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Celebrating streaks ONE day long

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Seriously, sometimes that's the bootstrap level one is at. Where making it through ONE day is celebration worthy. This morning, I updated my weight on Spark. That was my way of recognizing the reality of what's been happening in my world for the past month to six weeks.

I've had some serious attitude issues. Rebellion, anger, sadness, grouchies, guilt... oh, yeah... the self-sabotage was present.

Over this past weekend I managed to pull off a total of 7.88 miles, in little segments on the treadmill on Sunday... then I ate well over my range the tail of the day AND on Monday. Today, I looked at the number on the scale. And remembered that my "skinny" jeans were feeling snug on jeans day last week.

There are many keys to maintenance, but among them has to be recognition of a slip and actually DOING something about it. So I reset my Spark goal to re-lose this re-gain in the next 10 weeks, leading up to the Lincoln Marathon. Whether I do it as a half emoticon or not.

I pulled up my running shorts and signed on for the State Farm 10 mile. I will NOT sabotage beyond dropping back to the emoticon half marathon distance. And I will NOT injure myself. Allowing myself to continue eating junk is the path to injury... because extra pounds on the knees and ankles... NOT GOOD.

So... that's my pep talk for tonight... fed by the endorphins of ONE good day... today. May this fuel another, tomorrow!

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_LINDA 3/1/2013 2:03AM

    That is a very powerful tool, to be able to recognize you are in a slide and have the mental capacity to put the breaks on.
You are so mentally strong. You have got this!
Way to go signing up for the State Farm emoticon

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CASEYTALK 2/27/2013 8:33PM

    Every streak begins as a streak of one. You can't get where you are going if you don't take that first step.


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ANDI571 2/27/2013 7:25PM

    I'm 9 pounds up from this time last year. I've slipped, now to do something about it. I have finally gotten exercise in my head, now to get the good eating habits to join in.

We can do it, one day at a time! emoticon

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LINDAKAY228 2/27/2013 5:17PM

    I know what you mean. One day at a time is sometimes all I can pull together too.

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BBECKER1955 2/27/2013 5:16PM

    A streak is just one day after another. And you just got the first one!

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LESLIELENORE 2/27/2013 5:14PM

    One day at a time is an important concept!

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MOBYCARP 2/27/2013 5:07PM

    That's good for today. And tomorrow is another day to get through, one day at a time.

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KARIDIAN1 2/27/2013 4:35PM

    Sounds like a great day and good plan.

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1CRAZYDOG 2/27/2013 12:11PM

    Good job, Barb!!! No matter how many times we fall, the most important thing is getting back up! You're doing it. HUGS HUGS HUGS

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MEXGAL1 2/27/2013 10:40AM

    hope the fuel continues to help you have a terrific day today!

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MIZCATHI 2/27/2013 9:18AM

    We are human, no? And we can all do something about improving our situation if we are awake for it.

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KALIGIRL 2/27/2013 8:33AM

    Here's to your GOOD day!

So sorry for the stress the work project is adding + I can't imagine the disruption to your life with your SIL's passing and DS home.

I was commenting on CL's blog that life is full of serendipity and the snow (or lack thereof) has 'made' me change so many plans that I may finally be getting the message...

One GOOD day @ a time...

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WATERMELLEN 2/27/2013 8:25AM

    Junk food in celebration. Junk food in sorrow. Junk food in boredom. Junk food in joy. Basically in sickness and in health and so long as we both shall live (yup: shortened life span for junk food consumers and thus reduced profits for junk food manufacturers might be the only motivation they'll have to reduce the addictive power of junk foods).

But: you are strong and determined. You have dealt, can deal, will deal.

I'm all for celebrating those short streaks: sometimes 10 minutes is a significant streak, actually!

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LEANJEAN6 2/27/2013 8:11AM

    You can do this------Blame it on yer son returning home--LOL--But---I know you will get back on track--You are trooper!----Lynda emoticon

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CELIAMINER 2/27/2013 8:10AM

    Great determination! I need to learn from your example and keep reminding myself "one day at a time." Sometimes it's even "one hour at a time."

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MIRAGE727 2/27/2013 8:07AM

    Strong, Barb, very strong!
I feed on positive thinking! Thanks for sharing and keeping it real!

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ROXYZMOM 2/27/2013 7:44AM

    Nice pep talk! Thanks!

