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Don't you hate it when the phone misbehaves?

Sunday, August 22, 2010

I am awake. Because my cell phone started singing at me at 2:30 a.m. Phone calls at this hour are not generally good news. My sleep-fuzzy brain figured it was probably a wrong number... they often are at that hour.

Then I got to it, and the phone, which had quit ringing, proclaimed the call to be from my son. I hit redial of course... and got his wife. Of course. His phone has been forwarded ever since he left the country. She said she was already awake, and that he's in Maine.

I hung up, and it said I had voice mail... picked up the message, and he said he'd tried the house phone first and got a busy signal. I picked up the house phone, and dead air! I had to unplug every phone in the house at once, and then replug them in to get a dial tone back. But I missed the phone call. And I don't think I'll be going back to sleep soon.

Too happy, just knowing he's another step closer to home.

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KALIGIRL 8/22/2010 10:17PM

    So happy to hear the news - maybe he's home by now?

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THIAGRAM 8/22/2010 5:24PM

  Hooray! Hooray! Hooray! He is on American soil!

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WALKINGANNIE 8/22/2010 5:20PM

    So glad that he is on his way.

The phone glitch must have been so frustrating but at least you're getting closer to seeing him.


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PEGGYJEAN13 8/22/2010 4:48PM

    Stateside! That is always a relief knowing they are almost home! I get tears knowing your joy and thankfulness.

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MNTWINSGAL 8/22/2010 3:25PM

    I'm so happy for your son and your whole family that he is back on US soil. That's just awesome!

I can relate to missing the phone call....did it twice myself and it's heart-wrenching! (I blogged about it both times.)

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DEBRITA01 8/22/2010 2:57PM

    Sorry you missed his call but, it must have been so great to at least hear his voice and know that he is safely in the USA. Soon you will have a sweet reunion...won't be too much longer now.

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ANONALEE 8/22/2010 12:14PM

    How funny and true it is that sometimes frustrating experiences end up bringing us the greatest joy -- I'm happy for you that your son is Stateside! Let's bring him all the way home....


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JUST_TRI_IT 8/22/2010 10:41AM

    HOW exciting to know that he is on his way!!! I bet you are just flying high right now :)


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LOVE_2_LAUGH 8/22/2010 9:22AM

    You may have missed his call, but he's back on US soil! How wonderful! SO happy for you and your family. Have a GREAT day. Like it could be anything else . . .

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MEDDYPEDDY 8/22/2010 8:23AM

    Has happened to me after thunderstorms... happy that it was a call you would have liked to have though...

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PATRISNA 8/22/2010 8:19AM

    That is great! I am so glad he is back in the states! I wouldn't be able to sleep either.


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SUNNY332 8/22/2010 7:54AM glad he is on American Soil.

We have phones like that. If we loose electricity, we sometimes have to go around and unplug them and plug them back in.

Hopefully today, you will get that call.

Hugs, Sunny

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REJ7777 8/22/2010 7:42AM

    emoticon emoticon That's the kind of phone call we DO like to get, even if it's in the middle of the night! I'm so glad he's getting closer!!!

It's really a bummer about the call not getting through though. It's a case of Murphy's law. Of all the calls to miss! emoticon

You should be hearing from him again soon! emoticon

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CHRISTURTLE 8/22/2010 5:43AM

    Believe me, I know how frustrating that can be. Hope you get all your 'telephonic troubles' sorted out soon. That photo is making me wish I hadn't eaten yet... Looks sooo delicious.... emoticon

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Busy Saturday

Saturday, August 21, 2010

It's one p.m. and so far I feel terrific about my Saturday. It's been actively busy and productive... and somehow it's easy to like myself when I do things first, and don't put them off for later!

I mailed things and took the dog for a walk, and stopped at the bank on the way. We meandered through the park on the way back. Then I walked all the way to Target (about a mile and a half each way). On the way there I started with the jog/walk rotation recommended by a Couch To 5K program's "workout 1, week 1" because I was feeling I have to get serious about this Fort Hood 5K, it's only 11 weeks away and my training has NOT been very consistent so far.

