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Even the most motivated folks have blah days

Wednesday, December 01, 2010

When I checked my inner motivation meter this morning, it read "blah". Yeah. Blah. Not a good place to start one's day.

Blah says, "I'm tired of this! When do I get to just let it slide?" emoticon Oh, dear, Toddler Barbie is having a little tantrum. I imagine my inner toddler at times like these, in patent leather shoes, with a white pinafore and a red velvet dress. Toddler Barbie is a tomboy at heart, and someone has dressed her up and told her she has to go somewhere. She just wants to play in the dirt!

With that inner image, I can step back and decide whether (as reasonable self-parent) it is a good idea to take Toddler Barbie to the party or not.

Seriously, I'm looking at the December ahead, and trying to see how the pattern of parties and celebrations and eating temptations fall out. You see as I was contemplating my "blah" this morning I realized that I've fallen into this pattern of a day of indulgence followed by a few solid normal days, then another day of indulgence.

This is not a terrible pattern... if those days of indulgence are far enough apart. This time of year, are they? And the answer is "not so much." Birthday dinner. Four normal days. Thanksgiving. Two normal days. After-indulgence. Two normal days. Today... will today be normal? I hope so.

I'm hoping for a whole normal two weeks, here, because starting December 13th, we have work party, one normal day, work party 2... leading up to Christmas eve, Christmas Day, a few normal days, then New Year's Eve, and New Year's Day.

So... the December plan: keep those normal days as normal as possible. Be careful about what I choose to indulge in, because the content can set up cravings for more. But especially remember to give Toddler Barbie some time in the sandbox. She needs those down days, away from people.

What's YOUR December plan?

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KALIGIRL 12/1/2010 9:20PM

    Sorry your in the blahs, but sometimes I think it comes along with the holiday season. Your plan sounds perfect!

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REJ7777 12/1/2010 8:20PM

    The holidays often seem like a gauntlet of temptations and feasts, one after the other. My intention is to stay on plan during "regular" days. When I attend a holiday get-together, I'm going to enjoy it, without either "dieting" or "binging". That's my plan.

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 12/1/2010 7:38PM

    This is a hard month for me, too. Christmas, birthday and wedding anniversary all in the same week! And lots of get-togethers between now and then. Will do better this year than in years past, though, because I will be mindful at least of what I'm doing. Also I'm exercising and drinking lots of water which I was not doing in the past consistently.

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ANDI571 12/1/2010 4:46PM

    I agree it gets so tiring, and feeling sorry for oneself at times is to be expected. But in the scheme of things are we sorry we are clogging our arteries, or are we sorry we don't have to take diabetes pill, or is that we don't have to use a walker? Isn't funny how the love of food lies to us and tells us how bad off we are, when we are so well off eating healthy.

Keep us the good work, you are doing great. We will just start calling ourselves Turtle Barbie. emoticon emoticon

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BUGGYS 12/1/2010 3:37PM

    I'm with LEE-2011...I'm going to try to exercise more so that when those unplanned temptations arise. I'll be more equiped to handle them. It's takken me so long to lose the little weight that I have that I don't want to have to start all over!

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WALKINGANNIE 12/1/2010 3:20PM

    Yes, we all have blah days. Checking in and acknowledging them is halfway to getting over them.

When you're feeling down just look at your profile photo in THAT dress. It sure motivates me!

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DEBRITA01 12/1/2010 2:22PM

    My plan is to take it a day at a time and pre-plan as much as I can. Restricting myself often backfires so I will focus on moderation and limitation.

Holidays are tough and loaded with temptations but I'm with Susan, I don't want to head into 2011 ten pounds heavier. I just need to decide which I want more...

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SROUS1340 12/1/2010 11:31AM

    I'm having the same experience here. Going for a "normal day streak" cause I've been in the same pattern and I'm not willing to start the new year with 10 extra pounds like I normally do.
Toddler Barbie is just going to have to BeHave!

