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Procrastination, clutter, decision making, and identity

Sunday, March 13, 2011

My brother refers to the piles of clutter that begin building up almost at once after a thorough cleaning and organizing effort as "decisions not made". My home is full of such piles of "decisions not made". I'll go through the mail, not be ready to immediately reject something, or have the energy to "deal with it", and it goes into a pile. Or I'll pay bills, write the pertinent payment details on them, and needing to them in case of dispute... into another pile they go. And so on.

Oh, I've read the material about how to be organized: only handle each piece of paper once. File in time-boxed periods.

But knowing what to do and doing it are two different things. I don't particularly enjoy this kind of thing. My desk at work is only kept in half-way order about three or four times a year, in those slow bits between development cycles.

Periodically I make a big push at "The Paper Chase". Usually around this time of year. Yesterday I was dragging my feet about starting it. Today I'm working at it. Building consistency is something I need to work at in this area.

One day at a time, in this as in with other things, right? Don't try to take on the world all at once. But don't avoid it, either.

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BRENDA1995 3/14/2011 1:13PM

    Decisions not made, that is so true! Thank you for that point of view. I think it will help me with some of my clutter.

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REJ7777 3/13/2011 10:09PM

    I can sure relate to the challenge. Clutter is, and has always been, a big problem for me. emoticon

Congratulations on "working on it". emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 3/13/2011 5:51PM

    Paper work is awful---and its getting worse! ----But you are sorting it----- Life is full of paper work----- Lynda

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KALIGIRL 3/13/2011 3:43PM

    Love the "decisions not made;
My new year's resolution (for the last 5 years) has been to deal with mail as it comes in. Work (and home life) has been hectic until this weekend and I took Saturday morning as an opportunity to 'find' my piles.
(I was one of those kids who put her clothes under the bed instead of in the hamper - out of did the same before the family arrived for Christmas)
It was a little sad to see the opportunities I missed, but rewarding to write my Christmas thank-yous, respond to wedding invitations, and send checks for retreats and my girlfriend's reunion.
Moving my desk and favorite notecards to the (remodeled) kitchen is working (for me). Love being in the heart of the house.

Hope you find what works for you to make those decisions.
Namaste my friend.

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MNTWINSGAL 3/13/2011 2:57PM

    I'm extremely organized at work, and by the way my desk looks there one would assume my house was neat as a pin. Not so much though.....even though I have filing systems in place, the paper mess has taken over my writing desk, my computer desk, and my kitchen counter. A couple of months ago when I learned I was having company with only minutes to spare, I grabbed a box and put a ton of paper in there. Yep, still there....waiting for me to go through it.

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DAISY443 3/13/2011 2:20PM

    A clean desk is the sign of a messy mind! That's my tenet and I'm skickin' to it! But, good luck with your endeavors!

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MSLZZY 3/13/2011 2:14PM

    Excellent advice-sounds a lot like me!

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DEBRITA01 3/13/2011 1:43PM

    Did I write this blog? LOL This is SO me! "Decisions not made"...I like that...and, you have a wise brother. Another good post, Barb...

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SUNNY332 3/13/2011 1:18PM

    "decisions not made". Wow - I can identify with this one.

Thanks for a great post.


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JANRTEACH 3/13/2011 12:42PM

    I'm with you!!! Thanks for the reminder.

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And the car is back in my garage

Saturday, March 12, 2011

I played with the toys on the way back to get the car. By walking through parks and on the bike trails, I shaved the distance to 5.7 miles, which I covered in 93:35 (subtracting two potty breaks). I have better stats this morning because I used my Christmas present (a GPS) to track distance... across parking lots and parks and all, in pedestrian mode. Like I said, I played with the toys.

The other toy was my MP3 player. The tunes from an ABBA album got me all the way to the high school, and Andre Rieu got me the rest of the way to work.

