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Monday, December 13, 2010

Hello. My name is Barb, and I'm a compulsive overeater.

Pay no attention to the slim body that's currently presenting itself. That's a sham. Being this size means I've worked hard over a couple of years and committed myself to an active lifestyle and I like myself that way. I've made it to my "home weight" range.

But there are days when I am dangling over the abyss. Yesterday was one of them. Let's see:

emoticon I wasn't feeling particularly great, physically, in that my sinus was bugging me. The problem with this is that I am tempted to self-medicate with my favorite drug, food.

emoticon The grocery store had a bunch of sales on baking ingredients... you know, the 99 cent coupons that only come out this time of year. Of course if I'm going to have company... and baking is a part of the holidays, right?

emoticon The weather was colder than it had been so far this season... wouldn't it be nice to warm up the house with the oven?

emoticon I have had my sister's recipe for impossible pie sitting out on the counter since Thanksgiving and only I like this (the kids coming for Christmas dinner don't care for it).

emoticon Work is very busy and stressful and it was a Sunday, my most dangerous day of the week.

emoticon My monthly maintenance consultation and weigh-in was on Saturday. It was done, and successful... and it's four weeks before I have to face the scale again.

emoticon Social anxiety and to-do list size for the next month are growing. Lunches and people coming over.

Why this FEELS like hanging over an abyss? Because of past behavior and because of the nature of the disease. It is like stepping outside my body and watching the battle, point, counterpoint, rationalizations flying between the disease and the defender. In short, the disease took over yesterday, and I let it. Sugar, fat, volumes, the whole bit. And I didn't even enjoy it that much (beyond the first cookie and first piece of pie, what's the point?)

So today? Treat myself gently... look at those triggers, and figure out what's going on in my head. Pray for the lifting of the obsession and the return of abstinence. One day at a time. Because that's the only way this disease can be managed.

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MTULLY 12/14/2010 12:47AM

    This time of year is just one land mine after another in terms of challenges to your healthy lifestyle. I just had one of those days myself. The key is not to let that day slide into another and another and another. Do treat yourself gently and continue to take it one day at a time. Hang in there!

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MSLZZY 12/13/2010 11:35PM

    Been there, done that! Hope it turns around for you because it is one very uncomfortable feeling! HUGS!

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REJ7777 12/13/2010 7:35PM

    I hate it when there are days like that! When it seems that the eating is almost automatic. emoticon emoticon

Other days, I feel energetic and on top of things. I enjoy staying on program, both what I eat and exercise. But at other times, it's a catastrophe! I want to eat junk and lots of it. And I do NOT want to move! It's usually when my emotional and physical energy are being drained by something (like the examples in your blog).

The only thing to do is to be gentle with ourselves, and get back on track as soon as we can! This is a lifestyle, not a diet! emoticon

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GOHUSKERS2 12/13/2010 5:47PM

Dear twin! All the while I was reading this I was thinking, wow, it sounds like me. All but the "reaching the goal" which you can be very, very, very proud of. The holidays will be over in a few weeks.....and when they are, and there isn't that temptation to bake, bake, bake, we'll be better off. But that lull in January is kindof a let down when the tree is gone, the decoration put away and the family is all settled back into a daily routine. So I say, throw a net over the abyss, hang on with both hands and remember, we are here for you Barb.

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LEANJEAN6 12/13/2010 5:36PM

    You put this very well-I guess we have all been in your position, ---but--you recognized the trigger foods, and tried to overcome the obsession--I say, ""Yeah for you!"''--Keep it up----Lynda emoticon

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WALKINGANNIE 12/13/2010 5:15PM

    I hear you and I understand because I'm sometimes in a similar place.

PennyAn's words are wise:
"The difference between being on a binge or having one day of indulgence is all about what you do the next day."

I keep trying to eat like a naturally slim person and to get used to the fact that indulgences are allowed but I sometimes find it harder to have treats than to go without entirely.

Finding moderation is my next big goal.

Hope you had a better day today.

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BUGGYS 12/13/2010 3:49PM

    Your one day binge should not negate the positive things that you have achieved this past year and the fact that you have dealt with the triggers and are starting again today just shows that you are in control!


