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And he's off

Friday, March 19, 2010

3:38 a.m. - Do I really have to get up? Yes, even a morning person has her limits. But it's departure day for my son, and my role for the early morning is driver of Mom's Taxi Service.

4:15 a.m. Pick up the kids, move on to the airport.

4:38 a.m. Drop them at check-in, go park the car. Walk in for final hugs. Nearly tear up over their good-byes. Remind son I'm proud of him and love him. Last hug. Give daughter in law some emotional space on the ride home, but remind her she's beautiful, brave and loved... because that's important to tell someone.

Now... home, getting ready for breakfast & feeling... feeling... feeling. If you are a mom, you kind of know and it doesn't have words, this feeling.

Thank God for habits that keep one doing healthy things through the feelings, as opposed to stuffing the feelings down.

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MSLZZY 3/20/2010 8:04AM

    Felling and expressing those feelings is very healthy. I wil pray for you and your family until your son returns. Take care, dear friend! Your DIL needs all the support you can give and will love you for it.

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NELLIEC 3/19/2010 6:59PM

    You showed love! We love you!!!

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WALKINGANNIE 3/19/2010 4:26PM

    Sometimes words can't really do the job but you know that there are lot of people wishing you and your family well. Your son and daughter in law are very fortunate indeed to have you in their lives. You have rare empathy and understanding.

My heart goes out to you as your son returns to his work. He and you should be very proud of each other.

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CONCHA77 3/19/2010 2:16PM

    Here are some Great Big Hugs for you, Barb.
Blessings to all, Connie

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KALIGIRL 3/19/2010 1:08PM

    Oh, Barb, my heart goes out to you.
I am so pleased your habits keep you "doing healthy things through the feelings, as opposed to stuffing the feelings down."
I know it is little consolation, but we are all with you.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/19/2010 1:05PM

    You are a wonderful mother and MIL and they are blessed to have you. I'm coming into this late, but I'm assuming your son is int he military? If so, thanks to him for all he's doing for our country. And I'd take a moment to ask God to bless him and you and your loved ones until you can be together again.

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BRENDALEE235 3/19/2010 12:09PM

    I know it must be hard and that fact that you understand to give your daughter in love some emotional space is great. You both love the same person and it is wonderful to see that you understand her needs as well as your own.
It is a good feeling to know that you have good heathy habits that is a blessing I hope to accomplish some day.
God Bless.

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SMARTIEBEE 3/19/2010 10:54AM

    I can only imagine how tough this is. DSIL is getting ready to deploy to Afghanistan in May. He has been to Iraq 3 times, and we are hoping this is his last deployment. It is hard to see him go away each time, and hard to see what it puts DD through, but not nearly the same as watching a son go. They (DSIL and your son) are my heros for what they do for us. As are you, for your sacrifice of giving him up for awhile.

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PATRISNA 3/19/2010 9:44AM

    My heart goes out to you, your son and your DIL. Thinking of you! Yes, I know that feeling. My heart aches for all the moms of our military. Have a blessed day my friend.


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APRILLSCOTT 3/19/2010 9:29AM

    I know how you must be feeling. I don't believe I could bear knowing that my son was leaving. We are so close! I will be praying hard for you today! If you feel like crying though go ahead and get it out, it always makes me feel better! Maybe one day they will be closer to you. Exercise might help! Thank God for the wonderful visit though and the memories. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DEBRA_T 3/19/2010 9:22AM

    God bless you through this first day with your healthy habits and your habit of embracing your feelings. I second Sunny's opinion -- you are a terrific mother.

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SUNNY332 3/19/2010 8:59AM

    You are so right, sometimes there are no words. Bless your heart.

Have a Fantastic Friday. You are a terrific Mom.


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The last supper

Thursday, March 18, 2010

No, not in the traditional "diet" sense... this was the last supper of my son's leave. I took this afternoon off work since this is his last day home. I took the dog for a long walk in the sunshine. Then the kids came here so that he could say "so long" to his dog.

He's had a good leave, but as with all such trips, it was too short for us. We have to send him back to work. Let's see, I got mostly to feed him... PF Chang's, my homemade lasagna, Outback, and this evening, the last supper, at Red Lobster, over the course of 15 days. And, she says, trying hard not to break her arm patting herself on the back, "it all fits on my program..." I felt treated by the things I chose, and they were healthy choices.

Left to right that's my daughter in law, my son, and gee, y'all know me by now.

ETA: By the way, this is the daughter in law who got me started and motivated on my most recent fitness efforts... and she has dropped more pounds than I have, so kudos for her... she looks terrific and I'm incredibly proud of her!

