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HOW TO SAY NO AND MEAN IT!

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

IT ISN'T EVEN THE HOLIDAYS YET AND ALREADY I AM HAVING PEOPLE TRY TO FORCE EXTRA FOOD ON ME. SPARK RECENTLY HAD A GREAT ARTICLE ON HOW TO SAY NO NICELY. WELL, SOMETIMES, NICE DOESN'T WORK.

LAST NIGHT WE WERE INVITED TO SUPPER AT A FRIEND'S HOUSE. SHE BROUGHT OUT EVERY PERSON'S PLATE, FROM THE KITCHEN, ALREADY FULL OF FOOD! WHAT KIND OF WAY IS THAT TO SERVE COMPANY? I WOULD SERVE EVERYTHING FAMILY STYLE AND THEN LET THE PEOPLE PICK AND CHOOSE WHAT THEY WANT AND HOW MUCH OF IT THEY WANT. TO HEAP A PLATE OF THINGS THAT YOU MAY NOT EVEN BE ABLE TO EAT, IS JUST PLAIN STUPID.

SO I PICKED AT WHAT I WANTED TO EAT. DH DOES NOT EAT MEAT SO HE PUT HIS ON MY PLATE. GREAT! NOW I HAVE EVEN MORE FOOD THAT I DON'T WANT. I ATE THE MEAT AND THAT WAS A MISTAKE. PULLED PORK WITH BARBECUE SAUCE IS LOADED WITH FAT AND SUGAR BUT TO SERVE IT ON HUGE SLICES OF GARLIC TOAST? THEN ADD WALDORF SALAD AND POTATO SALAD AND TWO DIFFERENT DESSERTS? WHAT, IS SHE NUTS?

SET UP A FREAKIN' BUFFET! OR BORROW SERVING BOWLS IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANY. BUT GIVE PEOPLE A CHOICE. SHE WAS OFFENDED THAT I DID NOT EAT ALL MY FOOD. SO HERE ARE SOME OF MY IDEAS FOR THE IDIOTS THAT JUST DON'T GET THE PICTURE AND KEEP TRYING TO STUFF GROCERIES DOWN YOUR NECK:

1) TELL THEM (LIKE I DID). THAT YOU ARE ON A PORTION RESTRICTED FOOD PLAN. IF THAT DOESN'T WORK GO TO NUMBER 2.

2) TELL YOUR HOST THAT THE FOOD PLAN WAS ORDERED BY YOUR DR.

3) THE AGE OLD SAYING OF "OH JUST THIS ONCE WON'T HURT" TRY ASKING "IF JUST THIS ONCE ARE YOU ABLE TO PERFORM C.P.R. ON ME"?

4) THE SAME GOES FOR ALCOHOL. NO MEANS NO! IF THEY DON'T GET THE PICTURE, TELL THEM YOU ARE THE DESIGNATED DRIVER. WORKS FOR ME!

5) AND THOSE TERRIBLE, HORRIBLE, EVER-SO-TEMPTING PLATES AND PLATES OF CHRISTMAS COOKIES, PUMPKIN PIES AND HOLIDAY DESSERTS - I TELL THEM THAT I AM DIABETIC. IF THEY INSIST THAT IT IS SUGAR FREE, INFORM THEM THAT WHILE IT MAY BE SUGAR FREE IT IS PROBABLY NOT CARB NOR CALORIE FREE AND THAT YOU HAVE ZERO ABILITY TO STOP EATING THEM ONCE YOU START. I OFTEN ADD "UNTIL I PUKE THAT IS". SURPRISINGLY, IT WORKS EVERY TIME.

OF COURSE, YOU MAY NOT BE INVITED AGAIN. SO A BETTER APPROACH IS TO INFORM YOUR HOST WHEN THE INVITATION IS MADE, THAT YOU ARE ON A RESTRICTED FOOD PLAN AND WHILE YOU ARE SURE THAT EVERYTHING WILL BE DELICIOUS, THERE MAY BE SOME THINGS THAT YOU SIMPLY CANNOT EAT.

I DID NOT DO THIS LAST NIGHT BUT DID TELL HER I WOULD SHOULD WE GET TOGETHER IN THE FUTURE. I ALSO ASKED IF SHE OR HER HUSBAND HAD ANY SPECIAL FOODS NEEDS AS I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE THEM TO OUR PLACE. THAT SMOOTHED THINGS OUT SOME. BUT SHE DID ASK, "SO WOULD YOU BE SERVING A BUNCH OF HEALTH FOOD JUNK?' AND SO IT GOES ......

ERIN

  
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BUSYBEE37 11/21/2014 2:59PM

    "Health food junk"!! Really! Wow, no wonder she served sugar laden everything. She has no clue.

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MISSUSRIVERRAT 11/21/2014 8:02AM

    You had a lot of great come-backs ! Love your plan and attitude for dealing with this situation. Pretty much anything is fair game with food pushers. You could also say that you are allergic to some foods.