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TURTLETALK 12/13/2010 12:38PM

    I see why it is called "impossible " pie. It is impossible to stay out of it and impossible to quit feeling guilty about eating it. I think we will always have days when we struggle with this eating disorder but awareness makes it easier to get back in focus after a rough day. Good luck in your journey.

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 12/13/2010 10:47AM

    I love to bake and especially on these cold days. I'm heating the house AND cooking. It makes me feel smart to be so economical. And it makes me glad to see people enjoy my culinary creations. It gives me feelings of self worth as I hear the compliments. Polly Perfectionists can relate to what I've just written. Self worth is the driving force behind much of what fuels them. It's no small stresser when Pollys are faced with emotional packed seasons and trying to figure how to balance how they've done things in the past with who they are now. It helps me to know it is not the ocassional fall but the trend of our life that shows which direction we're moving. You, my friend, are holding the torch for the Pollys following behind. We see your success and it gives us great encouragement. emoticon

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PENNYAN45 12/13/2010 9:33AM

    The difference between being on a binge or having one day of indulgence is all about what you do the next day.

In the past - this may have been the start of a binge period.

Now - this can be one day of indulgence.

What you do today is what will determine that.

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DEBRITA01 12/13/2010 9:14AM

    Hi, my name is Debbie, and I'm a compulsive overeater, too... I am not on maintenance or even close to my goal, but I share your struggles and so do many here on SP. Always one bite away from a binge, it seems.

I can also relate to that out of body experience... when you know what you're doing, but don't stop. It can be frightening. Why do we do that? I guess pinpointing your triggers is a good start. I always wonder, what was I feeling before it began? What was going on? For me, it's usually not about the food. I am looking for something...

That is the hardest part for me, trying to figure it out...and maybe I never will, but I will keep trying and so will you. It IS a disease and there is no magic cure, so we will keep managing it the best we know how.

Glad you're starting again today... treating yourself with kindness and being gentle on yourself as you deserve.

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SHARON2014 12/13/2010 8:13AM

    You have identified the issues and shouted it out! You have reinforced for me that achieving a specific weight or BMI is not enough -- this is a battle for LIFE!
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Why I love the Friend Feed

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Did you know your friend feed tells you who your friends' friends are? I find more new friends that way! I see that one of my friends has commented on a blog... written by someone I haven't met yet... I follow them, and sometimes find treasure. Yes! Another kindred spirit!

This is such a great networking site. Weight conscious and fitness centric? Maybe, but there are so many other similarities and differences and a rich variety of folks with differing perspectives that I can learn from!

Spark is about so much more than the scale... this is about living the life we most, in our heart of hearts, want to live: a life of fulfillment, according to each of our individual values. Discovering just what those values really are is part of the journey... and we can certainly learn a lot of that by interacting with other people!

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THIAGRAM 12/15/2010 10:53AM

  Yes! The friend feed is fabulous!

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BESTSUSIEYET 12/14/2010 9:25AM

    totally agree -- but it's hard to find time to check out all the pages I'd like to.

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46SHADOW 12/13/2010 2:13PM

    I fact I am going to add you on as a friend. Hope you'll consider doing the same. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JAKEANDNELLIE 12/13/2010 1:55PM

    The friend feed is an important tool on Spark - I sometimes wonder if I'll ever catch up on mine! Like you, I find so many new and interesting friends through reading it!

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KAT_SEH1 12/12/2010 8:16PM

    I just joined spark today! I'm trying to figure it all out and of course I'm overwhelmed. I stumbled accross your post and it made me smile through all of my confusion. Thanks for that.

Merry Christmas

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ANDI571 12/12/2010 4:32PM

    I agree. I was on here for several weeks before I discovered it. I still wonder how much I miss.

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PATRISNA 12/12/2010 4:19PM

    I agree emoticon

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LJCANNON 12/12/2010 4:13PM

    emoticonThere are so many features of SparkPeople that I like it is hard to pick a "Favorite", but the Friend Feed is right up there at the Top of The List!!

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EMPTYNESTER60 12/12/2010 3:01PM

    I agree so much with this blog. Usually the first thing I look at after I get my SparkPoints is the Friend Feed to see what my SparkFriends are up to & how they are feeling. I also use the Team Huddles to check up on my team members. I've also met new friends from blogs that friends have commented on. Spark is an awesome website for healthy living but also for finding friends!

