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Some Things I Don't Want to Know

Sunday, December 14, 2014

I don't want to see my activity tracker report tomorrow. Most days this week, I know I got close to getting in my 10,000 steps...but no cigar. And I was getting to the point where I would hit at least 12,000 a couple days.

With my daughters and granddaughter in town, taking care of my mom, and my mother-in-law battling and losing her fight with life, it just didn't happen this week. Too many emotional coals on the fire and just not enough time.

I don't like when I am really busy during Advent. I like to be prepared. That way, I can kick back, enjoy the season, and reflect on the past year.

My Sarah will be going back to Alabama tomorrow morning. She has been such a blessing to her grandma. She stayed all night in the hospital with her for five nights. She was called upon to give the eulogy and did so with flying colors despite the tears that came with it.

My Sherry and Helena will still be with me until the 22nd. I love when they wake up in the morning. I'll say "Good morning, Sunshine!" and get two beautiful smiles that light my whole day. Sherry is a great mom and Helena is a happy baby.

I am so blessed to have such great children. It's not just me that thinks so...I hear it from others as well. I must have done something right....it just wasn't in the movement department last week.

  
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FORZACHANDMATT 12/16/2014 12:57AM

    They're great kids because you're a great mom :)

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RAESUN54 12/15/2014 8:05PM

    Sorry for your loss and all the struggles but its wonderful you have your kids there.
Holidays I think are for families.
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PREPAREMYTEMPLE 12/15/2014 1:46PM

    Sorry for your loss. Children and Grandchildren can be the best remedy when times are tough. Enjoy them now before they are no longer close in distance.

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CATTUTT 12/14/2014 9:01PM

    You have a good reason for having not gotten in as much activity. I hope you continue to enjoy your time with Sherry and Helena!

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YELLOW09RED 12/14/2014 5:06PM

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MISSM66 12/14/2014 4:38PM

    happy that you are enjoying your grand baby,and sorry about your Mother in Law will keep you in my prayers,this time of the year are very depressing for me,because my Mom pass away the day after Christmas 14 years ago,she is still in my heart, emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DIDMIS 12/14/2014 4:11PM

    I am so glad you have such wonderful children. Some do not have children and some do have but the children expect their parents to take care of them.
You will get back on board.

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NPA4LOSS 12/14/2014 3:51PM

    You have done well my friend!

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BERGBA7 12/14/2014 2:57PM

    It is ok to slow down when there is too much emotional struggle to get through. Just don't stop and get back to it when ever you can. Enjoy your family and take care of you.
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SUBMOM2 12/14/2014 2:39PM

    I'm sorry about your mother-in-law. You and your family are in my prayers. Glad you are enjoying your kids and grandbaby. Take care!

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WOAH! A Lost Day!

Saturday, December 13, 2014

It's been a busy, stressful week. Thank goodness that I have my sunshine with me. Helena was in her Momma's arms yesterday and actually reached out to me for me to hold her. That in itself is such a great present! Sherry said that Helena had never done that before with anyone. I am blessed!

The week definitely had it's share of lows. I did pretty good at eating and getting my water in. Most days, I only got in the 9000 range of steps however.

I started yesterday sitting at the local courthouse in one of those lovely, SO COMFORTABLE plastic chairs from 8-10:45 am in jury duty. I brought something to keep me busy, but alas did not think about the chairs and forgot a pillow to sit on. By the time I left, my back was in full protest mode. I was done in for the rest of the day.

I took a Epsom salt bath. I put my cream and patches on my back. Nothing seemed to give me much relief. By 8 pm, I was exhausted. By 8:30, I was out like a light. I sure hope today is a better day. Nope - I will think more positive. Today will be a better day. I remember the quote I read about taking the sunshine with me. I will have Helena all day today. You can't get a better sunshine than that.

  
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CATTUTT 12/13/2014 10:15PM

    So sorry to hear about the back pain, I bet that was miserable! Hope you're feeling much better now!

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NPA4LOSS 12/13/2014 12:51PM

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JAROL7 12/13/2014 7:44AM

    Thank God for morning to start fresh. Yesterday is gone.

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A Special Lady is no Longer With Us

Thursday, December 11, 2014

My first mother-in-law, Helen Ridlon, is my girls' grandma and one of the two Helens that my Helena was named for. (The other is my Mom.) She's been in declining health for about 4 years. The last two weeks showed a rapid decline in her health. She ended up in ICU. My girls rushed in without even thinking twice or being asked to come. They were such a comfort to her in her time of need. She quietly went to the Lord yesterday about 6:15 pm. My girls were with her. Their father wasn't; but their uncle was. I was home with Helena.

Besides my girls, I can think of only two people who would be there for me no matter what. My Dad is the first; she is the second. I know she will be around my girls, forever watching over them. God bless her sould.

