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Tuesday, November 05, 2013

I have been super busy with the exercise, job coaching, homework, and several other things. My sleep and eating needs a lot more help right now for sure. I am also to the point that I am still constantly bingeing and on soda. I need help getting beyond this. I have been trying to get the anxiety/panic attacks to stop. There is constant stress with me for sure.

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GRUNGEGODDESS 11/7/2013 11:19AM

    I am sorry you are having a hard time. With the mental health issues you really need some breathing time or it all snow balls into a mess. I have started working and had some very stressful stuff going on. I can totally relate, I've been binging on cheese. Which I might as well just be eating fat!!! Hope it gets better! We can do this!!!

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NEEDTOBESLIM3 11/7/2013 4:19AM

    Good to see you back Monica. I hope and pray that the anxiety goes away soon. XX

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-WISPY- 11/5/2013 6:17PM

    Great to see you blogging Monica.
Sending love Wispy

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LOFLLAMA 11/5/2013 9:22AM

  Caffeine from the soda will add to the panic/anxiety attacks. The best way to stop drinking it is to just stop buying it!

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This week

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

I am hoping that I can get better sleep again. I had to get an x-ray and while waiting my mom saw some jello type stuff that is suppose to help you sleep. I had it late last night since my mom had to get my step-dad to be stitched up. I cannot go to bed without them and this did seem to help me fall asleep. I am still looking for tips on what to do. I also know that the jello did not make it so I am with a lot more energy.

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BERRY4 10/2/2013 4:25PM

    Melatonin works for me if I use it occasionally. (I've heard some people have crazy dreams when they use it??!)
I just have to plan for 8 hrs. before I have to be up & going. -- It worked last night!

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1MIN17SECB412PM 8/1/2013 12:56PM

    Monica, check out:

>NoNuts and Wowbutter and Sunbutter which are:
Peanut Free, Tree Nut Free
Peanut Butter Alternatives, Peanut Butter Substitutes

___Soy Milk

In general, soy milk is considered "hearty" among the non-dairy beverages, and is excellent when you are craving something thick and creamy.

The plain varieties have a faintly sweet and nutty flavor.

Taste and consistency vary widely among soy milk brands.

Soy milk can easily be substituted for cow's milk in all baking needs, over cereal, for pancakes and waffles, in smoothies, or straight from the glass.

The unsweetened varieties work equally well in savory dishes.

Soy milk does have a more pronounced flavor, so it may not be the top choice for delicate desserts and sauces.

___Rice Milk

For many, rice milk has that "true milk flavor." It is one of the lightest, sweetest, and most refreshing of the dairy substitutes.

With its natural sweetness, rice milk is perfect in desserts and baked goods.

Its delicate texture also works well in curries as well as lighter cream soups and sauces.

Rice milk is best avoided in the broader savory foods arena.

___Oat Milk

Oat milk is light in texture and has a very mild flavor with just a hint of sweetness. It substitutes very well for low-fat or fat-free milk.

Oat milk has been successfully trialed as a substitute for cow's milk in both sweet and savory dishes.

In addition to drinking it straight from the glass, oat milk is recommended for your morning cereal; smoothies; baked goods; curries; lighter cream soups and sauces; and mashed potatoes.

A few more tips to help you sleep:

clear your mind

forget about the time - you will get to sleep eventually

set iPad or tablet on dim

avoid reading storyline or your brain will be stimulated

read poetry or poems

avoid TV before bed

cuddle up with a body pillow

listen the sounds of nature

try a tamperpedic pillow (shaped to fit your head, neck & shoulders)

change the pillowcase every night

test for allergies to clothes/bedding washing soaps & fabric softeners

test for allergies to shampoos & body soaps

think good thoughts

try taking melatonin

note: People with Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome (DSPS) are only able to fall asleep late into the night or early in the morning. Although rare in adults, the syndrome is quite common among adolescents. Several studies suggest that melatonin may be of help for this condition.

Hope some of these suggestions work, my friend. Sooo *happy* to see that you're going to continue to work on this!!

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ONICAM 8/1/2013 10:04AM

    Would any nut butter and milk replacer work? I am allergic to both of them.

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PATTYKLAVER 8/1/2013 9:23AM

    I got into the habit of falling asleep with the TV on - not really a good one, but it works for me. My mother swears by warm milk and peanut butter. I did try Melatonin pills that are in the vitamin section for awhile and they helped. I need to go get some more.

