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WHEN DID IT CHANGE?

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

I HAD TO VENTURE FORTH INTO THE WILD THIS WEEK AND TRY SOME LAST MINUTE SHOPPING. AND IT OCCURRED TO ME THAT I HAVE NO IDEA WHEN IT CHANGED AND CHRISTMAS BECAME ALL ABOUT THE AMOUNT OF MONEY THE MERCHANTS WERE MAKING, BLACK FRIDAY (NOW STARTING ON THANKSGIVING DAY) AND SANTA, SANTA, SANTA.

WHEN I WAS A KID, WE DIDN'T PUT UP OUR TREE UNTIL CHRISTMAS EVE - IF WE WERE LUCKY ENOUGH TO BE ABLE TO AFFORD A TREE. THERE WAS NO SUCH THING AS ARTIFICIAL TREES. THEN WE GOT ALL DRESSED UP, WENT TO MIDNIGHT MASS - WHICH WAS ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL - WALKED HOME, AND ATE A HUGE MEAL THAT HAD BEEN COOKING MOST OF THE DAY.

WE RARELY WOKE UP BEFORE 10AM AND THEN FIRST OPENED OUR GIFTS. WE EACH GOT ONE THING AND THEY NEVER SAID THEY WERE FROM SANTA. THE BEST GIFTS WE GOT CAME FROM MY GRANDMA. EVERYTHING WE GOT FROM HER WAS HOME MADE.
BEAUTIFUL SWEATERS WITH MATCHING SCARVES AND HATS, MITTENS TOO SO WE COULD WEAR THEM ICE SKATING.

AND GRANDMA ALWAYS BROUGHT MY DAD A HUGE BATCH OF HER "CAST-IRON COOKIES". IT WAS IMPOSSIBLE TO BITE THESE COOKIES. THEY WERE HARD AS ROCKS BUT THEY WERE SUPPOSED TO BE. THEY WERE MADE TO BE DUNKED IN A CUP OF HOT COFFEE. MY DAD HOARDED THOSE AND MADE THEM LAST FOR WEEKS.

BUT THE PART OF CHRISTMAS PAST THAT I REMEMBER MOST WAS THAT ONE BLOCK WALK TO THE CHURCH ON CHRISTMAS EVE. SNOW WAS ALWAYS FALLING GENTLY. WE HAD OLD FASHIONED STREET LIGHTS THAT WERE PEAKED WITH SNOW CAPS. WE'D SLIP AND SLIDE IN OUR DRESS SHOES ON THE SNOW AND I ALMOST FROZE MY FEET AND LEGS OFF IN MY WHITE CHRISTMAS TIGHTS. THE CHURCH WAS LIT ONLY WITH CANDLES. THE TREES SET UP IN THE CHURCH WERE HUGE - ONE ON EACH SIDE OF THE ALTAR. THEY HAD ONLY WHITE LIGHTS AND ANGELS ON THEM. THE STEPS LEADING TO THE ALTAR WERE SURROUNDED WITH POINTSETTIAS. IT WAS TOTALLY QUIET AND ALMOST MAGICAL. AT THE END OF THE SERVICE, WE ALL WALKED OUT WHILE SINGING "SILENT NIGHT". IT WAS SO BEAUTIFUL AND OUR HEARTS WERE FILLED WITH THE JOY OF THE BIRTH OF CHRIST.

YES WE KIDS BELIEVED IN SANTA. BUT HE WAS THE ONE THAT FILLED OUR STOCKINGS - NOT BROUGHT HUNDREDS OF DOLLARS WORTH OF GIFTS. IN OUR STOCKINGS WE GOT A SMALL TOY AND FRUIT, NUTS AND SOME HARD CHRISTMAS CANDY AND WE WERE SO HAPPY TO GET THAT.

THE HOLIDAY WAS ABOUT FAMILY AND CHRISTMAS DINNER, MIDNIGHT MASS AND THE BIRTH OF CHRIST - NOT SANTA AND A MOUNTAIN OF GIFTS. ALL MY FRIENDS HAD THE SAME TYPE OF CHRISTMAS THAT WE DID. SO WHEN DID IT ALL CHANGE AND BECOME THE MOST COMMERCIALIZED HOLIDAY OF THE YEAR? NOW, THEY ARE PUTTING UP THE TREES IN WALMART THE DAY AFTER HALLOWEEN! RIDICULOUS! I THINK MAYBE WE ALL NEED TO TAKE A STEP BACK AND JUST SAY NO! I'M NOT GOING TO GO INTO DEBT JUST TO BUY GIFTS. I WILL NOT STAND IN LINE ON BLACK FRIDAY FOR HOURS TO SAVE A LITTLE EXTRA MONEY ON SOME SUPER CHARGED. BATTERIES NOT INCLUDED, HYPER-TECHNICAL TOY THAT MY CHILD REALLY DOESN'T NEED BUT WANTS BECAUSE ALL THEIR FRIENDS HAVE IT.

