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Getting too old? For WHAT?

Friday, March 22, 2013

This morning when I read OverworkedJanet's blog, she used the phrase "I'm getting too old for this!" It resonated with me because I have used that phrase myself several times since the onset of the current work project.

What Janet was referring to was 12 hour days and scrambling through an urgent work situation. What I was referring to was the size of the work effort and what it will take to bring it in anywhere close to on schedule. I was thinking of all the "mandatory unpaid overtime to meet a date" bludgeons that people have hung out there as what, fears? Threats? I have strong memories of projects worked under those kinds of conditions... when I was younger and willing to sacrifice my body and my health for the sake of the puzzle.

Bottom line, YES, I am getting too old... but for WHAT? I am getting too old to NOT take care of my body! I am ALSO too old to either cower under the implied threats or pout and be passively aggressive. Those would be childish responses. Turning the feelings inward and compulsive eating would be comparable to an alcoholic drinking over the situation, or an addict getting high. If I'm NOT taking my walking breaks, the vending machines tend to call my name.

So, yes, I'm too old... no, let's make that too WISE to respond that way. I shall do what I can and take care of ME... because only then can I do my part. My PART, not the whole thing. And that is what I can expect of me... WISE behavior!

We can do this, Spark-friends. And while it's hard, it is so very worth it. As are WE!

Pep talk done: Life's good. Spark on. emoticon emoticon

  
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OPTIMIST1948 3/23/2013 8:31AM

    I love this sentiment!

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DOGLADY13 3/23/2013 7:05AM

    Excellent. Your health must be a priority.

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PATRICIAAK 3/22/2013 11:07PM

    priorties are so important

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KARIDIAN1 3/22/2013 10:28PM

    I worked PT at an insurance company years ago that occasionally would have mandatory OT. Now everyone in our area (proofreaders) were PT, so we were just asked to work some extra hours. Not a big deal, was maybe like 5-6 hours on top of the 20 hours most of us worked. I did an hour a day extra, no sweat.

One young college student did not work the extra time and no one really seemed to get upset. (We were not really under the gun) We were not paid for it unless we worked it. A few months later he decided to quit and he was asked when he was going to work those missed OT hours before he left. He never worked them and it seemed to through the supervisors in a tizzy.

Must have messed up their budget or something pretty bad. in stead of saving money they wanted to spend it to make everything look all nice and pretty.


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MSLZZY 3/22/2013 5:49PM

    With age comes wisdom but why does it take so long to get here? Stick to your guns and don't let anyone push you into unhealthy choices. Have a great weekend. HUGS!

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SUSANNAH31 3/22/2013 4:38PM

    I agree that being too old for something really does mean that you are too wise to put yourself through it.
Great blog!



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ROXYZMOM 3/22/2013 3:11PM

    I love this blog! Excellent job!

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MRS.DOYLE 3/22/2013 3:10PM

    Another way to look at it is we are becoming old enough to realise that almost nothing really matters. Seriously. I have seen some terrible things and just thinking about them puts everything else in perspective.

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LILPAT3 3/22/2013 2:42PM

    As my 50th birthday is coming incredibly close...I prefer the too wise! emoticon

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LESLIELENORE 3/22/2013 2:29PM

    Very wise!

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KALIGIRL 3/22/2013 1:49PM

    Like it - too Old = too Wise

Sorry for the pressure particularly with the 'delay' in spring weather.
Namaste my friend.

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LINDAKAY228 3/22/2013 1:41PM

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DLDMIL 3/22/2013 11:22AM

    "To Wise"! Yes we are to wise to let otherthings stand in our way of being healthy. We have learned our lesson and we know better now. Great blog, Barb. Keep pushing, you will get through this project, by doing your part with your health and you head held high. emoticon

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DALID414 3/22/2013 11:14AM

    I've used the phrase even in my early 20s! Too old to feel like a scolded child, too old to feel bullied....

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-STARRYEYED- 3/22/2013 11:11AM

    emoticon in making the choice to take care of yourself. emoticon

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MIZCATHI 3/22/2013 10:09AM

    I really love this blog because of it's trueness. Too old doesn't mean not young enough to take the beating, it means doing what you should have done a long time ago. Take care of yourself first, and the rest will get done. My last job was froth with this kind of overall beating of it's employees, and it ended up kaput.

