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It's the weekend... must be time for that jogging workout.

Saturday, June 26, 2010

It's Day 3 of my "blog for a month" challenge. What I am discovering is that the commitment to blog brings some other good habits with it. In an effort to have things to blog about, I find myself keeping those promises to myself... and also because I'm writing about motivation it makes it easier to keep those promises. Sounds like a win-win.

As for last weekend's little lapse with the emotional eating, looking to avoid it this weekend, partly BY blogging. Accountability comes in many forms.

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REJ7777 6/26/2010 5:40PM

    Sure does sound like win-win! Blogging helps keep us honest. Honest with ourselves first of all. When we know we're going to blog about something, it helps us to be more aware and conscious of the fact that we are, in fact, making choices. Keep on blogging and making those healthy choices. You're getting great results! emoticon

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KASEYCOFF 6/26/2010 5:24PM

    Yep, I think you've got a point there, Barb: it's these things that help keep us on track. Reading other people's blogs is a great way to learn, too - and motivating! You're doing great, kiddo. emoticon

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WALKINGANNIE 6/26/2010 5:20PM

    Love the new pics.

I agree that blogging is a great way to keep accountable. It works for me anyway.

Hope you enjoy the rest of the weekend.

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THIAGRAM 6/26/2010 3:18PM

  This is so true!! Thanks for sharing!

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LJCANNON 6/26/2010 2:22PM

    Accountability does indeed come in many forms. And the Criss-Cross effect of one good habit Sparking another one is much more real than I believed when I read Chris Downey's book the first time.
emoticonMight be time for me to go back and read it again?

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FRAN0426 6/26/2010 1:21PM

    Good job on the blog for the month challenge; and as for the lapse last weekend---we are humans who make mistakes, and once in awhile we just don't follow through with what we planned for ourselves. Learn from it and move on, thats how we get to making healthy choices---good luck to you.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 6/26/2010 12:50PM

    You are absolutely correct. I find that when I blog, I hold myself more accountable.

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Getting the Spark On!

Friday, June 25, 2010

Day 2 of the blog for a month challenge - my spark a day calendar tells me to journal about motivation today. Funny how the timing of things on a calendar can fit so perfectly at times!

Seriously, motivation is the key to everything, isn't it? WHY am I doing this? WHY do I care? Aren't those the little devil-voices that haunt our footsteps (and meal choices)... emoticon

I don't know how many of you are self-help junkies (like me), but there is this book that's been around for a while, so it's probably somewhat "out of fashion". It's called The Solution, written by Laurel Mellin, M.A., R.D., the creator of the Shapedown Program at U of California, San Francisco School of Medicine. Copyright 1997. The purpose of the program was to help adolescents with weight issues.

This book was an eye-opener for me, back in that time frame, and some parts of it I wasn't ready for yet. But it identified six causes and six cures, divided into three areas: MIND, BODY, and LIFESTYLE.

In the section on MIND, were the causes Weak Nurturing and Ineffective Limits. Their corresponding cures? Strong Nurturing and Effective Limits.

BODY outlined causes of Body Shame and Poor Vitality, countered by cures Body Pride and Good Health (that's the part I wasn't ready for at the time).

Finally, LIFESTYLE causes were Unbalanced Eating and Stalled Living. Their cures were Balanced Eating and Mastery Living.

The interesting thing about this and many other books that address those of us who struggle with weight issues over and over again... they all boil down to some combination of these factors. Pick your favorite metaphor, your guru, your program (even down to our friendly experts here at All preaching the same stuff: this is not a one-dimensional problem!

Motivation must be addressed first and foremost... because if you lack that, all the knowledge in the world of "how" won't help!

All that soap-boxing over, just what is my motivation, today? Yesterday, on the drive to work, it dawned on me that this boils down to a couple very simple questions:

1. Do you want to keep living? Well, yes, of course, duh! OK, so not depressed. Passed that test. emoticon

2. What do you want your quality of life to be like for the rest of your life?

I want to be functionally fit... just look at what I rejoiced about it blogs recently... being able to climb stairs without hyperventilating... being able to help someone move without suffering for a long time after the effort. I want to be ABLE. That's the bottom line for me. I want to be independent, physically and mentally... the helper, not the victim.