LET'S GET BACK TO CHRIST, FAMILY, THE CHURCH SERVICE OF YOUR CHOICE, AND GATHERING FOR CHRISTMAS DINNER AND FAMILY TOGETHERNESS. SORRY FOLKS, BUT I'M JUST TIRED OF ALL THIS HYPE.

ERIN

  
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RURAL3 12/16/2014 11:39PM

    What a beautiful memory Erin. Unfortunately you are right. It has changed. I have many of those same memories that you do. It truly was grand.

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LIVE_AMAZINGLY 12/16/2014 3:44PM

    Those changes happened OH SO LONG AGO! You must have been hibernating a really long time to not have seen it!
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ROBBIEY 12/16/2014 1:12PM

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WHAT IS IT???????

Thursday, December 04, 2014

I THINK IT'S A GUY THING - I REALLY DO. LAST WEEKEND, I SENT DH OUT TO GET A NEW TV. OUR ANCIENT NON-DIGITAL, NON-HIGH DEFINITION TV, FINALLY DIED. I HAD SHOPPED ALL OVER. I KNEW EXACTLY WHAT WOULD FIT, HAD THE BEST PICTURE, AND THAT I COULD GET FOR A GOOD PRICE.

I WROTE IT ALL DOWN - THE NAME OF THE STORE, WHO TO TALK TO, THE MAKE OF THE TV, THE SIZE, THE MODEL NUMBER AND THE PRICE. WHAT MORE INFORMATION COULD HE POSSIBLY NEED. I KNEW THE ENTIRE PURCHASE - TAX INCLUDED WOULD COME TO $599.95. DID DH GET WHAT I SENT HIM FOR? WELL .........

FIRST HE CAME HOME ALL EXCITED AND SAID THAT HE LOVED THAT STORE. AND HE WOULD NEVER HAVE THOUGHT TO GO THERE FOR A TV SINCE IT IS JUST A MOM AND POP SMALL BUSINESS. BUT WHEN HE HANDED ME THE RECEIPT, I NEARLY FAINTED!
$1,999.99! YES! YOU READ THAT RIGHT.

"WHAT IN THE WORLD DID YOU BUY" " WELL", HE SAID," I GOT A LITTLE DIFFERENT ONE THAN THE ONE YOU HAD PICKED OUT." HE SAID THEY WOULD BE DELIVERING IT TODAY. DELIVERY IT! WHAT I HAD PICKED OUT WOULD HAVE FIT IN THE BACK OF MY CR-V. DELIVERING IT? MY BIGGEST FEAR WAS THAT A GIANT MOVING VAN WOULD PULL UP AND FOUR GUYS WOULD BE CARRYING A 84" TV USED IN A HOME THEATER. WE DO NOT EVEN HAVE A WALL BIG ENOUGH FOR THAT! AND WE DEFINITELY DON'T HAVE A STAND FOR IT.

BUT NO! THEY BROUGHT IT IN BUT THERE WERE TWO SEPARATE BOXES. WHAT IN THE WORLD? IT WAS A NORMAL 40" TV - OR SO I THOUGHT. BUT NO! THIS IS WHAT THEY CALL A "SMART TV" YOU CAN PROJECT THINGS FROM YOUR COMPUTER TO THE TV SCREEN. WONDERFUL! EXCEPT - HIS COMPUTER AND MINE ARE IN OUR BEDROOMS AND ARE NOT LAPTOPS AND THE TV IS IN THE LIVING ROOM.

BUT YOU ALSO GET NETFLIX AND ALL THOSE "SPECIAL CHANNELS" WITH IT. WHAT? WE ALREADY HAVE A ROKU AND DIDN'T NEED THOSE FEATURES. HE KNEW THAT! BUT THE OTHER BOX HELD THE BIGGY. HE BOUGHT A SOUND BAR AND SURROUND SOUND SPEAKERS FOR A 10 X 13 LIVING ROOM. AT THE LOWEST SETTING, I THINK OUR TV CAN BE HEARD ON THE 5TH FLOOR IN THE NEXT BUILDING. HIS REACTION? "COOL, HUH?"

