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Saturday, January 19, 2013

Thanks to DogLady13... lightening up is a good thing.

A - Available or Married: Divorced and UNAVAILABLE.

B - Book: Just finished Trader of Secrets by Steve Martini. Soon to start "A Memory of Light" by Robert Jordan/Brandon Sanderson.

C - Cake or Pie? Pie - custard or pumpkin, especially.

D - Drink of Choice: You know I love my flavored coffee!

E - Essential Item: internet connection

F - Favorite Color: green

G - Game to Play or Watch: basketball

H - Hometown: Lincoln, NE

I - Indulgence: candles

J - Job: team lead of small group of programmers

K - Kids and Names: One kid, son... sorry, don't do names except my own

L - Life is incomplete without: contact

M - Music Group or Singer: ABBA (yes, my son is laughing)

N - Number of Siblings: 1 brother, 3 sisters

O - Oranges or Apples? yes

P - Phobias/ Fears - snakes

Q - Favorite Quote: Security is mostly superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold. - Helen Keller

R - Reason to smile: breathing

S - Season: Summer

T - Tattoos: Son has some, I have none.

U - Unknown fact about me? Not that I know of.

V - Vegetable you love: brussels sprouts

W - Worst habit: giving out TMI?

X - X-rays? Tools.

Y - Your favorite food: steel cut oats

Z - Zodiac? Chinese dragon

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WATERMELLEN 1/20/2013 11:04AM

    Mmmmm: butterscotch coffee a current fave, but I like German chocolate cke a lot too!! And: brussels sprouts raw in salads . . . or roasted with a touch or EVOO and sea salt!!

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KATHIC2 1/20/2013 7:44AM

  Love the quote!

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KASEYCOFF 1/20/2013 4:22AM

    Oh, good set, Barb! Love the Helen Keller quote - and I am the dragon that roars, lol...

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KARIDIAN1 1/19/2013 9:40PM

    Fun list.

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DLDMIL 1/19/2013 8:06PM

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KALIGIRL 1/19/2013 12:34PM

    emoticon I couldn't get past number 1 "Divorced and UNAVAILABLE - Period"

Not sure what the weather has in store for us, but today sounds as full for you as for me - hope to see you tomorrow!

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DALID414 1/19/2013 12:15PM

    I love emoticon too

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MNTWINSGAL 1/19/2013 11:35AM

    I'm on board the ABBA train fact, my cell ringtone is "Dancing Quees" and it's also my warm-up song.

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1CRAZYDOG 1/19/2013 11:22AM

    good to get to know things about ourselves . . . HUGS!

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PATRICIAAK 1/19/2013 11:18AM

    I so totally agree with 'E'!

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DRB13_1 1/19/2013 10:46AM

    I've only learned to appreciate brussels sprouts in the past year - roasted

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_LINDA 1/19/2013 10:45AM

    I like Abba too :) Thanks for sharing the list!

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DOGLADY13 1/19/2013 9:07AM

    I think ABBA is fun.

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MIRAGE727 1/19/2013 8:57AM

    Such a fun list! Thanks for sharing, Barb!

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RUN4FOOD 1/19/2013 8:39AM

    Like your favorite quote.
I'm usually too unaware to feel insecure.

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MAGGIE101857 1/19/2013 8:15AM

    TMI - Never!! Love the insights you provide!! I find myself reflecting on some of the simplest things when you "remind" me of them!!!

P.S. Us "oldies" appreciate ABBA. My kids laugh at my fascination with the British Channel /tv shows. They don't appreciate the British humor, whereas I find it so much more entertaining!

Have a wonderful day!

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LEANJEAN6 1/19/2013 8:14AM

    no tatoos here either-----but my some of my kids have them--must be the ""nurse" in me--Lynda-

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GABY1948 1/19/2013 8:13AM

    emoticon Thanks for sharing, Barb!

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DEBRITA01 1/19/2013 7:42AM

    Always good to learn a little more about you, Barb. Have a great day! emoticon

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Friday, January 18, 2013

I actually like the simple status "is". Some days that's the only status that one can manage. Show up.

Oh, by the way, "Hi, my name is Barb, and I am a compulsive overeater." That's a truth, a reality. This week, I'm not even going to call me recovering, because I've been close to and over the edge.