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ANDI571 3/22/2013 9:41AM

    I love love love the statement, I am to WISE. Let's get that negative word "old" out of our vocabulary. emoticon

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LJCANNON 3/22/2013 9:37AM

    emoticon We are Too Old to take Our Health for granted, We are Too Old to be Bullied and we are Too Old to believe that We Are Indispensable to The Job. And those are ALL Good Things! I am going to enjoy being Older & Wiser!!

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DEBRITA01 3/22/2013 8:30AM

    Since we are older and wiser, we know that some things just aren't worth risking our health for. When we were younger, we thought we could/should do it all. Dealing with stress is tricky, but I always remind myself that if food isn't the problem, it isn't the answer either. Good pep talk, Barb...stay strong!

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KANOE10 3/22/2013 8:11AM

    It is hard when you feel pressure to perform. You are right. Be wise and take care of your body. We are never too old to work on staying healthy!

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1935MARY 3/22/2013 8:08AM

    To old for this. We say this allot, but you are right. What are we to old for? I can name one thing off the top of my head, to old to bear children, but I have already accomplished that. lol. I am not to old to lose weigh, it just takes me longer, not to old to learn new things, not to old to have fun. I am older, but I am not dead. I can accomplish most any thing, at least try. I may never have the body I had when I was younger, but I can have a better, healthier, smaller one then I have now. I am worth it. We all are. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 3/22/2013 8:03AM

    Well, I might be considered in the "old" category too (at age 59), but I consider myself wiser, too Barb. Wiser in that I have learned ways to deal with stressors that DON'T include food. That is huge. And probably more importantly, to stick up for myself -- not aggressively, but assertively. So, that's a good thing! That's a good lesson to have learned.

HUGS!

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WATERMELLEN 3/22/2013 8:02AM

    Absolutely agree: we're too old to be bullied!

And since I'm my own boss: I'm too old to bully me!!

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If I wrote the blog that's in my head...

Thursday, March 21, 2013

I would be late to work this morning. You see, I went to watch my baby sister walk across the stage last night and receive her AAS degree. This is about her "3rd degree" (I'm sure she'll correct me), having a bachelor's from the first time through college, then retraining not once, but now twice.

This, of course, got me to thinking, in Sparkly ways: for some of us, it takes multiple trips through the learning process related to self-care, nutrition, exercise, and getting the balance we both need and desire in life.

One of the speakers talked about the graduates having set a goal to obtain their education, and achieving it. I thought about how important it is to both recognize achievements, and move on... because you all know how I feel about finish lines. They are dangerous beasts that can lead to let-downs. In fact, one of the featured blogs in this morning's Spark mail talked about that "what now?" that happens when achieving one goal leaves you still not satisfied. (He actually termed it unhappy.)

Anyway, I have to get moving now, but that's the start of the blog that had been in my head... that we keep moving forward, while celebrating and recognizing how far we have come.

Congrats, Jen and good luck with the exam next July... and all the positive changes you are making happen in your life.

Life is good! Spark on! emoticon

  
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ROXYZMOM 3/22/2013 6:08PM

    As Miley Cyrus sang ... There will always be another mountain to climb!

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_LINDA 3/22/2013 12:30AM

    Congrats to Jen! Looks like she is a seeker of the what comes next goal ;)
Keep on moving! Keep on moving forward!

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RAINBOWMF 3/22/2013 12:22AM

    Thanks for sharing

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KARIDIAN1 3/21/2013 10:58PM

    Congrats to your sister!

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MIRAGE727 3/21/2013 7:37PM

    Love what you shared, Barb! Thank you!


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DEBRITA01 3/21/2013 6:45PM

    We never stop learning and can train for new interests...and that's a beautiful thing. Congrats to your sis! emoticon

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DLDMIL 3/21/2013 3:19PM

    emoticon to Jen

emoticon to you, Barb for another thought provoking blog.

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DALID414 3/21/2013 3:00PM

    emoticon I see she corrected you on something

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SPINNINGJW 3/21/2013 11:11AM

    Actually, it is JULY before I get to take my board exam. I don't know of this other "retraining" you speak of, unless it would have been my CNA class. High School, Nebraska Wesleyan and now Southeast Community College. So, as soon as I pass the board exam, I can state my name as Jennifer Williss, BS, PTA


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MEXGAL1 3/21/2013 11:05AM

    Congrats to Jen
have a terrific day!

