PATTYKLAVER   235,970
SparkPoints
100,000 or more SparkPoints
 
 
PATTYKLAVER's Recent Blog Entries

1st Day Okay But Not Perfect

Saturday, September 20, 2014

I did okay yesterday as far as my new schedule. A kink that I found that I have is Mom. She will be 84 in a couple weeks. The past year has been very difficult for her. The wintertime sickness sure has taken it's toll. She's frail and it's hard for her to get around. Short-term memory has certainly taken a nose-dive. Although I have three siblings and there are 8 grandchildren, the everyday things that need to be done seem to always fall on me.

When I went over to hang my sheets on her line, I ended up starting on cleaning the kitchen. It definitely took longer than I thought it would. I know now that I have to allow a certain amount of time each day to do what is needed for her.

I so wish for things to be different for her. But I will do my best; it's the least I can do for the person who has done so much for me. Some days are better than others. I will cherish each day that I do have. I'm glad that I got a camcorder about a week before Helena was born. I was able to make a video of the first time we brought her over there. It made Mom so happy. I hadn't seen her laugh so hard in a long time.

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

NPA4LOSS 9/20/2014 3:19PM

    emoticon emoticon I LOST MY MOTHER WHEN I WAS 15. ENJOY EVERY DAY THAT YOU ARE BLESSED WITH.

Report Inappropriate Comment
ETERNALPINKGLOW 9/20/2014 3:04PM

    Beautiful daughter ♡♡

Report Inappropriate Comment
CATTUTT 9/20/2014 11:43AM

    You're a wonderful daughter to take such good care of your mother. It seems you know and appreciate you are blessed with the time you have with her.

I hope today is a great day for you!

Report Inappropriate Comment
AUNTALICE2 9/20/2014 11:27AM

    Treasure your moments with your Mom. I lost mine last year at the age of 96. She did not recognize me in the end and had lost all her physical abilities. It was sad to say good bye but it was time. She was such an active part of my life during her life. I do have my memories. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
JANTHEBLONDE 9/20/2014 11:23AM

    Awww..... That is so sweet of you being there and taking care of your mom! I bet she loved the videos you taped of Helena! I hope you have a beautiful day!
Hugs and love,
emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
2BDYNAMIC 9/20/2014 10:33AM

    This is most touching; I can see you are a wonderful daughter and that is great being able to capture video's of the new baby to show her ........... emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
PHHHISC 9/20/2014 10:31AM

  Enjoy each moment. They will be precious memories.

Report Inappropriate Comment
BYEPOUNDS 9/20/2014 10:29AM

    you are really kind to your mom

I'm sure she appreciates the things that you do for her, and I'm sure she recognizes what you do

Report Inappropriate Comment


Determination

Friday, September 19, 2014

Okay, I'm determined now! It's September 19, 2014. It's time to get back into a schedule similar to one I had about 4 years ago. I want it to be like this:

Get up early.
Be dressed and have my exercises done by 9 am.
Be out of the house to run errands by 10:30.
Spend time every day cleaning something in the condo. Organize it and clean it well by Christmas.
Have a made-from scratch dinner ready at 6:30 most nights.
Take time after dinner to do something relaxing for me.
Be in bed about 10-10:30.

Find time once a week to do something different.
Spend time with friends more.

Can I do this? I've been threatening to do it for so long that most times I doubt myself. I'm going to give it a serious shot this time. I owe it to myself.

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

AUNTALICE2 9/19/2014 11:38PM

    Go for it Patty!! I especially like the part of doing something different and spending more time with friends! You can do this!! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
JUSTCONFUZZLED 9/19/2014 2:11PM

    emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
GREENEYES_42 9/19/2014 11:57AM

    emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
JANTHEBLONDE 9/19/2014 11:42AM

    I love your positive attitude! Great goals! You definitely can do this! I know you can! I hope you have a wonderful day!
Hugs and love,
emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
CATTUTT 9/19/2014 10:23AM

    You can definitely do it! It might not be easy, but you can!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MSLZZY 9/19/2014 9:55AM

    Can you do this! You bet you can! HUGS!

Report Inappropriate Comment
ABBY_G 9/19/2014 9:49AM

    Determination is one of my favorite words! Thanks for reminding me of it this morning.

Report Inappropriate Comment


Determination

Friday, September 19, 2014

Okay, I'm determined now! It's September 19, 2014. It's time to get back into a schedule similar to one I had about 4 years ago. I want it to be like this:

Get up early.
Be dressed and have my exercises done by 9 am.
Be out of the house to run errands by 10:30.
Spend time every day cleaning something in the condo. Organize it and clean it well by Christmas.
Have a made-from scratch dinner ready at 6:30 most nights.
Take time after dinner to do something relaxing for me.
Be in bed about 10-10:30.

Find time once a week to do something different.
Spend time with friends more.

Can I do this? I've been threatening to do it for so long that most times I doubt myself. I'm going to give it a serious shot this time. I owe it to myself.

  


Another Bend in the Road

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

I had been babysitting for 2 boys, ages 4 and 2 since March for 3 days a week. The boys could sometimes be handfuls, but were mostly good. The dad could be aggravating: he was supposed to be home from work at a certain time. He never was; the times varied and many times I knew he had stopped at a bar on the way home. It made it difficult on the days that I had commitments afterwards. But the job gave me a little extra money and it really wasn't hard.

