ONEKIDSMOM   133,449
100,000-149,999 SparkPoints
ONEKIDSMOM's Recent Blog Entries

Ways to fight the blah days - #2

Friday, December 03, 2010

2. Kick Polly Perfectionist out of your inner circle!

The holidays, especially, are full of expectations and "should"s. If I keep too high a set of expectations, it merely sets me up for disappointment, and a sense of failure.

And we all know where feeling blue or like a failure leads... well, at least for some of us! To the pantry or the 'fridge! And the couch. The "why try?" mind set kicks in.

So, as counter-intuitive as it sounds, cut yourself a break: give yourself permission to "fail", i.e. not meet all of Polly's expectations! What a concept!

Anyway, it works for me. Usually, when I kick Polly out, my friend Betty Balance shows up, and I manage to have a lot of fun and feel good about it. I may not make "perfect" choices, but I make better choices that I would under the influence of the "why try?"

Is Polly Perfectionist managing YOUR holidays?

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

REJ7777 12/3/2010 7:27PM

    No, Polly Perfectionist is NOT managing my holidays. I don't want Rebellious Roxy to manage them either. Betty Balance is welcome to any holiday meal! She's a great SparkFriend!

Report Inappropriate Comment
SWEETMAGNOLIA2 12/3/2010 7:18PM

    Polly has left the building.

Report Inappropriate Comment
WALKINGANNIE 12/3/2010 3:37PM

    You seem to be my life coach this week. Thank you.

Polly is my longstanding frenemy but I think I'm beginning to get to know Betty Balance a bit better.


Report Inappropriate Comment
BUGGYS 12/3/2010 12:00PM

    Polly Perfect left a long, long time ago!!! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
FITAT50 12/3/2010 10:43AM

    Betty where are you???

Report Inappropriate Comment
ANDI571 12/3/2010 9:13AM

    Polly Perfectionist came for a visit and I kicked her out. Get this, I enjoyed the cookies I baked, and the scale was down this morning. Betty Balance must have taken over.

Report Inappropriate Comment
CONCHA77 12/3/2010 8:23AM

    Balance, Balance, Balance! I can do this! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
PENNYAN45 12/3/2010 8:16AM

    Excellent suggestion! Get rid of that 'all or nothing' mentality. Become a friend of Betty Balance.

Thanks for another good one!

emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment

Ways to fight the blah days - #1

Thursday, December 02, 2010

1. Keep a promise to yourself.

Yesterday evening I dutifully did my end of week 2 progress test on the six week programs one hundred pushups and two hundred situps. This constitutes keeping a promise to myself. I find this is one of the most powerful motivators there is: just keep one small promise. Doesn't have to be a big thing... but I do have to recognize that I did it!

emoticon 27, count 'em, 27 full body push-ups! emoticon Only got to get 28 to max the APFT test on New Year's (for a 58 year old female).

emoticon 13 oh my goodness I don't believe I did this... full military style sit-ups! This was the first time since the initial test I did full sit-ups, the training has all been crunches. This result surprised me. I have four weeks to get to 27! I'm thrilled with this progress, so far.

Take that, Blah! emoticon emoticon

So... what promise to yourself have you kept today? If you haven't kept one yet... try it... something little... and relish how good you feel!

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

PENNYAN45 12/2/2010 8:49PM

    I'm so glad you are giving these tips right now. I can really use them.
This is SO HELPFUL!!

emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
WALKINGANNIE 12/2/2010 3:57PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon oh Wise One (KidsMom)

You caught my mood and helped me to firm up the solution.

I am keeping my stepping promise and feel better already.


Report Inappropriate Comment
BUGGYS 12/2/2010 10:41AM

    I have to learn to keep the promises that I make to myself!!! Today I will make a promise and I'll make it stick!!! Thanks! emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
SWEETMAGNOLIA2 12/2/2010 9:09AM

    You're a better woman than this soon to be 57 year old! But you inspire me to try. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
QUADCMOM 12/2/2010 8:29AM

    Great job and a great idea. I'll make a promise to myself today.

Report Inappropriate Comment
CONCHA77 12/2/2010 7:56AM

    That is some great advice, one promise to myself each day! I WILL make myself a promise today.Thanks.

Report Inappropriate Comment
TEACHINMOM 12/2/2010 7:54AM

    emoticon!! Today could be one of those days for me...........after reading your blog, I will fight it!! THANKS!!

Report Inappropriate Comment
REJ7777 12/2/2010 7:50AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon

That's a great tip! I always feel great when I keep a promise to myself, but I'd never really thought about it. This is going into my weight-loss tips! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment

Even the most motivated folks have blah days

Wednesday, December 01, 2010

When I checked my inner motivation meter this morning, it read "blah". Yeah. Blah. Not a good place to start one's day.