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RURAL3 11/19/2014 5:53PM

    some people will never get it. I have never been to someone's house where they filled my plate. That is just rude. And very wasteful. I do like the CPR comment. emoticon

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LIVE_AMAZINGLY 11/19/2014 5:08PM

    Hmmm. Time to ask yourself if your friend is really your friend. Sometimes our 'enemies' come disguised as friends.
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PROGRESS REPORT #1

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

I HAD AN OPPORTUNITY TO SPEAK TO MY DAUGHTER'S "PARTNER" LAST SUNDAY NIGHT. SHE WAS VERY DRUNK WHEN SHE CALLED ME OR CHANCES ARE SHE NEVER WOULD HAVE AS SHE KNOWS HOW DH AND I FEEL ABOUT EVERYTHING SHE AND MY DAUGHTER HAVE CHOSEN TO DO WITH THEIR LIVES. BUT THAT IS A WHOLE DIFFERENT SUBJECT.

MARIKA (MY DAUGHTER WHO IS ALSO CALLED MARY) HAD VERY VIOLENT SEIZURE LAST FRIDAY THAT CAUSED HER TO FALL AND HOSPICE HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO CALL FOR RESCUE AS SHE WAS BLEEDING SEVERELY. APPARENTLY, IF A HOSPICE PATIENT INCURS AN INJURY NOT RELATED TO WHAT THEY ARE DYING FROM, HOSPICE MUST CALL FOR HELP. AS IT TURNED OUT, ALL THE BLOOD WAS NOT FROM AN INJURY BUT FROM A BODILY ORIFICE HAD HAD RELEASED AS SHE WAS SEIZING ON THE FLOOR. SHE SPENT TWO DAYS IN THE HOSPITAL AND SHE WAS RETURNED HOME BY AMBULANCE. AS THE RESCUE PEOPLE BROUGHT HER IN THE DOOR ON THE GURNEY, SHE WAS ASKING HER PARTNER TO BRING HER HER BOTTLE OF WINE. HOSPICE WAS THERE AND IS AWARE THAT SHE CONTINUES TO DRINK NON-STOP AS DOES HER PARTNER.

AT THIS POINT, SHE HAS LOST MOST OF HER HAIR AND HER TEETH HAVE BEGUN TO FALL OUT. SHE IS THE YELLOW ORANGE COLOR OF A FAKE COPPERTONE TAN. HER PARTNER SHOWED ME PICTURES ON SKYPE WHILE MARY SLEPT. I WAS SHOCKED AT HER APPEARANCE. HER ARMS AND LEGS LOOK LIKE TOOTHPICKS AND YET HER TUMMY LOOKS AS THOUGH SHE IS 9 MONTHS PREGNANT WITH TRIPLETS. THEY DRAINED 19 LITERS OF FLUID OFF HER BEFORE RETURNING HER HOME AND SHE NOW HAS A SHUNT IMPLANTED FOR AT HOME DRAINAGE SO SHE WILL NOT HAVE TO MAKE ANY MORE TRIPS IN FOR FLUID REMOVAL.

SHE CANNOT WALK AND HAS NO FEELINGS IN HER HANDS. HER PARTNER ACTUALLY BUILT HER A STRAP TO FIT AROUND THE WINE BOTTLE THAT IS HER CONSTANT COMPANION. GOD FORGIVE ME FOR SAYING THIS, BUT I AM SO GLAD I AM NOT THERE TO WATCH THE TWO OF THEM. EVEN IN THESE LAST DAYS THAT MY DAUGHTER HAS, HER PARTNER WILL NOT GIVE UP HER OWN DRINKING AS SHE SAYS SHE NEEDS IT TO COPE WITH EVERYTHING THAT IS YET TO COME.

MARIKA, AT THIS POINT, HAS SO MUCH BILE BUILT UP IN HER BRAIN THAT SHE MAKES VERY LITTLE SENSE WHEN SHE TRIES TO TALK AND USES HORRIBLE PROFANITIES WHEN ATTEMPTING TO ADDRESS ANYONE. HER OWN SISTER OFTEN HAS TO LEAVE BECAUSE SHE CANNOT STAND TO LISTEN TO HER DRUNKEN PROFANITIES.

NOW SHE IS ON MORPHONE AND SLEEPS A GREAT DEAL OF THE TIME. HOSPICE HAS TO KEEP THE DRUGS IN A SMALL SAFE THAT THEY PLACED IN MY DAUGHTER'S GARAGE SO THAT THERE IS NO CHANCE EITHER HER OR HER PARTNER CAN GET TO THE DRUGS. ONLY HOSPICE KNOWS THE COMBINATION TO THAT SAFE. AND THEY CAN ONLY GIVE HER LIMITED AMOUNTS OF MEDICATION AS SHE CONTINUES TO DRINK.

