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Wearing red on Friday - one week after saying "good-bye" again

Friday, March 26, 2010

It dawns on me as I write that it's almost exactly a week since my last son-hug. The week has gone quickly as I've been busy. And, as has been my habit for several years now, the red is on... "til they all come home". The yellow ribbon pin took a break while he was home on leave, but it's back on again, too.

Music of my youth is on the boom box in the background. It makes me more active to have stirring music on. I sometimes listen to classical, but I have to admit that tunes that were popular when you were an adolescent tend to bring a spring to the step and a swing to the hips as you go about your morning routine. I might even (don't tell anyone) do a few dance steps between fixing lunch and prepping breakfast. Today: The Beatles. My age may show, but I care not!

Sad that Syracuse lost their ball game last night, but consoled by K-State's win. Sometimes I think it makes for a better "big dance" experience for me when the teams that I "should" root for, based on geography or connection are out of the running and I can just enjoy seeing incredible athletes doing things I can only dream about my body being capable of! Dreams of flight, speed, flexibility, and grace.


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MSLZZY 3/29/2010 8:40PM

    My 16 year old always thinks those are "new" songs until I tell him the group and the year it was recorded. Hauls him up short LOL! Keep on dancing!

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KASEYCOFF 3/27/2010 12:49PM

    Yep, Beatles - I'm with you every 'step,' Barb, lol...

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/26/2010 3:25PM

    Rock on and enjoy that music. I just came home from running errands and had my radio blasting music from the 70's. It IS amazing what playing songs from adolescence can do for you. It takes you back, but minus the acne. LOL!

Have a great weekend!

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LJCANNON 3/26/2010 12:44PM

    emoticonThere's nothing like a good Soundtrack to make cleaning (and Life in general!) more enjoyable.

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MARYALINE 3/26/2010 11:55AM

    I'm wearing hot pink! Close as my wardrobe gets to 'red'. Hope we bring the troops home soon! My reservist brother went to Desert Storm back in 90. He's been back a long time and I hope he stays! Good luck and safety to your son!!!

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CONCHA77 3/26/2010 9:18AM

    Enjoy your day!

Tonight is the MSU game- Go Green! MSU plays N Iowa. Going to be a interesting game as Iowa upset Kansas.

I don't look very good in red, Barb, but I am going out to see if I can find me a nice red scarf.


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SUNNY332 3/26/2010 8:56AM

    I am so thrilled that K-State won. I would have though KU would be there where they are but I am just as happy for K-State. They have worked hard and they deserved the win.

Hope you have a Fabulous Friday. I too wear red and a yellow ribbon.

Take care and keep up the good work. Today is the first day I actually feel like I could walk. Whatever that illness was, it really knocked me down for a while. I woke up feeling good this morning so back to the treadmill and bike today.

Hugs, Sunny

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KALIGIRL 3/26/2010 8:47AM

    Glad the week's been busy and I can totally relate to listening to 'our' music.
We moved here from Lexington KY, so I'm rooting for the Wildcats. (Nothing like trading good basketball for good football...)

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DEBRA_T 3/26/2010 8:45AM

    Sounds like a very good time at your house today-- love the music from the 60's. I subscribe to the (free) service Pandora ( that allows you to create your own radio station. One of my stations is "Beach Boys" which plays a lot of Beatle tunes too. Definitely on when I'm cleaning!
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Praying for the continued well being and safety of all the troops.

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It's Thursday already!

Thursday, March 25, 2010

I haven't darkened a blog entry since Sunday. Been busy with other things higher on the priority list, or expressed my thoughts in comments on others.

Let's see, things I found out this week: someone is organizing a memorial 5K and half marathon at Fort Hood on the anniversary of the shootings there, next November 5th. Since my son was so directly impacted by that day, and since I had met a few of the victims, I have decided that I really want to participate in this run. My training will target the 5K, not the half marathon. Know thy limits, when reaching for the stars!

I have never traveled such a distance to participate in an athletic event. Furthest I went was from the Binghamton, NY area to Canton, PA for a 5K, back in 1991? 1992? And I know my times won't be what they were back then... but the important thing is to do it.


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PENNYAN45 3/25/2010 12:40PM

    I haven't known you long enough to be aware that your son was impacted by the Ft. Hood incident. So I just looked through your older blogs to read what you wrote about it.

I am happy it turned out okay for him.

For sure, it would be a good thing to go and run there on the one-year anniversary.

I imagine your son would be very proud of you.

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BRENDALEE235 3/25/2010 11:19AM

    That is a great goal for a great cause. I hope that some day I will also be able to participate in something as wonderful. I guess it all starts with the first step, Right.