In the frigid morning (it was about freezing), I noticed others out on the trails. I walked beside a golf course, through two neighborhood parks, past the swimming pool, the Children's Zoo, the community rose garden, through the sunken gardens, past the Basketball Tournament busses parked at a high school, and on to the downtown garage where I park.

Walking helps me fall in love with my local community all over again. Those out taking their air and exercise have smiles for one another and a "good morning". And of course, the endorphins of being in motion myself don't hurt the process a bit.

The car was sitting there waiting for me, and I brought it on home. Hope everyone else has a great Saturday, too.


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DAISY443 3/13/2011 5:39AM

    I enjoy your walks as though I am with you. Please keep on sharing!

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SUNNY1432 3/12/2011 9:59PM

    sounds like a wonderful morning walk!! emoticon I'm hoping for sunshine for you tomorrow. emoticon

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MSLZZY 3/12/2011 7:48PM

    Nice to know the weather seems to be moderating for now! HUGS!

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TURTLETALK 3/12/2011 2:13PM

    What a lovely start to the weekend!

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MOMOF2TONI 3/12/2011 1:06PM

    I love ABBA! The walk sounds so nice. Wishing you a great weekend.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/12/2011 12:09PM

    What a nice way to start your weekend. I didn't know a GPS system could work for pedestrians. I may have to get mine out and play with it, too. When I'm trying to set up a path to walk, I'll often times get in the car and drive it to check out the distance. GPS makes more sense.

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SUNNY332 3/12/2011 12:04PM

    I agree with you and Sharon on Abba.

Sounds like a great morning walk. I have a head cold so have had problems sleeping. I feel like the "walking dead" right now so hoping I get some sleep tonight.

Hugs, Sunny

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MNTWINSGAL 3/12/2011 12:01PM

    Sounds like a great morning! Here the roads and walkways are still covered in snow and ice and the wind is whipping around.....I think I'd like to trade with you, please!

And who wouldn't be motivated by listening to ABBA? Honestly, I can't not start dancing when I hear "Dancing Queen." In fact, I've set it to my cell phone ring tone.

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CHRYS13 3/12/2011 11:46AM

    What an inspiration and motivator you are!!!

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A long walk home

Friday, March 11, 2011

It was such a nice day, I decided I would leave the car in the downtown garage and walk home tonight. Tomorrow I'll reverse the trip to go pick it up. I live 6.64 miles from work, and this is a very friendly town for pedestrians. At least the neighborhoods I had to walk through are... through the college dwelling apartment area I used to live in before I got married back in my student days... on through some "church row" kinds of neighborhoods, and a broad tree-lined boulevard where lots of others were out and about running their dogs or strolling their kids or riding their bikes.

Getting closer to my own neighborhood, I walked across a small church-college campus, then through a park to my own little house. People are clearly glad to see Spring coming so close. Yesterday as I cleaned up the yard (about half done)... I could see the daffodils starting to shoot up their green fingers. You have to love the season of rebirth.

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SUNNY332 3/12/2011 11:33AM

    How wonderful! Glad you enjoyed your walk.


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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/12/2011 10:37AM

    Spring is such an uplifting time of year. I find myself with new hope and new enthusiasm. Hopefully that will translate over to my weight loss efforts.

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BUGGYS 3/12/2011 10:02AM

    I love spring too and was able to get my grandkids outdoors for some much needed play...we walked, we noticed some crocuses and robins...tis the season of renewal! emoticon emoticon

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LEANJEAN6 3/12/2011 9:22AM

    Good way to get yer fitness in!!! We just have old winter up here still----- Good for yu girl!

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FITFABJENN 3/12/2011 9:22AM

    Kudos for taking advantage of the nice weather and getting in some exercise, too!

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MEDDYPEDDY 3/12/2011 9:05AM

    There is still a lot of snow left but the sun is doing a good job every day... I canīt wait! Nice walk!

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CONCHA77 3/12/2011 8:51AM

    Sounds like a great day. We won't be seeing signs of Spring for another couple of weeks up here. I love Spring! emoticon
Enjoy your walk back. Happy Saturday.

