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Rather Have Sunday ... posted late

Monday, March 08, 2010

Playing Debra_T's game from yesterday, but I didn't get around to it until today:

Gas Logs or Real Fire? Gas starter, real fire.

Money or Happiness? This is one of those "thank you, can I have some of each?" The "some" is the important thing. The concept of "enough" being satisfied (and knowing what that means for me), happiness sort of follows along. More money than "enough" won't make me happier, any more than a surfeit of food will.

Secure Job or Meaningful Job? Again, a little of both. I'm lucky in that my chosen and loved profession also pays the bills.

Blackberry or Paper Planner?: No Blackberry here. Not busy or mobile enough to really need one. I keep electronic planner/calendar at work, carry a paper copy with me.

Bright or soft lighting? Bright.

Lead or Follow? All good leaders first follow something: an ideal. To be a good leader you have to also be a good follower, offering good advice, and also accepting good advice. Natural tendency: lead.

Wine or Beer?: Neither. Teetotaler from birth.

Window or Aisle? Definitely window! I love seeing the world from a different perspective. Love to fly. Don't do it so much these days.

Hat, Ear Muffs or Bare Headed?: Hat! With ear flaps. I get cold easily. Yes, I've turned into my mother.

On the Side or on the Salad?: I am a great fan of undressed salads. My one risque behavior!

Driver or Passenger? Depends on where I'm going and with whom. I figure whoever is more familiar with the route and destination is best equipped to get us there safely. If that's me, fine. If not, I'm content to ride along.

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SUNNY332 3/8/2010 7:49AM

    Great post.

How is your son? I bet you are enjoying the moments with him.

Hugs, Sunny

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DEBRA_T 3/8/2010 7:46AM

    When Joe and I moved to Florida from 2002-2006, we always head people native to Naples talk about how much they LOVED people from the Midwest because we were fun, funny, pleasant and filled with common sense. Your answers reminded me of the many great qualities everyone down there raves about!

And, thanks for playing!



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But I'm still me!

Saturday, March 06, 2010

Thanks to RAYLINSTEPHENS for a great blog entry today
. This is a good reminder of the inner self and remembering to cherish the good we all have inside us whatever our size.

My last blog mused on how I thought I looked in a mirror. The one before on an attribute I've worked to develop and recognize. So now, what inner qualities do I cherish in myself?

I am compassionate toward others.
I am tolerant of others.
I have a good capacity to enjoy small things and am easily amused.
I am a positive person most of the time.
I have a good mind and use it to help myself past obstacles.
I am kind to animals and small children.

Granted, I have some character traits I'm working to correct, but isn't it nice to know there are some that I'm glad I have?

How about you... what do you prize about your inner self?

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SUNNY332 3/8/2010 7:47AM

    Something I like about me is that I am a hard worker and value a good days work in exchange for honest pay. I am proud of who I am and I always want to represent myself and who I work for in the brightest light.

Most days, I shine!


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VALERIEMAHA 3/6/2010 6:35PM

    WOW! I'm just blow away by our *little corner* of the +5 million strong SparkCommunity...and the amazing wisdom reflections that gird and remind and comfort us! I truly bow in gratitude to this synergy of gathered wisdom, and our intent to expand our own consciousness as we freely offer our gifts to one another.

Some things I like about me~~

~ my indominitable spirit

~ that I'm a by-the-seat-of-my-pants kinda' womyn (heh heh -- just looked the phrase up and yep, that's me: "Decide a course of action as you go along, using your own initiative and perceptions rather than a pre-determined plan or mechanical aids.")

~ I'm generous-spirited and I'm fed by reaching out to others

~ I have an adventurous nature

~ music nourishes my soul and often makes me start moving or get up and dance like no one's watching

~ I've stopped letting my age bring me down so much (we older citizens are sooooo invisible) and I'm stepping into my crone role

Thanks for this important practice!

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KALIGIRL 3/6/2010 6:19PM

    I've been blessed with what I considered a pleasant exterior, so never needed to deal with the exterior criticism, but have had inner negative thoughts. I think when we get too wrapped up in change and don't make the progress we want, we tend to chose two extreme paths; one positive and one negative. Here's to always remembering we are special unique people - all with a purpose.

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WALKINGANNIE 3/6/2010 5:54PM

    You are wise, intelligent, determined, committed, caring, curious, witty and so much more....

The other people who have responded share these qualities.

