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It's Saturday! Strategy for the week or two ahead.

Saturday, February 27, 2010

The work week was productive, and an important point to celebrate, I kept my promise to myself about taking those ten minutes seriously! It's so important to keep promises to ourselves. When we don't keep a promise, the perfectionist in us starts calling us names!

Lesson from that is the need to make realistic promises. Ten minutes is something I can do. Even when life is nuts! Ten minutes of squats in front of the TV? Ten minutes of stretching while waiting for your car to have its oil changed? Ten minutes to walk outside because the temperature has finally topped freezing again? Yes, this is something that can be done!

The other big thing right now is being a lady-in-waiting. Waiting for my son to come home on leave. I haven't seen him on line in a couple of days. I don't know if he's blacked out, in transit, or just busy getting wrapped up and transferring responsibilities.

I haven't had a mom-hug since October 10th; it's been a long dry spell. Big things have been happening in my kid's life experience and I haven't been able to be physically present to offer my support. I think that's called "he's a grown-up now, mom".

While he's here, I anticipate becoming "Velcro-woman", torn between my desire to spend as much time with him as I can squeeze in (and he is available, I'm surprisingly not the only person he wants to see emoticon) and my need to be needed at work.

"Velcro-woman" is not my favorite persona. I have a tendency to get my head in one game and not want to leave it, only realizing when I come up for air that a whole other game got played out and has moved on in my mental absence.

Balance is once again key. Realistic goals. And keeping promises to myself.

I promise to use healthy means to deal with my old nemesis, Velcro-woman. I will loosen the connections to work and trust that others will carry the ball in my absence. I will accept what time I have with my son and cherish each minute without asking for more.

  
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KALIGIRL 2/27/2010 9:44PM

    Here's to balance and seeing your son!

PS - love the pics of his dog.

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WALKINGANNIE 2/27/2010 11:21AM

    'Velcro woman' is a great expression. I hadn't heard that one before.

You must be so excited about seeing your son and you're so sensible that you're bound to get the balance right.

I smiled at your intro because the inner perfectionist got me out of bed last night to check whether I'd done my 10,000 steps for that particular day - even though I'm over my average for the week. I was 800 short and just HAD to do them, despite knowing that it wasn't a big deal in the overall scheme of things. I just couldn't bear to break my streak.


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SUNNY332 2/27/2010 8:16AM

    I can not wait until you post that he is home and you got your Mom Hug.

Take care, keep up the good work, and awesome strategy for the new week or so.
Planning is so important to success.

Hugs, Sunny

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DEBRA_T 2/27/2010 8:09AM

    I'm so excited for you, Barb, to be reunited with your son. You have had such success marking time to exercise, I know you'll be able to work it out when your son comes home. And, great idea there about keeping promises to ourselves -- we just have to become people we can rely on or else the drama of weight loss/weight gain will never end.

Bye-bye Velcro-Woman, Hello Woman of Charm, Beauty and Balance!

xxxooo

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MSLZZY 2/27/2010 7:32AM

    I think thos in your workplace will be willing to pick up the ball and carry it for you when you have your son home. They will understand how important this is for both of you. Now be ready to let go of Velcro-woman and enjoy your time together, emoticon

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Taking ten minutes seriously!

Thursday, February 25, 2010

The regular followers have the baseline of Barb's life right now: super busy at work with interesting stuff that will swallow her alive by leading her active mind after shiny objects. (Can you do this?)

You've seen me express my resolve to not let this ruin my hard work and health this time! (I can do that!)

So now we're down to the "how am I going to do that?" part of the old FedEx commercial (yes, my age is showing again).

And here's today's thought about the how: "Embrace the ten minutes!"

That's how. That shiny document at work? That question coming in from a colleague? It can wait ten minutes while I go take my walk break. Embrace that ten minute walk! If it's late because of a meeting letting out late, so be it, but embrace it, and take that ten-minute walk.

At home? That e-mail, that on-line game, the bills, whatever... can wait ten minutes while I do a few squats and lifts! Seriously, ten minutes. Is anything in life that is not a medical emergency (of course) so urgent that it cannot wait ten minutes?

Funny thing, when I do this? The question sometimes got answered without me! The shiny document I get back to? I might find a couple of fresh ideas popped up while I walked! OK, doesn't work with housework, but housework will ever be with us!

If I don't let my busy-ness steal my ten minutes here and there, then the half hour I give back at the end of the day won't kill my program!

