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Keeping the 26.2 dream alive...

Sunday, February 03, 2013

Despite all my being pulled in multiple directions, motivationally, I have not given up on the marathon distance. Today it was dark (at 7 a.m.), cold (20 F), and potentially had icy patches outdoors and I wimped to the extent of answering the call of my siren treadmill (I call her Ariel). emoticon

14.12 miles at varying speeds, final time including warm up and cool down was 170 minutes. And I feel good after stretching and showering. It's 91 days to the big event... if I can keep building distance... I still hold that hope / dream alive. And ... despite what I know the work scene is going to be like in the months ahead... running is still an incredible stress management tool.

Grocery shopping and Super Bowl ahead... although given the kickoff time and how long the games usually drag... I'm likely going to fall asleep before the game ends. Still, looking forward to putting my feet up and enjoying the coverage, secure in knowing "my workout is in the bag!"

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OVERWORKEDJANET 2/5/2013 6:04AM

    I enjoyed the Puppy Bowl instead.
More laughs, cute fuzzy things and no power glitches. Only potty breaks! emoticon

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KASEYCOFF 2/5/2013 3:33AM

    I envy your energy, sweetie - and your dedication!
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CASEYTALK 2/4/2013 3:21PM

    With your growning commitments at work, this will be tough, but you are tougher.

For me, when I schedule the exercise, it makes it in. You're right that it's easy to bag the workout and as marathon workouts are going to be long, endurance affairs, it's going to be essential when you're planning your week that you plan for those workouts.

I schedule workouts for MWF lunch hour at the workplace gym, and Saturday and Sunday at home in the morning. If I can't make a workout, I have to reschedule it, just as I would any professional meeting.

Something tells me that you and Ariel are going to be best friends or dire enemies before long. Best friends, more likely.

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MEXGAL1 2/4/2013 10:00AM

    Keep warm.
Hope you enjoyed the super bowl.
Have a terrific week.
Sallie

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KALIGIRL 2/4/2013 8:45AM

    Here's to a 'super' workout!

Way to balance life my friend.
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LEANJEAN6 2/4/2013 8:11AM

    Wow! Lotza miles put in Barb!----And son#2 the [pilot just called-is back ib Toronto--just stopped in Montreal to refuel--then had to take all those passsengers back to Toronto---got to his bed at 1-30am after a long flight which started at 6-11pm---Thanks for your comments---Lordy! I do hope this weight budges soon---Lynda emoticon

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ANOTHERMOMOF2 2/4/2013 7:59AM

    Good for you on getting your mileage in!

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PATRICIAAK 2/3/2013 11:47PM

    Enjoy your positivity

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DETERMINEDLOSER 2/3/2013 10:14PM

    What a postivie outlook on things. I think you made the right choice by exercising on your treadmill and steering clear of the ice. You are doing great and I love to hear your progress! WTG!

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LJCANNON 2/3/2013 8:15PM

    emoticon Having the Workout "In The Bag" is an AWESOME Feeling for You!!

emoticon And knowing that YOU are SAFE is an AWESOME Feeling for all of us!! So glad that you made the Safe Choice!!

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WATERMELLEN 2/3/2013 5:26PM

    Good decision: you do NOT want to injure yourself slipping on that ice!! And you're building distance/reducing stress!

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BROOKLYN_BORN 2/3/2013 5:13PM

    You made the right choice. A slip on the ice and it would have been quite a setback. I agree with the post that if you can do that distance on the tm, outside will be a cinch. Good for you!

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_LINDA 2/3/2013 3:46PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
So glad you haven't given up on the emoticon and emoticon
Its not being wimpy to play it safe and not go out in potentially dangerous weather. You so cannot afford any injuries when its so close!!
What an amazing strength of character to take this race on while facing a big bomb at work! You are one of a kind!
Rock Star!

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ROXYZMOM 2/3/2013 3:33PM

    Wow! 14 miles on a treadmill! Good for you! I am excited for you! You are going to do this!!