Blah says, "I'm tired of this! When do I get to just let it slide?" emoticon Oh, dear, Toddler Barbie is having a little tantrum. I imagine my inner toddler at times like these, in patent leather shoes, with a white pinafore and a red velvet dress. Toddler Barbie is a tomboy at heart, and someone has dressed her up and told her she has to go somewhere. She just wants to play in the dirt!

With that inner image, I can step back and decide whether (as reasonable self-parent) it is a good idea to take Toddler Barbie to the party or not.

Seriously, I'm looking at the December ahead, and trying to see how the pattern of parties and celebrations and eating temptations fall out. You see as I was contemplating my "blah" this morning I realized that I've fallen into this pattern of a day of indulgence followed by a few solid normal days, then another day of indulgence.

This is not a terrible pattern... if those days of indulgence are far enough apart. This time of year, are they? And the answer is "not so much." Birthday dinner. Four normal days. Thanksgiving. Two normal days. After-indulgence. Two normal days. Today... will today be normal? I hope so.

I'm hoping for a whole normal two weeks, here, because starting December 13th, we have work party, one normal day, work party 2... leading up to Christmas eve, Christmas Day, a few normal days, then New Year's Eve, and New Year's Day.

So... the December plan: keep those normal days as normal as possible. Be careful about what I choose to indulge in, because the content can set up cravings for more. But especially remember to give Toddler Barbie some time in the sandbox. She needs those down days, away from people.

What's YOUR December plan?

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

KALIGIRL 12/1/2010 9:20PM

    Sorry your in the blahs, but sometimes I think it comes along with the holiday season. Your plan sounds perfect!

Report Inappropriate Comment
REJ7777 12/1/2010 8:20PM

    The holidays often seem like a gauntlet of temptations and feasts, one after the other. My intention is to stay on plan during "regular" days. When I attend a holiday get-together, I'm going to enjoy it, without either "dieting" or "binging". That's my plan.

Report Inappropriate Comment
SWEETMAGNOLIA2 12/1/2010 7:38PM

    This is a hard month for me, too. Christmas, birthday and wedding anniversary all in the same week! And lots of get-togethers between now and then. Will do better this year than in years past, though, because I will be mindful at least of what I'm doing. Also I'm exercising and drinking lots of water which I was not doing in the past consistently.

Comment edited on: 12/1/2010 7:40:03 PM

Report Inappropriate Comment
ANDI571 12/1/2010 4:46PM

    I agree it gets so tiring, and feeling sorry for oneself at times is to be expected. But in the scheme of things are we sorry we are clogging our arteries, or are we sorry we don't have to take diabetes pill, or is that we don't have to use a walker? Isn't funny how the love of food lies to us and tells us how bad off we are, when we are so well off eating healthy.

Keep us the good work, you are doing great. We will just start calling ourselves Turtle Barbie. emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
BUGGYS 12/1/2010 3:37PM

    I'm with LEE-2011...I'm going to try to exercise more so that when those unplanned temptations arise. I'll be more equiped to handle them. It's takken me so long to lose the little weight that I have that I don't want to have to start all over!

Report Inappropriate Comment
WALKINGANNIE 12/1/2010 3:20PM

    Yes, we all have blah days. Checking in and acknowledging them is halfway to getting over them.

When you're feeling down just look at your profile photo in THAT dress. It sure motivates me!

emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
DEBRITA01 12/1/2010 2:22PM

    My plan is to take it a day at a time and pre-plan as much as I can. Restricting myself often backfires so I will focus on moderation and limitation.

Holidays are tough and loaded with temptations but I'm with Susan, I don't want to head into 2011 ten pounds heavier. I just need to decide which I want more...

Comment edited on: 12/1/2010 2:23:25 PM

Report Inappropriate Comment
SROUS1340 12/1/2010 11:31AM

    I'm having the same experience here. Going for a "normal day streak" cause I've been in the same pattern and I'm not willing to start the new year with 10 extra pounds like I normally do.
Toddler Barbie is just going to have to BeHave!

Report Inappropriate Comment
SHARON2014 12/1/2010 11:23AM

    Sounds like you have a great plan for maintaining! I am going to be more active when I can - walking the dog, even if it is around and around the yard -- strength training and treadmill. I am taking a moderate approach to nutrition...I find if I restrict myself too much my inner Barbie has a meltdown! emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment

Motivation, motivation, motivation!

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

They say in real estate that there are three things driving the market: Location, location, and location.

In my mind, the secret to success in a maintaining a healthy lifestyle is a similar mantra of three things: Motivation, motivation, and motivation.

All the knowledge about nutrition available, all the cookbooks and healthy recipes, all the healthy foods at the market, all the gym memberships, home exercise equipment... are nothing without motivation! Nobody can MAKE you want to do this but YOU.