HER PARTNER (SAME SEX) WAS A DEPUTY SHERIIFF WORKING AT THE LOCAL JAIL. SHE HAS BEEN PUT ON ADMINISTRATIVE LEAVE AS THEY DO NOT SEE HER TO BE FIT TO PERFORM HER JOB AT THIS TIME. AFTER TALKING TO HER PARTNER ON SUNDAY NIGHT, I CALLED THE KENOSHA COUNTY SHERIFF'S DEPARTMENTY AND TALKED TO AN OLD FRIEND THAT I REMEMBER FROM WHEN I LIVED THERE MANY YEARS AGO. I INFORMED HIM OF ALL THE GUNS THAT ARE IN MY DAUGHTER'S HOUSE, AS WELL AS THE CONDITION OF BOTH WOMEN. THE NEXT DAY, THEY WENT TO THE HOUSE AND REMOVED ALL THE GUNS AND THEY ARE CURRENTLY LOCKED IN A SAFE AT THE SHERIFF'S DEPARTMENT AND WILL BE RETURNED WHEN THEY FEEL IT IS SAFE TO DO SO.

MY DAUGHTER'S PARTNER CALLED ME AGAIN MONDAY AND USED HORRIBLE LANGUAGE AND THREATENED TO COME AND GET ME WHEN MARY IS GONE - THAT I HAD NO RIGHT TO DO THAT TO THEM. TOUGH! WITH NO ABILITY TO GET TO THE DRUGS, I COULD VERY EASILY SEE HER PARTNER USING ONE OF HER GUNS TO END BOTH OF THEIR LIVES SO THEY COULD BE TOGETHER FOREVER. I COULD NOT IN ALL GOOD CONSCIENCE, ALLOW THAT TO HAPPEN.

SO WHAT WAS ORIGINALLY A MATTER OF SIX MONTHS TO LIVE HAS NOW BEEN CHANGED TO LESS THAN 3 WEEKS. NO PARENT SHOULD EVER HAVE TO WATCH A CHILD DO THIS TO THEMSELVES. BUT I KNOW THAT EVERY PARENT THAT HAS EVER HAD TO LIVE WITH A DRUG ADDICTED CHILD, HAS HAD TO GO THROUGH THIS. AND THERE REACHES A POINT WHERE YOU HAVE TO CUT YOURSELF LOSE FROM THEM OR BE DESTROYED YOURSELF. WE MADE THAT CUT SEVERAL YEARS AGO AND HAVE NEVER BEEN FORGIVEN FOR THAT. NOT SURPRISING TO ME IS THE FACT THAT ALL HER FELLOW WITCHES, IN THEIR COVEN, HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO CAST A SPELL THAT HAS CURED HER. THEY STILL BELIEVE THIS WILL HAPPEN. I DON'T FEEL THAT MY DAUGHTER IS EVEN CAPABLE OF CALLING OUT TO THE LORD AT THIS POINT, TO REPENT FOR HER SINS AS SHE FEELS SHE HAS NONE. AND THEY BOTH FEEL THAT SATAN IS FAR STRONGER THAN GOD. I CAN'T EVEN LISTEN TO THAT TALK WHEN I CHECK ON HER CONDITION. IT MAKES ME SICK. BUT I WILL NEVER STOP PRAYING FOR HER. GOD CAN WORK WONDERS. YET, IN THIS CASE, I HAVE TO WONDER IF GOD IS NOT ALLOWING HER TO SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES OF HER OWN ACTIONS.

ERIN

  
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RUTHIEBEAR 11/16/2014 2:27PM

    It is too bad about your daughter and her choices. She is now reaping what she has sown. I hope you are doing okay having to deal with all of this. emoticon

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BUSY4HER 11/14/2014 10:26AM

    THANK YOU FOR THE UPDATE ERIN. I'M STILL PRAYING TOO. I ENCOURAGE YOU TO HAVE THE CATHOLIC CHURCH SAY A MASS FOR HER AFTER SHE PASSES. THEY ARE VERY DEDICATED ABOUT PRAYING FOR SOULS AFTER THE BODY IS GONE. FOR THAT MATTER IT WOULDN'T HURT TO HAVE THEM PRAY NOW, THE MORE THE BETTER, RIGHT. I AM THANKFUL THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO WATCH THIS UNFOLD WITH YOUR DAUGHTER. SHE IS GETTING THE BEST WE CAN OFFER (PRAYERS) NOW.

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RURAL3 11/11/2014 10:06PM

    Erin, I am praying for you as well as your daughter. That is all we can do.

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IOWAGRAMMA 11/11/2014 7:45PM

    I'm very sorry, Erin. It must be heartbreaking for you. There aren't words to help much at a time like this. I think you're right: prayer is the only answer right now, and I'm praying for you at this very sad time. Hugs, Jeannie emoticon

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LIVE_AMAZINGLY 11/11/2014 6:16PM

    I don't remember the wording, but the Bible does say that God casts people loose to be whatever abomination they wish to be. In that case God is not calling them to come back to him. They would have to make that decision on their own, and without God summoning them it is unlikely they will return to God.

Years ago I stopped the flow of $$$ to my wayward daughter (which then made her stop all contact; cause my stopping the $$$ was like an unforgivable sin). I have tried to have a relationship with her all these years but since I cut the $$$ she refuses to have one. That is just the way it is... I know that I will never have a relationship with her again for as long as I live. That is just the way it is... (sadly)

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WHAT NEXT?

