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Holiday lessons for those who eat emotions

Monday, April 05, 2010

Emotional eaters have a balancing act when it comes to holidays. Easter was tough for me, not because of temptations of food (I didn't buy candy, I went out with a sister who is supportive of healthy habits for my holiday meal), but because of the uncomfortable emotions surrounding the set-up of holidays in general.

Being "of a certain age", there are memories of years past to compare. It's easier for a holiday to bring mixed feelings. In every emotional day and hour, there is a reflection of the opposite emotion. Amid joy, there is longing or sadness. In grief and sadness, comes healing. In commemorating the life and sacrifice of Jesus Christ, and His resurrection, come memories of those who left this plane this year. The men and women fallen from my son's unit (and others in service). The minister who wrote the touching words to "Rejoice this Easter Day!" which we sang also departed this year.

Easter was harder for me than Christmas was. My son was home such a short time ago on leave, it was harder letting him go again. But I got through yesterday, without eating to comfort. I find that if I am not numbing the feelings with food, I can appreciate their layers.

This was a victory of a sort. Still, I found myself walking through today weary, having a hard time finding my stride at work. This evening I saw SusieMilo's blog entry... and my heart just flows out her and her family in their loss and grief.

What I hope to achieve and learn from all of this: to sit with the sadness, acknowledge it, and let it wash over and be healed in a Love that is pure. I pray for the comfort of others, as well.

May we each find the comfort and healing that comes in a healthy relationship with our emotions, and a healthy relationship with food, treating our bodies and our minds with kindness and compassion.

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WATERMELLEN 4/6/2010 7:46PM

    So sorry that your holiday was difficult (as they so often are); but congratulations on handling it as you wanted to do.

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PENNYAN45 4/6/2010 7:26PM

    You have written about many of us here in this blog. And you have expressed it well.

Unfortunately, holidays do bring to the surface many of the emotions related to losses suffered.

It is good to acknowledge that while food may dull some of the feelings, it does not erase them. Those feelings are best let out in the light of day and dealt with rather than buried to surface at another time or in another way.

And those of us who are Susie's friends had a very sad day on Monday.


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WALKINGANNIE 4/6/2010 1:10PM

    Thank you for sharing your feelings with us, Barb - and well done for dealing with your emotional eating when you could so easily have given in to temptations.

We feel our emotions in layers as well as finding them in food tastes. This blog reaches the deepest layer - fear of losing those who are dearest to us. No words can begin to express how we feel when that fear becomes a reality. My heart goes out to anyone who has lost a child (at any age) and to those, like you, who are separated from loved ones in difficult circumstances.

Life is precious. Health is precious. Perhaps the best we can do to in this community is to acknowldege the importance of fitness and to work on making our own lives as healthy as possible and to keep on supporting each other.


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LOVE_2_LAUGH 4/6/2010 12:02PM

    What a beautiful blog. You said it so eloquently. I am so glad you were able to resist emotional eating and enjoy the process of feeling all of those emotions. That is something I will need to aspire to.

I wish you a great week ahead and look forward to your next blog entry.

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SHARON2014 4/6/2010 8:13AM

    thank you, this touched a chord with me. We lost my dad and others this past year. So it was just my DH, mom and a recently widowed friend who went out for breakfast after church - a far cry from Easter baskets, coconut cakes and deviled eggs of past years. thanks for the insight. emoticon

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XINIXINIX 4/6/2010 7:41AM

    Learning to "appreciate the layers" - phew, that will take a lifetime. Thanks for the the great blog.

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PATRISNA 4/6/2010 6:29AM

    Barb this is a wonderful blog. You wrote everything about our emotions during holidays so well. Thank you.


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PONDERTHIS 4/6/2010 1:23AM

    Barb, this is a great blog! You so clearly talk about feelings and food, and the value of not eating to stifle the feelings. You are very inspiring to me with this post. Thank you.

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MSLZZY 4/6/2010 12:02AM

    So true! Take care, dear friend!

