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Monday's mental strength pep talk

Monday, March 18, 2013

* Beware the pink clouds, Barb.

* Keep your head in the game.

* Drink your water.
* Eat what's in the bag, that's why you packed it.
* Remember to take those walk breaks, even if not at the "regular" time.

* No matter what anyone else says today, you still can only do what you can do in the time allotted.

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PATRICIAAK 3/19/2013 1:17AM

    Stay positive

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-SHOREIDO- 3/18/2013 9:11PM

    Love your attitude (as usual)!!! and your right!! emoticon

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OVERWORKEDJANET 3/18/2013 8:50PM

    Feeling your work pain. I just had another staff quit. Doing the work of 4 people now. I'm kinda ready the throw in the towel!

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DLDMIL 3/18/2013 8:24PM

    emoticon exactly what I did today.

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WATERMELLEN 3/18/2013 7:34PM

    As always, your pep talk works pretty much for me too, thank you!! (I just sub in "drink coffee" heh heh heh . . . )

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_LINDA 3/18/2013 3:14PM

    You go Barb!!
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MEXGAL1 3/18/2013 10:49AM

    Have a terrific week!

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DALID414 3/18/2013 10:42AM

    I'm stealing the last one and using it today too. (My boyfriend tells me this all the time.)

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KALIGIRL 3/18/2013 8:32AM

    Sounds like a plan we know emoticon
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MSLZZY 3/18/2013 7:46AM

    Great attitude! Go for it!

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1CRAZYDOG 3/18/2013 7:41AM

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RUN4FOOD 3/18/2013 7:28AM

    Have a good day.

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Per Kasey's request: the shoes

Sunday, March 17, 2013



You asked for it, you got it... aren't they pretty? Not very St. Paddy's day, color-wise... but folks will see me coming down the path, for sure!

  
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WATERMELLEN 3/18/2013 7:30PM

    How could anybody not be happy wearing these?

You might enjoy Alexander McCall Smith's book, "Blue Shoes and Happiness" (in his Botswana series).

I've got some little boots just that colour!!

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KALIGIRL 3/18/2013 8:39AM

    emoticon For SURE! emoticon

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DEBRITA01 3/18/2013 6:23AM

    Hot colors are in right now...wear them in good health emoticon

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ROXYZMOM 3/18/2013 4:03AM

    NICE!

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LJCANNON 3/18/2013 12:19AM

    emoticon Awesome!!

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PATRICIAAK 3/18/2013 12:11AM

    nice

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MIRAGE727 3/17/2013 10:47PM

    I think you've seen my Kayano 19s so you know how I feel about color. These wheels look sweet! Thanks for sharing, Barb!
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MNTWINSGAL 3/17/2013 10:27PM

    I love these shoes! My daughter has the pink ones. I think pretty shoes make you run faster!

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_LINDA 3/17/2013 9:01PM

    WoW!! Does that color ever slap you in the face!! Love it!! Reminds me of the Zumba clothes and footwear I am getting! Going to brighten me up for sure. Stepping WAY out of my comfort zone of everything black that I work out in except dull white or grey shoes (all that is ever on sale)
Did I miss the photo shot of your new hairdo????? C'mon, make it number 4 while you are on a roll!

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MSLZZY 3/17/2013 8:45PM

    Wow! Love the color!

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KARIDIAN1 3/17/2013 8:39PM

    They look comfy and light. Love the color.

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DALID414 3/17/2013 7:55PM

    I love them!
I broke out of my moms shoe rule (of buying solid black shoes) when the boyfriend introduced me to color, I haven't looked back since!


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1CRAZYDOG 3/17/2013 7:42PM

    The color is awesome!! HUGS

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SLENDERELLA61 3/17/2013 7:38PM

    Oh, yeah, I like those. Bet you've got running clothes that look good with them, too. Running much these days? Hope you are enjoying it! -Marsha

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DOGLADY13 3/17/2013 7:08PM

    Pretty!

