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Walking my son... or walking his mom... now that the dog is gone.

Thursday, March 24, 2011

My son is on Spring Break from college this week. Sometime last week we were exchanging IM's, a common way we converse, even though we live right in the same town and could call on the phone... we're both a little geeky and computer-y, and this makes sense for us. Anyway, I asked if I would get a chance to see him in person during Spring Break, since I haven't seen him in over a month. He's busy, I'm busy... and we live on opposite ends of the clock... I'm an early bird, he's a night owl. Long and little, the last time we saw each other was my nephew's funeral.

So we made arrangements for him to come over and we'd go walking after my workday yesterday. Only one thing: we missed communication. At one point he'd said he wouldn't mind going on one of my work out sessions, but he didn't really come dressed for a workout, more for a stroll. One of the first things I noticed was that I was being forced to slow down. My speed walk is a little fast for his stroll stride. And he didn't have the right shoes or trousers to comfortably match my pace.

I have these short little legs, you see, but put in a decent turnover. He mimicked my stride and it was hilarious: he had to crouch down to match my height and his knees were bent while he did this. He looked like Groucho Marx... all he lacked was the cigar!

So we had this little pace tug-of-war. He claims I walk much faster than he remembers. He's probably right... but that was dog-walking pace. Anybody who has ever walked a dog knows you have pauses! In the end, we covered a little over four and a half miles. Of course if we were running, he'd run me into the ground with his long legs, but I think he let mom "win" last night. Isn't it great when they grow up?

I took him out to dinner and sent him home in time for his wife getting off her work... but I got my mom-hug, and you need those now and then for your health.

Onward... Saturday morning... without fail... the State Farm ten mile!

  
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LINDAJOYWK 3/28/2011 6:28AM

    Sounds like a blast! Aren't those Mom-hugs the best!

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CHRISTURTLE 3/26/2011 4:56PM

    I'm sure the laughter you shared along that walk was equally as beneficial as was the exercise - for both of you. As for that mom-hug, sounds like the icing on the cake to me, and totally sugar free as well!

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REJ7777 3/25/2011 8:37PM

    Your walk with your son sounds great! I admit to being a bit jealous. emoticon

I had to laugh about your mismatched strides. My sister (aka walking and hiking buddy) is taller than I am, her legs are longer than mine. My mother commented on how many more steps I take than she does when we walk together. Good for us! We get fitter in a shorter distance. emoticon

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BUGGYS 3/25/2011 7:40AM

    Walking together is a great way to connect!!! My son and DIL live about a block away from me and when the weather permits, my DIL often comes over with the kids in the double stroller and we walk together...her pace used to be too fast for me but now I am able to keep up and it is delightful...not just for the chance to work out but the chance to get to know my DIL better...revery once in a while my son tags along! :)

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MSLZZY 3/24/2011 10:38PM

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MNTWINSGAL 3/24/2011 10:37PM

    Sounds like you had a great walk, Barb. It's so much fun to do Mom & Son things, isn't it?

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SUNNY332 3/24/2011 7:54PM

    What a terrific day. Know that come Saturday, we are going to be cheering you on to the finishing line. You ROCK, my friend, and I wish I was there to do this 10K with you. I would, however, have to walk it so probably best I stay in Missouri.

Huggers, Sunny

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WILMASOTO 3/24/2011 7:49PM

    Awesome Barb! That was great to have time to be with your son! They may be men buit they will always be our babies!! emoticon Best of luck on your 10 miles walk!!

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KALIGIRL 3/24/2011 1:32PM

    How fun (and funny).
So glad you got your mom hug and you will do emoticon Saturday.

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TURTLETALK 3/24/2011 10:19AM

    A walk is a great way to catch up with anyone. Glad you enjoyed it. My son and his fiance will be home tonight for their spring break. I am looking forward to some walk and conversation as well.