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DEBRA_T 4/5/2010 11:53PM

    The temptation to eat is strongest when the feelings are generated by the incomprehensible. But, of course, how to comprehend it if one shortchanges the process by eating?

This was a very sad Monday indeed. Makes me want to hug everybody.


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SKINNYME815 4/5/2010 11:35PM

  I am glad you are getting in touch with yourself, I wish I could Holidays are so hard on me.

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Better mood today!

Saturday, April 03, 2010

Sometimes you just have to give yourself an attitude adjustment! The kittens helped in that regard... they are so funny! Right now they're a little shy, having just been to their pre-declaw and "fixing" vet appointment the day before I stopped to see them.

This morning it's sunny emoticon and bright and I'm thinking it's a great day to take the dog out for a walk around the lake. emoticon

Tomorrow is Easter, and I'll be doing early church and breakfast out with my sister... it has become tradition in our religiously eclectic family for the couple of us who still celebrate Easter to do so together. Passover blessings to those who celebrate it. Easter blessings to others who celebrate that. And blessings just on general principle to anyone who celebrates neither! May peace touch your hearts and joy lighten your burdens.

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MSLZZY 4/4/2010 8:05AM

    Happy Easter and thank you for sharing! emoticon emoticon

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KALIGIRL 4/3/2010 7:56PM

    Peace to you - and thank you for the blessings.
A blessed Easter to you.

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WALKINGANNIE 4/3/2010 5:36PM

    Hi Barb. I've been catching up on a batch of your blogs.

Congratulations on registering for the 5k and for ingrowing (we really need a word for this!) your target jeans!

Your blood pressure readings were interesting. My doctor and I are now convinced that I have a version of what he calls ‘white coat syndrome’. My readings at home are fine, on a machine that is calibrated with the ones in his surgery, but high when he takes it. I think I get tense about my bp being high when he takes it so it becomes raised as a result. Sounds like this could be true for you as well?

Glad that your family and the kittens are there to brighten your days.

Happy Easter.


Annie x

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PONDERTHIS 4/3/2010 4:39PM

    I enjoyed this view of "adjusting our view". Thanks for even mentioning kittens - they are always fun and entertaining. And I really appreciated blessigns that included everyone. May your weekend be blessed ~

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 4/3/2010 12:27PM

    And may you have a truly happy and blessed Easter as well! Enjoy the time with your sister.

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I'm grumpy if I miss my breakfast

Friday, April 02, 2010

So, I was not in the greatest of moods going in for this biometric screening thing. I was prepared for the possibility that cholesterol might not be as pretty a picture as I'd like, but what I wasn't prepared for was my white-coat hypertension to put in an appearance.

Folks, I have a home blood pressure machine. I looked at my bp last night and it was 106/69... really good. This morning, with a room full of people who are total strangers to me, it registered 132/78. Then of course they have their little protocol to "counsel" me on my "prehypertension". People, I do NOT have hypertension. I have low to normal blood pressure. Do not try to patronize me like I'm some kind of ignoramus.

The cholesterol wasn't great, but it wasn't as bad as it would have been if I didn't drop 60 pounds in the past ten months, and clean up my eating act.

So, numbers were disappointing, "cattle call" atmosphere irritating, and this COULD have led to a "why do I bother trying" attitude.

But it didn't. My beautiful daughter in law called after work and invited me over to play with the grand-kitties, and that re-set my mood. We also play Wii Sports... it was a blast... tennis, golf, and bowling. And now I'm wiped out.

Happy Easter to all! And to all a good night! emoticon

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BRENDALEE235 4/3/2010 11:16AM

    I agree with you mine can be way up at the doctors but normal every where else. I need some grandchildren to calm my nerves. I just wish my children could see how healthy it would be for me. LOL
You know you are doing better and before you know it the numbers will be where you want them. Keep up the great job and enjoy the journey.

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RITAROSE 4/3/2010 9:38AM

  You have done an amazing job with your weight loss. I'm a bit disappointed that the doctor didn't ask for your input about why your bp was high! You have proved that you can make healthy choices and that you are working towards a healthy lifestyle. I empathize with you!