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Bonus blog: Gimme that new soft shoe...

Sunday, March 17, 2013

This has been a weekend for rewards. Yesterday afternoon, I got my hair cut and professionally colored. Last time I got it colored was maybe November 2010. I skipped all color last year when I was doing so much swim training for the triathlon. But every so often, you just need a little pick me up. This was mine.

Today I hopped on the treadmill for the first time since two weeks ago, before I took that side trip down the illness path. I took it easy, just 3.5 miles, but I'm feeling better and better, and more able to take on that ten miler next weekend.

This afternoon I drove down to my favorite running shoe store and found that my current favorite running shoe was on sale (or at least the bright turquoise version of it was). It's a softer feel than many of the running shoes are. It is a Nike Pegasus, and it is a neutral stride shoe. I do not over or under pronate, therefore it is an appropriate shoe for me. The ones I've had previously were grey with blue or light green trim... these... well, kind of "pop" the color. Since it was a sale, I bought two pair, and will put them in the rotation.

Guess I'm committed now. Or should be. emoticon

Now, on to basketball! emoticon March madness is beginning!

  
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WATERMELLEN 3/18/2013 7:33PM

    Rewards are so important!!

I love my hairdresser so much (one of my fave people in my hometown) that the haircut is almost superfluous!! But yeah: we wear our hair 24/7, just like our bodies: so having a good cut matters!!

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PATRICIAAK 3/18/2013 12:28AM

    Super!

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_LINDA 3/17/2013 9:03PM

    Fantabulous!! Seems like things are coming together for you.. Can't ignore fate now, can you? I rotate through my shoes too, which is why I load up on sales. I soak those suckers and they need time to dry out :P
Enjoy your game!

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MSLZZY 3/17/2013 8:45PM

    Call the cut and color a reward for all your hard work. Everyone needs to be pampered once in a while.

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KARIDIAN1 3/17/2013 8:41PM

    Good puchase and smart to buy two and take advantage of the sale.

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SLENDERELLA61 3/17/2013 7:41PM

    I saw the shoes before I read this blog. They look wonderful! Great you got a sale. I like the idea of rotating the shoes. Glad your 3.5 went well; best wishes for a great 10 miler!! -Marsha

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RUN4FOOD 3/17/2013 6:16PM

    A treat and a 10K, who could ask for anything more?
Hope all goes well next weekend.

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KASEYCOFF 3/17/2013 6:15PM

    I wanna see a picture of the SHOES--!!!
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DLDMIL 3/17/2013 5:59PM

    Yeah for treating yourself to getting your hair done. Pampering is good for us. emoticon emoticon

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ANDI571 3/17/2013 5:58PM

    I always feel better when I get my hair done. My motto: You can't change life, but you can change your hair. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 3/17/2013 5:46PM

    Happy St. Patrick's day! Good for you for doing things for yourself! That's wonderful.

Glad you're feeling better. HUGS

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To sleep, perchance to dream...

Sunday, March 17, 2013

emoticon The past few weeks I've been noticing dreams more. Dreaming is good for us. Gives the mind a chance to work things out. This morning, as I deliberately slept in, I noticed three distinct dreams, all of which I can see are related to the current work project and relationships in the work place.

In one, I am heatedly arguing with my boss, just trying to get her to tell me what she really wanted when she wasn't pleased with what I did. Can we spell performance anxiety? While we haven't had such an argument in real life, there HAVE been instances in the past few months when I made a calming statement about we can only do what we can in a day... only to be countered by the threat of mandatory (unpaid) overtime in the future.

At the moment I can't remember the specifics of the other two, but they are in similar vein... you know the ones where you forget you had a test in school... and wake up to find not only do you have one, but you're late for it? (In fact, I actually lived that dream on a German oral exam, back in the day.)

