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The Power of A Streak...

Sunday, August 17, 2014

Day 662 SparkPeople Login
Day 78 lunch/salad streak
Day 10 running streak

I enter everything I consume in the Spark Food Tracker and all my exercise in the Spark Fitness Tracker. I figured out that I have a slow metabolism. I need to consume 1200 calories per day to lose weight - including running. To maintain, I can't go over 1300 calories per day. That is hard to do! As I studied my daily food intake, I decided to eat a salad every day for lunch, and "save" my calories for dinner, since it is my favorite meal of the day. There are a lot of different, healthy salads that I eat - from Power greens mixed with other raw veggies, zucchini or eggplant with tomatoes, to grilled chicken, Greek - and the list goes on. The streak really comes into play when I go out for lunch and on vacation. At this point, all restaurants seem to have salads on the menu. Sometimes I get a plain garden salad, other times I add tuna or salmon to it. Most of the time I do not use salad dressing, if I do it is minimal. Since the list of salads is endless, I haven't gotten bored. And, I love the crunch of eating raw veggies! Since I am on a nice, long streak, I keep going - I don't want to blow my streak! This streak keeps me in my suggested calorie range.

A couple of weeks ago, I started thinking about running again. I stopped after the Delaware Half Marathon in June. I packed my running gear and started running during my last vacation.

That first run felt so good, I decided to run again the next day. And then the next. I know that consistency is key and so I decided to make it a running streak.

Today I completed my 10th day of running in a row! I am not running for speed, just enjoying the run. I find myself waking up before the sun rises, ready to go out the door. I have more energy and feel so much more positive throughout the day.

My Spark Login streak is so important too. My first part of the day is spent being inspired by all of you!

These streaks work! Pick one thing you want to make a habit.
If you want to know more about them, here is how to start...

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KENDRACARROLL 8/20/2014 8:09PM

    Streaks are a great way to build momentum.

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INFLATED 8/20/2014 1:38PM

    This is wonderful! My son got out pictures last night and was showing them to his girlfriend. I looked at a prom picture of me and I was thin. Nobody knows how addicted I am to sweets and things that don't do me any good. I think I need to read a chapter of The End To Diabetes when I am having a craving.

Hubby seems to make sure that Tuesday is too busy to go grocery shopping and that is when we get a 5% senior discount. My son and his girlfriend are looking at houses and townhouses and I believe they will make an offer on one soon. That means he will be moving out and I will resume the duties here while hubby is at work.

I was so glad I could complete the treadmill stress test. The woman that assisted the cardiologist went over it with me before she had me get ready to do it. If I stopped, it was finished and I could not resume it. I was huffing and puffing at the end, but I completed it.

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EDENZMOM 8/18/2014 11:01AM

    great job!! I started running yesterday again as well... hopefully I can turn it into a streak! i love salads too. The COSTCO in my area carries really good kale/broccoli/brussel-sprout mix raw salad, with some seeds to add in. It's AMAZING! Have you tried it? Otherwise i'm into eating (and serving the kids) the rainbow; anything and everything in my fridge that covers every color. That way I can ensure load of vitamins :)

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SHAMROCKY2K 8/18/2014 12:23AM

    Wow.. over 600 days of logging in in a row. This weekend I messed it up by having a family weekend away from home. Congrats.. very impressive! Keep going.

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R2COUNTRY 8/17/2014 4:55PM

Keep streaking,
Thanks for the likes and comments. Knowing someone noticed is motivating.
Peace, Joy, and Blessings.

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TERI-RIFIC 8/17/2014 2:14PM

    emoticon emoticon you're doing great! Keep it up.

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USMAWIFE 8/17/2014 1:12PM

    emoticon ON YOUE STREAKS

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Taking Time To Heal...

Monday, August 11, 2014

The past few months I have felt like I was in a rut. I finished my two running goals in May - the Philly Broad Street 10 miler and the Delaware Half Marathon, then abruptly stopped. I had toyed with training for a Marathon, even laminated a plan but just let it go. I thought maybe I needed to try something new, maybe I was getting bored. hubby and I took Salsa lessons. We both enjoyed the 8 lessons, and decided we were going to be too busy in the summer and would resume lessons in the Fall.