  
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SHARON2014 2/27/2010 8:13AM

    This is a great idea and I plan to adopt it...no, I will adopt is starting today (sorry, the Fat Self and the Lazy Self answered first)...obviously, I just read Deb's blog! I have too many personalities I guess. Now I need to figure out how to overcome a few of them as they will never completely go away! thanks for the idea. Love your new background. emoticon

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XINIXINIX 2/26/2010 11:37AM

    Gotta love the "10 minutes" - and I've forgotten how powerful that time can be.

Thanks for the reminder!!



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MSLZZY 2/25/2010 9:55PM

    Well said! My 10 minutes won't make the world stop turning and fresh air clears the mind for better thinking! WTG!

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SMARTIEBEE 2/25/2010 2:59PM

    Great Blog Barb! It is really another way of saying be "serious about making time for yourself! Even if only in 10 minute segments!" It is so important!


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NELLIEC 2/25/2010 2:31PM

    The mini-workouts are great. The only thing I can think of besides medical emergencies to interrupt might be those strange "kid" interruptions! Besides children can create exercise too!

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KALIGIRL 2/25/2010 1:48PM

    Here's to YOUR 10 minutes - keep them. They are precious.
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WALKINGANNIE 2/25/2010 1:29PM

    I love your strategy updates. They spur me on.

I sometimes use the delay timer on my microwave to mark off 10 / 20 / 30 / 40 and 50 minute time slots if I'm at home. I continue an activity unti I hear bip bip bip.

You won't need luck for this as you've got such firm resolve.

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RUMBLETIGER 2/25/2010 10:43AM

    Great attitude! Thanks, that's what I needed to hear today - I can do this in little spurts too. They count just as much as the longer ones.

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SUNNY332 2/25/2010 8:49AM

    Mini workouts work best for me too especially on days I work in Clinic.

Thanks for a great post.

Hugs, Sunny

How many days until your soldier boy comes home to visit?

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 2/25/2010 8:37AM

    Great idea!

RE: housework - my DH used to say that if he wanted to go for a drive, the housework would always be there when we got back.

I remember a spectacular sunset that I would have missed if I had finished the dishes before going to free my dog who was caught around the tree yet again. I remember being so mad at him because he was putting up such a racket that I had to stop doing the dishes. Then I saw the sunset. It really put things into perspective!

You definitely have the right idea!

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DEBRA_T 2/25/2010 7:30AM

    Awesome, Barb! I just took the Spark Poll: long workouts or mini workouts? I'm in favor of the Mini Workout -- so much less intimidating and it makes exercise a part of all day instead of a special event I have to deal with when I have time. As you say, you always can put stuff off for 10 minutes! Since you agree with me, you're a genius! LOL

You're doing a great thing here, Barb, it's called success.

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The balance challenge

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

This is not everybody, but it is certainly my own history: I'm a project person. I'm fascinated by shiny new ones. Work has me working on one yet again.

Most times in the past when I'm in my element at work, I am obsessed. Yes, I steal time from myself to spend polishing the documentation, helping other folks with their problems and throwing my own time into making up for it.

This has generally been at the expense of my health. The first thing that usually drops is whatever exercise plan I'm on. The second thing that goes is whatever nutrition I'd been getting. The third thing, as a direct result, is my health.

I've managed to be in denial about this for most of 50 years. I would lose weight and "get healthy", then take on a big challenge. Remember the old college "freshman 15"? I got to a healthy weight right before college (although in an unhealthy way)... then wham.

I did it again for pregnancy. I ate healthy while growing a baby, then after he was born, almost immediately started doing both work and school, and the healthy living plan unraveled.

Four years later, during a slow time at work, I joined WW and dropped a whopping 80 pounds, started running, and kept the bulk of it off for nearly 5 years. Then took on a demanding job that involved flying away from home each and every week... and it became hard to keep up the good habits. You get the idea.

Most recently, I'd got to a healthy weight about five years ago, kept it off for one and a half, when an injury combined with taking on a second huge work responsibility tripped me up yet again.

NO MORE! This time it's going to be different. This time it's for the rest of my life.

How is it going to be different: I'm already starting. I'm delegating. I'm refusing to give up my walking breaks. I'm allowing myself to be imperfect in my performance of both work and my habits. I'm jealously guarding my soda-free streak (58 days now). I'm sparking and enlisting support of others with similar goals.

Yes, this time it really is going to be different. This time I have it in my gut that my life really does depend on taking care of me, body and spirit, not just mind.

