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Now here's where the "don't get cocky" phrase comes in.

Monday, December 17, 2012

I survived Saturday just fine. Sunday, not so much. In fact, everything was going well Sunday until I started in on packing the last box for Afghanistan. This one will race his departure date to get there. If it arrives before he departs, he gets to drink the coffee. If not, he'll have to come share mine while his replacement drinks the coffee and eats the jerky and crackers.

Anyway, somewhere in the process of packing that box, and thinking about the cookies I sent in the last one, something snapped and I mixed up my last stick of butter into cookie dough. A small batch, mind you... but I got myself started down the road I don't like the end of.

So, this morning, back to rational behavior. The blood bank at noon... success in donating, which makes me feel good. And on with the rest of my life.

No beating myself up. But back to remembering what I really want, remembering those things I cannot control (like whether my son gets the job he wants back here stateside), and letting God do His own job!

So today has been a good day, and now we look forward to the first Winter Storm of the season... can you believe it's this late? Predicted for Wednesday. Droughts are nasty in some ways, but they have kept us with safer driving conditions for a longer time. Now it's time to settle in to Winter for sure.

Spark on, friends near and far! Life IS good! emoticon

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OPTIMIST1948 12/19/2012 12:20PM

    We cannot be perfect all the time. Follow the 80/20 rule. Annd if the package doesnt make it to Afganistan in time, well, you just earned yourself some karmic points!

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LILPAT3 12/19/2012 11:21AM

    The weather here was in the 70's until 9 days ago and it has been a roller coaster since. emoticon

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MJZHERE 12/18/2012 10:32AM

    "Letting God do his own job." Love it. How hard this is for moms. I am sure He needs help - how silly I am. There with you - love how you pick yourself up.

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ALOHAEV1 12/18/2012 8:25AM

    Hugs Friend!

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ANOTHERMOMOF2 12/18/2012 7:52AM

    I hope you get the moisture. At this point they don't think it will move far enough south for my part of Kansas to get any measurable snow.

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DEBRA0818 12/18/2012 5:43AM

    The fact that you had an off day is a testimony to the rising stresses caused by having your only child half way around the world in a dangerous place. The fact that you were able to get back on track after one small slip is a testimony to the very good place you are in physically and emotionally. Deo gratis.


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MRS.DOYLE 12/18/2012 3:03AM

    We can all be excused one short fall off the wagon. Yours only lasted a that's brilliant.

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PATRICIAAK 12/18/2012 12:14AM

    one step backward, two steps forward

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GREENGENES 12/17/2012 10:52PM

    Just keep repeating that last line. Life IS Good!

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KARIDIAN1 12/17/2012 10:28PM

    The cookies sound good, and i hope your box arrives in time for your son. Our storm last week made driving here miserable for Monday and Tuesday. Now we have all the mushy slush frozen on the sidewalks and sides streets.

Maggie isn't fond of the crunchy snow either when she goes outside in the back yard. Hope your storm turns out to be a big nothing storm.

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EBEAMS 12/17/2012 10:23PM

    It's hard to not try and take personal responsibility/control for what God is in charge of, especially when it comes to our kids. I agree with you to give yourself a break and start fresh in the morning ... or right now ... nothing worth having is free ... it comes with hard work and sacrifice. You can do it!

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BESTSUSIEYET 12/17/2012 10:20PM

    We have our first Winter Storm Warning for Wednesday, too. Crazy weather! About 50% below normal in snow so far. I'm surprised it's not worse! Good job remembering what you REALLY want ... Those short term pleasures are really are not worth the long term set backs, right?! You are a wise woman, and a disciplined one. I'm sure you will do well! Merry Christmas, my friend!

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LJCANNON 12/17/2012 9:54PM

    emoticon Sending Warm Hugs!! They are talking Snow on Christmas here, too. I will believe it when I see it!! I believe the Cold Front arrived this evening!!

