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Beck Day 41

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Oh thank you to everyone for all your kind words yesterday.... I really cannot express what they mean to me.

After a long afternoon nap, yesterday afternoon me and DH got dressed up, went shopping and then went to a buffet Chinese restaurant for dinner. It was lovely. My size 10 Laura store pants were large enough so I could fit a 2nd pair underneath to keep me warmer. The shopping was uplifting as I just went up and down the isles, looking and looking and looking some more. The buffet had crab legs, which were so tasty. This morning the scales says I'm at goal weight. My first thought was "I coulda had waaaaaaaaaaaaay more dessert last night!!!" And then I realized what a gift it is to be at goal weight, rather than being up 4 or 5 lbs from heavy over-eating, and then panicking to get my weight back down. Yes, this is better. This is a gift, but not a given.

Beck's day 41 is Make a New To-Do List. Well, any of you who know me, knows I don't make to do lists at all!!! I make Wanna Do lists. So anyway, she's getting us ready to go on in life. Yep, to move on. B/c she does think that we can change our thinking and change our lives. She believes it (and she's one SMART lady) so I should believe it too. I mean, after all, my scales are still at my goal weight this morning...that's different!!!! And if I think about it, I know exactly why that's different. a) I didn't have to get my money's worth at the buffet last night. b) I didn't have to have a taste of everything c) I was happy, truly happy, with The Purple Giraffe.

I need to translate these skills to my life. Something is stopping me...I'll figure out what is it and move forward, OR I'll "just do it". It's like diet and exercise...know what is good for you, pre-plan it and follow the plan...NO CHOICE. And when we take the action, we get the results.

What gives me joy? I gotta think about that....

Have a wonderful Sunday all!

  
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_LINDA 11/23/2014 6:44PM

    emoticon emoticon control over buffet eating!!
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FUNLOVEN 11/23/2014 12:25PM

    LOOK AT YOU ! WAY TO GO ! WHAT A GAL ! emoticon and emoticon

Well, you know me - I could go on and on and on ! I know you will figure out how to transfer your Beck skills to other areas in your life.

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WATERMELLEN 11/23/2014 11:07AM

    Sounds like a terrific day -- and I have no doubt that whether a "to do" or a "wanna do", you're going to use your Beck skills to keep on maintaining!

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TRAVELGRRL 11/23/2014 9:48AM

    You are handling your weight maintenance with such aplomb and grace...I really admire that. I'm up 10 pounds from where I WANT to be and I don't seem to be finding any traction for getting back on track with my eating. I need to use you as my inspiration!

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/23/2014 8:54AM

    Oh, yes! You and I are on similar paths, finding the next phase of our lives. For me it is that to-do list and calendar related to retirement... because one then has to figure out what DAILY life is going to look like without the structure of "get up, get ready, go to work". Yes, I have some ideas about what I want to do... but I want to be prepared to DO it, day one... not have that period of figuring it out AFTER I pull the ripcord.

And congrats on your maintenance! This is a difficult phase, but it is such a gratifying one: realizing how GOOD it feels to have strengthened your resistance muscles and exercised them yesterday? Priceless! emoticon

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KANOE10 11/23/2014 8:23AM

    That was a great job of eating healthy at the buffet. You should be proud of yourself for waking up happy at goal weight. Great job. Good luck on that to do list.
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NELLJONES 11/23/2014 8:00AM

    My To Do list is very different from my Wanna Do list, but I have to do some things I don't like to do, like vacuuming. Or cleaning the range hood. Getting all that stuff done, though, makes me feel lighter. Undone tasks have a weight of their own. It may not show up on the scale, but it's a weight nonetheless.

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GABY1948 11/23/2014 7:53AM

    emoticon and I'm glad you had a truly wonderful time and are much more upbeat today than yesterday!

You are MAINTAINING and that "ain't nothin' to SNEEZE at! emoticon emoticon

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TORTISE110 11/23/2014 7:37AM

    It sounds like you are on a lovely gratifying path.

