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Back to Real Life

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

We have had our young grandsons staying with us in France for the past 3 weeks and any thoughts of dieting have gone completely out of the window.

We have enjoyed ourselves going out and about. We visited a monkey colony where the monkeys are free to leap from tree to tree above our heads. We went an historic battle re-enactment evening - the French won against the English in 1453. We went to a scarecrow festival and played ancient games as well as archery and pony riding. We went canoeing on the river Dordogne marvelling at the chateaux on the passing hills. And so much more. We ate burgers, pizzas and lots of ice cream but also got plenty of exercise. We have a pool in our garden and I taught the youngest to swim (age 6), I had taught the other one to swim the year before (age 7), a little older as he was a bit more timid. So this year I taught the older one (now 8) to swim a full pool length (10 metres) under water to make his mommy proud.

Now they have gone back home to their parents and we are feeling quite down and sad but so glad we have been able to give them a wonderful experience. The ferry tickets have already been booked for next year. We will see them again in October when we visit England.

Anyway, back to the diet. With all that food and all that exercise I have managed to just about maintain my weight of 158. I have now set a new goal for 20th October to lose 8lbs and see that magic 150 on the scales. Back to real life and the real world without my boys but so much more enhanced for the experience.

  
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SUNSHINE-GIRL 8/21/2014 6:24AM

    It is hard to tell which are the monkeys and that is my DH in the pool with the boys
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I will post more photos on my page when I have had a chance to go through the mountain of them we have

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GREEN-EYED-LADY 8/20/2014 11:54PM

    You must be SO PROUD of your grandsons ! And what terrific grandparents you are !
It sounds like a really busy summer !
Valerie

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LJOYCE55 8/20/2014 1:53PM

  your grandchildren are adorable.

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Thanks for sharing your photos & stories of family fun with us. You gave an amazing gift to your grandsons!

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MEADSBAY 8/20/2014 9:57AM

    We can learn so much about living a busy fun-filled energetic active life by hanging out with children!
Now, back to real life.
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Giving up the Drink - My Story

Sunday, June 08, 2014

I AM WRITING THIS BECAUSE I CARE ABOUT ALL THOSE PEOPLE WHO HAVE DIFFICULTIES WITH ALCOHOL AND ALL THOSE WHO WANT TO HAVE A LIFE FREE FROM ALCOHOL. YOU ARE ALL SO LIKE ME AND HOW I USED TO BE. PLEASE DO NOT BE OFFENDED BY ANYTHING I SAY AS I MAY NOT ALWAYS EXPRESS MYSELF CLEARLY. IF I OFFEND ANY OF YOU, I AM TRULY SORRY - I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED TO ME.

I said I was not going to be on alcohol related forums any more but I do look in from time to time. One thing that strikes me is that no matter when I look in the same stories are being told over and over and that makes me very sad. I liked being part of a drinkers group because everyone was like me (how I was), giving each other support but also giving each other permission to drink. Sorry if that sounds blunt but I see it from a very similar perspective to a slimming club.

For example, you go along thinking you are going to be the fattest and everyone is going to point the finger and no-one will understand what you are going through. You get there and you are not the fattest and everyone else has the same stories and same struggles so you are kindred spirits. You laugh at the tales of the sneaked cake out of the fridge in the middle of the night which has no calories because no one saw you eat it. You all have tips on avoiding eating too much at parties, weddings etc., and tips on how to get away with having a little more at the party by hardly eating all day. You like the fattest girl because she makes you feel better but you like the ones who are the same as you, 1lb off 2lbs on, 2lbs off 1lb on, nothing lost and nothing gained. The equilibrium is comfortable. None of you ever believe you will be the slim girl you saw at class when you first came but she is not around now. Have you wondered where she is. She has stopped coming since she reach her goal. She came for a while and joined in offering her advice and support but you didnít want to listen because you thought she was the exception and you would never be that girl.

Getting back to alcohol, you can all be that girl, the one who gives it up and finds a better life. What you are doing here is the same as the slimming clubs do, keeping the momentum going and not upsetting the equilibrium by making drastic life changes. You are in a place where you feel comfortable and safe and so you should be, but you are also in a place where you don't want to leave. If you gave up alcohol where would you go, you would have to leave the group and you would be outside your comfort area.

Now I feel a bit like an evangelist but I am not religious, not perfect, far from it. I have been drinking since the age of 11 following sexual abuse (I won't go into my story, some of you already know). I have always drunk, when happy, when scared, when lonely. At parties, always the one to have not just one too many but several until I was falling down dead drunk. At meals, always the one who had to finish the bottle or get another in. My trick was that my husband always finishes a meal with a coffee which I donít like. The waiter would be told, one coffee and a large white wine please. At family events I was always known as the one who would make a fool of myself or cause an argument. I know now that often they would have preferred not to invite me. I know my daughter loves me with all her heart but was hurt by the whispers the next day from friends and always felt she had to stick up for me and protect me.