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RITAROSE 3/19/2010 7:46AM

  Congrats on staying within your plan while treating your kids to special dinners.
I have a son and a son in law in the service so I know how hard it is to say goodbye again. I will be praying for safety for him as he serves his country.
Barb, along with everyone else I send you my deepest congratulations on how great you look!!! Seeing your picture made me very proud of a spark sister! Thanks for sharing it with us! emoticon emoticon emoticonRitarose

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MSLZZY 3/18/2010 11:37PM

    You all look fantastic! I am so glad you had this time with your son and look at you! WOW! And I do mean it! Have a fabulous Friday!

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PATRISNA 3/18/2010 11:08PM

Glad you all had a good time while he was on leave. I hope the rest of his tour seems to fly by as quickly as his leave did.You know I am always praying for our soldiers and their families.

You look terrific! That is a wonderful picture.


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KALIGIRL 3/18/2010 10:00PM

    It sounds like it was a wonderful visit and I hope when you look @ the photo, the good memories will give you some comfort in the days to come.
I'm so glad you and your daughter-in-law have journeyed together and am happy for both your success!

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SLENDERELLA61 3/18/2010 9:58PM

    What can I add? You do look fantastic - we all agree! Glad you got to visit; sorry it seemed so short. Amazing that you could do all that eating out and stay committed to your goals. Marvelous!! Keep blogging. I enjoy your blogs so much. -Marsha

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    I'm glad to read it was a great visit for y'all!

You look fabulous!

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VALERIEMAHA 3/18/2010 8:41PM

    Wow! What an amazing photo, as everyone else has said. And you look thinner than ever, Barb!

"Parting is such sweet sorrow," but "a good time was had by all."

Blessings on your heads,

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SMARTIEBEE 3/18/2010 8:36PM

    Oh Barb, What a great photo! And look at YOU! WOW! You look Great! And what great memories you will have of this visit until he is home again!

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APRILLSCOTT 3/18/2010 8:24PM

    What a great picture! You have a lovely family and I know you will miss them. emoticon emoticon

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DEBRA_T 3/18/2010 8:14PM

    He's gorgeous and you look great in red! The two of you look so much alike with your loose jeans! LOL

I'm sorry his leave is over -- I know if must have flown by for you because it feels like just yesterday I was telling you how great it was he was home -- are you sure it's been TWO weeks???

He leaves to do his duty for all of us who receive his service with grateful hearts knowing he is loved and cherished, as are you.


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SUNNY332 3/18/2010 8:10PM

    What a great photo and thanks for sharing it with us.

You raised a great son and soldier. Be sure and tell him thanks for his service.


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WALKINGANNIE 3/18/2010 7:32PM

    What a lovely family photo and a permanent reminder of your most recent time together.

The leave seemed to go very fast but you seem to have packed a lot into the time.

Congratulations for sticking to the programme. Healthy treats feel so much better these days and good nourishment isn't deprivation.


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Tuesday evening musings with decaf warming the hands

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

I think I'm going to have to do something about Tuesdays. For the duration of this project, Tuesday mornings will be starting with a status meeting. Well, add that to a couple of other meetings, and it tends to cramp my exercise style.

It was last Tuesday that I had this problem before, too. I did get in a 'round the block before work, and a morning break but then we had a visitor over the noon hour (guy who used to work with us dropped by) and I couldn't resist the temptation to spend some minutes chatting, which scotched that walk. Afternoon meetings prevented that break, so now... it's treadmill time!

emoticon Treadmill and a fave TV show or Netflix DVD... good combination for me... stress goes bye-bye!

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WALKINGANNIE 3/17/2010 2:26PM

    Congratulations on seeing a pattern and taking action to keep Project Barb on track.

As Marsha suggests, its not the timing that matters within a day, its whether it gets done at all.


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KALIGIRL 3/17/2010 1:03PM

    So glad you're committed to Plan B. emoticon

I avoided the elliptical all winter, but will use you as a role model from now on. (Plus hope for sunny days...)

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MMICKEYP 3/16/2010 10:06PM

    Hey...Treadmill TV Tuesday!!! I think you've got something there. My least favorite part of this weight loss deal..and I must admit I haven't been doing so hot lately. But because of those few little words at the end of your've helped to "spark" some inspiration in this brain of mine! Yay! Love it! But I don't have a treadmill..hmmm... Well,..I won't think about it today...after all tomorrow IS another day!

