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Sunday morning - motivation

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Yesterday I did a number of little "clean up" things around my Sparking. It was, after all, the first day of Spring, what better time to renew, refresh, and clean up!

For one thing, I removed myself from a couple of Spark teams. I find that trying to keep up with too many spreads me too thin. I kept the ones I am most active in (or want to be most active in at this phase of my journey).

For another, I changed my goal and weight measuring to match my home scale, instead of the one at the commercial weight loss center I've been using for the past nine months. During those nine months, it was important to me to keep harmony in my tracking with their tools. Now, as I shift into maintenance mode, I think it's more important to use my home measurements and rely on the Spark tracking alone. So if anybody is paying enough attention to notice a sudden one-day drop in the numbers, that's the difference between fully clothed (including shoes!), mid-day, and the way most of us truly weigh... first thing in the morning, unburdened! No, I really did NOT drop four pounds overnight.

Finally, I examined where I am, vis-a-vis the Spark program, and changed my Spark phase to stage 3. This starts out by examining the issue of motivation. I believe this is going to be my "permanent assignment", this examination of motivation. For it has been my downfall over a lifetime...

I will have success in losing, and then get to the "is that all there is" point, and eventually unravel and regain. Well, each time I do, I get a little farther down the path to lifetime health, and this time I'm putting some real effort into it again. We'll see if we can't make it to the real finish line this time, eh? emoticon emoticon

So, to quote from the Spark Article "What will Keep you Motivated?"

"The right motivation is whatever it is at any point in time that keeps you going for another day." and "The right motivation will get you out of bed in the morning with pep in your step and an eagerness to meet the day."

In short, one's motivation changes over time! What will spur me on today may not be the same as what I need to motivate me tomorrow, or what worked yesterday.

Finally, it says "You’ll be more successful if you pay more attention to what’s important to you as a benchmark." So true... sometimes the downfall is forgetting that this is important to me and why!

So, to reiterate, and remind myself, for today: My health is important to me. I don't want anything to stand in the way of my being there for my son and his wife. My work is important to me. I don't want to jeopardize the success of my current projects by undermining my health. My happiness is important to me: emotions are fleeting, and I know I just plain feel happier when I move my body!

That's it for today, end of pep talk. Have a blessed Sunday, all.

Oh, by the way, I did get word from my son that he's safely back in the appropriate time zone. Let the games begin anew.

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KALIGIRL 3/21/2010 10:35PM

    Glad he's back safely.

Your plan sounds great. I've been fortunate to only do this a couple times and have no intention to repeat. I am very comfortable in my (old, alligator) skin and want to keep this shape (motivation enough for me).

Hope you find your (or your multiple) motivations.

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PATRISNA 3/21/2010 12:20PM

    This is a great blog. I think it is good to regroup every so often. I hope you have a great week. Glad your son made it back to his unit okay.

You are moving forward in your journey. emoticon

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DEBRA_T 3/21/2010 12:04PM

    I'm constantly reorganizing my teams and friends (drop inactive ones of both) to keep things manageable -- or at least to try! I confess I cannot keep up with all the blogs, comments and stuff that people are doing, but I know everyone understands that (or at least I hope they do).

Spark on, my friend!

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APRILLSCOTT 3/21/2010 11:49AM

    I agree with you totally !!! I enjoyed this blog. I have let go of one team myself. emoticon

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JHADZHIA 3/21/2010 11:10AM

    I know what you mean with the Spark Teams! My Spark team Just Do It is great and very active with suggestions and came up with that decluttering idea. I have a lot of buddies who used to be active, but seem to be no where around now, but I have a little reluctance to drop them in case they come back because I liked interacting with them. I try to avoid adding anyone with a huge friends list even though they add me, because you wonder how they are going to be able to interacting with so many people.
That is a great idea using the motivation stage to keep you going! I wish you all the best with it!
Enjoy your Sunday!

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SHAPNUP 3/21/2010 10:36AM

    Very inspiring blog. I've been thinking about excusing myself from a couple of my teams as well. It's just too much to keep up with and I would much rather get to know a few people rather well, than a whole bunch not at all!

Same thing with Spark Friends. There are people I have only heard from once or twice and that was over a month ago. I send emails, notes on feed, and messages on pages to no avail. I'm not even sure where some of them came from! But I didn't want to hurt feelings, so when they added me, I added them.

