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Tuesday, January 11, 2011

This was "one of those days" at work. Pulled in a million directions. Made a gaffe that cost several people an hour or two of their own time wasted. I work with a terrific bunch of people and I really do hate to inconvenience any of them. They are understanding and supportive and we DO forgive one another when the inevitable humanity creeps in. We use it as a project in self-learning and improvement. BUT I still get mad at myself, because don't cha know, I'm supposed to be... ummm... perfect? Yeppers!

So, I fixed what I could as quickly as I could, then took a brisk walk in the basement of the office building to get my self-flagulation under control. When I returned to the desk, things looked better.

After work, I hopped on the treadmill and did my three miles while NCIS was on the TV. Amazing how moving the body helps put things in a much more positive light. And in the end, despite all that craziness, I still have to call this a good day. I ate in my range, and did my exercise.

Now to a well-deserved shower and bedtime!

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MSLZZY 1/12/2011 10:43PM

    Great way to de-stress, especially when it is self-inflicted. I do that, too!

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BUGGYS 1/12/2011 9:19AM

    After all the stuff at work you still got in your exercise and felt better for it...sure is better than a bag of chips, don't you think? emoticon emoticon

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CONCHA77 1/12/2011 8:38AM

    I had one of those days at work Monday -And me being the the new kid on the block? It's been eating me up since. Maybe I will jump on the tread today and work it all off this morning,

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EFELL123 1/12/2011 4:19AM

    Congratulations on the healthy eating and exercise. I really think that when we take care of ourselves physically it helps us handle things that occur in life in a much more positive manner!

Turning to a walk instead of cookies or junk food is impressive!! What a great habit you've adopted.


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LJCANNON 1/12/2011 1:55AM

    I love your walk in the Basement at work. That is the 'Perfect' way to deal with the situation...............OOPS, did I say the P-Word? emoticon

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MNTWINSGAL 1/11/2011 10:41PM

    Some days are just like that....but I'm glad you didn't let it get to you too much.

Having the TV in front of the treadmill really does help, don't you think?

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ANDI571 1/11/2011 10:12PM

    When did the concept of perfection come in? A perfect wife, perfect mother, perfect co-worker a perfect spark friend? It's no wonder we turn to food. Good for you getting on the tread mill. I have found that even if I walk in place during my shows, it will help calm the nerves. Keep up the good work.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 1/11/2011 9:47PM

    We tend to be our own worst critic. Glad you were able to turn your day around with a little bit of exercise. Have a great evening.

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Muffled stillness and sparkles

Monday, January 10, 2011

"The moon on the face of the new-fallen snow, gave a luster of mid-day to objects below." Thus says Clement C. Moore in a Visit from St. Nicolas. I've always loved that line. It so completely captures how I felt this morning at 4:30 a.m. as I stood among the sparkles filling my driveway and smoothing the lines of the suburban neighborhood where I live.

It was so still I was not about to try to start the snow-blower, even if I had total confidence that my repairs of yesterday afternoon would be effective.

I love the stillness, when it's not too cold and the wind is light or absent. It is so beautiful, so peaceful. And in the stillness this morning, I realized something: this was another moment of functional fitness. I am not intimidated by the white stuff. I can wield this shovel! I can clear this property... just me, my trusty shovel, and my 58-year-old muscles!

This, ladies and gents, is why I work out. So that I can do what needs doing, when it needs doing. Whether that's running up ten flights of stairs to evade a fire in a tall building, or simply making our neighborhood safe for dog-walkers.

And in the process, we might get a poetic treat or two, in the muffled stillness, amid the sparkling new snow.

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KALIGIRL 1/11/2011 1:10PM

    Wasn't it wonderful?
The snow was so light and dry and the lack of wind made it perfect.