It amazes me that in a massive worldwide community like this I've found some people like you that I feel a real bond with. Your personalities are somehow projected across the ether.

Let's not forget though that you all look pretty good too!!

And me? When I look in the mirror I see a spirited survivor and I am profoundly grateful.


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    Great Blog!

It's nice to see we are thinking alike!!


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SLENDERELLA61 3/6/2010 12:08PM

    Great Blog! Goes right along with our local Polk County Team Challenge for this month: Love Yourself as You Are Now. I admire your inner qualities and think you are smart to recogize them. I recognize in me that I always (or 99.9% of the time) have good intentions, even when I make mistakes. And when I make mistakes I try to fix them. Many times in my life I have worked very hard and accomplished a lot, often with many other people to thank for their hard work, too. I can site many examples where I had determination and did not give up when there were obstacles. I have been a good mother and a good grandmother. I have almost always been a good student and a good employee. Thanks for asking. -Marsha

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WATERMELLEN 3/6/2010 10:58AM

    I like this -- particularly the stress on kindness and on using your brain to make your life work. I'll subscribe to those!!

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DEBRA_T 3/6/2010 10:50AM

    Good morning, Barb! First, thanks for posting on my blog this morning -- you made me blush! Second, I can imagine that your list should be much, much longer, but perhaps it's a good thing that we don't know all the good things about ourselves and leave them for others to appreciate, admire and emulate.

Third, what do I prize about my inner self: mostly, my extremely vivid inner life which amuses, amazes and confounds me -- how we can be such a mystery even to our own selves is a lifetime puzzle to work on. I value my natural cheerfulness and optimism, sense of humor and natural empathy.

There is so much about me to correct, but why dwell on it! LOL!!!!

Thanks for posting both the link and your reflection.

Cheers, Debra
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I look taller

Friday, March 05, 2010

Seriously, that first morning glance in the full-length mirror, where you check to make sure the tags are tucked in and you're OK to go out the door and on with your life? I noticed that I look taller.

Well, of course, I'm NOT taller... in fact, on my doctor's measuring stick, I've shrunk a bit from my adult tallest... but since I am not as wide, I do in fact look taller. My shape has changed.

OK, for those of you who have been normal weight all your life, this is probably a "huh?" kind of moment. But you fellow Sparkers who have been up and down the scale, you know what I'm talking about. This different shaped self takes some getting used to!

So I have to look at myself in the mirror and tell myself: "This is me. This is who I am. This is what I look like." Told to oneself with love and acceptance, no matter what is there to reflect back, this can be an incredibly affirming thing to do: "I am worth taking care of. This body is the only one I'll ever have... it deserves my best effort to take care of it, as it has been taking care of me my whole life."

Now, step away from the mirror and go live life to the fullest! emoticon

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MSLZZY 3/5/2010 10:09PM

    When you see what a change you've made in your life and like what you see, you even stand taller. You've done an awesome job and should be proud of yourself! You earned it with hard work and dedication. You are a WINNER! emoticon

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MRS.DOYLE 3/5/2010 6:31PM

    Yes, I've had this moment as well and, although the measuring tape tells me I'm the same height, my legs have definitely got longer because my trousers are flapping around my ankles. I think it is all the Pilates I do.

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SMARTIEBEE 3/5/2010 1:55PM

    I know what you mean - I do feel taller too! And sometimes I still don't recognize me when I first see my reflection. It does take some getting used to - But in a good way!

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CELESTIALAXIS 3/5/2010 12:53PM

    Wow I just looked at your pics, impressive! Look at those abs! I'm 28 and super jealous, lol. Keep up the great work!

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    Yup - I feel taller too! All 5'1.5" of me!


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KALIGIRL 3/5/2010 10:13AM

    Very cool - I actually think we are taller (@ least inside).

I'd been struggling with determining what my 'maintenance' weight would be. I reached goal prior to a January trip and kept losing. (Couldn't figure out how to get calorie range adjusted). I liked the new 'weight' and decided to stop - just got over the crud (@ least 95% so) and lost another 4 pounds.

Anyway, I've finally decided I don't care what the scale says - I really like what the body looks like in the mirror. (Well, if you ignore the old saggy skin...) I really like the shape and am looking forward to improving it though exercise!

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DEBRA_T 3/5/2010 8:51AM

    You not only look taller, you look younger, more energetic, more competent, more vital -- there's a tremendous payoff for following your very, em, tall order to take care of yourself. Great job, Barb!