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SHARON2014 12/1/2010 11:23AM

    Sounds like you have a great plan for maintaining! I am going to be more active when I can - walking the dog, even if it is around and around the yard -- strength training and treadmill. I am taking a moderate approach to nutrition...I find if I restrict myself too much my inner Barbie has a meltdown! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Motivation, motivation, motivation!

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

They say in real estate that there are three things driving the market: Location, location, and location.

In my mind, the secret to success in a maintaining a healthy lifestyle is a similar mantra of three things: Motivation, motivation, and motivation.

All the knowledge about nutrition available, all the cookbooks and healthy recipes, all the healthy foods at the market, all the gym memberships, home exercise equipment... are nothing without motivation! Nobody can MAKE you want to do this but YOU.

Is that true? Well, yes, and no. Until you know you want it, nobody can give it to you. But, once that tiniest spark is there? It can be nurtured and fed and brought to a burning flame by... one another!

The secret to maintaining motivation is a good support system of like-minded people... to give us encouragement when we have a "down" day... to remind us that we're doing this for a reason (even if it's not the same reason), and especially to remind us that we're not horrible people just because we aren't perfect at following whatever plan we've decided upon.

Perhaps your real life friends are sick to death of hearing you talk about it. Perhaps you are even tired of talking about it yourself. BUT... here on Sparkpeople... there are these communities of like-minded folks, walking their own journey, by your side. None of us is here on Spark 24 x 7... but almost at any time SOMEONE is!

So just now I'd like to shout out to everybody who writes in blogs or on message boards of their own ups and downs. To everybody who reads what's written, and to everybody who ever comments or writes messages of encouragement and support. Kindred Spirits All... reminding one another that we have the ability, we have the desire, and yes, we are worth it!

Have a great TUESDAY! And may you have your own daily dose of motivation. emoticon

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FITAT50 12/1/2010 3:55AM

    Wonderful blog, thanks!

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REJ7777 11/30/2010 1:53PM

    Great blog! It's so true that no matter how much knowledge we have, if we're not motivated to do something with that knowledge, it won't make any difference whatsoever. I also agree with your evaluation of the importance of the support we receive on SparkPeople. I'm convinced that I would not have achieved the success I have without the encouragement and support of my SparkFriends! I also use the SP nutritional and fitness trackers.

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GOHUSKERS2 11/30/2010 9:39AM

    Good blog!!! Hits the nail on the head!!! Thanks!!!


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KATHRYNLP 11/30/2010 9:20AM

    Good Blog!! Thank you! emoticon

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TEACHINMOM 11/30/2010 8:42AM

    Yep, agreed!! We have to be willing to be on the receiving end of the support and encouragement though. None of us are perfect and/or strong enough to go the whole way with no support and we do need to remember to cry out to those "kindred spirits"in hard times!! I have a hard time with that sometimes!! BUT, I WANT this and I NEED my Spark Friends to make it!! Thank you for being my Spark Friend, all the encouragement you always offer and a GREAT blog!!

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BUGGYS 11/30/2010 7:48AM

    You hit the nail on the head for me! Motivation is the force behind this whole healthy lifestyle journey! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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P.S. Son to the rescue

Monday, November 29, 2010

He came and collected the (remainder of the) pie while I was at work. emoticon emoticon

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FRAN0426 11/29/2010 11:21PM

    That was nice of him to come get the rest of the pie, now the temptation is gone.

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DEBRITA01 11/29/2010 10:46PM

    Thank goodness for sons!

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REJ7777 11/29/2010 10:38PM

    A son willing to sacrifice himself for his mother. emoticon

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KALIGIRL 11/29/2010 10:28PM

    Too fun!

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FITAT50 11/29/2010 7:34PM

    Phew!!! Saved!

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MTULLY 11/29/2010 7:11PM

    God bless him!