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LINDAJOYWK 1/11/2011 6:49AM

    Barb-you are still my hero! I shovel too-but I don't find peace in the process,maybe
a few choice words? I do get pleasure watching Moses romp & play in the white
stuff-almost convinced me to make a snow angel/or snowman-ALMOST! emoticon

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LJCANNON 1/11/2011 1:35AM

    emoticonThis is a Beautiful Blog!! You have put into words so well what I feel about being ABLE to do things.
I can practically FEEL the Peace flowing from your house into my Life.
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MSLZZY 1/10/2011 9:42PM

    It is wonderful to use the muscles God gave us for something more than
walking to the refrigerator and back. I enjoyed my hour of shoveling snow.
It relieved stress and was a great workout for the body and mind.

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SUNNY1432 1/10/2011 7:22PM

    I missed the early morning peace, since I was hoping to get in an uninterrupted workout, but the kids and I enjoyed the snow later. They played while I shoveled and they didn't want to leave the white powder they were having so much fun.
Great Positive Attitude and quote! emoticon

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SUNNY332 1/10/2011 6:50PM

    Being fit and healthy gives us confidence that no diet can provide.

Keep up the great work.

Loved the line...perfect for us today too.


Josh is stranded in Atlanta. Keep him in your thoughts.

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REJ7777 1/10/2011 5:44PM

    Your blog made me smile - because of the thoughts of stillness, the beauty of soft snow, as well as the "non-noise" of shoveling and physical fitness. emoticon

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ANDI571 1/10/2011 3:22PM

    I applaud you for being 58 and able to do those things which need to be done. I haven't shoveled snow in so long, it just about scares me. D1 loves to shovel snow, and that is one job I haven't done since my dad passed away. That is what being healthy is all about. It's about not having to rely on anyone other than yourself to get around. emoticon

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 1/10/2011 3:21PM

    Yes, there's nothing more peaceful, to me, than a light snowfall at night, with no wind. It's like everything is standing still for that one moment in time.

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BUGGYS 1/10/2011 2:50PM

    Leading a healthy lifestyle makes you stronger! emoticon emoticon

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DEBRITA01 1/10/2011 2:48PM

    You are fit and ABLE to do what needs to get done...the benefits of your healthier lifestyle are endless... emoticon emoticon

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TEACHINMOM 1/10/2011 2:33PM

    WOO-HOO!! How awesome is that ~ to KNOW, without a doubt, that YOU can handle it ~ all by yourself!? That is just why I want to keep working out and getting more fit! To handle whatever life throws my way ~ whenever!! WTG!

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Repetitive messages in blogging

Sunday, January 09, 2011

I was looking back for some blogs I wrote a year ago, this morning. I was looking for the point at which I declared myself to be in maintenance mode... which truly was about that long ago. The results of 2010 were far beyond my expectations... I had no idea I'd drop another 20 pounds over the course of the year! I just wanted NOT TO REGAIN!

What I found, instead of what I was looking for... was a very similar theme to what I've been writing recently! Apparently, I have to hear the same pep talks from myself... over, and over, and over.

So please forgive an "old lady" for her repetitive telling of the same tale. As with many lessons in life, repetition of the lesson helps firm it up in one's mind. I think it's called... studying? For a test? The test might be called "maintenance" or "life".

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CONCHA77 1/11/2011 7:35PM

    Never ever get tired of reading your blogs, Barb. Keep em coming! Great going on your weight loss/maintenance! emoticon

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KALIGIRL 1/10/2011 1:06PM

    emoticonway to sum up the journey.
The more we practice, the better we get!

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WALKINGANNIE 1/9/2011 5:44PM

    Repetition and reinforcement are important and your success in 2010 is brilliantly inspiring. You surpassed your own goals. That must be so satisfying for your "inner-competitor"!

Your pep talks were for you but many of us eavesdropped and benefitted. I, for one, am very grateful.

Have a great week.


