Wednesday, November 12, 2014
I just need to vent.
My sister is 16 months older than I am, and has a history of mental health issues. As in being childhood schizophrenic and who knows what else. I know that, I accept that, and I move on.
But she drives me crazy, even half the world away.
There's always sibling rivalry, right? We all want to shine on our own and be noticed for what we do well.
But with my sister, it always is a competition. She always knows the right way to do things (her way) and everyone else is doing it wrong. When she was sleeping around and doing drugs, I was "square." When I was living with a long-time boyfriend and she found religion, I was "living in sin." I've tried for my entire life, all 60 years, to rise above her constant belittling. And competing. Most of the time, I have no problem, I just live my life the way I see fit. And let her live her life as she sees fit. (And step in and support her kids when they need it, because she doesn't.)
So - the latest - she saw my articles for Travel Fashion Girl. She replied to TFG. My ultra-religious wears-all-black covered from neck to heels sister gave her fashion advice. (She belonged to the Hutterites, similar to the Mennonites, and even though she and her husband left, she still dresses all covered up.) So NOW, TFG wants to publish my crazy sister's comments.
And of course crazy sister emails this news to me. Now, I have to give her credit, she did say she doesn't want to act like she's "trying to one-up me" and being "terribly cheeky" - really, that's a direct quotation.
But of course, she IS trying to one-up me if she's critiquing my fashion recommendations. Or giving her own thoughts, that women should be covered up all over everywhere.
I've spent 60 years being the "bigger person" and rising above - so of course I emailed back that she and I have different styles, and if her "fashion advice" could help someone who chooses to dress modestly (as in all covered) as a lifestyle, then fine - rather than my suggestion to be conscious of cultural mores where one is travelling and be covered according to what is acceptable there.
But it just irritates me no end. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGH!!!!! I mean, she says this might help her advertise her soon-to-be-published book about being a doula, and all her thoughts on birthing and raising babies. Would she like it if I wrote a comment contradicting much of what she has written????? (Would I even DREAM of doing such a thing? No, of course I wouldn't, I'm too nice a person to do anything like that.)
DH says I'm too nice to my sister. (Who he hasn't forgiven for not attending our wedding, even though our father offered to buy her a plane ticket and I offered to find someone who could house her if she came.)
We all have that crazy relative who just makes us nuts, right? Mine is my sister. My younger brothers all ignore her. Somehow, I just can't write her off. She's my one and only sister. But man, is she a &*$%^ sometimes!
Okay, rant over.