Sunday, February 23, 2014
So I am divorced. In a custody battle with my ex which is the majority of my stress. We currently have joint custody and shave visitation on a 50/50 schedule.
My oldest son has some sensory issues. On a scale of 1-10 he is probably about a 4. He is currently receiving OT for his problems. His dad just states he has ADHD and refuses to acknowledge or pay for his therapy. My son is in the 4h grade. His disorder causes him alot of problems with writing. We have a plan through the school that allows him to type his assignments. However, getting homework done with him is a constant battle. He is required to do a book report a month. He has a book report due on Friday. The book is read. The book map required by the teacher is completed. With my son, we have to do things in small blocks, otherwise, he shuts down and nothing ever gets completed. When he went back to his dad's last week, he was suppose to print some pictures from the internet that he could put on his posterboard for his visual presentation. It did not get done. So today, I told him he would not be able to go back to his dad's until his poster is done. It literally could take a few hours with him. He was on speaker phone with this dad telling him this. His dad told me that they were going to a movie today and that I was to just bite the bullet. What??????? This is his son's homework. It is more important than a movie. I told my son he needed to bite the bullet and stay with me to get his homework done. That he had to make the choice. Of course, he told me he was going to the movie. He is 10.
Right now I am furious!!!!! If this does not get done today, he will never get it done in time for Friday because his dad will not do it with him!!!! I am so tired of fighting him to get his homework done and his dad could care less.
I need to do my best today to keep myself busy and not think about it. I need to keep myself out of the kitchen and the food out of my mouth. I need to do like I do at work and just drink my water, water, water.
Thanks to anyone who stayed through my rant. However, I think I just need to get this stuff out and not keep holding it in.
Have a great Sunday Everyone!!!
Thursday, June 20, 2013
Had to work hard yesterday not to get depressed. Showed up at court only to have my attorney tell me that the trial is not going to take place today. The judge wants us to meet with a parent coach - he thinks we can still work it out. What a joke!!!!! The ex does not compromise on anything, yet people that meet him for a matter of minutes think he is charming. If reading the deposition doesn't tell the judge how he really is I do not see what good a trial is going to do. I cried, was shocked and got angry. Now I am just numb. I feel like I am never going to get to put this part of my life in the past.
It is really hard not to give up. I am going to keep plugging though. It is hard to push through it though.
Wednesday, June 19, 2013
I have been waiting for this day for over 1 1/2 years. It is finally here and I am so worried. I haven't slept well all week. If I do not gain 100 pounds this week from the stress eating, it will be a surprise.
The ex & I currently have joint custody. Joint custody is not what most people think. It basically means that any decisions made regarding the children have to be made together. There are 4 big items that are specified in the agreement: medical, religion, education and I cannot remember the 4th right now. The ex is not one to compromise, one of the big reasons he is now an ex. In 2011 he brought my oldest son to the Dr. and had him put on ADHD medicine against my wishes. I found out about it because my son told me not because the ex did. Before this happened, my sons' counselor had told me that the arrangement we had put together for the children was not working for them. The ex & I basically wrote our own divorce up to save money. There have been many issues, I just did not want to turn into a person I am not and sue him for custody. I was trying to be civil. Well, I ended up doing it and it took 18 months to get the trial before the judge. It starts today and I am in knots.
It is the unknown that is eating me up. I am just praying for the best. I have my sons' counselor which is going to be a witness for me at the trial. She is excellent. It is had not to believe that a judge would not take her seriously. She is all about the kids. I am not a hugely religious person, however, I believe God pointed me in her direction. She has been a true lifesaver, especially to my youngest son.
I am hoping when this is over that I can get a fresh start in life. I start a new job on Monday and having this trial behind me after Friday I am looking to hopefully let a lot of old baggage go.
Right now, only time will tell.
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