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Run to Remember minus four days and counting

Tuesday, November 02, 2010

Yesterday evening I checked in on Facebook and discovered I'm not the only one who will be "running remote" for the run to remember. One of the gals I met at Yellow Ribbons will be jogging the trails in Maine, with her husband. Another in Wisconsin. I wonder if any of the Kansas crowd will be doing the same... haven't seen a post saying so (yet).

This only increases my enthusiasm and sense of unity with others impacted by the events of that day. The women who started the movement for the run to remember are a sister who lost her brother, and a fiance whose intended was seriously wounded but has recovered: their wedding day next Summer will be a source of great joy! The purpose of the run is to have a positive event marking the anniversary of the tragedy.

In a wave around the Nation centered at Fort Hood, we will be Running to Remember... at 8 a.m. Central time, on Saturday, November 6th. I cordially invite you all to participate, virtually... wherever you are, by dedicating your workout that morning to positive memories of these thirteen people:

Michael C,
Francheska (and her unborn child),
Michael P,
Kham and

My personal thanks for all the encouragement I've received from Spark friends in my preparations for this day! Anybody local? We'll be on the MoPac trail... I'm plotting on a single balloon with the 13 names on it, to release at the start of our run (because I don't want to manhandle 13 balloons). Low key, but with feeling.

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PENNYAN45 11/3/2010 9:28AM

    I will think of those 13 on Saturday - and will dedicate my exercise to them.

Thanks for passing this on to us.


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KALIGIRL 11/2/2010 9:55PM

    Marvelous - can't be there with you in person, but will be in spirit!

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WILMASOTO 11/2/2010 8:25PM

    Barb what an awesome thing to do!! I would love to join you virtually. Can it be any distance? What a great way to honor them!!

Best of luck and thanks for sharing and letting others paricipate as well!!

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WALKINGANNIE 11/2/2010 5:44PM

    Very moving Barb. You have found a wonderful way to honour the people and to support those who lost their loved ones.


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SUNNY332 11/2/2010 10:17AM

    Sounds like a great plan coming together for you. Hope you have someone to take photos.

Take care!


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WISEONE68 11/2/2010 8:43AM

    Sounds perfectly wonderful!! You are taking something people normally do for themselves---run--to stay fit, and honoring the memories of others. This is very meaningful and I am proud of you, girl.
You are looking GREAT...and, I am sure, feeling great!! You are a source of inspiration and I know your run will mean a lot to you and those you "run to remember".
Bless you!! emoticon

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CONCHA77 11/2/2010 8:05AM

    I think what you are doing is wonderful. I will dedicate that day to those whom you listed and keep them in mind and prayers.
God Bless,
Have a great vacation!

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MSLZZY 11/2/2010 7:27AM

    A perfect way to remember them! Thanks for sharing their names. HUGS!

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November begins - maintenance goals

Monday, November 01, 2010

I said I would be cogitating on goals for the days of growing darkness... which would now be the next 51 days (to December 21st, the shortest daylight hours of the year in this hemisphere, anyway). Here's what I came up with.


1. After the Run to Remember (November 6th), I want to start shifting my focus from running to strength training. I still want to get my 30 minutes of walking in each day (and maybe jog once or twice a week), but I want to start getting those lower body, upper body, and core workouts in more regularly than I have been lately. So, 3 days a week of strength training for November.

2. I will get enough sleep!

3. I will give myself regular pep talks, and do a reality check on the holiday indulgences... to make sure I'm being reasonable and balanced, neither depriving nor enabling!

4. I will take those stress-busting breaks at work, if necessary walking in the basement. This is more than physical exercise, it is an essential to balance and stress management.

5. I will live in the moment, and be aware of what's going on around me and in the world. I will feel, not numb.

I know not all easily measurable goals, as weight loss ones are. At least the exercise ones are - 3 days a week, etc. But the emotional living in the moment isn't. So... to give myself accountability: I shall continue the blogging goal! For November, I will write a blog entry, six out of seven days.

How about you? What are your goals for November?

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REJ7777 11/1/2010 6:22PM

    That looks like a very workable plan. emoticon I need to work on my November goals. I have some thoughts, but have to take the time to assemble them.