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JANEMARIE77 2/27/2013 7:34AM

    woohoo way to go
this phrase says it all great job moving forward

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    Yep, sometime the bear eats you.
Get a good noghts sleep and ponder a new day.

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DEBRITA01 2/27/2013 6:28AM

    Cheers to one good day and a continued streak. I'm right there with you! emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 2/27/2013 4:00AM

    CONGRATS on one great day!! May it be followed by many, many more! The first day back on track is often the hardest. You are doing it now; keep it up!! I'm with you. Been experiencing a little rebellion and fatigue myself. Time to redouble efforts!! We can do it. Signing up for the 10 mile is great!! Dropping back to the half marathon sounds like a smart, smart idea to me. Hope that is challenging enough to keep your competitive juices flowing!!
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LJCANNON 2/27/2013 12:32AM

    emoticon "You can't change what you don't acknowledge." I think maybe Dr Phil said that? Well, you have acknowledged it, put a Plan in place, and Addressed the Possible Attempted Interference by the Spoiled 2 Year Old that lives in your Sub Conscious (at least I have one! I assume all of us have the Little Voice/Brat in our Heads?)
emoticon You have this!!

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KARRENLYNN 2/26/2013 11:49PM

    I think we all stumble. I think you're on the right track.

Have a great week,


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DALID414 2/26/2013 11:42PM

    emoticon Barb. I've been struggling with myself too (serious attitude issues). Thanks for your honesty, I feel a bit more human.

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DLDMIL 2/26/2013 11:39PM

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MNTWINSGAL 2/26/2013 11:20PM

    You are human too, Barb. But you are now back on track, and with very little damage done. Think of the "old Barb," and what she would let a little backslide do to her. Then congratulate yourself on kicking her and her attitude to the curb!

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PATRICIAAK 2/26/2013 10:57PM

    Recognition is the first step to success.

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MSLZZY 2/26/2013 10:53PM

    If anyone can get it done, it is you! Keep pushing! HUGS!

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LANAHAUTH21 2/26/2013 10:49PM

  Good luck for tomorrow. A day at a time.

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Made it through today!

Saturday, February 23, 2013

I was starting down a dangerous path (with food) around mid-morning when my son called and suggested a visit. He brought over the Batman trilogy and the first season of Game of Thrones on DVD and the last tome of the Wheel of Time series book (hardcover). Oh, and some decaffeinated coffee he bought "by accident" not realizing it was decaf. LOL.

We have entered the phase of kids giving mom stuff! In any case, having a visit with son, going for a walk "to see how well the walks in the neighborhood have been cleared", as well as just getting through the week... set me up to finish the day well. Walked about an hour on the treadmill... OK, I maybe jogged about ten minutes off and on in that hour. But the important thing is I *did it*.

One decision at a time, folks. Remembering what is truly important - health. Gotta take care of the body so it's the great place to live it has become... and the habits I've been working so hard to establish... stay "normal".

Here's to the new normal. The Spark normal. Supported by logic and supported by Spark! Spark on! emoticon

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    Good choice-Health!

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BOOKAPHILE 2/24/2013 9:38PM

    One decision at a time is all any of us can move forward. Here's to your "Spark normal." I can hardly wait to figure out mine in the coming weeks after I reach my goal.

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DOGLADY13 2/24/2013 9:14PM

    Sounds like today was a victory, even if it included decaf coffee.

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LESLIELENORE 2/24/2013 7:17PM

    Glad you had a good day with your son!

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MJZHERE 2/24/2013 4:02PM

    How nice to have this time with your son. Glad the day turned out well for you.

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WATERMELLEN 2/24/2013 3:40PM

    So nice to be on the receiving end from our adult kids isn't it. Nurturing up: it's especially sweet!

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LINDAKAY228 2/24/2013 2:30PM

    Oh how sweet of him! Glad the day turned out so well!

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    Have a great walk

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MEXGAL1 2/24/2013 9:21AM

    Kinda nice when the tables turn a bit and the "children" start giving us things or even pick up the tab occaisionally.
Have a terrific Sunday!

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KANOE10 2/24/2013 9:14AM

    Good for you making it through the day and even exercising. Your son sounds like a wonderful support. I love Game of Thrones.