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How I am going to work on the habit

Sunday, July 07, 2013

I am going to reduce some of the anxiety earlier. I going to do this by having someone work with me on meditation and make sure that my breathing is correct. I am not sure where I go wrong, but when I try breathing on my own I have the breathing go real fast. This is not a good thing at all and not sure how to fix it.

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MISSCUS 7/10/2013 12:26AM

    chalkdrawjumper YOU need to put your comment in a BLOG!! I am sure it will be a popular blog on SP!!

Monica, it is hard, but with practice it does get easier.

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SABLENESS 7/7/2013 3:11PM

    emoticon Sending you peace and relaxation. Hope it goes well.

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PATTYKLAVER 7/7/2013 2:21PM

    I do hope you can find someone. I know it's something I need to do and to check into. Thanks for the reminder.

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1MIN17SECB412PM 7/7/2013 2:19PM

    It isn't easy to keep our minds on ONE thing, Monica, but that's what we have to practice at and when all other thoughts try to interrupt, we try to set them aside.

We silence even the new good ideas till we're done meditating, and we quiet any reminders that tell us we forgot to do something or 'that' needs our attention till we're done meditating.

We need to give our minds a break from all the rushing. Try to think only the most beautiful images we've ever seen, or loveliest smells we've ever smelled... keeping our minds open ONLY to all calm and gentle and soothing.

It takes daily practice to meditate. 5 minute baby steps to meditate to start, Monica. Make it a certain time every day, to set your *rhythms* remember? You have certain steps you have to do for your sleep pattern, that we talked about in your blog for week 1.

Now, for week 2, you want to make your meditation 'fit' in a place in your *rhythms* You have wake up time, time to eat, a bed time, and you need a meditation time (or times) put in their places too.

The *best* time to meditate is in the middle of your busy times, somewhere. Just find a quiet place of refuge (inside a car, closet, bathroom, if you can't go outside) where you can't be disturbed for 5 minutes.

Once you've got 5 minutes down (give yourself a few wks) then give yourself another 5 minutes. Say (for example) your most hectic time of the day is 3 o'clock in the afternoon. Find time to meditate around that time.

After you've got it set up in your *rhythms* then find another busy time in day and add yourself another meditation therapy. Say (for example) the 2nd meditation time is needed about 11 o'clock in the morning for you.

When, you've got two meditation times in your *rhythms* (that will take another couple of wks) and you're doing both at a certain time during the day, finally work in a 3rd meditation time (at least) for your body clock's *rhythms*

There's still a lot of little steps that will help get wonderful results from your meditations. If you can't sit in your favorite corner of the garden or on a beautiful beach *I*M*A*G*I*N*E* it in your mind.

You want to keep your body very still and think about how each body part is 'melting' in the warmth of the sun, or some other thought that gets your body relaxed. Then *listen* to your breath and not the 'chatter' of anything else.

It's takes time to get this calming *rhythms* placed in your life but it will be sooo worth it, Monica. emoticon

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Wednesday, July 03, 2013



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LOFLLAMA 7/4/2013 4:24PM

  If you get rid of soda & sweets you'll sleep better too. Sugar & caffeine are SO bad for you all around which includes sleep.

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1MIN17SECB412PM 7/4/2013 1:47PM

    I found some ways to help you with your choice, Monica!

Stick to a schedule, so your 'body clock' gets used to a wake up time, a time to eat, a bed time, a time to do other *stuff* so you get what is called, a *rhythm*

Sleep only at night. Daytime naps steal night sleep *rhythms* away. If you do take a day nap, make it 20 minutes. It's called a power nap.

Exercise 20-30 minutes because it's already proven to help us sleep better, but make sure you 'do' it in the morning or afternoon or it may mess with your sleep.

Take a HOT shower or bath before bed to relax your muscles.

Try not to eat 2 hours before bed time.

Keep away from caffeine.

Read fiction books before bed time. It may help to take your mind off the day's problems or the next day's troubles.

Keep your bedroom cooler than the other rooms in your house.

Keep your bedroom quiet or use what is called white noise (soft sounds) that are relaxing, like the whir of a fan, or the purr of a cat.

And avoid alcohol.

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CELIAMINER 7/4/2013 1:09PM

    The good feeling that comes with extra sleep should help with the anxiety over change, and getting more sleep is a beautiful way to treat yourself with love and respect. Good luck!