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LJCANNON 3/25/2010 11:10AM

    Sounds like a GREAT Goal! Keep us informed, and send pictures of the Walk.

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SUNNY332 3/25/2010 9:58AM

    Sounds like a great goal and a very worthy cause.

Have a Terrific Thursday.


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DEBRA_T 3/25/2010 9:49AM

    One of the greatest rewards of weight loss has to be the ability to choose to run and play and do things like this 5K in Fort Hood. Last weekend I was watching the runners stream by our balcony in the Shamrock Shuffle 8K and thought how much fun it must be to run through the city with a whole bunch of other runners. Knees permitting of course! LOL

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PATRISNA 3/25/2010 9:27AM

    emoticon That is great! I think training for the Memorial 5K run is a terrific idea for you to work toward a personal goal. It is also a way to honor your son and his fallen friends.


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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/25/2010 9:12AM

    That's great! I admire you for following through on something that not only will benefit you, but will inspire others as well. I bet your son is awfully proud of you. Good luck on training for the 5K.


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KALIGIRL 3/25/2010 8:36AM

    emoticon So proud of you!
You've got plenty of time and what a marvelous incentive (motivator) to stay @ your home weight.
I'd join you, but these old knees (and the rest of the body) have never endured the shock of running.

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SLENDERELLA61 3/25/2010 8:10AM

    Wonderful, meaningful goal. Go for it!! You can do it. I respect people who train and expand their abilities for special events. -Marsha

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Bonus blog: Debra_T's Sunday Quiz

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Another stolen blog from somewhere or another. You know the drill, copy, paste, put up your own answers on your own blog or just relax and enjoy someone elseís exposing of their ticks and foibles.

If you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be?
Australia. I have a hankering to see the moon and the stars "upside down". And I wouldn't have to learn another language to do it.

If you could have your dream job, it would be...what?
Already got it. I work full cycle computer applications development and maintenance. From requirements analysis through construction, deployment, and customer support. I'm using my talents and helping people... what more could a body want?

What would you like them to say about you after you're gone?
I'm debating among several, "She did it her way", "She was a character", "She had a full life", and the ever popular, "I'll miss her".

What are 3 things you'd like to do before you die?
You know, if I died today, I think I'd be content about most of the really important things. So, if I HAVE to pick three more things to do: Visit Australia. Take a hiking trip. Attend the Kentucky Derby.

What movie star would you love to look like?
Pfft (imagine me laughing so hard I sputter out my coffee). I don't want to look like any movie star. I just want to look like me and be happy with that!

What is your biggest strength?
Following logic (I'm a heck of a debugger).

What is your biggest weakness?
Over-committing, over-optimism in estimating how much time something will take.

What is your favorite color?

What obstacle would you like to overcome?
Insecurity, anxiety, fear and their brethren: Right now I can reason around or power through them... I know that in balance they can be useful... but gee, wouldn't it be nice once in a while not to feel like you are about to slip and fall?

Do you drive fast or slow...or right at the speed limit?
Mostly speed limit, to slow.

Are you a rule keeper or a rule breaker?
Rule keeper.

What do you say to yourself when you look in the mirror?
Hmmm, not bad.

When is the last time you cried?
Friday morning on the way back from dropping daughter in law at home.

When is the last time you laughed?
Sometime this morning... I think it was at the dog, but I am easily amused.

Are you weak or strong?

Are you serious or carefree?
Serious. I make a great "straight man" to a comic.

What is the one thing you can't live without?
Air. Ask a literal question... see, straight man to the top banana!

What movie do you never get tired of seeing?
Apollo 13

What book have you read more than 3 times?
More than 3 times... I don't think any. But I did make it to three times with JRR Tolkien's Fellowship of the Ring. That's the first book of the trilogy, The Lord of the Rings, for those who aren't fans. I read it once in high school, and abandoned the project mid-book two. I read it again in college on a challenge from a professor, and again got stuck in the same place. Both times I completed book one. I finally succeeded in finishing the trilogy in 1998, when I read it with my then-13 year old son. So, that makes three.

If you could have any kind of car, what would it be?
VW Beetle

Do you like yourself?
For the most part, Yes.

Do you sing when you're by yourself?
Oh, yeah!

If you were to give a speech, what topic would you choose?
"It's OK to be human"

Do you think people like you?
For the most part, yes. But there will always be some who don't.

What sport do you wish you could participate in?
I have a closet dream of doing a triathlon. But I'm too slow for the really long ones.

Do you spend more time looking back or looking ahead?
I liked Deb's answer, so I'll keep it: Looking back. But itís close.