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LAURAWILLBEFIT 12/12/2010 2:38PM

    I just found your blog through a friend!
I love the friends feed, it keeps me up to date with all my great Spark friends!
I know some of my Spark friends better then the ones I have in person!
Just love Spark and now I know you too!
Going to add you as my friend and I hope you will add me as well!
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TEACHINMOM 12/12/2010 2:03PM

    I was just thinking this same thing yesterday......I love the friend feed!

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MNTWINSGAL 12/12/2010 1:27PM

    I agree! I think I have more in common with some of my Spark friends than I do with my real-life friends! There are so many kindred spirits here, those on our teams, and those we just kind of come across!

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 12/12/2010 10:30AM

    Yes, I find the Friend Feed a wonderful tool for giving and getting encouragement and as you say, finding more friends!

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SAMI199 12/12/2010 10:05AM

    I love the Friend Feed too.It's fun to "Like" things people are doing...


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LOVE_2_LAUGH 12/12/2010 9:26AM

    I agree 100%!!

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DEBRITA01 12/12/2010 8:42AM

    This blog is so true...I love the friend feed, too. That's how I found you, and you continue to inspire me...

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JUDITHANNIE 12/12/2010 8:27AM

    my thoughts exactly thanks emoticon

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REJ7777 12/12/2010 8:22AM

    I like the friend feed too, and have found most of my friends that way. Sometimes a blog's title looks interesting, so I take a peek. And voila!

I love the diversity on SP. It's great to interact with friends who are quite a bit younger or older than I am; much fitter than I am (as mentors) or still at the beginning of their fitness journey; different temperaments, ethnic backgrounds, social and financial levels, etc. Like you say, Spark is so much more than just about the scale. I'm always amazed at how much I can deeply care about people I've never met! emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 12/12/2010 8:06AM

    Great blog! I voted for it. Excellent observation about your friend's friends being like spirits. Sure thing. And about living our lives about values, including healthy, not just a scale number. Amen!

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MSLZZY 12/12/2010 7:17AM

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LINDAJOYWK 12/12/2010 7:16AM

    As always,you inspire!

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Celebrating Giggle Points

Saturday, December 11, 2010

I named them giggle points back in 1989: Those moments in the weight loss and fitness journey when you catch yourself doing something you didn't think was possible for you any more! They are giggle points for me because that's my joyful reaction: I giggle...

When I realized I had started to jog to keep up with my son on the playground (this was several trips ago, mind)... without THINKING about it first!

When I realized that climbing over the transom into the driver's seat from the passenger size because someone parked too close was an option... and easily accomplished.

When I realized that I could flip over on my tummy in my bubble bath (OK, probably TMI).

When the power was off in my office building for several hours last Summer... and I didn't have to think twice about making several trips up and down the stairs.

When I found on an airplane that I could really snug up that seatbelt like they say in the announcement "low and tight around the hips".

When I felt comfortable giving a flip answer to the guy who said I might blow away: "that's a risk I choose to take". No more apologies for being small!

There are so many giggle points along the way, and I cherish and relish each one. My current maintenance giggle point was the realization that I am NOT as obsessed about the scale!

What's made you giggle lately about where you are compared to where you were?


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PATRISNA 12/12/2010 4:24PM

I agree with the others commants. I always loved the feeling of what my winter meltdown team calls Non Scale Victories. I love the term giggle points! Awesome blog!


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PENNYAN45 12/12/2010 9:24AM

    "Giggle Points" is a great term for those little moments of delightful victory! I may borrow that from you.

I had one this morning when I easily zipped up a pair of pants and liked what I saw in the full-length mirror.

Congratulations to all of us on our well-earned Giggle Points!!!

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LINDAJOYWK 12/12/2010 7:19AM

    My giggles have groaned lately-but laughter will come again!

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ELSEEBEE 12/11/2010 6:11PM

    I love the term "giggle points"! Hope you don't mind if I use it! The one about climbing over the car console was the latest one I experienced.

