Sunday, November 24, 2013
A few years ago I saw a movie called, "The Mirror has Two Faces." Lauren Bacall was the actress who iterated the meaning of this by saying, "I thought I had time. It got away from me. I feel as though I am young inside but I know I cannot do what I once did. I now know that I settled in life. "
I agree with the concept that many of us settle in life for less that what we are worth. We are deceived by others into believing that we are not worthy. We do not look as good as they do. We do not fit into the crowd that goes with the position that we want. We do not wear our clothes as well. We fall in love and listen to mates who sometimes do not hold our best interests in their hearts. These mates want us under their control. By belittling us, we think that cannot do better. We become mentally abused and fall into a pattern of despair. NO ONE can give or take away your feeling of self worth if you do not let them.
I remember searching for approval in my career from my superiors and peers, but I realize now that a little of this is politically driven. If you are good, then others want to keep you down for fear that you will get ahead of them or because you do not belong to their social club. I was told once that I was from a culturally deprived home. Whatever that means! I never felt deprived.
We do not feel worthy because we set unrealistic goals and unreasonable time tables on achieving them. We need to break goals down into workable steps. If we do this we can reach and achieve the ultimate goal.
Mirrors are deceiving tools to use. When I look in the mirror all I ever see is that 456 pound woman I once was. I NEVER IN MY LIFE HAVE SEEN THIN WHEN I WAS THIN. I did see some pictures a while back of a thin woman in her early 30's that I know was me. Did I see her before, NOPE> see mirrors lie, because our self perception takes much longer to correct than the problem.
When losing weight we need to use measurable tools for achievement. Use scales to measure food amounts or measuring cups. We need to look at visual cues in how are clothes fit>are they loose or tight. We need to be more observant of how people are reacting to us. We to need to feel increased ease in putting on and tying our shoes. Is easier to get in out of the car. Make a list of things that are hard physically for you to do now. As you lose weight check off what is easier to do.
Mirrors lie to us when we try on new clothes to, because years of bad body image are not self correcting just because clothes are more fashionable. We need to dress our bodies with clothes that fit and with colors that make our skin glow. Take your most trusted friend shopping with you. Watch your husband's reaction when other men start to notice you.
Remember: Some men will be intimidated as you look better, because they have not taken care of themselves or they may become fearful of you becoming a stronger individual. Just assure your mate that you are doing this so that you and he can enjoy many more years together and show him by things you do that this is true.
The only mirror that you should trust is the one in your inner being that says you are healthier and more able.
Saturday, October 26, 2013
I will always think of Dianne as a fighter and she did beat breast cancer. On her annual check this year they found a bubble in her chest that turned out to be cancer. She strapped on her fighting gear and faced this challenge as she did all others in her life. She was a bubbly, positive, woman that enjoyed life, family, and friends. She was especially bonded to her family and children. Her friends will miss her too. .
I feel that if we armed ourselves in our war against weight as she did her life challenges that we would make positive progress.
The last time I got to talk to her she requested that I make her my Greek Chicken Salad. I developed this recipe over the course of time.
I am dedicating this recipe to her for your enjoyment.
Greek Chicken Salad
1 rotisserie chicken, skinned, bone removed, diced; (about 4 cups)( in a hurry can use 3-4 large cans of chicken breast drained), can reduce fat by broiling or boiling chicken
½ cp. diced carrot
½ cp. diced onion
3 eggs, hard boiled, diced
1 4-6 oz. container of feta cheese crumbles
1 small can of chopped olives
2 oz. or ¼ cup Mediterranean salad dressing or Italian ( can use light which would lessen fat)
½ cup light mayo
½ to 1 cup deseeded, diced cucumber
Combine chicken, onion, carrot, egg in bowl. Add cheese.
Mix. Add oil and mayo and toss. Refrigerate until ready to serve.
Servings: approx. 12-1/2 cup servings
Fat 12 gm
NA- 317 gm
K – 71.2 gm
Thursday, July 11, 2013
Pardon me, but BULL! I get so tired of these weight loss commercials with some star telling me this. They have personal trainers, cooks, or they can pay that exorbitant price for some company to prepare the meals and ship them to their home. Most of us are not that privileged and cannot feed the whole family on what we pay for the program. Our budgets do not allow us that much flexibility.
Besides, this we are all so individual with such different lifestyles. We have allergies, like me, I am diabetic and lactose intolerant. Try fixing food without milk or cheese. Yes I know I can use soy cheese, etc. but even though it works at home, many places you go out to eat do not have such options. Now I do not think that every place should. It is my job to make healthy choices. I do know however that most places will prepare things with or without certain things if you ask. For example, if they serve it on other items they can substitute before preparation.
The next thing to remember is we are all individual beings who are chemical in nature. That being said what foods may help some lose may help others gain. It is important to try things and to learn how they affect your body. Not ALL diets work for every single person.
The most effective diet is one that you go own that most embraces your likes and dislikes. It is the one that works best with your lifestyle. Pick a diet that you DO NOT deny yourself foods. Too strict diets usually end in failure or can only be successful short term. You need to find a diet that provides you with the proper nutrients that you can live your life with happily. If you do not cook, take a beginning cooking class at your local college for fun. Learn the basics. Read up on proper storage. Read all you can on nutrition.
The only way you can do it is, TO DECIDE YOU WILL DO IT. It has nothing to do with will power. You need to arm yourself with education on what your body needs to function properly, with proper weighing and measuring tools for food to assist you in learning proper portions. You need to take your favorite recipes and make them healthier. Use the recipe calculator on site to figure out the total calories. Weigh the dish, divide to portions, store and eat at your leisure as you will have the nutritional information
You need to have healthy proportioned snacks available and on hand for watching TV, going to the movie, in your car, and at work, or even for a family gathering.
You can do this, if YOU choose and if YOU prepare. Prepare your responses for the food pushers. Learn how to say no firmly and in a nice way. Methods that I use are I am allergic, I just ate "can I wrap up a piece for later", or " I am diabetic and really have to count my carbs."
Good luck and good sparking!
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