Those grandkids helped you to reset your mind and have fun being active and playing with them. Good choice! Big fun for mind and body! emoticon

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NELLIEC 4/2/2010 11:00PM

    Whenever I have my blood pressure taken, I purposely relax since I know about the phenomenon of having higher pressure in a doctor's office. It works!

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SLENDERELLA61 4/2/2010 10:46PM

    Great attitude! Doctors and all that medical stuff can be so impersonal and unhelpful, as well as outrageously expensive. Grandkids can put everything in perspective. So glad you let them do that for you!! -Marsha

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102633 4/2/2010 10:45PM

    I know exactly what you mean about the "white coat hypertension" and the canned pep talk about all the damage that can be done to your body.

I believe you though that you do not have the condition.

Congratulations on the 60 pound drop and the increased health from it. Keep up the great work!

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Thursday, April 01, 2010

Tomorrow I will find out just how much good my program of the last ten months has been: I have a biometric screening, including the cholesterol and glucose screenings. I've never had a glucose problem (thank goodness), but I have at times registered as "borderline high" in the cholesterol. Not enough to be put on meds, mind you, but enough to get advice about diet and exercise.

Well, I've dropped significant weight, and I'm back at regular exercise again. I'm hoping the numbers will show benefits in the cholesterol levels! Keep your fingers crossed. Hopefully I haven't lost any more height!


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BRENDALEE235 4/2/2010 8:08PM

    good luck and keep us posted on how it goes.

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COLEE82 4/2/2010 8:44AM

    Wishing you the best! emoticon

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MSLZZY 4/2/2010 7:55AM

    I hope all the numbers reflect your hard work. One less thing to worry about and a sign that you are doing everything right. Have a wonderful Easter weekend! emoticon emoticon

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CONCHA77 4/2/2010 5:48AM

    I KNOW you will get great results, Barb. You have worked very hard towards your health. God Bless, Connie

Happy Easter.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 4/2/2010 12:43AM

    No doubt you'll have excellent numbers tomorrow. You are doing a great job, and tomorrow will be your reward. Keep up the good work, and let us know how things work out.

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APRILLSCOTT 4/2/2010 12:43AM

    Please let us know how it goes! We will be pulling for you in this corner! Exercise helps out so I've got my fingers crossed and saying a little prayer also! emoticon

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LJCANNON 4/1/2010 11:55PM

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We will be thinking of you. Saying a prayer for good results.

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PONDERTHIS 4/1/2010 10:17PM

    Let us know how it goes! Best wishes for positive outcomes ~
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Mid-week musings

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

My goal for this week was actually related to getting enough sleep. So I've been being a good girl shutting down the computer a little earlier and getting myself to bed on time. After doing a little "OD" on the basketball, and of course, son's leave time... it's a good week to emphasize sleep.

Meanwhile, suddenly it's not just Spring, it's close to Summer. That's the way the seasons change around here... Winter one day, Summer the next... and a few days intermixed of the two constitute what passes for Spring and Fall. Things are greening up, and I'm thinking about yard work.

Confession: I am NOT a yard work person. For one thing, plants make me sneeze. Yeah, hay fever, big time sufferer. So I have this love/hate relationship with nice weather. As often as not while everyone else is raving about how gorgeous it is, I'm hiding from it! As contrary as this may sound, one of the best things I did for my fitness last year was to hire someone else to mow my lawn!

Then I was better about doing other things, not being busy either mowing or dreading mowing. I took the dog for walks. I lifted weights. I didn't worry about getting the mowing done during "nice" weather. In the end, I was in better shape and happier for it.

Anybody else have rewards / strategies that help your health even while they sound "odd" to conventional wisdom?

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PENNYAN45 3/31/2010 8:33PM

    Sleep is a big item for me. If I don't get enough - my brain functions at a minimal level, and I have trouble doing ordinary things during the day. A couple of sleepless nights in a row will leave me with the beginning of a head cold.

I believe that sleep is healing. It's good you have focused on getting enough.