I smiled when I read: "I will take those stress-busting breaks at work, if necessary walking in the basement." emoticon I thought I was the only one who did that. emoticon When I need to breathe, I go downstairs and walk back and forth a few times. I feel like I've "snuck in" some "me" time, and go back to work refreshed and ready for the next challenge. emoticon


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WALKINGANNIE 11/1/2010 4:15PM

    Great goals Barb, with a lot of thought about balancing different aspects of your overall wellbeing.

Love your new profile pic!

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KALIGIRL 11/1/2010 9:42AM

    Superb goals (as usual). Like the shift to strength training and the concentration on balance in your life.

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WISEONE68 11/1/2010 8:48AM

    I am praying about my goals now. One of them is to do another Daniel Fast, which I began today and will run through the 21st.
You are looking GREAT!!! Keep up the excellent work and good luck on your goals!! emoticon

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MSLZZY 11/1/2010 7:39AM

    My goals are to walk at least 30 minutes. and ST for 10 minutes. I will strive to do this daily but I already know there will be days when this is compromised.
Here's to a new month of possibilities to succeed! HUGS!

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Halloween and What was I Thinking?

Sunday, October 31, 2010

Yesterday I was hacking at the weeds and brush again, and I stacked a whole bunch of small branches at the foot of the driveway. This morning I woke up with a "It's Halloween, dummy... what were you THINKING!?" patter running in my brain. So, today's exercise (or at least part of it) will be to haul that brush pile somewhere less accessible to hooligans (and less dangerous to little trick or treaters)!

You might ask how a compulsive eater could forget it was Halloween weekend? I'm kind of wondering that, too... just put up the Halloween background this morning, in fact. I've been so into preparing for the 5K and working through other stuff that Halloween, while recognized as existing, hasn't been big on my mind. I've blissfully skipped the candy aisles (until yesterday morning, when I felt compelled to stock something for the kids who will undoubtedly make their way to my door).

It is the end of the month, so that means updated progress photo... since it's maintenance and I haven't bought any new outfits, you might not recognize it as "new". And that goal-assessment for the Holiday season is an on-going project, too. Maintenance goals are subtle, tricky things. I still owe you!

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REJ7777 10/31/2010 6:48PM

    I find that maintenance is even trickier than losing, because you don't get the same kind of feedback. emoticon Congratulations on your success! Love your new photo! emoticon emoticon

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MSLZZY 10/31/2010 5:24PM

    All little things add up and removing brush to make a safe place to walk is a must, even if it is Halloweeen! HUGS!
The kids will appreciate the candy!

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KALIGIRL 10/31/2010 7:54AM

    Moving your 'lawn maintenance' pile will be plenty of exercise. Isn't it wonderful when there are more important things than worrying about candy in the house?

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SUNNY332 10/31/2010 7:29AM

    Can't wait to see the progress photo.

It is good to be busy.

Enjoy the day.


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NUTRON3 10/31/2010 7:19AM

    Have a Happy Halloween!

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Perspective versus Perfectionsim

Saturday, October 30, 2010

I was reading blogs this morning, and the particular one that struck my fancy was ChrisTurtle's. It was a reverie along the lines of "I did some things I wish I'd done better... I had some disappointments... then I read some other Spark blogs... and got my motivation back!"

Her blog reminded me of something I'm so grateful for, something that has been growing in importance in my life, and that is: perspective. And it suddenly strikes me: "Perspective battles perfectionism... "

Perfectionism has been a life-long nemesis. One screw up and it's toss in the towel time... or rather, it used to be. Somewhere along the way, some time in the last 15 or 20 years... this sense of perspective started growing. Is it a function of age? Experience? Coming into harmony with life?

Whatever, it's the sense of "majority rules". It's the sense of "I don't HAVE to be perfect to be worthy!" I know some folks learn this early in life, but some of us learn slowly. A decision is just a decision. It has a consequence. But there's no need to add to the consequence with additional self-punishment.

What's needed is a sense of perspective: who was hurt? Are amends appropriate? Sometimes, who was hurt is... yourself! In this case, the amends that need to be made are to yourself.

Here's to nurturing ourselves... one day at a time... and to keeping our perspective! emoticon

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KALIGIRL 10/31/2010 8:40AM

    Big picture presentation once again...
Right on Sister!

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PENNYAN45 10/30/2010 11:11PM

    I can so relate to this blog! Perfectionism has led me into an all or nothing approach to many aspects of my life.

