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Reprise: Goal weight is kind of LIKE a Holiday, though

Monday, December 20, 2010

I wrote a blog ten days ago about how goal weight NOT being a holiday.

Thinking about it again this morning, as I'm fighting a "bah, humbug" attitude four days before Christmas, I'm thinking maybe in some ways Goal Weight is LIKE a holiday. Specifically in my cultural tradition it's a little like Christmas. At least there is a temptation for many of us make it so.

1. We make a BIG deal about reaching it. The DAY of Christmas is so big on our calendar, as is the reaching of that number on the scale.

2. We work for months preparing for it.

3. We put high expectations on it and how it will feel and be.

4. We go through mood swings leading up to it as we fear and anticipate whether those expectations will be met. (Eating sugary treats leading up to Christmas can contribute to mood swings, too.)

5. We can experience huge disappointment if our expectations are not met. Or if we compare gifts and think somebody else's (given or received) is "better"!

6. We may experience a slump in mood AFTER the big day, whether it met our expectations as a day or not. If it was a great day, the slump that it's over... no more excitement (and taking ourselves back off all that sugar, too). If it was not such a great day... disappointment may turn into a downward spiral of "what's the use"?

Now that I'm at "home" weight range, and have worked hard to take the holiday out of goal weight... it dawns on me that I might need to work at taking the cycle of expectations and mood swings out of Christmas, too (again... I have to work at this every year)!

It's easy to get caught up in the holiday commercials... and not everybody's life matches them. For myself and my friends and family: Here's to a real Christmas for all... the quiet entering of the Love of God into each heart... meek and simple and recognized for the great gift that this Love is.

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BUGGYS 12/21/2010 7:46AM

    Another gret blog and may we all find peace this holiday season!

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DEBRITA01 12/20/2010 9:33PM

    Liked the analogy...although I have not reached goal weight, I can understand your point. Too often we get caught up in our expectations and don't appreciate where we are or what we have.

emoticonWishing you peace and contentment as you celebrate the true meaning of Christmas...

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ANDI571 12/20/2010 6:51PM

    So true....I feel so blessed this year with all of the medical issues behind me, and I am here to just witness the true meaning of Christmas.

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WISEONE68 12/20/2010 8:42AM

    Love it--so true!! Enjoy your "holiday" and have a Merry Christmas!!! emoticon

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MICKEYMAX 12/20/2010 8:27AM

    It's hard for me to believe we are so close to Christmas. SP suggested I give myself more time to reach my current goal weight, so that's what I did. I adjusted my goal. It's all good!

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 12/20/2010 8:16AM

    Thank you. May you have a real Christmas this year, too.

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 12/20/2010 8:10AM

    Great blog! Thank you!!

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Behaving better this Sunday than last...

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Last Sunday was my panicky binge day. I climbed back on the recovery wagon and behaved myself the rest of the week. I feel good about that. As long as I just keep on keeping on, "majority rules" kicks in. I survived two work luncheons in the week.

Strengthened by the good week of recovery and self-talk, today is shaping up much better. I've been getting ready for next weekend, trying to tidy up the house, preparing the three kinds of beans for the chili, and avoiding baking. If I *do* bake any more for Christmas, it will be at the last minute so I can give the results to others right away!

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REJ7777 12/23/2010 8:02PM


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DEBRITA01 12/19/2010 9:00PM

    emoticonYou had a good recovery week and have a good mindset which will help you this coming week.

Baking is fun and makes the house smell good...glad to hear you give away the tempting goods though. I did the same with my excess and it worked out well.
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CAPECODBABE 12/19/2010 8:31PM

you sound like you have in under control emoticon

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SAMI199 12/19/2010 8:13PM

    Good recovery! I am doing the last minute baking thing,too.I figure when I see the car in the driveway it should be

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LJCANNON 12/19/2010 7:43PM

    I am so glad that we are all in this together. The Old Habits do die hard, don't they?
emoticonBut by Sparking and leaning on our SparkFriends, eventually our New Habits will take over completely.

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 12/19/2010 5:43PM

    I'm like you on the baking! Avoiding my weak area! emoticon

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ANDI571 12/19/2010 4:38PM

    Good for you getting back on the band wagon. That's what it is all about. emoticon

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WALKINGANNIE 12/19/2010 3:54PM

    emoticon Great job on beating the blahs.

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I think that, like many others, we will both have to be in this for the long haul because it is still easy to slip off the wagon. The main thing is that you CAN do this and ARE doing it. You are doing a great job and are a shining example of Sparking in action.

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SUNNY1432 12/19/2010 3:27PM

    emoticon Congrats!! I hope you get everything done before Christmas and enjoy giving away all those baked goodies!! emoticon
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Like a little child

Saturday, December 18, 2010

I love mornings. Each day dawns with new possibilities. I'm not just talking about weight and health and exercise here... I'm talking about life. Work, home, loved ones, weather, play, surprises, routine... the whole ball of wax.

I was reading a few Spark blogs this morning, as I do at the beginning of almost every day now. One of them that I happened across shared a visit to a second-grade class, and marveled over the hope and joy the children had.

What a great attitude to cultivate. If each day I start with the hope of a little child... and keep a child's positive outlook as the day progresses... what a great life to live!

OK, I'm probably idealizing the child's point of view here... I'm clearly thinking of a beloved child, who has parent(s) that care for his/her needs. As a grown-up, I have the privilege of being both the cared for child, and the caring parent. Even if my own parents weren't perfect, I have the chance to make better nurturing decisions now. I can build that attitude of caring / being cared for, right within my own life, one decision at a time.

As child, when faced with a decision, I can be pretty willful about what I think I want. What would a LOVING parent do for the child in this situation? First, a love parent would KNOW the child. Knowing the child, would the parent put the child down for a nap? Feed the child? Encourage the child to go outside and play? Distract the child? Hug the child?