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MSLZZY 3/12/2011 7:58AM

    Excellent idea! HUGS and here's to spring!

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DEBRITA01 3/12/2011 6:42AM

    emoticonI think everyone will welcome the opportunity to enjoy the outdoors. That was a good walk...and you get to do it again today! Enjoy it...

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KASEYCOFF 3/12/2011 4:27AM

    Good way to get in a nice walk!

Daffodils: they're out here. A veritable host, a crowd of daffodils, lol...
(No daffodils on the emoticons!)

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DAISY443 3/12/2011 4:09AM

    Ahhh, the amazing thing about your walk was that you were aware-aware of the people around you, the beauty of the landscape. So much better than mindless walking! Hugs!

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MNTWINSGAL 3/12/2011 1:16AM

    Sounds like a great walk, Barb. Congrats on making such a healthy choice!

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JHADZHIA 3/11/2011 11:43PM

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Fantastic! Good for you!
Watching the snow swirling around the window, I can see spring is a long way off for us..

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MOMOF2TONI 3/11/2011 10:13PM

    Great job!! emoticon

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REJ7777 3/11/2011 9:38PM

    emoticon I think we're all looking forward to Spring, and getting back outdoors more. Then again, we have to make the decision to actually get out there! Congratulations on your smart choice! emoticon

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Wednesday, March 09, 2011

A lot of us make lists: to-do lists, wish lists, the infamous "bucket list", lists of resolutions, list of goals. I have this list of things I was putting off doing, "Until the kids move out and the dog dies."

On this list are things to fix around the house: carpets to replace. Furniture to re-upholster. Things that if I did them while the dog still lived here, they'd be ruined in a month or six anyway. So... now I'm sorting through my list, trying to decide which project to take on first. It's a time of limitless opportunity.

No pressure, take it easy, take it slow. But on the other hand, isn't that also how I got to where I am with fitness? One small step at a time!

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MSLZZY 3/11/2011 6:36AM

    Positive attitude! HUGS!

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SUNNY332 3/10/2011 3:04PM

    I use to be a list maker but haven't been as good about it since I retired. I have noticed I don't seem to get as much done either so I am going back to making the lists.

Thanks for posting this - it was something I really needed to read.

Hugs, Sunny

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BUGGYS 3/10/2011 11:54AM

    I am forever making lists and just added to my master list to gut the master bathroom and start's not a big bathroom but need upgrading desperately. I also need to clean out the clutter. Lists keep me motivated to get things done!

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ROCKLAND2010 3/10/2011 8:31AM

    I am also a 'list' person. Just making the list gives me a sense of accomplishment.
Items on a list are goals. Good job with the list!


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DAISY443 3/10/2011 4:13AM

    I have that list, too! Along with my list to do today, my list of things I didn't do yesterday, my long term goals list, and on and on! Fortunately, the world doesn't come to an end if I don't get everything on my list done!

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REJ7777 3/10/2011 1:26AM

    I guess every major change brings it's own *list* of challenges and "to do's". emoticon

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/9/2011 11:09PM

    Lists are the best. They keep me organized and goal-directed. A little something I've been lacking lately. I may have to make a few lists of my own.

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HOT4FITNESS 3/9/2011 10:03PM

    Yes, one small step at a time. Sounds like the 10 mile walk is on that list of "to do's"

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Black eye

Monday, March 07, 2011

Well, purple, really. And not exactly the eye, at its side, and now over the lid on the left hand side. It looks in some ways like a bad job of applying purple eye shadow.

How did I acquire this little gem, you might well ask, and I expect the folks at work will ask!

In yesterday's entry about Diamond's final days, I mentioned she was looking for places to hide and getting stuck. One of the places she got stuck was between the couch and the treadmill. As I extricated her, I managed to forget where the arm on the treadmill was, and bashed the side of my head as I lifted her out. So, I'm walking around with this odd configuration of a bruise.