I couldn't do the jog/walk rotation on the way home, because I had things to carry and was not balanced enough to do the runs. But I had 11,000 steps on the pedometer before 10 a.m.

Since I'd bought things intended for a care package to Afghanistan, I packed that up, and took it to the post office to mail. A friend of my son's is a nurse over there and they need baby bottles for the refugees that come into the clinic. So... being cut off from my mom-ly rotation of sending boxes to him, I'll send stuff to others in need!

Then I invested in a new pair of running shoes. Like I said, time to get serious about this training! And picked up some healthy food to stock my cupboards. So... I'm all set for the week ahead, and feeling virtuous. I could even consider the concept of a... nap! emoticon

Have a wonderful weekend, all!

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KASEYCOFF 8/22/2010 3:22AM

    A big pat on the back to you, girl - a good day, with plenty accomplished, and a major good deed to boot. You're doing great, Barb, living with meaning AND with health! emoticon

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PENNYAN45 8/21/2010 11:47PM

    I know just what you mean about getting things done - and how good it makes us feel.

By the way, your background picture looks scrumptious - and it's making me hungry. Do I see pieces of meat in there, with those veggies?
I'll be right over.


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FIGHT2SURVIVE 8/21/2010 7:18PM

    We had a friend whose son was over there and you would not believe the every day things that we take for granted, that they don't have over there. Can you imagine your baby wearing the same rag wrapped around him and washed out in the same ditch that they drink out of and then put it back on him? We are so blessed and don't even thank our Creator for any of it.

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SUNNY332 8/21/2010 5:47PM

    How sweet of you to be mailing the package to the Nurse. Thanks be to God for people like you.

All in all, a busy but very productive Saturday. I have biked 16 1/2 miles and did some stretching. Now, will spark for a while then start supper.

Take care and have a Blesssed Sunday.

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PATRISNA 8/21/2010 5:27PM

    emoticon I love that you are sending packages to others. I think you are doing great. Hope you manage to get the training you need to do the 5K at Ft. Hood.


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WALKINGANNIE 8/21/2010 4:28PM

    You really have been busy and productive. There'a a real sense of satisfaction shining through this blog.

Good work on the early steps and progress towards the 5k.

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KALIGIRL 8/21/2010 3:43PM

    emoticon - sounds like a perfect day and you're only half way there!

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    What a productive day! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARYLQ11 8/21/2010 2:27PM

  Todays my day for watering--enjoying my flowers

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 8/21/2010 2:26PM

    What a great way to start your day. It just makes the rest of the day go better, doesn't it? And how nice/thoughtful to send the care packages to others in need instead of to your son -- who's coming home! Have a great day and I wish you continued success as you train for your 5K. I have always hated running, even as a child -- so I really admire folks like you who are taking on the challenge. Good for you!

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NELLIEC 8/21/2010 2:18PM

    Sounds like an active day! emoticon

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SOPHIETR 8/21/2010 2:11PM

    Thanks for sharing....Have a great weekend. and Good luck!!

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Friday miscellany

Friday, August 20, 2010

Yesterday I completely forgot that the director was providing lunch. Of course these things are never healthy foods, but I usually make do by packing my healthy snacks and eating a salad before I head down. Last year I planned in advance and took my own chips (smaller bag with counts I trusted). Given I forgot, I packed my normal healthy lunch and snacks. I ended up leaving lunch and the afternoon snacks in the 'fridge for today.

They provided hot dogs in white rolls, baked beans, various toppings for the hot dogs, chips, and sweetened tea and lemonade. There was a cheesecake sale (for charity) and a bake sale (also for charity) concurrent. My friend caught me to go down early as her lunch time is earlier than mine. I had eaten my mid-morning snacks, so I wasn't ravenous.

I had the hot dog, skipped the beans, picked the least fat grams chips bag (baked, multi-grain), and had a little chili and some chopped onions on the hot dog. Skipped the sweetened drinks and the dessert. Still felt pretty full, but not bad for being a trifle blind sided.

