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Saturday, May 15, 2010

Add thunderstorms to airplanes and mix well. For the first time in all my years of flying, I was on a plane that got diverted to a different destination than its originally intended one. I'd had lots of other adventures in flying over the years but this was a first for me.

But, despite that little 4 hour side-trip, I did end up in a beautiful place at the event I was fretty about last weekend. And as I knew it would, it is turning out to be "just what I need". Anybody else have that trait? Resist doing something, do it anyway, and be glad?

Pretty much the same with our healthy living efforts. I'll be brief as I'm writing from the hotel, but I'm thinking of my spark friends, and the turtles headed moonward... I may not get our totals posted 'til Monday, but we WILL all get credit for our efforts!


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KALIGIRL 5/16/2010 9:55PM

    Glad you arrived safely (even with a detour) but sorry I haven't kept up enough to know what wonderful adventure you are on...
Hope I will catch up with you soon!

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SUNNY332 5/16/2010 1:53PM

    Glad that the event was OK after the fretting.

No - thunderstorms and airplanes do not mix.

I drove to Kansas last Monday and got caught in a line of storms from Kansas City
to Wichita. When we arrived in Wichita, the tornado warning was sounding. There was a funnel just west of the airport. Tuesday, the day left no remnants of the storms the night before. It was a beautiful day and a perfect spring day on the prairie.

Take care - Sunny

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WATERMELLEN 5/16/2010 9:36AM

    Recalling a "plane in the storm" incident of my own: and so glad you're safe! Bit of a metaphor, ya think? You were expecting more of a storm where you were going and so far it's been sunny!! Generally I regret more what I didn't do than what I did; and after the event, never wish that I had worried more!!

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MSLZZY 5/16/2010 7:40AM

    Quite an adventure! Glad it turned out well!

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WALKINGANNIE 5/16/2010 6:54AM

    Hope that you are healing well after your recent treatment Barb.

I'm pleased that your event went well and yes, I have dreaded events that I have been fine when they have happened!

This is a not a good time in the UK for estimating whether airports will be open or closed because a volcanic ash cloud from Iceland is affecting our skies. Nature does rule!

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KASEYCOFF 5/16/2010 3:59AM

    I've never been on a flight that was diverted for any reason, just had a couple lengthy delays, one which ended up being overnight - and which ultimately involved a couple of serendipitous moments, at that. Kind of makes me wonder, if you could have ended up choosing to stay at your 'diversion destination,' instead of resuming your flight and going where you planned - would you? Would you have said 'Well, what the hey, I'm here for two days, I'll see what's here to explore and investigate, then just go home when I originally intended'? I don't think I've ever done anything like that - spontaneously changing plans to that extent. Now, tho, I might keep an eye out for such an opportunity. :-)

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DEBRITA01 5/15/2010 8:37PM

    emoticon Guilty...Always trying to resist change and sometimes I over-analyze things, trying to anticipate what will happen. Usually I am pleasantly surprised by the outcome, which is not at all as I had anticipated. I think we spend too much time worrying and wondering (at least I do) and should just let things happen...Glad you are having a good weekend in a beautiful place...hope it's everything that you need it to be.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 5/15/2010 8:01PM

    I'm glad things went well and you arrived safely. Also happy to hear you're glad you decided to "do this." Enjoy your time away and safe travels back home.

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Stitches and scars and such

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Today was the day the doctor excised the spot on my arm, the one that had been biopsied to find Actinic Keratosis. I also pointed out another spot behind my ear on the same side (right hand side). He froze that one and said he'll check it again to see if it needs to be treated a second time when I go back to get the stitches out, a week from Friday.

Thanks to all for the encouraging words on Sunday's entry... the event I was stressing over? Hasn't happened yet! I stress far in advance of these things... at least now I know that's what I'm doing and have a chance to take out the feelings and examine them and come up with strategies for dealing with them.

The "no weigh" challenge? I'm down to the three times a week I agreed to. And I didn't die from it. I am indeed maintaining, as I am aiming to do. I plan on continuing this effort... it's really good for me!


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SUNNY332 5/12/2010 7:41PM

    Glad that is over for you. Do keep us posted.

I have been in Kansas visiting our Son/his family.