Around that time, different family members began to dump their problems and stresses on me. I used to be able to handle it all so positively, but it wasn't happening this time. I felt like I was getting pulled further and further down. I was constantly internalizing and worrying about everyone.

Fast forward to my latest four day vacation by boat to St Michaels, MD. It was me, my hubby and Roxy. The boat ride was 3 hours each way. The weather was awesome, and I began to relax.

I have been carrying around the July subscription of Prevention Magazine for a month. After we docked at the marina and finished setting everything up, I sat on the boat and read it. One article really struck a cord with me.

As I read the article, it all started to click. I have not "healed" from almost losing my son last year. I am so sensitive now to any type of crisis. And, then I read one line that pulled it all together. "The simple truth is that I won't be truly healed until" -- my son is. Anorexia can be a lifelong battle. He still has his ups and downs. And, the minute I see any small sign of it I feel an immediate pit in my stomach. I am constantly "on guard".

emoticon moment!

Tips for healing included breathing (gotta love that yoga), finding a positive place which promotes feeling "safe" *which is key*, keeping your eyes "up" - looking upward makes it easier to feel positive = repeat daily.

And what a great place to begin...

Sailing to our destination through the Bay Bridge:

This is Kent Narrows. We had to sail between the markers (75 feet width) for quite a while. We passed other boats going the other way. My hubby was proud that he got through!

We made it!

St Michael's Harbor...

Hubby, Roxy and I dining outside...

I thought this was cool - outside water wall made from beer taps (this is upside down - can't get the picture to flip - sorry)...

Main Street - lots of cute shops and where I ran...

Roxy loved it...

Night time at St Michaels...

I kept reminding myself to "look up". This is the mouth of the Chesapeake Bay - I loved the clouds...

I have always loved the water. My family used to rent a house on the Chesapeake Bay when I was growing up. My dad always had a boat; mainly sailboats. About 12 years ago, I went on a school retreat with one of my sons on the Chesapeake Bay. As I sat and looked out, all the memories came back and I talked my husband into moving on the water. This is my "safe haven". It is so calm, laid back and peaceful. Just the sound of the waves is relaxing.

I thought about all of this after I read the article. I have been eating my oatmeal every morning, salad at lunch, walking the dog - but I know it is not enough. I used to get facials, manicures, pedicures all the time. I realized I had been letting it all go - I lost my "ME" time - I quickly made an appointment and enjoyed a facial while I was there. Ahhhh!

I was happy I packed my running gear. Everyday I got up and ran. It wasn't pretty, but I did it. And I told my husband I have to continue when I get home - and I did. Today was "day 4". And it felt great!

I have also talked my husband into going to a "Healing Resort". Lots of hiking, meditation, healthy eating - and, of course, a spa. emoticon
I know last year took a toll on him too, he gained quite a bit of weight.

So, Sparkbuddies, I am on my way back!!

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SHAMROCKY2K 8/14/2014 5:37PM

    I had forgotten about getting through that bridge. We only did it twice. Maybe it scared hubby enough to not attempt it again.
Good realization about basically your PTSD. Yoga is a good idea.. certainly time on the water. Run jump and play my friend.

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APPLEPIEAPPLE 8/14/2014 9:44AM

    Glad you took the time you needed. We all need to do that occasionally.

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INFLATED 8/13/2014 11:23PM

    I am glad that article helped. When I went to the family doctor, the nursing home where Mom was, is across the street. I thought about going there, but I have Mom's ashes until my sister comes back from New Hampshire and we bury them this fall. It struck me as odd that I would think of going over there, but maybe it was because that is the last place I saw her alive. I have her remains, so she is with me in that sense, her spirit has gone on.

I hope to ace this stress test and the reason for the echocardiogram is that my Dad only had 3 heart valves instead of 4. I don't like hearing the sound of my heart beating so that is going to be rough on me.

I think you are doing all of the right things.