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KATHRYNLP 3/24/2011 8:23AM

    Sounds like you have a wonderful relationship with your son. Your story was well done, as my minds eye could just see you both enjoying your walk. Thanks for this fun Blog. Have a great weekend! Kathryn emoticon

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Plotting for a chilly and possibly wet ten miles

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

OK, Deanna... you talked me into it and now the forecast isn't cooperating! It is saying rain, possibly snow! And the percentage chance of precipitation keeps rising. Sheesh!

So, plotting... ever plotting! I have some huge rain ponchos that can go over top of coats. That should keep us dry, at least on top. Dress in layers for warmth. I'm pondering about shoes (and socks) for the wet mushy potential conditions (and temperature high of 40 F... which it won't be by the start time, for sure!)

We can do this. Rain, cold, sleet, hail... and us determined, slogging athletes. Yes, athletes. We are all athletes, said my Spark calendar one day last year. The only difference is, some of us are in training!

Onward... four days to the ten mile.

  
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SARANAM1 3/23/2011 8:27PM

    My fingers are crossed for a change in forecast for you. You're a brave, wonderful woman!

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LINDAJOYWK 3/23/2011 6:52PM

    Oh yes,you can!

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TURTLETALK 3/23/2011 3:51PM

    If you can figure out a way to keep your feet dry and your head dry you will be fine. Good luck!

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KALIGIRL 3/23/2011 1:05PM

    You can do it - be sure to pack some dry socks and shoes in the car!

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DEBRITA01 3/23/2011 12:06PM

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JHADZHIA 3/23/2011 10:59AM

    Forecasts are usually more wrong then right. Hoping for better weather for your race. Not giving into to bad weather shows how strong and committed you are! You rock!!!
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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/23/2011 10:20AM

    You go, girl!

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SUNNY332 3/23/2011 9:30AM

    Wow - I am going to pray for better conditions and for your strength to meet whatever conditions come your way.

BTW - who are all those folks on your spark page?

Sunny

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HOT4FITNESS 3/23/2011 9:03AM

    Let's do it!!!! I am still hoping for the rain to hold off till after the 10 mile, but I'm in it for the long haul wet or dry, finish here we come!!! And regardless of the weather we will finish with a smile!!! emoticon

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CONCHA77 3/23/2011 8:23AM

    You Can do this. You Make Us Proud! emoticon

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DAISY443 3/23/2011 7:45AM

    Brrrrr! You are soooo brave! Good luck!

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MSLZZY 3/23/2011 7:38AM

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NWLIFESRC 3/23/2011 7:01AM

    Lke ur post keep training

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Letting go of numbers by embracing them?

Monday, March 21, 2011

I decided when I started this latest effort that the number on the scale did not matter, I was doing this for my health. The scale would do what the scale would do. Eventually, I found my "home" weight range, in the lower half of the 120's. This is a good 20 pounds less than my original thought of what my goal range would be... but it fits with the amount of food that satisfies me and my now fairly active lifestyle. I now weigh daily, see that it says 120-something, and call it good. When it bumps up a couple of pounds, I watch it more carefully for several days... and it comes back into line.

Now, with this latest clothing shopping trip, I am discovering I'm going to have to do the same with sizes. Let go of the numbers. I have my tape measure that says what my waist, hips, chest sizes are. That and a decent size chart should tell me what size to purchase. See if it fits the shoulders, if it's a top. See if I can bend and stretch and sit without it falling off or gaping if it's a bottom. Then call it good.

If it's in my closet and getting loose, let it go. If it fits nicely and I still don't like it, let it go. Embrace the outfits I like... and call it good. Keep "comfort" clothing even of a smaller size.

Accept that this is me, now, and that it's OK for me, Barb, to be small. I'm still me. I will not disappear. I will not melt. I will not overly restrict my eating to get "smaller", nor will I binge to get "bigger". I will live a normal life and have a healthy balanced relationship with both food and activity. Because I am worth it.

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REJ7777 3/25/2011 8:29PM

    Sounds like your head is in the right place, so the rest should follow. And yes, you ARE worth it!