When the folks in OA talk about how we're insane when we're not abstinent? It's not a joke. It really is a form of insanity. It is where I go into this rebellious state, but not even entirely that, it's the state of "I don't care!" It's the state of questioning all the goals and desires that I hold dear. It's the state of "why try?"

And it can come back so quickly. Doesn't matter how long one's been "in recovery". And you don't want to talk to anyone about it, because you're ashamed that it's happening to YOU!

The way out of insanity is pulling out those goals and aims and getting real with yourself... "Who am I? What do I want? Why am I here (what is my purpose)?" It all comes back to that little center of the universe...

At its root, the rebellion, the don't care, is a turning away from the Higher Power in one's life. It's a false sense of SELF-reliance. To get back to sanity requires talking with a Higher Power and asking for the willingness... the ability will follow once the willingness is there.

So, today, that's all I'm asking. Just for today. The willingness. emoticon

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BLUEANGELLK 1/20/2013 7:22PM

    OMG!! I had "is" as my status for the weekend I couldn't think of anything else to say. What deep thoughts over such a simple word.

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SPARKLISE 1/19/2013 6:11PM

    Oh girl! I do understand that insanity!
One day at a time is pretty much what we can pray for. emoticon

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_LINDA 1/19/2013 12:37AM

    So sorry :( Your worry and stress may have temporarily weakened your resolve, but knowing you, you can face that demon and put it back in its cage as you have done many a time before. We are only human, and sometimes, we just have to let off a little steam!! The build up is too much and something has to give. This is not a failure, but a vent, an easing of the pressure. Soon, very soon, those simmering oats will be calling your name, and that relaxing zen run will be summoning you to its siren call.
You can do it because you are stronger!

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DLDMIL 1/18/2013 10:14PM

    Hang in there. Take one day at a time. I struggle with depression and it is a daily struggle to combat our evils. emoticon

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DOGLADY13 1/18/2013 9:38PM

    Thank you for sharing your struggle. It helps all of us become stronger and more resilient, including you!

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RUN4FOOD 1/18/2013 9:35PM

    Barb, I was hopeful you would end up looking at a Higher Power.
Your blog sounded familiar to me.
I've never really struggled with over eating, my struggle was depression.
6+ years ago I finally met my Higher Power, Jesus, and my life was changed, not all smooth, but I have help, a new perspective and seeing myself to be of value.
Pray you'll bounce back quickly.

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MNTWINSGAL 1/18/2013 9:32PM

    You've a lot on your mind right now, my friend. Sometime "is" is enough.

Have a wonderful weekend!

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KATHIC2 1/18/2013 8:39PM

  Been there, on the whp cares, I don't care space. It can be so hard to move out of. I agree with and you say it so well.

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 1/18/2013 8:35PM

    I kind of like the "is" too.


The only way to fail is to stop trying. I have to tell myself this on what seem to be innumerable occasions too.


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PATRICIAAK 1/18/2013 8:20PM

    one step backwards, two steps forward.

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ANDI571 1/18/2013 6:09PM

    If it wasn't for the Higher Power, I could never get through a day. Hi my name is Andi and I am a compulsive overeater. You are so right, it only takes one moment to head in a totally different direction. So it is through prayer and "His" strength that I have gotten as far as I have gotten. As soon as I take my own path, it gets ugly.

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LESLIELENORE 1/18/2013 4:16PM

    So true!

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DALID414 1/18/2013 2:14PM

    Hi, I'm Dee and I'm a compulsive overeater.

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KALIGIRL 1/18/2013 1:08PM

    I wonder if over-indulging in anything suggests there's a void - not that rebellion and/or self-reliance might not be the 'cause', but it seems something might be out of balance - too much or too little - worry, free time, food or drink - whatever.

I like the idea of willingness (being ready to do something without being forced) as a path to becoming centered. I also like the concept of ‘is’ – what a wonderful state to ‘be’ – and know you will find your way to your own equilibrium.

Namaste my friend.

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LINDAKAY228 1/18/2013 12:45PM

    That is so correct. All of it. It really is insanity that can sock us again out of the blue if we aren't very careful. I know it has me. And the simple status "is" is much better than just "was". It's the here and now.
Hope the weekend goes better for you!