A simple motivation perhaps, but it is abundantly clear for those of us in our second-half century. Even if we got away with some not so healthy behaviors in the past... has it served us well? How did I feel when I behaved that way long-term? How have I felt while "on program" (in whichever incarnation that was, dating back to, say 1989)?

Bottom line, I am doing this because it makes me a happier, healthier person. And that's for my own benefit and the benefit of those around me!

What's keeping YOU going today?

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REJ7777 6/26/2010 5:50PM

    Talk about motivation, what a motivational blog!

"What do you want your quality of life to be like for the rest of your life?" Sometimes, when we *wake up* and start taking care of our health late in life, we can become weighed down with remorse (which is as useless as excess fat!). This blog is a reminder that it's not about the past, it's about the future! I want to be *ABLE* too! Thank you. emoticon

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KALIGIRL 6/25/2010 12:32PM

    Great blog.
"Able" - that sums it up and if that's not motivation, I don't know what is...

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ANDI571 6/25/2010 10:03AM

    Hey Barb, I am one of those self-help people also. I drive my daughter and sometimes my DH crazy. I'm not perfect by no means, but at least I keep trying. I don't give up.

My daughter laughs at me because I am always buying a new "diet" book. But I told her it interests me. I wish I would have become a nutritionist back when.

After the liver scare, I bought a LIVESTRONG bracelet and wear it as a reminder of why I am on this journey.

Keep up the good work. emoticon

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PATRISNA 6/25/2010 8:14AM

I love your bottom line. I am going to write that in my journal for motivation! Hope you have a great weekend!


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KASEYCOFF 6/25/2010 7:57AM

    I'm with you on the 'self-help' books and articles: if I glean even one good suggestion, then it will have been worth my time to read it. And for what it's worth, I love your goal of '...I want to be ABLE.' Yep. Very worthy goal, that. Good one, Barb. :-)

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WCATAP 6/25/2010 7:49AM

    God has to be at the helm. He is our creator and my motivation is that I realized I'mnot being a good steward of the body he gave me. All we have and all we are is from him. Just as we should be financially responsible, morally responsible, care for our homes and kids, we are also called to care for our bodies. Not for vanity, but towards health.

Many blessings on your journey! Good blog. I teach a class called 3-D. I post each weeek the focus points. Check out my blog if youget a chance. It's a complete approach to health. Mind body and spirit. You can't omit the spiritual side. That is my motivation.

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Video games and Sparking

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Confession: While I've been in this little motivational paralysis place, I've been hiding out in some of the Facebook based video games, and neglecting my Sparking.

Realization: I haven't been getting my e-mail notifications of my favorite message board updates. I have to be more proactive getting my daily Sparks! And I really NEED those daily sparks! This morning I got one by going to my friend feed and finding someone else's blog... and seeing her turn herself around and write about it. It's important to share. It's inspiring to see that not only CAN it be done, but lots of people just like me, with struggles and challenges and real lives ARE doing it... one foot in front of the other!

Resolution: So, since I'm not getting the e-mails to get me going, perhaps a personal challenge and resolution will do it. I resolve to come blog six out of seven days for the next month... good or bad, whine or cheer, how it's going and any random thoughts. This will probably turn into my little pep talk to myself.

To the present, and living in it!


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CONCHA77 6/24/2010 9:27PM

    Nice seeing you again, Barb. And I love that new profile picture too! You look great.

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LJCANNON 6/24/2010 7:31PM

    I am looking forward to your blogs. It really is a challenge to manage our addictions to Spark or FaceBook. It is a lot like Portion Control for the Computer. emoticon

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KALIGIRL 6/24/2010 1:31PM

    Glad to hear it!
Missed you.

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WALKINGANNIE 6/24/2010 1:23PM

    I have missed you recently Barb and look forward to your blogs over the next few weeks. What you wrote yesterday really helped me. In replying to you, I realised that I was giving myself some self-talk too.


We all have off-days and sometimes they come in groups. That's why I blog so often. It keeps me focused and accountable to myself. I'm much more self-reliant than I was but I still don't think that I can do this alone without constant reinforcement of the Spark lessons.


