Wednesday, September 17, 2014
This has been a long day. I got up at 3 am to call the unit to find out when the surgery was going to be scheduled. No information and after 3 hourly calls I was dressed and ready to leave for the hospital when Honey's youngest daughter texted me and said she had just heard from the nurse and the procedure was on for 1:30 in the afternoon. Honey would have dialysis all morning and then go to the surgical floor. I decide to go ahead and work a half day and left the clinic at 11. I was coming in from the parking lot just before noon and got another text that Honey was being taken to ICU. He had gone down for the dialysis and they couldn't access the shiley ..it wouldn't work.and then his blood pressure dropped and a nurse who was taking care of him thought that he was showing the signs and symptoms of a stroke. She apparently did not know that he had had back surgery on the 3rd because he couldn't move his right leg and after 13 days of lying n a bed, he's weak all over and having trouble moving without assistance. He has not lost his sense of humor. the doctor asked him the say something like "Methodist Episcopalian" and he tried to repeat it and then announced "I couldn't say that even if nothing was wrong with me". So, they took him for another CT scan of the head before he was admitted to ICU. No brain bleed noted, Praise the Lord. And of course, with all this, the surgery was cancelled.
In ICU, since the NG tube was taken out this morning, he needed a swallow study. He wasn't able to get even a spoonful of applesauce down. He is throwing PVC's like crazy, needs the dialysis, still has most of the blockage, and is getting weaker every day. Now he has pneumonia on top of it all. I feel so badly for him. But, in typical Honey fashion, when a visitor came in to see him, all he wanted to know was how the friend was. No complaining, no whining, just trusting in God's Grace and mercy.
So now he still needs a tunnel..which is a fancy IV that will tolerate dialysis, and a port to get IV feeding through. I was allowed to sit in the ICU with him for about 2 hours and just hold his hand. He teased and we talked about people we know and what we can do when he's well again. His daughter is spending the night with him tonight and I'll go back in the morning.
So, I'm going to throw something out on the table as food for thought. Illness is a horrible thing to face. And isolation from social interaction is one of the issues that make it uncomfortable. Here's a thought. If you visit someone in any confined setting, be it hospital or residential care center, and they appear to be asleep...PLEASE wake them up and let them know you cared enough to stop by.We love the notes and cards that we have received, but part of the reason sick people sleep so much is that boredom is drilling a hole in their alertness brain. To see a non-uniformed "you have to like me because I'm paying you to be nice" person is a treat, not an intrusion. You don't have to have genius conversation...just 'hello', 'praying for you', and the proverbial lie 'you're looking good, how do you feel' will be so delightful. Honey tells me that there have been times of storms in his life when people came to express respect, love, concern and that even though he does not remember what they said, he was so glad they came.
I appreciate you more than you'll ever know. And now to sleep. Praying Honey gets rest as well.
Monday, September 15, 2014
Our God is an awesome God. What a blessed day. Honey was able to visit with more clarity tonight. He's speaking louder and is more easily understood. We talked about his visitors, family, plans and needs and I was blessed to see him pull himself into a new position to get more comfortable. The surgeon came in and told him that if all goes well over night that the ng tube might come out tomorrow. He's going to be put on IV feedings. Today was dialysis day so even though he was extremely tired, he was still more alert than yesterday.
Today we had a sweet blessing. A couple from church went to his house and did some trimming. Thank you so much. What a sweet thing to do.
So...some good and some concern but all in the hands of a healing God. Praise His Holy Name!!!
Sunday, September 14, 2014
There are song words that have been around for a long time..."One more river to cross, one more mountain to climb, one more valley that I gotta go through to leave my troubles behind". Honey has asked me to go home, for a drink of ice water, what day it was, to sit up, to turn over...this is the norm right now. We have been through the river and now have to climb the mountain. The river was the result of the anesthesia and prior conditions mixed together. Kidney, blockage, and PVCs all now being addressed and some positives coming about. He now has slight bowel sounds on the left upper and lower abdomen. He has been very alert today, called me 2 times on the phone I took him, and talked to me about future plans. I suggested we sell everything in a year or 2 and fly to paris to climb the Eiffel tower and then cruise ship it back to the states. He suggested we call John Morgan, the owner of the company he worked for, and ask him to take us on a ride up the Ohio river. John owns a yacht and took managers on Fall trips up and down the river providing a meal and entertainment. Honey and I went several years after we started dating. He wins. I'll go where ever will make him happy.
Lots of cards to read today and several notes from visitors who slipped in and did not rouse him. We thank each of them so much. the offers to help and the contact they've made. Thank you, SP friends for also encouraging us. When they ask me what they can do to help, all that comes to mind is to please continue to pray for the kidney to start functioning again, for the blockage to be relieved, for the blood pressure to come down and be stable, and for the PVCs to go away. Several people have asked about cutting grass or helping with projects, but if you think about your own yards...if you do it this week, it'll just have to be done again next week and we're in for a long haul here. Now...if any of them want a full-time volunteer position next year...we'll talk...LOL. Really...I can't tell you how much I appreciate the emotional support we've received. Our God is faithful and we praise His Holy Name.
Back to work in the morning and life goes on
Sunday, September 14, 2014
Just in from Honey. He is so weak. The nurse said that he had been up 2 times today. There were several visitors during the morning and afternoon, and he enjoyed the time and told me who, what and when. But in the evening, when the nurse tried to wake him, he just couldn't respond well. When she asked him where he was he told her that he was in Indianapolis. The lab levels are still out of whack and the toxins in his body are distorting his ability to stay alert. I just want him home, but it's obvious that this is going to be a very long recovery process. His youngest daughter stopped by his house and her hubby cut his grass. What a blessing! I'll have to get the trimming done this week too. ..both at his place and mine. Sickness is not entertaining but we have much to rejoice over. If we lived in a 'third world' country, he would be lying on a floor or out of sight instead of having his vitals taken, needs taken care of and lying on an air mattress. We are blessed, but I am angry that we have to face situations like this. I realize that life is filled with joy and tears, but to watch a man suffer is not what I would want for anyone. This man often wakes in the middle of the night to pray for people. He has a list of shut ins, grieving families, families with problems, children and others who have touched his heart and he prays constantly that the Lord would bless them. He has taught me to accept people as they are, not what I want them to be. He has taught me loyalty and that a kind word goes a long way. He has taught me to appreciate the small things and be amazed and take notice of random acts of kindness. Honey has been generous with his time and support and never has complained about anything Because he chose to love me, I am a better person. He saw me and accepted me for who I am and loved me in spite. I just want to see him well again.
I cleaned his house for the morning while his daughter was at the hospital visiting him and then mowed the field this afternoon. I'm just so stinking tired. I wonder if the Lord would be upset if I just slept in. LOL...Be blessed all and keep Sparkin'!
Friday, September 12, 2014
I'm not sure I'll be able to get back to a computer tonight, but wanted to say thank you for all the encouragement, support, prayers and positive thought each of my SP partners have given. I sit and read in amazement at those who are going through their own storms who take time to send light my way. I appreciate you all more than I can say. Thank you and ...well ...just keep Sparkin'!!
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