Finish this sentence: Someday, I'd like to ....?
Have a completely clean and organized house. This would last... about two hours.

What is your favorite thing to daydream about?
Grandchildren (I don't have any, may never have any, and have no control over the decision, so it's definitely a "daydream").

Do you spend more time being happy or sad?
Happy. It's my natural state.

Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
Introvert, but I can masquerade as an extrovert. I find that introverts can more easily "fake it" than can extroverts.

What is your pet peeve?

What makes you smile?
Peace and quiet.

If you could be any animal..what would you be?
A horse... strong, fit, fast.

What charity do you support the most?
I have two that are at the top: Special Olympics and the USO.

What is your favorite time of day?
Definitely morning.

What is your favorite number?
7. I picked it when I was 7 years old and thought that was the perfect age. I still think it's the perfect age.

What is your favorite day of the week?
Monday. What can I say?

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KALIGIRL 3/21/2010 9:15PM

    Fun stuff - Monday?

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SUNNY332 3/21/2010 8:28PM

    If Monday is your favorite day of the week, what is your least favorite?

Loved learning more about you. I would describe you an Inspirational!


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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/21/2010 12:48PM

    Thanks for sharing. I feel like I know you a little better now! Have a great Sunday.

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VSWINGLE 3/21/2010 12:42PM

    I rteally enjoyed this...thanks for sharing!

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DEBRA_T 3/21/2010 12:02PM

    That's a good point you make about we the introverted -- we can fake it. I don't know that truly extroverted people can fake being introverted. It drives them crazy to be alone, etc. Advantage: us!

Thanks for playing and have a great day!


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Sunday morning - motivation

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Yesterday I did a number of little "clean up" things around my Sparking. It was, after all, the first day of Spring, what better time to renew, refresh, and clean up!

For one thing, I removed myself from a couple of Spark teams. I find that trying to keep up with too many spreads me too thin. I kept the ones I am most active in (or want to be most active in at this phase of my journey).

For another, I changed my goal and weight measuring to match my home scale, instead of the one at the commercial weight loss center I've been using for the past nine months. During those nine months, it was important to me to keep harmony in my tracking with their tools. Now, as I shift into maintenance mode, I think it's more important to use my home measurements and rely on the Spark tracking alone. So if anybody is paying enough attention to notice a sudden one-day drop in the numbers, that's the difference between fully clothed (including shoes!), mid-day, and the way most of us truly weigh... first thing in the morning, unburdened! No, I really did NOT drop four pounds overnight.

Finally, I examined where I am, vis-a-vis the Spark program, and changed my Spark phase to stage 3. This starts out by examining the issue of motivation. I believe this is going to be my "permanent assignment", this examination of motivation. For it has been my downfall over a lifetime...

I will have success in losing, and then get to the "is that all there is" point, and eventually unravel and regain. Well, each time I do, I get a little farther down the path to lifetime health, and this time I'm putting some real effort into it again. We'll see if we can't make it to the real finish line this time, eh? emoticon emoticon

So, to quote from the Spark Article "What will Keep you Motivated?"

"The right motivation is whatever it is at any point in time that keeps you going for another day." and "The right motivation will get you out of bed in the morning with pep in your step and an eagerness to meet the day."

In short, one's motivation changes over time! What will spur me on today may not be the same as what I need to motivate me tomorrow, or what worked yesterday.

Finally, it says "Youíll be more successful if you pay more attention to whatís important to you as a benchmark." So true... sometimes the downfall is forgetting that this is important to me and why!

So, to reiterate, and remind myself, for today: My health is important to me. I don't want anything to stand in the way of my being there for my son and his wife. My work is important to me. I don't want to jeopardize the success of my current projects by undermining my health. My happiness is important to me: emotions are fleeting, and I know I just plain feel happier when I move my body!

That's it for today, end of pep talk. Have a blessed Sunday, all.

Oh, by the way, I did get word from my son that he's safely back in the appropriate time zone. Let the games begin anew.

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KALIGIRL 3/21/2010 10:35PM

    Glad he's back safely.

Your plan sounds great. I've been fortunate to only do this a couple times and have no intention to repeat. I am very comfortable in my (old, alligator) skin and want to keep this shape (motivation enough for me).

Hope you find your (or your multiple) motivations.

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PATRISNA 3/21/2010 12:20PM

    This is a great blog. I think it is good to regroup every so often. I hope you have a great week. Glad your son made it back to his unit okay.