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Good or bad, gotta blog

Monday, November 29, 2010

After all that recognition of the success of the year, I must have got "cocky" yesterday, because I ended up baking another pumpkin pie. Ostensibly for my son, who likes my pies and only gets them this time of year. However, he didn't come over to pick it up, and... well, I hadn't tasted the first one I made him back on Veteran's day... and the holiday weekend was almost over... yep! Indulged. Not crazy about what the scale says this morning, but also not surprised.

BUT... the important thing about this whole deal is not that there are "slips" now and then. Perfection is not required. Diligence IS, however, and there are way too many opportunities to slip this time of year. I have to be careful about choosing when I indulge and in what. Yesterday I recognized that I was probably going to crave that pie until I *did* try a piece. And it tasted wonderful... and yes, she says with a little puff of pride, I still have my touch for the flaky crust!

I am glad it is Monday and I have a structured day and for that matter a whole work week. One choice at a time. Today is a new day. Today is a normal day. And I don't have to go into that whole perfectionist martinet voice verus rebellious voice thing, now do I? emoticon emoticon

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KALIGIRL 11/29/2010 11:16PM

    No good deed goes unpunished?

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REJ7777 11/29/2010 10:46PM

    "Perfection is not required. Diligence IS, however."
That's the secret! I fell flat on my face yesterday. I just could not get my act together. I goofed up like I haven't goofed up in months. I find it a bit disconcerting, because I'm not sure what happened. I thought I was beyond what happened yesterday (snacking all evening long, and not moving my butt one little bit). But, today, I'm back on track. Ate on plan and got my 10,000 steps in.

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BESTSUSIEYET 11/29/2010 9:32PM

    Well said. Well done. Keep up the diligence! And glad son came to take away the rest of the pie. emoticon

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WALKINGANNIE 11/29/2010 4:06PM

    Great blog about getting things in proportion - and keeping our bodies in proprtion too!

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PATRISNA 11/29/2010 1:26PM

    Glad you had your pie. I agree with Buggys comment. Aslo some of the others. We really need to get over labeling foods good or bad. You did good Barb!

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DEBRITA01 11/29/2010 1:06PM

    Diligence...I like that and will strive for that over the holiday season. Let's all stay determined and keep those slips to a minimum...we can do it.

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BUGGYS 11/29/2010 11:15AM

    I don't think we have to deprive ourselves of anything and if you wanted pumkin pie then you should have had it...MODERATION is key and if you go off track a bit you need to curb the calories, exercise more and just be kind to yourself! Diligence is going to be my word this holiday season and if I am diligent then I won't be sorry or bummed that I slipped!

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ANDI571 11/29/2010 10:49AM

    I like the statement, "Perfection is not required". I think if we would adopt that attitude, then one piece of pie, or chocolate would be enough instead of eating the whole thing then feeling guilty over it. Then guilt turns into oh well, might as well keep eating.

Good for you!

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SAMI199 11/29/2010 8:31AM

    I hate pie-lol (I wish) What's done is done. I humbly start again-Love your page & your Holiday pic.-you look lovely!!!

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KATHRYNLP 11/29/2010 8:24AM

    Let it go. it was good... so now just get back on track.. That's the best thing.. emoticon

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CONCHA77 11/29/2010 8:07AM

    I also had a piece of pumpkin pie after my Thanksgiving feast. Thanksgiving, in my opinion, isn't the same without it. Now on to Christmas!
Happy Monday, Barb.

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FITAT50 11/29/2010 7:46AM

    As we choose our battles, we choose our indulgences too. I'm just wondering, what did you do with the rest of the pie? I made my "incredible" apple pie for Thanksgiving, I had one piece and I feel fine looking at the leftover still in the fridge. Not all years are like this though, I'm keeping my fingers crossed my determination lasts through the Holidays.