The deal with dreams like this is that they are seldom the reality. They are our minds working out the anxieties... you wake up, say "whew! Glad that was a dream!" and move on refreshed with your day. What I have observed in the waking life is that of the anxieties I imagine, few really come to pass... because they spur me to adjust, make plans, and get moving.

That's the sedentary job "get things done" kind of moving, though. And I started to ponder: every time I have been successful in taking good care of myself physically, nutrition, exercise, etc., it has been because I made it my TOP priority.

Sometimes it is easier than others to MAKE it the top priority. When things are going smoothly at work, it's easier to make the healthy habits tops. When a bigger issue (like a deployed son) makes work seem like a minor stress... well, then it is ALSO easier to make the healthy habits a top priority. After all, I'm taking care of me so he can do what he needs to do and not worry about his mu-ther.

But now work IS the top stresser. I am having to re-program my personality all over again... to remind myself that I don't have to do it all, or sacrifice self care.

Show of hands... how many of you out there struggling to find time to take care of yourselves hated group work in school? Of those of you holding your hands up, how many of you used to hog all the work of the group, just to make sure your group would get an A? Yeah? Really? How many of you took work away from someone else because they weren't doing it (or weren't doing it fast enough to please you)? If you did, did you do that work yourself?

Now let's move on to parenthood: how many of you "helped" with your kids' homework to the extent of almost doing it for them? How many of you let them take on their own responsibility, and live with the consequences? How many of you cleaned their rooms, rather than making them live with the mess they created?

So... back to my current pep talk. If we, as a group, fail to reach our goal... it's NOT my job to try to plug every gap. It *is* my job to take good care of my health so I can do my part, not the entire project.

Laughing at my dreams, but learning from them... this is going to be a great day! Spark a great one yourselves, people. emoticon For you are worth it. And LIFE is good!

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PATRICIAAK 3/18/2013 1:03AM

    To pleasant dreams

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KARIDIAN1 3/17/2013 8:48PM

    I sometimes toss and turn aith work thoughts on my mind. Too much to do and too little time..... sound familar?

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SLENDERELLA61 3/17/2013 7:47PM

    Just want you to know I read this blog. As usual, you have some significant to say and said it well. I can identify with much of it. Wishing you helpful dreams!

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DOGLADY13 3/17/2013 7:11PM

    Oh... you have so totally described me. I have put a lot of energy in the last year in letting that part of me go. I no longer want to be controlled by artificial deadlines and other people's priorities. It is so hard to do.

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DLDMIL 3/17/2013 5:29PM

    AH!! the "A" personality shows up. I cleaned my kids room and helped them with their homework until they reached 4th, 5th grade. Then I gave up. From the time my 2 boys were that young they were in charge of cleaning their rooms and doing their own laundry. They complained one to many times about having to fold and put away their own laundry one day and that was the end of me doing it for them. They also learned that if they didn't do their homework it was their future not mine. I was there to provide housing, food, and guidance. They also started cooking a couple of years later. Now that they are grown, they have figured it out.

I have an "A" personality and get really fed up at work when I have to explain something over and over to the same people. I am now working on trying to not be the "B" at work and just keep my mouth shut until I absolutely have to speak, and make sure I say that it is my opinion.

Great job Barb. Keep up the great work. We will make it through emoticon emoticon

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OVERWORKEDJANET 3/17/2013 4:41PM

    Hmm, something to think about

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KALIGIRL 3/17/2013 4:38PM

    Here's to learning from life AND switching major priorities with your usual grace and aplomb!


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MNTWINSGAL 3/17/2013 1:57PM

    I was a mean mom. I helped with homework to the extent of helping them know what to do, but would never dream of going beyond that. I saw some sad kids at the science fair watching the kids whose parents had set up elaborate displays take home the ribbons. On the other hand, my kids had "pride of ownership." I cleaned their rooms once per year for them....when they went off to Scout camp for a week I would usually go in and organize everything and leave them one surprise -- a new paint job or a new bedding set, something like that. They looked forward to coming home! Other than that though, I micro-managed the cleaning and organizing of their rooms, as well as other chores doled out to them. And you know what? Now they know how to do everything necessary to keep a house clean and functioning. My daughter takes it to heart and keeps a beautiful home. My son on the other hand....well, his wife isn't into it, and he is going with the flow. But he does know HOW to do it all....so my job is done.