  
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RASPBERRY56 12/16/2014 4:19AM

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss - may your find comfort with your daughters during this difficult time and that your memories of Helena give you peace..... emoticon

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CATTUTT 12/12/2014 1:25PM

    So sorry to hear she is gone, but I am very glad your girls could be by her side.

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SANDICANE 12/12/2014 2:51AM

    So sorry to hear that another wonderful person has left us....

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STEVEN2GO2 12/11/2014 10:56PM

    I had a Great Aunt Helen, she and my Grandmother Elizabeth both died within months of each other when I was 13. Auntie Helen was a wonderful person. I recall visiting her a few times with family at her care home before she went back to our Lord. I am sure my Auntie Helen greeted your MIL Helen with open arms in Heaven!

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JO88BAKO 12/11/2014 10:20PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss

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    So sorry for your loss. God bless you and emoticon for all of the family.

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FORZACHANDMATT 12/11/2014 10:07PM

    So sorry for your loss

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Last Week in Review December 9, 2014

Tuesday, December 09, 2014

Such a busy, busy week last week! It was so busy that I confused some times and didn't help others as I should have, but I made it through.

My Sarah came in Friday night. She went right to the hospital to see her paternal grandma who is in ICU. She's 90 years old, has dementia and was admitted because of pneumonia. She can't fight it off; she's just not strong enough.

I picked up Sherry and Helena Saturday afternoon. It is good to have all my miracles with me, but it's hard to see my girls having to say goodbye to their Grandma. She's been so good to us and we all love her dearly. She's still "mom" even though her son and I have been divorced for 25 years. We lost the relationship with had with the ex; we refused to give that relationship up.

We all went to the hospital in shifts yesterday. I had to be there to support my girls. I know that Mom is fighting; I also know that it's time for her to continue her journey. I am so glad that my girls and I have a strong belief in God. We see the continuance of life after the body gives up. My girls are so supportive of those around them to help them through this time. I am so proud of them.

Helena: what can I say? She gets up in the morning and I tell her "Goodmorning, sunshine" and get the biggest, sweetest smile on earth. She sits up pretty good on her own. She's still a weeble that wobbles, but she's doing great considering she's only been doing this for a couple weeks. My dog adores her and watches over her. My cat is the typical cat: "I was the first baby here! I'm the queen of the house."

I could tell I ran like a chicken with my head cut off last week.
Steps 87724/83732 Minutes 1092/956
Calories 3855/3764 Miles: 23.81/18.26
I still want to plot my miles to see where my travels take me. Just haven't had the time.

My house is clean (but cluttered). I still am working on decorating, wrapping, and cards. It's a bit hard with a house full and also having to take care of cleaning and decorating Mom's house. One step at a time.

  
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SLIMLILA 12/10/2014 11:00AM

    Wow!!! I only think I have been busy till I hear what you have been up to.... Glad you have all your girls home... for a sad occasion, albeit, but when you believe, you can look at it a lot more positively at least. Enjoy all the time you have with everyone..
God Bless.

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MSLZZY 12/9/2014 11:14PM

    emoticon Be at peace with mom and give all the girls a hug.

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BERGBA7 12/9/2014 3:56PM

    Great you can be together to say good by to your "mom." I wish you lots of strength and faith. Enjoy your time together though!
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    emoticon My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I am glad that you are having this chance to enjoy Helena. emoticon

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CATTUTT 12/9/2014 2:08PM

    I'm so glad to hear all three of your babies are with you. It's very sad it's because their Grandma is not doing well, but it's still wonderful that you get to be with them. i hope all of you enjoy their visit, especially your time with Helena!

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DLITE719 12/9/2014 10:05AM

    Wow. So glad you survived.

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Balance in Life

Friday, December 05, 2014

As I read a few blogs this morning, I realized quickly that there was a common basic theme. Many people are a bit frazzled right now, including me. I went on to look up my day's motivational quote and came up with this:

Problems arise in that one has to find a balance between what people need from you and what you need for yourself. -Jessye Norman

That hit my nail right on the head. I definitely am concentrating on the needs of others again and forgetting about myself. Wake up, Patty. I know I'm in there somewhere.

When writing in my journal, a picture came to mind. Lucy holds the football for Charlie Brown to kick. He comes running up, poised to kick it. She pulls it away at the last instant AGAIN and he falls flat on his back. I can just hear his "AAARRRRGGGHHH!. Maybe if we all count to three and say it together, we will feel a little bit better.

P.S. - Just read a quote from Elvis that fits: "When things go wrong, don't go with them."

  
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4EVER21B 12/6/2014 8:11AM

    Great blog with wonderful encouraging quotes. emoticon

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    emoticon blog. Thank you!

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APROMISE4ME 12/5/2014 7:54AM

    I agree Patty we need to think of ourselves sometimes too ! Hope you have a great day, and do something nice just for You !

Deb

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