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LEANJEAN6 2/24/2013 8:50AM

    It sounds like you are enjoying yer son#1----and that you are in charge of the healthy stuff in yer life Barb!!! emoticon

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KALIGIRL 2/24/2013 8:48AM

    emoticon NEW normal!

We went to the basketball game and jumped up and down so much the last half, I got my exercise for the day...
So glad to hear of your success!

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GABY1948 2/24/2013 8:24AM

    I love decision at a time...and the Spark Normal! THANKS emoticon

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MAGGIE101857 2/24/2013 8:22AM

    Funny I'm reading some organizing books that say give stuff to your kids NOW! Your som must be reading a different book!

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COMPUCATHY 2/24/2013 7:52AM

    emoticon Sounds like a nice visit. And I like this phase of motherhood...don't you...when our kids become our friends, and want to share things. It's nice. Glad you had a nice walk and did some time on the treadmill. It's those good by one that make the difference of where we go from here. Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon

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DEBRITA01 2/24/2013 7:50AM

    Your son must have sensed you needed some Mom & Son time....and don't you love when the kids bring us things (nice role reversal). Remaining Spark Normal will make this challenging time more manageable....hang in there. emoticon

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MOBYCARP 2/24/2013 7:45AM

    Hurray for the new normal! And hurray for a good relationship with an adult child, that's a gift!

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KELLIEBEAN 2/24/2013 7:29AM

    I like that, the Spark Normal! I'm going to keep that in mind... I'm living spark normal now. emoticon

I'm glad you had a nice time wtih your son.

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DEBRA0818 2/24/2013 5:54AM

    I missed your last blog about being in a rebellious frame of mind, but I thought when I went back and read it that your struggle may be an expression of your ambivalence about the marathon. It's hard to know if losing this pressure would free you to live your life in the new normal, but it's worth thinking about it. We're so used to "telling" ourselves things with our behavior it's sometimes difficult to give it a voice. Could your body be asking you to train for less miles?

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LJCANNON 2/24/2013 12:54AM

    emoticon Very Well Done, Barb!!

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DLDMIL 2/24/2013 12:18AM

    Glad that you and your son are spending time together and that he is there for you during this busy work schedule. Stay safe and warm.

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MNTWINSGAL 2/23/2013 10:47PM

    What a great day! I somehow feel that your son and Jeff would be great friends if thrown together -- I can totally see us in your day, if you know what I mean!

I've been missing your blogs, but I know how busy you've been at work, not to mention all the snow clearing that went on in your area these past few days. Glad you're back!

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SLENDERELLA61 2/23/2013 10:45PM

    That is great that you and your son walked together. And that he gave you decaf -- by accident or not! And he brought things for the two of you to enjoy together. That's just great, Barb!! Love your new normal. Take care.

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PATRICIAAK 2/23/2013 10:38PM

    great choice - health

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SUNNY1432 2/23/2013 10:25PM

    You got more done then I did today, so Way to Go! Have a good rest of your weekend.

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MSLZZY 2/23/2013 10:18PM

    DS knew you needed a little something. Sounds
like the Spark Normal is the way to go. HUGS!

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_LINDA 2/23/2013 10:08PM

    That is awesome your son stopped by bearing gifts -he must have a sixth senth for when he is needed -just the perk you needed :)))
Glad a bad start finished out beautifully :))

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1CRAZYDOG 2/23/2013 10:01PM

    So glad your son visited! HUGS You're right . . . one step-at-a-time, one day-at-a-time.

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DALID414 2/23/2013 9:53PM

    emoticon A girls' gotta do what a girls' gotta do.

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EBEAMS 2/23/2013 9:49PM

    Your blog made me smile cuz I have a son who is pushing things on me too! LOL ... It is so humbling and sweet! I keep telling him to not do it but he doesn't listen! Thank goodness for the rewards that come back around! Hang in there on the job front ... you can do this!

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OPTIMIST1948 2/23/2013 9:22PM

    Sounds terriffic. Made some "lemonade" instead of sucking lemons.

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What you really, really want...

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

If discipline is remembering what you want, motivation is partly figuring out what it is you really, really want badly enough to get you moving.

I have been kind of quiet here on Spark over the long weekend. Part of that time was spent walking on the treadmill, part of it was spent sleeping and trying to get me straightened back to my normal rotation of wake/sleep (a more trying job than it was 40 years back), part of it was spent feeling physically lousy, and part, well, to be honest, misbehaving with my old buddy food.

