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Roller coaster Tuesday

Tuesday, March 02, 2010

Communications snafu had me incredibly high about 11:30 this morning when my daughter in law called to say our fella would be coming in to local airport, not the one three hours away, and his flight would get in at 6 p.m.

So, fluttering heart, left work an hour early to make sure I got home to let the dog out before heading to the airport. There were three flights in the 6 p.m. hour, on two different airlines. We sat through the deplaning of each... no son. With each, the rise of hope, the fall of disappointment as other families reunited and we were left standing there.

Eventually daughter in law wheedled out of the airline people that he was NOT scheduled on a flight tonight. We're thinking he's time zone challenged and we misinterpreted the day. Same drill tomorrow?

I'm now too weary to do any stressing... substituting puppy hugs and going to bed!

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KALIGIRL 3/3/2010 11:26AM

    Bummer - hope he's home soon!

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CONCHA77 3/3/2010 7:24AM

    Ah, what a bummer that must of been.
Today will be a better day! Hugs to all of you. Enjoy your son! and, take pictures!

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WALKINGANNIE 3/3/2010 2:07AM

    What an emotional roller coaster. I hope that today brings the longed-for reunion.

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SPENCEMOMOF5 3/2/2010 11:39PM

    Sorry about the mix up emoticon I know that it will all go away with the first hello and hug! emoticon Sleep well.

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DEBRA_T 3/2/2010 10:50PM

    Awwww, what a let down today. It's too bad that communications aren't more precise and that everyone doesn't have a clear idea of what's happening. But, you know he will be home with you this week and that is probably giving you sweet dreams right now!

Cheers, Debra
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Baby steps

Monday, March 01, 2010

Daughter in law IM'd me about ten minutes ago. She got the phone call he's out of country and will know in a couple of hours when his next leg of transport will be available. So, given it took 20 hours to get over there, we are probably guessing well that we'll be seeing the guy on Wednesday.

Meantime, had trouble keeping my focus at work. Me! The work passionate person. Didn't help that I walked out the door without my packed lunch, or the first words out of my team-mates' mouths when I walked in were "We're glad you're here!" At 7:45 a.m., that is not usually good news. Crisis taken care of but it threw me off my stride for a while.

I got just ONE of my ten-minute breaks for exercise in, although my food picture looked good for the day. I went out to Subway and had a big salad for lunch.

That's OK. This week, it's one day, one hour, one decision at a time! Balance... oh, yeah, and remember to breathe. Four in, four hold, eight out. Relax...

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JGOLFER 3/2/2010 7:54PM

    How exciting. No wonder you had trouble focusing at work - sounds like your found your balance though.

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WALKINGANNIE 3/2/2010 12:42PM

    Even the most work-focused person would be distracted by such excitement!

Well done on sorting a crisis, managing your food and keeping on top of everything with the sense of eager anticipation bubbling under.

Wishing you a wonderful time with your son.


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DEBRA_T 3/1/2010 11:19PM

    Whew! He's coming home!!!!!! That's the great news. And in the midst of all that you're having a salad for lunch????!!!! Absolutely awesome! I feel your happiness radiating all the way to Chi-town!



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SLENDERELLA61 3/1/2010 9:43PM

    Good for you for eating wisely and calm breathing during this exciting time. Take good care of yourself. You deserve it. -Marsha

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MSLZZY 3/1/2010 9:18PM

    You are getting excited and with good reason! One day at a time! I like your breathing idea, especially the relax part. You are good! emoticon

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NELLIEC 3/1/2010 9:17PM

    I could say you sound like the proverbial chicken! Breathe, breathe, breathe!!!

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KALIGIRL 3/1/2010 7:56PM

    Here's to baby steps (and having your baby home soon!

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SUNNY332 3/1/2010 7:52PM

    Breath in, breath out. Take it easy and be good to yourself.
We all would be forgetful given the circumstances.

Hugs, Sunny

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Things to do while waiting...

Sunday, February 28, 2010

I heard from my son a while ago. Leave's been put off a day. So... flexibility, flexibility! Suppose that's a hint for today to be a yoga day? emoticon

Things to do while waiting:
Church service is already over, so...

Take the recycles to the collection point
Grocery shopping
Prep next week's lunch salad bases
Oh, yeah, and if I start feeling anxious, exercise... take the dog for a walk to enjoy the day that's nicer than it has been lately.