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DEBRA_T 3/21/2010 12:04PM

    I'm constantly reorganizing my teams and friends (drop inactive ones of both) to keep things manageable -- or at least to try! I confess I cannot keep up with all the blogs, comments and stuff that people are doing, but I know everyone understands that (or at least I hope they do).

Spark on, my friend!

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APRILLSCOTT 3/21/2010 11:49AM

    I agree with you totally !!! I enjoyed this blog. I have let go of one team myself. emoticon

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JHADZHIA 3/21/2010 11:10AM

    I know what you mean with the Spark Teams! My Spark team Just Do It is great and very active with suggestions and came up with that decluttering idea. I have a lot of buddies who used to be active, but seem to be no where around now, but I have a little reluctance to drop them in case they come back because I liked interacting with them. I try to avoid adding anyone with a huge friends list even though they add me, because you wonder how they are going to be able to interacting with so many people.
That is a great idea using the motivation stage to keep you going! I wish you all the best with it!
Enjoy your Sunday!

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SHAPNUP 3/21/2010 10:36AM

    Very inspiring blog. I've been thinking about excusing myself from a couple of my teams as well. It's just too much to keep up with and I would much rather get to know a few people rather well, than a whole bunch not at all!

Same thing with Spark Friends. There are people I have only heard from once or twice and that was over a month ago. I send emails, notes on feed, and messages on pages to no avail. I'm not even sure where some of them came from! But I didn't want to hurt feelings, so when they added me, I added them.

Congratulations on moving forward in your SP life, and best wishes for your success!

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Saturday, March 20, 2010

To all those who commented on my blog the past couple of days with support and prayers... thanks!

I was sleep-deprived, but did not nap, as I had scheduled distractions for myself. Things that needed doing anyway. I tried to do yard patrol (it's been a long winter) before the first appointment guy came at 9 a.m. I got a first pass in, but you might guess from the background snap, my back yard is a huge minefield this early in the Spring. Since we had to tramp around the yard showing the gent what needs doing to fix my yard's drainage issues, it was a good thing I did. I hope I don't faint when I see the estimate, but I've been putting a couple of things off for a few years (budgetary constraints) and they can't be lived with any more.

Went to bed early last night, and slept until 4:30 this morning, at which point it became apparent the mind was not going to quiet down to allow me to go back to sleep, so I've been puttering about in my favorite time of day. See? Insufferable morning person.

Today: indoors chores, as outdoors it is white and slick. Again.

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WALKINGANNIE 3/20/2010 3:26PM

    Well done on finding distractions and tackling your yard.

I'm the opposite of you in that I'm definitely an evening / night time person - an owl to your lark! We complement each other well.

Hope you soon settle back into a routine again and hear that your son had a safe journey.


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KALIGIRL 3/20/2010 2:59PM

    We ventured out and it was SLICK.
Glad you were able to catch up on sleep and indoor chores.
Tomorrow will be a better day!

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    I look forward to warmer weather when I will be joining you at 4:30 am!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/20/2010 10:43AM

    My husband wakes up between 4:30 and 5:30 each day (sometimes earlier) and that's it for him. He gets a lot done in those hours before I finally drag myself out of bed. I hope you get lots done today and that you're able to enjoy the weekend.

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PATRISNA 3/20/2010 10:20AM

    I am also a morning person and I agree it sometimes comes too soon. The animal trio ruined my streak of 8 hours sleep per night. I have a sleep disorder.

My neurologist diagnosed me with periodic limb movement. I take medication for it so I don't I flail my arms and legs around all night long. Believe me my DH loves that they finally diagnosed it as I used to occasionally smack him during sleep. LOL

Thanks for reminding me I need to go out and clean the yard of the dogs mess. Ugh! Louie sitcks to the area along the back fence, but Susie goes wherever the urge hits her.


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APRILLSCOTT 3/20/2010 10:09AM

    You are handling things very well if you ask me. I just will be praying that the Lord give you the strength to make it through the next few months when your son will be home! I think things will be better for you then. emoticon emoticon

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SUNNY332 3/20/2010 10:06AM

    You are most welcome.

I am one of those Insufferable morning persons also. Even when I can sleep in, I am wide away early and ready to get going on the day.

Have a wonderful weekend. It is snowing here so will stay in and get some indoor chores done also.

Hugs to you, Sunny

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PONDERTHIS 3/20/2010 9:01AM

    Hi my friend, I'm a morning person too, and it is sad when it comes too soon after going to bed. Sleep is so important. I hope yours works out well this weekend. Sending you blessings,
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MSLZZY 3/20/2010 8:49AM

    I'm a morning person too. It seems like this is the most productive time of day for me. Take care. emoticon

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