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ANGELZ96 6/24/2010 12:45PM

    I am a FB addict also, but I find myself spending a lot more time on SP now. I still get my daily fix of both, but at least with SP, I'm doing something positive for myself...besides, I need those SparkPoints. emoticon

I'm glad you took control & decided to challenge yourself.

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KASEYCOFF 6/24/2010 12:06PM

    WooHOO! I'm with Mary on this one: I love reading your blogs. You can count on having an enthusiastic audience, fer sher! :-D p.s. I wondered where you were. Bejeweled has sucked up hours of my time. Dunno how it happens, lol...

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 6/24/2010 11:02AM

    YEAH! Can't wait to start reading those blogs of yours again.

PS: You didn't get yourself addicted to FarmVille, did you? I was so bad and spending so many hours with it that I had to quit cold turkey. Haven't been back for nearly 2 months. And I just know if I go take a peek, I'll be right back "there" again. Fun, but VERY addicting. Bejeweled Blitz isn't much better.

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THIAGRAM 6/24/2010 9:37AM

  Those emails are what gets me here! It's amazing how motivating it is here on Spark!
I do Facebook too, but now I have been neglecting it. I check in occasionally so my friends there don't think I have fallen off the face of the earth!

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NEBRASKANURSE 6/24/2010 8:38AM

    Good for you!! Glad you back to sparking

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JHADZHIA 6/24/2010 8:34AM

    Lots of people seem to like that Farmville Game. I am on Facebook, but never use it. I only went on it because my relatives were all on it. So unfortunately, most of their messages, and game requests go unanswered. My addiction is to Sparks. I love it here a little too much, have too many friends and spend a lot of time keeping up with their activities and blogs. So maybe a little too much of a good thing here. It actually gets hard to find any me time on the computer to play at my own favorite game site I am so busy with Sparks.
Good luck with getting motivated, you can do it!!

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'Vantage TWO - fitness

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

When I got to work this morning, the office building was dark. No lights in the hallway, no elevators working! Boy was I glad I worked on fitness the past year and a half... I could do the stairs, multiple times, and not hyperventilate upon reaching my floor.

Seriously, I'm fighting the battle of the motivational slump. Had three not so great days over the weekend and going in to Monday. In retrospect I see several elements at work...

One, that I'd had a really challenging weekend getting daughter in law moved and a lot of family... and I did my share of "bragging"... uh, rephrase, "taking credit for" my efforts. I rocked my niece's fitness wear while meeting her son for the first time. Then I worked a bunch of overtime last week. Then suddenly, it was the weekend and I was feeling lazy and rebellious. I had some "substitute" food in the house, not the best choices from the store, that I didn't read the labels and put back on the shelf but should have.

Long and little of it... I started on a tear Saturday afternoon, and it continued Sunday, and Monday evening, too. Back on track Tuesday... but... 'scuse me, it's scary. I've lost weight before. My problem is not losing, it's that motivational slump called maintenance.

Another element: chatting with my son over the weekend, and assimilating some of the things he sneaks in telling me in dribs and drabs. It dawned on me later, but I was partially conscious of it at the time... I didn't want to think about how I felt about what he said. Yeah, that's a twisty, turny, squishy way of saying... I might have been eating to stuff the emotions rather than face them.

I give great advice to others BECAUSE I'm oh, so human myself. I KNOW this cycle. And because I know it, I can stop it. Yeah! That's the ticket! I can do this... I can preserve this wonderful fitness that lets me take those steps when the power fails.

To life, ladies and gents... to living it! emoticon emoticon

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KALIGIRL 6/24/2010 1:54PM

    Here's to knowing yourself!

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WALKINGANNIE 6/24/2010 3:03AM

    Many of us recognise your fear of the slump, potential regain and the whole cycle.

It's important that you blogged about it. When I've been in that state in the past I've denied to myself.

You've acknowledged your feelings and risks and given yourself a reminder of why your fitness is important on a day-to-day level. You've shared your feelings openly. That means that you are in control.

It's not just that you can do this Barb. You have been doing it for some time now and you ARE doing it.


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REJ7777 6/23/2010 9:49PM

    I so understand what you're saying! I'm so afraid of losing and then gaining back the weight like I've done so many times before! That "motivational slump called maintenance" is REALLY scary! I think you're handling things very well by getting back on track immediately. emoticon

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ANDI571 6/23/2010 9:30PM

    emoticon It's the old you trying to get back out and get you to revert back to old habits. You have the power to put her in her place, because with what you have accomplished, you have done just that.

