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Procrastinators CAN change....

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

I've been walking this path a while. Things I know..... this is not easy for anyone. Change, even if we embrace it, requires us to let go of old habits which is not easy. Period. Change requires action.

I remember when I was little my grandma would have this schedule for her chores - Monday was laundry, Tuesday was ironing, ..... every other day was market day. Yep,we walked to the farmers market and the corner grocery store and bought fresh meat for dinner along with whatever other fixings she needed, fresh bread from the bakery and maybe even some sweet treats.

I remember asking her to stop ironing and play a game with me. She would always say, "after lunch, we play". Work came first. She said "get the work done and then you can do whatever you like with the rest of your day". I don't remember her saying "yes, let's play and we will work another day"! I never remember her saying "I'll do it later". I do remember her saying "Tomorrow is never promised".

We always had the afternoons to make a big batch of buttered popcorn and play games. Her house was always clean and organized. It didn't just happen (like I wish it did).

Wow! Things have changed. I don't know too many people who schedule their household chores, who go to the market or grocery store every other day. We are far to busy for that!

Me? This apple fell far from grandma's tree. I am a procrastinator. Later. I will do it later.... maybe.... unless something better comes up (which is ANYTHING)! You see, I work hard and I deserve to rest, I deserve to do what I want and it is not more things I really don't want to do. They can wait.

I wait until I have one last pair of clean socks before I run that laundry, I water the plants when I notice they are wilting, I dust the walls when I spy a cobweb forming! I go to the store when there is no meat in the refrigerator and the milk is gone so I can no longer eat a bowl of cereal for dinner.

Problem? When you do this - those little jobs become monumental tasks! There is a day's worth of laundry not just a couple loads, the plants require trimming away those wilting leaves, not just watering, grocery shopping takes at least an hour of time! There is so much to do, it makes me tired thinking about it and seems impossible. Those little chores become BIG JOBS!

I do the same with myself. Instead of keeping a healthy eating and exercise schedule - I wait. It's just 10 lbs. I know how to lose that. I will do it later. And I wait until I am not just over weight, but obese and those 10 lbs have become 90. When clothes start getting tight, I just squeeze in them and then break down and buy a larger size instead of taking care of the cause of the problem. By the time I make the decision to deal with things, I need a complete overhaul of my eating habits, and exercise is much more difficult because of my size and lack of mobility. I am actually having physical issues because of my weight and procrastination. Yet I procrastinate a bit more - until I have so much weight to lose it seems impossible, climbing a flight of stairs is difficult, sitting on the floor and playing with my grandkids is pretty much impossible. Living life the way I want to live is pretty much impossible and I look in the mirror with disgust. Me, my own best friend, is beginning to hate myself. Ever been there?

Why didn't I do this when I saw that first extra 10 lbs appear on the scale?

Because I (yes, me) am a procrastinator! In all areas of my life!

STOP!!!! NO MORE!!!!

What I am learning? I can - and AM changing.

People who are successful are doers. They take action. So, I am taking action.

I am not a morning person, but I am learning to become one. When I hop on the treadmill in the morning, I look at it not just as mindless walking on the treadmill - but as taking steps in the direction of the person I want to become. Not to mention then when all those things in life I want to do come up, I don't feel guilty doing them because I already have the bulk of my exercise out of the way!

Groceries? I am starting to be like grandma! I run to the farmers market on Saturday and Wednesday. I wash, clean and cut most of what I buy before I put it in the refrigerator - that way it is ready to eat in a hurry. I hit the meat market on Saturday and find myself stopping in during the week if I run out of things. I have been staying away from the supermarket where I am tempted by the chips and processed, easy foods. Sunday when I grill something for dinner, I make extra so I have easy lunches for work.

Laundry? I'm tossing in a load when I get on the treadmill. Stopping after 30 minutes, tossing it in the dryer and when I finish those last 30 minutes - I have a load done! No more Saturday's lost to the mountain of laundry!

Slowly I am learning not to procrastinate. The first thought in my mind is still "later...", but I am quickly shutting down that thought and replacing it with action.

I will never get to where I want to be later if I don't DO something today! On that note, I am going for a walk on my lunch hour before I eat that grilled chicken!

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VELVETB1 7/23/2014 9:47AM

    I always like to think of myself as a work in progress. You're so right that change doesn't happen overnight, it's all a process and every choice we make toward what we desire pushes that process in the right direction.