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WATERMELLEN 8/12/2014 9:40PM

    Super pictures -- love the one of you and your husband and Roxy in particular -- and yup, only after "their" crisis is over do we begin to cope with the post-traumatic stress it's created for us . . . .

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    Sure struck a chord with me!
I live with that knot in my stomach too. It does wear you out. Like you, I'm trying to heal.

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KIWIANN 8/12/2014 9:45AM

    It is important to know where you find your safe haven, and I am glad to hear that you have found yours! A Healing Resort sounds like a great plan - and after all that you have been through, you definitely deserve taking the time out of the frenzy to heal! emoticon

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MOSTMOM1 8/12/2014 8:43AM

    Such a smart post. I'm glad you were able to carve out some time to rest, heal and think things through. Sounds like you're on a great path.

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TERI-RIFIC 8/12/2014 7:16AM

    That trip and article were just what you needed. I'm glad you're doing better and have a plan in place to continue. But I must say of all the things in your blog, having to sail through that narrow passage, is what really stuck out in my mind. I have a small sailboat and that would be very daunting to me!! Well done by your husband. Also great pictures.

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GLORYB2014 8/12/2014 6:55AM

    Thank you for sharing.
Also, thank you for giving us the article to look up, I'm on my way!

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EDENZMOM 8/12/2014 1:48AM

    Youre striking a chord with me too now... I have lots to heal from as well and now you've given me plenty to think about.
I will sort it out on a run!
So glad you enjoyed your time away, and that youve found your center again. None of us doubted you would leave for a minute :)
Best wishes !

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STRIVERONE 8/12/2014 1:32AM

    Happy for you. Hang onto the commitment.

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WONDERGALE 8/12/2014 1:11AM

    Thanks for sharing. emoticon on getting back on track. emoticon

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USMAWIFE 8/11/2014 10:47PM

    thanks for the article going to check it out later

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LIVE2RUN4LIFE 8/11/2014 10:39PM

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The World Is Off It's Axel...

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Trying really hard to stay positive...

My brother is at Sloane Kettering today. His red blood count is so high that they have to take blood from him every week and a half so he doesn't get a blood clot. They thought it was leukemia but he had no symptoms. Last night he tells me his son - my Godson - is in rehab and got arrested for stealing at Bestbuy .

I told my younger son and he said "look mom, our immediate family is doing great - it's not us".

Well, it is us. It is our family. After last year I know what my brother is going through -/ almost. My brother is sick with some kind of cancer on top of his son acting irresponsibly with prescription drug medication and other stuff.

Holy crap!

I told my hubby I feel like the earth is off its axel. I not only have family out of whack, I have Sparkfriends off balance with family members - here in the US and in Canada, the US and Israel.

Where is the balance? How do I handle this???

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DOGLADY13 8/4/2014 9:19PM

    Hang in there. It seems that the troubles come all at once.


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INFLATED 8/4/2014 2:57PM

    Everyone has problems. I try to pray with my friends about problems. I read all of the responses to this blog and sometimes there is nothing we can do that will change a thing.

I am grateful a couple from my church went with me to see a woman dying with cancer and to see my Mom while she could still speak. We prayed with both and I believe we all benefited from the visits.

My sister and brother-in-law have a son that is always in trouble with the law. My brother-in-law is blind and his wife worked three jobs to support the two of them. She does what she has to do and relies on prayer for things beyond her control. Her son was hit by a train and pushed for 50 feet down the tracks and suffered no broken bones and lived. He went back to drugs and drinking. He will steal to get booze and drugs.

Pro 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
Pro 3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Love is not bound. We can show our love by our support of those we cannot help.

Mat_11:28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. When Mom was in the nursing home, there was a lot that went on that was flat out wrong. I relied on this: Psa_68:5 A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habitation.

My Dad passed away in 1971 and I relied on God to help me through with the care of my Mom. God knows every situation, the key is trusting Him in it.

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    One day at a time, right?

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WONDERGALE 8/2/2014 6:38PM

    All we can do is pray and be there for our family and friends. emoticon

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EDENZMOM 7/31/2014 9:48AM

    I know exactly how you feel ;)
I think sometimes there is imbalance and lulls and ruts, but we are supposed to get through it with the strength of our friends and family that we can depend on. I hope it all works out, and that your brother and son heal quickly and get through this!