Tuesday, November 04, 2014

WE BOUGHT A 27 YEAR OLD CONDO THREE YEARS AGO. BIG MISTAKE - HUGE! WE KNEW WE WOULD HAVE TO REPLACE THE APPLIANCES, BUT NOW EVERY LITTLE THING IS FALLING APART. SINCE THEY ARE NOT ALL GOING AT THE SAME TIME, IT WOULD BE REALLY EASY FOR A HANDY GUY TO FIX. OR FOR SOMEONE LIKE ME THAT ACTUALLY LIKES TO WORK ON PROJECTS AROUND THE HOUSE. BUT DH! GOD HELP US ALL!

EVERYTIME I SEE HIM TAKE OUT HIS TOOL BELT, I CRINGE. I HAVE HAD HOLES THE SIZE OF A DINNER PLATE JUST FROM HIM TRYING TO HANG A PICTURE. SO ON SUNDAY, HE HAD A MEETING. HE GOT HOME ABOUT 7 PM AND WAS SITTING ON THE SIDE OF HIS BED CHANGING CLOTHES AND HE SAYS, "HEY! DID YOU SHAMPOO MY CARPET WHILE I WAS GONE?" YEAH, RIGHT! THERE IS MAYBE THREE FEET OF UNCOVERED CARPET IN HIS ROOM, THE REST IS TOTALLY PILED WITH JUNK.

SO I GO WALKING IN THERE IN MY STOCKING FEET AND THE MINUTE I AM IN THE DOOR I START TO SQUISH. SO I GO RUNNING AROUND TO ALL THE WATER PRODUCING ITEMS AND SHUT THE WATER OFF - UNDER THE SINK IN THE BATHROOM, THE TOILET IN THE BATHROOM, AND THE WASHER IN THE UTILITY ROOM. I AM HOLLERING TO HIM TO GET ME A MOP FAST AND TO CALL GEORGE (A NEIGHBOR) AND TELL HIM WE NEED HIS SHOP VAC. "WELL I CAN HANDLE THIS!" SAYS DH. HOW? DO YOU INTEND TO LICK UP ALL THIS WATER? AND WE ARE RESONSIBLE FOR ANY DAMAGE DONE TO THE PROPERTY IMMEDIATELY BELOW US. SO I AM SCREAMING EXPLETIVES AT HIM TO GET HIS BUTT IN GEAR.

TURNS OUT, THE TANK ON THE BACK OF THE TOILET HAS CRACKED ALL THE WAY DOWN. HE DID NOT NOTICE THAT HE WAS WADING IN WATER WHEN HE WENT IN TO USE IT AS HE CAME HOME. SO WE HAD TWO WHOLE TANKS FULL OF WATER ALL OVER THE FLOOR. MEANWHILE, I AM STANDING IN WATER THAT IS ICE COLD AND I HAVE A 101 FEVER! BUT GOOD OLD GEORGE CAME TO THE RESCUE AND STARTED TO VACUUM LIKE CRAZY. THREE TIMES HE EMPTIED THAT SHOP VAN. WHEN HE COULD GET NO MORE WATER OUT OF THE CARPETING HE SUGGESTED THAT WE PUT A BIG FAN ON IT TO DRY OUT THE REST. OKEY DOKEY! NO PROBLEM.

THEN DH SAYS, "YOU KNOW I HAVE TONS OF VERY IMPORTANT ELECTRICAL EQUIPMENT PLUGGED IN IN THIS ROOM. YOU WILL HAVE TO STAY UP WHILE I SLEEP (HE HAD TO WORK THE NEXT DAY) TO BE SURE NONE OF IT SPARKS AND SHORTS OUT. OK.
SO I GO CHANGE MY CLOTHES SINCE I WAS WET UP TO MY KNEES AND EVEN PUT ON MY SNOW BOOTS BECAUSE I WAS SO COLD. WHERE WAS I SUPPOSED TO SLEEP? ON HIS DESK CHAIR HE TOLD ME. WHAT? MOVE YOUR BUTT OVER AND I WILL SLEEP ON THE OTHER SIDE OF YOUR BED AND JUST USE EXTRA PILLOWS FOR MY BACK. "NO WAY! YOU HAVE A TERRIBLE COLD AND I DON'T WANT TO CATCH IT."

WHO GAVE ME THAT COLD? HIS MOTHER NEVER TAUGHT HIM TO COVER HIS MOUTH WHEN HE COUGHS OR SNEEZES. THERE WERE TWO TIMES WHEN I ACTUALLY FELT THE SPRAY RIGHT ON MY FACE FROM ONE OF HIS COUGHS. YUCK! TWO DAYS LATER, I HAVE A SORE THROAT AND THE NEXT DAY, A COLD. DO I TAKE TO MY BED FOR A WEEK LIKE HE DID? OF COURSE NOT. I AM WOMAN - HEAR ME ROAR! BUT STANDING IN ICE COLD WATER DID NOT DO ME ANY GOOD. NOR DID STAYING UP ALL NIGHT IN HIS CHAIR.
I FINALLY TOLD HIM I HOPE HE GOT ELECTRICUTED IN HIS OWN BED AND WENT AND SLEPT IN MY RECLINER FOR 2 HOURS BEFORE THE PLUMBER GOT THERE.