Is that true? Well, yes, and no. Until you know you want it, nobody can give it to you. But, once that tiniest spark is there? It can be nurtured and fed and brought to a burning flame by... one another!

The secret to maintaining motivation is a good support system of like-minded people... to give us encouragement when we have a "down" day... to remind us that we're doing this for a reason (even if it's not the same reason), and especially to remind us that we're not horrible people just because we aren't perfect at following whatever plan we've decided upon.

Perhaps your real life friends are sick to death of hearing you talk about it. Perhaps you are even tired of talking about it yourself. BUT... here on Sparkpeople... there are these communities of like-minded folks, walking their own journey, by your side. None of us is here on Spark 24 x 7... but almost at any time SOMEONE is!

So just now I'd like to shout out to everybody who writes in blogs or on message boards of their own ups and downs. To everybody who reads what's written, and to everybody who ever comments or writes messages of encouragement and support. Kindred Spirits All... reminding one another that we have the ability, we have the desire, and yes, we are worth it!

Have a great TUESDAY! And may you have your own daily dose of motivation. emoticon

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

FITAT50 12/1/2010 3:55AM

    Wonderful blog, thanks!

Report Inappropriate Comment
REJ7777 11/30/2010 1:53PM

    Great blog! It's so true that no matter how much knowledge we have, if we're not motivated to do something with that knowledge, it won't make any difference whatsoever. I also agree with your evaluation of the importance of the support we receive on SparkPeople. I'm convinced that I would not have achieved the success I have without the encouragement and support of my SparkFriends! I also use the SP nutritional and fitness trackers.

Report Inappropriate Comment
GOHUSKERS2 11/30/2010 9:39AM

    Good blog!!! Hits the nail on the head!!! Thanks!!!


Report Inappropriate Comment
KATHRYNLP 11/30/2010 9:20AM

    Good Blog!! Thank you! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
SHARON2014 11/30/2010 8:44AM


Report Inappropriate Comment
TEACHINMOM 11/30/2010 8:42AM

    Yep, agreed!! We have to be willing to be on the receiving end of the support and encouragement though. None of us are perfect and/or strong enough to go the whole way with no support and we do need to remember to cry out to those "kindred spirits"in hard times!! I have a hard time with that sometimes!! BUT, I WANT this and I NEED my Spark Friends to make it!! Thank you for being my Spark Friend, all the encouragement you always offer and a GREAT blog!!

Report Inappropriate Comment
BUGGYS 11/30/2010 7:48AM

    You hit the nail on the head for me! Motivation is the force behind this whole healthy lifestyle journey! emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment

P.S. Son to the rescue

Monday, November 29, 2010

He came and collected the (remainder of the) pie while I was at work. emoticon emoticon

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

FRAN0426 11/29/2010 11:21PM

    That was nice of him to come get the rest of the pie, now the temptation is gone.

Report Inappropriate Comment
DEBRITA01 11/29/2010 10:46PM

    Thank goodness for sons!

Report Inappropriate Comment
REJ7777 11/29/2010 10:38PM

    A son willing to sacrifice himself for his mother. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
KALIGIRL 11/29/2010 10:28PM

    Too fun!

Report Inappropriate Comment
FITAT50 11/29/2010 7:34PM

    Phew!!! Saved!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MTULLY 11/29/2010 7:11PM

    God bless him!

Report Inappropriate Comment

First Page  1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 101 102 103 104 105 106 107 108 109 110 111 112 113 114 115 116 117 118 119 120 121 122 123 124 125 126 127 128 129 130 131 132 133 134 135 136 137 138 139 140 141 142 143 144 145 146 147 148 149 150 151 152 153 154 155 156 157 158 159 160 161 162 163 164 165 166 167 168 169 170 171 172 173 174 175 176 177 178 179 180 181 182 183 184 185 186 187 188 189 190 191 192 193 194 195 196 197 198 199 200 201 202 203 204 205 206 207 208 209 210 211 212 213 214 215 216 217 218 219 220 221 222 223 224 225 226 227 228 229 230 231 232 233 234 235 236 237 238 239 240 241 242 243 244 245 246 247 248 249 250 251 252 253 254 255 256 257 258 259 260 261 262 263 264 265 266 267 268 269 270 271 272 273 274 275 276 277 278 279 280 281 282 283 284 285 286 287 288 289 290 291 292 293 294 295 296 297 298 299 300 301 302 303 304 305 306 307 308 309 310 311 312 313 314 315 316 317 318 319 320 321 322 323 324 325 326 327 328 329 330 331 332 333 334 335 336 337 338 339 340 341 342 343 344 345 346 347 348 Last Page