NOW I KNOW THAT DH WEARS HEARING AIDS. THEY ARE AT THE HIGHEST SETTING AND CANNOT BE TURNED UP ANY HIGHER AS THEY THEN SQUEAL. A SOUND BAR WAS NOT AN ALTOGETHER BAD IDEA FOR HIM. BUT THIS SOUND BAR WAS MADE FOR A SPORTS BAR AND HAD NOT BEEN PICKED UP SO THEY GAVE HIM A "GOOD DEAL" ON IT. RIGHT!
THE SOUND BAR COST MORE THAN THE TV.

BUT YOU CAN TAKE TWO MEN, PUT THEM IN THE SAME ROOM WATCHING A FOOTBALL GAME AND IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A TV THAT TAKES UP HALF OF YOUR LONGEST WALL AND CAN DROWN OUT THE SCREAMS OF 20 WOMEN IN LABOR, THEY WOULD FAR RATHER GO TO A BAR TO WATCH THE GAME. DH DOES NOT DRINK BUT WOULD STILL RATHER GO TO A BAR TO WATCH THE GAME WHERE HE CAN SCREAM LIKE A LITTLE GIRL OVER A SILLY FUMBLE. I TRULY DO NOT UNDERSTAND.

I TOLD HIM THAT THIS PURCHASE WOULD HAVE TO COVER OUR ANNIVERSARY, CHRISTMAS AND BOTH OF OUR BIRTHDAYS - NO MORE GIFTS IN 2015. BUT HE THEN HAD THE AUDACITY TO SAY, "BUT YOU GOT TO PICK OUT THE STOVE THAT YOU WANTED!" LORD I HOPE I DON'T HAVE TO KILL HIM ......

ERIN

  
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FINAL REPORT

Monday, November 24, 2014

TODAY, AT 12:15 THIS AFTERNOON, MY DAUGHTER LEFT THIS WORLD. EVEN WHILE MY HEART IS BREAKING, I HAVE SO MUCH I NEED TO SAY. TIME TO GET ON MY SOAP BOX.

IF ANY OF YOU HAVE A CHILD - EVEN AN ADULT CHILD - THAT IS INVOLVED WITH DRUGS OR ALCOHOL; FIGHT! YOU FIGHT FOR EVERYTHING YOUR WORTH AND RIGHT UP UNTIL YOUR LAST BREATH IF THAT'S WHAT IT TAKES.

IF YOU HAVE A CHILD THAT IS NOT ACTING RIGHT AT A VERY YOUNG AGE; DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. AND EVEN THEN, THERE ARE NO GUARANTEES. WHEN MY GIRLS WERE BORN, WE NEVER HEARD THE WORD ADHD OR AUTISM. WE NEVER HEARD OF ASPERGER'S SYNDROME. THEY SIMPLY DIDN'T EXIST. IF YOUR CHILD ACTED OUT, YOU DISCIPLED THEM AND IF THAT DIN'T WORK, YOU TURNED TO YOUR CHURCH FOR ADVICE AND IF THAT DIDN'T WORK, YOU SOUGHT PROFESSIONAL HELP.

MY DAUGHTER IS THE ONLY CHILD I HAVE EVER HEARD OF THAT GOT SUSPENDED FROM KINDERGARTEN ON THE FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL! WHY? SHE PUNCHED A LITTLE BOYS TEETH OUT FOR TRYING TO KISS HER. AND THIS WAS A PAROCHIAL SCHOOL!

WHEN WE TRIED COUNSELING THROUGH CHURCH, SHE ACTUALLY SPIT AT THE PASTOR! AND WHEN WE TURNED TO PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING, SHE WAS ONLY 10 YEARS OLD. SHE TOLD THE COUNSELORS THAT SHE PLANNED TO SHOOT US WHILE WE ALL SLEPT WITH ONE OF HER DAD'S GUNS. MY LORD! WE IMMEDIATELY WENT HOME AND DISABLED ALL THE GUNS SO THEY COULD NOT FIRE.