I had told them when I got my tickets to Nova Scotia when I'd be gone. A few days later, the dad couldn't remember, asked me again, and wrote the dates on the calendar. I left on Wednesday, September 3. The week before I left, he started complaining that he was having trouble finding someone to babysit. His regular fill-in person could only babysit on Thursday. Sorry - my tickets are bought. On Monday, September 1 (Labor Day), I got a text asking if I could babysit on Wednesday. I know I stood there when he wrote the dates on the calendar.

Yesterday, I got 6 texts from him. He went into detail on how he had a relative move back into the area. He and his wife went back and forth on what to do. But he decided to give the job to the relative. He said it was nothing I did - it was just the decision they made. I asked if I could stop by sometime to see the boys. He responded that I would have to run it by him before I came over. I think that was kinda a strange answer.

I really feel sorry for the boys. I heard that before I started, the babysitters were a revolving door - don't know the reasons; not sure I want to. The dad and the mom gave me the impression that they didn't communicate well. He'd say one thing; she'd say another.

I am looking at this as another bend in the road - a chance to revamp the schedule and to get done my to-do list that has grown very long. There's always that little voice in the back of my head that wonders what I did or didn't do in their decision to have someone else babysit.

In my hope of hopes, I wish for my Helena to come back here. I have more time to spend with her. In my wallet is a little voice that says 'i'm empty". Now to get more creative money-wise!

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

NPA4LOSS 9/18/2014 5:51PM

    He sounds like the type person that wants everything his way. There was no need to give you the guilt trip which of course he was doing. Keep going forward on that bend in the road and see where it leads! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
AUNTALICE2 9/17/2014 9:20PM

    I think it is important that you know it was not about you. They will make whatever decision they will and it has nothing to do with you. They obviously are having difficulties and it is very unfortunate the boys suffer for it. All you can do is hope the relative gives the boys some stability they are not getting from their parents. You are a good person. Know that!! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
JANTHEBLONDE 9/17/2014 6:40PM

    Don't lose any sleep over babysitting the boys! You did nothing wrong! The dad sounds like he's an alcoholic... and he just sounds really weird! Now you can focus on your to do list! I hope you have a wonderful day!
Hugs and love,
emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
MISSUSRIVERRAT 9/17/2014 1:40PM

    Sure sounds like the Dad is disorganized, a bad listener, and a bad communicator.
Maybe he was under the influence and/or has ADD (seriously).
I don't think the problem was on your end!
When one door closes.......you know the rest!

Report Inappropriate Comment
CATTUTT 9/17/2014 1:37PM

    Sounds like that family is just kind of weird. I'm sure it's nothing personal. I wish Helena could move back there and be with you, I know you miss her so much!

Report Inappropriate Comment
GREENEYES_42 9/17/2014 11:59AM

    I'm sure it was nothing you did. People are just "weird" that way. I guess the Dad wanted everything done his way and couldn't look past the fact that you have a life too and gave him plenty of notice to boot. His problem. Not yours so please don't dwell on it. Now is the time to focus on your "to-do" list and enjoy your days!

Report Inappropriate Comment


Way Overdue

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Okay, it's time. It's been time all summer. Time to get the life back into some semblance of order. Get my act together. Change around the eating and exercising. And the house...organize, re-arrange, etc. How long will it take? Can I keep up the motivation? Yes, I can do this! I am giving myself to Halloween to do this. It should be more than enough time, but not so long that I will put things off. Hmmmm.....the possibilities!

Okay, fellow Sparkies....keep me on my toes....ask what I have accomplished. I will post weekly to keep myself honest, motivated, etc. I can do this!

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

YELLOW09RED 9/17/2014 1:43PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
AUNTALICE2 9/16/2014 10:57PM

    Your home must not be that disorganized. I have been at mine for months and still more to do. I am looking forward to seeing what you accomplish every week. I am cheering for you! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
STRONGERLEANER 9/16/2014 6:21PM

    You REALLY can do it! You do so much and don't give yourself enough credit.
emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
JANTHEBLONDE 9/16/2014 5:08PM

    I love your positive attitude! You can do it! I know you can! One day at a time that's all it takes! I hope you have a wonderful day!
Hugs and love, emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
CATTUTT 9/16/2014 1:33PM

    You're right, you can do it! Good luck!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MSLZZY 9/16/2014 9:58AM

    Keep me posted. Sometimes, we need a mental shake up to get us back on the right track. shake it up today! HUGS!

Report Inappropriate Comment
MISSUSRIVERRAT 9/16/2014 7:33AM

    Sounds good! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment


1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 101 102 103 104 105 106 107 108 109 110 111 112 113 114 115 116 117 118 119 120 121 122 123 124 125 126 127 128 129 130 131 132 133 134 135 136 137 138 139 140 141 142 143 144 145 146 147 148 149 150 151 152 153 154 155 156 157 158 159 160 161 162 163 164 165 166 167 168 169 170 171 172 173 174 175 176 177 178 179 180 181 182 183 184 185 186 187 188 189 190 191 192 Last Page