You are right, you are human, and it's normal to have those thoughts, but just don't act on them. You have come way to far.

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SLENDERELLA61 6/23/2010 8:49PM

    Congrats on the fitness to walk the stairs. Yeah!!

"Motivational slump," - that's a great phrase! I was having some of that myself, but didn't know what to call it. I'm impressed that you could identify stuffing feelings with food, even at the moment. I think that's a difficult situation to identify and identifying it is half the battle. If I ever realize I have been stuffing emotions, it is usually in a very long range "rearview mirror".

Of course, you can do this. We can do this. One reason we can do it is we don't have to be perfect to succeed. It may not always be easy, but it is SO worth it. Thanks for sharing your experience on this journey.

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NELLIEC 6/23/2010 8:25PM

    All of us have our human moments when we are not perfect!

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THIAGRAM 6/23/2010 8:23PM

  I think you said it well! When the power fails we will have to depend on our own power! So we must be strong! Thanks for sharing with us!

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Advantage, fitness!

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

This blog is to remind me of why I DO the workouts.

Last weekend I posted that I helped my daughter in law move. What that blog probably didn't say was that her allergies and her back made it difficult for her to do a lot of lifting and carrying. So I did it.

Monday morning I was stiff and moving slow... but I was moving. I treated myself gently that day, and went to bed early that night... and then discovered Tuesday morning when it was time for my break walk at work... that I wasn't stiff or sore any more. Wow! Quick recovery.

Now THAT'S why we do this, ladies and gents! Not for vanity. For function, recovery, and health.

To us, and to quality of life, and to functional fitness! emoticon

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DEBBIESTY 6/18/2010 2:46AM

    For function, recovery, and health! I like that. Very nice wording.

BY the way, I'm apporaching the half century mark quick.I must get this weight off.

Anyway, I've just started Jenny. I hope to see you there on the forum. Or if you ever need a friend just contact me.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 6/17/2010 9:08PM

    Glad you had the quick recovery. Who woulda thunk that by taking better care of our bodies, that our bodies, in turn, would take care of us?

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KALIGIRL 6/16/2010 6:46PM

    "For function, recovery, and health."

I helped DH unload limbs @ the landfill and had to chuckle when the guy who suggested I might be 'obsessed' w/my health marveled when I lifted a log.


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DHENDLER 6/16/2010 6:12PM

    Wonderful - Functional fitness for quality of life is at the essence of what it's all about. If weathering thru that like a champ wasn't validation ... I don't know what would be. emoticon

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WALKINGANNIE 6/16/2010 1:29PM

    You truly are 'fit for life' Barb.

Well done!


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ANONALEE 6/16/2010 9:32AM

    Amen, Amen! That is exactly why I'm doing it. I can tell that my regular workouts have lead to a significant increase in my mobility, flexibility and recovery when stressing my body. The more I do, the more I can do (and the reverse is also, unfortunately, true). Here's to recovery from moving!!!!
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KASEYCOFF 6/16/2010 9:05AM

    Yes, I so agree: fitness has more to do with what you WANT to do. As long as it means I can do the things I want to, I will keep on walking and doing exercises. Getting older doesn't mean you have to get weak and decrepit, lol...

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THIAGRAM 6/16/2010 8:50AM

  This is so awesomely true! What a blessing for you to be able to work so hard and recover so quickly! Bless you!

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MARENAMOO 6/16/2010 8:17AM

    Amen. It is to live long and be functional enough to enjoy it. Who wants a walker or oxygen tanks before our time? So glad you bounced back so quickly.

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BUGGYS 6/16/2010 8:08AM

    My DH has had a hard time getting regular exercise into his life until about 6 months ago when he went on this wellness thing at work...he has lost 25 pounds and does either the elliptical or treadmill 5-6 days a week. A couple of days ago he told me that no only does he feel the best he's felt in years, but he feels is amazing what a little bit of exercise can do for makes me feel empowered!

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FITNESSSHOCK 6/16/2010 8:06AM

    Awesome, its amazing to know and experience how powerful our bodies really are.

Stay Fit!

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