I'm curious. Who are those people on your Sparkpage's background? (I'll know if you wrote it in your next blog, because I'm going there to read it right now.)

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KALIGIRL 3/22/2011 1:11PM

    Very cool - sounds like maintaining 'suits' you.
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SUNNY332 3/22/2011 10:35AM

    I want to get to the point where I let go of the numbers too. I am in this more for my health than weight loss but it is important too.

Your attitude is amazing so hope when I am to the point of "letting go" of the #'s, I can imbrace your attitude too.

Hugs, Sunny

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BUGGYS 3/22/2011 7:31AM

    You're doing great, Barb and will be able to maintain for the rest of your life! emoticon emoticon

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LJCANNON 3/22/2011 1:18AM

    emoticon emoticonThank you for showing the rest of s the way to maintain. When you spell it out it seems almost simple, but I don't know how long it would take me to figure this out.

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DEBRITA01 3/21/2011 10:30PM

    Way to embrace the new you! emoticon

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SUNNY1432 3/21/2011 10:02PM

    Great attitude!! Great Blog!! emoticon

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MSLZZY 3/21/2011 9:54PM

    Very positive attitude and it suits you! HUGS!

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Adjusting to my new size

Sunday, March 20, 2011

It's me again. Sometimes I think I must be like one of those small breed dogs who think they're as big as a Great Dane but aren't. Those pants I brought home yesterday were size 8. I didn't want to try them on because I was exercise sweaty. I was afraid they might be too small.

The ones I brought home today (I drove so I wouldn't be sweaty)? After trying them on and seeing that I can sit and bend and everything in them, I ended up bringing home size 4. That's just plain sick, and has to be partly size inflation. I haven't been a 4 since I was in grade school. Even then, it was a child's size 4.

I've always had this problem with accurately perceiving my own body size. When I was four years old, I thought I was the same size I was when I was two. When I was seven, figured I hadn't grown since kindergarten. I'm not terribly connected to my physical body as my identity.

I'm working on it... but it's just not simple for me. So. Now. The XS in athletic pants last year translates into a 4 in the big box brand of work slacks. Where does it go? Seriously, at my heaviest I was wearing 22's and I should have been upping them to 24's (they were cutting me so bad at the waist). Where does the missing body size go? I'm mystified. Not that I'm sorry it's gone... it's a whole lot more convenient to fit into normal sized spaces... but it amazes me that a body can change this much.

  
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CONCHA77 3/22/2011 12:22PM

    You look Great too! emoticon Congrats to you!

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YOGATIME 3/21/2011 11:02AM

    That's amazing and inspiring!! Thanks for the reflection!

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LJCANNON 3/21/2011 10:48AM

    Adjusting to our new body size is a 'Problem' for all of us.
When I was in New York trying on clothes for the Rachael Ray thing, the Shopper asked us all for our sizes so that she could get some clothes together for us to try on. Every single one of us needed at least one size smaller than we told her emoticon
Even the shoe sizes were wrong!!

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SUNNY332 3/21/2011 9:54AM

    Wow - Way to go. I know the sizes can be confusing but I would be wearing those pants every where I went with the size tag hanging out....

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Huggers, Sunny

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BUGGYS 3/21/2011 9:04AM

    Sizes vary so much in stores and it is quite confusing to many of us but a size4??? WTG, girlfriend!!! I haven't been a size 4 size since preschool!:) You should be elated...I am for you!!! emoticon

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LINDAJOYWK 3/21/2011 7:12AM

    You are so my hero! But I get it! I used to be a 5-6(@ 5'9") I am now 5'8" & quite
a bit bigger-now I have trouble realizing just how big I actually am! When I was
a 10 I thought I was fat! We can get so mixed up in our heads!