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Beck Day 40

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Beck's Day 40 is Enrich Your Life. Really? You mean there is more to life than planning meals, cooking meals, logging food, logging exercise and blogging each day? Yes, I believe there is, but so much has happened to me in the past year, that I'm wounded. Wounded and tired. I've been thinking about enriching my life lately, but no action has happened.

Beck's Enrich Your Life gives me step to take to get started, along with a plan to keep going. I think I need to make an "advantages" card for this b/c it's so easy ta not ta (as Mater would say). I even already asked someone to "coach" me through "life" changes, but they said no. Really, there are other people I could ask. Better no coach than a reluctant coach.

So Enrich my Life could change my life, if implemented along with the rest of Beck's steps. You know what friends? I can see the benefits, but this is going to be harder for me to do than losing weight and maintaining weight... Harder, but the most life-changing, if I can.

  
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PATTI_PAL1 11/22/2014 6:50PM

    YOU have enriched MY life!

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_LINDA 11/22/2014 12:06PM

    You have done amazing with your healthy lifestyle quest in spite of your life challenges this past year. Maintaining in spite of all the emotional and physical adversity? Gold Star Success! emoticon
One day it will come time to put away the book and simply just live it. Then you will find the time is right to branch out, when the healing and recovery is done. As for me, I am looking forward to joining a light hearted group like the Red Hat Society. Sometimes a girl just wants to have fun and that is all they seem to do lol. Check out their website -it all started as support for the loss of a loved one..
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TRAVELGRRL 11/22/2014 11:29AM

    You will make the changes that are necessary when you are ready. ((Hugs)) to you as you figure it out!

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/22/2014 10:31AM

    Yes, deep thoughts. My "retirement planning" thoughts are similar: scary, but going to have a big reward, once I get it figured out. And in the meantime, the "thinking like a thin person" can hopefully help me hold the rest of life together! emoticon

And I second WATERMELLEN's comment about giving yourself credit. We're all pulling for you.

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WATERMELLEN 11/22/2014 9:28AM

    A thoughtful and profoundly true blog -- but give yourself credit, too, for the big changes you've made, and for what you've learned about yourself in the "body" process as signalling a desire for other deeper internal and external changes. You are figuring it all out, most competently . . . really you are. You're finding out what works for YOU; and since you're YOU-nique, you'll find your way.

And you'll be surrounded by friends here as you do that!

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KANOE10 11/22/2014 8:21AM

    You have had a hard year. You are working hard at maintenance. Enriching your life will come when you are ready. I think being with your family enriches your life.

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FUNLOVEN 11/22/2014 8:20AM

    Healing takes time and we never know how much time it needs! You are one smart cookie and I know you will get this all figured out.

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NELLJONES 11/22/2014 8:18AM

    Have you ever heard the phrase "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans"? For me, life is what happens between meals. My day is breakfast, time between breakfast and lunch, lunch, time between lunch and dinner, dinner, and time after dinner. That's 6 segments, three of which are eating, and the other three is where Life happens. That time is filled with stuff I like (shopping, visiting with friends and family, reading, walking) and stuff I don't like (cleaning, laundry, ironing). Is any of that enriching? I suppose that depends on my attitude that day. Those day roll inexorably by one at a time, and there is no way to make sure every minute is memorable.

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GABY1948 11/22/2014 7:51AM

    WOW, deep blog, Sandi!

First, I am sorry this last year has been so hard. Sounds like your life could use some enriching and I am looking forward to seeing what is in that chapter. If there is ever anything that I can help with, just give a yell! emoticon

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Beck Day 39

Friday, November 21, 2014

Today is Keep up with Exercise. I love to walk. Walking outside gives me more pleasure than swimming, kayaking and gardening combined, however, this time of year is too treacherous to walk.