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_LINDA 12/17/2012 9:32PM

    Sorry for the stress overload slip up -at least it was small. Here is hoping your son does get a job stateside, what a load off your shoulders that would be to have him home safe at last.
First snow on Wed, hmm, if your weather people are as accurate as the ones here, maybe you will get a heat wave instead :P
I hope your work week goes better..
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ROXYZMOM 12/17/2012 9:10PM

    So much to do this time of year, it's like we are on overdrive! You subconsciously gave yourself a break!

Hope you have a great week!

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1CRAZYDOG 12/17/2012 8:57PM

    New day, fresh start! HUGS

good luck to your son that he gets the job he wants stateside!!!

We're expecting a storm here later this week too. NOT ready1 But guess Mother Nature is.

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MOBYCARP 12/17/2012 8:56PM

    Small batch of cookie dough, small recovery. You can do this. One day at a time, not borrowing trouble from tomorrow or next week.

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SLENDERELLA61 12/17/2012 8:33PM

    Understandable. Anticipation. Remembering. Stress for sure. Thank you for sharing. I know I'm not alone. Wise to remember what you (we) really want and no sense beating yourself (or myself) up. You've had so much success, but can't take it for granted. It is each day, each meal, each opportunity to bite or lick or sip or slurp.

I don't have to tell you that you can do it. You are doing it. Maintenance years are mounting up. Don't have to be perfect. Just determined. You are one of the most determined people I've ever met!!!

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DEBRITA01 12/17/2012 8:31PM

    Lots to process lately. Glad you are back at it again today, remembering what you want, and letting yesterday stay in the past. emoticon

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Saturday noonish

Saturday, December 15, 2012

I wrote this cryptic phrase in my Tuesday blog at the close of my report about the work Holiday dinner: "monitoring for any adverse reaction... which will become really important about Saturday noonish."

So one astute reader asked what was happening Saturday noonish?

Well, Saturday noonish is one of those points in my week where I am at risk. It is when events in the week that I *didn't* take care of with self-talk and resolution of emotions can "get me".

Depending on how Saturday morning went... I am capable of copping an attitude. By Saturday noonish, I know that my son has been online or not (if I don't see that little red dot of presence online, it's a risk factor for anxiety). By Saturday noonish, I've either taken my long run, or put it off... and if I put it off, I'm at risk. By Saturday noonish, I know if I've had enough sleep... if I haven't, I'm at risk. By Saturday noonish, I have either eaten enough for lunch, or started down the path to overdoing it.

Saturday, you see, I'm at home with the ingredients available to get myself into all kinds of trouble.

Today, Saturday noonish, I was just getting back from my long, slow run. I was full of endorphins. So it looks like I passed this week's "Saturday noonish" bad reaction risk test.

And right now, Saturday mid-afternoon? I'm cozy in my sweats, feeling virtuous having eaten a healthy lunch following the long slow run, and stretched and showered, and read some Spark blogs.

A word picture to Spark your day? On the way home from a morning appointment, I spotted Santa Claus riding a bicycle, leading a group of jogging elves down the MoPac trail! I couldn't get my phone out fast enough to take a photo of Santa, but it looks to me he's taken on some healthy initiatives himself!

On a more sober note: I am joyful today, but do recognize that some horrific events have been in the news. I am mindful and sad for those who have suffered large losses. I pray for them and for those who care about them. As with laughter at a funeral, the two live side by side: this is human. Hug your loved ones tight. Cherish every moment you get with them. But then, remember to breathe, and keep on nurturing your health, so you can be there for them for a long time to come.

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COMPUCATHY 12/16/2012 9:58PM

    Ah...I totally get your Saturday noonish reference. We all have those danger zones that we walk through. You are smart to recognize them and call them out. I'm glad you made it through the danger zone unscathed. Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LESLIELENORE 12/16/2012 6:44PM

    I saw Santa and one of his reindeer walking down the sidewalk while walking the dog. The dog was vey interested in the reindeer. He didn;t bark, but I wonder what was going through his mind? Probably, reindeer steak, reindeer burgers, reindeer stew!