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    I have 2 empty bags of cheese curls(4 servings), 20 Hershey kisses wrappers to prove my dinner in the car last night. And no water, nada to drink.
A woe is me dinner.
Nobody loves me everybody hates me dinner.

Uh, I had the nobody loves me dinner 3 nights ago...chips and salsa, ice cream.

The I love myself dinner tonight will be less out of a bag. Maybe more out of reality.

It cycles, right? emoticon

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KOOKYKATHIE 1/18/2013 10:53AM

    One Day at a Time Dear Jesus. emoticon

At least, you are owning the problem. That is a part of recovery, in my mind! emoticon

Keep on Keeping on! emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 1/18/2013 10:31AM

    ((((((MAJOR HUGS))))))) Like Lynda said, you may fall, but you ALWAYS get back up. That's major. Hang in there. You're very aware of things so that's obviously the first step. Name it, claim it, tame it.

Sending calming thoughts your way, Barb and know you're not alone. (I know you know that!)

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MOBYCARP 1/18/2013 9:32AM


The willingness will return. I hope it returns for you soon. In the meantime, do the best you can to limit the damage, and don't beat yourself up for the best being less than you think it ought to be!

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BOOKAPHILE 1/18/2013 9:30AM

    That Self-reliance is a slippery surface on which to walk! When I rely only on myself, I can wind up in a heap of discouragement and disgust with the results of my rebellion. I'm so thankful that God forgives and restores - and that He has guided me to Sparkpeople who have provided some traction for getting up and moving forward!

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GABY1948 1/18/2013 9:09AM

    Barb, I relate totally! But I will say, emoticon , it takes us longer but it is a FACT. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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FROMNDTOGA 1/18/2013 9:01AM

    I have been in the STATES of "I don't care!" and "why try?" more times than I can count (and also in the state of hearing DH say "you can't lose it, so stop beating yourself up about it"). BUT I've discovered the STATES of "I DO CARE" and "I AM DOING" and I like me much better! Thanks for a great post.

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DEBRITA01 1/18/2013 8:49AM

    I understand the simple status "is"...some days there are no other words. Keep looking to your Higher Power for willingness (and I will, too). emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 1/18/2013 8:41AM

    I'm here to recognize: you "are". And we are so glad you "are" with all your wisdom and candour and ability to acknowledge: this is an eternal struggle. And never vanquished. Always the potential to leap out and bite us in the bum!!

You are. Magnificent would be the adjective that comes to mind.

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SLENDERELLA61 1/18/2013 8:32AM

    Oh, Barb. I feel for you. It is just so ongoing and unrelenting and forever and -- at least at times -- overwhelming. "It", of course, in this case is that desire to eat too much. Thanks for facing it and putting it out there. I was sitting here trying to decide if I wanted to face it or maybe blog about something more positive. There are positives. I ran yesterday. I'm going to do a 5K race tomorrow. I know in your situation, too, you could have focused on victory in another area, but you faced it head on. But the truth is I slipped last eve, too. But I'm back on it today. And I know you will find your willingness and if you aren't already eating your steel cut oats and berries or someother healthy, filling concoction, you will be soon.

A wise woman once told me that the key to maintenance is getting back on program quicker. Look that wise woman in the mirror. You can do it!!!

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EBEAMS 1/18/2013 8:13AM

    I am so with you on this. It is frustrating to be moving into the kitchen, picking up something that you really know you don't want to be eating but eating it anyway .... and not caring. The "fall down seven times, get up eight" is sometimes just the very best that we can hope for. The fact you keep getting up is a testament to how far you've come from the woman you used to be. She may lurk around in the corners of your life but she doesn't live there any more.

Thanks for sharing that! That was very brave!

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LEANJEAN6 1/18/2013 8:02AM

    Yes, ya gotta laff---and yu wouldn't be human if yu weren't tempted at times-----but--Yu always get back up----life can be tough in the most dreaded time of the yr--January-----Sometimes maybe its best to let it all hang out ---for a short time--then pick yerself up and carry on--LOL---Life IS-------LOL-------Anyway, I loves ya Barb!!!-Lynda emoticon

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VITCHY-VICKI 1/18/2013 7:57AM

send some of that my way some days I too ask for the willingness to keep going too and God will provide
take care kido

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MSLZZY 1/18/2013 7:49AM

    Isn't is amazing how quickly this can sneak up on you and threaten to ruin all your progress? Makes you wonder where it comes from and when it is going to leave. Hope it gets better soon! HUGS!