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SARA-SMILE 7/23/2014 5:01AM

    You are doing some great improvements! emoticon Your grandma sounds like such a disciplined lady, how admirable! I love her quote, "Tomorrow is never promised" so true! Keep up the great work!

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JENNEINAZ 7/23/2014 12:24AM

  Many jobs are easier if you keep up with them, but that is hard to do sometimes.

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SHARON10002 7/22/2014 11:26PM

    This is a great blog, and I am a procrastinator, too. I liked how you detailed the way you were changing your habits one step at a time.
Thanks so much for sharing this with the rest of us! emoticon

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COMPCHIC52 7/22/2014 5:16PM

    I am a procrastinator wish I was not and I don`t know how to change I am always we will cross that bridge if it gets here . I like this blog though it is emoticon and very true. emoticon I would like to be more like this. emoticon

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NHES220 7/22/2014 2:25PM

    Wow, Grandma would be proud! Good for you. I'm pretty good, but I work from home when I don't travel. I can throw laundry in during the day and sometimes I do. I'm not a real early morning person, but now I'm training for the half marathon and it's getting hot so I'm trying to get out early for my runs. We can do this!

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SUKIE40 7/22/2014 12:22PM

    You are so right Barb! Society now a days its always rush rush rush because we put things off until we absolutely have to do it. I have mounds of laundry, my house is dirty and I always tell myself that I have the weekend to do it and then when the weekend comes I tell myself that it is my only time to rest! Ughhh its a vicious cycle that I need to break and your blog is inspiring me to do something TODAY!


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ARLOGUTHRIE 7/22/2014 11:56AM

    I love this blog. Sounds like my grandma and I are cut from the same cloth as your grandma and you. I can remember her explaining to me how house cleaning was very easy if you did just a few things every day. She didn't need an app to reminder her it was time to clean the dead bugs off the window sill as I do.

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    Boy I needed that blog. I am the biggest procrastinator around. I can think of a million reasons why I can do it later. That is why I am here. I have made progress. I do get up and go for walks now and do some cardio and strengthening every day. emoticon emoticon

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Monday, July 21, 2014

OK this will take a minute to come around to my title.

Saturday I was cleaning out my closet getting rid of some too big clothes. Yippee!!!

In the back hung a garment bag containing a dress I bought to wear to last year's office holiday party. It was a cute dress that was on sale at the end of the year. I snagged the dress - can't resist a bargain! And then I proceeded to gain weight. I took a few pounds off over the summer but gained them and more back by the time of the holiday party. When I thought about going to the party that year, I got the dress out. I put on spanx - and tried on the dress and I couldn't even begin to zip it, let alone wearing it. Waaaaaa!

So back in the closet it went. To tell you the truth I forgot all about it - until Saturday. I was prepared to donate it - never worn, tags and all. However a little voice said - "Try it on first". So I did. AND it fit! In fact it was a little loose in some areas!

That was my NSV on Saturday - because the scale had shown me gaining .2 of a pound for my weekly weigh in for our 5% challenge. I was feeling a bit down because I had worked out really hard, even when I didn't want to. I ate within my calorie limits - the only day I wasn't sure of was Tuesday for our office party - but I estimated my meal and thought I was ok. So the dress fitting made my day because the scale certainly didn't.

I was feeling slim and trim, more fit and considered myself looking good!

Today we had a video conference meeting during lunch hour. I sat at the end of the table, pretty close to the camera. It caught a side view of me. There I was in full color on the large screen tv - filling my face with a turkey sandwich. I looked HUGE!!!!! I wanted to not eat my sandwich - not to mention the thinny chips I thought I deserved! Oh my! Who WAS that woman? Certainly not me! I was a lot thinner and certainly much hotter looking than that yesterday! What happened? It had to be a trick camera!

Yep, that was me. Which goes to show I still have some work to do. It also shows that certain camera angles are not flattering. Guess I needed that because I was starting to feel a bit smug!

So I won't be putting off my walk tonight. I will stay within my calorie limit today even with my granddaughter's birthday cake! I already warned her I was not going to be eating the frosting because it is just too sweet for grandma and isn't healthy for her! She understood and asked if she could have it!

I learned some things. Hard work does pay off (the dress fit). Don't puff up too much or someone/something (the camera) will let the air out! When they do be grateful - because if they didn't I would have exploded being so full of myself! I'm surprised there was room for that turkey sandwich! It's ok to be proud of the work I did and enjoy the feeling of accomplishment, but not to blow it out of proportion in my mind!

