Wednesday, April 24, 2013
I read an article once that talked about the things that leads to the most stress in life. It used the acronym NUTs. What drives one crazy, it said, are the Nagging Unfinished Tasks. So it is no wonder that I'm waking up this morning feeling anxious and stressed and wanting to go back to sleep.
At work I have hanging several such things. I will start in on a "thing" (multi-part) that needs to be completed, just a part of the big project I've mentioned. Or maybe it's something independent of the project, just something else among my responsibilities. And I'll get interrupted in the process, by something else that requires "urgent" attention, or is given to me as a higher priority, or sometimes just to help someone out.
Normally, I consider myself an "interrupt driven" processor (IT folks will understand that term). I grab the highest priority task, give it the attention it needs, and move on to the next. However, if I get to the end of my work day, and I never got back to the first thing I was doing to complete it? It remains a Nagging Unfinished Task. I can handle SOME of this, force myself to leave, live my life, saying I'll get back to it tomorrow.
But tomorrow is TODAY now, and I have meetings all over my calendar. The NUTs will remain NUTs... and this is how big holes can end up in work product.
The plan to deal: remember that the PROCESSOR (me) needs to be given priorities. One of those priorities is self-maintenance. So...
1) Drink that water
2) Remember that the cookie at the coffee kiosk and the candy bar in the vending machine won't help in the long run
3) TAKE THOSE BREAK WALKS EVEN IF IT MEANS LEAVING THE NUTS AS NUTS FOR A WHILE.
4) Remember that your value as a producer is worthless if you kill yourself doing the producing!
YOU are worth it. Once in a while close your eyes and remember to breathe!
Tuesday, April 23, 2013
I have deliberately started to schedule my consultations at the JC center for after work on Monday. This is to force myself to leave work!
Once again, I've been blessed by an observant comment by an angel wearing skin... this time my JC consultant. I'd had a great week, in terms of healthy behaviors... and she asked about it. I mentioned how the events at the Boston Marathon kind of whupped me upside the head back out of self doubt and worry, and to the need of LIVING and appreciating each moment of life.
What she said: "You seem to do better in the face of stressful things you know you cannot control. The problems arise when you believe you can control what's stressing you!" Whoa! Another meaty mind-meal!
Seriously... I think it's a little step further: I tend to fall apart on the healthy coping when I believe I am EXPECTED to control things and I will be judged when I cannot. I may be perfectly aware they are out of control. This could be an element of the people pleaser in me.
So, once again, insight to the rescue! Another little tool for the belt.
Today: remember the water, stay hydrated. Eat what's in the bag, that's why you packed it. Do what you can. Make each decision independently.
And LIVE, because LIFE is good! Spark On!
Monday, April 22, 2013
It's funny, but attitude is everything, right? The weekend was productive AND fun. I slept really well. I feel energized and ready to take that energy to work. Reminders to self:
* Do the best you can. Neither immediately judge a task impossible, nor blame yourself if it doesn't all get done today.
* If you start to get anxious, remember that the cookie at the coffee kiosk and the candy bar in the vending machine will NOT make it better in the long run.
* TAKE those walking breaks, even if they don't happen at the "normal" time.
* Leave on time! That's why you made that appointment for after work on Monday!
LIFE is good, and we are worth it! Spark on.
Sunday, April 21, 2013
Yesterday's outing with Becky (KALIGIRL) had a LOT of conversation, but you know how one or two things in an encounter stick out to you? Maybe make you make a different decision over the course of the next few days?
Well, Becky, thanks to something you said in the car on the way, I ended up in the pool swimming laps this morning before TV church! It felt WONDERFUL!
I'm not sure she even remembers saying this... how many of us do remember every comment we've ever made to a friend? But as we were talking I mentioned it had been a while since I swam. And she was giving me the kind of encouraging feedback we're used to getting from our Spark friends: well, it wasn't your favorite sport, and you are still being active... or words to that effect.
Whoa! That got tucked away to sit up and take notice to later. Not my favorite sport? First, is that true? It's not my best performing sport, that's true. But I've always viewed swimming as a kind of "reward" activity! And here I had been with-holding it from myself! That's what got me thinking.
So this morning, I decided I was not going to let anything stop me from rewarding myself with a swim. I was not going to let fear of not fitting in the suit... I was not going to let procrastination... and I was not going to let forgetting my padlock... stop me from getting to the gym and getting my swim in.
Have I lost some swimming fitness since the triathlon last summer? You bet I have! I swam 36 lengths (900 yards) in rotations of my 6 distinct strokes... in 30 minutes. I don't think I could have done it as "all crawl". And it felt... WONDERFUL.
So now I'm back home, with my favorite TV church service to keep me company, and I'm about to get back to the laundry I started earlier.
And with this blog goes a great big THANK YOU... to all the people whose stray comment, or blog, or question... makes me think... re-evaluate... and enrich life!
Which, as I keep saying... is GOOD. Spark on!
Saturday, April 20, 2013
This morning KALIGIRL pulled into my driveway at 6:30 a.m., and thus began our day of adventures. It was a blast. We didn't stop talking the whole time and she dropped me back home at 11:51 a.m.
First, we drove East, and missed the turn she intended to take. I didn't notice, because I was not aware of which way she intended, and it was the same way as to my cousin's farm... so it looked familiar and proper to ME! We laughed and discovered a different route (again, talking all the way, mostly me, but I did let her get the occasional story in!)
We arrived at AkSarBen just in time. Which was good. Because it was COLD outside this morning. The sun made a small effort, but soon clouded under. We got our bibs, and lined up with the others "doing" the 5K. We were "just" walking, because that's what we needed to do today.
The territory we traversed was a park, a walking trail, mostly. It was *wonderful* catching up and briskly walking so as not to freeze (did I mention it was COLD?) After our walk, we started to walk across the field, only to discover ... squish... squish... it was rather WET... not just COLD. So we opted to go visit a nearby deli and had marvelous bagel sandwiches and good coffee.
And kept on talking, and talking... covering a range of themes, Sparkly and outside the Spark norm as well. One Spark reminiscence we shared was of the discussions of nutrition we had back in the day when we were first learning to drop the weight. We both enthused over the current state of our health and fitness and our commitment to keep a healthy lifestyle FOR life. And we missed some Spark friends that we shared that seem to have little if any Spark presence these days... we send up wishes for healthy happy lives outside of Spark to WalkingAnnie in particular, as she was/and continues to be a large influence for good to both of us.
We talked about our reaction to the events of the past week (or two) on a personal, professional and news cycle level. And we just shared a whole lot of positive feelings and healing love to spread around, so Spark buds, you get the overflow of bubbles.
And Becky gave me a tour of the UNO campus on the way home, which I hadn't seen in YEARS, so that too added to the senses of adventure.
Anyway, I uploaded the photographic proof of KaliGirl's presence (I was behind the camera, sorry, you didn't get ME... this time, anyway). This has been a great day... and it's only mid-day. And you know how I feel? ALIVE... AWARE... AWAKE!
So get on out there and Spark! You're worth it, every one of you!
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