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MRS.DOYLE 3/17/2013 1:31PM

    Parents doing ALL their kid's homework is a bugbear of mine. I see it all the time at work. The kids learn absolutely nothing. As for messy bedrooms, I used to tidy my daughter's but she is an adult now and it is up to her. Sadly she likes mess.

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KLMEIRING 3/17/2013 12:37PM

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_LINDA 3/17/2013 12:32PM

    Yes, probably more of the same. I would love to farm some of my club work out, but the problem is the one eager person who wants to do it has no computer knowledge and doesn't even know what excel is. That would mean not only would I have to teach her computer basics, I would have to supply her a copy of Microsoft Office and teach her how to use it, a huge time commitment I don't really have the time for. The other volunteer at least knows computers, but only has ever used a word program, and once again would need to give him an Office copy and teach him how to use excel. Most of our club reports are on excel. Very little on word unfortunately. We are all about facts, figures and statistics. Then the is the question of availability. I am always there, I can get the latest information and feed it to our data base. These people are not, in fact the male volunteer was at the club only on special occasions as they had to be home looking after their severely injured son, who was run over by a bus while on his bike :( Now they have a new grandchild to look after, so they are busy. Some people actually have lives outside of the bridge club, and indeed, the biggest hassle is when many of our volunteers disappear south for the winter, and then to the lake in the summer :P There are very few of us left holding the fort year round. So its not really perfectionism that I don't share my work load -its absent volunteers.
I wonder what its like to dream and if it would ease some of my frustration and stress. I can't remember the last time I had a dream, my insomnia is so bad, I wake up too soon and so frequently I can never get one!
Enjoy your day!

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DEBRITA01 3/17/2013 12:26PM

    My hand's up....guilty as charged. It's hard to let go of the control and not try to do it all oneself but, I've made great strides. Wise of you to realize and reinforce that you can't plug all the gaps and be the one to save the day. I'm still working on that myself...


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MSLZZY 3/17/2013 12:26PM

    Ever the people-pleaser but time to stop
and take care of yourself. Guilty as charged.
I need to work on this.
Have a great St Patrick's Day.

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WATERMELLEN 3/17/2013 11:28AM

    Guilty as charged. Hated group work. Did it myself rather than having it fall short of "my" standards. Provided way too much "help" with homework. Same reason.

Your boss's unsubtle pressure to meet unreasonable deadlines for quantity and quality of work and her unsubtle threats that she will inflict unpaid overtime if you don't: suppose that's related to her own perfectionism, her need to look good by coming in on time and on budget?

And contrary to whatever employment standards legislation applies in your state?

Grrrrr. You do what you can, when you can, AFTER you've taken care of number one. You.

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DALID414 3/17/2013 11:04AM

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1CRAZYDOG 3/17/2013 10:37AM

    BOTH hands up on behaviors fueled by perfectionism! I never did do my kids' homework, for sure, but I am quite sure I spent more time helping them with it than most.

Great blog. STILL hate group projects.

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CELIAMINER 3/17/2013 10:26AM

    Ugh, you hit a nerve with the group work. I feel like I carried way too many groups, AND I think I can trace it back to my mother, who used to hand me a dust cloth, then follow around behind me dusting again because I wasn't doing it "right" (read: good enough).

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WALLINMW 3/17/2013 10:23AM

  Stay motivated!

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Perfectionism or perfection?

