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Deterrent from yard work

Sunday, July 11, 2010

OK, yesterday it was the $$$ and the embarrassment, spurring me to "do something" about my overgrown plants in the yard. Today the tug is in the opposite direction: the sinus after effects of both that and some indoor cleaning/reorganizing has me wanting to hide from all elements!

Before & after of a couple of shots I posted yesterday... first the deck corner:

By no means "done", but at least I can walk to and down the steps without brushing the weeds!

And, the patio, as shot from the South:

Again, far from "done", but I see progress. The huge weed that was attacking my television cable lead-in to the house has been cut down to size.

It rained overnight which might make today's effort dicey.

Meantime, inside the house... I picked up this little book on feng shui off a bargain table at the book store. Self-help junky. Yep. And I rearranged my parlor and discovered a couple of deficiencies. So... no formal exercise, but a lot of work, yesterday.

Today... recuperate and contemplate.

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REJ7777 7/11/2010 9:13PM

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PEGGYJEAN13 7/11/2010 7:53PM

    Don't you get a great feeling when you take charge and get something done? Sounds like you got a lot done.

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WALKINGANNIE 7/11/2010 5:17PM

    You made a big difference in a short time. Well done.

I like the de-cluttering aspects of feng shui but I'm much better at the theory than the practice!

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MSLZZY 7/11/2010 1:47PM

    Very wise-form a plan of action for another day.

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SUNNY332 7/11/2010 1:30PM

    Good for you. I too am going to take a rest today - headed out fishing. If they are not biting, I will come back to the house and ride the bike.

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Have a GREAT day, Barb.


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KASEYCOFF 7/11/2010 10:51AM

    Hey, Barb, it really looks like you got a lot done already! And considering how much money you're saving, you are doing great. Looks like your yard is laid out really nicely. Does feng shui apply to outdoor living spaces as well as indoors? :-)

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Energy is back

Saturday, July 10, 2010

I slept in clear 'til 6:20 this morning, and had those funky dreams I have when I go back to sleep after my normal "get-up" time... where I'm living a different segment of my life, sharing quarters with different people, folks who've passed on are back, etc. I keep a dream journal, but I don't try to interpret or anything... just write it down. Usually it becomes apparent what life events contribute, what little stress threads are knitting themselves up.

And now, I'm contemplating the challenge of the house and the yard. Earlier this week I got a phone call from the service that does my grass. He pointed out that my landscaping was getting overgrown and offered three guys for a day for $300 to clear it out for me. Well, sorry, don't have $300 in the budget for that purpose. But I do have an overgrown yard.

In typical Spark style, I'm offering up a couple of before photos. Maybe in a few weeks I'll post some "afters"... but I have some rules to this clean-up effort: no hard labor in the hot sun... work early morning or later evenings.

This is not a "couple of hours" kind of a do it yourself project.

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SHAPNUP 7/15/2010 7:56AM

    Slow and steady, my turtle friend. A great opportunity for some strength training!

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THIAGRAM 7/10/2010 6:53PM

  I like your before pictures. Best wishes in the new adventure! My DH does all that outdoor stuff, so I know the work involved, second hand.

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WALKINGANNIE 7/10/2010 5:04PM

    Glad you've got some energy back - and some plans to make use of it on a project!

I like the idea of a dream journal. You might have the basis of a novel!

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MSLZZY 7/10/2010 4:55PM

    Just a bit of a project there but maybe you could find some handy friends that have tools and do an "exchange labor" thing. If not, do just a little at a time. Take care!

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KASEYCOFF 7/10/2010 2:09PM

    In a way, I'm with Mary on this one: I don't like yardwork. Grew up on a farm and instead of developing a green thumb I pretty much developed a real distaste for working outdoors and torturing poor innocent plants, lol... But if I was going to do it at all, I would do what you've said - early morning / late evening, when it's coolest. I might even be tempted to wait until autumn. And like Mary, I really admire your ambitiou! emoticon

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SUNNY332 7/10/2010 2:08PM

    Wow - before photos. Can't wait to see the after photos.