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KASEYCOFF 11/29/2010 7:05AM

    I was saying to Christi that I purposely did NOT bake a pumpkin pie this year because I just knew it would be too much temptation - and besides, the Brits don't seem to care for it (which is complete nonsense, as I make a great pumpkin pie, lol) which means I would've had even more of the pie insistently calling my name--! I hear you about the slips, and I hear you even more about diligence. I'm with you, kiddo - Choices R Us, ain't? :-D

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Candle light and star light

Sunday, November 28, 2010

This morning my home is full of the scent of lit candles and the sound of Handel's Messiah. It is still dark outside, it is that time of year, and the bright stars stand out in the clear sky. Since the weather has been mild over the long holiday weekend, many neighbors have outdoor lights up and lit. What a difference from last year when we were already being socked in my slick and snowy weather by now.

A long weekend gives me more time to think about many things, and this weekend one of the things I was thinking about was goals and how they change. I went back over the photos from the past year, and was surprised. You see, last January, I met my original goal of 150 (on the JC scale). I had no expectation that I would be sitting under 125 (on the home scale) now. What I wanted to do was maybe lose another five pounds (adjusted goal) and then maintain for a year.

I was very proud of this photo, my starting picture, taken last New Year's Eve:
I'm still pretty proud of where I was then. I worked hard to get there.

Here is today's version, as it's the end of a month again:
As proud as I am of where I was a year ago, and that I was "working on it"... I'm even more pleased with where I am today... not because of body size, but because of health. I like feeling good far more than looking good. I'm big on comfort... and one of those oddities of life is that what you think is comfortable in an immediate moment doesn't always lead to long-term comfort.

Exercise may seem like a big commitment, but those ten minutes you work out in front of the TV? Lead to so many benefits! That walk you take away from your stressful job for ten minutes? I can't even begin to say... it leads to better decisions as well as better health.

And then, eleven months later, you gaze at the tree lights, the candle light, and the star light, feeling good in your own skin and recognizing the absence of pain... and an amazing thing called JOY and an internal thing called PEACE.

It's not always easy at the moment of decision... but for each little healthy choice... today I am truly grateful! And to each Spark friend who has posted in good times and bad... that intentionally or not encouraged me to make the next healthy decision? I have a huge debt of gratitude to pay back (or forward).

As so many say, "If I can do it, so can you!" Seriously, is my life so different from yours? Aren't you worth that ten minute decision? Isn't feeling good worth it?

We CAN do this! And... we are worth it. Never give up... that's the only rule.

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BESTSUSIEYET 11/29/2010 9:36PM

    Oh yeah ... You have much to celebrate! Enjoy each day of feeling great! And keep encouraging us ... Together we are stronger! emoticon

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FITAT50 11/28/2010 9:33PM

    Great blog, you look fantastic! Does JC stand for Jenny Craig? I was on JC for two years and lost of my weight but then didn't want anymore processed food.

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ANDI571 11/28/2010 11:52AM

    Wow, what a difference a year makes. I have been thinking about my goals also. I wanted to be 155 by Sept. 1st, and didn't make it, then by Thanksgiving, and still didn't make it, but close.

I was 155 when I graduated. I've never been able to get under 148 whenever I have lost. I am trying to wonder, am I settling for 155 (I really would like 150), or is that a good weight for me.

I know before, I would always say 5 or 10 more pounds. I was never satisfied. Did I make it hard on myself and finally gave up and then gained back. Something to ponder.

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JUST_TRI_IT 11/28/2010 10:05AM

    Inspiration is a two-way street! Your phrase " amazing thing called JOY and an internal thing called PEACE." really rings sweetly.

Here's to the cold nights with clear stars!

and... congrats on your transformation... QUITE fantastic!

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KALIGIRL 11/28/2010 8:52AM

    "an amazing thing called JOY and an internal thing called PEACE."

May we all find our peace and joy along our healthy journeys.
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PS - love your profile picture!

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JHADZHIA 11/28/2010 8:48AM

    You look amazing!! That healthy glow really shines through! So glad you are feeling no pain and are enjoying life so much!
Keep up the great work!!
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BEEKAHBUG 11/28/2010 7:38AM

    That is awesome!!!!!!!! Congratulations!!!!!!!!


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