SHE KILLED HER TURTLES, HER GERBILS, AND HER FINCHES. HER DR. PUT HER ON MEDICATION AND ORDERED A SPECIAL DIET FOR HER KNOWN AS THE FEINGOLD DIET. THAT ALONE DID WONDERS FOR HER. IT INVOLVED EATING NOTHING WITH CHEMICALS OR PRESERVATIVES IN THEM. PARTICULARILY RED DYE NO. 3. HER BEHAVIOR STARTED TO TURN. SHE BECAME A STRAIGHT A STUDENT IN SCHOOL.

SHE GOT HEPATITIS C WHEN SHE WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL AND WAS TOLD NEVER, EVER TO DRINK. SHE LAUGHED AT THE DRS. AND TOLD THEM, "TOO LATE, I ALREADY DO".
SHE WAS 14. WHEN SHE TURNED 18 AND GRADUATED, SHE MOVED OUT OF THE HOUSE AND AFTER 13 YEARS OF PAROCHIAL SCHOOL, DECIDED TO BECOME A SATAN WORSHIPPER.

AT 27 SHE "DECIDED" SHE WAS GAY. MEN ARE JUST TOO BIG OF A PAIN IN THE ASS WAS HOW SHE PUT IT. SHE FOUND A PARTNER INSTANTLY WHO PRACTICED WITCHCRAFT AND THE TWO OF THEM JOINED A COVEN. AND THEN SHE CALLS TO TELL ME HER PARTNER HAS DECIDED TO ADOPT A 9 YEAR OLD CHILD. I TOTALLY LOST IT. I TOLD HER THAT WHAT SHE DOES WITH HER PARTNER IS BETWEEN THEM AND GOD BUT TO BRING A CHILD INTO THAT HOUSEHOLD WOULD DESTROY THAT CHILD'S LIFE. THEY DID IT ANYHOW AND I DIDN'T HEAR FROM THEM FOR 4 YEARS. UNTIL THE FIRST TIME THE CHILD WAS ARRESTED AT AGE 13 FOR SOLICITATION. THEY WANTED MONEY TO BAIL HER OUT OF JAIL. I REFUSED AND THEY WERE ORDERED BY THE COURT, TO ATTEND PARENTING CLASSES. THEY NEVER WENT.

SO WHERE WAS THIS CHILD WHILE HER SO CALLED MOTHER WAS DYING? SHE HAD LEFT ONE NIGHT AT 15 AND NEVER CAME BACK. MY YOUNGEST DAUGHTER WAS ABLE TO FIND HER AND INFORM HER THAT MARY WAS DYING. HER REPLY? "AS FAR AS I AM CONCERNED, ALL THEY DID IN THAT HOUSE WAS ABUSE ME AND I WILL NEVER RETURN - NOT EVEN FOR THIS. AND SHE DIDN'T.

YESTERDAY AFTERNOON, MY YOUNGEST CALLED ME AND SAID SHE WAS AT HER SISTER'S BEDSIDE AND HAD ASKED HOSPOICE TO HOLD HER MEDICATION FOR AN HOUR TO MAKE HER MORE MENTALLY ALERT. HOSPICE THOUGHT IT WAS A CRUEL REQUEST. PATTI, MY YOUNGEST TOLD THEM, "NO, I WANT MY MOTHER TO HAVE A CHANCE TO SAY GOODBYE TO HER.' PATTI CALLED ME AND PUT THE PHONE BY HER SISTER'S EAR. I TOLD HER THAT I WAS THERE WITH HER, THAT SHE WOULD ALWAYS BE MY BABY BUT THAT IT WAS TIME TO LET GO AND STOP FIGHTING. I TOLD HER I WOULD ALWAYS LOVE HER. SHE HAD NOT SPOKEN IN OVER A WEEK BUT THEN SAID, "MOMMY?

AND IT WAS THE LAST WORD SHE EVER SPOKE. SHE DIED IN HER HOME WITH ONLY STRANGERS AND HER SISTER WITH HER. THERE WILL BE NO FUNERAL, NO MEMORIAL SERVICE. THIS WAS NOT A CELEBRATION OF LIFE. THIS WAS A WASTE OF A BEAUTIFUL GOD-GIVEN CHILD WHO MADE EVERY WRONG CHOICE IN HER LIFE THAT ANY PERSON CAN MAKE.

