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Ahggggg no scales today

Tuesday, September 02, 2014

Help, it is like a drug. I lay in bed this morning thinking about getting up and my first thought was 'I wonder how much I weigh'. I stuck rigidly to the diet yesterday, did 10 mins of yoga stretches, walked slowly around the shops for 20 minutes and had a 30 minute swim. Good day all round. Having a feel around thought my stomach feels a bit flatter, the midriff is not so pronounced. Let's get up and see what I weigh. Oh non, the scales have gone. Just as I promised, I have asked DH to hide them away somewhere.

Now, I don't know about you but I am a creature of habit. I have diabetes and have to follow certain routines. Get up, go to the loo, bathroom to jump on the scales, wash hands to do blood test, do blood test and record in notebook. Then I pour half a glass of water, tip in my soluble aspirin and top up with cranberry juice before I sit down in front of the TV news and take all my tablets. Well, all that went to pot this morning. I don't have any scales. Amazing how one little thing can change your whole routine. I didn't want to go into the bathroom so I washed my hands in the small toilet sink. Then forgot to take my blood and was half way through drinking my juice before I realised, no worries, situation rescued.

Day one and I miss my scales. So, I have started to think of other ways to check my weight without weighing, so no jumping on the Wii Fit either. I bought a pair of white jeans a few weeks ago before the grandchildren came out (see Back to Real Life blog) and I was about 4 lbs lighter and they fit me perfect. Tried them on Sunday to go out and they fit but I couldn't do up the zip comfortably. So that is my new benchmark. I am not going to try them on every day - that would be as bad as weighing myself every day. I will try them on at the end of the week.

Wish me luck, and I am sure I will get over the loss of my scales.

xxx Denise

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KESTRYLL 9/2/2014 8:20AM

    Good luck!

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HMBROWN1 9/2/2014 8:14AM

    Have a great day!

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non-scales challenge

Monday, September 01, 2014

I have been weighed this morning and I have asked my DH to hide the scales until Sunday night. Fed up of jumping on and off every morning. I am diabetic so I do have to know how much I weigh to control my insulin but honestly, not down to the daily fluctuations of .2 or .3 of a kilo. I even weigh myself after I have been to the toilet and the madness has to stop.

The disadvantages of weighing daily far outweigh (no pun intended) the advantages. For example, if I have lost half a kilo in 2 days it makes it so much easier to say yes to an extra treat and that half a kilo might have just been some fluid loss or other fluke.

Anyway, it is a new challenge and I will report back on whether it has any effect of my weight loss.

xxxx Denise

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GREEN-EYED-LADY 9/2/2014 11:22AM

    I agree ! You are so right ! I used to weigh ONCE per week and I was doing great. Then I started weighing every day when I got a new scale - and it is driving me crazy, too. I'm going back to once (or maybe twice) per week. The little daily fluctuations are actually insignificant.

Thanks for a good blog !


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OJMARIE 9/1/2014 3:49PM

    I've been weighing every day for over 2 years! I guess it would be better if I just weighed once a week and forget about all that little up and down the scales show. Mine weigh day will be every Monday morning from now on. Thank You for your insight. emoticon

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MEADSBAY 9/1/2014 1:47PM

    Some people really swear by weighing every single day bit I'm with you- too much of an emotional roller coaster.
I weigh on Saturday and Sunday and use the best one for my official weigh in.

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144AUTUMN 9/1/2014 12:45PM

  Keep up the good work!!

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Back to Real Life

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

We have had our young grandsons staying with us in France for the past 3 weeks and any thoughts of dieting have gone completely out of the window.

We have enjoyed ourselves going out and about. We visited a monkey colony where the monkeys are free to leap from tree to tree above our heads. We went an historic battle re-enactment evening - the French won against the English in 1453. We went to a scarecrow festival and played ancient games as well as archery and pony riding. We went canoeing on the river Dordogne marvelling at the chateaux on the passing hills. And so much more. We ate burgers, pizzas and lots of ice cream but also got plenty of exercise. We have a pool in our garden and I taught the youngest to swim (age 6), I had taught the other one to swim the year before (age 7), a little older as he was a bit more timid. So this year I taught the older one (now 8) to swim a full pool length (10 metres) under water to make his mommy proud.

Now they have gone back home to their parents and we are feeling quite down and sad but so glad we have been able to give them a wonderful experience. The ferry tickets have already been booked for next year. We will see them again in October when we visit England.

Anyway, back to the diet. With all that food and all that exercise I have managed to just about maintain my weight of 158. I have now set a new goal for 20th October to lose 8lbs and see that magic 150 on the scales. Back to real life and the real world without my boys but so much more enhanced for the experience.

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SUNSHINE-GIRL 8/21/2014 6:24AM

    It is hard to tell which are the monkeys and that is my DH in the pool with the boys

I will post more photos on my page when I have had a chance to go through the mountain of them we have

Comment edited on: 8/21/2014 6:26:26 AM

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GREEN-EYED-LADY 8/20/2014 11:54PM

    You must be SO PROUD of your grandsons ! And what terrific grandparents you are !
It sounds like a really busy summer !