God for you to make some rules for yourself. Early Mornings are the best time for me too.

Best wishes.


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LOVE_2_LAUGH 7/10/2010 1:29PM

    Not being an outdoor person, I would have paid the $300, but good for you for having the gumption and talent to do it on your own. I bet it will be just gorgeous when you're done with it. So glad you've got your energy back again.

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Friday let-down

Friday, July 09, 2010

I suppose this day went OK, until I got home to an e-mail from my sister in law.

This would be my ex's sister. I found out tonight. She says she tried to e-mail me from the hospital, but it didn't work. She had a heart attack on Tuesday, she tells me, in a matter of fact way. They put stents in her femoral artery, and she's much better now. She is recuperating at home, being careful to follow all her doctor's instructions.

She's my age. About three weeks younger than I, in fact. Their older brother died of a heart attack mowing the grass at their mom's house (I wrote a little about that earlier in the week)... she was... mowing her lawn.

I think I need to start visiting her more often. We both have a bit of workaholic in us... checking up a little more often would be a good thing.

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ALOHAEV1 7/11/2010 7:51AM

    Speedy recovery...guess we all need to stop putting off until tomorrow what we want or should do today. Most of us are clearing time to do just that, thank you for a timely reminder!

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KATIE33MAHALA 7/10/2010 10:14AM

    Prayers for her and a speedy recovery. And I have to say, its wonderful you are close to her, sounds as though you have a very good friend. God Bless you both.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 7/10/2010 9:53AM

    Sadly, it seems like it's the tragedies in life that bring us together/closer. Definitley try to spend more time with her. You don't want to have any regrets later on. Have a great weekend!

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PEGGYJEAN13 7/10/2010 8:55AM

    Sometimes things like this remind us that we shouldn't put things off. It's easy to let "life" get in the way of things we need to make time for.

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MSLZZY 7/10/2010 8:38AM

    That's a wake up call! Checking in with her is a very good idea! Take care. emoticon

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CONCHA77 7/10/2010 8:37AM

    Sorry to hear about your sister in law. Hope that she recovers soon. Makes me think I should go and visit some family and friends that I haven't seen in a while. Sometimes we get caught up in our own lives --we really need to take some time and just do it.
Have a great weekend.
Hugs, Connie

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SUNNY332 7/10/2010 8:02AM

    It certainly does make a good case/cause for exercise and good nutrition.

Hope you do go soon to see her. Hugs, Sunny

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WALKINGANNIE 7/10/2010 4:41AM

    Sorry to hear about your sister in law. Hope that she recovers well.

Sometimes we all get reminders about what is valuable in our lives and about our priorities.

You're doing all that you can to protect your health. Keeping up with important relationships is part of our wellbeing too.


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KASEYCOFF 7/10/2010 4:25AM

    Yes, I can understand that - especially as I ended up after the divorce more fond of my (ex) in-laws than I am of my ex-husband. Funny thing about mowing the lawn. We had a neighbor who had a heart attack while mowing. Maybe it is a really common thing, like shoveling snow? p.s. Love the picture of the ginger cat in your background!

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REJ7777 7/9/2010 11:27PM

    Serious health problems (our own or those of someone we love) tend to make us think about what really matters. And, it's usually relationships. As I read somewhere, "No one ever says on his deathbed, 'I wish I'd spent more time at the office.'" I hope your sister-in-law gets better very quickly.

I've lost over 30 lbs. since my heart attack on January 30th, and my meds have been reduced even lower than before the attack. Sometimes a heart attack is a wake-up call that leads to even better health than before... IF you implement a healthy lifestyle. There's no doubt that the weight you've lost significantly impacts your health for the better! emoticon

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FIGHT2SURVIVE 7/9/2010 11:14PM

    Time goes by and we so often think, "Well, I can do that tomorrow." But far too often; tomorrow doesn't come. I have seen it with the two men I loved most in my life. I planned to call them both over the weekend but neither of them saw the weekend. They were both very young. Tell those you love how much they mean to you. Even if they are embarrassed, it will reach their hearts.