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LINDAKAY228 12/16/2012 6:06PM

    Glad you Saturday noonish went well this week. It was very interesting to read about what it means and how you cope. My prayers are also with all those affected by the horrible events of this week and my heart gets heavy when I think of them. But I also have to limit how much time I allow myself to think about it to keep from falling in to deep depression over things I have no control over and can't change. Have to balance it out. Loved the Santa and elves you saw!

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KARIDIAN1 12/16/2012 5:32PM

    Great blog, as always

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KANOE10 12/16/2012 9:11AM

    Very nice blog. We need to cherish our moments with our loved ones.

Good for you making it through the saturday noonish in a healthy way!


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LEANJEAN6 12/16/2012 7:47AM

    Well said Barb!-Lynda

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KASEYCOFF 12/16/2012 4:13AM

    Your perspective and insight are incredible, Barb - I love your thinking...

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_LINDA 12/15/2012 10:32PM

    So glad your Saturday had good results. I would be enjoying my time more with Mom, but she is really sick from a bad cold and doesn't want to be near me.. We are still hoping my nephew will decide to come in for his 16th birthday on Sunday though.
Newton is all over the news here.. so very, very sad..

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ALOHAEV1 12/15/2012 8:16PM

    Well said Barb.

You may well have pulled my out of a Saturday nightish by the way.

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1CRAZYDOG 12/15/2012 5:53PM

    That question arose in my head, too, but I didn't pose it. NOW I understand!

Glad you passed your "noon rsk" without incident.

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PATRICIAAK 12/15/2012 5:04PM

    Appreciate your words

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DLDMIL 12/15/2012 4:49PM

    Thank you for today's blog. Very well spoken.

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WATERMELLEN 12/15/2012 4:43PM

    For me it's weekday sixish . . . when I walk in the door after work. And can eiither put my bowl of soup in the microwave to eat and GET OUTTA THE KITCHEN till it's hot OR start mindlessly grazing forthe 5 minutes that will take and ingest, say, 400 extra calories on "automatic". Gotta challenge that "automatic" because at some level for which I'm accountable I'm choosing . . .

What a great blog. The reason why this tragic loss of life matters is because LIFE matters: and life is the quotidian, the ordinary, the taking care of ourselves, the taking care of others . . .

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STRIVERONE 12/15/2012 4:39PM

    Your blog entry and the comments preceding this one display an emotional balance that is often hard to achieve.

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SLENDERELLA61 12/15/2012 4:24PM

    So glad your Saturday noonish report is a great one! You can feel very noble indeed. Very wise to know your risk times. Probably my highest risk time is when hubby goes to bed suddenly, leaving me tired with something I need to accomplish and a house full of junk food. But these days, I'm determined not to give in. As Beck says, I'm strengthening my resistence "muscles." Right now I am feeling determined and strong.

I am also aware of the national tragedy and mourning. I admire that you included it in your blog in a true and tasteful way. Thanks. Life is precious. Nuture it. Enjoy it. Live it!

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AMSPARKER 12/15/2012 3:55PM

    thank you for this blog, esp. your last put it so eloquently....i am torn between my grief and feeling selfish for thinking about taking care of myself, as if why should i be lucky enough to think about mundane things like eating well and exercising when families have been ripped apart. but you are right, and i feel like esp. your last paragraph is a whisper from god that i should mourn, pray and also carry on with my lifestyle.

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Survived a work week, thinking ahead to Christmas itself

Friday, December 14, 2012

I'm pleased to have made it through a stressful, chopped up, interruption-filled work week. This morning I was feeling a bit sorry for myself driving to work, but gave myself a good talking to as I drove, and by the time I was through the first meeting and a break walk, I was pretty much OK again.

I met my line in the sand obligations for the day, and I ended the work week with at least one positive note: got something working after the choppy week that *should* have only taken about four hours of uninterrupted time. Ever have a week like that?