Saturday, March 16, 2013

This morning's meditation had as its centering thought that "I am perfection. I am healthy. I am strong." MOBYCARP will get the echoes of our youthful religious training in this one. This has a slightly different cast, recognizing the reality of aches and pains, disease and disability, but accepting, and loving ourselves and our bodies, washing the positive thoughts over ourselves... rather than escaping into an abstract ideal denying the existence of matter.

It got me thinking about my joking references to "Polly Perfectionist" and how that relates to both my upbringing ("God's Perfect Child") and to what I am learning in my current days.

Being "perfect" in the sense of the meditation is NOT about meeting some impossible standard, or someone's concept of what "perfect" is. It is about being just as God made us, right now, in this moment. And that is enough!

Polly, you see, is a fraud. I do not need her to sit in judgment over whether I am perfect. And she needs to butt out.

Today, as every day should be, is about nurturing me: body, mind and spirit. And accepting and loving that me, and getting out of her way, so she can go out and take on the challenges of the day!

Make it a good one, fellow Sparklers! Because LIFE itself is good. And we are worth it. emoticon

  
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DOGLADY13 3/17/2013 7:09PM

    Yet again, you inspired a blog. I gave you a shout out and a link.

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WATERMELLEN 3/17/2013 11:23AM

    So absolutely true. My own Polly Perfectionism may be a bit of a holdover from that compulsion to compensate for all the instant censure based upon my obese appearance . . . and to ingratiate. Never good enough, right?

But of course we are.

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DLDMIL 3/17/2013 2:09AM

    Yes we are worth it. Great Blog

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LESLIELENORE 3/16/2013 10:17PM

    Thanks for this blog... I needed that reiterated.

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_LINDA 3/16/2013 9:01PM

    As soon as I saw this title I was concerned Polly was getting in your face again. Glad to hear its something else entirely. I love the way it accepts what is going on right now, loving ourselves and our bodies as is and washing the postitive thoughts over ourselves -this is indeed a great meditation program!
Thanks for sharing these pearls of wisdom you are getting from this program. Here is to getting out and enjoying your day!

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SLENDERELLA61 3/16/2013 8:20PM

    I'm really impressed with your meditation practice and this series. Thanks for sharing. Wishing you peace and the perfect knowledge that you are just right just now just where you are and just how you are! Keep on taking really good care of yourself. Thanks for all your support and wise comments on my blogs, too. -Marsha

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PATRICIAAK 3/16/2013 7:48PM

    We are made in God's image.

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MIRAGE727 3/16/2013 6:43PM

    Strong, positive, and so spot on! Thanks for sharing, Barb!
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DEBRITA01 3/16/2013 1:25PM

    Good meditations...Accepting ourselves as we are at this moment and showing love and kindness. emoticon

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DALID414 3/16/2013 1:06PM

    Namaste!

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GABY1948 3/16/2013 11:41AM

    I agree, we all know/are Polly. Good for you...you found something that seems to agree with you totally. Have a GREAT weekend!

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MEXGAL1 3/16/2013 10:59AM

    great thoughts. got me thinking. thanks for posting.
Have a terrific week end.

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JANEMARIE77 3/16/2013 10:43AM

    perfection is personal bases and daily changing we need to see that and deal

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1CRAZYDOG 3/16/2013 9:59AM

    Meditation is so wonderful to center oneself . . . and for sure perfection is over-rated. As the oldest of the siblings, I was always feeling the need to be "perfect", but learned it is overrated.

Here's to a Happy St. Paddy's Day to you! emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 3/16/2013 9:45AM

    Great attitude------ being perfect as yu are!!---I have to learn to accept me-----as is!-----hatrd tho---coz I want to look "willowy""--LOL--but--is "'willpowy"" healthy?--Deep thoughts on a Saturday--Hugs Ba emoticon rb! Lynda

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RUN4FOOD 3/16/2013 9:24AM

    I think you are right where God wants you to be. What a great place to grow from.

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MAGGIE101857 3/16/2013 8:40AM

    Sounds like this meditation series is just what the doctor ordered!!! Wonderful!!!

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