Congratulations on moving forward in your SP life, and best wishes for your success!

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Saturday, March 20, 2010

To all those who commented on my blog the past couple of days with support and prayers... thanks!

I was sleep-deprived, but did not nap, as I had scheduled distractions for myself. Things that needed doing anyway. I tried to do yard patrol (it's been a long winter) before the first appointment guy came at 9 a.m. I got a first pass in, but you might guess from the background snap, my back yard is a huge minefield this early in the Spring. Since we had to tramp around the yard showing the gent what needs doing to fix my yard's drainage issues, it was a good thing I did. I hope I don't faint when I see the estimate, but I've been putting a couple of things off for a few years (budgetary constraints) and they can't be lived with any more.

Went to bed early last night, and slept until 4:30 this morning, at which point it became apparent the mind was not going to quiet down to allow me to go back to sleep, so I've been puttering about in my favorite time of day. See? Insufferable morning person.

Today: indoors chores, as outdoors it is white and slick. Again.

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WALKINGANNIE 3/20/2010 3:26PM

    Well done on finding distractions and tackling your yard.

I'm the opposite of you in that I'm definitely an evening / night time person - an owl to your lark! We complement each other well.

Hope you soon settle back into a routine again and hear that your son had a safe journey.


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KALIGIRL 3/20/2010 2:59PM

    We ventured out and it was SLICK.
Glad you were able to catch up on sleep and indoor chores.
Tomorrow will be a better day!

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    I look forward to warmer weather when I will be joining you at 4:30 am!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/20/2010 10:43AM

    My husband wakes up between 4:30 and 5:30 each day (sometimes earlier) and that's it for him. He gets a lot done in those hours before I finally drag myself out of bed. I hope you get lots done today and that you're able to enjoy the weekend.

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PATRISNA 3/20/2010 10:20AM

    I am also a morning person and I agree it sometimes comes too soon. The animal trio ruined my streak of 8 hours sleep per night. I have a sleep disorder.

My neurologist diagnosed me with periodic limb movement. I take medication for it so I don't I flail my arms and legs around all night long. Believe me my DH loves that they finally diagnosed it as I used to occasionally smack him during sleep. LOL

Thanks for reminding me I need to go out and clean the yard of the dogs mess. Ugh! Louie sitcks to the area along the back fence, but Susie goes wherever the urge hits her.


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APRILLSCOTT 3/20/2010 10:09AM

    You are handling things very well if you ask me. I just will be praying that the Lord give you the strength to make it through the next few months when your son will be home! I think things will be better for you then. emoticon emoticon

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SUNNY332 3/20/2010 10:06AM

    You are most welcome.

I am one of those Insufferable morning persons also. Even when I can sleep in, I am wide away early and ready to get going on the day.

Have a wonderful weekend. It is snowing here so will stay in and get some indoor chores done also.

Hugs to you, Sunny

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PONDERTHIS 3/20/2010 9:01AM

    Hi my friend, I'm a morning person too, and it is sad when it comes too soon after going to bed. Sleep is so important. I hope yours works out well this weekend. Sending you blessings,
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MSLZZY 3/20/2010 8:49AM

    I'm a morning person too. It seems like this is the most productive time of day for me. Take care. emoticon

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And he's off

Friday, March 19, 2010

3:38 a.m. - Do I really have to get up? Yes, even a morning person has her limits. But it's departure day for my son, and my role for the early morning is driver of Mom's Taxi Service.

4:15 a.m. Pick up the kids, move on to the airport.

4:38 a.m. Drop them at check-in, go park the car. Walk in for final hugs. Nearly tear up over their good-byes. Remind son I'm proud of him and love him. Last hug. Give daughter in law some emotional space on the ride home, but remind her she's beautiful, brave and loved... because that's important to tell someone.

Now... home, getting ready for breakfast & feeling... feeling... feeling. If you are a mom, you kind of know and it doesn't have words, this feeling.

Thank God for habits that keep one doing healthy things through the feelings, as opposed to stuffing the feelings down.

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MSLZZY 3/20/2010 8:04AM

    Felling and expressing those feelings is very healthy. I wil pray for you and your family until your son returns. Take care, dear friend! Your DIL needs all the support you can give and will love you for it.

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NELLIEC 3/19/2010 6:59PM

    You showed love! We love you!!!