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REJ7777 12/11/2010 4:51PM

    I love the idea of giggle points! I've had quite a few in the last year, but never thought of naming them. I think that naming them "giggle points" brings out the value of those sometimes small, but very significant landmark occasions. emoticon

I had one at work a couple weeks ago. Unfortunately, one of our computer routers is located in a small space you have to crawl into. I've always had to beg and plead to have someone go in there and test the connection when we lost the Internet. I was afraid of literally getting stuck if I crawled in there. My giggle point happened when I looked in there and thought, I can do this! I checked the router connection, easily crawling in and out of that cubby hole on my knees (luckily I was wearing jeans). In spite of my frustration about the router, I had a giggle moment because of the size and agility of my body. emoticon

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GOHUSKERS2 12/11/2010 4:21PM

    Right on!!!!

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STEPHIEKNITS 12/11/2010 12:08PM

    I loved your blog! I have caught myself laughing and giggling to myself the last few days. Either because I have a lot of energy after working out at the gym or liking the way my legs are looking. Thanks so much for sharing

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THIAGRAM 12/11/2010 12:04PM

  I love your giggle points! What a wonderful way to realize how far you have come. I haven't got any giggle points with my weight, but I have with other things. Thanks for sharing your giggle points with us!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 12/11/2010 11:08AM

    I just love your blogs, Barb -- especially this one! I had several giggle points 3 years ago when I had lost 95 pounds. Not so much these days. It's definitely time for me to start looking forward to achieving those giggle points again. Each blog I read gets me a little closer to where I need to be to begin again. Thanks for the giggle today!

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DEBRITA01 12/11/2010 8:36AM

    What a good way to look at small achievements...giggle points, I like that, too. One of my most recent was helping my brother put up our parents Christmas lights outdoors and I could bend, stretch, and was more flexible (my brother let me do all of that type of We didn't get the lights working (that's another story) and my brother got a slight shock, but I got a good workout (I always try to think positive).

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MAMADELIGHT 12/11/2010 7:24AM

    I like that... giggle points. I realized yesterday that my winter jacket is huge on me this year. I love it.

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MSLZZY 12/11/2010 6:40AM

    Great way to look at accomplishments, no matter how small.

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Friday, December 10, 2010

I know it's not the great day just yet, but peace in your heart can come at any time. Sometimes it takes me by surprise when it shows up. For me, especially at this time of year, in this season of expectation, it comes in moments of contentment... and it doesn't matter my circumstances in that year: heavy, thin, sick, well, poor, rich, stressed, relaxed, grieving, rejoicing, anxious or thrilled... when it comes, it cannot be denied.

It is a blessing from on high.

I remember a year when I was well set up to feel sorry for myself. It was a year I had to work the overnight shift on Christmas eve. I was missing my traditional family gathering for the first time. I thought I would be sad... but as I put my coat away in my locker and put my headset over my ears (it was telephone work at the time)... I found myself humming carols. And with that peace swelling my heart.

Another year, my marriage was rocky and I was working through some tough things... and I was just sitting quietly after putting up the tree. My son was flopped on the couch opposite. My husband was in the next room for a moment... and it entered in the light of the tree.

Inviting that peace is part of my seasonal ritual. I get up early, set the lights on the tree, fire up the candles, and put on a Christmas album. It lifts my heart and invites the peace.

So, my Spark friends, this is my Christmas wish for each of you: that the peace enter into your hearts... for from moments of peace come worlds of peace... one day at a time, from the inside out. Sending waves of peace and love out through Spark Space... like Tiny Tim: God Bless us, every one!

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REJ7777 12/11/2010 4:36PM

    Thank you for that wish of peace. I think it's one of the greatest gifts anyone can possess. I wish you a blessed and peaceful Christmas in return! emoticon

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CHRYS13 12/11/2010 8:18AM

    Thank-you so much for your words....I've invited in the peace.... emoticon

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PENNYAN45 12/10/2010 5:32PM

    This blog tonight felt like a beautiful Christmas card from a friend.

Thank you. May peace be with you.

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SLENDERELLA61 12/10/2010 3:49PM

    "Inviting the peace" -- very powerful!! Thanks! Enjoy your peace.