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USMAWIFE 7/31/2014 8:19AM

    I truly do believe the earth is off its axel but we are not in charge, God is

All we can continue to do is prayer

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MLH148 7/31/2014 7:09AM

    You find balance, I think, like you do on a moving subway train- you shift, widen your stance and sometimes grab onto something stable - a friend, minister, even relative stranger - til you find that balance
You're cherished

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SANDICANE 7/31/2014 6:58AM

    Thinking of you....and praying for you....

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WATERMELLEN 7/31/2014 6:51AM

    So hard. We live through tough times. Thinking of you.

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TERI-RIFIC 7/31/2014 6:34AM

    I'll keep you in my prayers. emoticon

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POSITIVEHOPE 7/31/2014 12:04AM

    Yes, a lot of people in your family are dealing with some most unfortunate things right now. Bad things do happen for no good reason to good people. Sometimes people bring on their own misfortune like your nephew but hopefully he may learn the lessons he needs about how to handle his life from this experience.
Remember to be thankful that your DB is receiving good care. Some people with similar problems can do well just by donating blood.
Your son is right, it's not happening to you or your children and for that you can be thankful. My DB is in the end stage of terminal cancer and just entered hospice. I am his support person. Despite dealing with this, I keep my balance by doing what I can for him and accepting that sometimes there isn't anything to do to change the outcome. Love and family means caring for people even when we can't fix things. It's hard but loving is hard sometimes.

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LIVE2RUN4LIFE 7/30/2014 11:50PM

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SHAMROCKY2K 7/30/2014 11:43PM

    YOU are not responsible for others, even your own kids. If you take all that on you will be the one getting sick. It's kind to have compassion but not to take it internally. Be there with comforting wise words that leave others with good feelings and then go out and live your life for you. As the saying goes, Life is too short! emoticon

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Oh Say Can You See...

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

I just returned from a 3 day boat trip to the Baltimore Harbor. My oldest son and his dog ended up coming with us.

3 adults and 2 dogs ... wasn't sure how this was going to go on a 30 foot boat!!

We live on the Elk River in Maryland and traveled down the Chesapeake Bay Saturday morning. The water was very smooth and the temperature was perfect.

Sailing into Baltimore...

My son, taking it in...

My husband, the Captain, happy that we made it...

Docked and ready to go...

We walked everywhere, if you have never been to the Baltimore Harbor, I highly recommend it. It houses my favorite aquarium, gorgeous stores, and a lot of fine restaurants. We also talked to Fells Point three times. The doggies loved walking there at night.

We also toured Ft McHenry - the inspiration for Francis Scott Key's "Star Spangled Banner" due to the war in September, 1812. The fort was restored in 1836 and is in mint condition.

The dogs were very well behaved during the trip. We had to keep them on the boat in air conditioning during the day - it was very hot. They slept really well at night. We figured out the sleeping arrangements and it wasn't half as bad as I thought it would be.

Here are the two doggies on the boat one night after a long walk...

Here is one more of Roxy in Baltimore. She is such a great dog!!

I did really good with my food choices, and kept my salad/lunch streak going. I tracked all of my food. I did indulge in Merlot at night, but still stayed in my calorie range. It was nice to finally get away, time to de-stress!

Later this week my husband and I are planning to sail to Annapolis or St Michaels - weather permitting. My son has already been informed it is a "romantic weekend trip". He got the hint!!

I hope you have a fabulous week!!

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INFLATED 8/4/2014 3:06PM

    I have visited Fort McHenry once. Your getting there by water would have been a lovely trip.

Great pictures and I am sure the dogs enjoyed it. I used to take my German Shepherd in my boat with me, but it had to be when it was cool outside. It was an aluminum boat with an outboard motor on it. She liked to ride in a car and go with me in the boat.

I think the pontoon was a get buy for you and your husband and what a great place for a date!