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MSLZZY 3/21/2013 9:57AM

    Congrats to Jen but also to you. You mad some very valid points today. Thanks for sharing! HUGS!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/21/2013 9:04AM

    Whether it's setting a goal or keeping my eye on the prize, it's very necessary and beneficial. For me, it's so easy to get side-tracked; and when that happens I also get derailed. Going through that now. But I am pulling my eyes back to the road/prize and as I get closer to the finish line ( a LONG way off) I'll have to figure out how to deal with that and set a new goal. Nice blog.

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LJCANNON 3/21/2013 8:36AM

    emoticon Congratulations to Your Sister, and WTG You for recognizing the Danger in "Finish Lines"

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GABY1948 3/21/2013 8:30AM

    Great words this morning...thanks for sharing and getting us to think yet again! Have a great day!

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KALIGIRL 3/21/2013 8:25AM

    " that we keep moving forward, while celebrating and recognizing how far we have come..."

Well said, my friend.
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LEANJEAN6 3/21/2013 8:21AM

    why am I not surprised that your sister is a high acheiver?--LOL---So nice!!!-----We are still at daughters--- reverse the whole trip to-morrow--certainly is snowy and cold here in Ohio!--- Lynda emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 3/21/2013 8:17AM

    You and your sis sound like 2 peas in a pod! Both go after what you want and don't stop till you've done it! good genes on that one!

HUGS

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Meditation musing

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Yesterday's meditation e-mail did not arrive until after I'd gone to work, so I found myself in the situation of meditating in the evening, after my treadmill run, then this morning it was already in the in-box for today, and I did the meditation while the steel cut oats simmered.

This particular series, centering on health and balance of mind and body has been particularly refreshing. Even more so than the two I have participated in previously. I don't know whether this is topical, timing with life, or growth related, but it doesn't matter: it is, and it is helpful right now. For this I am grateful.

So on to today's pep talk: Tuesday went well, and according to plan.

* Today is full of meetings. Take the day one meeting at a time.
* Remember to breathe.
* Drink your water.
* Eat what's in the bag, that's why you packed it.
* You don't need what people have brought for the "food day".
* Take those break walks, even if they are not at the "normal" time.

Oh, and congrats to SPINNINGJW, a new Spark member, but a life-long presence in my life (youngest sister). She's graduating with an Associates in Physical Therapy today, and committing herself to healthy habits... and just joined Spark, so if you want to stop by her Spark page to wish her well, it would be totally cool!

Life is good! Spark on, and Namaste. emoticon emoticon

  
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DEBRA0818 3/21/2013 8:04AM

    I really like the flexibility implied in taking your break walks even if they're not at the normal time -- I have to remind myself sometimes that doing things I want to do doesn't have to be on a strict schedule (even though I still claim it needs to be done sometime)!

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ROXYZMOM 3/20/2013 10:48PM

    Great job with the meditations and positive talk!!

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KARIDIAN1 3/20/2013 9:39PM

    Good plan. I dislike meetings too.

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PATRICIAAK 3/20/2013 9:39PM

    Stay the course.
Congrats to Sis.

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DLDMIL 3/20/2013 4:44PM

    Namaste, stay focused on you

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SLENDERELLA61 3/20/2013 4:20PM

    Your meditation practice sounds like it was made to order for you. Namaste. As usual, your pep talk is great preparation for the challenges of your day. It reminds me to think ahead and anticipate mine, too. Welcome to you sis. I'll see if I can find her. Take care, SparkFriend!

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LINDAKAY228 3/20/2013 2:54PM

    Congratulations to your sister! And good for you for focusing one day at a tie

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DALID414 3/20/2013 11:30AM

    Namaste emoticon

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HEALTHY4ME 3/20/2013 10:55AM

    Will do and you have a great day!


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MSLZZY 3/20/2013 10:31AM

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1CRAZYDOG 3/20/2013 10:11AM

    Meditation is so helpful to me too. You have a great plan and the bigger plus is it's working for you!

Definitely will stop by your sis's page!

HUGS

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SPINNINGJW 3/20/2013 9:24AM

    Actually, it is an Associate's of Applied Science degree for Physical Therapist Assistant. Should I make my page public?

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KALIGIRL 3/20/2013 8:58AM

    Will definitely visit SPINNINGJW and emoticon to you on your flexibility with getting those walk breaks in.
Namaste my friend.
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DEBRITA01 3/20/2013 8:52AM

    Good plan for today! (Went over to say hello on SPINNINGJW's page but it's private) emoticon

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GABY1948 3/20/2013 8:18AM

    Wonderful blog, Barb! Have a great day!