HE INSTALLED A WHOLE NEW TOILET AND IT LOOKS AMAZING! THE NEW ONES ARE FAR MORE WATER EFFICIENT THAN THE OLD ONES AND HAVE POWER FLUSH. I THINK YOU COULD PUT A SMALL CHILD IN THERE AND IT WOULD FLUSH HIM RIGHT DOWN. AND ALL THIS FOR THE MEASLY SUM OF $581.25. THIS JOB I COULD NOT HAVE DONE MYSELF BECAUSE OF THE WEIGHT OF THE TOILET. BUT I DID HELP WITH THE SEAL AND THE CAULKING - FOR WHICH WE GOT A DISCOUNT. WE ALSO GOT THE FAMILY DISCOUNT AS THIS COMPANY IS OWNED BY A RELATIVE OF DH'S. HAD I A HUSBAND THAT WAS HANDY, IT WOULD HAVE BEEN NO PROBLEM TO BUY AND INSTALL A NEW TOILET.

AFTER THE PLUMBER LEFT AND I WENT INTO MY TINY BATHROOM TO WASH UP, THE DOOR FELL OFF THE VANITY BENEATH MY SINK. NOT ONLY DID IT FALL OFF, BUT IT FELL OFF IN THREE PIECES! SO I GOT OUT MY SUPER GLUE, PUT THE PIECES TOGETHER AND WILL REHANG IT AS SOON AS I CAN GET TO THE STORE TO BUY SOME C CLAMPS. DH'S COMMENT? YOU DID THAT ON PURPOSE JUST SO YOU COULD GET A NEW VANITY!
UGH!

ERIN

  
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RUTHIEBEAR 11/16/2014 2:25PM

    You are a better person than many I know who would react very differently than you do. You deserve a medal! Love you

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CTUPTON 11/10/2014 1:37PM

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Someday you will laugh at all this. It will become a family legend! I want to move into a rental place next year so I don't have to continue to worry about the plumbing and heating! You did too much. I would have let the plumber do it all. I am glad you like the new toilet. good luck with the cabinet door. I reglued a drawer from my dresser. it had totally fallen apart. chirs

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RURAL3 11/4/2014 8:09PM

    I wonder if gorilla glue does lips? Hmmmm emoticon

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MY MIND - IT IS A WANDERING ....

Saturday, November 01, 2014

I HAD A SLEEPLESS NIGHT LAST NIGHT. WAS I AFRAID OF GHOSTS? HECK NO - I DON'T BELIEVE IN THAT STUFF. BY BFF, WHO LIVES IN LOUISIANA, IS TERRIFIED OF HALLOWEEN. DOWN IN NEW ORLEANS, THEY GO ALL OUT WITH INSANITY. AND, SINCE THEY STILL PRACTICE VOO DOO DOWN THERE, THE PEOPLE SO INCLINED, ARE ALLOWED TO SET UP BOOTHS ON THE SIDEWALKS WITH THEIR VARIOUS CRYSTALS, CHARMS, AND POTIONS. I PERSONALLY, FIND THIS DISGUSTING. BUT THAT IS WHAT HALLOWEEN HAS COME TO.

HERE, SINCE THIS IS A 55+ CONDO COMPLEX, NO TRICK OR TREATERS ARE ALLOWED. ALL OUR OUTSIDE DOORS ARE LOCKED AT 4:30. YOU NEED A KEY OR A PASSCODE TO GET IN. AFTER 3 ROBBERIES LAST YEAR, WE DECIDED TO TAKE THE DRASTIC LOCK-DOWN MEASURE. THIS IS A GOOD NEIGHBORHOOD, BUT THINGS HERE ARE NO SAFER THAN IN ANY OTHER BIG CITY. MANY PEOPLE HERE COULD NOT DEFEND THEMSELVES IN THE EVENT OF AN ATTACK. AND THE SCARY THING IS - ALL THREE UNITS THAT WERE HIT HAD THE OWNERS HOME AT THE TIME. SENIOR COMMUNITIES ARE EASY TARGETS. ONCE THE OWNERS TAKE THEIR HEARING AIDS OUT AT NIGHT - ANYTHING GOES.