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WONDERGALE 8/2/2014 6:44PM

    Sounds like you had a nice time. emoticon on staying in your calorie range!

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MLH148 7/30/2014 7:29AM

    Sounds great. On Who Do You Think You Are (geneology show), Chris O'Donnell's ancestor was at the battle at Fort McHenry. Interesting to review (or learn) about the battle

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SHAMROCKY2K 7/29/2014 10:37PM

    Glad it all worked out. Boats are great. We had one on the Chesapeake until about 4 years ago. Living 45 min from where we docked it became an obstacle but I sooo loved it. You should plan a trip to Rock Hall as well. Great boater hang out. Both daughters got married there.
Sail on! Enjoy Annapolis!

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PEPPYPATTI 7/29/2014 9:34PM

    Wow! Sounds like a dream vacation! So glad you had a good time!

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LIVE2RUN4LIFE 7/29/2014 7:17PM

    What a great weekend. I love to sail. Wish I could do it more.

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WATERMELLEN 7/29/2014 6:03PM

    Looks like a marvellous time . . . and what about the dogs, are they included in a "romantic" trip??? (They are so sweet!!)

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BOILHAM 7/29/2014 12:06PM

    Baltimore harbor is gorgeous. DW loves the crabcakes at the many restaurants there. Love the pics of the dogs. Could just squeeze them.

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4ANEWME2DAY 7/29/2014 11:05AM

    Inner Harbor is beautiful. emoticon for sharing your pictures. Enjoy your "romantic" weekend. emoticon

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USMAWIFE 7/29/2014 11:02AM

    great vacation.

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EDENZMOM 7/29/2014 10:56AM

    that's great!!
the trip sounded like a fun get away, I'm sure you're looking forward to the next one of just you and hubby (and Roxy of course) ! enjoy

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Update On My Son's BF Mike...

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Mike was told he isn't a candidate for the trial drug. He went for a second opinion and was told he probably will not live another year.

Please keep him in your prayers.

My son is pretty upset. I am really worried that he is headed in a downward spiral. I don't have the energy or strong nerves for a repeat of last year. I feel all the tenseness and stress throughout my body.

My husband and I planned a three day boat trip and now my son invited himself -and his dog - to come along with us. We are worried about him so we are going with it, hopefully he will open up and talk. It's not a big boat, we are going to be crammed at night, and with 2 dogs! - I just keep thinking God has a plan!!

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INFLATED 8/4/2014 3:13PM

    Strengthen your son by saying positive things about his friendship with Mike. He is there for him which is good. Build up those strengths.

I see ads for Cancer Treatment Centers on the TV and some they have helped. I don't know anything about Mike or if he has insurance that would let him get a second opinion from a center. There is one in Philadelphia, Pa.

Your son has remained strong during this trying time. Maybe there will not be a repeat of the anorexia.

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CHERRY666 7/26/2014 3:07PM

    I'm so sorry to hear about your son's friend. =(

Hope the boat trip goes well.

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EDENZMOM 7/25/2014 6:33AM

    I'm happy at least he's reaching out. He is so lucky to have you and your husband in his life.

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SHAMROCKY2K 7/25/2014 12:27AM

    I hope things turn around for you. Maybe he will find something better to do? Or you can say you and Dad want to make sure the boat will work well for more then 2 people for this first longer trip.

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SWEDE_SU 7/24/2014 11:36PM

    thinking of you in this difficult situation emoticon

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USMAWIFE 7/24/2014 11:14PM

    prayers coming

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MWWENSIN 7/24/2014 11:11PM

    I'll keep praying

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MWWENSIN 7/24/2014 11:10PM

    Breaking things down helps. God doesn't give you more than you can handle. You've gotten through tough times before you can do it again. Faith is important, dialogue is important, you will make it through this.

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SLIMMERJESSE 7/24/2014 11:05PM

    Very tough situation.

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OPTIMIST1948 7/24/2014 10:44PM

    Need to plan simple things that give mind and body a chance to open up. Perhaps a puzzle or ongoing game of rummy 5000?

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LIVE2RUN4LIFE 7/24/2014 10:34PM

    I'm so sorry.

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