EVEN WHILE MY HEART IS BREAKING I NEED TO TELL YOU ALL. HUG YOUR KIDS TONIGHT. MAKE SURE THEY KNOW WHAT YOU WILL AND WILL NOT TOLERATE. SET BOUNDRIES. TOO MANY PARENTS ARE SO BUSY WORKING THAT THEY HAVE NO TIME FOR THEIR KIDS. THEY ARRANGE "PLAY DATES". GO BACK TO THE OLD FASHIONED WAYS AND TRY ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING THAT YOU CAN POSSIBLY THINK OF THAT MAY JUST SAVE YOUR TROUBLED CHILD. BECAUSE IF YOU CAN'T SAVE THEM, IT WILL TEAR YOUR HEART RIGHT OUT OF YOUR BODY.

ERIN

  
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MYJUNIEMOON 12/1/2014 4:08PM

    emoticon emoticon Erin,

Please seek grief counseling. May God cover you with his love and blessings.

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JANETELIZABETH1 11/25/2014 6:11PM

    Praying for you at this time Erin...
So sad but I do thank you for sharing your heart with us here. God willing, it will help somebody else along the way too.
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Janet xx

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LIVE_AMAZINGLY 11/25/2014 5:16PM

    Wouldn't her sister and her gay friend be giving her a funeral and a memorial service?

You imply that if people hug their kids and set boundaries that they can keep their kids from going down the path your daughter did, but you claim you did those things, right?

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CATHOLICCORGI 11/25/2014 4:27PM

    Oh, Erin! My heart breaks for both you and Mary... your whole family. All I can offer is prayers. You have spoken in Truth.
May God comfort you, and give you strength to continue on. Keep loving. Keep believing that God has a plan, even if we do not understand it.
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RESTFINDER 11/25/2014 2:42PM

    Erin, I'm so very sorry that this happened. Hold onto Jesus even more tightly, my friend. His arms are strong and ready to give you the comfort that you need. I will be praying for you, as you know you are constantly in my prayers. (((HUGS))). Kim

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CTUPTON 11/25/2014 6:47AM

    Oh Erin, I feel so sorry for you --and your daughter. I at a loss for words but please know I am praying for you both and I will be thinking of you. I had not read your blog yet when I commented on your friend feed. chris

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CONNIERAND 11/25/2014 4:27AM

    Erin, I am praying for you! I know that your heart is breaking.

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RURAL3 11/24/2014 8:53PM

    Erin, my prayer is that God will give you peace in all of this. That he will heal your broken heart.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds Psalm 147:3 emoticon

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BUSY4HER 11/24/2014 7:36PM

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I will continue to keep you and Mary in my prayers.

Diana

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ALICEART2010 11/24/2014 5:54PM

    I pray the healing power of Jesus over you and your family.

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RADOOGA 11/24/2014 4:50PM

    Goodness Erin. I am in tears. You poor love. I am so sorry that your daughter passed away. I am sending you all the love I can muster. You must be heartbroken. I will certainly cuddle my boy tonight before he goes to bed.

I hope you find some peace in time to come, and that your faith, and your family, can help you through this terrible time.

I am sending you hugs, and please accept my love x

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HOLLYM48 11/24/2014 4:43PM

    I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter in death and years ago when she left your home. My heart goes out to you. I hope you can remember the happy times and keep her close to your heart. Hugs to you and your family.

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HOW TO SAY NO AND MEAN IT!

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

IT ISN'T EVEN THE HOLIDAYS YET AND ALREADY I AM HAVING PEOPLE TRY TO FORCE EXTRA FOOD ON ME. SPARK RECENTLY HAD A GREAT ARTICLE ON HOW TO SAY NO NICELY. WELL, SOMETIMES, NICE DOESN'T WORK.

LAST NIGHT WE WERE INVITED TO SUPPER AT A FRIEND'S HOUSE. SHE BROUGHT OUT EVERY PERSON'S PLATE, FROM THE KITCHEN, ALREADY FULL OF FOOD! WHAT KIND OF WAY IS THAT TO SERVE COMPANY? I WOULD SERVE EVERYTHING FAMILY STYLE AND THEN LET THE PEOPLE PICK AND CHOOSE WHAT THEY WANT AND HOW MUCH OF IT THEY WANT. TO HEAP A PLATE OF THINGS THAT YOU MAY NOT EVEN BE ABLE TO EAT, IS JUST PLAIN STUPID.