Take care and have a Terrific Thursday.


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WALKINGANNIE 5/12/2010 4:35PM

    I'm so glad that you've got this bit of treatment over with. You were very wise to get yourself checked out. Hope the rest of the treatment goes well.

As for 'no weigh', I'm very surprised indeed that I've taken to this - and not in the spirit of denial that explained my avoidance of scales when I was in the gaining phases of my former yo-yo cycle.

I think that I'll weigh at least monthly and try not to obsess or to become too lax. I will be vigilant about how I feel and how my clothes fit.

This feels like true progress. I'm interested that you're doing something similar.


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KATIE33MAHALA 5/12/2010 4:34PM

    Nice with the wt. loss, but please keep going to doctors to keep an eye on those spots, Actinic Keratosis Always get them checked and removed. Thank you again for your help to me. Hope you had a good day today, Katie

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KALIGIRL 5/12/2010 1:10PM

    Congrats on the no weigh program – what a great ‘weigh’ to wean ourselves from the scale. I am still checking daily, but went below goal and am still experimenting with food plans (as exercise is fairly constant) to maintain. (I’ve added an ounce of walnuts a day and am reveling in the treat…)

I’m with you on learning to wait to deal with feelings/issues/thoughts until they occur. (Easier said than done…)

Good luck on biopsy!

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KASEYCOFF 5/12/2010 5:45AM

    Barb, I know that it doesn't help to borrow trouble by worrying over what 'might' happen, but I also think it's better to prepare for the worst while hoping for the best. So if nothing else, you can consider yourself 'on alert' and ready just-in-case, lol...

No Weigh: YOU are doing GREAT! Slow but sure, you are decreasing the number of checks. emoticon

p.s. It occurs to me I nearly missed a great opportunity to pun about 'forewarned is forearmed' - stitches 'n' all? :-D

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MSLZZY 5/11/2010 11:22PM

    Glad you worried and had it checked out. Great victory over the scale. It will still be there in a few days.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 5/11/2010 10:15PM

    I do the same thing when it comes to worrying in advance. Yet another one of my bad habits. There's nothing I can do, but by worrying I somehow think I'm able to figure out every different outcome and therefore plan on how I'll react. I wish you the best of luck.

And good job on the "no weigh" challenge.

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NELLIEC 5/11/2010 10:12PM

    Sounds like you have gotten over several hurdles!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Feelings don't follow rules

Sunday, May 09, 2010

Free floating emotions and free time are not a good combination for me. They tend to lead to "false" signals of hunger. What I have learned over the years, and hopefully address in better ways, is that feelings don't happen when they "should" according to logic or plan. They just happen. Feelings are legitimate whenever they happen, and must be addressed, acknowledged and hopefully at that point one can move on.

Sometimes I have problems allowing for the legitimacy of my own feelings when I perceive that someone else has had to deal with much worse. Say I have to work overtime, and feel sorry for myself, then I find someone else has lost their job. Job loss is something that I may fear far more than a little overtime. But if I don't acknowledge the two things at work here - self-pity and fear / anxiety, chances are good I'll "feel" hungry.

Today is Mother's Day. Which of course dredges up feelings attached to the mother-daughter relationship with my own mom, mother-son relationship with my child, and of course by extension the relationship with my daughter in law. What were we thinking when we invented holidays celebrating relationships? Well, obviously we were thinking of counting our blessings, of which we all have many. But it can also bring up regrets or comparisons, so being aware that this can happen is a good thing!

The alignment of dates can trigger emotions, too. I got married in May. Last night I called my ex for the first time in many months. This may sound weird, but I hadn't seen his green light on IM in several weeks, and my threshold of worry was exceeded. He lives alone, as do I, so a check-up call is not necessarily a bad thing every so often. We ended up chatting for about an hour and a half, which is about my limit... but of course, talking with him always dredges up feelings, good and bad, associated with a 22 year marriage than ended sadly. 'Nuff said.

I'm preparing to go to an event where I will see family members of others who are deployed with my son. I will be going alone, as my daughter in law has opted not to go. I am acknowledging a little social anxiety about the whole deal. Some of these folks I have met only once, at a similar event last September. Others I have never met. And... a lot of things have happened to our loved ones in the past several months.