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RONOSOF 3/21/2011 5:59AM

    I understand what you mean. It IS hard to get used to being a new size- smaller or bigger. In part, we don't know our size throughout life because it was never reflected back at us. As a child, full length mirrors are necessary, and adults who tell us that our legs are strong when ______ or you are the perfect size for you, are valuable. Without being taught, there is no way to know. So if, by the time, you can access mirrors and/or compare yourself to peers, you are a little bigger or your forearm is the widest, this body awareness is doomed. Hope this makes sense, and I keep looking in the X sizes only to remember I'm an L:)

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Peace,
Mary

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REJ7777 3/21/2011 5:49AM

    emoticon WOW| Size 4?!!! WOW! emoticon That is SMALL! emoticon

It really is amazing what our body can do, isn't it! As the Psalmist said, "I will praise thee, for I am fearfully, wonderfully made. Marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well."

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SUNNY1432 3/20/2011 10:37PM

    emoticon emoticon Great work!! emoticon

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JHADZHIA 3/20/2011 8:38PM

    Women's sizes confuse me and I have a low tolerance for them. I think they are ridiculous to put out sizes like 0 -6. To me, those will always be baby sizes. They need to get some sanity back into their sizing, wish it could be regulated.
Since you are only using clothing size to mark your progress, I can only guess at how much weight and size you have truly lost. 22 to 4 sounds like an amazing amount! An fantastic accomplishment! XS is really, really tiny (that size I can get lol) I went from XXL to medium, 78 lbs lost.
I wish you all the best at maintaining and learning to love your petite size -can you fit children's clothing to get it tax free? I knew someone who was able to do that, was a break on prices.
Keep up the fabulous work and enjoy the new you in the first day of spring!!
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KALIGIRL 3/20/2011 8:18PM

    With as much as you're working out, I'm not surprised @ all.
Congrats on the 4. While I agree part is size deflation, I'll bet you haven't been this small since high school and I doubt you were in as great 'shape' as now.
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MSLZZY 3/20/2011 7:46PM

    Welcome to the world of clothes sizing. About the time you think you've gotten
it figured out, it changes. Woohoo on the size 4's! Awesome! Beside, you needed
some new clothes and this was a perfect excuse! HUGS!

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MOMOF2TONI 3/20/2011 7:39PM

    Congrats on that small size. I love this blog. You look fantastic!

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SAMI199 3/20/2011 7:18PM

    I know what you mean...when I was thin-I thought I was fat-then I got fat & thought I was thinner then I was-it's hard to get it right! Whatever the #-you look marvelous!!!!!

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777GRACE 3/20/2011 6:54PM

    I know exactly what you mean. I was dropping weight so fast I had clothes given to me. But my issue is now I can fit into a size 8 or 10 or 12. What's up with that? How do we really know what size we are if "they" can't agree on the label!! emoticon

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DEBRITA01 3/20/2011 5:22PM

    Taking clothes back because they're too big must be a nice problem to have...lol. I guess it takes awhile to adjust to your new body. You've worked so hard to get to where you are now...enjoy buying size 4's. Whenever I shop on the clearance rack, there are always tons of small sizes...so, you've got it made! emoticon

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FITFABJENN 3/20/2011 5:05PM

    And wearing that teeny-tiny size gives you so many more shopping options. It's nice to be able to shop somewhere other than Lane Bryant.

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TEMPEST272002 3/20/2011 5:04PM

    I know exactly what you mean. I've said to hubby that it's weird because I still feel like a 250lb woman & am constantly surprised at how small my body is now. I seem to spend a lot of time noticing things like how my elbows tuck into my body differently. Feeling like a stranger in my own body sometimes.
Another thing you said that I related to was not being connected to your body. I've recently realized the depths of how disconnected I was from my body & the long term consequences of that disconnection. I see reconnecting as a vital part of becoming healthy. I think at some point mind will catch up to body... but it hasn't quite yet.

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HOT4FITNESS 3/20/2011 4:59PM

    Congrats, that's amazing! Good job!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/20/2011 4:55PM

    WOW! Congrats on the teeny-tiny pants -- you must be thrilled! Where does all that extra weight go? I think I found some of it. LOL!