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KASEYCOFF 1/18/2013 7:35AM

    Myself, I went away with the faeries (never "fairies," with this idiom) and reflected on Firesign Theatre: "What is reality?" "Who cares?"

Ya gotta laff sometimes, Barb, ya gotta laff...

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Explaining those odd spots in the emotional scale...

Monday, January 14, 2013

Those of us who tend to "fret" at times need to meditate and pray, exercise, breathe... whatever... to get back to the place of calm.

Excitement can come from happy sources: anticipation of son's return. Saw him online as recently as yesterday morning, so I know he's not yet in transit. Happiness over them starting the process to purchase their first home. The house offer was countered and the counter accepted. emoticon

Anxiety can arise from the what-ifs, the fears of all the things that can go wrong: travel dangers, financial storms, etc.

Both show up, mixed together, and need to be dealt with: deep breath, put things beyond my control firmly in the "God box". I am not living my kids' lives... I am learning my own lessons.

And with that, I'm off to work on a Monday. Work is also a way of dealing with things that it *are* mine to influence!

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LEANJEAN6 1/17/2013 7:50AM

    Oh Gee Barb-------What would we do without Spark??----Ihave that Spark Ap too---just a kit of technology going on here right now---Mediate--I must get to that next--Lynda emoticon

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KOOKYKATHIE 1/16/2013 8:01PM

    EBEAMS I love your quote from Corrie Ten Boom. I remember her name from my past so I will have to look her up to be reminded what she did.

It's so hard to not worry about our children no matter what age they are.

emoticon for the God Box. emoticon emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 1/16/2013 8:06AM

    No-one needs to worry as I do it all--for everyone!!!

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LINDAKAY228 1/15/2013 6:19PM

    Good news about your son! I'm so happy for you. Joy and worry can both come at the same time and great job on finding ways to deal creatively and healthily with yours.

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BUGGYS 1/15/2013 11:46AM

    So glad to hear your son is on his way home and is buying his first house!!!

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    Yes. I need the daily reminder to let go of the worry and fretting too. I think on some subconscious level I am afraid that if I don't worry I don't care about the outcome. That I have to worry to keep them safe. On an intellectual level, I know that is complete nonsense. I suppose my faith isn't as strong as it should be. True faith doesn't worry about jinxing your kids life because you don't worry about them. Thank you for this blog and making me think this through. Today I will focus on what I CAN "influence."

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LEANJEAN6 1/15/2013 8:10AM

    We are in the same boat Barb!--re food-----and this boat is not going to sink--LOL----Hava good day--Lynda emoticon -

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MSLZZY 1/15/2013 7:39AM

    Thnaks for the mention of the "God box". I really
need to do this more. HUGS and best wished for
the day. You have much to be excited for.

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    Hoorah to you and family!

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DLDMIL 1/15/2013 12:20AM

    emoticon good for you.

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DOGLADY13 1/14/2013 9:29PM

    It was an eye-opener for me when I realized that good things can cause anxiety, too. I have often heard of the "God box." It's hard to not take things out of that box, though. As if we know better! Ha!

I hope your son returns home soon. Your love for him is beautiful to witness, even if it is over social media. I hope he knows how much your cherish him.

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EBEAMS 1/14/2013 9:00PM

    It IS hard not to try and live your kids' lives for them! So much of what we want to impart was learned the hard way and WE KNOW ... I tend to forget I had to live through my mistakes in order to appreciate the lesson I was intended to learn. I am delighted for you (and jumping up and down inside) that he is returning! Hip Hip Hurray! Everything will go exactly the way it is supposed to ... can't be any different! I like the saying "Worry doesn't empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength." ~Corrie Ten Boom.

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PATRICIAAK 1/14/2013 7:16PM

    Is your son's house going to be near yours?

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OPTIMIST1948 1/14/2013 7:08PM

    "A willingness to accept the things I cannot change"

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MJZHERE 1/14/2013 4:56PM

  I like that - the "God's box." I often have to remember to put my kids in there - all grown up He knows best how to take care of them.