There is no destination. The journey continues each day of my life, so I must continue to do make healthy choices each and every day.

Oh, and never, ever sit closest to the camera in a luncheon meeting - leave that spot for someone else!

I hope you all have a great day.

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4ANEWME2DAY 7/22/2014 12:45PM

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ARLOGUTHRIE 7/22/2014 11:59AM

    I agree, I get puffed up too. I start strutting around forget to look where I am going and fall on my face.

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JENNEINAZ 7/22/2014 10:17AM

  Great job on the dress!

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COMPCHIC52 7/21/2014 11:25PM

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SUKIE40 7/21/2014 5:12PM

    Woo Hoo on the dress fitting girl - I bet that felt amazing! I know how you feel when you saw yourself on screen - I will take a picture of myself and look amazing and then someone else will take a pic of me and I look huge! But I am learning to love myself no matter what, to be happy and confident at this size, but creating healthier habits.

Thanks for sharing!

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KATELJM 7/21/2014 4:47PM

    How wonderful that that dress fit! As NHES220 said, you'll probably need an even smaller size by the next holiday party.

No doubt there was a bit of fisheye lens involved to capture everyone at the meeting, so you have now learned to pick a more flattering seat for your next video conference. And the old saw is that a camera adds 10 pounds.

This also brings to mind the old finishing school training to eat daintily in front of others. Or to eat before the meeting, or after the meeting. It never hurts a career to appear enthralled with the meeting's subject -- so much so that you will allow no distraction to interfere. Except in the movie "Tom Jones", eating is not usually attractive on video, no matter what size you are.

Bravo on your NSV! The scale will catch up!

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NHES220 7/21/2014 2:25PM

    Take those victories when they come and don't let the camera get you down! You are doing great, that dress fit without the spanx and that is a big victory. My guess is you'll need a new dress by the next holiday party!

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I can - therefore I will

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Sometimes my head complicates this thing so much.

It is really quite simple. Eat healthy foods in healthy quantities and exercise. To lose weight, calories out or burned must exceed calories in or eaten. I just complicate the crap out of a simple process.

In my heart I want to be healthier. I want to be stronger. Wanting and wishing will get me no where. While it all may begin with a dream and some hope - it all happens with a plan, taking action and sticking with it - even when my silly thoughts say "I don't wanna".

Reality check. I CAN do this - therefore I will!

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JENNEINAZ 7/17/2014 10:16AM

  You can and you will!

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POSITIVEHOPE 7/16/2014 10:18PM

    Sometimes I complicate this way too much. ME Too! I want a steady rate of return for a steady rate of effort. I did the work so I want MY earned reward. It doesn't work that way. We all know that but I still want it. In the first weeks, I would lose 6 pounds in a week. So motivating. I know that a 6 pound loss in a week isn't likely to happen at this stage of my journey. Do I still want it? Yup. Is it hard to create enthusiasm for a 0.5 lb. loss? Yup. Sometimes, I even think it would be easier to think there is something wrong with me physically or emotionally. Easier? Really? Is that something to wish for? Nope.
Don't wanna but I'll take the exponential curve where results dismiss over time while the effort expended remains the same and continue to make my slow steady progress toward my overall goal.

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STEVEN2GO2 7/16/2014 8:46PM

    YOU WILL DO IT!!! emoticon

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Stay Strong Barb.....

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Last Sunday I topped off the day celebrating a friend's birthday. We decided to go to a movie - his choice - which was the Planet of the Apes movie. I must say the smells of the popcorn were soooooo tempting. I thought "mmmmm, movie popcorn, with butter and wash it down with a mountain dew" but then I remembered I had declared Sunday my day of rest with exercise and to slack off on my food choices would make the day feel like a relapse into old habits. So, no popcorn or pop. Pat on the back! Did good!

After the movie we went to a small restaurant which has breakfast all day - breakfast as in banana bread or cinnamon bread French toast with syrup, and other fat laden stuff. They had some salads which I am not a fan of, fish and chips and some other fried food fare, and the old standby burgers. I ordered a burger with a slice of swiss cheese, some fresh mushrooms (not sautéed in butter), and some onion. The burger came with fries. I ate two of them, but I wasn't wowed by them so they stayed on the plate. I also took off the top bun of my burger so figured I didn't do too bad there.