Seriously, though, body perception is an issue for me too. I look in the mirror and acknowledge that I'm overweight. And then one day someone sends me a photo that they took when I was there and it's like, "OMG I'm not THAT big." But the photos don't lie, do they? Be glad that you're on the other side of the problem. How much nicer is it to have to take clothes back because they're too big? Way to go, Barb.

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P0KERS0PH 3/20/2011 4:53PM

    Wow, amazing that you've lost so much weight.
It feels amazing to fit into smaller sizes and definitely takes some adjusting to, realising you're no longer that other person you once were.

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DAISY443 3/20/2011 4:44PM

    Congrats! What an amazing story of achievement!

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Saturday's What!

Sunday, March 20, 2011

I wrote that defiant blog yesterday, "No Matter What" as my statement that at least THIS weekend, anything that happens is not going to get me down. My training program called for 5 miles on Saturday and 9 today. But, I had this restless spirit and a desire to go have a long walk in the brisk near-Spring breezes. And I did.

I wound my way to the bike path that heads Southeast through the suburbs, and walked 4.1 miles to a big box store, where I needed to pick up a couple of pair of slacks for work. I did so, and then walked on home.

One aspect of this walk was the freedom to hike across open fields to get from the trail to the store, and from the store back to the trail. Walking through stubble and grass is a totally different kind of workout from walking on sidewalk or trail. It has its own need for balance and strength. It reminded me again of my childhood, when I would walk to a mall that was about a mile or so from my parents' home. It, too, was surrounded by fields, and I would take the short cut across the fields. Who wouldn't?

And I thought about my grandmother. I blogged about her last Summer, but she didn't drive... walked everywhere or took the bus or a cab (on really special occasions).

And this morning, I tried on those pants... and they are too big and I'm going to have to take them back and exchange them for a smaller size. Sigh. Guess I still don't know how big or little my body is!

  
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MSLZZY 3/20/2011 4:16PM

    I'd gladly exchange for a smaller pair-hugs!

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SUNNYWBL 3/20/2011 2:56PM

    Great!

Now you get to have another great walk today , too! Don't forget to rry them on this time. Even if they fit, sometimes the slacks are still not flattering! emoticon

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SUNNY332 3/20/2011 2:51PM

    I am really bad about not trying things on too. Take a walk back to the Big Box Store and exchange them.

Look at all that exercise.

Sunny

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KASEYCOFF 3/20/2011 1:31PM

    I know just what you mean about clothes. As you know, I've been cleaning out and sorting things - and among those are clothes I packed away a few years ago. Today I came across some things and the tags were mostly 'M' so I thought, nah, no way, not ready for them yet. Tried on a jacket and - by golly, it's almost big! Like you, I have no sense of 'self size.' Wonder if my head will ever catch up with the reality--?
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REJ7777 3/20/2011 12:53PM

    Isn't it great that you have to go back for a smaller size, and not a larger one! emoticon emoticon It does take awhile to adjust to our new size. Being obese was part of our very identity for so long! But, that's changing... slowly! emoticon

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FITFABJENN 3/20/2011 9:42AM

    The good news is you'll get to take that wonderful walk again.

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 3/20/2011 9:35AM

    Way to go on the walk, and congratulations on an even smaller pants size!

I know what you mean about balance and strength in fields. I haven't walked a field for many, many years. But as a child, all the neighborhood kids would play baseball, tag, etc., in the field across the street. Only back then we didn't have to worry about balance . . . . LOL!

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CONCHA77 3/20/2011 9:30AM

    Sounds like another day on the trails for you! Have a wonderful day.

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DAISY443 3/20/2011 9:30AM

    Wonderful for pants too big and the chance to walk through the field again!

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SAMI199 3/20/2011 9:15AM

    Since we moved to the city I can walk everywhere!!! I love it-no stress from traffic-new things to see-people to watch-there
is such freedom & it's good for me,too.lol. walk to your heart's content & buy those smaller slacks!!!WHOO-HOO!!!!

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SAILSCALL 3/20/2011 9:03AM

    At least you'll get another good walk in today!

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