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LJCANNON 1/14/2013 4:48PM

    emoticon What an Exciting Time for you all!!
Congratulations to Your Son's Family, and To YOU for Learning and Putting Into Action all the Things you have Learned about Stress and Dealing With It!!

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_LINDA 1/14/2013 2:54PM

    Two awesomes -new house for your son to come home to -win -win! Even though I don't have kids, I can still imagine the angst you are feeling until your only child finally arrives Stateside safe and sound. Sending positive thoughts!

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DALID414 1/14/2013 2:05PM

    I'm glad its Monday too, I need the work distraction.

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MIRAGE727 1/14/2013 12:50PM

    Thanks for sharing the enlightenment, Barb! I so enjoyed it!

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MEXGAL1 1/14/2013 12:42PM

    congrats on your son getting the house. that is so exciting.
Anxiety has many different faces....I am constantly working on ways to release anxiety and live in peace.
Have a terrific week.

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GABY1948 1/14/2013 12:19PM

    So glad son got the house he/they wanted. Great explanation on "fretting" etc. I understand because I am there with you! Have a great week!

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1CRAZYDOG 1/14/2013 10:05AM

    That's wonderful that the counter was accepted! Ah, the joys of home ownership! Congratulations ot DS and DIL.

Absolutely LOVE the God Box! That is such a visual for me. Wonderful!


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KASEYCOFF 1/14/2013 10:03AM

    Reading between the lines: glad to hear the house is going thru - double-glad to hear he's on his way back!

And yepper, I hear you about the potential for what can go wrong. Of course, hand-in-hand with that is the potential for what can go right.

And so we go on. You're a doll, Barb.

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DRB13_1 1/14/2013 9:56AM

    fear and excitement come from the same place, it's just the attitude toward the situation that differs

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SENATOR9 1/14/2013 9:39AM

    They got to make their own decisions

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NELLJONES 1/14/2013 9:22AM

    We all have enough to worry about with the real stuff. We don't need to make it up. Some people (like my mother) enjoy fretting, it gives them something to think about. I'd rather pass.

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SLENDERELLA61 1/14/2013 9:10AM

    That is great about their house! I love that my daughter has an awesome house. I didn't help her decorate it at all and she did so good I now want her to come decorate mine.

You are so right about the fretting. And that positive changes can intensify the anxiety, too. Changes can just be challenging. Waiting and anticipating good things and not so good things can be tought.

Wishing you calm, wishing you happy meditating and breathing and working and, of course, exercising. These days will pass and he will be here. Hang on.

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ANDI571 1/14/2013 8:54AM

    Amen! emoticon

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KALIGIRL 1/14/2013 8:52AM

    Even though you are dealing calmly with this - I am excited!

PS - love the "God box".

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WATERMELLEN 1/14/2013 8:32AM

    We parents of adult children need to be reminded over and over again (thank you): we are NOT living our kids' lives!

All the same . . . so exciting he's on his way home AND to the new house!!

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ANOTHERMOMOF2 1/14/2013 8:23AM

    Glad your son is well. Buying the 1st house is exciting. Hope you have a good day.

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ELRIDDICK 1/14/2013 7:57AM

  Thanks for sharing

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Transition from training plan to training plan...

Sunday, January 13, 2013

The Runkeeper training plan kicks in this week, with a 4-4-4-8 mile M-W-F-Sat. running schedule.

Sigh. This doesn't fit with the existing schedule (Galloway) I'd been working with... which has me doing 4 miles today, 30 minutes each Tuesday and Thursday, and 14 miles next Sunday. Well! Something is going to have to give, because doing both is NOT an option. Nor is not training. emoticon Fear not, I shall figure it out.

In other news, my daughter in law has been house hunting, and last night she took me through the one on the top of their list, and we are now waiting to see if an offer she made is going to be accepted, rejected, or countered. Swapped IM's with my son this morning.

So today I'm kind of a lady in waiting. Pacing on the treadmill! emoticon

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KALIGIRL 1/14/2013 9:00AM

    You Shall figure it out!
Walking this Sunday?