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WALKINGANNIE 3/19/2010 4:26PM

    Sometimes words can't really do the job but you know that there are lot of people wishing you and your family well. Your son and daughter in law are very fortunate indeed to have you in their lives. You have rare empathy and understanding.

My heart goes out to you as your son returns to his work. He and you should be very proud of each other.

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CONCHA77 3/19/2010 2:16PM

    Here are some Great Big Hugs for you, Barb.
Blessings to all, Connie

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KALIGIRL 3/19/2010 1:08PM

    Oh, Barb, my heart goes out to you.
I am so pleased your habits keep you "doing healthy things through the feelings, as opposed to stuffing the feelings down."
I know it is little consolation, but we are all with you.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/19/2010 1:05PM

    You are a wonderful mother and MIL and they are blessed to have you. I'm coming into this late, but I'm assuming your son is int he military? If so, thanks to him for all he's doing for our country. And I'd take a moment to ask God to bless him and you and your loved ones until you can be together again.

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BRENDALEE235 3/19/2010 12:09PM

    I know it must be hard and that fact that you understand to give your daughter in love some emotional space is great. You both love the same person and it is wonderful to see that you understand her needs as well as your own.
It is a good feeling to know that you have good heathy habits that is a blessing I hope to accomplish some day.
God Bless.

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SMARTIEBEE 3/19/2010 10:54AM

    I can only imagine how tough this is. DSIL is getting ready to deploy to Afghanistan in May. He has been to Iraq 3 times, and we are hoping this is his last deployment. It is hard to see him go away each time, and hard to see what it puts DD through, but not nearly the same as watching a son go. They (DSIL and your son) are my heros for what they do for us. As are you, for your sacrifice of giving him up for awhile.

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PATRISNA 3/19/2010 9:44AM

    My heart goes out to you, your son and your DIL. Thinking of you! Yes, I know that feeling. My heart aches for all the moms of our military. Have a blessed day my friend.


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APRILLSCOTT 3/19/2010 9:29AM

    I know how you must be feeling. I don't believe I could bear knowing that my son was leaving. We are so close! I will be praying hard for you today! If you feel like crying though go ahead and get it out, it always makes me feel better! Maybe one day they will be closer to you. Exercise might help! Thank God for the wonderful visit though and the memories. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DEBRA_T 3/19/2010 9:22AM

    God bless you through this first day with your healthy habits and your habit of embracing your feelings. I second Sunny's opinion -- you are a terrific mother.

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SUNNY332 3/19/2010 8:59AM

    You are so right, sometimes there are no words. Bless your heart.

Have a Fantastic Friday. You are a terrific Mom.


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The last supper

Thursday, March 18, 2010

No, not in the traditional "diet" sense... this was the last supper of my son's leave. I took this afternoon off work since this is his last day home. I took the dog for a long walk in the sunshine. Then the kids came here so that he could say "so long" to his dog.

He's had a good leave, but as with all such trips, it was too short for us. We have to send him back to work. Let's see, I got mostly to feed him... PF Chang's, my homemade lasagna, Outback, and this evening, the last supper, at Red Lobster, over the course of 15 days. And, she says, trying hard not to break her arm patting herself on the back, "it all fits on my program..." I felt treated by the things I chose, and they were healthy choices.

Left to right that's my daughter in law, my son, and gee, y'all know me by now.

ETA: By the way, this is the daughter in law who got me started and motivated on my most recent fitness efforts... and she has dropped more pounds than I have, so kudos for her... she looks terrific and I'm incredibly proud of her!

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RITAROSE 3/19/2010 7:46AM

  Congrats on staying within your plan while treating your kids to special dinners.
I have a son and a son in law in the service so I know how hard it is to say goodbye again. I will be praying for safety for him as he serves his country.
Barb, along with everyone else I send you my deepest congratulations on how great you look!!! Seeing your picture made me very proud of a spark sister! Thanks for sharing it with us! emoticon emoticon emoticonRitarose

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MSLZZY 3/18/2010 11:37PM

    You all look fantastic! I am so glad you had this time with your son and look at you! WOW! And I do mean it! Have a fabulous Friday!

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PATRISNA 3/18/2010 11:08PM

Glad you all had a good time while he was on leave. I hope the rest of his tour seems to fly by as quickly as his leave did.You know I am always praying for our soldiers and their families.