In other words, the same things I'd do just about any Sunday. I wasn't planning on seeing him 'til Tuesday, anyway. Now maybe it is Wednesday. Patience and flexibility!

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SUNNY332 3/1/2010 8:56AM

    I know you must be a little disappointed. I certainly would be but I love your positive attitude and the ability to be flexible. The good news is that he will be here this week. emoticon, I am so happy for you.

Take care, Barb, and have an awesome week.


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SLENDERELLA61 2/28/2010 8:44PM

    I know it's disappointing, but hang on. It'll get here. Good for you for doing good things as you wait. Take care, Marsha

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VEMAN1 2/28/2010 6:07PM

    Great ideas. The lifestyle continues!

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KALIGIRL 2/28/2010 4:36PM

    Flexibility and deep breathing. He'll be in your arms before you know it.
My thoughts and prayers are with you!

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WALKINGANNIE 2/28/2010 2:53PM

    All good things are worth waiting for... but I know that the wait must be difficult for you.

Hope you have a good day and that the hours fly by for you until your son arrives and slow down while he is with you.

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FAHNZMOM 2/28/2010 1:46PM

    emoticon sounds like you have a good plan

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MSLZZY 2/28/2010 1:41PM

    Whatever day it is will be a very good day! Stay active and occupied and the time will go faster! emoticon

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DEBRA_T 2/28/2010 1:27PM

    Oh, the sweet agony of waiting for that reunion. I applaud your ability to do anything -- I would be so distracted it would be hard for me to concentrate on the tasks at hand.

Your task list looks like it will keep you busy all day!

Cheers, Debra

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It's Saturday! Strategy for the week or two ahead.

Saturday, February 27, 2010

The work week was productive, and an important point to celebrate, I kept my promise to myself about taking those ten minutes seriously! It's so important to keep promises to ourselves. When we don't keep a promise, the perfectionist in us starts calling us names!

Lesson from that is the need to make realistic promises. Ten minutes is something I can do. Even when life is nuts! Ten minutes of squats in front of the TV? Ten minutes of stretching while waiting for your car to have its oil changed? Ten minutes to walk outside because the temperature has finally topped freezing again? Yes, this is something that can be done!

The other big thing right now is being a lady-in-waiting. Waiting for my son to come home on leave. I haven't seen him on line in a couple of days. I don't know if he's blacked out, in transit, or just busy getting wrapped up and transferring responsibilities.

I haven't had a mom-hug since October 10th; it's been a long dry spell. Big things have been happening in my kid's life experience and I haven't been able to be physically present to offer my support. I think that's called "he's a grown-up now, mom".

While he's here, I anticipate becoming "Velcro-woman", torn between my desire to spend as much time with him as I can squeeze in (and he is available, I'm surprisingly not the only person he wants to see emoticon) and my need to be needed at work.

"Velcro-woman" is not my favorite persona. I have a tendency to get my head in one game and not want to leave it, only realizing when I come up for air that a whole other game got played out and has moved on in my mental absence.

Balance is once again key. Realistic goals. And keeping promises to myself.

I promise to use healthy means to deal with my old nemesis, Velcro-woman. I will loosen the connections to work and trust that others will carry the ball in my absence. I will accept what time I have with my son and cherish each minute without asking for more.

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KALIGIRL 2/27/2010 9:44PM

    Here's to balance and seeing your son!

PS - love the pics of his dog.

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WALKINGANNIE 2/27/2010 11:21AM

    'Velcro woman' is a great expression. I hadn't heard that one before.

You must be so excited about seeing your son and you're so sensible that you're bound to get the balance right.

I smiled at your intro because the inner perfectionist got me out of bed last night to check whether I'd done my 10,000 steps for that particular day - even though I'm over my average for the week. I was 800 short and just HAD to do them, despite knowing that it wasn't a big deal in the overall scheme of things. I just couldn't bear to break my streak.

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SUNNY332 2/27/2010 8:16AM

    I can not wait until you post that he is home and you got your Mom Hug.

Take care, keep up the good work, and awesome strategy for the new week or so.
Planning is so important to success.

Hugs, Sunny

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DEBRA_T 2/27/2010 8:09AM

    I'm so excited for you, Barb, to be reunited with your son. You have had such success marking time to exercise, I know you'll be able to work it out when your son comes home. And, great idea there about keeping promises to ourselves -- we just have to become people we can rely on or else the drama of weight loss/weight gain will never end.