Perspective is when experience tempers that perfectionism.

Doing something in a less than perfect way is what I am doing right here and now on Spark People. This is probably THE big lesson SP has taught me.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!

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DEBRITA01 10/30/2010 8:59PM

    Another good blog...and I'm a slow learner, too! emoticon

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WALKINGANNIE 10/30/2010 4:32PM

    You hit the nail on the head again.

I'm not sure whether I would ever have grasped this concept without SP and wise friends like you. One slip in a 'diet' so often led to an 'oh-well-that's-it-I've-blown-it- now' binge in the past. How silly is that? But I know I'm far from alone in having felt like that.

SP and learning together is indeed giving me a sense of perspective.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 10/30/2010 10:28AM

    This sentence stood out to me the most: "I don't HAVE to be perfect to be worthy!" I need to keep telling myself that over and over until I believe it. I'm one of those "slow learners," but I think I'm making progress. Have a great weekend!

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LIBRATAH 10/30/2010 9:29AM

    This is so true!

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BUGGYS 10/30/2010 9:19AM

    Barb, your blog is right on!!!

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SUNNY332 10/30/2010 8:24AM


What a great blog today. I do believe when I put what I can do in front of me rather than "what I can not do", I can not fail. Failure always rears it ugly head when I am trying to be someone I am not.

This entry ROCKS! Have a GREAT day.


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CONCHA77 10/30/2010 8:24AM

    Another really good blog, Barb. Harmony in life-excellent!
Have a great weekend. Happy Halloween.

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That "I win" feeling

Friday, October 29, 2010

Is that what endorphins really are? That "I win" feeling?

I don't know, but this morning, when I woke without benefit of alarm a few minutes before 4, and decided to do my 5K on the treadmill before work? I definitely ended up with a distinct feeling of "I win"!

I felt well-rested... thanks to going to bed around 9, 4 a.m. is NOT an unreasonable time to arise. I listened to my body in terms of speed, AND I monitored my heart rate because I'm careful about such things. It felt good this morning, not labored. So I must pretty much be over that bug / those bugs that sidelined me in the past week and a half! Yes, definitely a feeling of "I win"!

What do I win? I win a sense of well-being. I win a sense of having kept a promise to myself. I win a sense of hope, a future focus, a feeling I can make a difference in the world today.

So, fellow Spark friends, what's YOUR win today? I know you have one!

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REJ7777 10/29/2010 7:35PM

    Can't help but smile while reading THAT blog! emoticon

My win today was arriving just in time to help someone I care about, the timing couldn't have been more perfect. That had me smiling too! emoticon

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MSLZZY 10/29/2010 4:30PM

    My win today is keeping a positive attitude and staying on track. Even if I have
a busy life, I make sure I meet all my daily goals. The easiest one to skip is
cardio so I give it extra effort to walk EVERY night. Tomorrow we will be going
to see DS in All State Chorus so I WILL walk in the morning. By the time the
concert is over, it will be late at night and we are staying at a motel. My resolve
is firm on this. The "I win" feeling will be alive and well. HUGS!

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KALIGIRL 10/29/2010 4:18PM

    Sounds like you're not only feeling better, but on the top of the world.
So glad for you!
My win is being blessed with another gorgeous day and having the health to enjoy it.

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WALKINGANNIE 10/29/2010 4:12PM

    Reading your positive blog was a win!

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TURTLETALK 10/29/2010 1:00PM

    I win when I get on the treadmill and do my 30 minutes after trying out about 50 excuses on myself. Have a great weekend.

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ANASONIC 10/29/2010 8:59AM

    That "I win" feeling sounds great! You are awesome!

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STEPHIEKNITS 10/29/2010 8:45AM

    Great Post! I do love the "I win" feeling. It is what keeps me on my morning walks even when it is cold! Have a great day!

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SUNNY332 10/29/2010 8:39AM

    Awesome Post, Barb. What a great start to your day. I do love that "win" feeling.

Keep up the great work and thanks for being such an inspiration.

Hugs, Sunny

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FITAT50 10/29/2010 8:07AM

    Good for you!!!

I got up at 5, stalled going downstairs but I did and did 30 minutes on the treadmill. For some reason I'm not enjoying cardio lately. emoticon

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