I didnít have a problem. I was never an alcoholic, I never had gin with my cornflakes and tried to be alcohol free at least 2 nights a week. My medical results never showed my drinking was causing physical damage but recently had started to cause my doctor to ask questions.

OF COURSE I HAD A PROBLEM, I COULDNíT STOP DRINKING.

There, I have said it.

Not long ago I was browsing through a forum for women who felt they drank too much but didnít feel it was a problem. They wanted to cut back and try and lose a few pounds. One contributor mentioned a book called ĎKICK THE DRINKÖ EASILYí by Jason Vale. She said she had not read it but intended to. I donít know if she did or not but I did.

I started to read it and he says not to give up until you finish the book - maybe I could drag it out for a year!!! But, seriously, he says to read the whole book within a couple of weeks, which I did. He also says to plan when you are going to stop and think about it.

This being mid-November, I decided to stop on 3rd January 2014. In my mind that was a good date to stop to allow me to get a few drinks down me over Christmas and New Year and giving up drinking would be my New Yearís Resolution. AGAIN.

I dutifully read the book and thought carefully about what he said, questioning some things, agreeing with others. When I finished it I felt as though I couldnít wait to stop drinking. I told my family I wanted to change my stop date to 3rd December but they were sceptical, thinking I would be miserable over the Christmas holidays and probably make everyone else miserable. I thought about this for a while and could have used it as another excuse to carry on drinking but no, I had made up my mind. Or had I had my mind made up for me.

I STOPPED DRINKING ON 3RD DECEMBER 2013.

Since then I have been to parties at Chrismas, one inbetween Christmas and New Year, a New Yearís Eve Party, my birthday, hubbies birthday, our wedding anniversary, holiday in Italy and so it goes on. Some friends bought us a bottle of Champagne for our April wedding anniversary. It is still unopened.

Since then I have had more problems regarding my past abuse, I have suffered a further bout of depression and currently I am suffering acute anxiety diagnosed as PTS and will be starting therapy to help me finally put the past away. Still I have not had a drink.

I donít know what Jason Vale has done to me but I cannot bring myself to have an alcoholic drink. That is not totally true. In Italy I was told I must try Limoncello, the national drink. A very small glass is usually offered free at the end of a restaurant meal. I tasted it. It was delicious. I gave the rest of the glass away. One sip was enough. One sip did not drive me back to drinking so I have no fear of being around alcohol. Good job really as we have a cabinet full of various liqueurs, spirits and wines but not a one to tempt me back. I donít even have to think about it, or fight it. I JUST DO NOT WANT TO DRINK.

That is my story and it takes me back to the forums I spoke about earlier. They are there to support and comfort but I also hope some of you find the answer you are looking for. Jason worked for me so it might just be worth a try.

Disclaimer: I do not know Jason Vale, never met him, I have only read his book. I have no other reason to recommend it except that it worked for me.

I would like to thank him for saving my life.

Sunshine-Girl




  
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SUNSHINE-GIRL 6/9/2014 10:47AM

    1crazydog, that is why I apologied at the beginning as I know groups of lots of different types are helpful. However, the diet industry would not exist if it worked for everyone. Each to their own. It was in fact a forum that led me to the book so I cannot disagree with you.

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1CRAZYDOG 6/9/2014 10:28AM

    First of all, good work. You have stuck to your commitment and that's what it's all about.

The only disagreement I have is with this:

"You are in a place where you feel comfortable and safe and so you should be, but you are also in a place where you don't want to leave. If you gave up alcohol where would you go, you would have to leave the group and you would be outside your comfort area."

Not so much true . . . at least for me. I STILL belong to groups that had to do with what my goals were, reached them and remained . . . to offer help to those starting out! Period. OF course, I am only speaking for myself.

I think the analogy of belonging to groups to quit alcohol and groups to control lifestyle is a good one. Honestly, the steps you have to take are the same!

1. Admit you have a problem
2. Admit your powerlessness over the problem
3. Work on it (here's where religious beliefs sometimes enter in. But it doesn't have to be religiously oriented!)

Anyhow, great blog, glad you have maintained your goal and wish you success.


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THINANDFITEMILY 6/9/2014 8:55AM

    thank you for sharing your story and emoticon

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SUNSHINE-GIRL 6/8/2014 3:16PM

    It was more to do with upsetting people who are on forums that appear to help but can add to the problem

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MEADSBAY 6/8/2014 3:11PM

    I am so incredibly happy for you and proud of your accomplishment. You have done a wonderful thing for your body and your family!
I will definitely be looking for that book, my friend.
I don't drink that much but I, too, have a hard time giving it up for more than a few days at a time.
Thank you for sharing your incredible story.
I can't see how anyone could possibly take any offense at your honesty.
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NICKYCRANE 6/8/2014 3:04PM

    Well done! You had the courage to face your drink problem, and now you are having the courage to face the other problems you were drowning in drink.