You, my spark friends, are keeping me honest! emoticon

  
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WALKINGANNIE 2/24/2010 3:36PM

    I'm sure you speak for a lot of us Barb. My history has many parallels.

It's great that you've made this commitment and are providing such a good role model. You will be helping me - and many others I think - as you keep recording your progress.

You've identified the pitfalls so well and I'm so glad to be in a network of like-minded people with similar experiences, challenges, distractions and goals. We'll keep each other in line!

Thanks so much.

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KALIGIRL 2/24/2010 1:51PM

    emoticon emoticon I love that you now know you are #1!

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SMARTIEBEE 2/24/2010 1:16PM

    Awsome blog! Balance is the KEY!

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SUNNY332 2/24/2010 8:37AM

    Love it! Glad you are placing life in a balance.

If it is to be, it is up to me!
one of my all time quotes. Author unknown.

Have an awesome day.

Hugs,
Sunny

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MSLZZY 2/24/2010 12:12AM

    What a positive attitude! This IS your time now!

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FIT-AT-50 2/23/2010 10:44PM

    Thanks for sharing. I'm a project person and can relate completely. I'm counting on my commitment to logging into SparkPeople daily, and the support of SparkFriends to help me stay on this healthy food and fitness wagon. It seems to me that you've made the same commitment, too!

We can do it!
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DEBRA_T 2/23/2010 9:44PM

    The nicest thing about experience is it gives us the opportunity to learn something and you've certainly learned something important about putting yourself and your health first. All the way back where I'm standing, I can see how critical that simple yet challenging effort can be. You're shining a light here for us newbies, Barb!

Cheers, Deb
xxxooo

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SLENDERELLA61 2/23/2010 9:27PM

    Oh, I can relate so much. Balance is difficult when you feel like focus is much more productive. It is great that you are finding a way to get your health as a priority. I admire that soda-free streak! So good for you!!

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NELLIEC 2/23/2010 9:22PM

    Yes, it will be different. Take it a day at a time!

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It's hard to pretend I don't like Mondays

Monday, February 22, 2010

Workaholic coming out of the closet here: What is it that makes it "unfashionable" to like Mondays? What makes our work life so much less "life" than time at home?

For me, and other folks who really love what we do for a living this will ever be a puzzle. Yes, the next six months at work are going to be full of stress (excitement, pressure, striving toward goals), and temptation (to work more hours than is good for me, to turn to food for extra energy, to rob minutes from my exercise to do more at work). But my work is in large part what makes me, me!

I recognize that work is not that way for everyone, but I have to admit that when I get up on Monday morning it's a relief to have got through the weekend and be going back, refreshed, mind you, by the break, to something that makes me feel useful and productive and helpful to others. Something that challenges my mind and lets me exercise strength of mind, character, thought, and imagination.

OK, 'nuff about that... from a Spark / health perspective, one of my challenges in life is to not be absorbed by my work persona. Because that work persona ceases to exist if I don't take good care of the body that houses it.

Cheers to everyone, and have a Sparking good and balanced Monday! And as a side note: Day 57 soda free begins now!

  
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SUNNY332 2/22/2010 8:15PM

    I love my work too, Barb. It is a good thing as so many folks out there don't.

Take care and have an awesome week. It is back to work for me tomorrow.

Won't be long now until your soldier is home. Woohoo! He is going to be so
surprised to see you.

Hugs, Sunny

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MSLZZY 2/22/2010 5:39PM

    Day 57-awesome! I like Mondays as well. Mostly because I know I'll have plenty to do and won't be bored LOL! I do enjoy home time and there is always more to do than weekend to do it in but I make the most of my time and still leave a little for "me". The work will still be there so do what I can and know I am still gainfully employed.

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WALKINGANNIE 2/22/2010 1:00PM

    I'm with you 100% here Barb. I know that we're very lucky to have jobs that we love.

I used to think I was a workaholic but have started using the term 'work enthusiast'!

Hope you have a great working week!

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VSWINGLE 2/22/2010 12:27PM

    Sounds like you have a great job! Way to go!!

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WILMASOTO 2/22/2010 10:58AM

    Way to go girl!! First 57 days soda free is awesome!! GO GO GO!!

As far as loving Monday's that is awesome. It is so wonderful when we love what we do and look forward to it!!

Continue to enjoy you Monday's and thank for sharing.

