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Day 311: A blog worth reading

Thursday, March 27, 2014

This article was particularly heartbreaking, but for anybody who has ever had self-esteem issues, it really is worth reading.

www.rookiemag.com/2014/03/out-of-bod
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While I only have a son, I will take what I read in this article and apply it to his life. No child should be cut down to the point that he or she feels that liposuction is the only answer.

My paternal grandmother was 100% Polish and 100% feisty. She never hesitated to say what was on her mind. And one of the strongest memories I have of her is how she told me she wasn't making any food for me because I was too fat. I can still hear her thick Polish barbs about my weight. It's crazy because at the time, I would just roll my eyes, but now ... now I wonder if it didn't have some effect on me because I remember it so vividly. It wasn't just her who made these comments, of course, but as someone I saw only once a year, it kind of hurts that the only memories I have are of how she thought I was so fat. (And believe me, I would love to be that "fat" again!)

It is so important to realize that we are so much more than a number on a sale, or a number on a clothing tag. We are minds and hearts and people worth knowing. It may be something you already know, or it may be something that will take a lifetime to realize. But realize it - it's so, so true.

Compliment yourself every day. You ARE strong. You ARE beautiful. You ARE amazing - no matter your size.

  
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BRENDAF761 3/28/2014 7:32AM

    I had a great grandma that always had to tell me I looked like I'd gained more weight every time she saw me! Now that she's deceased all I remember about her was how rude she was to me most of my life. She was a large women herself. She needed a filter for her harsh words! My dad was also very hard on me about my weight as a child. I never lost weight until after they were both deceased. I know they affected my life in a negative way! Good luck to you and best wishes at reaching your own goal! emoticon emoticon

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BKWERM 3/27/2014 3:53PM

    Thank you for sharing the blog. It was terribly sad but I was extremely happy to see that the writer has made peace with herself now.

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IRISHMUM3 3/27/2014 3:00PM

    Wow. That is a powerful blog. Thank you for sharing it with us. I, too, struggle greatly with loving my body after hearing things similar to what you and the author did (but about my mother and how I could turn out like her when I was young, and since my mid-30s about myself). Yes, we need to love ourselves, to appreciate the power of our bodies, and ditch all of that negative, nasty talk (from others and ourselves).

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TRUNKJUNK 3/27/2014 2:27PM

    emoticonWe should be our own best cheerleader emoticon .

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Day 290: Constantly tweaking

Thursday, March 06, 2014

No, not twerking ... emoticon ... tweaking!

As in, tweaking my plan. Tweaking my food. Tweaking my fitness. Trying to make it all work for me.

The past weekend has been difficult. Nothing is wrong, but I feel blah and unmotivated. I think it's a combination of, ahem, being a woman and this never-ending winter that we seem to be having. From Friday to yesterday, I sort of gave up. I did my yoga on Tuesday, but it didn't help and I hated every minute of it. I ate however I wanted to. I didn't get dressed or leave the house. Nothing made me feel better.

Yesterday, I decided it was time to get back to business. So I told myself, "Tomorrow, you are setting the alarm for 6:00 and you're going to work out." So today, the alarm goes off at 6:00 ... snooze. 6:10 ... snooze. 6:20 ... I GOT UP. I put on my workout clothes, went into the living room, and fired up my Kinect game. 15 minutes of aerobic exercise, followed by 6 minutes of zen yoga, and I felt a lot better.

As I was driving to work, I realized I was pretty awake. I drank my protein shake (Girl Scout samoa cookie flavored, yum!), and started my day. I felt like it should be later than it really was. Now I have the blinds open in my office, letting the sunshine come in, and I have to say I feel pretty good. The fog has lifted.

My goal is to do a cardio workout every morning before work. Anything else I do that day is a bonus. I'm still aiming for yoga Tuesdays, getting in some strength training on Thursdays, and, when the weather gets nicer, adding in afternoon walks and weekend outdoor adventures.

The following goal will be to work on my food and try to eat healthier. I will still have days of no tracking or partial tracking, and I most assuredly will not be perfect every single day. But I have ideas in mind. Implementation is key.

I can do this.

  
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BOPPY_ 3/17/2014 11:59PM

    Now, I've read the whole thing. :-|

Nice yob!

Lee emoticon

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BOPPY_ 3/17/2014 11:57PM

    Glad I read this just for the opening line.

Now, I have to go back and finish reading. :-|

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IRISHMUM3 3/6/2014 3:10PM

    So glad the fog has lifted. :) Keep going!

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JMOUSE99 3/6/2014 2:35PM

    emoticon sounds like you are on top of things now!

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LOPEYP 3/6/2014 12:31PM

    emoticon pulling yourself out of your funk! That's the hardest part and you've done it so everything else will be easy. emoticon

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Day 280: SMART Goals Revisited

Monday, February 24, 2014

For the weekend BLC challenge, we need to review our SMART goals and, if necessary, revise them. I reread my goals and they definitely need some revisions! Here goes:

emoticon "I will track all of my food 6 days a week for the next 12 weeks."

I'm sticking with this goal. There's no reason NOT to do this goal. It will definitely help me in the long run!

emoticon "I will work out at least 5 times per week, 20 minutes minimum, for the next 12 weeks."