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KALIGIRL 3/31/2010 8:15PM

    I can relate to yard work imposing on a healthy schedule, not to mention golf now that the weather’s turned nice. (I’m sorry for your hay fever, but I’m one of those loving this…)

This may sound like the antithesis of your goal of gaining more sleep, but I’m going to start getting up earlier. You’ve been great about exercising after work, but if I don’t get it in first thing, it just doesn’t get done.

Not much help… emoticon

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NELLIEC 3/31/2010 3:33PM

    I am definitely a sun and heat avoider since they make me feel weak and terrible! None of that exercising during the time most other people are enjoying what they call good weather!

I do some veggie gardening during the evening when the sun is waning and so is the heat. Also the allergens seem most prevalent in the morning, so that is a good time to estivate (like hibernating, but in the summer).

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MSLZZY 3/31/2010 2:41PM

    For a few years, hanging laundry outside and gardening were not considered in vogue. Now the tide has turned and it is acceptable to do both. The extra activity from using the clothesline equates to using less electricity and natural gas.
Gardening is a fine art (most days) and having the opportunity and the space to
do it creates endless possibilities for stretching, bending, etc. All the fresh air can work wonders for those who do not suffer from allergies, hay fever and the like. Last on my list is opening the windows and turning off the AC. I did that last night and we all slept so good!
Take care and leave the mowing to someone else. Your body will thank you for it!

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CREATINGAMANDA 3/31/2010 10:33AM

    I have allergies too ... some days I just want to stay in the air conditioning, which sometimes feels like a waste of a day but I have to say - some days it's better than dealing with the allergies.

Great job on getting enough sleep! That's a goal I'm working on myself.

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DEBRA_T 3/31/2010 10:27AM

    I love it! Why suffer doing something that makes you ill when it is so simple to hire someone to do it, leaving you free to do things that increase your health. Of course, I also heartily concur because I'm not supposed to get too much sun exposure (at the beach, which I love, I'm always under an umbrella with 50 SPF). So, even when I lived in Florida, I was inside reading my book while everyone else was lounging around the pool. It helped that our sliders folded into the wall, making the living room a part of the "outside," but still people thought it was odd that I would be indoors on such beautiful days.
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RAYLINSTEPHENS 3/31/2010 10:13AM

    I think my whole life falls under the category of strange, odd, weird...

I think finding Your Way is ideal! Whatever it takes, whatever works, do it!

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PATRISNA 3/31/2010 10:03AM

    I can empathize and identify with you. People constantly ask why don't you walk outside? Then they say walking on the treadmill all the time must be boring. I don't feel I need to tell everyone I suffer from allergies.

I also have a love hate relationship with gardening & yard work. I love plants, but am allergic to the hard work part of gardening. emoticon

Seriously I don't think you should feel guilty about hiring someone to do yard work. It keeps you from having an allergy or asthma attack so it is for your health.


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JHADZHIA 3/31/2010 8:15AM

    You are doing the right thing, avoiding activity that bothers your allergies! My problem with allergies is the dust and snow mold. We have not had much snow and warmer weather than normal, melting it all, and with our constant winds, it has been one big dust bowl, and I have had difficulty breathing and sleeping for three weeks now. So I have had to avoid outdoor activity. No greening in sight here, usually doesn't happen until late May. Dog walking is the best activity, and they will love you for it!
I have been dealing with a slow healing broken elbow for two months (and another slow month to go!), but I have been able to maintain my weight as I am doing lots of cardio DVD's with strength training with my left hand, as well as time on the elliptical. I really do miss my Curves workouts, I am going to be so out of shape for those machines when I finally can get back to it.
I also miss my aquafit, but with 13 DVD's to choose from I am not getting bored and my body isn't getting used to what I am doing. I am hoping when it finally heals that I can go to this mineral hot spring pool for a few days. Its called the healing waters, and people actually move there to use it daily as they say it helps their various ailments. I imagine soaking in 105 degree water every day would make anyone feel good :)!
Stay the course, we can do it!

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