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1CRAZYDOG 2/3/2013 2:49PM

    You did one awesome job, Barb!!! Keep pushin' ! HUGS

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AMARILYNH 2/3/2013 2:38PM

    You can do it!! Running over 14 miles on the treadmill???? That takes WILLPOWER!! Running the same distance outside would be a breeze!! YOU CAN DO IT!!

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DEBRITA01 2/3/2013 2:24PM

    Awesome workout...keep your dream alive! emoticon emoticon

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MSLZZY 2/3/2013 2:17PM

    You got it done early and now have the rest of the
day to devote to YOU! WTG!

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LESLIELENORE 2/3/2013 1:59PM

    Woohoo! I really want a treadmill of my own, but went outside to walk this morning. It was definitely bracing!

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DLDMIL 2/3/2013 1:50PM

    emoticon emoticon Barb. I am not a football fan, but I did get up and get my 5k in this morning. I may even do it again later this afternoon. emoticon emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 2/3/2013 1:47PM

    Great workout!! Great plan!!! I see you ... nearing the 26.2 finish line in May, right?? Glad you are keeping your dream alive ... and working to make it a dream come true!!

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SUNNYSIDEUPMARY 2/3/2013 1:45PM

    Good for you! I like your attitude!

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OPTIMIST1948 2/3/2013 1:44PM

    I've been a woosy pants about running outside since wint er has kicked into full gear. Way to go! Keep the dream!

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Gratitude

Saturday, February 02, 2013

It is Saturday. My son had called me Thursday after I got home from work to talk about when to pick up his car. His wife goes back to work on Monday, and he needed it by then.

I selfishly suggested the weekend, when I might have a crack at being awake and rested when he did. So today, after my morning appointment, I called and woke him up. He had instructed me to call when I got home, and he was honestly surprised he had been able to sleep that late. He's still adjusting time zones.

He said "I'll call you back in 20 minutes" and after he'd awakened a bit more, did so. We went out to brunch together. I had a two egg white, low-fat cheese omelet, he had the full test version. We then came back to my house where he continued with tales of his past year... and thoughts of what's next... and his obviously maturing thought process in decision making.

We went for a walk in the neighborhood, and eventually got back to the business at hand, which was starting his car (it behaved like a champ, considering it's been sitting in my garage with minimal exercise for nearly a year), and sending him off to go home to his wife and his life. The visit left me soul-filled and grateful. He's home. He's intact not just physically, but seems to be adjusting well emotionally and mentally as well to coming home.

And after this past couple of weeks, you can all imagine me heaving this huge sigh of relief. Time to keep putting one foot in front of the next, keep on keeping on... because life is good.

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LJCANNON 2/4/2013 5:50PM

    emoticon emoticon Wonderful News!!!
Congratulations on the Homecoming & Hugs!!

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KALIGIRL 2/4/2013 8:52AM

    Wonderful!

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RONNIEHUEY 2/4/2013 1:18AM

    emoticon he's home safe and sound.Bless him and all our service children/We wouldn't be free with out them emoticon

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MEXGAL1 2/3/2013 10:49AM

    woo hoo....so glad your son is doing so well.
Have a terrific Sunday.

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OVERWORKEDJANET 2/3/2013 10:04AM

    Le'sigh

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LEANJEAN6 2/3/2013 9:46AM

    oh Barb-so good to have yer son#1 home----Life is truly good!-Lynda emoticon

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CONCHA77 2/3/2013 8:30AM

    Sounds Perfect!

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-STARRYEYED- 2/3/2013 8:22AM

    emoticon I am happy to hear DS is adjusting after deployment. Yay!

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GABY1948 2/3/2013 8:20AM

    Life IS good! So glad your son is home and that is one concern off your plate! Have a GREAT Sunday!

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ROXYZMOM 2/3/2013 8:10AM

    That is awesome! I love the sound of "peace" in your blog.

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_LINDA 2/3/2013 12:40AM

    So very glad your precious boy is of sound mind and body and safe on home soil once again. Enjoy his safety and proximity and finally relax and rest easy.
Life is Gratitude -I am thankful for those who gave it to me and for those who are keeping it safe!

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KARIDIAN1 2/2/2013 9:24PM

    Sounds like a wonderful time spent with your son. Your right, life is good.