In 2006 when I was losing weight for my daughter's wedding, I was following Dr Phil's book, The Ultimate Weight Loss Solution. In it he gives my only hope for continuing to exercise. He suggests I "consequate my exercise". He told me I wouldn't think of going to work without getting dressed first so too, I shouldn't think of going to bed at night without having first done my exercises....and I did it! Every day, without fail. As soon as I reached goal weight, I stopped. That's been my m.o.

I do need to consequate my exercise again. I've been doing 100 to 200 sit ups a day along with around 25 pushups, but that cardio...I need a winter replacement for cardio.

There are so many people who are good examples of maintainers on this site, and just about all of them exercise daily. That's the way. I gotta do it, and I gotta keep doing it, if I want to be a long-time maintainer...and I DO!

  
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_LINDA 11/21/2014 11:33PM

    Yes, winter is horrible and for the last two years here has been too dangerously cold to walk outside in addition to icy streets. Its been raining all day here and will be a nightmare here by morning :-( Fortunately, I brought my workout DVD's from home. It won't be nice working out here, carpet or hardwood floors the choice with pet interference, but I will give it a go (Mom's cat always seems to want to get under my feet when I start moving). But You tube does have tons of great free videos to workout to, you just have to find ones you like. I learned to enjoy home exercising and the elliptical is my go to machine, as transportation is a problem for me in winter.
Great work with the toning exercises!!

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/21/2014 8:27PM

    Rest of our LIVES maintainers! That's us! emoticon

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PATTI_PAL1 11/21/2014 1:35PM

    When I neared Maintenance (and thinking of fall/winter coming (think RAIN), I rewarded myself with 4 new Leslie Sansone DVDs. I knew I enjoyed them from years ago. Her new ones are even more fantastic.

So, now each morning I decide whether I want to go outside or stay in with Leslie. A few friends helped me get over my dislike of walking in the rain, so that is still always an option. So, the question is "Do I want to go outside?" not "Am I going to exercise?"


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FUNLOVEN 11/21/2014 10:04AM

    Holy Moly! ! ! Look at all of those sit ups and push ups. emoticon

Sounds like our Spark Friends have some good ideas. How about Mall Walking. That has become very popular lately and I like it b/c I can get my DH to do it with me.

I also read somewhere about taking a trip around the perimeter of the grocery store before you actually start your shopping. I have done this, but sometimes the shoppers do get in the way.

We've got this !

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BOOKAPHILE 11/21/2014 9:38AM

    I have an elliptical machine that is easy on the knees but gets the job done. Videos or workout DVDs work, too. Consistency is important. You can build this into your life. Enjoying your exercise of choice makes long term participation more likely.

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GABY1948 11/21/2014 8:13AM

    I agree with KANOE10. I have many of her dvds and they WORK! I, personally, love DOING things for my cardio...I shovel snow....last year when we got that horrible snow all winter I put it to use and went out and for at LEAST an hour a day I shoveled piles of snow...next day I shoveled the same piles and MOVED them. I loved it. So far this year I go out and cut trees in our back woods for paths and stack up all the fallen ones...there has GOT to be something you LIKE. If you don't LIKE it you won't do it!

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WATERMELLEN 11/21/2014 8:07AM

    How about my winter fave: xc skiing? I can't run anymore (ground out my hips and knees) but xc is like the elliptical but outside . . . love it!!!

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KANOE10 11/21/2014 8:01AM

    Have you tried Leslie Sansome walk off the pounds on you tube? It is fun and you can do it in your house. I agree with you about the importance of exercise.

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Beck Day 38 - (happy dance day!)

Thursday, November 20, 2014

So Beck's day 38 is Deal With A Plateau.

When I was in weight-loss mode, a plateau was dreaded...oh so dreaded. I would work hard and anxiously await the scales to move again.

In maintenance, a plateau is utopia. That's what I'm striving for...no more yo yo-ing, and after a lifetime of it, at 59 years of age, I'm oh so ready to embrace all of Beck's new food thinking and oh so ready to watch those scales stay the same...day after day, week after week.