On the son front: I got to exchange IM's with him after work last night (for me) which would have been the middle of the night where he is. I commented on his being up late. He responded that he's trying to re-adjust time zones in advance. He is in a holding spot for a while yet, but he's moving in the right direction - one step closer to home. My mom-gut feels so much better, and I'll deal with the uncertainty of timing.

Today's adventure is the dentist. emoticon Keep that smile intact.

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THIAGRAM 8/20/2010 4:14PM

  This was a great blog till you got to the dentist part. The hot dog was even better than that! Hope your son gets home safely and soon!
love your new background picture!
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WALKINGANNIE 8/20/2010 1:26PM

    So pleased that your son is moving closer to home and hope that you soon get the news about him that you really want to hear. It's reassuring that you had direct contact.

Congratulations on dealing so well the unexpected nutritional / social challenge.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 8/20/2010 11:43AM

    I think you handled the lunch situation very well, Barb. Good job! But I'm even more excited about your "son news." So glad he's safe and heading home. I can just imagine how much your "mom gut" is settling down now.

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PEGGYJEAN13 8/20/2010 9:14AM

    Work lunch usually means pizza here. It is hard to limit but you can't avoid eating so I have to skimp on the next meal. I like your solution.

It is great when you can connect with our children so far away. It keeps moms sane.

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GOHUSKERS2 8/20/2010 8:49AM

    You handled that beautifully. Way to go!! and I hope your son gets home soon!!! Have a great weekend.

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CONCHA77 8/20/2010 8:34AM

    Glad to hear about your son's return, that's Great!!! Will he be back for a while?
And emoticonon your healthy choices at work. You are very determined and I admire you for that.
Happy Friday!

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KALIGIRL 8/20/2010 8:28AM

    Good job on the food front and thanks for keeping us up to date on the son front. Hope he's home soon.

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SUNNY332 8/20/2010 7:53AM

    I loved it when our Bosses provided lunch - but of course, it was pre Spark Days.

Keep us updated as to your son's arrival.

Have a FAB Friday!


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Learning from the past, facing the future, living today.

Thursday, August 19, 2010

I'm not sure I'll ever understand fully the "why" of the years of getting close to fit and back-sliding. But it is a reality of my history that I have tried again and again to get to where I am today... and managed not to stay here.

Some elements / pitfalls:
1. Thinking you're done, just because you reached a number on the scale or achieved an athletic goal.

2. Injuries, and not recovering well.

3. Losing focus as something else in life became more urgent and old stress-coping habits take over.

4. Boredom and rebellion.

5. Over-doing it and having your body scream "You're starving me" and go into self-preservation mode.

I think elements of these have plagued me several times. This is on my mind because three years ago yesterday was the "Feather Woman Invitational" - my joke informal triathlon that I invited my four siblings to participate in with me. It was an attempt on my part to keep the fitness gains I had achieved over the year and a half leading up to then... and over the course of the next six months I continued to try a lot of things to "keep motivated".

I tried participating in motion studies based on my then weight and height. I tried going a month without sugar. I tried Overeaters Anonymous because I was having periodic binges that scared me. I tried a volunteer coaching program that my work place and a local university sponsored. But I was slipping, and I knew it. I added one goal too many to the top, and then I tripped over the dog and messed up my toes and it hurt to walk! And all my "things to do" just got to be too much.

I spent a year and a bit in a huge emotional and motivational downward spiral. And my weight went the other way. It wasn't until my daughter in law started doing something about her own weight / fitness that I came along for the ride, a year ago last May. I was skeptical... but my goal was simple: I wanted to get back to that level of fitness I had in August 2007. I loved being fit. I wanted to get it back. I didn't care what the scale would say (OK, maybe a bit) I mostly cared about how I felt.

Today, I can honestly say that I have it back. I could use some further conditioning to get to true 5K shape, but I feel fit and able. One amazing thing about this particular time "around the block" is that I didn't stay in that depressed heavy spot AS LONG. My doctor helped. My daughter in law helped. The weight loss professionals helped.