And I love the way you ended your blog because, quite frankly, another change that occurs with weight loss if you're doing your inner work all the way down -- you no longer need to pin yourself to your own self obsession. You're okay, you don't need to check, you can go out in the world and leave the mirror to those who do.

Cheers, Deb
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WALKINGANNIE 3/5/2010 7:53AM

    Yes - great observation!

Necks definitely get longer when we lose weight and I'm sure that we walk taller as we're not being pulled down by excess weight.

You are so worth taking care of and doing a great job of it.

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I am an active person!

Wednesday, March 03, 2010

Pep-talk time! This affirmation popped into my head this morning as I was getting ready for my day. I decided it was blog-worthy.

Beyond just being active for today, or for a week, or even six months, for long-term maintenance of a healthy lifestyle, I must reshape my thinking into "this is part of me: I am an active person!"

I paused to visualize this, over the years: yes, I am an active person. My body loves to move. I get spontaneous urges to move, just like a little kid. I need to not suppress them!
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WALKINGANNIE 3/4/2010 12:49PM

    Yes you are active! Your latest photo is evidence of that. You look great - so fit and healhy.

A lovely sight for you son to see. Hope you have a great time together.

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MSLZZY 3/3/2010 5:06PM

    Perfect! Just keep thinking that way!

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DEBRA_T 3/3/2010 1:22PM

    A great insight to share -- it's how I became a non-smoker too. I just keep saying to myself "I am a non-smoker!" and very quickly I could no longer relate to the person who looked forward to a smoke on the balcony.

I am an active, fit person who enjoys life more than food!

Cheers, Deb
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KALIGIRL 3/3/2010 10:41AM

    Let that active girl out!!!

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    You always have such a positive attitude - love that!

My body loves to be active too ... unfortunately my mind hasn't quite caught up with it - ha ha.

Have a great day!

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NELLIEC 3/3/2010 9:48AM

    Definitely! For a time, I thought I wasn't very active. However, I have discovered that I am very active for my age! emoticon Being on SP has helped me in a lot of ways, including activity!

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KELLYTHEFIT0710 3/3/2010 8:28AM

    It's so wonderful to have the awareness of our bodies-we do need to move! I love going to the gym and working out, but I also need to move throughout the day. I have a desk job, so I'll be sitting for long periods of time before I realize that I've been on my butt too long!

Thank you for sharing about your healthy choices-you have inspired me today! emoticon

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SUNNY332 3/3/2010 8:08AM

    I know exactly how you feel. The more active I am, the more active I want to be.

My muscles are responding to my work and the aches and pains I used to have in the mornings are no longer there. I am loving my new life.

Today is the day your soldier arrives? I will be thinking of you! I am so happy for you. Enjoy the day to the fullest.

Hugs, Sunny

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Roller coaster Tuesday

Tuesday, March 02, 2010

Communications snafu had me incredibly high about 11:30 this morning when my daughter in law called to say our fella would be coming in to local airport, not the one three hours away, and his flight would get in at 6 p.m.

So, fluttering heart, left work an hour early to make sure I got home to let the dog out before heading to the airport. There were three flights in the 6 p.m. hour, on two different airlines. We sat through the deplaning of each... no son. With each, the rise of hope, the fall of disappointment as other families reunited and we were left standing there.

Eventually daughter in law wheedled out of the airline people that he was NOT scheduled on a flight tonight. We're thinking he's time zone challenged and we misinterpreted the day. Same drill tomorrow?

I'm now too weary to do any stressing... substituting puppy hugs and going to bed!

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KALIGIRL 3/3/2010 11:26AM

    Bummer - hope he's home soon!

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CONCHA77 3/3/2010 7:24AM

    Ah, what a bummer that must of been.
Today will be a better day! Hugs to all of you. Enjoy your son! and, take pictures!

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WALKINGANNIE 3/3/2010 2:07AM

    What an emotional roller coaster. I hope that today brings the longed-for reunion.

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SPENCEMOMOF5 3/2/2010 11:39PM

    Sorry about the mix up emoticon I know that it will all go away with the first hello and hug! emoticon Sleep well.

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DEBRA_T 3/2/2010 10:50PM

    Awwww, what a let down today. It's too bad that communications aren't more precise and that everyone doesn't have a clear idea of what's happening. But, you know he will be home with you this week and that is probably giving you sweet dreams right now!

Cheers, Debra
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