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LJOYCE55 8/20/2014 1:53PM

  your grandchildren are adorable.

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ALICE_TENNIS 8/20/2014 10:10AM

    Maintenance is great. emoticon

Thanks for sharing your photos & stories of family fun with us. You gave an amazing gift to your grandsons!

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MEADSBAY 8/20/2014 9:57AM

    We can learn so much about living a busy fun-filled energetic active life by hanging out with children!
Now, back to real life.

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Giving up the Drink - My Story

Sunday, June 08, 2014


I said I was not going to be on alcohol related forums any more but I do look in from time to time. One thing that strikes me is that no matter when I look in the same stories are being told over and over and that makes me very sad. I liked being part of a drinkers group because everyone was like me (how I was), giving each other support but also giving each other permission to drink. Sorry if that sounds blunt but I see it from a very similar perspective to a slimming club.

For example, you go along thinking you are going to be the fattest and everyone is going to point the finger and no-one will understand what you are going through. You get there and you are not the fattest and everyone else has the same stories and same struggles so you are kindred spirits. You laugh at the tales of the sneaked cake out of the fridge in the middle of the night which has no calories because no one saw you eat it. You all have tips on avoiding eating too much at parties, weddings etc., and tips on how to get away with having a little more at the party by hardly eating all day. You like the fattest girl because she makes you feel better but you like the ones who are the same as you, 1lb off 2lbs on, 2lbs off 1lb on, nothing lost and nothing gained. The equilibrium is comfortable. None of you ever believe you will be the slim girl you saw at class when you first came but she is not around now. Have you wondered where she is. She has stopped coming since she reach her goal. She came for a while and joined in offering her advice and support but you didnít want to listen because you thought she was the exception and you would never be that girl.

Getting back to alcohol, you can all be that girl, the one who gives it up and finds a better life. What you are doing here is the same as the slimming clubs do, keeping the momentum going and not upsetting the equilibrium by making drastic life changes. You are in a place where you feel comfortable and safe and so you should be, but you are also in a place where you don't want to leave. If you gave up alcohol where would you go, you would have to leave the group and you would be outside your comfort area.

Now I feel a bit like an evangelist but I am not religious, not perfect, far from it. I have been drinking since the age of 11 following sexual abuse (I won't go into my story, some of you already know). I have always drunk, when happy, when scared, when lonely. At parties, always the one to have not just one too many but several until I was falling down dead drunk. At meals, always the one who had to finish the bottle or get another in. My trick was that my husband always finishes a meal with a coffee which I donít like. The waiter would be told, one coffee and a large white wine please. At family events I was always known as the one who would make a fool of myself or cause an argument. I know now that often they would have preferred not to invite me. I know my daughter loves me with all her heart but was hurt by the whispers the next day from friends and always felt she had to stick up for me and protect me.

I didnít have a problem. I was never an alcoholic, I never had gin with my cornflakes and tried to be alcohol free at least 2 nights a week. My medical results never showed my drinking was causing physical damage but recently had started to cause my doctor to ask questions.


There, I have said it.

Not long ago I was browsing through a forum for women who felt they drank too much but didnít feel it was a problem. They wanted to cut back and try and lose a few pounds. One contributor mentioned a book called ĎKICK THE DRINKÖ EASILYí by Jason Vale. She said she had not read it but intended to. I donít know if she did or not but I did.

I started to read it and he says not to give up until you finish the book - maybe I could drag it out for a year!!! But, seriously, he says to read the whole book within a couple of weeks, which I did. He also says to plan when you are going to stop and think about it.

This being mid-November, I decided to stop on 3rd January 2014. In my mind that was a good date to stop to allow me to get a few drinks down me over Christmas and New Year and giving up drinking would be my New Yearís Resolution. AGAIN.

I dutifully read the book and thought carefully about what he said, questioning some things, agreeing with others. When I finished it I felt as though I couldnít wait to stop drinking. I told my family I wanted to change my stop date to 3rd December but they were sceptical, thinking I would be miserable over the Christmas holidays and probably make everyone else miserable. I thought about this for a while and could have used it as another excuse to carry on drinking but no, I had made up my mind. Or had I had my mind made up for me.


Since then I have been to parties at Chrismas, one inbetween Christmas and New Year, a New Yearís Eve Party, my birthday, hubbies birthday, our wedding anniversary, holiday in Italy and so it goes on. Some friends bought us a bottle of Champagne for our April wedding anniversary. It is still unopened.

Since then I have had more problems regarding my past abuse, I have suffered a further bout of depression and currently I am suffering acute anxiety diagnosed as PTS and will be starting therapy to help me finally put the past away. Still I have not had a drink.

I donít know what Jason Vale has done to me but I cannot bring myself to have an alcoholic drink. That is not totally true. In Italy I was told I must try Limoncello, the national drink. A very small glass is usually offered free at the end of a restaurant meal. I tasted it. It was delicious. I gave the rest of the glass away. One sip was enough. One sip did not drive me back to drinking so I have no fear of being around alcohol. Good job really as we have a cabinet full of various liqueurs, spirits and wines but not a one to tempt me back. I donít even have to think about it, or fight it. I JUST DO NOT WANT TO DRINK.