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1CRAZYDOG 2/2/2013 8:05PM

    Smiling from ear-to-ear sharing your joy that your son is home! That's wonderful that you got to spend time w/him. Gratitude: that one word really does sum it all up!

HUGS and do thank your son for his service. Hugs and prayers for all our soldiers and families.

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ANDI571 2/2/2013 7:57PM

    I'm so happy for you Barb. I can only imagine the relief you are feeling. emoticon

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MOBYCARP 2/2/2013 7:31PM

    This is truly something to be grateful for! I'm glad he is not only back, but adjusting well to civilian life.

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DETERMINEDLOSER 2/2/2013 7:29PM

    So, glad to hear that your son is back safe and sound.

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WATERMELLEN 2/2/2013 7:03PM

    Perfect! It's not just physical survival we want for our kids . . . but their emotional survival, their psychic survival and their positive flourishing and maturing and . . . all of that.

And now you know. He's OK.

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MIRAGE727 2/2/2013 6:13PM

    Excellent, please thank him for his service from Darren & me! I'm so glad he's back.
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DLDMIL 2/2/2013 6:04PM

    You should be very proud of him. You can now relax and enjoy the precious moments that you get to spend with him. So thankful that he seem intact all the way around. Have a great weekend. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LESLIELENORE 2/2/2013 6:00PM

    emoticon Sounds like a wonderful day!

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MNTWINSGAL 2/2/2013 5:39PM

    You are such a great mom. For me it takes every ounce of will power I possess to not want my son all to myself when I know in my heart that his wife must come first. I need to take a page out of your book!

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SLENDERELLA61 2/2/2013 5:27PM

    Gratitude is the perfect word for "his obviously maturing thought process" and "adjusting well emotionally and mentally ... to coming home". What else could "One Kid's Mom" want??

Beautiful blog! I'm so glad you are through those tough weeks. I'm sure your emotions are still very high over everything, but now I know without a doubt you are handling it very well. Good for you!!

As always, I appreciate your support on my blogs as well. -Marsha

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MSLZZY 2/2/2013 5:24PM

    Savor every moment. You have survived another
test of courage and patience WITH courage and
patience. I can feel the relief in each word. Now
you can go forward with life as it comes, knowing
DS is home and safe. HUGS!

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HEALTHY4ME 2/2/2013 5:19PM

    I feel as if he is my own. I too am so thankful he is home, he is fine mentally as well as physically. HUGS to you and your family.

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PATRICIAAK 2/2/2013 5:19PM

    wonderful. I cherish times likr that.

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Diving in... no, wait... wading in.

Friday, February 01, 2013

I went back to work yesterday. It's not as though I did not know this was coming up, but suddenly, it's here. The next big project is about to kick off. I will have a key role in it. That's what they always say to everybody, because there is a lot of work to do and a short time to do it in.

It will consume the organization for the next year. It will have a bunch of oversight at a level that will probably keep a lot of pressure on all of us.

What the heck does that have to do with Spark? Well, as many folks know, a mentally challenging, absorbing, yet sedentary job can suck the energy right out of you! Overtime in such a capacity, even more so. This leads to "bagging the workout" and collapsing on the couch... if one lets it.

Seriously, this kind of work scenario while trying to train for a marathon? Not my dream... my nightmare. Because it's hard to keep the balance.

Nevertheless, rather than immediately "bag" the marathon (remember I still have the option to drop back to a half), I need to meditate and pray and seek guidance and balance. My goals are important to me. My health is important to me. Health, even more important than my work. I believe I am a better worker when I keep my balance.

So my pep talk to myself is in the title... yes, there is a lot of work. Yes, it is a short time from now 'til January 2014 (in my line of work it is truer than you'd think - 11 months can fly by). But it will do NO ONE any good if I throw myself so deeply into the front of the race that I lose steam (or keel over from stress / inactivity induced health issues).

So... WADE in... assess. Plan. Keep your balance, Barb. Listen to your body, and know when it needs to be active and let the mind run free. For sure make good, sound, nutritious food choices. And hydrate... in short, take care of the body, where the mind lives. Don't try to force things. A fresh mission at work is ONE part of LIFE, which is good.