Bye-bye Velcro-Woman, Hello Woman of Charm, Beauty and Balance!



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MSLZZY 2/27/2010 7:32AM

    I think thos in your workplace will be willing to pick up the ball and carry it for you when you have your son home. They will understand how important this is for both of you. Now be ready to let go of Velcro-woman and enjoy your time together, emoticon

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Taking ten minutes seriously!

Thursday, February 25, 2010

The regular followers have the baseline of Barb's life right now: super busy at work with interesting stuff that will swallow her alive by leading her active mind after shiny objects. (Can you do this?)

You've seen me express my resolve to not let this ruin my hard work and health this time! (I can do that!)

So now we're down to the "how am I going to do that?" part of the old FedEx commercial (yes, my age is showing again).

And here's today's thought about the how: "Embrace the ten minutes!"

That's how. That shiny document at work? That question coming in from a colleague? It can wait ten minutes while I go take my walk break. Embrace that ten minute walk! If it's late because of a meeting letting out late, so be it, but embrace it, and take that ten-minute walk.

At home? That e-mail, that on-line game, the bills, whatever... can wait ten minutes while I do a few squats and lifts! Seriously, ten minutes. Is anything in life that is not a medical emergency (of course) so urgent that it cannot wait ten minutes?

Funny thing, when I do this? The question sometimes got answered without me! The shiny document I get back to? I might find a couple of fresh ideas popped up while I walked! OK, doesn't work with housework, but housework will ever be with us!

If I don't let my busy-ness steal my ten minutes here and there, then the half hour I give back at the end of the day won't kill my program!

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SHARON2014 2/27/2010 8:13AM

    This is a great idea and I plan to adopt, I will adopt is starting today (sorry, the Fat Self and the Lazy Self answered first)...obviously, I just read Deb's blog! I have too many personalities I guess. Now I need to figure out how to overcome a few of them as they will never completely go away! thanks for the idea. Love your new background. emoticon

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XINIXINIX 2/26/2010 11:37AM

    Gotta love the "10 minutes" - and I've forgotten how powerful that time can be.

Thanks for the reminder!!

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MSLZZY 2/25/2010 9:55PM

    Well said! My 10 minutes won't make the world stop turning and fresh air clears the mind for better thinking! WTG!

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SMARTIEBEE 2/25/2010 2:59PM

    Great Blog Barb! It is really another way of saying be "serious about making time for yourself! Even if only in 10 minute segments!" It is so important!

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NELLIEC 2/25/2010 2:31PM

    The mini-workouts are great. The only thing I can think of besides medical emergencies to interrupt might be those strange "kid" interruptions! Besides children can create exercise too!

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KALIGIRL 2/25/2010 1:48PM

    Here's to YOUR 10 minutes - keep them. They are precious.

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WALKINGANNIE 2/25/2010 1:29PM

    I love your strategy updates. They spur me on.

I sometimes use the delay timer on my microwave to mark off 10 / 20 / 30 / 40 and 50 minute time slots if I'm at home. I continue an activity unti I hear bip bip bip.

You won't need luck for this as you've got such firm resolve.


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RUMBLETIGER 2/25/2010 10:43AM

    Great attitude! Thanks, that's what I needed to hear today - I can do this in little spurts too. They count just as much as the longer ones.

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SUNNY332 2/25/2010 8:49AM

    Mini workouts work best for me too especially on days I work in Clinic.

Thanks for a great post.

Hugs, Sunny

How many days until your soldier boy comes home to visit?


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    Great idea!

RE: housework - my DH used to say that if he wanted to go for a drive, the housework would always be there when we got back.

I remember a spectacular sunset that I would have missed if I had finished the dishes before going to free my dog who was caught around the tree yet again. I remember being so mad at him because he was putting up such a racket that I had to stop doing the dishes. Then I saw the sunset. It really put things into perspective!

You definitely have the right idea!

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DEBRA_T 2/25/2010 7:30AM

    Awesome, Barb! I just took the Spark Poll: long workouts or mini workouts? I'm in favor of the Mini Workout -- so much less intimidating and it makes exercise a part of all day instead of a special event I have to deal with when I have time. As you say, you always can put stuff off for 10 minutes! Since you agree with me, you're a genius! LOL

You're doing a great thing here, Barb, it's called success.

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