It's a gift...it's a gift. However, I must remind myself every day that while it may be a gift, it is not a given. I must continue to use Beck's steps in order to keep receiving the gift...there can be no "letting down of effort".

Let the happiness continue, but so too the action which causes it.

  
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FUNLOVEN 11/21/2014 9:28AM

    Do you have any idea how smart you sound ? ! ! !
You are my inspiration!
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_LINDA 11/20/2014 7:01PM

    So nice to hear a positive about a plateau!! You are doing it!
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PATTI_PAL1 11/20/2014 6:11PM

    Great way to put it.

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KANOE10 11/20/2014 10:52AM

    I like the a gift, but not given also. Daily determination is the key to keeping that gift.

You are doing great!~

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WATERMELLEN 11/20/2014 9:02AM

    "A gift but not a given": now there's a phrase worth remembering!!

Glad you're feeling happy, and that you're committed to keeping on keeping on so you stay happy!!

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GABY1948 11/20/2014 8:46AM

    GREAT blog! And I so agree with you, Sandi! THIS plateau is what I long for!

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Beck Day 37 - Reduce Stress

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

For me, Beck has had some truly wonderful, eye-opening steps in this book. Today's lesson is Reduce Stress.

I've been trying to use NO CHOICE and Oh Well to solve problems and also to reduce my stress. Step 3 of today is: Change Your Mindset. She says many people are chronically stressed because they allow unreasonable rules to guide their behaviour. ie
-I should always do my best.
-I should always prevent problems.
-I shouldn't rely on others.
-I shouldn't let people down.
-I shouldn't make others unhappy.

Seems like Beck knows me so well. This is just some of the content of today's lesson, which, if I read it, and WORK it, will change my life.

The Beck book was borrowed from my local library b/c I vowed I wasn't spending another penny on weight loss books. Now that I'm almost to the end, I know it contains food lessons, life lessons and actions that could change my life forever, so I'm going to go buy the book.

Knowledge is the first step. Analysis is nothing without synthesis. Action is King, and I need to continue to action my new-found knowledge.

  
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ONEKIDSMOM 11/19/2014 8:23PM

    Great choice to check it out of the library first! And good that you found this is one that belongs on the shelf and can make the purchase.

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_LINDA 11/19/2014 2:27PM

    I don't know why more people don't make use of the free resource that is the library. Try before you buy always works well.
So glad you have finally found what works for you! And you are following it in style, enthusiasm and dedication. Sounds like a winner to me! You go girl!

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GABY1948 11/19/2014 11:26AM

    emoticon I'm so glad I have my books! And you have the same dedication I do....to use it FOREVER!

I also am a "SHOULD" lady. Not to anyone else but my BRAIN!

Great blog, Sandi!

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KELLIEBEAN 11/19/2014 9:06AM

    Great decision to buy the book. You are doing so well!

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WATERMELLEN 11/19/2014 8:34AM

    "I shouldn't buy another weight loss book" becomes "it's realistic to buy THIS particular book which goes way beyond weight loss"!!

(And: the workbook is good too!!!)

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FUNLOVEN 11/19/2014 7:49AM

    You are doing so well! I have no doubt that you will continue to be successful on this healthy journey you are on. You are already doing so many of the things she recommends without even realizing it !

I think the problem of stress for many of us is the "I shoulds" in our heads that are not based in reality. We can only control ourselves and so the "I should always do my best" is something we can all strive for, but all of the other "I shoulds" are really out of our control.

It can sound selfish, but I think the first steps of success should sound something like "IT"S ALL ABOUT ME!". Only when we master that, can we expand ourselves to a stressful world of others in a helpful manner that is about "them".

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KANOE10 11/19/2014 7:45AM

    That is a good point about not allowing unreasonable rule to determine your behavior.You did a good job of identifying things that can stress you! It might be worth it to buy that book!

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