And since I was not feeling like sharing my completely jumbled up thoughts yet again on doubting my goals... I kept my mouth / keyboard shut. We won't go into the tablet versus old slow desktop, mainly I was silent because I had no clue what I wanted to say.

Still not sure I *do* know what I want to say, even now, but it is a fresh new work week, I'm starting the day with the routine of packing the healthy lunch and simmering the steel cut oats. And ahead is a stressful workday, and a snowstorm slated to slide in here on Thursday... and survival is the major goal.

A part of me is contemplating what 2013 would look like if I bailed on the race schedule. Completely. As in: pull in your horns and try to just live a life. Without putting pressure to train for distance on yourself. I ponder what that would do to my motivation. Would it help, or hinder? Would I feel like an embarrassed failure because I told everyone I was going after full marathon in May? Or would I feel relieved because now I could focus on one thing: work, and just deal with my line in the sand stay with the program to stay healthy until this passes?

So, with that thought, of Barb pondering where I go from here, and meditating on what I really, really want... I commend to each of you a fine Spark Day. Because with or without athletic events, LIFE is good, and each of us, even *me* is worth taking care of. Oxygen masks to the fore! Spark on! emoticon

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SPARKLISE 2/23/2013 6:16PM

    I find that we put so much pressure on ourselves sometimes.
Doing a marathon is great,if you have the time, but if it can't fit in your life without keeping your balance and your sanity, it might be time to reassess.

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Keep up the good work! emoticon

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KLMEIRING 2/22/2013 11:20PM

    Thanks for sharing! I wish you well as you continue this journey... whatever you decide concerning the racing and training schedule. emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 2/22/2013 5:10PM

    WELL, I CAN'T FIND YER BLOG=--HAVE BEEN SEARCHING-----hope all is good there!-------It's Friday------YEAH!!!--The weekend is here!---ZOWY! emoticon

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LILPAT3 2/21/2013 12:25PM

    I am sure whatever choice(s) you make will be the correct ones. Hard to know what to do until you try it. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 2/20/2013 3:49PM

    I suspect that if you spend a day or 3 taking good care of yourself and getting fully rested, then what you really, really want will become clear. At this point I do not aspire to do a full marathon, because I think I will be healthier doing a half marathon once or twice a year, lots of 5Ks, lots of cross training, and strength training. I do have running friends really twisting my arm, wanting me to go for the full. I am resisting.

With your son home now, you may have less time to run if you are cooking for him or otherwise spending time with him. Or you may have more time to run if he is running with you.

Trying to balance this big work demand with training and family life and all you do isn't easy. Of course, only you can figure out what you really, really want. But when you do, I'll bet on you to succeed in your endeavor!!

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_LINDA 2/20/2013 1:21AM

    Lots of great answers here! Just a thought -you came so far so fast, advanced from one amazing athletic feat to another. Did I blink and miss the recovery time you gave yourself for the next big challenge? Because this choice is a biggie. It sure doesn't help work is also a major biggie going on and perhaps now is not the time to be thinking of a two fer. Maybe a recovery and rejuvenation period is called for. The rest and recovery we are all supposed to get after a strenous event..
For sure no one would think any less of you were you to decide it was the wrong time for a full marathon..
Do whats best for you, search in your heart and you will really know...

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MSLZZY 2/19/2013 10:36PM

    I think I need that oxygen now. Just breathe!
That's better. So many decisions that only you
can make.
Send a little of that snow our way but don't tell
the GC it is coming. I want it to be a surprise.

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RUN4FOOD 2/19/2013 9:34PM

    A marathon is difficult. Not just the run itself, but all the training that goes into it. You've really got to want to run a marathon to stay motivated to do all the necessary training. My concern would be your getting injured, you almost wishing you had an injury so you could stop all the training runs.
My vote would be 'yes' if you really want to run the marathon, but 'no' if you feel anything less.

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PATRICIAAK 2/19/2013 9:02PM

    There is only x amount of energy in the energy bank. Overspending leads to negative
repercussion. Choose wisely.

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WATERMELLEN 2/19/2013 8:36PM

    Terrific blog as always . . . you really put it out there.

When circumstances change then what motivates changes too. Former goals may not be doable or realistic.

It never hurts to be kind: including, kind to yourself.