You look terrific! That is a wonderful picture.


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KALIGIRL 3/18/2010 10:00PM

    It sounds like it was a wonderful visit and I hope when you look @ the photo, the good memories will give you some comfort in the days to come.
I'm so glad you and your daughter-in-law have journeyed together and am happy for both your success!

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SLENDERELLA61 3/18/2010 9:58PM

    What can I add? You do look fantastic - we all agree! Glad you got to visit; sorry it seemed so short. Amazing that you could do all that eating out and stay committed to your goals. Marvelous!! Keep blogging. I enjoy your blogs so much. -Marsha

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    I'm glad to read it was a great visit for y'all!

You look fabulous!

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VALERIEMAHA 3/18/2010 8:41PM

    Wow! What an amazing photo, as everyone else has said. And you look thinner than ever, Barb!

"Parting is such sweet sorrow," but "a good time was had by all."

Blessings on your heads,

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SMARTIEBEE 3/18/2010 8:36PM

    Oh Barb, What a great photo! And look at YOU! WOW! You look Great! And what great memories you will have of this visit until he is home again!

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APRILLSCOTT 3/18/2010 8:24PM

    What a great picture! You have a lovely family and I know you will miss them. emoticon emoticon

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DEBRA_T 3/18/2010 8:14PM

    He's gorgeous and you look great in red! The two of you look so much alike with your loose jeans! LOL

I'm sorry his leave is over -- I know if must have flown by for you because it feels like just yesterday I was telling you how great it was he was home -- are you sure it's been TWO weeks???

He leaves to do his duty for all of us who receive his service with grateful hearts knowing he is loved and cherished, as are you.


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SUNNY332 3/18/2010 8:10PM

    What a great photo and thanks for sharing it with us.

You raised a great son and soldier. Be sure and tell him thanks for his service.


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WALKINGANNIE 3/18/2010 7:32PM

    What a lovely family photo and a permanent reminder of your most recent time together.

The leave seemed to go very fast but you seem to have packed a lot into the time.

Congratulations for sticking to the programme. Healthy treats feel so much better these days and good nourishment isn't deprivation.


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Tuesday evening musings with decaf warming the hands

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

I think I'm going to have to do something about Tuesdays. For the duration of this project, Tuesday mornings will be starting with a status meeting. Well, add that to a couple of other meetings, and it tends to cramp my exercise style.

It was last Tuesday that I had this problem before, too. I did get in a 'round the block before work, and a morning break but then we had a visitor over the noon hour (guy who used to work with us dropped by) and I couldn't resist the temptation to spend some minutes chatting, which scotched that walk. Afternoon meetings prevented that break, so now... it's treadmill time!

emoticon Treadmill and a fave TV show or Netflix DVD... good combination for me... stress goes bye-bye!

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WALKINGANNIE 3/17/2010 2:26PM

    Congratulations on seeing a pattern and taking action to keep Project Barb on track.

As Marsha suggests, its not the timing that matters within a day, its whether it gets done at all.


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KALIGIRL 3/17/2010 1:03PM

    So glad you're committed to Plan B. emoticon

I avoided the elliptical all winter, but will use you as a role model from now on. (Plus hope for sunny days...)

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MMICKEYP 3/16/2010 10:06PM

    Hey...Treadmill TV Tuesday!!! I think you've got something there. My least favorite part of this weight loss deal..and I must admit I haven't been doing so hot lately. But because of those few little words at the end of your've helped to "spark" some inspiration in this brain of mine! Yay! Love it! But I don't have a treadmill..hmmm... Well,..I won't think about it today...after all tomorrow IS another day!

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SLENDERELLA61 3/16/2010 9:26PM

    Treadmill works! Sure it's good to work it in earlier, but in the long run it is the consistency of getting it done that counts. Projects and life have to be juggled. Sometimes you need to talk. You are doing great!! -Marsha

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SUNNY332 3/16/2010 9:12PM

    I have had those kind of days at work too.

Good for you being so flexible.

Enjoy the evening.


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DEBRA_T 3/16/2010 9:04PM

    I used to think it was TV or exercise, now I know the best way to watch it is during exercise or with exercise. No excuses left -- not that I'd want one. I like the way exercise makes me feel!


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NELLIEC 3/16/2010 8:52PM

    I'm glad it's decaf warming your hands so you can get good sleep!

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