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KASEYCOFF 1/9/2011 5:40PM

    Nothing wrong with reinforcing 'the message' to yourself, hon! After all, meditation is a focus of the thoughts on a manta or phrase or idea - so why not give yourself the message of 'health' over and over? Seems like a good idea to me, and you have to admit, it seems to be working, lol... emoticon

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SUNNY332 1/9/2011 3:23PM

    We absolutely forgive your for being "human" and know you will extend the kindness to us when we do this.

Have a GREAT week.


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JUST_TRI_IT 1/9/2011 1:11PM

    No problem! Hey if anything some of us might have missed the first one, second of tenth one!!! AND if we did not miss them, we needed to hear it again too :)

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 1/9/2011 12:21PM

    Absolutely! And, for what it's worth, I never get tired of reading your blogs. And, for that matter, I've not noticed much repetitiveness. I read somewhere that you have to hear/read a new idea seven times before you're ready to accept it. I know that's true with my DH -- when I want to do something different (or whatever) I know I need to start early suggesting it to him. His basic response to everything is "no," so if I can repeat the idea several times, he starts thinking about it and most of the time he's willing to agree. So, keep repeating yourself if that's what it takes to reinforce and motivate. Just know that through your blogs you inspire me (and others, I'm sure) to continue on so that we can get to the point you're at. Take care!

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VALERIEMAHA 1/9/2011 12:10PM

    I am SO right there with the importance of repetition. They've been doing it for 100's and 1000's of years in religious traditions. Mantra repetition: "Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on me," "Hari Rama," "Om Mani Padme Hum," etc., and we've established the importance of repeating positive affirmations for healing illness, whether emotional or physical. It just makes good sense that repetition of the values and behavior that are important to us is useful, even essential.

Your success is awe-inspiring!
BTW, we'll be hovering around a low of 15 for several days here in the mid-south.

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BUGGYS 1/9/2011 11:34AM

    I agree with Deb that repetition reinforces the tools that we have learned and replaces the good habits with the bad so you are forgiven...I need to give myself encouragement everyday to get me through and reading your blobs has helped me to keep on!

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ANDI571 1/9/2011 11:06AM

    No problem, I have noticed I need the same pep talks too. Keep them coming. emoticon

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REDDIRTRUNNER 1/9/2011 10:50AM

    cute emoticon

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MNTWINSGAL 1/9/2011 9:27AM

    We are all creatures of habit, and this must be the mood you are in post-holidays. But these pep talks are obviously working for I say, keep it up! It doesn't hurt your blog-readers to be reminded of the same messages. In fact, I think you help motivate in ways you don't even realize!

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REJ7777 1/9/2011 9:20AM

    I think that we always have to come back to basics. We need to be reminded over and over again of what works. There IS no new, magic recipe for weight control! So thanks for repeating what needs to be repeated! emoticon

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DRB13_1 1/9/2011 8:52AM

    emoticon The fact that the same message reverberates in your blogs means A) it's important, B) it's part of your success and C) you know what you need and feel. Sounds like it is meant to be! Congrats on a year of even better "maintenance" than expected!

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DEBRITA01 1/9/2011 8:44AM

    Repetition is a good reinforces what we already know. I watch my 2 year-old GS learn a new skill...small kids love repetition. It allows them to practice their skills.

Don't view it as repetition, only reaffirmation...and I love your blogs ~just the way they are. So inspirational!

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RETRAC57 1/9/2011 8:18AM

    Don't worry it happens to us all sometimes! Just keep trying and we will get there.

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SHARON2014 1/9/2011 8:09AM

    Don't worry -- I would not notice the I age I have found I only need one book and one movie any more... emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 1/9/2011 8:03AM

    You are a great inspiration to me---Keep it up! I enjoy reaDING YOUR BLOGS! emoticon

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SAILSCALL 1/9/2011 7:42AM

    You're forgiven. Keep up the good work.

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Mindset: competition? Or enough?

Saturday, January 08, 2011

I've disclosed my competitive nature in blogs in the past... competitive, it's all about me, me, me! And then the guilt because I've always been taught that selflessness is what it's really all about! And the competitor is definitely a selfish mindset.