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LEANJEAN6 1/14/2013 7:07AM

    Pacing on the treadmill is good Barb-----Hava good week------Lynda emoticon

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MAGGIE101857 1/14/2013 7:01AM

    When I was in training for the Marathon emoticon I downloaded Jeff Galloway's marathon training program from ITunes. I also downloaded the Galloway Disney training program - even they were different! My older body needed the time in-between to heal, so I stuck with his program.

I'll have to check out the Runkeeper if and when I get the approval to run again. Let us know what you decide to do!

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_LINDA 1/14/2013 1:35AM

    The voice of reason from your brother and an interesting question from Slenderella :) A full out running program or one with walk breaks, or a combo of both when your body tells you what it feels like for that particular day. It will be interesting to see what you decide.
Wishing DIL luck on the house they want, hope they don't try to haggle it up too much.
Have a Marvelous Monday!

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MIRAGE727 1/13/2013 11:27PM

    I believe that whatever choice of plan you make, you will crush it, Barb! Whatever feels good to you! Stay strong!

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GYMRAT_AT44 1/13/2013 10:27PM

    I agree with OPTIMIST1948 - besides, I adjust my plans constantly on my suggested triathlon training... oh well.

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-SHOREIDO- 1/13/2013 9:49PM

    Keep moving Barb! It'll all line up. Good luck to u and yours! emoticon

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KARIDIAN1 1/13/2013 8:56PM

    Buying a house jitters. It took forever when we bought ours over 30 years ago. Hope it all works out for her.

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DOGLADY13 1/13/2013 8:50PM

    I love the image of pacing on the treadmill. What a great way to expend nervous energy.

No advice on runkeeper v galloway. I am looking forward to following your training program.

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WATERMELLEN 1/13/2013 7:06PM

    Lots of exciting stuff happening!! You will figure it out: and I'm often surprised at how decisions get made "on simmer" while I'm working out!

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1CRAZYDOG 1/13/2013 6:14PM

    Wishing your son and DIL all the best with the offer! It is indeed an anxious time . . . . waiting!


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MEXGAL1 1/13/2013 6:11PM

    I just know you will get it figured out.
best of everything.

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MOBYCARP 1/13/2013 4:37PM

    You have good analytical skills, you'll figure out which elements of the training plans are important and how to fit the important elements into your schedule.

I think very few of the canned training programs really work for someone who has work scheduled from 8 to 5 Monday through Friday. But once you determine what is essential and what is only nice to have, you can keep the essentials and get the training in that *you* need.

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RUN4FOOD 1/13/2013 3:00PM

    I find knowing what I want to do is very important. I seem to need time to think things through and develop a plan, especially the next steps I want to take.
Hope you figure out what you want to do soon.

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DALID414 1/13/2013 2:21PM

    I just caught on to the run keeper (I can't run til next week, fingers crossed) , but it makes me nervous to have a GPS tracker on. Like I'm going to be running with a stalker!

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MSLZZY 1/13/2013 2:10PM

    I am sure you'll find the right solution . Hope DIL's
offer is accepted. Hugs!

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PATRICIAAK 1/13/2013 1:54PM

    Try what works best to get you to the marathon goal.

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DLDMIL 1/13/2013 1:06PM

    We know you will figure it out. Congrats on the house for your son and DIL. Have a good week.

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SLENDERELLA61 1/13/2013 1:06PM

    Tell more about the Runkeeper program. Is that training for the Lincoln Marathon or for something else? What are the advantages?Where did you hear about it. I'm assuming it doesn't have walk breaks like Galloway, right?

Galloway worked great for me. I think it was the perfect program for me to use when I had had the experience of problems with injury and illness with repeated problems when running 9 miles. By reducing my intensity I completed the half marathon. However, I suspect that if I could train more intensely without injury I could go faster.

I am running a 5K once a week without walk breaks. I'm entering a 5K race this Saturday. I don't need walk breaks at that distance. I'm still running with my Galloway group mostly for fitness and social because I don't plan on running another half until Nov 20-2013.

I'm sure you'll figure out how to train. I really can't advise because I don't know enough!! And you are the best person to figure this out anyway!!

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DEBRITA01 1/13/2013 12:34PM

    Decisions, decisions...I know you'll figure what works best for you. Great news about the house...hope it works out for them! emoticon

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LESLIELENORE 1/13/2013 12:33PM

    If you don't like one go back to the other!