This blog today is a periodic reminder to myself to not attach any judgment to feelings. They just are. They do not have to have reason or justification to appear. Here's to acknowledging feelings, and having a healthy response ready.

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DHENDLER 5/10/2010 5:03PM

    More Hugs emoticon

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KALIGIRL 5/10/2010 1:50PM

    Hope the event provided a good ending to what sounds like a conflicted day.
Glad you are recognizing your feelings and going with the flow.
All the best and a belated Happy Mother's Day.

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MSLZZY 5/9/2010 9:21PM

    Hope your event was not too stressful. Addressing feelings and dealig with them in a positive manner is the best you can do. Have a great evening!

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WATERMELLEN 5/9/2010 5:14PM

    Hope your potentially difficult event exceeded your expectations. I like what you say about acknowledging feelings: it's when I do so candidly (to myself) that I am best able to control my impulse to (sometimes inappropriate) responses to those feelings!!

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WALKINGANNIE 5/9/2010 4:41PM

    Feelings just are. That's true. We can't control them but we can control how we respond to them . You've put into words what a lot of others struggle with, Barb. Did blogging about it help? I find it helps me to work through quite a lot of things, even if, like you, my blogs don't always make it to the printed page.

Sometimes it helps just to acknowledge feelings so they don't build up and lead to too much concentrated emotional pressure.

You're sensible and grounded. You have led a rounded life. All the things that have happened to you have made you who you are - a strong, intelligent, thoughtful woman who isn't afraid to acknowledge her emotions.

Thanks for your honesty. Hope the event went well for you and that you continue to find the healthy responses that you're working on.


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CONCHA77 5/9/2010 1:56PM

    Happy Mother's Day to you Barb. You do have a wonderful way of putting feelings into words and they do make me think when I read your posts. Thank You. Enjoy your day, Hugs, Connie

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KASEYCOFF 5/9/2010 11:49AM

    That's really perceptive, Barb - not to attach any judgment to feelings. I suspect you wouldn't define someone else's feelings as 'good' or 'bad' or 'worthwhile' or whatever. Yet it is easy to denigrate our own, ain't? Good reminder for that! :-)

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SUNNY332 5/9/2010 11:26AM

    I do hope you have a very Happy Mother's Day.

Feelings are important as they belong to us.

Hugs, Sunny

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I had a cute title in my head this morning, but now it's gone!

Thursday, May 06, 2010

I write incredible blog entries in my head on my drive to work each morning. They never make it to the page, as shiny objects take away my morning fancies as the day progresses.

I do remember one of my whimsical musings this morning had to do with the learning process called "life". I mused on how one never learns a lesson until one is ready to do so. I was thinking about the "no weigh" challenge, of course.

The only time I've gone scale-less in the past is pretty much when my eating was out of control and I didn't want to see it. This is quite different. This is a conscious decision to say I don't NEED to see it. I do still need to eat a healthy, balanced diet in a maintenance calorie range. I do still need to exercise. As long as I'm doing both of those things... I do not NEED to see the number on the scale.

A second musing was on how I acquire a new healthy habit in dribs and drabs. I thought back to how I gave up soda... it was drop from 5 to 3 a day. Then to "no more than one a day"... and after about six weeks of that... I went to zero. That was 130 days ago.

Then I thought about the scale thing... in fact, I moved it to another room in the house over a year ago. I had got myself down to twice a day. Then it was down to once a day. Now I'm at every third day... that's progress!

The bottom line: small changes, consistently, over time. Sparking works. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DHENDLER 5/8/2010 3:05PM

    I'm wowed by all the wonderful support ... 10 wonderful supportive comments precede my entry. Ain't it grand?!

I guess you get what you give Barb.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 5/7/2010 11:37PM

    You are absolutely correct. I don't know why we give that stupid number such power over us. Good for you for easing off the scale. And I love how you weaned yourself off the soda. Today is day #2 for me with regards to giving up the sugar-free Kool-Aid. I'm not much of a water drinker, but for the past two days I've stayed clear of the SF Kool-Aid and I'm finding I don't have that "icky" taste in my mouth all day. Imagine that!

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WALKINGANNIE 5/7/2010 5:35PM

    Wow! we're like psychic sisters on this one!

