Monday, March 01, 2010
Daughter in law IM'd me about ten minutes ago. She got the phone call he's out of country and will know in a couple of hours when his next leg of transport will be available. So, given it took 20 hours to get over there, we are probably guessing well that we'll be seeing the guy on Wednesday.
Meantime, had trouble keeping my focus at work. Me! The work passionate person. Didn't help that I walked out the door without my packed lunch, or the first words out of my team-mates' mouths when I walked in were "We're glad you're here!" At 7:45 a.m., that is not usually good news. Crisis taken care of but it threw me off my stride for a while.
I got just ONE of my ten-minute breaks for exercise in, although my food picture looked good for the day. I went out to Subway and had a big salad for lunch.
That's OK. This week, it's one day, one hour, one decision at a time! Balance... oh, yeah, and remember to breathe. Four in, four hold, eight out. Relax...
OK, I'm good!
Sunday, February 28, 2010
I heard from my son a while ago. Leave's been put off a day. So... flexibility, flexibility! Suppose that's a hint for today to be a yoga day?
Things to do while waiting:
Church service is already over, so...
Take the recycles to the collection point
Prep next week's lunch salad bases
Oh, yeah, and if I start feeling anxious, exercise... take the dog for a walk to enjoy the day that's nicer than it has been lately.
In other words, the same things I'd do just about any Sunday. I wasn't planning on seeing him 'til Tuesday, anyway. Now maybe it is Wednesday. Patience and flexibility!
Saturday, February 27, 2010
The work week was productive, and an important point to celebrate, I kept my promise to myself about taking those ten minutes seriously! It's so important to keep promises to ourselves. When we don't keep a promise, the perfectionist in us starts calling us names!
Lesson from that is the need to make realistic promises. Ten minutes is something I can do. Even when life is nuts! Ten minutes of squats in front of the TV? Ten minutes of stretching while waiting for your car to have its oil changed? Ten minutes to walk outside because the temperature has finally topped freezing again? Yes, this is something that can be done!
The other big thing right now is being a lady-in-waiting. Waiting for my son to come home on leave. I haven't seen him on line in a couple of days. I don't know if he's blacked out, in transit, or just busy getting wrapped up and transferring responsibilities.
I haven't had a mom-hug since October 10th; it's been a long dry spell. Big things have been happening in my kid's life experience and I haven't been able to be physically present to offer my support. I think that's called "he's a grown-up now, mom".
While he's here, I anticipate becoming "Velcro-woman", torn between my desire to spend as much time with him as I can squeeze in (and he is available, I'm surprisingly not the only person he wants to see ) and my need to be needed at work.
"Velcro-woman" is not my favorite persona. I have a tendency to get my head in one game and not want to leave it, only realizing when I come up for air that a whole other game got played out and has moved on in my mental absence.
Balance is once again key. Realistic goals. And keeping promises to myself.
I promise to use healthy means to deal with my old nemesis, Velcro-woman. I will loosen the connections to work and trust that others will carry the ball in my absence. I will accept what time I have with my son and cherish each minute without asking for more.
Thursday, February 25, 2010
The regular followers have the baseline of Barb's life right now: super busy at work with interesting stuff that will swallow her alive by leading her active mind after shiny objects. (Can you do this?)
You've seen me express my resolve to not let this ruin my hard work and health this time! (I can do that!)
So now we're down to the "how am I going to do that?" part of the old FedEx commercial (yes, my age is showing again).
And here's today's thought about the how: "Embrace the ten minutes!"
That's how. That shiny document at work? That question coming in from a colleague? It can wait ten minutes while I go take my walk break. Embrace that ten minute walk! If it's late because of a meeting letting out late, so be it, but embrace it, and take that ten-minute walk.
At home? That e-mail, that on-line game, the bills, whatever... can wait ten minutes while I do a few squats and lifts! Seriously, ten minutes. Is anything in life that is not a medical emergency (of course) so urgent that it cannot wait ten minutes?
Funny thing, when I do this? The question sometimes got answered without me! The shiny document I get back to? I might find a couple of fresh ideas popped up while I walked! OK, doesn't work with housework, but housework will ever be with us!
If I don't let my busy-ness steal my ten minutes here and there, then the half hour I give back at the end of the day won't kill my program!
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
This is not everybody, but it is certainly my own history: I'm a project person. I'm fascinated by shiny new ones. Work has me working on one yet again.
Most times in the past when I'm in my element at work, I am obsessed. Yes, I steal time from myself to spend polishing the documentation, helping other folks with their problems and throwing my own time into making up for it.
This has generally been at the expense of my health. The first thing that usually drops is whatever exercise plan I'm on. The second thing that goes is whatever nutrition I'd been getting. The third thing, as a direct result, is my health.
I've managed to be in denial about this for most of 50 years. I would lose weight and "get healthy", then take on a big challenge. Remember the old college "freshman 15"? I got to a healthy weight right before college (although in an unhealthy way)... then wham.
I did it again for pregnancy. I ate healthy while growing a baby, then after he was born, almost immediately started doing both work and school, and the healthy living plan unraveled.
Four years later, during a slow time at work, I joined WW and dropped a whopping 80 pounds, started running, and kept the bulk of it off for nearly 5 years. Then took on a demanding job that involved flying away from home each and every week... and it became hard to keep up the good habits. You get the idea.
Most recently, I'd got to a healthy weight about five years ago, kept it off for one and a half, when an injury combined with taking on a second huge work responsibility tripped me up yet again.
NO MORE! This time it's going to be different. This time it's for the rest of my life.
How is it going to be different: I'm already starting. I'm delegating. I'm refusing to give up my walking breaks. I'm allowing myself to be imperfect in my performance of both work and my habits. I'm jealously guarding my soda-free streak (58 days now). I'm sparking and enlisting support of others with similar goals.
Yes, this time it really is going to be different. This time I have it in my gut that my life really does depend on taking care of me, body and spirit, not just mind.
You, my spark friends, are keeping me honest!
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