I read NURSECLARA's blog this morning that discussed sabotage...

She begins describing sabotage by a "friend", giving her a gift that would undermine her efforts. But then she went on to discuss SELF sabotage. Great blog. I recommend it.

And it got me to thinking about ways in which the competitor in me prevented me from succeeding in weight loss and maintenance for years... nay, decades! Why? Because I'm NOT "the biggest loser". And I'm not a world-class athlete. I'm just me. And in terms of physical gifts, honestly, I'm kinda average. In between somewhere.

And the competitor in me doesn't LIKE average very much! The competitor in me would rather "not try" than try and not be "top man in the class." This is a HUGE self-sabotage!

A week or so ago, I blogged about "as good as it gets".
This was a huge break-through for me. As good as it gets IS good enough. The competitor that wants to be "top" man or woman? That's the emoticon evil voice, the saboteur!

We can all be "as good as we can get", and be content. Even me.

Bright January Saturday wishes for all! emoticon

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4DOGNIGHT 1/11/2011 8:08AM

    Thank you. I came to your blog via ANDI571 and her blog about self-sabotage. Now I am off to read NurseCLara's blog!

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JUST_TRI_IT 1/9/2011 1:15PM

    Kasey's daughter's words: maximizer and satisfizer... sure do fit . Being comfortable with who we are but not limiting ourselves I think is part of self-knowledge. At this point, I'm not so sure I know what my maximum is. I think that I stop before I really hit my own maximum for fear it won't actually be that "good." Lots more learning to do.


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KASEYCOFF 1/9/2011 6:07AM

    My daughter says there are 'maximizers' and 'satisfizers': the maximizer will look at every way to accomplish something, make charts, weigh all the pros and cons, etc. The satisfizer will consider a few options and as soon as she reaches a 'good' one will stop there and proceed.

I think satisfizers recognize 'as good as it gets,' or even 'as good as it needs to be' and are content (satisfied). Maximizers always think there's something more, something better, the (dare I say it) perfect way, perfect solution, that's out there.

It's hard to be a satisfizer and takes continual effort and awareness. Thinks me. emoticon

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MSLZZY 1/8/2011 11:24PM

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REJ7777 1/8/2011 7:33PM

    Most people are average - that why it's called *average*! And yet, I wouldn't be surprised if many of us can relate to your struggle with the idea of being just *average*. I wonder if part of it is how our parents pushed us to get top grades in school, to be better than others. We were never rewarded for being *average*. At least, I sure wasn't. But average IS OK!

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GOHUSKERS2 1/8/2011 3:52PM

    I agree with others here, and that it speaks to me, and most of us. We set ourselves up. You have done a marvelous job of lousing and getting back in shape and you are an inspiration. Don't beat your self up so much. Look where you where at this time last year and where you are now.....awesome!

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WALKINGANNIE 1/8/2011 2:57PM

    Wise words. Here's to being as good as we can get at our chosen activities and recognising that we can't be best in the class at everything.

(but you are pretty darned good!)

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 1/8/2011 11:06AM

    Your blog speaks to most of us, I think. It's good to be a competitor but there's a fine line between competing to do our best (and maybe a little extra) to keep motivated and competing to be the best of everyone. I know I'm guilty of it. Heck, when my boys were young and we'd play CandyLand, I'd get ticked if I couldn't win. How sad is that?! LOL! So thanks for the reminder that we just need to focus on ourselves -- even in competition. As long as we give it our best effort and do the best we can, we are on top. We're on top of ourselves.

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ANDI571 1/8/2011 10:42AM

    I haven't quite figured out what is sabotaging me, other than myself. I told D1 this morning. I only have 4 pounds to lose to get to goal, but it seems so unattainable. I know why I am not getting there. It is as simple as overeating. I am maintaining, and that is good, but not losing. I don't know if I am self-sabotaging, or am I just bored right now because of the winter months?