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PATSYJO46 7/9/2010 11:00PM

    All work and no play makes for a boring day! You can never visit with those you love too often...Life is too enjoy each day to the fullest.

Have a wonderful weekend! emoticon

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NELLIEC 7/9/2010 10:40PM

    Sounds like a good idea to visit more often. And I have had workaholism and have had to slow down!

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I'm not a serial failure... I'm a serial success!

Thursday, July 08, 2010

Calling all folks who think of themselves as "yo-yo" dieters...

This thought occurred to me as I was doing my Spark strength workout to Big Brother this evening: I've been working out off and on for a couple of decades now! Seriously. I started the jogging thing in 1990, didn't I? OK, so I gave it up for a while, but I started again, didn't I?

And I started yoga classes in 2003, didn't I? OK, so I stopped going to classes, but I still do some of the stretches, don't I?

And strength training? I started that seriously in 2006, right? OK, so I dropped it when life got crazy and had to start over again last year... BUT... see where I'm going with this?

Each time I have come back to exercising! That makes me a serial success, not a serial failure!

Think about it, fellow Sparkers... you aren't failing over and over, you're succeeding over and over... and learning something more each time. In the end, it's all about persistence and "coming home" to our best self-nurturing natures.

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SHAPNUP 7/15/2010 7:53AM

    We're all a work in progress!

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PEGGYJEAN13 7/10/2010 8:59AM

    I do the same thing! I push aside the thinigs that are good for me like nutrition and exercise and then realize that was what was working so I go back to it. It's too bad our bad habits aren't as easy to give up as our good ones!

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    Great insight! Thanks for sharing!!

I voted for your blog!

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MSLZZY 7/9/2010 4:37PM

    A very postive way to look at your life. You are a constant success! Have a great weekend! emoticon

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WALKINGANNIE 7/9/2010 3:36PM

    Yes! Yes! Yes!

Me too!

Love it.

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PATRISNA 7/9/2010 8:14AM

    emoticon I love your blogs!

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KASEYCOFF 7/9/2010 3:43AM

    Oh, really good, Barb - I like that perspective! Great attitude!!!

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MEDDYPEDDY 7/9/2010 12:58AM

    Smart thinking - thanks!

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APRILLSCOTT 7/8/2010 11:42PM

    I love the way you put this Barb! This is so true! You summed it up for us! emoticon emoticon

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FIGHT2SURVIVE 7/8/2010 11:21PM

    I guess that makes me a serial loser. Every single time I take a few steps forward, this stupid disease I have knocks me back off my feet and I end up taking yet more steroids and I end up gaining more than I lost.

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REJ7777 7/8/2010 10:58PM

    Like we read so often on SP - it's all about attitude and never giving up! emoticon And all of those successes led to your reaching goal weight. emoticon emoticon

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ANDI571 7/8/2010 10:33PM

    You are so right. The glass isn't half empty, it's half full. I never thought it as a success everytime I get back on track, but it's so true.

I really liked that thought. emoticon

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SUNNY332 7/8/2010 10:19PM

    I too like the way you think. We are all Serial Successes....

Thanks for a great post.


I reached my personal best yesterday - rode 10 miles on the bike then felt so good, I rode 10 miles again today. Woohoo.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 7/8/2010 10:03PM

    I like the way you think!

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MT-MOONCHASER 7/8/2010 9:16PM

    Love that attitude/1

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Dates that live in memory

Wednesday, July 07, 2010

Fourteen years ago today, my mother died. She had been suffering for quite some time, but in her chosen way of life, she did not disclose this. Some people were very shocked when she passed. She was only 66, pretty young these days.

I had about three weeks notice. Dad had been dropping hints about Mom "slowing down", of course. But I lived half a continent away. I planned a trip to visit them, had the tickets booked, and then a week before that scheduled trip, we had a death on my husband's side of the family. My brother in law, only 54, had a heart attack, mowing the lawn. That's a cliche, but cliches are such for a reason.

When I called my dad from my mother in law's home, I told him I didn't know what would happen with the trip. My dad, the most positive person in the world, said to me, "Well, I wouldn't put it off too long." Then I knew. She was dying. And she knew it and he knew it, but their faith would not allow them to say it.

