? With tender care, right? That's the kind of care we need to take of ourselves... body, mind and spirit.

And THAT is the motivating factor to give ourselves the air, food, water, and activity that lead to a healthy life. We can do this because we are worth this!

Life is indeed good, and we are worthy to live it fully. Spark on. emoticon

  
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DLDMIL 10/28/2012 10:24PM

    Another great blog. We are all worthy of ourselves. Thanks for posting. emoticon emoticon
I love your new picture in you pink shirt honoring your son.

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KARIDIAN1 10/28/2012 9:45PM

    We all are worthy.

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WATERMELLEN 10/28/2012 7:01PM

    Great choice for "w": to feel worthy, absolutely key to sustaining motivation.

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DALID414 10/28/2012 4:01PM

    We are worth it!!

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WILLOWBROOK5 10/28/2012 1:51PM

    Such a good reminder! emoticon

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_LINDA 10/28/2012 1:50PM

    Self esteem is a huge part of being able to live a healthy lifestyle. You have to feel you are worth the effort. You must love yourself, one of Spark's early lessons and maybe the hardest for a lot of women used to putting themselves second after their families.
Here is to everyone treating the gift of their body like the temple it is.

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SWEETYOUNGTHING 10/28/2012 12:14PM

    Excellent and gentle reminder for us all emoticon Pat

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LINDAKAY228 10/28/2012 11:48AM

    Awesome blog! And time goes by so fast it's hard to believe you're up to W already. I've read every one and the alphabet has gone by really fast! Love the series.

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NEW-CAZ 10/28/2012 11:07AM

    We ARE worth it Barb, another great blog hun emoticon

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MJZHERE 10/28/2012 10:33AM

  How awesome when you think about it - God loves me! God loves you! Gives us a really good reason to love one another as well as ourselves! Here's to everyone being kind to themselves today. Thank you for this blog.

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SLENDERELLA61 10/28/2012 10:23AM

    We are worth it! Another great blog, Barb.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/28/2012 9:44AM

    Self-esteem . . . a huge part of the battle! HUGS for this wonderful blog.



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LEANJEAN6 10/28/2012 9:43AM

    We ARE worth it!!!!------plus--NO HALLOWEEN CANDY!!!--LOL---Love yu Barb!----Hugs-Lynda emoticon

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MSLZZY 10/28/2012 9:24AM

    Always a good thing to treat yourself with love, like
you are your best friend, because you are. HUGS!

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DNRAE1 10/28/2012 8:58AM

    Life "is" good!!!! Love one another every day! We are worthy of it! You said it better in another great blog! emoticon

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