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OVERWORKEDJANET 2/2/2013 9:07AM

    Yep, what you said.


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LEANJEAN6 2/2/2013 8:09AM

    Wading is good Barb--Don't jump in-------Lynda

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_LINDA 2/2/2013 12:43AM

    Yikes! Nothing like work overload and stress!!! Exercise is a great stress reliever but doesn't do any good if you are too exhausted to do it :( Here is hoping you are able to find some kind of balance and can keep up with your program. A full Marathon is maybe asking just a little too much of you during this time...It will interesting to see how you 'run' with this! As always, a great inspiration, I am sure, what ever solution you find!

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PATRICIAAK 2/2/2013 12:29AM

    I've been out of balance in Jan.
New month, new resolve.
Your blog hit the spot!
Thanks.

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KARIDIAN1 2/1/2013 9:23PM

    Wading in sounds better than jumping in the deep end right off the bat. I have a sedentary job also and seems things from corporate never end. Would love to have a breather for a change, or be able to finish one thign before the next promotion starts.

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WATERMELLEN 2/1/2013 8:23PM

    Love my job . . . and like you try to keep it in balance with all the rest of my life. Life is better with meaningful work: work is better with a meaningful life!!

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DLDMIL 2/1/2013 3:32PM

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LESLIELENORE 2/1/2013 1:47PM

    Balance and moderation are two difficult nuts I need to focus on cracking.

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SLENDERELLA61 2/1/2013 1:21PM

    What a great pep talk!! Balance, Barb. You are absolutely right.

I wonder now if I was working if I could manage a more balanced approach. I always found myself way overfocused on work. I did lose a lot of weight while working, but I didn't really learn maintenance until I was a part time worker and then retired.

I admire your commitment to balance your life with work and fitness. You can do it!!

Hey, where is the picture of the mommy hugs? Just too personal? If so, that's fine, but I'd love to see you just where you ought to be, hugging on your son and him hugging you!! So glad he is back. Perhaps he can be part of the way to help balance your life and work.

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KALIGIRL 2/1/2013 11:40AM

    Well said - balance is the key - as is maintaining your health (both @ and outside of work).
Namaste my friend.

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1CRAZYDOG 2/1/2013 11:30AM

    Such an excellent blog! We definitely do have to weigh our options . . . always . . . and change up our options as time goes on . . . . if needed.

HUGS and good luck!!

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MNTWINSGAL 2/1/2013 10:51AM

    I remember those days of work deadlines.....I hate to say it, but yes.....fondly. But I know how stressful it can be on your mind and body, and this is a long period of time, even though it won't feel like it. So please be kind to yourself, but also strict with yourself in staying the course. Come marathon time, you'll be glad you did!

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EBEAMS 2/1/2013 9:55AM

    You are totally on the right track ... and you are right about time. I've told two people in the last couple of days "Christmas is 10 months and 3 weeks away". It helps me keep in mind that time really does fly by ... and things don't actually "sneak up" on us. Often we just chose to ignore what we don't want to deal with because we don't have the time, energy or desire to engage in the work it takes to accomplish a task. You, though, you've got that basic foundation firmly in place that gives you the ability to recognize YOU have to come first ... your eating, your mental health, your physical health ... knowing that NO ONE else can do that for you. What we often sacrifice for the "organization" is often more than we can really afford to give up if you look at it from the "me" angle instead of the "them" angle. Good thought process ... good plan ... emoticon

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NELLJONES 2/1/2013 8:53AM

    I hate to tell you but 11 months flying by happens to us all no matter what we do, as we get older. I'm still trying to figure out where the last 20 years went.

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GABY1948 2/1/2013 8:40AM

    emoticon blog...and you got the answer right on the nose..."meditate (on the Word), pray, and seek Wisdom! You will be victorious, Barb... emoticon

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DEBRITA01 2/1/2013 8:24AM

    Continue to take it one day at a time....remembering your line in the sand. emoticon

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MSLZZY 2/1/2013 7:45AM

    Dig in deep and don't give in to the pressure.
Keep your balance. Focus on what needs to be done.
First things first. Losing your health will only make
it harder.