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ANDI571 12/10/2010 10:11AM

    Peace....That is such a good feeling, when we just sit back and let it enter in. I think sometimes it is there, but we let our mind wonder to all of the things we can't control, and shove it back to where it is unreachable.

As I write this, the sun just came out and a big ray of it hit me through the window. Awesome.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 12/10/2010 9:56AM

    I think some of my most "important" times during the holidays are those times when I'm home alone, the tree lights are the only lights on, and soft music playing. I can then reflect on my life, my dreams, my disappointments, and then gradually turn those thoughts over to God -- thanking HIM for all he has done for me. Wishing you and everyone that certain peace that comes through God and Christ. Today and always.

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BUGGYS 12/10/2010 8:57AM

Thanks, Barb! I wish everyone peace during the season and beyond. When my DH and I get our tree lit we often sit on the couch side by side with the Christmas music playing and the candles lit and reflect on our life together...all of the ups and downs...and we come to the realization that Christmas and the peace it brings should be felt all year long!

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CONCHA77 12/10/2010 8:12AM

    Thank You, Barb. Awesome blog, so very thoughtful. Peace to you and your family this Christmas and always.

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 12/10/2010 7:56AM

    Thank you for this oasis in the desert of hustle and bustle. May you keep finding and treasuring Peace. emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 12/10/2010 7:52AM

    I feel the peace girl!!! Thank yu for reminding me what Christmas is all about!

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DEBRITA01 12/10/2010 7:22AM

    Yours was the first blog I read today...thanks for sharing. Wishing you continued peace and contentment this holiday season...

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Goal weight is NOT a holiday

Thursday, December 09, 2010

For those of us who have battled overeating (and weight) most of our lives, there may have been some baggage associated with the very concept of "goal weight". We may have invested it, in our minds, with some unrealistic expectations.

I've used the example of goal weight as a "finish line" before. The concept that you stop "dieting" when you reach it is a set-up for failure.

But how about Goal Weight as a holiday: Christmas morning? You wake up, and there, bright and shiny, wrapped in a bow, is the magic number on your scale! That means that Christmas has arrived... you can eat, drink and be merry, and open all those packages that you just KNOW Santa has left for you: love, success, happiness! Only... those packages don't have your dreams in them. Instead, you unwrap them to find... it's still your life!

What to do about this revelation? Give up and go back to old habits? Be honest, didn't a lot us do that? I know I did! More than once.

So, over the decades, I've had to adjust my thinking about Goal Weight. In the end, I decided I don't really have a goal weight. WalkingAnnie introduced me to the concept of "home" weight range in a blog sometime in the past year. Home weight is where one feels fit and healthy. Yes, monitored by tracking, to make sure we haven't strayed too far from home.

This change in thinking has made it possible (for me) to keep up the healthy habits, to stop the blame game for slips on maintenance, and to feel gratefully in recovery. One day at a time. I haven't really THOUGHT much about the numbers in a couple of months now, beyond the morning weigh-in, "yes, I had a lot of sodium yesterday, it's up a bubble", or "I was right, it's back down again", or "yikes that's lower than usual... am I dehydrated?"... then another, "that's more like it, got my water in". Weight fluctuates, but I'm more comfy... I'm "home" and have been for four months now.

Maybe if I start thinking about the bumps up as being the "HoliDAY" (not holiWEEK, or holiMONTH), and keep on coming "home"... this will be truly what I pray for: healthy living for the rest of my life!

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PATRISNA 12/12/2010 4:51PM

    I like this concept that Walking Annie came up with and you blogged about. It is better than the term goal weight. I am rethinking a lot of my goals. I am pretty happy with my current weight. But this was not my original goal weight. So I am still trying to lose that 20 something pounds. Then I'll see what the home weight plan does for me. I really think it will work for me.

During "the summer of my plateau" (sounds like a book title) I realized being healthy and feeling good about myself is more important to me than constant mental anguish over the number on the scale.