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JAYKAYSTRONG 3/20/2013 7:48AM

    I'm doing the perfect health meditation challenge as well, and I agree, this is particularly helpful. It's wonderful that you *sparked* your sister to join!

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Moving on to Tuesday's pep talk

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Monday went well. Stuck to the plan, observed a rest day, pacing on the phone in the evening as first my son, then one of my sisters called.

So, on to Tuesday, in a similar vein:

* Look for the silver linings (thanks to EBEAMS)

* Drink that water
* Eat what's in the bag, it's healthy.
* Take those break walks, even if they aren't at the normal time.

* Get on the treadmill to the beginning round of the big dance emoticon

LIFE is good, healthy life is BETTER, Sparking on all cylinders is the BEST! emoticon

  
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LILPAT3 3/20/2013 3:26PM

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    You go girl!! Spark On!!

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DALID414 3/19/2013 11:39PM

    I was up at 5am and was TOO tired for a pep talk

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KARIDIAN1 3/19/2013 11:26PM

    Plan your work and then work your plan. You did it!

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PATRICIAAK 3/19/2013 9:41PM

    I like 'sparking on all cylinders'.

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DOGLADY13 3/19/2013 9:33PM

    You go, girl! Your pep talks are great.

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LINDAKAY228 3/19/2013 6:08PM

    Awesome!

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SLENDERELLA61 3/19/2013 1:11PM

    Congrats on a successful Monday and a great plan for Tuesday! TM is good, especially while watching the round ball. Love watching the college girls play. Pacing while on phone is good. Having that bag packed with good stuff -- that's priceless. Good for you!! Best wishes for Sparkin on all cylinders this Tuesday and for days and days to come!!! -Marsha

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EBEAMS 3/19/2013 11:30AM

    It's there ... I promise ... it's there! It is so much easier to see the challenges when the blessings are mixed in there somewhere. I'm rooting for you and am confident that you "got this"! emoticon

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MEXGAL1 3/19/2013 11:02AM

    Have a terrific day!

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1CRAZYDOG 3/19/2013 10:43AM

    Short, sweet, to the point! HUGS

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KELLIEBEAN 3/19/2013 10:35AM

    I love your pep talks! Really helps!

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    Sounds like a great plan ! Enjoy treadmilling to the emoticon

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LESLIELENORE 3/19/2013 9:45AM

    Sounds like you have this under control.

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GABY1948 3/19/2013 9:24AM

    I like that...sparking on all cylinders! emoticon

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KALIGIRL 3/19/2013 8:46AM

    Here't to all cylinders and Ariel!
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WATERMELLEN 3/19/2013 7:33AM

    Yup, there's generally a silver lining discernible if we look for it!!

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MSLZZY 3/19/2013 7:33AM

    You've got it all planned so go for it!

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  Thanks for sharing

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Monday's mental strength pep talk

Monday, March 18, 2013

* Beware the pink clouds, Barb.

* Keep your head in the game.

* Drink your water.
* Eat what's in the bag, that's why you packed it.
* Remember to take those walk breaks, even if not at the "regular" time.

* No matter what anyone else says today, you still can only do what you can do in the time allotted.

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PATRICIAAK 3/19/2013 1:17AM

    Stay positive

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-SHOREIDO- 3/18/2013 9:11PM

    Love your attitude (as usual)!!! and your right!! emoticon

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OVERWORKEDJANET 3/18/2013 8:50PM

    Feeling your work pain. I just had another staff quit. Doing the work of 4 people now. I'm kinda ready the throw in the towel!

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DLDMIL 3/18/2013 8:24PM

    emoticon exactly what I did today.

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WATERMELLEN 3/18/2013 7:34PM

    As always, your pep talk works pretty much for me too, thank you!! (I just sub in "drink coffee" heh heh heh . . . )

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_LINDA 3/18/2013 3:14PM

    You go Barb!!
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MEXGAL1 3/18/2013 10:49AM

    Have a terrific week!

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DALID414 3/18/2013 10:42AM

    I'm stealing the last one and using it today too. (My boyfriend tells me this all the time.)

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MSLZZY 3/18/2013 7:46AM

    Great attitude! Go for it!

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1CRAZYDOG 3/18/2013 7:41AM

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    Have a good day.

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