My brother talks about "Pointy hair" activities at work. Well both of my meetings today would fall into that category: things you do because you must because that's the way they are done at your organization, even though you have other urgent "real" work to do. If you don't know where the phrase comes from, you don't read Dilbert. I'm usually fairly tolerant of these kinds of thing... it's the reality of my working world. However, this past three weeks, since I got back from Florida, I have been simmering my way to a boil, and as I told one colleague, "if I were a tea-kettle, at this point I would be whistling, loudly!"

Anyway, I didn't get done what I *most wanted* to or *hoped* to get done this work week, but I got *something* done that also needed to be done. I therefore will declare victory for the week and get on with my life!

You can see how dealing with feelings was important this week, right?

So, on to anticipation of the Day itself, of Christmas. Here's the deal: I will most likely be alone that day. That's part of the feeling sorry for myself. It's more than being physically alone, though. I'm working on it, Spark friends, really I am. Self-pity is not a pretty feeling, but you know what? I'm staring it in the face and accepting that it has presented itself to me. Doesn't mean I have to act out based on it. I will treat myself gently in ways that don't involve overeating!

I will wrap a gift or two to myself to open on the day. I will make a nice, portion controlled meal for dinner, featuring things I really like. I will sneak into a church service. I will fill my house with music and candlelight. And I will find something to do that will help someone less fortunate. Because nothing says Christmas like giving. emoticon

It will be a good Christmas, kept in the spirit as it should be.

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MEDDYPEDDY 12/17/2012 1:57AM

    I will probably be alone on christmas too, daughter spends with father and comes on the 30th of december.

I donīt mind being alone but know I have to plan ahead a lot – otherwise it will be just another day and to feel some sort of self-respect I need to take cae of myself and make the day a little "special". I think I will go to church, if I am lucky they will have "spontaneous choir". Your blog started my mind going on good ideas - I was talking to the woman who looks after doggy during my work and she is alone most of christmas eve (which is the day we celebrate in Sweden) and we talked about getting together and this has worried me a little because I prefer to be alone before being "soical"... but I think I may bring out a puzzle and we can do that together... that is fun!

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MJZHERE 12/16/2012 6:58PM

    I am sorry that you will be alone on Christmas - Christmas for me this year will also be very different and you are a good example to me to plan how I am going to handle it. One thing I do know - early early morning I will be downtown with the homeless handing out cookies, hot coffee, gloves, socks, etc. Started this a few years back and wish I had done it every Christmas. It truly is "more blessed to give than to receive." You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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WILLOWBROOK5 12/16/2012 4:34PM

    Sounds like you have a very lovely Christmas planned! emoticon emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 12/16/2012 3:39PM

    Oh yes I have weeks like that AND I'm self-employed (so should be able to determine my *own* priorities . . . but not really. Last week was tough as is predictable in my profession as we approach Christmas and emotions run high. Got through it too.

Excellent work planning for your Christmas -- and in particular being kind to yourself. I'm hoping you've chosen a couple really special gifts for you from you. And yup, all of us have Christmases like that too, from time to time . . . my DS won't be with us for the first time in his life which I'm finding very sad as well. Put up our tree, our lighted village, the outside lights this weekend: filled the birdfeeders . . . yeah.

We'll all be here at Spark for Christmas too, so please check in! Always look forward to your wonderful courageous and truthful blogs: and learn so much from you always.

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CEHALLA 12/16/2012 12:09PM

    I feel like I'm going to be alone at Christmas, since none of my kids or grandkids will be coming. But I have my DH, and my Mom, and my sister and all her family I will be spending part of the day with, so I really have nothing to feel sorry about.

I am impressed by your planning ahead, ways to treat yourself, and looking to serve others. I am working towards that kind of life.

Merry Christmas!