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SLENDERELLA61 3/16/2010 9:26PM

    Treadmill works! Sure it's good to work it in earlier, but in the long run it is the consistency of getting it done that counts. Projects and life have to be juggled. Sometimes you need to talk. You are doing great!! -Marsha

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SUNNY332 3/16/2010 9:12PM

    I have had those kind of days at work too.

Good for you being so flexible.

Enjoy the evening.


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DEBRA_T 3/16/2010 9:04PM

    I used to think it was TV or exercise, now I know the best way to watch it is during exercise or with exercise. No excuses left -- not that I'd want one. I like the way exercise makes me feel!


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NELLIEC 3/16/2010 8:52PM

    I'm glad it's decaf warming your hands so you can get good sleep!

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Monday morning maintenance plotting

Monday, March 15, 2010

When we last left her, precious Polly was tied to the railroad tracks, and the maintenance train was bearing down on her. A look of concern on her face, she screamed at Biff, "save me"!

Biff glanced in her direction and said, "Silly girl, you don't need saving... get the knife out of your sleeve, cut the rope, and get up!"


So, what knife would that be? The knife of our friend, the tracker! My maintenance plan calls for me to start out by increasing, in balanced nutritional style, my calories in by 500 calories on 3 days this week, leaving the other days at my regular weight loss level. Sounds reasonable... all you need is a plan and a tracker.

Yesterday there was a monkey wrench in the works, in that I had planned to take my son and his wife to Outback for dinner. I carefully thought about what I wanted to eat there... and decided against the steak. Even though I truly love a good beef steak (sorry, vegans, but Bessie does taste awfully good... yeah, I'm a barbarian), I was not particularly in the mood for one. So I had their chicken on the Barbie, with the seasonal veggies that come along.

Having become accustomed to smaller portions, this turned out to be very filling. I kept myself to the published serving size of the Bloomin' onion (1/6th of the onion), and had about a roll-sized chunk of the bread.

When I got home and looked at everything else I still needed to eat (this was a mid-day meal) I didn't know how I was going to get it all in! But I managed. And felt "very full".

Methinks I am going to have to carefully consider the calorie density of foods I choose during maintenance... I'm so used to choosing the calorie light foods that I have to eat lots of them to reach the calorie limits.

The maintenance balance adds a dairy and a fat exchange. Easy plan: be sure to get a half ounce of healthy nuts as a snack, and add a cup of skim milk at bedtime.

It also adds 3 fruits and 2 veggies. The veggies are no sweat (except for volume issues), the fruits are problematic, I'm not crazy about fruits... except I can just add volume to increase my portions... more raisins in my hot cereal, for example.

So, a woman, a plan, a canal... oh, sorry, apologies to the butchers Panama palindrome!

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PENNYAN45 3/16/2010 2:25AM

    I never realized there would be so much planning involved for NOT losing weight! But, of course, it makes sense. I am rooting for you so that when my time comes for maintenance, you will have all the answers already worked out.


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MSLZZY 3/15/2010 11:30PM

    All good things to keep in mind and a little humor through in for good measure.
How many calories in a laugh? Have a great evening and happy maintaining!

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WALKINGANNIE 3/15/2010 2:03PM

    Beautifully written Barb.

I must admit that I found starting maintenance more challenging than I'd envisaged but this was partly because I hadn't planned for it as carefully as you have. I spent a few weeks in a phase of,'what now?' and even missed the thrill of the chase for weight loss. I was even surprised to find myself worrying about losing too much weight for a while back there!

Perhaps we have to go through a period of settling in to a new regime before we find what will be the basic pattern for the rest of our lives.

Having acknowledged that I had initial difficulties, I have much more confidence now that I have found a balance that works for me. I KNOW that you will too. Just keep monitoring and tweaking your plan until it feels right.


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KALIGIRL 3/15/2010 1:35PM

    Sounds great. I've spread my 'extra' calories throughout the week (for all of the 2 months @ goal). I find it much easier than upping 500 on certain days. (Although you could treat yourself to a blizzard...)

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WILMASOTO 3/15/2010 12:50PM

    Wishing you the best!! If you plan you at least have and idea as to what to do and look forward to following it!! Keep up the good work!! emoticon

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SUNNY332 3/15/2010 8:58AM

    Sounds like a great plan for your maintenance.

Have a Marvelous Monday.