That is my story and it takes me back to the forums I spoke about earlier. They are there to support and comfort but I also hope some of you find the answer you are looking for. Jason worked for me so it might just be worth a try.

Disclaimer: I do not know Jason Vale, never met him, I have only read his book. I have no other reason to recommend it except that it worked for me.

I would like to thank him for saving my life.


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GREEN-EYED-LADY 9/2/2014 11:46AM

    Great blog ! I, too, left the "cutting back on alcohol" team for the same reason. I felt they seemed to be "spinning their wheels" and giving permission to each other to drink more.

However, I disagree that we are all the "same". My history is the opposite of yours. I was never abused and didn't start drinking a lot until 2008 at the age of 50. (I am truly sorry for all you have suffered)

My goal in regard to alcohol was also different from yours. I didn't want to eliminate it totally from my life - just reduce my drinking in order to lose weight. I have been very successful. I was alcohol-free for 107 days over the holidays (beginning of November until mid February) and lost 14 pounds in that time. I've lost 40 pounds all together in the past 2 years with SP.

My point is that "everybody is different" with different histories and goals. "Different strokes for different folks". That being said, I'm so glad Jason Vale's book worked for you !

I think that we are personally successful when we take responsibility for our own actions and motivate "ourselves". You obviously have done that ! I know you're not "religious" but GOD BLESS YOU (anyway) !


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SUNSHINE-GIRL 6/9/2014 10:47AM

    1crazydog, that is why I apologied at the beginning as I know groups of lots of different types are helpful. However, the diet industry would not exist if it worked for everyone. Each to their own. It was in fact a forum that led me to the book so I cannot disagree with you.

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1CRAZYDOG 6/9/2014 10:28AM

    First of all, good work. You have stuck to your commitment and that's what it's all about.

The only disagreement I have is with this:

"You are in a place where you feel comfortable and safe and so you should be, but you are also in a place where you don't want to leave. If you gave up alcohol where would you go, you would have to leave the group and you would be outside your comfort area."

Not so much true . . . at least for me. I STILL belong to groups that had to do with what my goals were, reached them and remained . . . to offer help to those starting out! Period. OF course, I am only speaking for myself.

I think the analogy of belonging to groups to quit alcohol and groups to control lifestyle is a good one. Honestly, the steps you have to take are the same!

1. Admit you have a problem
2. Admit your powerlessness over the problem
3. Work on it (here's where religious beliefs sometimes enter in. But it doesn't have to be religiously oriented!)

Anyhow, great blog, glad you have maintained your goal and wish you success.

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    thank you for sharing your story and emoticon

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SUNSHINE-GIRL 6/8/2014 3:16PM

    It was more to do with upsetting people who are on forums that appear to help but can add to the problem

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MEADSBAY 6/8/2014 3:11PM

    I am so incredibly happy for you and proud of your accomplishment. You have done a wonderful thing for your body and your family!
I will definitely be looking for that book, my friend.
I don't drink that much but I, too, have a hard time giving it up for more than a few days at a time.
Thank you for sharing your incredible story.
I can't see how anyone could possibly take any offense at your honesty.

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NICKYCRANE 6/8/2014 3:04PM

    Well done! You had the courage to face your drink problem, and now you are having the courage to face the other problems you were drowning in drink.

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SUNSHINE-GIRL 6/8/2014 1:55PM

    Sorry about the strange punctuation, they are mean't to be apostrophes as in ' ' '


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TRAVELGO 6/8/2014 1:28PM

  You are such an inspiration!!! Great blog!!

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Thursday, April 17, 2014

On 1st January I set myself several goals which are:- lose 11lbs before 19th April for holiday - GOAL MET. Exercise 3 or 4 times every week - GOAL MET. I gave up alcohol so no alcohol allowed - GOAL MET.

I don't think I have successfully completed all my goals before and to time. Tomorrow I head off for a week in Italy with my family and so looking forward to it.

Will set new goals on my return. emoticon

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SUNSHINE-GIRL 4/28/2014 6:21AM

    Just got back from Italy and only gained 1lb. Helped that I had an upset stomach for a couple of days.

Now to set my new goals emoticon

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WONDAWOMAN2 4/18/2014 11:48AM

    Well done! Bon voyage!

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MELISSIMAUS 4/17/2014 5:40PM

    FANTASTIC! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MEADSBAY 4/17/2014 5:32PM

    I am so proud of you and happy for you, too!
Bon journo!

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CAROL_31649731 4/17/2014 2:00PM

    So wonderful!!! emoticon emoticon
Enjoy your well-deserved vacay!!

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COMMIT2BFIT4ME 4/17/2014 10:47AM

    Excellent! Now go have fun in Italy!

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NHES220 4/17/2014 10:20AM

    Great job and enjoy Italy! Ciao!

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SWEETNEEY 4/17/2014 9:42AM

    You deserve it - Viva Italia

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