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SLENDERELLA61 12/15/2012 9:18AM

    Wish you could just drive down the street and be here with me for Christmas!! You'd fit right in with our family beautifully. Hoping next year your son will be with you on the holiday and throughout the year. Good for you for getting something done and putting work in its proper priority. Work can be so frustrating -- and essential. You are smart not to let the frustrations drive you to eat (or drink, for that matter.) Take care and make that Christmas as joy-filled as possible. -Marsha

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ROXYZMOM 12/15/2012 8:39AM

    Glad you made it through the week!

Are you going to run on Christmas Day??

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LEANJEAN6 12/15/2012 7:41AM

    Good for yu Barb!!! --You are focused!-Lynda emoticon

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KARIDIAN1 12/14/2012 11:48PM

    I survived too. Welcome to my work world. At least I am not alone.

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DALID414 12/14/2012 11:02PM

    I survived my work week, too. We made it!!

Enjoy your weekend.

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-AMANDA79- 12/14/2012 9:39PM

    Maybe volunteer at a soup kitchen? I hope it's great whatever you do!

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DLDMIL 12/14/2012 9:25PM

    I should have taken your blogs more to heart and been having those talks with myself. I should have gone for a walk to avoid my boss, but no I wound up trapped in my office with her and the tea kettle did more than whistle, I blew the top off. I told her I didn't want to talk about it but she pushed the subject and got both barrels. It was a good thing she was only working a 1/2 day today, so we could both cool off. She just pushes and pushes and takes the attitude that I am the Director and it is my way or the highway. She never takes other peoples feelings or work load into account and then I am the only department manager that will finally be at the breaking point and stand up to her. It happens a couple times a year. You would think I would learn to leave the building for the day when I am at the whistling point.
Anyway Barb, thanks for your great inspiration and motivation. I will be with you in spirit on Christmas Day.

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COMPUCATHY 12/14/2012 9:09PM

    There are plenty of people out there who could use your assistance...that's for sure. I hope you find many ways to make the holiday a happy one for yourself and others you may be able to reach out to along the way. Hope you have a great weekend! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon

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PATRICIAAK 12/14/2012 9:07PM

    It sounds like you have Christmas in your heart.

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DEBRITA01 12/14/2012 8:43PM

    You won't truly be alone on Christmas...we will all be with you in spirit. And, with the true meaning of Christmas in your heart you will be blessed. The Christmas you have planned sounds like a good one to me. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 12/14/2012 8:42PM

    (((((HUGS))))) Awwww, Barb, wish we lived close by cuz you could come for Christmas!

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Blank page and feelings

Thursday, December 13, 2012

I have started today's blog twice, and thrown it in the bit-bucket! Some days it just doesn't flow... so starting with a blank blog-page, I dive in and start letting the fingers do their thing. If it's "OK" and starts to flow, I keep it. If not, out it goes.

Today I started writing about anticipation... trying in my mind to tie together the expectation of advent to the expectation of my son's return... it just didn't flow. When I tried to tie it back to feelings of a year ago (when my program was really slip-sliding) and this year (when it's doing pretty great, to be honest)... it wasn't working.

One might ask WHY the analogy wasn't working for me. Here's the deal: I am an emotional eater. A year ago, I was feeding anxiety over my son's impending departure. I managed to get myself in hand and use my participation in events (11 in all in 2012) and training for them to "run away" instead of feeding those feelings.

Now, the anticipation I am feeling is less of anxiety (OK, there is that little bit of "don't let your guard down yet, he's not home yet")... more of anticipation of joyful reunion. In the past, I've been known to feed emotions that are thought of as pleasant (joy, happiness, celebration) as much as the ones thought of as unpleasant (grief, sadness, anger, fear).

In short... it used to be that I'd use *any* emotion as a reason to eat. Excessively. Habitually. Unconsciously.

And the bottom line is: it doesn't MATTER which feelings I'm feeling. What matters is what I *do* about them! Do I look them in the face and say, "I know you, you are _____?" Do I sit with them, ask them where they came from, question their validity... savor them... and wait for them to pass? Do I run away from them? Or do I feed them?