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NEW-CAZ 1/13/2013 12:33PM

    Keep going Barb!
Hope your DIL is sucessful!

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DRB13_1 1/13/2013 12:23PM

    fingers crossed on the house

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GABY1948 1/13/2013 12:18PM

    I know you can handle it, Barb, if anyone can!

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ROXYZMOM 1/13/2013 12:16PM

    Hmmmm...eenie, meenie, minie, mo!!

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KASEYCOFF 1/13/2013 11:45AM

    I hear you on the plan: I'm trying to revamp my schedule for non-training stuff and the blocks won't quite shuffle around the way I want 'em to. Yet.

Re the house: woo-HOO! New houses are always exciting adventures, thinks me. Is it near you? (Near enough for driving distance, far enough for in-laws-need-space, lol...)

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OPTIMIST1948 1/13/2013 11:00AM

    Give the Runkeeper a try. If it doesnt suit, you can always go back to Galloway. That's the nice thing about being an adult. You can make your own decisions.

Lood Guck on the house.

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Elite or egalitarian... can you be both?

Saturday, January 12, 2013

A couple of e-words have been bouncing around in my brain. This one is what came of the blog I put on the back burner back on New Year's eve.

One word is "elistism". It's bouncing around because of two things: First - the 5% who keep it off after losing significant weight. Second - the classification of the best of the best athletes as "elite". It started bounding about because of admitting to being a "success story" earlier this week and a growing awareness that I'm in the 120's at the first of the year for the third year running.

Does that make me part of an "elite group"? My little Websters says that "elistism" implies sensing oneself as part of an elite group. And just what is an elite group? On to the next definition: "1 the group or part of a group selected or regarded as the finest, best, most distinguished, most powerful, etc."

One could consider those who successfully maintain long-term as an elite group.

Then the rebel in me brings up the other word, one I hold dear: "egalitarian". Because I like to think of myself as an egalitarian. Normal. Like everybody. Americans especially want to hold this value dear: after all, it's part of our declaration of independence. It's patriotic to be an egalitarian.

But as I found when I scurried a few pages back in my Webster's: it may not mean what I thought it did! One can be both a member of the elite and an egalitarian. Because "egalitarian" is "1 advocating or characterized by the belief that all people should have equal political, social, and economic rights".

Whoa! It doesn't mean believing we are all equal and the same in our talents, abilities, or achievements! It means I believe everyone has the right to pursue to the best of what is in us, to reach for our goals and desires. We won't get into politics, here... in this blog we talk Spark-y things like weight loss, fitness, and a healthy life style.

As an egalitarian I have no secrets about how I have got from there to here. I believe everyone who wants it should have the right to pursue success. But there are no guarantees of equal results. I'm definitely NOT an elite athlete. Yet I aspire to be part of the elite of maintainers of a healthy weight following the size of loss I've had.

I prize the egalitarian attitude: you want it? You can go for it! And if you keep pursuing with the single minded focus of "this is saving my life"... you can do it.

You don't have to be an elitist to recognize that you're worth the effort. Because being worth the effort? That's part of the inalienable right to pursue happiness! And this is a very egalitarian concept.

Life is good... Spark on! emoticon

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MSLZZY 1/13/2013 9:09AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
Guess I'll be both!

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LEANJEAN6 1/13/2013 8:26AM

    Yes, I believe that you are both!!!--Fantastic thought eh??--- And I feel honoured to know you too----my IDOL!!--Look what you have accomplished girlfriend?-- emoticon

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    Interesting thoughts and words.
You are part of a community. Many communities. They are all elite, yes? Small (relative term) groups banded together because of common beliefs goals met or goals to be met
Or is it egalitarian?

Either way I think you are fun! emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 1/13/2013 2:43AM

    Interesting thoughts. I have a negative association with "elite" and had to go looking for translation to see why ( in swedish it is "elit") and both swedish and english wikipedia says that an elit is "A special group or social class of people which have a SUPERIOR"

I can´t deal with the superior thing. And although I admire you and respect your achievements I can´t say that I think you are better than me... just as if I achieved the same things would never call myself better that those who did not get there.

I have a big resistance to the word "elite",maybe that is something I have to work with because I think it is good to recognize people who do good with hard things. But elite...nah...