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REJ7777 12/11/2010 4:30PM

    Thank you for writing this blog. Reality never quite measures up to fairy tale "happy ever after" endings. I know I've expected too much out of weight loss before, and the disillusionment led to regaining the weight. I'm not sure I'm completely free of those "fairy tale" expectations. Getting to goal weight won't give me a 20-year-old body again. I want my healthy choices (and results) to be balanced and based on reality (a fit 60-year-old). I believe that's something I'm learning on SP, and through blogs like this one. emoticon

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 12/10/2010 7:59AM

    I like this concept. Thanks for the new thoughts.

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CAREN_BLUEJEANS 12/10/2010 7:58AM

    "Home weight" is an awesome concept! It's a place to arrive at, that meets my needs, filled with love & comfort, a reflection of my style. I'm going to adopt this.

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DEBRITA01 12/10/2010 7:31AM

    I, too, like your concept of Home puts maintenance in perspective. I will remember that when I get to maintenance some day.

emoticonAnd it is a holiDAY, not week, or month...making good choices each day and breaking it down will enable us to celebrate without overindulging.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 12/9/2010 4:15PM

    What a great blog, Barb. I've "been there/done that" too many times to count. And it was just a year or so ago when I decided that the number on the scale was just that: a number. What really mattered was how I was feeling. I know that I feel better when I eat more healthy foods and exercise. And, as a result (duh!) I lose weight. Who cares what the number is? In fact, this year, I put the quantum scale on my gift list. It's a scale that keeps track of your weight but only tells you how much you've lost or gained. A perfect fix for those who need to weigh every day but get caught-up in the number.

Congratulations on your success not only in weight loss and maintenance, but in the way you think about all of it. To me, that's the single most important aspect of it all.

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PENNYAN45 12/9/2010 2:45PM

    I liked the concept of home weight when Annie first used it. It is a positive way to view that 'end' weight.

I am forming a concept in my mind of a 'livable' weight. I see it as a weight that I can hold easily while not feeling as if I am 'dieting' or depriving myself every day. I don't want to expend a lot of energy in maintaining my new lower weight. I merely want to continue with good, healthful eating habits - and exercise. My livable weight may very well end up being a little higher that my original goal weight. We'll see.

You are so right, though, that the goal weight does not bring with it all the GLORY of success. We still must deal with our lives and whatever problems there are. It is important to understand that -- so we can avoid discouragement and disappointment when we finally reach our goal.

Thanks for blogging so regularly during this busy season. I find I only have time to log in with food and exercise -- but not to blog. It's nice to be able to read yours.

Penny An

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BUGGYS 12/9/2010 12:21PM

    Home weight...a great concept!!! I have alot of traveling to do before I make it home! emoticon

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JHADZHIA 12/9/2010 9:47AM

    I LOVE the concept of a home weight!! Well done to WalkingAnnie for coming up with that!!! Its very true that it is how you feel that really counts. Right now I have been hovering around 121 and that seems to be my happy weight, but I don't stress if it goes up or down a little because I feel good and fit and know very well weight fluctuates which is why I choose to weigh in only once a week. That is all the attention the scale deserves. My focus is entirely on my healthy lifestyle..
All the best getting through the holiday season with your sanity and most of your home weight intact!

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ANDI571 12/9/2010 9:45AM

    I like that idea of "home" weight also. I know when I lost before, it was always 5 or 10 pounds more. I got so focused on that, I didn't enjoy just being "home". I think I will adopt that concept too.

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TEACHINMOM 12/9/2010 8:32AM

    Great view on the subject. I'm not very serious about my "goal" weight at this point because I don't know where I will feel that "home" range, fit and healthy. I give a number because I'm supposed too, but this is just life now, not a goal to meet and then "go back to normal!!"
You are doing awesome ~ I think, so long as the thinking changes during the journey that we'll get to that "home" range and be able to stay!! That would mean since you've hit that range, AND your thinking has changed, you're there!! Keep up the great work and the awesome blogs!!

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LJCANNON 12/9/2010 8:30AM

    I like the concept of a 'Home Weight'. Since I had never even dreamt of reaching my "Goal Weight" before Spark, I really didn't have any plans for what was going to happen when I got there.
SparkPeople has been the key to learning that this is a Lifestyle. Although I am no longer trying to lose anything, I do know that I will have to monitor my Diet & Activity forever.
emoticonWith the Friends I have here and at Curves, Maintenance should be a Holiday every day.
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