However, Mr Scale showed a bigger number Monday morning. I stayed on track yesterday with my food. I was short on fitbit steps, but did get in a good workout in the morning. In the evening, I took my son shopping for some stuff he needed, came home and dozed off on the couch!

So today there are donuts from a local bakery in the kitchen to celebrate someone's birthday. My favorite - the basic chocolate covered one is still sitting there waiting for me to take it. I have not. I had my power bar and some fresh fruit. I am not going backwards for a silly donut - but they sure look good!

Tonight I have our summery attorney dinner party. I am sure the food will be a bit high in fat but there is usually a beef an fish or chicken portion. I am going to do my best. Downside, it will take most my evening so again I will not get in my steps. It is raining a bit right now so won't be walking on my lunch hour. Hopefully it won't run too late and I will get some treadmill time tonight.

I am staying strong - just for today! I will worry about tomorrow another day! I got this!

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KATELJM 7/15/2014 9:36PM


You are worth more than a chocolate doughnut, more than movie popcorn.

As for the scale: restaurants use lots of salt; it take a while to flush it out.

emoticon for keeping your eye on the prize!

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STEVEN2GO2 7/15/2014 8:40PM

    You were awesome. You stayed committed to make healthy choices, congratulations! You had many non-scale victories. Don't let that scale determine how you feel. Making thoughtful choices every day is a lot more important then the number on the scale!!!

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JENNEINAZ 7/15/2014 2:58PM

  You can do it.

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COMPCHIC52 7/15/2014 1:26PM

    you did amazing:) keep it up. emoticon

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NHES220 7/15/2014 12:29PM

    Just take it a day at a time. That is really all you can do. Stay strong Barb!

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And on it goes...

Sunday, July 13, 2014

Completed another week of the challenge. This week I have exercised lots! Continued to try to get over 14000 steps per day on my fitbit and tried really hard to increase that veggie intake. I must say I was a bit disappointed when my weightloss was less than 1 lb. However, I am trying to stay focused on long term goals.

Started my day with some of my favorite things, farm fresh eggs scrambled with some fresh mushrooms, a little onion and just a little diced ham, a piece of toast and some farm fresh strawberries, on my back porch with my Sunday newspaper, a local radio show in the background, the birds playing in the birdbath outside and visiting the feeder. No heading downstairs to the treadmill this morning - getting outdoors for my walk today. Not quite as intense a cardio workout but much more enjoyable. Enjoyment is a requirement on my journey!!!

Today is going to be my rest day - and I am planning on cooking ahead so I have some quick things to grab for healthy lunches and on those nights I don't have time to cook a full meal. Grilling up some chicken and cutting it up, also cleaning veggies and having them ready to toss on the grill or stove, cleaning and cutting up pineapple, strawberries and washing the cherries so they are ready to eat. Then off to a nearby town to celebrate a friends birthday. Not sure where he want to go eat, he is picking the restaurant since it is his birthday - but I know I am not going to undo all the hard work I have done this week.

I am hoping maybe Mr Scale will catch up this week!

Yesterday, went to help my friend clean her yard from the tornado. It was amazing to see how much work has been done in that area. Sometimes something bad unites people to work towards a common good. Everyone was out in their yards cleaning up, helping each other. Couldn't help but feel good.

May you all have an awesome day with some serenity and enjoyment! Take a minute and make a gratitude list - and be grateful!

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COMPCHIC52 7/14/2014 12:02PM

    lots of energy good for you! emoticon

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JENNEINAZ 7/14/2014 10:44AM

  Great job!

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NHES220 7/13/2014 3:42PM

    Sounds like you are doing great with the challenge and I'm sure Mr. Scale will get on board. Enjoy your Sunday! So nice of you to help your friend, these storms are devastating.

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KATELJM 7/13/2014 2:47PM

    I've noticed that there are sticking points in weight loss. Sometimes so many changes are happening, it takes a body a while to catch up. But you know that if you are mindful of your true calories in and true calories out, eventually the scale will have to acknowledge a change!

My body is particularly sensitive to salt. If I take in a lot of sodium, my weight shoots up even if my calories were in check. Drink more water...

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    Sounds like you are planning a busy but rewarding day. Hope your time with friends this evening are positive memory making. So sad tornado caused so much damage, glad you were spared. Wonderful that you are helping your neighbors recovery. Have a great Sunday.

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