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ROXYZMOM 2/1/2013 7:27AM

    I think that it is great that you have the marathon goal during this time. It will keep your health on your mind and not allow you to go into a health "slump".

Good for you!!

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RUN4FOOD 2/1/2013 7:26AM

    Good luck in staying active and eating well while needing to be focused on a work project. Keep those priorities in order.

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MAGGIE101857 2/1/2013 7:15AM

    Good advice - we all have the tendency to rush in like fools! I like the concept of wading in emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon much better!!!

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Let's just pause a moment

Thursday, January 31, 2013

Folks who are reading over my shoulder are probably saying, "what do you mean pause... you've been at this life-stopped point for a week". And that would be true. Even though I have kept being active and eating healthy, the magnitude of the changes in the past week have truly kind of stopped the calendar in its tracks. I woke up to the Sports station talking about the upcoming Super Bowl and kind of said, "when did THAT sneak up?"

I'm about to step back onto the merry-go-round of "normal", as I head back to work today after taking my pause. The subject line is my pep talk reminder to breathe, contemplate and appreciate, every day, not try to "catch up" because I've been gone for a few.

Yesterday noon at the funeral lunch, my son accused me of "looking at me funny". His cousin nailed it, "She just can't believe you're really here." Yep, that's it... I'm so relieved he's home I could sing. It got all jumbled up by the coincidence of time stopping to say good-bye to his aunt, but now that we are past all the official ceremony... for me, it is time to relish his being here.

I expect over the next few days he'll drop over to visit and collect his car (it's been sitting in my garage since he left). And I will cherish every hug, as I have the ones I've gathered so far.

For now, the healthy habits hold... lunch packed, healthy breakfast consumed, determination to take the break walks in place. It shall be a good day.

Because LIFE is good. Now let's all go LIVE it. Spark on! emoticon

  
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WATERMELLEN 2/1/2013 8:20PM

    Such joy! After such pain, and such worry . . . Pause and enjoy every moment of it.

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OVERWORKEDJANET 2/1/2013 5:31AM

    Definately a difference between stop and pause.

Take a deep breath and plunge back in.

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MOBYCARP 1/31/2013 8:56PM

    I'm glad Sgt. Nephew made it back, safe and sound. He'll just have to put up with funny Mom looks from time to time; it comes with having a mom who cares.

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KARIDIAN1 1/31/2013 8:50PM

    I understand. Life just felt like it went on pause after my mammograms last week. Yesterday finding out everything was okay and no biopsy was needed on Wednesday just made me stop and appreciate everything.

Am taking Saturday off to spend the day with hubby. Just thought some us time would be nice for a change.

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PATRICIAAK 1/31/2013 8:14PM

    Super pause

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GABY1948 1/31/2013 6:49PM

    You are so right...let's all go LIVE it! I am so glad you are back in the swing of things again...and a son coming home is SURE to do that! GO! Girl!

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MSLZZY 1/31/2013 2:46PM

    Sometimes moms just can't get enough looking, especially after long and stressful absenses beyond our control. Soak up every detail! You are so
grateful to have him home and so blessed. HUGS!

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LESLIELENORE 1/31/2013 12:16PM

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DLDMIL 1/31/2013 11:24AM

    It is that look of "when did you change" look. It is hard to figure out exactly what has changed, but they have. I still do that to my son and he has been home for over a year. Hang in there and pause when you need to. Glad to hear that you made it through yesterday and that you are back to work and moving forward. Hugs and prayers.

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SHESMITH1 1/31/2013 11:18AM

    As always, you are so inspirational. I think you have this "living thing" down! You know how to care for yourself no matter what life throws your way.

I trust that the days ahead will be as filled with joy as the days behind were filled with sadness.

God bless you~

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LJCANNON 1/31/2013 10:20AM

    emoticon Thank Your Son For his Service & Sacrifice for all of us. And Thank YOU for sharing Your Journey - Including The Pauses! - with all of us!

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CASEYTALK 1/31/2013 9:59AM

    He's home he's home he's home he's home! Of COURSE you're looking at him every moment you can because you can't always just look over and see him and you're enjoying it while you can.

