Sunday, August 01, 2010
Six days out of seven, I said, back on June 24th.
So, as they say, "What's next"?
First, evaluate how it's worked out.
Very well, it appears. Blogging led to tracking. Blogging led to encouragement. Blogging kept me away from the video games... I even almost completely dropped two of the three, and cut back on the third. Blogging helped me look at my feelings.
What lessons have I learned?
I've learned I'm not as "nice" a person as I used to think I wanted to be. I learned that I'm more comfortable acknowledging my anger, resentment, and anxiety... as opposed to stuffing those nasty feelings down with an excess of food. Blogging is an outlet for them (even if I edit the worst of the nasty out before I hit the post button)!
I've learned that sometimes you can't let your feelings toward how you are treated or perceived stop you from doing what is right, even if it might look like some insensitive clods got what they wanted. I have to feel good about doing what was right in spite of lingering bad feelings. I have to pray for the bad feelings to be lifted, because you cannot "will" feelings away.
So, I'm going to continue the blogging: six out of seven days during August is my goal. Onward!
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Progress photos. I've rearranged the pictures on the front page, and updated the profile shot to be "current".
But as I was messing around with the camera last night, I managed to surprise myself with the look on my face as I hugged the dog... so I had to share that one. I won't give up the one with the sisters from last weekend, though. And what I found had to move off the front page? My "really, really before" picture.
I hesitated, and then decided: it's time for me to accept and embrace this new size. To "stand tall and be small" as Kaseycoff told me to do. I love that motto. "Small pride!" I'm going to have to come up with a few more.
This doesn't change where I CAME from, mind, just a declaration that I want to stay here at "home weight", as WalkingAnnie calls it.
It's amazing what we pick up from our Spark Friends to keep us moving in the right direction.
Friday, July 30, 2010
Since last weekend was spent people-ing, I did not get anything done on the yard... regular followers may remember I'm working on "sleeping beauty's forest" otherwise known as nasty weed overgrowth. Since I *do* have to deal with things like allergens and sinus reactions to the same, I'm a little slow at this.
In any case, apparently some of the neighbors have not been happy with my rate of progress, and I got one of those neighborhood association notes in my mailbox about this tree:
I had already taken its picture (above) on July 10th. It was on my list. I just hadn't got to it yet. But oh, my goodness, we get the threat of being turned into the COUNTY, no less, for not controlling the vegetation! Does it look THAT BAD to you?
Regardless of my feelings about getting this ah-hem! embarrassing note, it must have served its purpose, because it got me outside at dusk one evening this week, at the risk of my allergies, and it now looks like this:
I wrote an imaginary insulting letter back to them, which I did NOT send, and hummed the tune to Harper Valley PTA and imagined snipping their little necks... and I'll never look at a neighbor walking their dog by my property again without just "knowing" that they are judging me... but... despite that "feelings" reaction, I do feel better when the yard looks better. So, like I said, did NOT send the letter.
Still, neighborhood associations are a little like the anonymous people who put notes in lockers in high school, telling someone they are a mess and ought to do something about their hair, makeup or weight. Just a more grown up variety. And if I really didn't want them watching over me, I shouldn't have moved into this neighborhood to begin with.
Now isn't that a better reaction than downing a pint of Ben & Jerry's?
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Several people have asked the unanswerable question of "When will he be home?" and "For how long?"
Well, the answer to the first is "sooner than originally planned". But no exact date given, of course. They never do, operational security and the vagaries of travel being what they are. Within the next month or so, is what we estimate. So it's time to start getting things ready! Thus the car repairs.
The car is back in the garage stall here, and it purrs like a kitten. Mom's pleased. No more muffler roar or wheel bearing squeal. Granted, mom's wallet is considerably thinner, but it's worth it.
The second question is both harder and easier. Easy answer, "indefinitely." Harder: He'll still be on orders for a while, and being a reservist, that means driving back and forth to various places: another good reason to be getting the car fixed up. His reserve contract is not up; there's no guarantee they won't send him somewhere else in the next couple of years. BUT, as we all know, we live one day at a time. I'm trying hard not to count down the days!
I just know it will be a huge weight off my shoulders when his boots are back in the continental U.S. Even knowing that the "most horrifying day of his life" was on U.S. soil. Even knowing that he's going to have to face "that place" again. I just want him home to hug!
Nobody who is a mom can argue with that emotion, I'm sure.
Today's adventure will be a reverse of Monday's. I left my own car in the garage at work when I went to pick his up yesterday afternoon. So this morning I'm walking a mile and a half to catch the bus to work. I could catch it at a closer stop, I just thought it would be a nice morning walk to add to my steps if I walked across the neighborhood to the further stop. In the cool of the morning!
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Yesterday was a lost day! On Monday I took my son's car in to prep it for his return. There were several maintenance issues that he'd been "putting off" for budgetary reasons, and this mom wants him to have a solid reliable vehicle under him when he gets back. Ouch on the price tag for that, but I will be so glad to hand this car back to him in prime condition.
The little car had to stay overnight as not all the work could be done in one day. So, the background photo shows how I went home... on a city bus. It's been a while since I rode the bus, and the technology has changed in the interim. These buses TALK to you. They announce upcoming intersections at select points in the route ("Approaching 48th and Normal"), and give in display AND voice, "STOP REQUESTED". Not my grandmother's bus, that's for sure.
Which brings me to this morning's reverie: what kept our grandparents fit? Well, this particular grandma (the one I associate with buses) did not drive after grandpa died. She walked everywhere she could, took the bus for longer trips, relied on rides from friends, or in special cases, took taxi cabs. How many steps would it add to our modern day if we did all that?
Yesterday I got nailed by seasonal allergy / sinus yucks and have spent the last 24 hours attempting to be unconscious as much as possible. This morning, I hunger shoved the unsettled tummy aside, and I've just had some breakfast. So, next step: see if I can get ready and feel OK about going to work!
Hope you all have a great... Wednesday!
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