Actions can in fact result in the feelings fading. Sitting with them can result in a resolution, where they become less intense. Acknowledging them as valid or reasoning them away, can give them the freedom to resume a proper place in the puzzle that is my mind.

Today resolution: I shall focus on feelings, and on what I am *doing* with the ones that present themselves to me. I shall not "feed" them excessively. Because life is more than feelings. And it is good.

Spark on! emoticon

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KARIDIAN1 12/13/2012 9:36PM

    Still a good blog with some great comments and thoughts.

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PATRICIAAK 12/13/2012 9:07PM

    Super blog! well said.
looking forward to the blog that says, 'he's home!'

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DOGLADY13 12/13/2012 8:15PM

    Thank you. I've been doing a lot of work (not on spark) with my emotions. A fair amount of dealing with anxiety, but also realizing that I'm not as happy as I think I am most days. It's complicated and I haven't gotten that far with it. It's a new insight that I need to "sit" with. In any event, I really like this passage in your blog:

"... it doesn't MATTER which feelings I'm feeling. What matters is what I *do* about them! Do I look them in the face and say, "I know you, you are _____?" Do I sit with them, ask them where they came from, question their validity... savor them... and wait for them to pass? Do I run away from them? Or do I feed them?"

Something to think about.

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    Thanks, you added to the feelings I had in my blog

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DLDMIL 12/13/2012 5:13PM

    Another great blog, and congrats on your son coming home soon. I know how tough this year has been, (been there done that). Cheers to you for recognizing your emotions and deciding to do something other than feeding them. You have had a very successful year with 11 runs.
I admire your strength and tenacity. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 12/13/2012 1:56PM

    OMG OMG OMG . . . doing the dance of joy with you! When is your son coming home??? You're talking not just leave I trust!? Oh, Barb, I am joyful for you.

And great, great blog. Yes, it is easy to feed the anxiety and emotions, but in the long run it ISN'T easy becuase of the health consequences.

I can tell exactly my stress levels just by looking @ my pedometer. Lol . . . some days it's up there!

I am just thrilled for you.

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ASHPATCH11 12/13/2012 11:58AM

    Great blog as always :) Thanks for posting. I always eat for you have me thinking about it and going fwd I plan to celebrate in a new way prehaps go karts so somthing sporty and fun!

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-STARRYEYED- 12/13/2012 10:13AM

    Fantastic blog!!! Thank you for sharing your journey & what you have found works for you or doesn't work for you. This really spoke to me today, so thank you, thank you!

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BUGGYS 12/13/2012 8:55AM

    Great blog, Barb...feeding negative emotions is a no-win solution...thinking positive thoughts and moving forward will bring rewards! emoticon

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ANDI571 12/13/2012 8:53AM

    Good blog Barb. Ever since we went away for the weekend a couple of weeks ago, I am feeding something, not sure what. I usually can think it out, but I think this time, it is just being tired. Tired of thinking about it, tired of doing it. I just want to eat normal without always having to track and watch portion control. But you know how it is. As soon as you "stop", all the bad habits resurface. At this point, I am just trying to hold my own until the "want" resurfaces again.

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DEBRITA01 12/13/2012 8:26AM

    The 3rd time is the charm...good blog! emoticon

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ROXYZMOM 12/13/2012 8:10AM

    Well said! Love it!

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SLENDERELLA61 12/13/2012 7:53AM

    Another brilliant blog, Barb!! My take away summary: Action can result in the feelings fading. Sitting with them can result in resolution. Acknowledging and reasoning can put them in their proper place.

Here's to sitting with those emotions and embracing life rather than feeding the emotion and numbing everything!!

Because I rarely go a day without seeing my only daughter I can only imagine how difficult - how much emotion there is - about your son. Looking forward with you to your son's glorious return.

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KANOE10 12/13/2012 7:44AM

    I can identify with you. Not only did I feed my negative emotions with food for comfort, but there is also ironically feeling like you should celebrate with food when you are happy. You correctly point out that any emotion is an excuse.