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MOBYCARP 2/19/2013 7:58PM

    It is a puzzlement, discerning what project is a good motivator and what project is simply biting off more than we can chew. In 20-20 hindsight, it would have been better for me to forego the half marathon idea in 2012, in favor of just running through the winter and getting used to how that went. This year, I *think* I understand things better; but it still could turn out that I've bitten off more than I can chew during tax season.

Whatever you decide, I hope you will be at peace with the decision and make appropriate adjustments to your lifestyle to remain healthy. You're worth it.

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    Ah, my vicarious life is what?
Maybe you are resting so my foot can feel better emoticon

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DLDMIL 2/19/2013 2:33PM

    You are not a failure if you do not do the full marthon. You have accomplished so much during this journey. You are allowed to take a break, have a different life exeperience. Take care and do what is best for you, not any one else. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WARDMIC78 2/19/2013 12:45PM

    It's honorable that you can use this platform to be honest and clear your head. I recently used my blog to do the same and just the act of verbalizing how I felt made a huge difference. You must do what is right for you and what makes you happy. No one puts more pressure on you than YOU. This race doesn't define you and you only owe happiness to yourself.


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DALID414 2/19/2013 10:46AM

    If you choose to pull out of the race you shouldn't feel like an embarrassed failure. Anyone can say I want to do this race or that, but only YOU live your life and only YOU know what time and effort you need to prepare for it. You owe us nothing Barb.

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1CRAZYDOG 2/19/2013 10:18AM

    sometimes things that motivated us initially turn into a stressor. When that happens time to step back and re-evaluate. That's not failure! That's taking care of YOU! I have a feeling that all the changes that have happened in your life recently . . . good and bad . . . are coming home to roost a little.

So, before making a decision take the time to relaly reel it in your head AND your heart. I know you will because you always have.

HUGS and sending you calming vibes.

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LINDAKAY228 2/19/2013 9:44AM

    Sending you hugs and good vibes as you struggle to decide what it is that you need/want to do for yourself. A decision only you can make. It doesn't matter what you told everyone about the marathon. Don't do something just because of pressure from others. If you want to do, then go for it. If you feel this isn't the time to think about it, then it's okay to revise your goals and give that up to focus on a work related goal or whatever you need to do right now. Good luck as you choose what is the best plan for Barb!

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BARBARAJ73 2/19/2013 9:16AM

    New day... new week... spring is around the corner. Do not ( or at least try not to) stress over something which should bring you joy. Your decision will come to you. Wishing you a fine Spark Day too!

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ANDI571 2/19/2013 9:09AM

    I am in the sme mind set Barb. I even told DH the other day that I seem to want a life style right now more than I want to eat healthy. I am on a dangerous path right now, but have been fighting to get back on the right path. We will do it. We know what we need to do and we have the tools to do it. emoticon

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KALIGIRL 2/19/2013 9:06AM

    It's easier for me to focus on one thing @ a time and with the huge work project vying for your time, I can understand your quandary. Work is now the center - it wasn't when you were planning the marathon - that eliminates the 'failure' fear in my mind.

The question now is what will keep you healthy and happy.

Daily Good asked what we'd do if money was no object and quoted Norman Vincent Peale - "Empty pockets never held anyone back. Only empty heads and empty hearts can do that."

Neither your head nor your hands are empty - but only you can decide if the 'big' goal is what you need or the 'little' daily Life is GOOD goals work.

Namaste my friend


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EBEAMS 2/19/2013 8:23AM

    Having knowledge of what the training will entail and the wisdom to know what you are mentally capable of handling will lead you to the right answer for YOU! I don't know what type of project your work is involved in but it sounds intense and life absorbing. We only have so much time and energy to commit to each part of our lives. Balance is the key ... but knowing when the balance has to be shifted is part of staying mentally healthy and sane. When I'm sitting around in Dispatch with nothing going on, it's easy for me to stay on track. Let the chaos move in and it's batten down the hatches and don't talk to me til we're done! Life is truly a series of adjustments ... every day, no matter what. Let us know how can help ... we're all cheering you on to victory, marathon or not!!!

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AMSPARKER 2/19/2013 8:14AM

    *even me*??? Especially YOU! One of the worst feelings is being overwhelmed and doing something just so you can cross it off your list...better to wait until you can enjoy both the journey and the result...just my unwanted or unasked for opinion!