Thanks to all my spark friends who expressed their sympathy. Today I am at peace with knowing that she's no longer in pain. I walked two hours in the sunshine yesterday afternoon, and thought about the years when she was young and such a runner. In fact the vet mentioned that as we went through the process... she must have been quite the runner. Well she was. She ran like the wind. She loved nothing so much as running with her Golden running buddy, Suzu, when they were both six months old and Suzu's owner and I jogged the same park path. We would let the pups off leash and they exercised one another far more than jogging with a human would do for them.

One time when she was eleven or twelve and we were at the dog park (another leash-free environment) she tried to match strides with a six month old greyhound. Like a quarter horse and a thoroughbred colt, they were. She outpaced the young hound early on, but couldn't go the distance. Still, she was happy, and she was persistent. She was NOT going to give up, and kept inviting the pup to play.

These past couple of years, she has not been able to go as fast or as long, and I could not take the longer walks with her. But yesterday, she ran free beside me, in spirit. We're going to be OK.

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MSLZZY 3/11/2011 6:36AM

    Hope your "shiner" is better. Take care! HUGS!

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LINDAJOYWK 3/9/2011 5:57PM

    I sat & cried at the poem your friend sent. ..Keep hanging in there. God Bless-Linda

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BUGGYS 3/8/2011 8:59AM

    Sorry about the eye and I am so glad you are now at peace with your am I! Someone sent me this poem that I'd like to share with you, Barb.

A Dog Owners Prayer

Have you a dog in Heaven, Lord?
And do you pat his head?
Does he sit up to beg each night
Before he goes to bed?
Does he look up with soulful eyes
When he sees your smiling face?
Does he wag his big, strong tail
When he wants to play and race?
Do you have a dog in Heaven, Lord?
Is there room for just one more?
My faithful dog died today,
He'll be waiting at your door.
Please take him into Heaven, Lord,
And keep him there for me.
Just feed him, pet him, love him, lord,
That's all he'll ask of thee.

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REJ7777 3/7/2011 5:35PM

    OUCH!!! Hope your *purple* eye gets better quickly.

As I was reading about Diamond's younger years, it made me think about how fleeting time is. We take so many things for granted, like being able to take long walks, hike, and run. And how precious the *ordinary* moments of life are. I'm so much more aware of it as I grow older.


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DEBRITA01 3/7/2011 5:13PM

    Glad you are at peace with your decision...sorry though, about the eye! emoticon

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CONCHA77 3/7/2011 2:57PM

    Sorry about your loss, Barb. I didn't realize you lost Diamond. She lived a great life and I am happy you have great memories which will last forever.

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TURTLETALK 3/7/2011 12:18PM

    I'm glad to hear that you are coping appropriately with the loss of your beloved pet.

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SMARTIEBEE 3/7/2011 11:46AM

    Barb, what great memories you have of your sweet dog. I know how you will miss her. But it is so good to know she is free!

Hugs to you!

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KATHRYNLP 3/7/2011 8:48AM

    Awwwhhh...too much oats I'd say.. LOL

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HOT4FITNESS 3/7/2011 8:30AM

    Just tell everyone that they should see the other guy! LOL. I am so sorry to hear about your dog.

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SUNNY332 3/7/2011 8:26AM

    I liked Jenn's idea. Wear your black eye with pride knowing you did your best for Diamond.

Hugs, Sunny

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FITFABJENN 3/7/2011 8:04AM

    You could apply some purple eyeshadow on the other eye so you have a matched pair.


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MOTTAMAMALOU 3/7/2011 7:39AM

    Your sweet dog is now..."OVER THE RAINBOW BRIDGE."
If you have a chance please read this poem. It's absolutely beautiful.

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DAISY443 3/7/2011 7:36AM

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HITCHLEY 3/7/2011 7:29AM

    I always thought that a treadmill was good for I know

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