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KARIDIAN1 1/12/2013 10:14PM

    With the time and effort you have put into your training for your events- I would say you are an elite athlete.

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DLDMIL 1/12/2013 8:49PM

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_LINDA 1/12/2013 8:29PM

    Excellent epiphany! Great to be both!! Like the motto says Be all YOU can be! Your success and acheivements does not take away from anyone's else's. What is good on your scale may be totally different from someone else's.
Here is to the success of all people in their chosen goals!

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CELLISTA1 1/12/2013 8:05PM

    Excellent blog! I support your point of view. I am an egalitarian in the dictionary sense and also an elitist in the intellectual and musical sense. No need to apologize for that, right? Thanks for the important reminder: "This is saving my life." I need to keep that at the forefront.

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PATRICIAAK 1/12/2013 6:59PM

    I commend you on being both and putting it into words so well!

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RUN4FOOD 1/12/2013 5:57PM

    Equal opportunity, not equal outcomes.
We are responsible for what we do and how we perceive what we do.
If we do the work we own the results.
You are at elite at maintaining your weight. There is no question about that.

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SLENDERELLA61 1/12/2013 5:05PM

    Great blog!! Great truth here!! We have equal opportunity to pursue health and fitness.

And, truth be told, you are an elite 60 year old athlete in my book, Barb!! -Marsha

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LESLIELENORE 1/12/2013 3:00PM

    emoticon Well put!

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DOGLADY13 1/12/2013 2:20PM

    Huzzah! Well said, my dear, well said.

I hope I can join you in the elite weight loss maintainer crew.

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NEW-CAZ 1/12/2013 1:16PM

    Wonderful blog Barb! I never investigated these words as you have and I am so glad you did. You can be both! emoticon

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DRB13_1 1/12/2013 12:02PM

    may you be HAPPY (Loving kindness meditation)...

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EBEAMS 1/12/2013 11:53AM

    We all choose our path and have to put in the work to get from point A to point B. I would guess that you could claim both ... it normal for people with commitment and motivation to arrive at the top of the heap in whatever endeavor (another e word) they throw themselves into.

Keep that little Webster handy ... You need it to look up FABULOUS so you can see your glowing picture! emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 1/12/2013 10:15AM

    Equality of opportunity versus equality of outcomes . . . something has to happen in the middle, and there's no "right" to that, just a huge commitment to daily responsibility. Here in Canada we have a Charter of Rights . . . a good thing . . . but can be read in a morally vacuous manner if asserted without understanding that every right entails a reciprocal responsibility.

And as Aristotle said, part of what motivates us to sustain the extraordinary effort required to achieve our goals is recognition from others that we have done so. Pretty much a fact of human nature, I think . . .

Does that occur anywhere more visibily than in our bodies?? Hard to hide from anyone whether we are or are not self-disciplined enough to achieve fitness. If that makes us "elitist" . . . well, it's not an elitism that takes anything away from anyone else who has the same equality of opportunity.

Great blog, Barb.

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KASEYCOFF 1/12/2013 10:10AM

    If you want to, you can - you can pursue success, achieve your goals, and take pride in the accomplishment.

If it takes courage and determination to reach those goals, and the majority aren't willing to work for it or accept setbacks, if most people will give up before they reach the finish line, then those who DO stay the course will be a small percentage.

Isn't that what "the elite" are, in that case? Those who choose to persevere, to make the commitment and keep on trying until they succeed.

At the same time, believing everyone is capable of achieving their goals - well, that's a pretty egalitarian outlook, seems to me.

A long-winded way of saying - yes, Barb, I think you can be both. I think you are. You may be in an elite group in terms of the small percentage who reach the summits of their endeavors - but you are the first to extend a hand to others, to say "Let me help you, you can reach this goal."

I'm proud to know you, hon...

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DEBRITA01 1/12/2013 9:08AM

    I guess you are a part of an elite group of maintainers who believes in equality for A good blog, Barb and thoughts to ponder emoticon

Comment edited on: 1/12/2013 9:10:53 AM

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1CRAZYDOG 1/12/2013 9:02AM

    What a fantastic blog! I never truely thought about the difference in those two words, but how you can fit BOTH!

Congratulations on your maintenance! It's a trip, isn't it!


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