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SUNSHINE-GIRL 6/8/2014 1:55PM

    Sorry about the strange punctuation, they are mean't to be apostrophes as in ' ' '

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TRAVELGO 6/8/2014 1:28PM

  You are such an inspiration!!! Great blog!!

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GOALS MET

Thursday, April 17, 2014

On 1st January I set myself several goals which are:- lose 11lbs before 19th April for holiday - GOAL MET. Exercise 3 or 4 times every week - GOAL MET. I gave up alcohol so no alcohol allowed - GOAL MET.

I don't think I have successfully completed all my goals before and to time. Tomorrow I head off for a week in Italy with my family and so looking forward to it.

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SUNSHINE-GIRL 4/28/2014 6:21AM

    Just got back from Italy and only gained 1lb. Helped that I had an upset stomach for a couple of days.

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SHOOPETTE 4/26/2014 4:33PM

    Awesome!

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WONDAWOMAN2 4/18/2014 11:48AM

    Well done! Bon voyage!

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MEADSBAY 4/17/2014 5:32PM

    I am so proud of you and happy for you, too!
Bon journo!
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    So wonderful!!! emoticon emoticon
Enjoy your well-deserved vacay!!

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COMMIT2BFIT4ME 4/17/2014 10:47AM

    Excellent! Now go have fun in Italy!

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NHES220 4/17/2014 10:20AM

    Great job and enjoy Italy! Ciao!

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SWEETNEEY 4/17/2014 9:42AM

    You deserve it - Viva Italia

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Sad tale of my sad scales

Saturday, July 20, 2013

My bathroom scales have been playing up for quite some time. Get on them 3 times in succession and weigh 3 different weights. Having bought new ones I have to accept the weight they say I am. My daughter always says my scales were very forgiving and under weigh her by quite a bit. Imagine my shock horror when my new scales told me I was 7 lbs heavier than I thought.

It is just a number and I have to use that as my baseline weight and not get too upset about it. I know I have lost weight because my measurement have shown losses in all areas, bust 3.5 inches, waist 1 inch and hips 4.5 inches so that consoles me to some extent. So I am now about to go onto my weigh in page and log my new true weight. I'll keep up the good fight and not let the numbers get me down.

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PYNETREE 7/21/2013 8:40AM

    Right, you are doing a good job. And your efforts are showing in the better fitting clothes. You have to remember that the scale is just an estimate. You can get on a scale 10 times in one day, and you will weigh 10 different amounts. And they will vary by as much as 5 to 10 lbs. Because your body weight fluctuates all the time, due to water, food intake, and what you excrete. The best plan to track your weight is to get weighed about the same time of day, once a week is a good average. Maybe in the morning after your bathroom routine, before you eat, and naked.
And if you are gaining more muscle, that weighs more than fat. When you drink a couple glasses of water your weight goes up, and the weight of the food you eat..then it changes as your body metabolizes the food. So your weight changes all day/all night...Every Day!

Don't be basing all your efforts on that number on the scale. You have made significant strides towards being a healthier YOU. emoticon


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JUST_BRENDA 7/20/2013 5:20PM

    wow, that's alot of inches lost. Great job!!! To h-e-double hockey sticks with the scale - you are definitely SHRINKING!!!
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SHOOPETTE 7/20/2013 3:28PM

    TAPE MEASURES HANDS DOWN

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FRENCHSEAMS 7/20/2013 1:49PM

    Those measurements are fantastic and better data than scale readings. With scales, think trends per individual scale. If any scale is trending downwards, that's good.

It's the old saying, "a man with one watch knows what time it is, a man with two watches never knows."

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REMEMBER_THIS 7/20/2013 12:56PM

    NSV's (non scale victories) are better anyhow. So much can cause a scale to fluctuate. Humidity, our hormones, just even the use of the scale. Even doctors scales have to be checked and reset periodically!
We tend to beat ourselves up easily, having the NSV's it's good for our egos, emotions and moods! You know you are down in measurements, be glad for that! Don't worry at all about the scale. Heck toss it aside!
Then when you go to the doctors you'll be surprised to see the number!
Keep up the good work!

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LASARRE 7/20/2013 11:27AM

    I would trust the tape measure over the scale any day!

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MSJULIEK 7/20/2013 9:40AM

    The scale can be disappointing. Take joy in the better fit of your clothes and feeling better. emoticon

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MARCIEMCGOWAN 7/20/2013 9:21AM

    You are right. The bathroom scale is not the only way to measure your weight loss.
I weight myself once a week and I also track my inches. The scale may say I have not lost weight, but the measuring tape tells a different story. Don't rely on only one way to measure your progress.

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I'm on my way

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

First part of this journey, 2lbs lost and 10lbs to go. 7 weeks to do it. It will be done!!!

  
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    Back in the pool?
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    Good for you, you are on your way!
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MJRVIC2000 6/12/2013 10:09AM

    Don't forget to include your spiritual journey while you are making the physical one. God Bless YOU! Vic.

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