Today, I resolve to nurture that little child. And, as that little child, I resolve to trust the wisdom of my loving Parent.

May your day be full of hope, joy, and love.

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BUGGYS 12/19/2010 10:05AM

    Loved this blog, Barb! Thank you! emoticon

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SUNNY1432 12/18/2010 10:55PM

    emoticon blog, very insightful.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 12/18/2010 9:46AM

    Very poignant.

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KASEYCOFF 12/18/2010 9:46AM

    Good thoughts, Barb - I love where your mind goes when you get sparked by an idea. :-D

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Majority Rules

Friday, December 17, 2010

The big picture. My friend WalkingAnnie is still inspiring me, and her blog from the 15th
spoke to me again.

It is an interesting trick of mental balance to keep the focus on the "Big Picture" without having those days of panic over a "bad" day. What qualifies as a "bad" day in my mind has changed, over time... and what I do about a "bad" day has changed, too.

Still, I do feel an urgency about diligence in keeping the overall balance. For while being kind to myself about "slips"... I cannot let the "slip" days become the majority of my week or worse, month.

Balancing this is the comfort of knowing that even if I should do that... there is a new emoticon available. Right now. Today. This moment. And once you're on the balanced life cycle, the majority behavior will rule.

We're worth it! And we *can* do this!

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WALKINGANNIE 12/17/2010 4:21PM

    Hello. emoticon

I really like the idea of a new day 1 being available.

Like many others here, we're both in the situation of having lost weight before and then regained. We both know the bad things that can happen when we go off plan. In the past, my bad days would gradually become the normal days and I would move from initial guilt to longer-term denial. Weight gain would be inevitable.

For me I think that the difference with Spark is that it is available as a support mechanism 24/7 with people who understand the challenges. I've never had that before. If I log in every day, or as often as I can, then I can't go into denial because the awareness is always there. I'm also aware that I'd be letting the side down as well as myself.

I'm very proud to be your friend Barb and to keep on learning so much from you. Getting to know you has helped me to get to know me - and you rock.

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SWEETMAGNOLIA2 12/17/2010 1:58PM

    Very true. emoticon

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KATHRYNLP 12/17/2010 9:28AM

    Great Blog.. thanks!

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J-ALEXIS 12/17/2010 9:04AM

    What a wonderful post!! How many of us slip and then let that slip turn into a week or even a month of overeating--always thinking we will begin again on Monday or at the start of a new month. You are correct in saying, "Right now. Today. This moment"



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LOVE_2_LAUGH 12/17/2010 8:47AM

    Bravo! Well said. How easy it is for us to dwell on the negative rather than the positive. Is it human nature or just a common personality flaw? It's kind of like the theory that it takes more facial muscles to frown than to smile. I think it takes a lot more energy to focus on the negative than the positive. I'm not one for making New Year's resolutions, but perhaps "Focus on the Positive" and "Just for Today" should be my two.

As always, thanks for the blog and food for thought.

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MEDDYPEDDY 12/17/2010 7:51AM

    I have that problem...the slip days tends to become majority because I use them to feel like a failure.

Good blog, thanks!

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MSLZZY 12/17/2010 7:48AM

    It is all about balance! You are worth it and you deserve it. HUGS!

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FCARMICH 12/17/2010 7:43AM

  one day at a time

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Recovery tools: just for today.

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Hi, my name is Barb and I am a compulsive overeater.

Well, as many comments posted their anticipation of success for me yesterday, based on my "preparation" blog to myself pep talk... it WAS a good day, neither deprived nor excessive. One day is all we can really expect of ourselves.

One day. No promises for tomorrow. Just for today. For me, it is the only way to get through a holiday season laden with temptations.

For today... "normal" foods and "normal" activity.

Speaking of activity: my Christmas present to myself showed up on my doorstep yesterday... which is why you saw the nostalgic status about Richard Simmons yesterday evening. I remember watching his show in the 1980's. I remember the inspiring success stories. I remember the workouts that even I could do.

After getting his Sweatin' to the Oldies 2 as a Netflix selection last week, I decided to check out whether anyone was selling the collection, and I found it... and that's my gift to myself. Last night I popped in the first one and while Richard led the workout to the music of the 1950's, I was on the treadmill (no, not dancing yet, and maybe never). It felt good and uplifting.

And it got me to thinking about all the role models, all the inspirational gurus have had the right idea over the years. Listen to them. They all have the same message: you're worth it and you CAN do it. Some of us have to hear the message over and over and over again before we act on it. So, if that's you (me), keep listening!

They all pretty much have the same mechanics: eat right, in the right portion sizes and proportions of nutrients, and exercise. Their ways of counting may differ, but it doesn't matter: whatever we use to keep track and stay motivated is A-OK by me.

Today's gurus HAVE to include Chris Downey and this wonderful tool called It has all the same elements, right here, and for that matter, for free.

Each and every one who reads this is worth the effort to take care of him or herself today. Just for today. May it be a good one... for you!

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KASEYCOFF 12/16/2010 2:39PM

    I was reading something the other day that said 'All diets can work, but the best diet is the one that you can live with.' I think you're right on the money with all of them having basically the same info. There's the tools - including SP. It's what we do with them that makes all the difference, ain't? One day - and one pound - at a time, hon. :-)

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 12/16/2010 10:57AM

    I need to put a little note next to my bed (perhaps cover up the clock/radio with it!) that reads: "JUST FOR TODAY". Such a simple concept, and something I need to focus on more.

Congratulations on taking it one day at a time and experiencing great success yesterday!

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MSLZZY 12/16/2010 8:05AM

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