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JANEMARIE77 2/19/2013 8:07AM

    Marathons are hard and a lot of work I personally have never trained for one. But my thought was always "there not much in life I want to do for 4 + hours" straight nothing else just run could i do it maybe (i do have some foot issues and am kind of afraid over training would cause a side line) do I need to know if I can do it NO 4 + hours of anything the same thing would drive me crazy I love 1/2s and a weekly 10 or so miles. So do you need to know you can do it? will you enjoy the journey to find out? list your pros and cons its all about you not us

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ROXYZMOM 2/19/2013 7:48AM

    I am going to play devil's advocate here ... Imagine if you were told you couldn't run (due to an injury). I was getting into the lull you are in now when I was told I had to give it a break and go to PT. the first week or two was nice but then I started feeling out of shape more and more and really missed running! Every time I hear one of my running songs on the radio or see a nice weather day out I am tempted but can't do it! It's plain awful!

Also: maybe you need to break your routine and train differently. Run with someone else, add something new to the mix (yoga, swimming, ST)? Or add new running music?

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GABY1948 2/19/2013 7:38AM

    Now that you have it out in the open, Barb, you can honestly decide what Barb wants for Barb. Not what WE want Barb to do, but what Barb really wants. Ultimately it is about you. I just don't want you to look back when you make that decision (you see, I am a lot like you) and let it throw you in a tizzy and back to food...I always realize now that in order to accomplish something (like NOT eating over a situation) I have to go THROUGH that situation and NOT eat in order to eradicate my before reaction of eating and replace that with a new reaction of not eating....and we are the only ones that can do that and then eventually it will become a habit and the only reaction we think of!
Best to you, Barb. Do it for YOU...whatever you do! emoticon

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HEALTHY4ME 2/19/2013 7:38AM

    Coming from someone that can't get her ducks in a row right now this is sort of presumptuous. I think I would want to enjoy running the race, enjoy training and perhaps just enjoy lief without the added pressure. Why do you have to do that race, certainly not to impress anyone ( other than yourself) and if you are embarrassed HA dont' be cos wow girl you run more than a lot do and you don't have to say anything but can say I just decided with my life schedule as it is now, I wanted to enjoy what I am doing and how I am doing it.

Just my two cents worth which I see is similar to the other that responded, who I now am going to go see if she is from NS as of her Bluenose name! LOL
HUGS and have a good day.

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BLUENOSE63 2/19/2013 7:30AM

  My best unwanted advice is you need sometime off. The worst thing you can do is train for a race you aren't sure you want to run. It makes it worse mentally and physically (only my experience). If you look back on 2012 and all the running accomplishments you attained; taking some time to let your body repair itself, smell the flowers etc. sounds like a really good idea. Remember Barb, there is always another marathon around the corner should you change your mind.

Be proud of what you have accomplished and take the time to bask in the glow of accomplishment....not always a bad thing to slow down before you burn out!

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LEANJEAN6 2/19/2013 7:22AM

    I think you need to see SPRING--to rejuvinate you Barb!--But---You know---there i8s luife--even without a ""run for a cause"" You are my hero anyway-----I too had a bad ""overeating"" weekend--but--it's a new day---and I shall get back on track---We can remain healthy-----Lynda emoticon

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MARTYJOE 2/19/2013 7:22AM

    You have to figure out if a marathon is what you really want and not worry about what other people with think. Maybe your mind is telling you that you are not ready mentally or physically to run that far yet.Listen to your inner voice and good luck.

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Shift work - minor adjustments to the plan

Saturday, February 16, 2013

The overnight thing went better than ever this time. I put myself down for a nap in advance and pulled off about a four hour sleep, got up just in time to get the monitoring tools set up. I was using the old, ancient desktop at home, did not drive to work, despite its age and speed. Yes, it was slow, but not being a fancy site like Spark it didn't take the resources the web browser does to run SparkPeople.

We had turned the settings on the program to run "fewer threads"... for those of you who don't speak multi-processing and all that jargon, that just means "go slower, OK?" And because it was set to go slower it didn't gum up the works like it sometimes has in the past. In fact, it sailed along smoothly and finished in under 3 hours once it ramped up. Woo-hoo!

I shuffled the snacks and breakfast, saving my evening snack for when I got up at midnight, and shifting breakfast earlier to after the run completed between 4:30 and 5 a.m. Got my communications taken care of, including a little bit of Spark reading on the way to bed... and was back sacked out by 6. Four solid hours nap this morning and now I'm back on "normal", I hope.