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1CRAZYDOG 1/31/2013 9:27AM

    so happy he's home. there really is no other greater feeling of joy!

HUGS

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ANDI571 1/31/2013 9:22AM

    I am so glad your son is home, and what good timing. Enjoy those hugs! emoticon

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4DOGNIGHT 1/31/2013 9:17AM

    Enjoy your son and his family as you move on from this sad event.

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HEALTHY4ME 1/31/2013 9:13AM

    I am so so so happy, relieved, just content for you that your son is home safe. Enjoy him. Tomorrow my son will be 35. Where does the time go!

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AMSPARKER 1/31/2013 9:03AM

    I have been reading and follownig every one of your blogs, not doing so good with the comments, but Barb, please know that I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU THAT YOUR SON IS HOME! ENJOY HIM! And continue to take care of yourself!

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LEANJEAN6 1/31/2013 8:34AM

    Oh Barb!!--He is home!!!!--No wonder you are just looking at him!!!--So nice for yu!!!----Hug him from me too!!! And thank him for serving for us too!!----You deserve that "pause""----Lynda emoticon

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RUN4FOOD 1/31/2013 8:12AM

    Carpe Diem! Enjoy your son being home and getting somewhat back to normal.

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SLENDERELLA61 1/31/2013 8:07AM

    I'm so happy for you to have your son home. Glorious joy!! Embrace him; embrace the experience. You are right there. Love that you are breathing and taking a few minutes to appreciate and know where you are. Very good that you are mindful that you don't have to catch up all at once, but should ease back into work, with your lunch packed and your break walks scheduled. You are doing great! You should be so proud of yourself to come through this most challenging time with your motivation for healthy living in tact and still a top priority!!

Again, thanks for responding to Borobabe. Her son is about to go to Afghanistan and she does not totally have her healthy lifestyle in place yet. That's a challenge I'm sure you understand.

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KALIGIRL 1/31/2013 8:02AM

    "breathe, contemplate and appreciate, every day" - Can't do much better than that!

So glad you are starting on a new chapter in your journey of 'normal' - starting with your precious son home. It will be glorious as you are right - Life is GOOD!
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Tuesday was a full day - glad I bagged work

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

So after my "ex" vent yesterday, I went out on foot in the chilly damp morning to find a flower shop, because I wanted to see the physical blossoms I was ordering in ex and son's names. And it gave me a nice 3.44 mile walk in weather that was "bracing". Sometimes bracing is good. Heck, almost always bracing is good.

Then it was a day of waiting on the airlines, watching the flight schedules and alerts, and that mixed emotions hug at the airport. So relieved son is home! One last hug in the garage, sending him off with his wife for their own homecoming... I think I saw her turn the car toward the house they are buying for a drive by on their way home.

He was so exuberant on that last hug, though, he showed off, by lifting his mom off her feet. It's an odd feeling, being picked up by your offspring. But he's young and strong. And home.

Ex called about an hour later because he was fretting over the weather and flight delays, too. NOW it's hitting him that he's not going to be there. He said he didn't think he could take seeing her empty house. Sigh.

Later in the evening Son called to make arrangements for us to go to this morning's funeral as a three-some. So I went to bed in the comfort of knowing that whatever the weather was going to do, we had a plan.

This morning, clear off then get over to the kids' apartment in a few hours, and we shall proceed to the church. I had to snap a picture of God's laughter, or "today's workout is sponsored by Mother Nature":



Public and catholic schools are closed, but I don't think that applies to funerals. So... this weather wimp had best get her rear in gear and get that driveway cleared. Judging from the neighbor's drive half handled, we're talking about four inches, kind of wet and heavy... very pretty. And a workout.

Live today, TODAY, in the moment. Spark on! emoticon

  
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LJCANNON 1/31/2013 12:50AM

    emoticon So happy for you that Your Son is there with you. I feel terrible about the Snow and the Pre Funeral Workout, though!!
What a blessing it is that you were able to get out and walk over 3 miles in the midst of all you are going thru!! Those Endorphins better be doing their Job, making things a Little Easier.

