Sunday, August 15, 2010
First off, thanks to all the Spark friends who dropped by and had comments / suggestions about going "car-free" yesterday.
I enjoyed reading the suggestions and I'm adding them to my ponderings. I already do several of them (like walking to the pharmacy, or the bank, or the doctor's office). The big ones that scotch the plan: work related. So, I probably will replace this vehicle. I hope that it's the last time before I retire!
On to today's topics - real life challenges:
My daughter in law had a recent birthday... and yesterday we went to the Cheesecake Factory to celebrate. Sounds decadent, no? IS decadent, yes!
It was not planned ahead, so there I was looking at a menu the size of a small town telephone directory. My choices: I had a BLT salad skipping the bleu cheese crumbles and the dressing. I haven't had bacon in several months, and this was a great flavor treat. I left about a quarter of it behind (I swear there was a half a head of lettuce on the plate, at least two hard-boiled eggs crumbled, two slices of bacon and a medium sized tomato diced)... this was an "appetizer" salad. Then we split a slice of Kalua Cocoa Coffee Cheesecake with whipped cream.
Sounds horrible by old good/bad food diet thinking, but here's the part I'm proud of: I savored each bite, the sight, the smell, the texture, the taste, and got to a point of satisfied, not stuffed. There was an inch of cheesecake left on the plate. I 'ed! Yes, stopped... put down the fork and let the server clear those last three bites away.
I didn't feel I had to chase after it, or eat the whole thing. I didn't feel I had to clean my plate. That's the personal triumph here. I adjusted my eating the rest of the day, and I'm moving on to my regular nutritious plan today. I blew my fat and cholesterol counts for the day, but balanced over the week, I'm still OK. I don't feel like a failure.
Intellectually I know it's OK to splurge and treat yourself with special foods ONCE IN A WHILE. If I know I can do this again sometime, and I don't tell myself "I'll never have cheesecake again"... I am free to stop with a satisfying portion.
Yesterday, the intellectual knowledge turned into emotional fact. I found a way to feel good about my choices while still feeling treated. I wish I could bottle the emotions surrounding this celebration meal. I'm putting it on paper to remind myself for the future times when this may once again seem hard.
Saturday, August 14, 2010
It's the budget crunch that's got me thinking about this, but what if you could combine fitness with regular life activity? You know, like grandma used to live.
I blogged last month about taking the bus while my son's car was in the shop. It was truly an expedient thing at the time; I can, after all, only drive one vehicle at a time! BUT, yesterday when I took my car in for an oil change and they identified an additional $$$$ amount of maintenance work that it needs... I got to day-dreaming.
What if I gave up my car? Seriously, if it costs me $$$$ in maintenance every time I bring it in to change the oil (I opted out this time, I already spent more than that fixing up son's car)... I should be either replacing it (it's 12 years old) or looking at giving it up completely.
So here's the daydream: give up the car! Walk where I can walk: the doctor's office, the dentist, the grocery store. OK, there are some transporting "stuff" issues with the grocery store, but I used to have a little pull-cart to handle that... I could do it again. The haircut place is within walking distance. And there is my bicycle that's been gathering cobwebs for a while in the garage... it could be pressed into service for "medium" length trips.
Work is a stretch, but there are buses. It would take a little more time. I could combine a morning walk to the farther bus stop to get some exercise in. The buses don't run on weekends, and I would not be able to drive to work in the middle of the night to support stuff if the remote connection went down. OK, that's a bit of a problem.
I would look a little weird to my neighbors... oh, wait... I already do!
What would I NOT be able to do? I wouldn't be able to drop in on the kids unannounced (not that I would, or do - so no loss). I wouldn't be able to provide airport taxi service to them (unless they lent me their vehicle to do so). I wouldn't be able to do those "pick up and go" kinds of errands... kind of a pain where the kids are concerned.
I wouldn't be able to just pick up and run to Wal-Mart or the mall... so, I wouldn't be spending money! If I really need something, I can order it online and have it delivered to my door! Speaking of money, just think what I'll save on gas and parking! Probably replace that with the occasional cab fare and of course my bus pass (which is about the same as my monthly parking).
Anyway, if I DO replace this car, it will probably be my last pre-retirement vehicle. And in the meantime, I can dream of a car-free life!