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KALIGIRL 5/7/2010 3:57PM

    emoticon on your progress.
May it continue!

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BUGGYS 5/7/2010 7:42AM

    You are so right, Barb! Small changes make for a healthy lifestyle...I am on a "no weigh" challenge myself and have really been listening to my body for cues and so far, I am doing pretty well...I know that in order to meet my goals I do have to contnue to exercise and eat what I know to be fuel for my body...

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MSLZZY 5/7/2010 7:02AM

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You are so wise! emoticon

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CHRISTURTLE 5/7/2010 6:32AM

    I had to smile when I read the title of your blog for today cos as I was lying in bed unable to sleep in the early hours of this morning I decided what my blog was going to be about today, just about wrote the whole thing in my head, gave it a title, then just kinda switched to a different train of thought feeling pleased at least I hadn't wasted my 'awake' time.

Only problem was that when I woke up this morning I not only couldn't think of what the title was going to be, for the life of me I couldn't even think what it was meant to be about. Something really deep and meaningful I'm sure, but then again probably not. On second thoughts, maybe its a good thing I'd forgotten the entire thing. I usually find what makes complete sense in the middle of the night makes no sense at all in the light of day.

You are definitely transforming your life one thing at a time and I admire you for being able to do it. Keep up the great work! Hope you feel pleased with what you've achieved so far, and know that this is just the beginning of bigger and better achievements.

Best of luck!
Chris. emoticon

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CONCHA77 5/7/2010 5:47AM

    Good for you, Barb. You have the control! Have a great day.

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KASEYCOFF 5/7/2010 3:59AM

    Life IS change, 'cause if you're not changing, you're stagnating - and that's not living. Some changes are easy, some hard, some you choose, some are thrust upon you - but I firmly believe Life = Change. So how does it feel to have chosen some of these changes? M'self, now, when I CHOOSE a change, and work on it, try to make it a habit - I feel in control. Whatchoo think? :-)

p.s. I do my best writing right before I drop off to sleep at night. Unfortunately, the stuff I write never makes it to paper - must go to the same place your morning blogs go, lol...

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SUNNY332 5/6/2010 9:35PM

    I agree - even small changes lead to big results.

Keep up the good work.

Hugs, Sunny

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SLENDERELLA61 5/6/2010 9:29PM

    I'm wowed by your progress! So good for you not needing that scale. I'm not there yet.

And I, too, write great blogs in my head and lose them from time to time. Oh, well. Sometimes they resurface. Hope yours does! -Marsha

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    WTG!! You are changing your entire lifestyle!!

P.S. I forget my blog ideas too!

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The "no weigh" challenge... thoughts

Tuesday, May 04, 2010

Lots of thoughts are being processed as I go through this exercise. I made it through more than 24 hours without stepping on a scale... and NOT during a binge cycle. NOT getting on the scale is giving me a chance to examine my relationship with the scale and its "grade" / "judgment", etc.

I know that somewhere under there, the obsession with seeing the number, the panic when it bumps up, the feeling of getting away with something when I know I've overeaten but miraculously it doesn't, even all the work on making myself strong to "not care"... not looking at all (except maybe weekly) may be the best thing for it.

This should give me a chance to become aware of OTHER cues. For example, my supper last night was probably more sodium laden than usual. I know because of how my tongue felt overnight and how thirsty I was. Do I really need a scale number to tell me I might be retaining water? Right now, I'm feeling pretty empowered, and saying "no, I know what's going on"!

I did write down my food (on paper, not on Spark). I did write down my exercise and track it here. So, I have started a streak: if I make it through to tomorrow morning, this will have been day 2 of "no weigh". I have given myself permission to weigh three times this week, and I used one on Sunday. One day at a time, let's see when I next step on!


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CYNTHIAF1976 5/8/2010 7:34PM

    Its funny that you wrote this and I read it today. I was thinking when I was at work today---Scale friend or foe---Should I stop stepping on it for awhile??? It makes & breaks me all the time. Someday I will get it together.HOPE ALL IS WELL WITH YOU!! Cindy

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DHENDLER 5/5/2010 8:26AM

    wow ... this really is a "thing" for so many of us. Presently, I weigh in everyday. But presently in my journey, not seeing it as necessarily a bad thing ...yet. Can see that this might be in my future to rely less here.