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KARIDIAN1 1/30/2013 9:59PM

    Your photo looks like it was here on Sunday evening when we plowed all the driveways. Glad your son is home and all is well.

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OVERWORKEDJANET 1/30/2013 8:33PM

    My, my what ups and downs.
Enjoy the return and embrace the farewell

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RUN4FOOD 1/30/2013 7:55PM

    Hope you day is good, even with the snow.

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DLDMIL 1/30/2013 7:25PM

    So glad that your son was able to make it home early. Prayers and hugs continue for your family.

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OPTIMIST1948 1/30/2013 6:35PM

    Alpha and omega

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LESLIELENORE 1/30/2013 6:14PM

    So wonderful that your son is home! That picture is beautiful... as long as it isn't where I am.

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PATRICIAAK 1/30/2013 5:52PM

    Glad your son is home safe.
Sending condolences

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_LINDA 1/30/2013 4:41PM

    How wonderful you finally got that long awaited hug!!! Thats a good idea to go all together when the weather is like that.. That photo is like a picture postcard -very beautiful actually!!
Thoughts are with you..


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SLENDERELLA61 1/30/2013 3:56PM

    So glad he is HOME!!! You got your mommy hugs! Hooray! Can't be anything better. Live life! Be joyous in this day -- whatever day you find yourself in. (It's 80+ degrees here.) Again, congrats on the son being home. There will be some grieving in there, too, but embrace the joy!! You made it!!! -Marsha

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KALIGIRL 1/30/2013 1:45PM

    So glad he's home and most of the family will attend the funeral - blessings Barb, blessings.

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FROMNDTOGA 1/30/2013 1:04PM

    Wonderful your son is home! Praying for you today.
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HEALTHY4ME 1/30/2013 11:45AM

    So thankful that your son is home safe and sound. Love those hugs don't you? I find my sons hugs are so fullfilling for some reason, more so than my daughters. Not that I don't love them both, as she would say yea you love him more lol

Hope you all made it safe and sound to the service and it gave you some closure and memories.

HUGS

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MNTWINSGAL 1/30/2013 10:22AM

    Tears sprang to my eyes when you were describing your hug with your son....tears of happiness for you, and tears of longing for me...it's been too long since I've been with Jeff, and I miss him so. But I feel your joy --I guess in a way I am living vicariously through you.

Today will be emotional, but you are strong. And bless your wonderful son for being there for you. It's so much nicer being part of a threesome instead of going solo.

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MEXGAL1 1/30/2013 9:45AM

    thoughts and prayers

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DEBRITA01 1/30/2013 9:29AM

    Glad you have your son & DIL there for support during a difficult time. You have a lot to process lately...bittersweet, I'm sure. Thinking of you and sending emoticon

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GABY1948 1/30/2013 9:18AM

    I love your attitude. And SO glad your son is home...and relieved FOR you! emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 1/30/2013 8:50AM

    OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG! HE'S HOME! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

I am so glad that you will be able to attend the funeral with your son and DIL. Prayers work!

Yup . . . Mother Nature is definitely providing work out opportunities here too. Oh well. Winter . . . not surprised!

Prayers and many, many hugs, Barb. So happy for you!

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MAGGIE101857 1/30/2013 7:29AM

    Sending you lots of hugs as you go through this difficult time. So happy your son make it home!!! Enjoy your time together!!!

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JSTETSER 1/30/2013 7:20AM

    We have a 2 hour delay in Hillsborough, NH. I'll be heading off to teach in a few minutes.
Have a great day!


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WATERMELLEN 1/30/2013 7:20AM

    Love that "today's workout sponson" line!! So amazing that your son can lift you off your feet!! I'm just thinking of the amount of regret your ex must experience in his life about so many things . . . . and thinking about what "he" can bear (i.e. tolerate the burden of) rather than what he can bear (i.e. share the burden on others of . . . ). We attend funerals to show respect for the deceased but primaily loving sympathy for the living. Our silent presence says it all. Surely it would have helped your son to have his father "manning up" and showing up. However, looks like your son has figured out how to "man up" somewhere else, somehow!

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