Spark People helped, too, finding an amazing group of fellow travelers. I learned I won't die if I write something that says I wasn't perfect. I learned I actually get support if I write of my discouragement. I learned that reading their blogs and thinking and commenting on them boosted my own motivation and resolve, too.

Life is changing, as it always does. I can feel the change in seasons coming on. There will be challenges ahead: physical, emotional, mental, financial, spiritual. There always are. I believe the key to staying "here"... in that good spot of functional fitness... is to keep it a priority. Recognize how important it really is to me, and not let other distractions interfere with what I need to do to stay in shape for whatever life throws my way.

Here's to living today! And here's to having fellow travelers and kindred spirits for the journey! We can do this, we can be fit for life. Because life needs us, and we need it. And we're worth it! emoticon emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 8/22/2010 3:22PM

    Congratulations, Barb, on getting it back! That is a great feeling. And thanks for being one of those fellow travelers who has offered so much inspiration and support.

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MEDDYPEDDY 8/22/2010 8:26AM

    Thank you for the inspiration! emoticon

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PENNYAN45 8/20/2010 9:03AM

    You have identified some behaviors and attitudes which I have experienced myself in past days of regaining weight. I think your idea of focusing on weight maintenance and fitness is a good one. That seems to be the difference that Spark People makes for us.

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KASEYCOFF 8/20/2010 7:36AM

    Barb, I'm a little late to this, connection problems being what they were 'n' all. I just wanted to add my two cents' worth to say this is a fantastic inspirational blog. I hope you feel really proud for having written it and shared it with your fellow Sparklers. emoticon

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WALKINGANNIE 8/19/2010 4:32PM

    As usual you have spoken for a lot of us here. The details might be different but I recognise the patterns. Analysing the pitfalls is a good basis for vigilance.

I'm absolutely not complacent about maintenance. Like you, I have a chequered history and know the risks of backsliding. My strategy is that logging in every day and blogging often keeps my mind focused. Reading blogs like yours helps to reinforce my commitment and consistency.

Together we can do this. We have done it already and we can keep on doing it. We know what to do. We just have to keep focused. Supporting each other is a big help along the way.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 8/19/2010 12:56PM

    Right on, Barb! Even though we all have different pasts/histories, there are a lot of us out there who can relate totally with what you went through. It is so encouraging and inspiring to know that I can do this, too. I need to forget past failures and focus on today's successes. And somewhere down the line, I hope to be able to post a similar blog as yours.

Have a great day, oh ye great inspiring one!

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KALIGIRL 8/19/2010 8:30AM

    Barb - sounds like a great journey (even the downs) and I'm grateful you can share your experiences and wisdom with the rest of us.
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SUNNY332 8/19/2010 7:32AM

    Here is to living for today and having each other for our Kindred Spirits as we travel this journey.

I know I won't ever quit - this is something I will do for the rest of my life.

Take care and have a GREAT day, my "kindred Spirit".


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FITGRL124 8/19/2010 7:28AM

    Thank you for this inspirational blog! It was just what I needed this morning!!


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Trying to stay in "today"

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

It's hard when you are anticipating some joyous event, or even when you are dreading some unpleasant one, to stay anchored in "right now". I noticed this in myself this morning. It's been going on for a while now. It's the whole son coming home from overseas thing. Anticipation: good and not so good.

He could be in transit even as I type. Or not. It's hard to tell, and of course they can't tell you: security! And uncertainty, for that matter. Haven't seen his presence on line since Sunday, and have not heard from my daughter in law either (when she gets the phone call, she usually passes that kind of news along)!

The problem, emotionally, is that I so deeply desire a particular outcome: safe arrival, obviously. And at the same time, there are unknowns: how will he have been changed by his experience? We've been in this situation with him gone for close to a year... how will re-integration turn out?

So, hovering around with this anticipation uppermost, I'm up early. I'll pamper myself with a veggie omelet for breakfast, since I have the time. Maybe head to work a little early and get an extra walk around the block in the cool of the morning. Whatever it takes to anchor me in the present... because part of me wants to get to the future already! emoticon

On the note of time passing: it's the first day of school here! Remember to drive carefully!