I fell off the streak when my in-laws were in town, and I haven't been very good at achieving this goal. If the weather would clear up, it would be SO easy. So for now, the new goal is to get 10 minutes a day. That sounds like it might be harder, but I think it will actually be easier.

emoticon "I will do yoga 1-2 times per week for 30 minutes at a time for the next 12 weeks. "

This goal will remain the same. I have been doing yoga every Tuesday since the challenge started (usually 30 minutes but once it was only 15 and also included some walking).

emoticon "I will take some "me" time to destress and/or meditate 5 days a week for the next 12 weeks."

This one has been harder to accomplish. I haven't done any meditation, but I do feel like my stress levels are a lot lower than normal. I think I'm coping fairly well overall, so this goal might not be needed anymore.

emoticon "I will get 7-8 hours of sleep each night for the next 12 weeks."

Yep, I can handle this one! Rarely do I get less than 7 hours of sleep. My body naturally wakes me up around 6:00, but I tend to stay in bed because I'm not quite ready to get moving. On the weekends, I can't sleep much past 7:30. However, I do take some seriously long naps in the afternoon!

  
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JMOUSE99 2/25/2014 3:03PM

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IRISHMUM3 2/24/2014 2:46PM

    Great assessment your goals!

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Day 273: Love Letter

Monday, February 17, 2014

Dear Me,

In honor of American Heart Month, let's talk about yourself. You are a wonderful person. Really, you are. I know you don't always see it, and you're often hard on yourself, but you're great! Look at all of your accomplishments. High school education, college education, a good job, a wonderful family, a loving husband, and an amazing son. Remember when you said you would never get married and have children? Fooled you!

Yes, things are challenging. But that's life. You can't change that. What you CAN change is how you respond to the challenges. You're doing better. You've developed a great support system, and it's become easier to see reality.

You are smart. You are an awesome mom. You are a devoted wife. You are a loyal employee. You are kind and have a great sense of humor. People like being around you. You have a lot to offer. Always remember these things. Always.

I'm proud of you and the woman you've become. Life is not static; it is always changing. Adapt to those changes, and you'll be even more successful than you are now. Life is about love, and I love you!

Love,
Me

  
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BFOX1105 2/20/2014 4:48PM

    Awesome!!!!

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FUNGIRL81005 2/20/2014 11:49AM

    Hugs!! You are Wonderful!! emoticon emoticon

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IRISHMUM3 2/18/2014 8:40PM

    Lovely and truthful!!!

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PERFECTVELVET 2/17/2014 11:21PM

    Agreed!

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RUNNINGWILD 2/17/2014 8:20PM

    I think the love letters have been the best part of the WEC :)


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Day 245: BLC24 SMART Goals

Monday, January 20, 2014

Yay for BLC24! This round, I'm an Amber Amazon Warrior. Over the break, I gained 2 pounds. Not bad - but I completely ignored the plan I had written out on Day 210.

So now it's time to get serious. I feel like I've got a good plan in place for this round.

emoticon I will track all of my food 6 days a week for the next 12 weeks. I'm not intending for the 7th day to be a cheat day, but with Super Bowl Sunday, my son's birthday party, the start of the Walking Dead watch parties... It's difficult to determine what I'm eating because we do them potluck style and while it would be easy to get the recipes, I don't want to fill my recipe book with foods that I'm only going to eat once. Call it laziness if you will; I'm okay with that :)

emoticon I will work out at least 5 times per week, 20 minutes minimum, for the next 12 weeks. I'm going to get my streak this round! When the weather gets nicer, this will be a lot easier. Right now, it's hanging out in my bedroom with the door closed until my son realizes that Mommy isn't around, so he seeks me out, comes in the room, "Hi, Mommy!", and tackles me. So yeah. It's tough!

emoticon I will do yoga 1-2 times per week for 30 minutes at a time for the next 12 weeks. Yoga is great for my back (and my ortho highly recommends it), plus I have lost a lot of flexibility from my various physical ailments. Yoga day will be Tuesdays and potentially Saturdays/Sundays. I'm committed to Tuesdays, but depending on the positions, it can cause numbness in my hands, so if it gets particularly bad, I'll be skipping the weekend sessions.

emoticon I will take some "me" time to destress and/or meditate 5 days a week for the next 12 weeks. This will ideally occur during lunch at work.

emoticon I will get 7-8 hours of sleep each night for the next 12 weeks. I sometimes am too keyed up to go to bed on time, and occasionally I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get back to bed. Sleep is essential because I am so tired during the day. It's impossible to get uninterrupted sleep in my household, but by going to bed earlier, I should be able to help with that.

  
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IRISHMUM3 1/20/2014 4:46PM

    Great goals! Good luck!

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JMOUSE99 1/20/2014 2:20PM

    emoticon goals! emoticon

I love the part about your son missing you and hunting you down. I have two cats that often "help" me workout by crawling underneath me when I'm doing planks!

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LADYOLIVER 1/20/2014 10:11AM

    emoticon goals. emoticon I love how the goals are customize to what fit into our life styles.

Make it happen.

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