I am so happy your son is coming home soon! I am also happy that this has been a better year for you. You sound in control and ready to tackle these newest feelings. Life is more than feelings and it is a good life, especially when we are on the road to health.

Wonderful blog! emoticon

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What, you want a report on how it went?

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

An additional "key element" dawned on me after the Holiday luncheon yesterday. Besides all that self talk? Choose who you are going to sit with to support your success.

I recognize that this is not always possible... but yesterday I sat around others who were also pursuing a healthy lifestyle. All of us were following the principle of carefully selecting the indulgences. I chose a corn casserole, as I had not spotted any bread stuffing (my favorite, which I had promised myself a half cup of). It turned out to be a great choice, it was really good, and it was portion controlled.

I also allowed myself a half slice of traditional pumpkin pie, since I didn't have my traditional Thanksgiving dinner. And savored every bite, mind you! It was excellent. Other than that, roast turkey is pretty healthy as it is. And the salad I really filled up on? Pretty normal noontime fare for me.

In the end, it was well handled, and I wasn't overfilled... so was able to hop on the treadmill in the evening and put in my 5.4 miles. I started slow, a full 9 minute warm up (5 minutes walking, then two rounds of 1 minute slow jog, 1 minute walk) before settling into the speed work of the evening. My top speed was "crossing the finish line" sprint the tenth of a mile from 4.9 to 5 miles. At 7 mph, according to the TM.

Stretch, showered, slept really well. And this morning... up and at 'em and monitoring for any adverse reaction... which will become really important about Saturday noonish.

Life is good. Spark on! emoticon

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PATRICIAAK 12/12/2012 11:27PM


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KARIDIAN1 12/12/2012 11:07PM

    Good choices and a nice exercise for the end of the day.

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LESLIELENORE 12/12/2012 6:20PM

    emoticon That is great that you were able to indulge without overdoing.

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SLENDERELLA61 12/12/2012 1:58PM

    Success!! So glad you shared. Guess nothing triggered after the event eating, so that is super! The corn casserole and half a piece of pumpkin pie were excellent minor indulgences. Thanks for sharing. I hope to do as well at several upcoming parties!

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LINDAKAY228 12/12/2012 1:11PM

    Awesome job with some special treats and still ate healthy and didn't overdo!

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ANOTHERMOMOF2 12/12/2012 12:41PM

    Good for you! Mindful eating can really help cut intake.

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ASHPATCH11 12/12/2012 11:35AM

    emoticon job!! you are so good at healthy living!!

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DALID414 12/12/2012 11:25AM

    Sounds like a successful day of events.

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DLDMIL 12/12/2012 11:07AM

    Congrats on your choices and your workout. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 12/12/2012 9:12AM

    Excellent!!!!! Plan in hand, you survive and thrive! HUGS

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CELIAMINER 12/12/2012 7:57AM

    Super advice! I thought back to last year's office party (since morale is too low to have one this year) and realized I had unconsciously done what you did. I sat with people who filled most of their plates with the healthier offerings, and I noted that there actually WERE healthier choices. Maybe they had been there in years past, and I hadn't noticed, but last year I was grateful they were there.

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MSLZZY 12/12/2012 7:54AM

    Healthy choices and a great workout!

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MIRAGE727 12/12/2012 7:45AM

Leading by example! Strong effort, Barb! You so have it! And I'm sure, with your training, you will burn up that intake! Great cardio workout too! I wanna be like you when I grow up!

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WATERMELLEN 12/12/2012 7:31AM

    Well done! And I totally believe-- hanging out with healthy-minded people is really supportive (not just when eating, although it helps then the most maybe!)

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SWEDE_SU 12/12/2012 7:24AM

    that's the way to do it! emoticon

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DMEYER4 12/12/2012 7:20AM

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BLUENOSE63 12/12/2012 7:14AM

  Great job!

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