SO HERE I WAS WIDE AWAKE ON ALL HALLOWS EVE. WHY? BECAUSE OF EXTREME PAIN. PART OF IT WAS SLEEPING IN THE NEXT ROOM ( NO - NOT REALLY) AND PART OF IT WAS BECAUE OUR LOCAL WEATHER MAN HAD NOT FORECAST THE HUGE COLD FRONT THAT WOULD COME THROUGH DURING THE NIGHT. I KNEW IT. I COULD FEEL IT IN MY BONES. PERHAPS I SHOULD GO ON TV AS THE "ANCIENT WEATHER GURU". I WOULD DRESS LIKE THE MAMA ON THE CAROL BURNETT SHOW. I WOULD BE EQUALLY AS CRABBY AND HAVE A BALL DOING IT. "TOMORROW, WE ARE GOING TO GET SOME KIND OF DANG THING THROUGH HERE. I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT WILL BE, BUT IT WILL BE BIG."

HERE, WE HAVE "SEVERE WEATHER ALERT DAYS". THEY USE THAT FOR TORNADOES, SEVERE THUNDERSTORMS AND FOR MORE THAN 2 INCHES OF SNOW. YES, YOU DID READ THAT RIGHT. THE IDIOTS HERE, CLOSE THE SCHOOLS IF THERE IS MORE THAN 2 INCHES OF SNOW PREDICTED. WIMPS! IN WISCONSIN, WE DON'T CLOSE THE SCHOOLS UNTIL WE GET 12 INCHES OF SNOW OR IF THE WIND CHILLS ARE -50 DEGREES OR MORE. NOW THAT IS SOME WEATHER! AND, (SICK THIS MAY SOUND) I MISS IT TERRIBLY. I LOVE TO SHOVEL SNOW, CROSS COUNTRY SKI, AND BEST OF ALL - SNOWSHOE SOFTBALL.
THAT IS A SPORT THAT ONE CAN PARTICIPATE IN REGARDLESS OF YOUR AGE. IT IS AN ABSOLUTE RIOT. WE PAINT THE BALL FLOUREESCENT ORANGE (TO FIND IT IN THE SNOW) AND YOU LITERALLY HAVE TO RUN THE BASES IN SNOWSHOES. SINCE THAT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO DO, MOST PEOPLE END UP FALLING FLAT ON THEIR FACES. THERE ARE HOT COCOA AND CHILI STANDS SET UP AND THE BLEACHERS ARE ALWAYS FULL.

HERE, PEOPLE HYBERNATE LIKE THEY ARE BEARS. TODAY IS NOT ONLY MY 21ST WEDDING ANNIVERSARY, BUT THE ANNUAL DAY DH GETS OUT ALL HIS LONG UNDERWEAR AND SWEATSHIRTS FOR THE YEAR. I AM STILL WEARING SHORTS AND WILL UNTIL THE SNOW FLIES. YESTERDAY WE HAD 86 DEGREES DURING THE DAY AND IT GOT DOWN TO 28 AT NIGHT. BIG CHANGES LIKE THAT ARE VERY HARD ON THE BONES.

DH STAYED IN BED A TOTAL OF 9 DAYS WITH A SIMPLE COLD. THANKS TO HIS COUGHING ALL OVER ME TO THE POINT WHERE I COULD FEEL THE SPRAY, I NOW HAVE THAT SAME COLD. "DID YOUR MOTHER NEVER TEACH YOU TO COVER YOUR MOUTH WHEN YOU COUGH OR SNEEZE?" I GUESS NOT! BUT, AFTER ONLY 3 HOURS OF SLEEP, I GOT UP, MADE OF COFFEE (OF COURSE) AND CLEANED THE ENTIRE CONDO - INCLUDING WHAT BARE SPOTS I COULD FIND IN DH'S ROOM. I ALSO MADE TWO MEALS WHILE DOING THIS JUST IN CASE I DO FEEL LOUSY DURING THE WEEK. HE CAME HOME AND YELLED AT ME AND TOLD ME I SHOULD BE IN BED. WHY?

THERE IS AN UNWRITTEN LAW THAT SAYS, THE DAY YOUR FIRST CHILD IS BORN, OR IF YOU ARE A WORKING WOMAN, YOU ARE NEVER, EVER ALLOWED TO GET SICK AGAIN.
CAN'T YOU JUST SEE A MOM TELLING HER 10 MONTH OLD, "YOU HAVE TO STAY IN YOUR CRIB ALL DAY AND CHANGE YOUR OWN DIAPERS BECAUSE I HAVE A COLD AND PLAN TO STAY IN BED 9 DAYS." YEAH, RIGHT! LIKE THAT IS REALLY GOING TO HAPPEN. SO I AM SETTING AN EXAMPLE OF HOW A GROWN UP SHOULD RESPOND TO THE COMMON COLD. TAKE YOUR ZICAM OR MUCINEX OR WHATEVER YOU TAKE AND KEEP RIGHT ON DOING YOUR THING. (UNLESS YOU HAVE A FEVER) GET A LITTLE EXTRA SLEEP AT NIGHT IF YOU CAN AND TRY SOME HOT TEA WITH HONEY FOR THAT SORE THROAT. I HAVE GONE TO WORK WITH STREP THROAT AND JUST TOLD THE BOSS I COULDN'T ANSWER PHONES ALL DAY BUT WOULD BE GLAD TO DO EVERYONES FILING. BELIEVE ME, THEY ALL LOVED IT AND I STILL GOT PAID.