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BESTSUSIEYET 8/18/2010 7:20PM

    Hope today has been good -- I like your pro-active attitude for focusing on TODAY! God Bless You & Your Family!! emoticon

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WALKINGANNIE 8/18/2010 4:18PM

    I hope that blogging about these very natural feelings gives you some sense of release Barb.

You are giving yourself sensible advice about a difficult situation. You can't change the circumstances but you can work on your responses to it - which is just what you are doing.

It's not easy and my thoughts are with you.

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NURSIE8 8/18/2010 2:47PM

    Hang in there Barb. You have got to be in one of the most trying situations as a mother but you certainly have the right attitude to handle it!! What a wonderful experience it will be for you and your family when your son is home!! emoticon

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BURKEBRIZ 8/18/2010 12:13PM

    My favorite reminder is Philippians 4:6-7
Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and tank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God's peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

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ANDI571 8/18/2010 9:53AM

    My little saying under my computer screen says: I cannot relive yesterday, and tomorrow isn't here yet, so I will just deal with today.

That is so hard to do when it comes to our children. The worry for my daughter can unravel me quicker than anything. I am learning to pray, God take care of this situation, because I can't.

You hang in there, we are pulling for you.

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DEBRITA01 8/18/2010 9:48AM

    Sorry, having computer problems...duplication.

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DEBRITA01 8/18/2010 9:43AM

    Thanks for the reminder to live in the moment. With so much on our minds each day, it's hard to stay present. I'm sure it's especially difficult for you.

Praying for a safe return for your son and wishing you a sweet reunion.

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SUNNY332 8/18/2010 9:26AM

    I would have the same problems you are having. Hang in there and do let us know when he arrives home.

I will be thinking about you as you go through the day.

Hugs, Sunny

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BUGGYS 8/18/2010 9:07AM

    Embrace today and the fact that your son IS coming home...

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 8/18/2010 8:59AM

    Hi Barb ~ I think you're suffering from what I refer to as "the mothers' curse." Once a mother, we're always thinking about our children, and it doesn't change when they're adults with lives of their own. Add to that the fact that he's been overseas in a very dangerous situation and I think your worries double (or triple?). I pray that he arrives back on US soil safely and soon, and that you'll have a happy reunion.

Focusing on today is key. But often times we look ahead or dwell on the past. And in doing, so, we miss today. I'm guilty of that a lot. Thanks for the reminder -- for today, I'll try to focus on today.

Have a great one!

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KALIGIRL 8/18/2010 8:31AM

    Glad you're taking those extra steps to stay present and excited he's coming home!
In a few weeks life will settle into a routine - new, old or some mix of both.
Good thoughts coming your way!

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PEGGYJEAN13 8/18/2010 8:08AM

    Mothers seem to worry no matter what the situation. We have to leave a lot of what happens to our kids up to them and God. It is the hardest thing to do as a parent since we want everything perfect for our kids. Have a wonderful homecoming.

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PEGGYJEAN13 8/18/2010 8:07AM

    Mothers seem to worry no matter what the situation. We have to leave a lot of what happens to our kids up to them and God. It is the hardest thing to do as a parent since we have control over so little. Have a wonderful homecoming.

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A10TIVTRTL 8/18/2010 8:03AM

    It's always a challenge for me to Stay in Today, so I often use that as a sort of personal mantra. I'm sending blessings to you and your family.

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ANONALEE 8/18/2010 7:58AM

    Even without the pressure of a special event, it is sometimes hard to stay anchored in the present, but your consciousness of the situation is serving you extremely well. Fingers crossed for your son's arrival sooner rather than later! No sense in testing your "live for today" ability too much!!



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JHADZHIA 8/18/2010 7:43AM

    I hope your son gets home safely and is okay!
Enjoy your omelet! With a crispy 7 (44F) morning here, a hot meal sound heavenly! Not the first day of school here in Canada.

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