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APRILLSCOTT 3/15/2010 8:46AM

    I think you're doing great!!! Just take it one day at a time! Get all this good experience under your belt so the rest of us can ask you all kinds of questions when we get there emoticon. Seriously though, if it was me I guess I would start with prayer every morning because to me this is the hard part! Yes, losing the weight was hard, I've did this once, but keeping it off is where I had trouble before. It sounds like you are going in the right direction, and I'm sure it is going to be somewhat of a try and learn thing as to what your body needs!! emoticon emoticon

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DEBRA_T 3/15/2010 8:18AM

    Sounds like you'll have to be quite the organized person you are to keep all this straight and make it work. It would be so much easier if life would just stand still while we plan, plot, shop, cook, eat, record and repeat. Sounds like you're planning to succeed (I know, trite but true)!

Glad you had a good time at Outback with you son and DIL -- eating out is tricky what with portion sizes and menu offerings that are off the charts. You did very well!

You have a great start to your New Regime!

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Bonus blog: Debra_T's Sunday Quiz

Sunday, March 14, 2010

She says she stole it from SusieMilo who stole it from someone else, but I "borrowed" it from her! Please feel free to cut and paste into a blog of your own making, but I warn you, it’s a little time consuming….

When is the last time you ran?

Do your jeans have rips, tears, and holes in them?

What are you dreading right now?
Putting my son on the airplane to head back to his job.

Do you get the full 8 hours of sleep a night?
More like 7 satisfies me.

If anyone came to your house on your "lazy days" what would ya'll do?
I like Deb's answer and will keep it: Depending on who it was, I would either (a) pretend not to be home, or (b) make an impromptu party.

Who last grabbed your butt?
Ahem! MYOB!

Have you ever been on your school's track team?

Do you own a pair of Converse?
No. Mostly New Balance.

Do you eat raw cookie dough?
Um, guilty as charged?

Have you ever kicked a vending machine?
Not kicked, but I have tried to tilt, jiggle, strike with open/closed fist, etc. Don't you hate it when your selection gets "stuck"?

How do you eat Oreos?
I'm a traditionalist: Screw apart, slowly lick off the cream filling, then dunk the wafers in milk and let them melt in my mouth.

Could you live without a computer?
Without a computer at home? Or without all the computers in the world? I make my living with computers... I'd have to find a new career... but, I suppose I would survive, somehow.

Do you wear your shoes in the house?
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. More now than I used to.

Who or what sleeps with you?
Dog is not allowed on the bed, but she sleeps on her own bed right beside me.

At what age did you find out that Santa wasn't real?
I think I was about 3 when I caught mom trying on the outfit. She played Santa at the local Elks' club. I was a confused kid ever after (Santa isn't your dad, kids, he's your mom?).

How many phones, house phones and cell phones are in your house? 3 house phones currently hooked up. 1 cell phone.

What do you do when you're sad?
Watch a movie to match the mood and let myself cry. Or if I don't have time, suppress it and get back to it later!

Last time you saw your best friend?
Unfair question... next!

What jewelry are you wearing?
Watch, hero bracelet commemorating my son's fallen comrades.

Is anyone on your bad side now?
Do I have a bad side? No.

What's the first thing you do when you get online?
Check e-mail.

Where do you work?
In a cubicle, like Dilbert. In an office building, like a billion other people on the planet.

What are you doing tomorrow?
Working, eating, exercising, you know, living. God willing and the creek don't rise, as they say around here.

When was the last time you left your house?

Do you return your cart?
Absolutely. Goody two-shoes here.

Do you have a dishwasher?
Yes. It takes me two or three days to fill it to run, though.

What noise do you hear?
Snoring dog.

Would you survive in prison?
I have no clue, suspect not.

Do you know anyone with the same name as you?
Personally know, no... but there is a woman with the same first and last names as me who writes prolifically... I know because when I Google my own name, she comes up with a ton of books.

What's the last thing you purchased?
Groceries and a weighted exercise ball (yes, at the same time).

What brand are your pants right now?
No brand sweats.

What irritates you most on the internet?
Chain mail, urban legends and scams. Phishing, etc. Hopefully nobody who reads this is silly enough to fall for such things!

What song best describes your life right now?
"Hard Day's Night" (the Beatles)

Do you own expensive perfume/cologne?
No. Allergies took me out of the perfume/cologne wearing population a few years back.

Are you taking college classes right now?

Do you like sushi?

Do you get your hair cut every month?
Not usually. Every six to eight weeks.

Do you go online every day?
Pretty much.

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KALIGIRL 3/14/2010 7:53PM

    Sorry kiddo - have been out most of the day and trying to catch up with my spark buds - if I get a chance will come back and post...

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DEBRA_T 3/14/2010 9:57AM

    I think it is a wonderful (but sad) thing that you wear a fallen heroes bracelet. Wonderful that your son's comrades have someone to remember and pray for them every day, sad that such sacrifices have to be made in this heavily troubled world.

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