LET'S FACE IT; MEN MAY BE PHYSICALLY STRONGER WHEN IT COMES TO LIFTING WEIGHTS AND STUFF LIKE THAT, BUT YOU AND I ALL KNOW WHO IS REALLY STRONGER, MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY AND I DO NOT THINK THAT IS A BAD THING. SO THERE!

ERIN

  
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SONGBIRDPAULA 11/4/2014 6:25AM

    emoticon We only had 6 trick-or- treaters come by this year.It was a very low-key situation and everything went well.I was able to stick to my only one piece of candy challenge.

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MEN CAN BE SUCH BABIES!

Monday, October 27, 2014

NOW, I KNOW THAT THERE ARE A LOT OF YOU THAT HAVE HUSBANDS WHO ARE SICK. THOSE GUYS HAVE A LEGITIMATE REASON TO COMPLAIN. BUT THEN THERE ARE THOSE GUYS OUT THERE LIKE MY HUSBAND. HE IS SUCH A BABY!

A WEEK AGO YESTERDAY, HE STARTED WITH THE SNIFFLES. BY THE NEXT DAY IT WAS A FULL-BLOWN COLD. BUT HE DID NOT HAVE A TEMPERATURE, NO RAW THROAT - JUST A STUFFY HEAD AND COUGHING. I GOT OUT THE STETHOSCOPE - NO RATTLING IN HIS CHEST. SO WE ARE DEALING HERE WITH - YUP! THE COMMON COLD! AND THIS HAS HAD DH IN BED RIGHT UP UNTIL TODAY. THAT IS 9 DAYS FLAT ON HIS BACK WITH A, "WAIT-ON-ME, I AM SO SICK" COLD. HE TOLD ME ON FRIDAY THAT HE WAS EVEN THINKING IT MIGHT BE EBOLA. I LAUGHED FOR 20 MINUTES. "WHEN IS THE LAST TIME YOU WERE IN OR KNEW ANYONE THAT WAS IN SOUTH AFRICA OR ANY OF IT'S NEIGHBORING NATIONS?" HE HASN'T BEEN OUT OF THE CITY IN YEARS! EBOLA INDEED!

WE HAVE BEEN TAKING TURNS SLEEPING AT HIS MOM'S NIGHTS SINCE SHE IS ON HOSPICE. HE ALSO HAS 7 OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS RIGHT HERE IN THIS CITY WHO ARE FAR TOO BUSY TO TAKE THEIR TURNS. ALTHOUGH SHE DOES HAVE A HIDE-A-BED IN HER LIVING ROOM, I HAVE TO SLEEP IN A RECLINER - WHICH SHE DOES NOT HAVE. SO I WOULD SLEEP THERE 2 NIGHTS A WEEK, AND DH 2 NIGHTS, AND THE HOSPICE WORKERS THE REST OF THE TIME. NOW I HAD TO TAKE DH'S SHIFT FOR THE LAST 9 NIGHTS. THAT MEANS I HAVE TO SLEEP SITTING IN A STRAIGHT BACK WOODEN ROCKER AS IT IS ALL SHE HAS. I ACTUALLY HAD TO TURN IT TO FACE THE WALL BECAUSE I WOULD DOZE OFF AND FALL OUT OF THE CHAIR. WHEN I FACE THE WALL, IF I START TO FALL OUT, I CLUNK MY HEAD AND IT WAKES ME UP. WORKS GREAT!

BUT YESTERDAY (AS WELL AS THE DAY BEFORE) HIS MOM HAD A BAD FALL. THE ONE YESTERDAY WAS REALLY BAD AND I HAD TO TAKE HER TO THE HOSPITAL FOR 18 STITCHES IN HER ARM. I STILL DO NOT KNOW WHAT SHE CUT HER ARM ON. AFTER WE GOT HOME, I TOOK AN OLD PAIR OF PANTYHOSE AND RAN MY HAND OVER EVERY SINGLE SURFACE IN HER ROOM INCLUDING THE UNDER EDGES OF HER BED AND STILL CANNOT FIND ANYTHING SHARP OR EVEN ANYTHING THAT SNAGGED THE PANTYHOSE!

SO WHAT HAPPENS? DH HOLLERS AT ME BECAUSE HIS MOM FELL ON MY WATCH. IT WAS 2 AM AND I WAS FINALLY SLEEPING A LITTLE. I GAVE HER A BELL TO RING IF SHE NEEDS TO USE THE WASHROOM. DID SHE RING IT? NO! SHE DOESN'T WANT TO BE A BOTHER. I TOLD HER IT WOULD BE A LOT LESS WORK TO TAKE HER TO THE WASHROOM THAN IT WAS TO TRY TO GET THIS 4'10" WOMAN UP INTO MY BIG SUV AND SIT IN THE HOSPITAL FOR 4 HOURS. SHE AGREED.