Related to your comment about when I know I've over done and yet it not always showing in the numbers. (of course - have felt the reverse of this too!)

Good Luck as you seek to look to other cues.

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MSLZZY 5/5/2010 6:34AM

    Good plan and positive attitude about the scale! emoticon emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 5/4/2010 10:26PM

    Very interesting: I need to weigh and nutrition track or I quickly delude myself and the pounds creep up: perhaps eventually I'll get to where you (and WALKINGANNIE) are leading the way (no weigh!).

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WALKINGANNIE 5/4/2010 1:37PM

    I'm so glad that you're doing this Barb as I'm on a 'no weigh' challenge too - although I hadn't thought of your snappy title.

I haven't weighed myself for quite a while and feel a sense of release from the tyranny of the scales. My 'skinny clothes' feel comfortable and I'm using that as my guide.

I feel as if I've 'come of age' in my weight management progress and, after an initial compulsion to 'just check' my weight, I feel much more confident that i can stay on track without the scales.

I still need the nutrition tracker though!

Good luck with your experiment.

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JHADZHIA 5/4/2010 11:19AM

    Great job! It is better to rely on other cues then the scale, after all when you go on vacation, you don't usually have access to one etc. I only weigh in once a week, and am not even inclined to do that. You really do become aware of what you eat and if your exercise is enough or too much. That is part of learning a healthy lifestyle. No excuses! Just do it!!

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KASEYCOFF 5/4/2010 11:13AM

    That is an interesting way to go about it - especially about becoming conscious of the other 'cues' as to how you're doing. JW had posted on a thread, saying how much better she feels after having lost nearly 50 pounds. Certainly the number on the scale won't give you that feeling - so yes, I think you're really on to something here! :-)

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MEDDYPEDDY 5/4/2010 9:16AM

    Thank you for describing this - I know that many many years ago when I first admitted to somebody that I was obsessed with weighing, it felt really embarrassing. Now I know that it is a common thing and I know that becasue I have been speaking to other over/undereaters.

My goal is to weigh once a month wether I am eating healthy or have a bad streak with bingeing. This does not work when I am bingeing - then I don´t want to weigh at all. During healthy eating I want to weigh as often as possible but then I remember the recovering anorectic who told me that she used to weigh many times every day - if she went to the toliet she weighed afterwards, if she had an apple she weighed, if she had a glass of water she weighed... and I know that wieghing every day is (to med) not a healthy attitude.
I recommend "My stroke of Insight" by Jill Bolte Taylor - it is such an inspiration to read what our brains are capable of!

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BUGGYS 5/4/2010 9:05AM

    I actually put my scale in the closet a couple of weeks ago and I'm thinking about pulling it out tomorrow, which is weigh in day. The numbers haven't been moving for me but my clothes are looser and I am feeling preety good...listening to cues from my body has been somewhat challenging but will continue...had Thai takeout Sunday night and was thirsty all night and into yesterday...probably the least I drank water instead of stuffing my face...tracked well yesterday and came in at 1000 calories and I wasn't hungry at, things are moving in the right direction for me. I think that they are for you too! Take the time to really listen to the cues from your body and you'll do okay. emoticon

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PATRISNA 5/4/2010 8:58AM

    Ahhh...the evil scale. I was weighing myself every day and became obsessed with the number. Then I realized my HBP plus salt intake could make it jump a couple of pounds. Duh! So now I usually weigh once a week. Recently I have gone even longer than a week. That surprised me. I felt good about that!

I looked at all my body comp sheets yesterday. I have been in this Army Move program almost a year. Our first nutrition appointment & weigh in was May 5th. We started tracking our food May 9th. Only one month out of the ten times we have weighed in has my weight gone up a couple of pounds and that was muscle and not fat.

Hope you can keep your streak going. You look great!

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SRFRGRL7163 5/4/2010 8:08AM

    Great job! I was also obsessed with the number on the scale. I eventually threw it out, lol. Now I'm down to weighing in weekly, sometimes bi-weekly, on my Wii (it's closer to what my doctor's office says). And I feel better about myself, no more stressing over it. Good luck to you!

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