Less disruption than normal, planned for, and for a change "no surprises". Now to figure out when the long run fits in to the weekend! Tomorrow looks to be the best outdoor weather for the job.

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KALIGIRL 2/17/2013 1:55PM

    Now I understand...
Sounds like it went as smoothly as possible and from home no less!

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WATERMELLEN 2/17/2013 12:31PM

    Nothing like flexibility and resiliency: good work!!

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MSLZZY 2/17/2013 8:35AM

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    I worked midnight shift for several years. It was one long sleep deprived time with multi-hour naps and large chuncks of lost time sleeping 10-12 hours.
Take it easy on your body.
It really does mess you up.

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DLDMIL 2/16/2013 11:47PM

    emoticon glad it work ed out. Have a great weekend

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MOBYCARP 2/16/2013 7:25PM

    Way to go! I think I'd plan the long run for the day with less disrupted sleep patterns, and if that coincides with better weather it's a bonus.

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LINDAKAY228 2/16/2013 6:44PM

    Glad you're adjusting! Sounds like you've got it worked out well.

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ROXYZMOM 2/16/2013 6:14PM

    You have a great plan and are following through well!

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-SHOREIDO- 2/16/2013 4:16PM

    Way to go!! Wow can you multi or what?? Good job!

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1CRAZYDOG 2/16/2013 4:05PM

    Happy all went well. HUGS!

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GABY1948 2/16/2013 3:50PM

    emoticon emoticon Have a GREAT one!

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LESLIELENORE 2/16/2013 2:15PM

    Hope you have a great run!

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_LINDA 2/16/2013 2:11PM

    Glad everything went well for you!!
Well how about that, even computer programs have to learn to go one step at a time and not to try overwhelm themselves with too many tasks ;)
You sure made the best of everything! Four hour sleep, wow! I actually tried to sleep in for a change today and did so until 15 to nine, but I had gone to bed after 1 am and had fairly frequent wakeups, but for me, it was more horizontal time then I normally get anyway. The new meds is making it possible for me to go back to sleep as its taking some pain out as well as making me very tired. Can a normal, more unbroken sleep be in my future? Can only hope so!
Have a nice, normal sleep time and rest long weekend. I assume you get the holiday off, but maybe not.. I don't. The club only ever closes on one holiday Christmas.

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JANEMARIE77 2/16/2013 2:00PM

    woohoo is right have a great run

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SLENDERELLA61 2/16/2013 12:20PM

    Enjoy your long run tomorrow. You deserve it!! Impressive how you can now adjust your meals to your work demands and manage your hunger and nutritional needs so wisely. Very glad you didn't have any surprises and didn't have to go into the office in the middle of the night. By the way, I bet when the time comes you will really, really enjoy retirement!!! -Marsha

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DALID414 2/16/2013 12:07PM

    Wow, I hope you're back to normal. It used to take me days to recover from working a night shift! Hope the weather gods are on your side tomorrow.

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Thursday, February 14, 2013

Thought that title would get your attention! Seriously, folks, on Valentine's Day, as a single woman, I figure it's a good day to talk about the mental / emotional game of motivation.

I've been reading several blogs this week that focus on the scale and how seeing it go up or down is affecting the mood of the weigh-ee. For good or for bad.

Believe it or not (I'm sure those of you who are familiar with my flights of blog-antasy will believe)... I am drawing parallels between "holiday blues" and "scale results (or lack thereof) blues".

Both are about expectations, responsibility, ability to influence, and reality. Even my recent freak-outs over work are about expectations, anticipation and reality.

Anytime we expect things that are out of our control to go a certain way... anytime we outline... try to manipulate or control... something that is NOT something we control... we set ourselves up for the potential of dissapointment. Or, contrarily, we set ourselves up to take credit for something that truly was an experience of grace.

You have people in your life you love? Cherish them this Valentine's Day. But whether you're in a perfect relationship or not, remember to love and cherish yourself... because you are worth it... no matter WHERE you are on your journey to healthy living!

So, just for today... God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

Spark on!

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KALIGIRL 2/15/2013 12:25PM

    Right on - after all, the only thing we can 'control' is our attitude...

May be late, but emoticon coming your way!