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PATTYKLAVER 7/4/2013 9:05AM

    My sleep habits are the pits. You made me realize I should work on my own. Good luck.

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LIVELYGIRL2 7/4/2013 1:32AM

  Valarian Root is good for sleep.

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IRISHMUM3 7/4/2013 12:27AM

    This is a good thing to work on. Wishing you progress!

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-WISPY- 7/3/2013 11:19PM

    I understand the pros and cons about getting better sleep patterns in place. For me anxiety is something that has to be overcome also when making changes.
Simple things like having a warm drink before settling down for the night, making sure your body is warm - especially the feet, allowing your mind to focus on your breathing with the rise and fall of your chest and abdomen can be very soothing.

Sending you loving thoughts to help you on your way.

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CATHEMARIE 7/3/2013 10:48PM


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    You will feel better in only a couple of days. I never really realized how big a difference it would make to my well-being until I made myself get off my computer and get some much needed rest! My tolerance levels doubled and patience is something we all need.. with others and with ourselves. But in spite of that, you have a good point in your CON, so try to forgive yourself if you don't get that magic '8" everynight. Anxiety works against all the good stuff. Best of luck! emoticon

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My Goals

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

I have multiple goals that I need to accomplish. I know that it will take time just to get through one and that I cannot do them all or even a quarter of them at the same time. Some of the are to learn how to prioritize, be organized, reduce or eliminate anxiety except for more serious situations, get over fears (falling, unfamiliar surroundings, answering machines, changes, abandonment, wording things wrong, being out in the dark by myself, losing things, failing, planning, and there could easily be more than that), get myself to sleep better at night, stay off of soda (this worked for months and now I am back up), stay off of candies, to be able to handle people who criticize me better, get the right amount of water in me, increase self confidence/self-esteem, stop doing the yo-yo affect with my weight, better in major subject areas, find a job, manage stress better, complete more tasks each day, to reduce or eliminate the amount of major mood swings, and so far to be less overwhelmed and frustrated. I am sure that even more will come to me very easily. I do not even know where to start, but I am trying my best and not sure why the soda started up again.

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JENNY712 7/2/2013 3:23PM

    emoticon Praying! Thank you for sharing! emoticon

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MISSCUS 6/27/2013 1:54PM

    I agree with everyone who said to pick two or three goals to work on. Otherwise you will get overwhelmed and won't be able to effectively work on any of them. I fill up 3 32oz Gatorade bottles with water, and I work on drinking them ALL DAY!! I don't always make it, but trying is 3/4 the battle.
Keep pushing back, it takes time for change. Don't get too hard on yourself. I do buy 10 pack, or it's a 12 pack of Perrier 8 oz cans of Lime sparkling water. It makes me think I'm drinking soda. It helps. I just opened a can--yummy!! I was addicted to Diet Coke. Now I just buy a 1 liter bottle a week. Total deprivation is not good.

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    Monica, I definitely recommend working on no more than three at a time. For me it can take more than month too. Pick something easy to start with as it will help you gain momentum.

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1MIN17SECB412PM 6/20/2013 6:27PM

    Oh, Monica, THIS is an amazing list of dragons you're fighting!! You've got the battle half-way fought, just by taking the time to list them!!
Now, as your other friends have advised, DIVIDE AND CONQUER.
Pick 2-3 (no more) to tackle each month. The experts say, it takes about a month to BREAK a habit, and it takes about a month to CREATE a habit.
Your list to "prioritize, be organized, reduce or eliminate" and your fears are CLOSE to our summer's challenge core of thought. It's spine-tingling.
Please stay away from Mountain Dew. Expect headaches, agitation, blurred vision, insomnia, dry mouth and other symptoms if you don't get away.
Try drinking sparkling water or fruit juice mixed with sparkling water.

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CELIAMINER 6/19/2013 10:22AM

    I agree with Patty that you have a lot to work on and may find it easiest to choose one or two and track for a few weeks. Reward your success, then add one more. Some of the items on your list are huge! Wishing you the best.

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PATTYKLAVER 6/19/2013 7:54AM

    That's a lot of goals. Try to take them one or two at a time. I make a list of things I'd like to accomplish and then cross them off when I get done with them. This gives me a sense of accomplishment. Good luck on giving up the soda and drinking more water. I buy the flavoring for the water at the grocery store. Sometimes I feel like this is cheating but it does get me to drink more water. I take a water bottle everywhere, especially in the car. When I am stopped at a red light, I always take a swig.

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