BUT! THIS CRACKED ME UP. WHILE WE WERE THERE, THEY ASKED HER IF SHE WAS HUNGRY OR THIRSTY. SHE TOLD THEM IT WAS ALMOST HALLOWEEN AND SHE WOULD LIKE SOME CANDY CORN. I HAD TO PEE RIGHT THEN AND ALMOST WET MYSELF! I STARTED LAUGHING AND COULD NOT STOP. THEN SHE GOT THE GIGGLES AND SOME NURSE STUCK HER HEAD IN THE ROOM TO TELL US TO PIPE DOWN. CANDY CORN! BUT YOU KNOW WHAT? I'LL BE DARNED IF SOME LITTLE NURSES AIDE DIDN'T COME IN THERE WITH A PAPER CUP FULL OF CANDY CORN. SHE SAID THAT THERE IS ALWAYS CANDY AROUND FROM NOW UNTIL CHRISTMAS AND THEN AGAIN AT EASTER TIME. SO THERE MOM LAID, DRIPPING BLOOD ALL OVER THE PLACE, EATING HER CANDY CORN. I HAD TO TAKE A PICTURE WITH MY PHONE BECAUSE I KNEW MY HUSBAND WOULDN'T BELIEVE IT. HER REACTION TO THAT? "DON'T TAKE MY PICTURE WHEN I HAVEN'T HAD MY HAIR DONE."

NOW WHAT I WANT TO KNOW IS THIS. HOW CAN SUCH A STRONG 95 YEAR OLD WOMAN WHO IS STILL IN FULL CONTROL OF HER MENTAL FACULTIES, HAVE SUCH A WIMP FOR A SON? HER OTHER KIDS ARE NOT LIKE THAT.

WHEN I GOT HOME I JUMPED ALL OVER DH - NOT LITERALLY OF COURSE. BUT I DID CHEW HIM OUT - AGAIN, NOT LITERALLY. I TOLD HIM TO GET HIS LAZY BUTT OUT OF THAT BED, TAKE A NICE HOT SHOWER, PUT ON SOME CLEAN CLOTHES, AND GO SIT OUT ON THE BALCONY WHERE IT WAS SUNNY AND 80 DEGREES. THEN I SHOWED HIM THE PICTURE OF HIS MOTHER EATING THE CANDY CORN AND HE HOLLERED AT ME AGAIN BECAUSE HE IS SURE IT WILL GIVE HER CAVITIES. SHE HAS FALSE TEETH! DOES HER OWN SON NOT KNOW THIS?

SO AT THIS POINT, I AM AVERAGING ABOUT 3-4 HOURS OF SLEEP A NIGHT. BUT I AM SO BLESSED TO BE ABLE TO SPEND SO MUCH TIME WITH THIS INCREDIBLE LITTLE 95 YEAR OLD ANGEL. HER OWN FAMILY IS MISSING SO VERY MUCH AND WILL ONE DAY REGRET IT. FUNNY THAT. SHE ALWAYS FOUND TIME FOR THEM NO MATTER WHAT IT COST HER. AND THEY WILL ALL BE STANDING IN LINE FOR THEIR INHERITANCE ONCE SHE IS GONE. SHE ASKED ME YESTERDAY, "ISN'T THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL OF MINE THAT YOU WOULD LIKE WHEN I'M GONE?" I TOLD SHE ALREADY GAVE IT TO ME - A LIFETIME OF BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES.

ERIN

  
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GLORYTOGLORY 11/1/2014 1:22PM

  I prayed for your children's salvation, Your strength and husbands. Sounds like there is more than a cold going on with him everyone has there own way of coping or not coping with stress! Had to laugh at your candy corn story. Laughter has helped me get through some hard moments. My husbands grandmother went to a Billy Graham crusade as a young women and never lived for the Lord but, the seed was planted she literally gave her heart to Jesus as a old women. Never give up keep praying the word of God was placed in their heart eventually it will bear fruit. Hugs and many Blessings on you and yours! emoticon And thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement!

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SONGBIRDPAULA 10/28/2014 5:49AM

    emoticon Erin, you are such an angel! Finding humor in the hard situations in life makes them go by a lot easier! I'm just in visualizing the whole situation and I wish that I was there to share all of it with you.I guess it truly is as my sister always said… "It's a guy thing!" The only thing I can think of about her having a cut on her arm is possibly due to such thin skin that they have at that age and that it possibly just tore at that spot.Always remember that I will keep you in my daily prayer journal.I count it as a privilege to know you and have you as a friend!

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EVIE4NOW 10/27/2014 9:38PM

  Gosh did you make me giggle. I have to wonder if your DH is related to mine.

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RURAL3 10/27/2014 5:20PM

    you are a blesssing Erin emoticon

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PROPMAN1 10/27/2014 4:25PM

  Hope your husband knows and appreciates the special person you are! There's no doubt that his mom is aware. emoticon

My hubby has moments like yours - if he has a cold it's time to take to the couch and wait to be waited on. Meanwhile, i might also be ill but am doing laundry, shopping, etc. What can i say...someone knew who the 'stronger' sex would be (and it's not the male).

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