SO I PICKED AT WHAT I WANTED TO EAT. DH DOES NOT EAT MEAT SO HE PUT HIS ON MY PLATE. GREAT! NOW I HAVE EVEN MORE FOOD THAT I DON'T WANT. I ATE THE MEAT AND THAT WAS A MISTAKE. PULLED PORK WITH BARBECUE SAUCE IS LOADED WITH FAT AND SUGAR BUT TO SERVE IT ON HUGE SLICES OF GARLIC TOAST? THEN ADD WALDORF SALAD AND POTATO SALAD AND TWO DIFFERENT DESSERTS? WHAT, IS SHE NUTS?

SET UP A FREAKIN' BUFFET! OR BORROW SERVING BOWLS IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANY. BUT GIVE PEOPLE A CHOICE. SHE WAS OFFENDED THAT I DID NOT EAT ALL MY FOOD. SO HERE ARE SOME OF MY IDEAS FOR THE IDIOTS THAT JUST DON'T GET THE PICTURE AND KEEP TRYING TO STUFF GROCERIES DOWN YOUR NECK:

1) TELL THEM (LIKE I DID). THAT YOU ARE ON A PORTION RESTRICTED FOOD PLAN. IF THAT DOESN'T WORK GO TO NUMBER 2.

2) TELL YOUR HOST THAT THE FOOD PLAN WAS ORDERED BY YOUR DR.

3) THE AGE OLD SAYING OF "OH JUST THIS ONCE WON'T HURT" TRY ASKING "IF JUST THIS ONCE ARE YOU ABLE TO PERFORM C.P.R. ON ME"?

4) THE SAME GOES FOR ALCOHOL. NO MEANS NO! IF THEY DON'T GET THE PICTURE, TELL THEM YOU ARE THE DESIGNATED DRIVER. WORKS FOR ME!

5) AND THOSE TERRIBLE, HORRIBLE, EVER-SO-TEMPTING PLATES AND PLATES OF CHRISTMAS COOKIES, PUMPKIN PIES AND HOLIDAY DESSERTS - I TELL THEM THAT I AM DIABETIC. IF THEY INSIST THAT IT IS SUGAR FREE, INFORM THEM THAT WHILE IT MAY BE SUGAR FREE IT IS PROBABLY NOT CARB NOR CALORIE FREE AND THAT YOU HAVE ZERO ABILITY TO STOP EATING THEM ONCE YOU START. I OFTEN ADD "UNTIL I PUKE THAT IS". SURPRISINGLY, IT WORKS EVERY TIME.

OF COURSE, YOU MAY NOT BE INVITED AGAIN. SO A BETTER APPROACH IS TO INFORM YOUR HOST WHEN THE INVITATION IS MADE, THAT YOU ARE ON A RESTRICTED FOOD PLAN AND WHILE YOU ARE SURE THAT EVERYTHING WILL BE DELICIOUS, THERE MAY BE SOME THINGS THAT YOU SIMPLY CANNOT EAT.

I DID NOT DO THIS LAST NIGHT BUT DID TELL HER I WOULD SHOULD WE GET TOGETHER IN THE FUTURE. I ALSO ASKED IF SHE OR HER HUSBAND HAD ANY SPECIAL FOODS NEEDS AS I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE THEM TO OUR PLACE. THAT SMOOTHED THINGS OUT SOME. BUT SHE DID ASK, "SO WOULD YOU BE SERVING A BUNCH OF HEALTH FOOD JUNK?' AND SO IT GOES ......

ERIN

  
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BUSYBEE37 11/21/2014 2:59PM

    "Health food junk"!! Really! Wow, no wonder she served sugar laden everything. She has no clue.

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MISSUSRIVERRAT 11/21/2014 8:02AM

    You had a lot of great come-backs ! Love your plan and attitude for dealing with this situation. Pretty much anything is fair game with food pushers. You could also say that you are allergic to some foods.

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RURAL3 11/19/2014 5:53PM

    some people will never get it. I have never been to someone's house where they filled my plate. That is just rude. And very wasteful. I do like the CPR comment. emoticon

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LIVE_AMAZINGLY 11/19/2014 5:08PM

    Hmmm. Time to ask yourself if your friend is really your friend. Sometimes our 'enemies' come disguised as friends.
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PROGRESS REPORT #1

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

I HAD AN OPPORTUNITY TO SPEAK TO MY DAUGHTER'S "PARTNER" LAST SUNDAY NIGHT. SHE WAS VERY DRUNK WHEN SHE CALLED ME OR CHANCES ARE SHE NEVER WOULD HAVE AS SHE KNOWS HOW DH AND I FEEL ABOUT EVERYTHING SHE AND MY DAUGHTER HAVE CHOSEN TO DO WITH THEIR LIVES. BUT THAT IS A WHOLE DIFFERENT SUBJECT.