Friday, August 13, 2010
Mine showed up to my annual physical this morning wearing BRACES! Yes!
Other than that side note, the news from the office was good. Blood pressure, pulse, the usual female parts exams, the EKG (follow up to the tingles episode last month - sigh)... zapped three more of those little spots of actinic keratosis. I think now we've got them all.
The tingles? Yeah, I've still got 'em, but at this point, since the big scaries have been eliminated and there is no other pain (like back) and they aren't consistent with location... we're in monitor changes mode!
Essentially, he grinned and said very nice things about my healthy habits work. He's ecstatic with the weight loss, even though he NEVER gave me a hard time about it when I was heavy, he's clearly pleased.
I admitted to him and to myself that in some ways taking care of my own health is an unspoken bargain with God... I'm taking care of me and trusting Him to keep my son safe. We all know that's not a wise position, because you still need to take care of yourself, even if tragic things happen! But it's a stray thought that I know hides out in the deep recesses of my mind, and I admit it.
Speaking of which... so far, so good. I hope to see him soon!
Thursday, August 12, 2010
and besides... it helps my goal of a blog a day when I'm not feeling particularly inspired by other topics! So Kasey, Nursie8 and others... here's my scoop!
A - Age: 57. So far.
B - Bed size: Queen
C - Chore you hate: yard care.
D - Dog's name: Diamond. OK, a 10 year old named her.
E - Essential start-your-day item: coffee & quiet time.
F - Favorite color: green makes me smile.
G - Gold or silver: Gold - shiny.
H - Height: five foot three - used to claim five four (stretching by a quarter inch), but the Dr's office called me on it last year. I'm shrinking.
I - Instruments you play: recorder, violin (if you count being a rusty person who learned in youth)
J - Job title: Application Developer Lead
K - Kid(s): OneKid, son grown and married
L - Living arrangements: me and my shadow (the aforementioned canine)
M - Mom's name: Jo
N - Nickname(s): when I was back in grade school, I was called Shadow. Since then, none. Oh, except that very few people on the planet are allowed to call me Barbie. If you're one of them, consider yourself extremely privileged. I was named before the doll, and it was what my mom called me.
O - Overnight hospital stay other than birth: Well, if you count sleeping in a chair while your kid is the patient, that would be it. Never as a patient, except when giving birth to said kid.
P - Pet peeve: intolerance. Chill out, already!
Q - Quote from a movie: "When will we be going back? And who will that be?" Apollo 13. Guess what... we're going now, and it's a whole herd of turtles. (Sorry, couldn't resist!)
R - Right or left handed: yes. Any question with an OR in it can be answered with a boolean value. If at least one of the responses is true, the answer is "Yes". Like most lefties, I do some things right-handed... so the answer is yes. I'm both.
S - Siblings: three sisters and a brother.
T - Time you wake up: 4:20 a.m.
U- First word that comes to your mind for "U": This one's not fair. One gets influenced by seeing the answers of others. Now if I can get that last thing I saw out of my mind, and blank it out... "unique"!
V - Vegetable you dislike: asparagus, and lima beans. There are very few veggies I dislike. These are two I will tolerate, but never crave.
W - Ways you run late: by thinking I have enough time to do this "one short thing" before the meeting. Sigh.
X - X-rays you've had: If you count the mammos that come with annuals, and bone density screens, that really is about it.
Y - Yummy food you make: I hate to mention this one, because it's totally decadent, but I do this baked cheese hors d'oerve with an olive inside. Or if you want to go Summer time and healthy--a simple Greek salad is a fave.
Z - Zoo favorite: giraffes.
OK, go for it gang! Your turn.
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
Funny how many "passive" / "victim" metaphors we have about our lives. I'm going to pick two to pick on this morning.
1. "I've been on an emotional roller coaster". This implies the emotions are taking me for a ride. I have little say in the ups and downs and curves and twists. But you know something about roller coasters? They are limited by their rails!
2. "I'm a yo-yo dieter". Gain weight, lose weight. Like I'm being jerked around and someone or something outside of me is jerking the string?
So, am I a rider on the roller coaster... or do I design the rails?
And, am I the yo-yo being jerked around... or am I holding the string?
Here's to deciding who we are in our metaphors!
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