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PATRISNA 2/22/2010 10:39AM

    Wow! 57 DAYS without soda! Give yourself a gold star for every day! I am sure you are feeling much better without it.

I had jobs I loved. Life was good. But I also had some jobs that were extremely stressful. Sometimes to the point of making me ill. Those were some tough times. Loving what you do is very important.

I am happy you have a position you enjoy. It really does make all the difference in your feeling of self worth and your overall health. Hope you have a great week.

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KALIGIRL 2/22/2010 9:34AM

    Here's to day 57!
You're blessed to want to go to work, when so many are under-employed.
Sounds like you are reaching a balance between work and play personas.
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CREATINGAMANDA 2/22/2010 9:29AM

    I don't mind Mondays either ... so you're not the only one emoticon

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JGOLFER 2/22/2010 9:06AM

    That's wonderful that you love your job. Sometimes I am anxious to return to work (you notice I said sometimes?).
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Great job on the 57 days without soda! I am working on 21 days without a diet coke. It's hard!
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XINIXINIX 2/22/2010 8:16AM

    :::::::standing ovation:::::::::
on day 57 - fantastic! My streak has been someting in the lower double digits so bravissimo !

As for work and Mondays - wow, what a gift that you l-o-v-e what you do for a living. I don't mind the day so much myself but can't say that I'm quite there with you on the reasons why.

Have a SPARKtacular week!

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DEBRA_T 2/22/2010 7:56AM

    I think it's awesome that you like your work, Barb! That makes you a person with a rare chance for happiness since work consumes (at least) half of all our waking hours. I applaud your efforts to seek balance in your life, too, and I hope that every Monday continues to be a happy occasion for you!

Cheers, Debra

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P.S. 57 Days without Soda! WOW-eeeeeeeee!!!!!

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Sunday morning - feeling good

Sunday, February 21, 2010

This morning's pamper myself breakfast was half a grapefruit, an egg-beaters veggie omelet, and warm milk flavored with amaretto coffee. It was very filling, as well as healthy.

Topped that off with a satisfying exchange of instant messages with my son. I'm counting days... a week from today he'll be staging to come home on a two-week leave. It's been three weeks since we've had an exchange of this length, and it makes my mom's heart soar to hear him talking positively about his future beyond deployment. He left to go have his supper, but the glow stays on after every such conversation.

Yesterday I finally went out on Spark and read the help on how to reset my goals / program, so I may have lost some history, but I'm following the steps, even though I am very close to "home" weight. You see, I think of maintenance as a kind of fresh start. I'm trying to infuse it with a sense of purpose I have not always given this phase of healthy living. I have always been reluctant to do this (reset my goals) before, but it feels good.

Here's to the journey ahead, as well as the journey up to this point!

  
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DEBRA_T 2/21/2010 10:24PM

    Hi Barb! It's wonderful to hear that your son is getting ready to come home for a visit; I can feel the glow from over here. I've been thinking a lot about the ways in which taking care of ourselves is a lifetime project and I think you're very wise to see maintenance as a fresh part of that project -- it really is! This is where the women and the girls get separated and I just know that you're going to come down on the right side.

Cheers, Deb
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SLENDERELLA61 2/21/2010 10:09PM

    Breakfast sounded yummy and the contact with your son -- well, wonderful! Having him home -- won't be long.

Starting over on maintenance is a great way of looking at it. Hope you'll blog more about your new goals and new program.
Take care, Marsha

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KALIGIRL 2/21/2010 9:37PM

    Sounds perfect - so excited your son is coming home!
Maintenance is a new beginning and we're excited you're joining us.

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WALKINGANNIE 2/21/2010 4:27PM

    Sounds a lovely start to the day. I'll definitely be trying a 'pamper breakfast'.

I'm so pleased that you'll have your son for a two-week leave as well. That would definitely brighten your day.

It's great that you're planning ahead and setting a sense of purpose for maintenance and are preparing well for the rest of this lifelong process - especially with your big project to contend with as well.

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MSLZZY 2/21/2010 2:04PM

    It will feel so good to have your sone home on leave and I'm sure you will surprise him with the "new you"! Have a wonderful week and get ready for some quality time with your hero!

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RUMBLETIGER 2/21/2010 12:15PM

    Sounds like a wonderful day so far! Keep that smile on your face, and have a great rest of the day too!

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SUNNY332 2/21/2010 12:07PM

    I am so happy for you and rejoicing with you as you await your son's visit.

Take care and keep those wonderful memories close this week.

Hugs, Sunny

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