MARIKA (MY DAUGHTER WHO IS ALSO CALLED MARY) HAD VERY VIOLENT SEIZURE LAST FRIDAY THAT CAUSED HER TO FALL AND HOSPICE HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO CALL FOR RESCUE AS SHE WAS BLEEDING SEVERELY. APPARENTLY, IF A HOSPICE PATIENT INCURS AN INJURY NOT RELATED TO WHAT THEY ARE DYING FROM, HOSPICE MUST CALL FOR HELP. AS IT TURNED OUT, ALL THE BLOOD WAS NOT FROM AN INJURY BUT FROM A BODILY ORIFICE HAD HAD RELEASED AS SHE WAS SEIZING ON THE FLOOR. SHE SPENT TWO DAYS IN THE HOSPITAL AND SHE WAS RETURNED HOME BY AMBULANCE. AS THE RESCUE PEOPLE BROUGHT HER IN THE DOOR ON THE GURNEY, SHE WAS ASKING HER PARTNER TO BRING HER HER BOTTLE OF WINE. HOSPICE WAS THERE AND IS AWARE THAT SHE CONTINUES TO DRINK NON-STOP AS DOES HER PARTNER.

AT THIS POINT, SHE HAS LOST MOST OF HER HAIR AND HER TEETH HAVE BEGUN TO FALL OUT. SHE IS THE YELLOW ORANGE COLOR OF A FAKE COPPERTONE TAN. HER PARTNER SHOWED ME PICTURES ON SKYPE WHILE MARY SLEPT. I WAS SHOCKED AT HER APPEARANCE. HER ARMS AND LEGS LOOK LIKE TOOTHPICKS AND YET HER TUMMY LOOKS AS THOUGH SHE IS 9 MONTHS PREGNANT WITH TRIPLETS. THEY DRAINED 19 LITERS OF FLUID OFF HER BEFORE RETURNING HER HOME AND SHE NOW HAS A SHUNT IMPLANTED FOR AT HOME DRAINAGE SO SHE WILL NOT HAVE TO MAKE ANY MORE TRIPS IN FOR FLUID REMOVAL.

SHE CANNOT WALK AND HAS NO FEELINGS IN HER HANDS. HER PARTNER ACTUALLY BUILT HER A STRAP TO FIT AROUND THE WINE BOTTLE THAT IS HER CONSTANT COMPANION. GOD FORGIVE ME FOR SAYING THIS, BUT I AM SO GLAD I AM NOT THERE TO WATCH THE TWO OF THEM. EVEN IN THESE LAST DAYS THAT MY DAUGHTER HAS, HER PARTNER WILL NOT GIVE UP HER OWN DRINKING AS SHE SAYS SHE NEEDS IT TO COPE WITH EVERYTHING THAT IS YET TO COME.

MARIKA, AT THIS POINT, HAS SO MUCH BILE BUILT UP IN HER BRAIN THAT SHE MAKES VERY LITTLE SENSE WHEN SHE TRIES TO TALK AND USES HORRIBLE PROFANITIES WHEN ATTEMPTING TO ADDRESS ANYONE. HER OWN SISTER OFTEN HAS TO LEAVE BECAUSE SHE CANNOT STAND TO LISTEN TO HER DRUNKEN PROFANITIES.

NOW SHE IS ON MORPHONE AND SLEEPS A GREAT DEAL OF THE TIME. HOSPICE HAS TO KEEP THE DRUGS IN A SMALL SAFE THAT THEY PLACED IN MY DAUGHTER'S GARAGE SO THAT THERE IS NO CHANCE EITHER HER OR HER PARTNER CAN GET TO THE DRUGS. ONLY HOSPICE KNOWS THE COMBINATION TO THAT SAFE. AND THEY CAN ONLY GIVE HER LIMITED AMOUNTS OF MEDICATION AS SHE CONTINUES TO DRINK.