So, I buried my brother in law on Thursday, and got on a plane on Friday to spend the last weekend I would with my mother. It was a good weekend. Her mind was sharp to the end. We played brain teasers, we read the Bible, we talked philosophy. I had finally reached the point in my own maturity where I could accept my mother as human and that it was OK for her to be so. And she was not afraid of dying.

Two weeks after that, she was gone, and I was on a plane again, this time for her funeral. She would have loved her memorial service! It truly was a celebration of who she was and what she believed. Even more than that, Mom would have loved what happened a year and a day later: my youngest niece was born. The final sibling, the last holdout in the bunch of five children produced a grandchild mom would never meet! But a year and a day? What great timing!

Here's to mom... I'm remembering your enthusiasm for life... and your courage when you had to leave us behind. Love you!

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    I miss my mom too. My "day" is in January. She died from a brain tumor at the age of 67.

I'm glad you were able to enjoy those precious last moments with your mom!

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SHAWWB 7/8/2010 3:10PM

    What a great blog. My father passed away when I was 3 and my mother when I was 17. I'm so glad you got that last weekend together and had a chance to say goodbye. Their memories live in us forever, it's been 43 years since my father and 29 year since my mother passed and I still think of them almost daily. Be sure to tell your niece all about the grandmother she never met. We do that with my nephews all the time.

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THIAGRAM 7/8/2010 10:16AM

  What a wonderful thing to remember your mom! Bless you!

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BUGGYS 7/8/2010 9:48AM

    Thank you for a touching tribute to your mom! Both of my parents dies within months of eachother about 10 years ago and I think of them everyday and am grateful that I was able to spend quality time with them. Their passing was very difficult for me but the memories live on and make me feel whole. emoticon

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KALIGIRL 7/8/2010 8:47AM

    What great memories.
So glad you could have her for a weekend. I spent a week with my mom before she died. Some sad memories (she wasn't in pain, but didn't want to be alive, so was angry when I talked her out of taking the meds) and some happy memories (she beat me 148 to 10 rounds of cards). I was also able to take her to the Med Center where the nurses convinced my dad it was time for Hospice. Mom left the Catholic church after my oldest brother died, but my sis arranged last rites and I had the honor of giving her eulogy.
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SUNNY332 7/8/2010 7:14AM

    What a beautiful tribute to your Mom. Sounds like she was a wonderful mother. I miss my Mom too.

Hugs, Sunny

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KASEYCOFF 7/8/2010 2:57AM

    Thanx for posting this, Barb.

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WALKINGANNIE 7/8/2010 2:33AM

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts, memories and feelings in today's blog.

I guess that this is another connection between us. Today would have been my mother's birthday. She died, after a long battle with cancer, when I was still in my teens. And yes, after almost 40 years the gap in my life is still there.

With loving memories of our mothers on these special dates.

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DEBRITA01 7/7/2010 11:18PM

    emoticonIt was a blessing you could spend some precious time with your mom before she passed. We never really know how much time we have with our loved ones.

I'm sure you miss her terribly but, she is smiling down on you from heaven and I'm sure she's so proud...

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ANDI571 7/7/2010 11:00PM

    What a touching story. It's so good, that even though they are gone, we can still have those memories for them to live on. emoticon

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CONCHA77 7/7/2010 10:28PM

    Great Blog, Barb-Sounds like you had a wonderful upbringing. I miss my mom too.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 7/7/2010 10:20PM

    What a beautiful blog. You are a lovely person. Helping my mom with her recent mishap and rehab has allowed me to get a teeny bit closer to her. She still has walls and so do I. But I hope we can "get there" before it's too late. I'm going to bed now with a smile in my heart because of your awesome blog. Take care and God bless!

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PEGGYJEAN13 7/7/2010 9:35PM

    You brought back fond memories of my own mother. It is wonderful to remember Mom and wonder what she would think if she was still here today. Thank you for the rememberance.

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NELLIEC 7/7/2010 9:07PM

    It is good to remember your mom! And it is wonderful that she was full of faith!

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