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    LOL I was actually disappointed when my DH remembered a card!
He's not one for Hallmark moments even though society has trained us to jump through hoops. I was more enchanted that he put away the dishes!!!!

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MSLZZY 2/15/2013 7:16AM

    I love that you included the serenity prayer at
the end. I need to try to accept what comes along,
but make sure I make the best choices for me so
that I will not be disappointed by them. After
that, accept that I am in control of me and not
the whole world. HUGS!

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_LINDA 2/15/2013 1:31AM

    Having been a single woman all my life with no expectations of anything else, I have come to live in peace with myself. To accept all my faults, warts and all, to accept my reality, but to also try be all that I can be as well :) To never give in and never give up!!
Here is to being successful at what ever you choose, but to not beating yourself up if it doesn't work out exactly as planned.
Happy Valentine's Day my friend!

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KARIDIAN1 2/14/2013 10:07PM

    You forgot the line that goes something like the power to take out the naysayers or something like that.

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MOBYCARP 2/14/2013 9:05PM

    Aside from the pink heart shaped cookies at the VITA site, I didn't notice it was Valentine's Day. February 14 is much less stressful when I don't have to fulfill expectations of acting romantically.

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LJCANNON 2/14/2013 8:30PM

    emoticon Very Good Advice, especially Today!!!

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DEBRITA01 2/14/2013 7:39PM

    The entire blog has a great message, but the 5th paragraph says it insightful and true. Love the Serenity brings such perspective to every day life. emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 2/14/2013 7:23PM

    You are SO right. That is a very good point about expectations and lack of control and disappointments. I'll remember that and carry it with me. Very good message for where I am right now. Thanks!!

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LEANJEAN6 2/14/2013 6:37PM

    just enjoy being you Barb!-I emoticon emoticon loves ya!!!

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DEBRA0818 2/14/2013 1:30PM

    Happy Valentine's Day, Barb! Confucius says that all unhappiness begins with a comparison, whether that comparison is between what you expect of yourself and actually are, or what you expect of others and the world and actually get. How much better to focus only on things we can control and work on accepting the rest.


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DLDMIL 2/14/2013 11:53AM

    Happy Valentine's Day to you and all the single women. I will be traveling later today with my DD and gkids for a four day weekend. that is how I am spending my Valentine's, with my family. It will be 2 days of long driving, but we will make the most of it to enjoy each others company.

Have a great weekend and I will check in when I can. Stay strong Barb. emoticon

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ROXYZMOM 2/14/2013 10:37AM

    Very true! Good points!

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MEXGAL1 2/14/2013 10:25AM

    So true, we need to love ourselves.
Happy Valentine's Day!

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LINDAKAY228 2/14/2013 9:42AM

    As another single woman, I totally agree! We can celebrate Valentine's day by treating ourselves and our bodies special and then try to carry it through the year! It doesn't just have to be about romantic relationships with others, but our special relationship with ourself!

Happy Valentine's Day! emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 2/14/2013 8:57AM

    Oh my gosh . . . that's absolutely my mantra . . . the Serenity Prayer! You have written such a very important blog! The most important thing I have to remember is :

"Anytime we expect things that are out of our control to go a certain way... anytime we outline... try to manipulate or control... something that is NOT something we control... we set ourselves up for the potential of dissapointment. Or, contrarily, we set ourselves up to take credit for something that truly was an experience of grace. "

Such profound words!

Happy Valentine's Day to you and thanks for this wonderful blog.

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CONCHA77 2/14/2013 8:54AM

    Happy Valentines Day to you, Barb.

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CELIAMINER 2/14/2013 8:11AM

    Beautifully said! In my two years on SP, I've seen the weight come off, the weight stay off, and my fitness level improve. But the biggest change has been inside, where negative self-talk has been replaced by self-forgiveness and self-love. It's elating to feel I am worthy of being happy and worthy of enjoying good things in life.

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JANEMARIE77 2/14/2013 7:53AM

    Great blog have a great day

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SANDYCRANE 2/14/2013 7:50AM

    I loved your comments, especially about the scale. Thanks for enlightening me.

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HEALTHY4ME 2/14/2013 7:50AM

    Right on !!! have a great day! HUGS

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GABY1948 2/14/2013 7:46AM

    GREAT, GREAT blog, Barb! Thanks! Have a GREAT day! emoticon

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