HER PARTNER (SAME SEX) WAS A DEPUTY SHERIIFF WORKING AT THE LOCAL JAIL. SHE HAS BEEN PUT ON ADMINISTRATIVE LEAVE AS THEY DO NOT SEE HER TO BE FIT TO PERFORM HER JOB AT THIS TIME. AFTER TALKING TO HER PARTNER ON SUNDAY NIGHT, I CALLED THE KENOSHA COUNTY SHERIFF'S DEPARTMENTY AND TALKED TO AN OLD FRIEND THAT I REMEMBER FROM WHEN I LIVED THERE MANY YEARS AGO. I INFORMED HIM OF ALL THE GUNS THAT ARE IN MY DAUGHTER'S HOUSE, AS WELL AS THE CONDITION OF BOTH WOMEN. THE NEXT DAY, THEY WENT TO THE HOUSE AND REMOVED ALL THE GUNS AND THEY ARE CURRENTLY LOCKED IN A SAFE AT THE SHERIFF'S DEPARTMENT AND WILL BE RETURNED WHEN THEY FEEL IT IS SAFE TO DO SO.

MY DAUGHTER'S PARTNER CALLED ME AGAIN MONDAY AND USED HORRIBLE LANGUAGE AND THREATENED TO COME AND GET ME WHEN MARY IS GONE - THAT I HAD NO RIGHT TO DO THAT TO THEM. TOUGH! WITH NO ABILITY TO GET TO THE DRUGS, I COULD VERY EASILY SEE HER PARTNER USING ONE OF HER GUNS TO END BOTH OF THEIR LIVES SO THEY COULD BE TOGETHER FOREVER. I COULD NOT IN ALL GOOD CONSCIENCE, ALLOW THAT TO HAPPEN.

SO WHAT WAS ORIGINALLY A MATTER OF SIX MONTHS TO LIVE HAS NOW BEEN CHANGED TO LESS THAN 3 WEEKS. NO PARENT SHOULD EVER HAVE TO WATCH A CHILD DO THIS TO THEMSELVES. BUT I KNOW THAT EVERY PARENT THAT HAS EVER HAD TO LIVE WITH A DRUG ADDICTED CHILD, HAS HAD TO GO THROUGH THIS. AND THERE REACHES A POINT WHERE YOU HAVE TO CUT YOURSELF LOSE FROM THEM OR BE DESTROYED YOURSELF. WE MADE THAT CUT SEVERAL YEARS AGO AND HAVE NEVER BEEN FORGIVEN FOR THAT. NOT SURPRISING TO ME IS THE FACT THAT ALL HER FELLOW WITCHES, IN THEIR COVEN, HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO CAST A SPELL THAT HAS CURED HER. THEY STILL BELIEVE THIS WILL HAPPEN. I DON'T FEEL THAT MY DAUGHTER IS EVEN CAPABLE OF CALLING OUT TO THE LORD AT THIS POINT, TO REPENT FOR HER SINS AS SHE FEELS SHE HAS NONE. AND THEY BOTH FEEL THAT SATAN IS FAR STRONGER THAN GOD. I CAN'T EVEN LISTEN TO THAT TALK WHEN I CHECK ON HER CONDITION. IT MAKES ME SICK. BUT I WILL NEVER STOP PRAYING FOR HER. GOD CAN WORK WONDERS. YET, IN THIS CASE, I HAVE TO WONDER IF GOD IS NOT ALLOWING HER TO SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES OF HER OWN ACTIONS.

ERIN

  
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RUTHIEBEAR 11/16/2014 2:27PM

    It is too bad about your daughter and her choices. She is now reaping what she has sown. I hope you are doing okay having to deal with all of this. emoticon

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BUSY4HER 11/14/2014 10:26AM

    THANK YOU FOR THE UPDATE ERIN. I'M STILL PRAYING TOO. I ENCOURAGE YOU TO HAVE THE CATHOLIC CHURCH SAY A MASS FOR HER AFTER SHE PASSES. THEY ARE VERY DEDICATED ABOUT PRAYING FOR SOULS AFTER THE BODY IS GONE. FOR THAT MATTER IT WOULDN'T HURT TO HAVE THEM PRAY NOW, THE MORE THE BETTER, RIGHT. I AM THANKFUL THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO WATCH THIS UNFOLD WITH YOUR DAUGHTER. SHE IS GETTING THE BEST WE CAN OFFER (PRAYERS) NOW.

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RURAL3 11/11/2014 10:06PM

    Erin, I am praying for you as well as your daughter. That is all we can do.

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IOWAGRAMMA 11/11/2014 7:45PM

    I'm very sorry, Erin. It must be heartbreaking for you. There aren't words to help much at a time like this. I think you're right: prayer is the only answer right now, and I'm praying for you at this very sad time. Hugs, Jeannie emoticon

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