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What have I got myself into?

Friday, January 07, 2011

Ever notice when you impulsively set a goal, start making your determination to chase a dream more real... there is an initial excitement that sees you through the first few days. And then, the reaction hits: "What have I got myself into?"

It's kind of like the ancient FedEx commercial: "I can do that. I can do that. I can do that.... How am I gonna DO that?" At least, in my experience.

So it is with this "speed walk a half-marathon May 1st" goal. Thank goodness today is a rest day on the schedule. I will try to get in some strength training emoticon this evening. I am having to make adjustments because all this pre-training and training takes up a resource that is NOT expandable: time. emoticon

What am I willing to change to make room for it? I have already made a few adjustments: the aforementioned strength training has dropped to the two "off" days from the mileage walking days. It looks as though training to WALK emoticon a half marathon is going to take more of a time commitment than training to RUN emoticon one. Doh! emoticon

I made it through the first three days, treadmill walking. Today is an off day. Tomorrow and Sunday will tell the tale of how well this works in with snow shoveling. The next couple of weeks will reveal how well it works with travel days thrown in. And so on. This is a long-term thing.

I expect it will eat in to my Spark time, somewhat. (The travel days for sure will!) If I disappear off and on, to pop back up and say "I'm still here", don't be surprised. That's what happens with time... and "doing it" is a higher priority than writing about it. emoticon

All that said, I still firmly believe that one can stay fit without doing things like walking a half marathon. But for some of us, the carrot of the goal is what keeps us moving!

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MSLZZY 1/8/2011 7:50AM

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WALKINGANNIE 1/7/2011 6:21PM

    You express your 'dilemma' very eloquently Barb and I hear what you are saying about the choices. You know what will give you the most satisfaction and will make you feel that you have had a good day on your new scale. If you're MIA because you're 'doing it' rather than 'writing about it' then it would be a healthy call on your part. I would miss your blogs very much if that's what you decide but a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do and we would understand. On the other hand, if you think that implementing your plan in full might be too stressful then there's no shame in keeping things manageable. You know how far you can stretch your time without moving from motivation to emotional burn-out.

Whatever you decide I'm sure that you will have given careful thought to your plan and so your decision will be the right one for you.


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ANDI571 1/7/2011 4:05PM

    You are so awesome. I give up after walking up and down the steps twice. As soon as I get winded I quit. You are quite a woman.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 1/7/2011 1:02PM

    As long as you continue to work towards the goal, that's what counts. And, I think as time goes on, you may find that your schedule rearranges itself to make room for the training time. You'll adjust other areas of your life (like sparking) to make it work. You can do it!

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BUGGYS 1/7/2011 12:11PM

    Walking and training for a marathon and the time it requires is so much more important than being on the computer...I haven't quite figured out how I can exercise and spark at the same time! emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 1/7/2011 11:03AM

    Barb, great goal! You can do it!! I bet you will find it is worth it. Thanks for sharing your observations on the stages of adapting a goal. Very insightful!!

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HOT4FITNESS 1/7/2011 9:23AM

    Don't sweat it! Remember we are not racing, so we finish when we finish. Are we crazy? Of course. I agree that we can definitly stay fit without walking any marathons or any road races for that matter. It is the sense of accomplishment, when all is said and done. Train as you can and do what you can. But make sure you have "me" time in there to. Taking care of our spiritual selves is just as important as the physical. Training will be take some work, but the reward is so worth it!!

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SUNNY332 1/7/2011 9:16AM

    You will do it and you will do it in style. That emoticon is yours for the taking.

I have confidence you will figure it out and be there to collect your reward as planned.

You inspire me - always.


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DEBRITA01 1/7/2011 9:08AM

    emoticon Time is precious and there never seems to be enough hours in one day. You will prioritize and find the balance that works for you.

You'll be missed when away from SP, but we all understand and support you as you reach for that carrot! emoticon

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